2019 Life Update: Writing a Book, Mental Health, & Marko Book Club

[@camyllfortin3345]

As a woman I appreciate you talking about men issues. We are seeing a lot of changes in our society and it's important to understand eachother. I'm very happy for you, you have so many wonderful projects for 2019. I'm currently in the process of writing a French poetry /illustrations book for people with Alzheimer's. Have a magical year Marko!

[@andhicook8021]

Camyll Fortin That’s such a lovely thing you’re doing 🎈🙏🏼

[@camyllfortin3345]

@@andhicook8021 Thank you so much!

[@suryacoapy5129]

Totally support the move on men's issues and masculinity questions. Go Marko.

[@lightweaver1839]

Take it easy Marko. It is way easy to overdo and make things too hard. I am a champ at it. Don't burn out. I think most of us would rather wait on content than that. thanks for being so honest

[@renaemosley2274]

You maybe 33 but from what I can tell you are well educated, traveled and mentored. Having these quality can create a well rounded thought provoking book. It can also educate others who have never even left America, who only watch the very bias news. People have moved mountains and changed the world as teenager; so if age is what's stopping you it is just a number. You also have an incredible platform to encourage great change. I know that probably comes with a lot of stress and anxiety but nothing will ever be perfect just be your honest, humble and intelligent self. If you fail then you learn and do better next time with a wonderful support system around you. After all most of your fans are younger than you so who are we to judge. I know all this is easier said than done but I hope it gives you atleast one ounce of encouragement.

[@medhavigupta6146]

I think after a certain point age matters less in the amount of varied experiences you've had. You've not only travelled a lot but read a lot as well. "Staying curious and exploring" must've given you many unique experiences and insight. Moreover, think of all the people who wait for your videos and content. We are so excited for it so please don't hold yourself back in any way.

[@lindylee1139]

I’m interested to know more about your process in writing a book because I think most people including myself just don’t know where to even start. Best of luck to you in all your endeavors.

[@fridabionori]

Really liking the idea of this channel being more "you". Also, as you said, I think us women are also going to learn and appreciate your chats about masculinity. After all, we're all humans here - and I feel that both men and women need to have these conversations together! Excited to see what 2019 has in store :) Xx from Sweden

[@MarkoAyling]

So true. It’s a conversation that we all need to have

I am so freaking excited for you, so amazing to follow you and see that you are slowly making your dreams a reality! Greetings from Latvian in Denmark! :)

[@carlmotiwalla9985]

I am so so so excited for the book!

[@zoemcleod5998]

Yay Marko! All this sounds so exciting! I love hearing how important journaling has been for you over the years. I'm 19 but have written about six journals in the last two years and it's one of my favourite things to do :) I hope everything goes well!

[@MarkoAyling]

Keep it up!

[@kleanthisardeli5260]

That was a great video. Perfectionism can make you so burnt out you can't enjoy your own work. Love listening to a male talking about toxic masculinity!! Keep going!! Cheers from Greece!

[@LornaWallace]

Really excited for the new content on this channel! And I'd love to read your book and get updates on the whole process.

[@MarkoAyling]

Great, what kind of updates would you like?

[@LornaWallace]

@@MarkoAyling I'm writing a book myself (it's academic though) so I'd be really interested in how you decided to plan it out, how you stay motivated when you're in the midst of a section you can't figure out and how you go about editing!

[@keilapartee]

Already signed up to your mailing list! Excited for the book club and especially your book. Can't wait to read it Marko!

[@tglongshaft782]

Really love your new motorcycle upgrades. 😀😀👍🏻👍🏻 Just thought that u could take inspiration from Jack London and his stories from the gold rush

[@MarkoAyling]

Nice tip! I’ll have to check him out again, it’s been a while

[@Maykono1]

Thanks for the update! I'm excited for all of the thoughtful content ideas you've came up with. For your outro line I was thinking about something with wander and mind in it maybe "let your mind wander". It ties in with the travel and intellectual aspect of your channel. Just an idea but I'm sure you'll came up with something awesome! Wish you the best for 2019!

[@teaandcakee]

I’m super excited to read it already! 😁

[@Veronica44224]

Thank you for this really amazing video. It really speaks to me cause I’m finding myself in a slightly similar situation. 2018 was a year when I rediscovered myself and now I’m working on my dreams to come true. Which is harder than I thought. I’m constantly feeling like I’m not doing enough and I’m way behind my schedule of starting my writing blog and posting new articles regularly etc. But at the same time I can force myself to write when I don’t feel like it cause than nothing good comes out of it. So I’m looking forward to see the story behind your writing cause I find it very inspiring. So thank you once again and keep doing that great job.🙂✌️

[@oslego]

Thanks for the update, Marko! Hope you have a productive, yet calm year. Good luck on your projects! May you have inspiration, support and discipline.

[@andhicook8021]

I’m glad you took time for yourself and I am looking forward to your take on all the topics you’ve mentioned and to all the, hopefully, interesting and civil discussions they’ll ignite. There’s some amazing quote that I can only remember the jist of concerning the great work someone can do once they are over the need for perfection. I think a memoir-type book would be excellent...you have a voice, a unique perspective to come from and, as far as the channel goes, do what interests you and those of us who like you just as you are will like your content, too. ✌🏽

[@MarkoAyling]

Thank you for the kind words and support!

[@sabrinamashburn3973]

Looking forward to the book & more conversation based/sparking content!

[@noustaichi]

Keep it up man! Can't wait to get my hands on the book 👍

[@vanessahotlosz4009]

Love everything about this! Can’t wait to hear your input :)

[@MarkoAyling]

🤙🏼

[@ctsmithco]

I just ordered the passion planner you speak of in your Instagram videos..a slow start to 2019..but it will be a great year!

[@MarkoAyling]

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[@dbb96ac]

Ever think about doing a Master’s in Literature? With your experience of travelling the world, I would imagine it could be interesting to look at how travelogues have changed over the past couple of thousand years (When I hiked the Camino de Santiago I took the original 11th century guide book with me-it was still surprisingly accurate) or perhaps New Romanticism in travel literature within the context of global issues such as climate change and the digital era. I think you would make a wonderful professor and that you might find the life balance that comes with it quite healthy. Or just write your book-a masters, PhD and post doc are quite the commitment!!

[@kleanthisardeli5260]

Would love more book recommendations, I read Sapiens after your video and thoroughly enjoyed it!

[@limipilisa]

I am very excited about your new content and especially book recommendations 🙋🏼‍♀️✨ My boyfriend is social worker in Austria and he makes workshops for boys and young men who are mainly from the Middle East about masculinity and the role of men and Woman - so he is always on the hunt for new you tube channels that he actually can recommend!

[@MarkoAyling]

Great! We will be reading Exit West soon, so you can tell him about that one

[@echa9446]

honestly, with all of your travels & works (I read your LinkedIn btw 😁) you have as much of experiences as a 50 year old man....and also more perspectives of things. I'm so stoked about the memoir! 😆🙌

[@MarkoAyling]

Haha haha yeah maybe you have a point!

[@vijay_64800]

Cant wait!!! excited to read your book once it's published Marco: -) hope there would be more books after the first one? Any fiction books in the future? Wish you all the best and success: -)

[@bajlandia2025]

wow :) maybe I will find a time to read a book ! Sounds interesting !

[@amaiayoller9932]

I love everything you said in this video

[@MarkoAyling]

🙌🏼

[@sarahleonard1922]

Laid back is great :) And I love how you'll be speaking about Men's issues. Men's issues are women's issues, and vice versa. When everyone feels confident and seen, it helps remove violence and abuse. If you haven' read it, I think you would like the new Brene brown book Into the Wilderness. She speaks so much about de-humanization. So glad to see all your personal growth and that you're listening to your own needs :) And i'm excited for your book! I'm 31, so I agree, sometimes it's a "what the hell do I know about the world" kind of thing. But I think young people will enjoy being able to connect to someone who is also young. It's nice to know you don't have to be 65 to have had valuable experiences in growth and life. :):)

[@echa9446]

honestly, with all of your travels and works (I read your LinkedIn btw 😂) you have as much as a 50 year old man's experiences and perspectives of the people and the world. I'm excited for the memoir 😆🙌

[@stargazer5073]

How's your book coming along?

[@crystgh]

Hi Marko! Just stopping by to show some love and support on your channel! ☀️ 💗 📚 ⛰ 🕊 🏍 😊

[@Msmotionocean]

Great video, Marko. Hugs from Norway

[@ablurida]

Check out The Centerfold Syndrome by Gary Brooks, it's relevant to this subject

[@RunTheAtlas]

Can you talk about your Esalen retreat experience?

[@MarkoAyling]

Some things are best kept secret

[@RunTheAtlas]

@@MarkoAyling 👍

[@stargazer5073]

It's been a year, how's your book?

[@jenohogan9254]

All of this sounds amazing. Good for you. :-D

[@MariaMartinez-vb6pj]

Yeas!!! A man’s group is needed!!! I’m raising a boy and men’s issues are up front and center for me....I’m viewing gender roles under a whole different light.

[@maryistulsafox]

I recommend "How to be a 3% man" by coach Corey Wayne

[@JTarot]

I like the idea... Great Job looking forward to more of your videos. I think we have a spiritual connection anything I can help let me know.

[@MarkoAyling]

🙏🏼

[@lightweaver1839]

P.S. sorry for my spelling

[@portia331]

This was a great video - it felt like catching up with a friend. Looking forward to your new videos on this channel. I'd love to hear your views on how toxic masculinity is affected by literature. For example, you've said in the past you're a huge Kerouac fan but when I read On the Road and Dharma Bums, what stood out to me was that the female characters were basically sex objects. I liked the books and it's not a criticism of you or those who love them (I'm clearly not the intended reader as a 30 something woman). But by celebrating these books as classics are we also fuelling a nostalgia for that era and the gender norms that came with it? Curious to know if this kind of thing is something you've thought about or will explore in your book club.

[@MarkoAyling]

Thank you for your comment, I totally agree. I recently reread On the Road and realized the same thing, which I was less conscious of when I read it as an 18 year old. Hence my hesitation to recommend the book despite my appreciation for the cultural importance of the best generation as a whole. Might recommend Dharma Bums instead

[@portia331]

Thanks for replying and considering this issue! I definitely preferred Dharma Bums to On the Road and the story and style is probably more accessible to a broader audience. Looking forward to more videos from you and good book recommendations. 😊

[@HeiiH]

the idea of toxic masculinity or redefining masculinity is a very interesting. It's something that the feminist movement has already started to work on with trying to eliminate toxic manifestatons of traditional femininity that puts women into a certain box that does not fit in modern progressive society. I do think outside of very extreme examples of MeToo movement, there are many manifestations on how traditional masculinity is harmful, especially what comes to mental health and coping mechanisms that are taught to boys in early ages. I am for equal rights for both genders, a feminist and I with both hands support the idea to explore and study the issues that traditional masculinity puts on men, and the whole society. In Estonia we have a saying: "men don't cry". I don't have kids but if one day I should give birth to a boy, I want him to not be scared to show feelings, to cry, to be himself and not have to be alone in his struggles to portray a facade of a "strong man" that is expected by society. I can't say for US, but in Estonia, 70-80 per cent of suicides are commited by men. I am no expert and have not read any studies in relation between suicide rates and these taught attitudes but for me it is a clear evidence something has gone very wrong here and we should take notice of this. sorry for the essay, didn't expect this to grow so long. anyways, looking forward to the new format of the channel and of course the book! all the best, Marko!

[@MarkoAyling]

Thank you for sharing! Yes to all of the above. I’m hoping that by creating more conversation around the topic we can start to solve the core issues

[@jaziybabe]

You’re older and have more experience than a lot of people writing memoirs these days 😆

[@MarkoAyling]

Thank you! I will try to make it a worthwhile read!

[@Luna-rm4ll]

Holy fuck he posted here! I was losing hope!

[@Luna-rm4ll]

Also im trying to write a book and i would like to know how you decide where to go with it because i just have too many ideas. Let me know how you narrow it down.

[@MarkoAyling]

Hahaha! Don’t worry, I’m back on it