25 Life Lessons I Learned by Age 25

[@Daniel-ws9qu]

The points I liked the most: - it doesn't matter what people think of you - honor every cycle, no pain no gain - reflect on why you were triggered - mindfulness - when something bad happens, take it as a lesson

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Confidence is the key. If you don't believe in yourself, then nobody will.

[@muslimmetalman]

vital

[@captainzork6109]

My mom would!

[@OutrageousPupil]

That's not completely true. Even if you don't believe in yourself, you just have to believe in the me that believes in you, Simon.

[@GENIRYODAN]

I'm hitting 25 this July, and yeah, it's definitely an experience transitioning from the younger first half of my 20s into the more serious responsible second half. Good luck to us.

[@leovolont]

Well, 25 is better than 20 but the real goal is 40. "Life begins at 40".

[@theboombody]

The transition is a beautiful thing when it happens. Embrace it and you'll enjoy it. Good luck to you all.

[@Oldacc123trishhhhhh]

Just turned 25 a couple days ago and I still feel 19 :( definitely trying not to be overwhelmed not having my life or career idea together

[@MrNegative57]

Halfway to 50

[@cardy4ever]

Hey. As a guy, the dating people you're unsure about rule doesn't just apply to girls it definitely applies to men as well. Even if you hook up or have fun together if they are acting flakey or aren't emotionally where you are then just move on or at least put less and less effort into that relationship. Great video as always. I'm the same age as you and both of my parents are psychologists so your mindset is really equal to what i grew up with so it's really comforting, thank you

[@cardy4ever]

Same for the advice against hookup culture thing applies to me as well as a guy. It's really draining. I want more and I wanna be matched with someone who values me not only for my looks but also my intellect. Just messing about with Tinder and hooking up with strangers really reminded me I want a serious relationship.

[@TheArticulatingAnoraksPodcast]

My brain grows 3 sizes when I watch these videos

[@AnaPsychology]

😂😂

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Omg 😆 same I am newly subscribed to her channel.

[@dianareyes4692]

As someone who fears getting older I truly did need this! I’m 21 right now and seeing how much I’ve grown since graduating high school is so empowering for me to continue to grow

[@mmmissmiss3356]

Love your videos. I hope you'll make a video on jealousy in relationships someday - not only romantic or sexual jealousy, but worrying that your partner cares more about their friends than they care about you as their partner. And always having the fear of being left out, of not being prioritized by people you prioritize. I struggle a lot with this due to low self-esteem and trauma from bullying when I was a child. And on top of that, struggle with shame because of the jealousy I feel. I hate those feelings so much, they're so intense. And I've got terrible abandonment issues.

[@AnaPsychology]

Not 100% the same as your suggestion, but video on rOCD and limerence set for next week! :)

[@chrisandrews3793]

I second this, please!

[@Kaalidh-js5ip]

I am in the same situation 😣 I badly want to get out of this situation 😣😣

[@Socsob]

i feel like "don't aim low" can be bad for some people. i for one get overwhelmed when i see a giant task in front of me, so aiming lower and slowly aiming higher has worked for me better. obviously everyone is different, anyways great tips!

[@PeaceOfMelody]

20 year old here and here is some life advice I live by: 1: Treat everyone with respect (even the people you hate) and understand some people won't reciporcate 2: Learn your boundaries 3: Build your own Moral Compass, aka find out the meaning of Right and Wrong to you 4: Try to understand others opinions and allow them to get their point across without interrupting or trying to get your point across when you find something wrong in their argument and learn to agree to disagree 5: Figure out what you want out of life and work and aim for it 6: Understand everything comes with time 7: Have a reason to why you do anything and constantly remind yourself of that reason whenever you feel like giving up 8: Spend time with and understand your emotions

[@enbykenz]

I would’ve been so much healthier if I knew all of that at 20 wow

[@leeanncomeau8930]

I just turned 25 and I can see where you are coming from with a lot of these tips. Some of them I think would be totally worth incorporating into my life

[@Twinflame_4]

I’m turning 29 this year and glad I learned these already. Thank you 💖

[@lodragan]

I'm 57, and while I concur with many of your lessons, some were markedly different I think primarily because of situations I found myself in. For one thing, I was in the military for 12 years during the time when I was your age, and many times I had to deal with people both above and below me in the rank structure who were red flags. I didn't have the option of walking away or distancing myself in any significant way. It was an extremely stressful environment (there were weapons, explosives, and heavy equipment involved) where one mistake could mean death or injury, and I had to somehow navigate it successfully for myself, and for those in my care. I didn't have the luxury of picking those I would work with; I had to do the best I could with the hand I was dealt. After I got out of the military, most 'stressful' events in civilian life didn't seem so stressful after all. I was also a very shy person when I was young, and have had to manage my energy levels in the face of hyper-interactivity present in both the military and jobs since. The only constant is change is a firm understanding I have about life and the universe as a whole. The best things in life have always happened when I stretched my comfort zones, although I do tend to stir my coffee the same way - more out of muscle memory/efficiency than OCD - and I expend my energy on innovation and stretching in other areas instead! For example, I am out of work, and starting up several new things including commercial drones, writing, software and systems development, that I hope to generate enough cash to become my own business this year. I guess the biggest lesson I've had to learn is that I, nor the people around me, act perfect all of the time, or even part of the time. When I was younger I would take it personally when someone didn't act nicely; I would be especially hard on myself if I didn't live up to my self image either. I've come to accept myself and others as we are, and this has been a great sense of comfort for me. I've never been in therapy before, but your videos have helped me learn a lot of things that I either never examined, or did not know about the subject, making me consider doing so. Thanks!

[@ryokohonda4619]

Something really changes when you turn 25. It's whe your frontal lobe develop. Like your decision skills start to be better and clearer.

[@vivi72892]

I always learn so much from your videos! I am almost 30 now and I wish I was as wise as you are when I was 25! Also, I graduated from a college in chicago and been working as a psych nurse since!

[@Scp123-m7o]

From one psychology junkie to another, I really appreciate your existence ✨🥰

[@sanecatlady]

100% agree hookup culture is not empowering. Honestly it feels like the exact opposite... giving your body to men or women who don't care about you. How is that empowerment and feminism?

[@financeorelse]

I turned 25 in January, and one thing I realized is that I've wasted so much time in my youth. I can't help to compare to people at same age on how accomplished they are. Most of them are well on their way to a career or a family, while I only just managed to finally finished university but with no real work experience. The feeling of dread is something I can't stop myself from feeling when I think about my future. However, reminding myself of my friends' and my sister's love and care has been my stable source of motivation to move on.

[@nobudgetmusic]

I'm grateful I found your channel. I'm 25 as well and been having therapy sessions for a while now and the material you create and share has been an excellent companion to my process. Thank you for your work and the information you spread. Best of whishes to you and your career.

[@mavshorts1076]

never settle-you’re an inspiration to me-

[@savagekruger77]

I can't remember why I used to hate you but here I am, back and subscribed.

[@michaela5986]

I love getting to know more about you. Love these types of videos because I’m only 18 and I want to learn things through others if I can

[@AnaPsychology]

My grandma always says to learn from the mistakes of others, so if you can do that, I think you’ll have a great advantage :)

[@marjialhermanoche5982]

I’ve watched a lot of ‘Life Lessons by’ videos and yours has definitely stood out. You’re so eloquent in speech and reflect on things so well. Love your channel :)

[@phoeberose1094]

I'm about to turn 30, I'm finally graduating from university and I just left a 5,5 year relationship after moving to another country to be with them and I'm trying to figure out what to do with my life. I appreciate these tips and insights 🥰

[@larazamora800]

Thank you so much for this video Ana. Very insightful. I am 23, living abroad for some time and going through life one day at a time, avoiding negative things and situations….still I think my worst enemy is myself in terms of thought patterns. I want to be a therapist just like you. You inspire me so much and you’re so well spoken. Thank you ♥️

[@marciafab7]

Thank you Ana for another thoughtful and helpful video. This is outstanding and I'm so incredibly proud of you. I appreciate your time and energy.

[@AnaPsychology]

Thank you so much!

[@dianasisakian3940]

Salutări din Armenia, Ana! Thank you for your videos! You are like a family member for me, like a sister. I have just turned 26 and all these lessons are absolutely relatable. I am currently pursuing PhD in Translation Studies and hope to defend my dissertation this Autumn. You are such an inspiration for me! Your one video makes me go and work on my paper more feverishly haha. God bless you ♡

[@Taeyangsmissingjacket]

Found you right after I broke off my engagement. Your videos gave me confidence in making the right decision for myself. Every time I found myself doubting my decision I just go back to watch them. Thank you.

[@AnaPsychology]

Aww this makes my day to read, thank you so much for sharing!

[@wimderoos5407]

damn woman, you are wiser at 25 than most people I know of any age! good on ya, shows what a commitment to learning and growing can do for a person

[@may6v6]

as someone whos turned 20 this year i really appreciated watching this !! thank you!

[@homvlily]

agree with you so much on you hookup culture take. i participated a bit in hook up culture as a teen, and im still healing from it at 20 years old, even though i've been in a committed relationship for two years now. it really catches up with you later in life.

[@donalvarito3165]

I found myself nodding to half of the points and jumping with enthusiasm and shouting "YESSS YESSS"; "Right? Unbelievable how people are sometimes"; "Mhmm, RIGHTFULLY SO"; "Just like you said, YESSS 👌" with the rest of the points haha. You've made feel validated and less crazy, thank you very much 🙇

[@otea-app]

I've been watching your videos since 2020, when you helped me find the words to describe why I was unhappy in my relationship. "If you can tolerate distress, you're truly unstoppable"-- yes absolutely! I always am able to take something from your videos and I appreciate them. I just listened to a podcast by Dr. Alek K. about inner vs outward-oriented perfectionists, and maybe you've already talked about it but I would love to hear your take on what you think of those findings (essentially if you have both types then those are the highest achievers, whether or not it is actually healthy), and how you might contextualize that with the idea of "try not to care what people think of you." even outside of the online or dating arena

[@geraldquanico3250]

I love how you pointed that the reality and the universe will always be neutral. It will either go with or against our ways, and that therapies should not make false euphoria among clients that is very contradicting to what is happening in the real world. I love how grounded and mindful your statements are. (This is also one of my main interests in research when I hopefully get into postgraduate studies in Clinical Psychology too!!)

[@nihalhathaway4089]

not sure if you said this, but I've learnt the hard way that intuition/gut feeling is really important and rarely lies!

[@ambermartinez2616]

These are so good I've learned alot of these just moving through life Good stuff

[@Jeremy_936]

When I was 25 I was the same person I am now, but nowhere near as wise. Where does the wisdom come from? From failure mostly and partially from successes. Don't let the fear of failure stop you. Life is a school and you basically fail your way to success. You also fail your way to true confidence. Not cockiness, not ego, but a true belief in yourself and your purpose in life. Never forget that. From your worst experiences will come your greatest gifts. I speak from the perspective of a 25 year old, 25 years later. Find your purpose and keep going.

[@roach1892]

⚡️⚡️💯💯💪

[@enbykenz]

wow I’m 25 and I thought you were older than me 😩 you’ve accomplished so much at such a young age!!!

[@FatimaMD7]

Thank you!!!💗💗💗💗💗💕💕💕💗💕💗💗💗💗💗💕💕💕💗💗💗

[@theboombody]

I learned much more between 25 and 40 than I did before 25. It makes me wonder how much I'll learn between 40 and 55.

[@johnsmithjnr9628]

I learned so much by the time i was 20. thing is a lot of that was bullshit misconceptions that didnt help.

[@theboombody]

@@johnsmithjnr9628 Some of that's pretty hard to avoid. I'm working on clearing some misconceptions up at this age still, mostly about math.

[@lizzie404]

I love your KZbin channel and am so thankful for it!! I’ve learned so much from you! I hope you continue to make videos and keep informing us!

[@beautifulnmad]

I simply love your channel! I can't express my gratitude for the knoledge you share.

[@pepenani4046]

I can't believe we're the same age!!! You're so full of knowledge and wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing them to a wider audience! I really love your channel, thanks for guiding us towards mental and emotional maturity, sanity, and all the good words ending in "ty" haha

[@jlbeeen]

So much of this is just making me feel worse about my ADHD as I can't control my emotions without medication, and I have a lot of struggles feeling like I'm wasting people's time and resources, and I tend to push people away because things take me longer. I'm glad some of my profs have been really good, but where I don't know if I can actually find a medication that doesn't cause side effects, it scares me. I've faced so many failures do to things out of my control and ableism for both ADHD and my chronic illness, and it's so ingrained in society that your ability equates to success, and that was drilled into me as a kid being told I had to have good grades. It's so hard to overcome that, and find people who are willing to work with my needs instead of tell me to just try harder. It's just a lot to work with when there are more strict limits at play. Invisible conditions and disabilities really need more awareness because no one believes me, even my doctors say I'm normal, while my physiotherapist has been really good at telling me what is a problem, and what I should do instead (I'm hypermobile and have dislocations).

[@ic7846]

Giving less shits honestly helped me a lot. Just not caring about how people think of you, not caring about jumbeling up words in a public speaking, because at the end of the day we're all human and we all make mistakes. It has helped me a lot with social anxiety

[@CalebHatesGames]

I appreciate all you do, Ana. Thanks for making these.

[@lily_nai]

omg i love your hair so much!!

[@Lyssalafemme]

I totally needed to see this video today. If you did write a book, I’d purchase within a heartbeat! I’m so glad you’re on KZbin!

[@mauribudi7290]

Hi Ana I am an Italian guy (sorry for my english), your videos are very interesting and informative. Unfortunately internet is full of pseudo-scientific bullshit and your channel is a reference point where I can learn something about psychology and feed my curiosity. It would be useful also a instagram page where it possible to see the updating of the YT channel and some short psychological posts.

[@Ms1Deviouskiller]

Happy birthday!!! I love watching your KZbin videos! Please consider making podcast!! Your talks are awesome!! You should convert your KZbin to podcasts!!

[@karinturkington2455]

Great lessons. I wish I'd known about them many years ago before I made mistakes.

[@learnurduwithsara1068]

This channel has helped me a lot. Also I wanted to see you in that dinosaur snow suit.

[@amytv787]

You are full of wisdom♥️♥️ thank you for sharing your thoughts and content!

[@Lil-lt8np]

Hey Ana. Thank you for this video. I'm 23 and I've been feeling lost lately. Your videos help me

[@juliangarcia2639]

yeeeesss please i would so appreciate an elaboration on lesson 25! I’ve been in this sort of situation and would absolutely love your insight. ☺️

[@bowbowbow9954]

best life lessons video ive seen to date

[@sr3549]

You’re so wise! I love watching your channel. You’ve turned into a household name and a good friend of mine. ☺️

[@ic7846]

Not spending energy and thoughts on people who can not return the same feelings is a big one. No matter how hard you try they will never like you as much as you like them. On the other hand I don't like the phrase "there are plenty of fish in the sea". While that statement is somewhat true, finding other people you like can be very difficult and tireing process.

[@ic7846]

Slowly phasing out of people's life, not creating enemies nor drama is another big one I agree with. You never know who knows who. And keeping good terms with people will always be beneficial. Doesn't mean you have to be friends with them

[@calledtorome]

Also turning 25 this May and I am excited!

[@Omar-su3ii]

I’m 23 and look 18 as well lol, but I am turning 25 next summer in 2023. This video’s good

[@spring.knowledge]

Great lessons from a person close to my age who studies human minds and behaviors! Thank you 💯

[@Wauly]

I've been watching since 2020 and you're glowing with confidence now more than ever. Your videos are so cozy. Thank you Anna Also, side-note, I would love a video of what your favorite music is, or if it's a psychology related video, the effect that music has on productivity, stress, etc.

[@kendrickeraart]

Happy birthday Anna!! Thank you for sharing all your insights with us

[@m.m7249]

Great thoughts about life, and you're gorgeous❤🔥🌠🌠🌠

[@markkussusa]

Very good video and your videos in general. So in depth, well researched, well presented, professional... Yet at the same time thr message is so simple and casual, it's like your wise sister or cousin imparting wisdom over a cup of tea (mixed thrice counterclockwise)... Wish you happiness and continung success so that your growth continues enhancing people's lives and inner worlds

[@angels4evah]

This video was AMAZING!!! I’m going to keep coming back to this when I feel I need to be reminded of what truly matters! Thank you 🤍

[@LittleKittyCat]

Not only are you knowledgeable but you're also so beautiful. 😊

[@blackleviathan]

very grateful, thank you :)

[@rcz2023]

I would definitely buy your book. Thank you for making these videos, you are unique in your style. Thank you

[@Yourrrr]

Great video!! I’m also very excited to be aging as a young woman lol I heard the thirties are good! Also I remember how I felt when I realized what a farce and danger “hook up culture” is. I feel like this is how people must’ve felt when they realized how bad cigarettes/nicotine is after hearing doctors recommend cigs or seeing positive kids commercials about smoking 🤧 I’m just glad I realized before any irreparable emotional/physical/mental damage was done

[@megdeeprose722]

this was amazing, thank you so much!

[@videosfromlauren]

this video is AMAZING. i've only been watching your videos for a month but i've realized how much i identify with you and your values and it's so inspiring. keep up the amazing work!!

[@db2ez]

In life, you never lose, you either win or learn

[@troymcclanahan7685]

#16 was a big one for me a few years ago. Your videos are so helpful.

[@chrcoc]

🤞🏻 crossing my fingers for your internship. thanks for the video and your insights, very valuable as always

[@SoVidushi]

great video as always ana

[@roselightmoon]

thank you so much for sharing this. I turned 26 and it was really good to hear how similar we all share some experiences around this age. Made me feel less anxious about where life is heading. :)

[@elaine378]

happy birthday! I've loved your channel for so long & ty for these personal videos

[@plumtrees]

I mean...these lessons are a little too important to just come across on the internet? Thank you Ana for sharing your insights😌

[@naruchiha4064]

Yess, yes yes, commenting for the algorithm because I agree with most of what you said 💓

[@zse3012]

Lots of wisdom by 25!

[@AB-ps4ob]

Exactly, I read the same opinion on Quora from someone explaining karma as just consequences, not necessarily to do with a bad wrong judgement...

[@alana.banana]

Hey Ana, I would love a video on navigating the issue of differing covid beliefs in relationships! My girlfriend is very skeptical about how the disease originated and if the vaccines are really helping or if they’re dangerous somehow. I, on the other hand, back scientific evidence thus far. I just can’t wrap my head around anything she says about it and she never has anything practical to back it up. I know it’s a touchy subject but I think we can all benefit from learning how to not let all the controversy make this pandemic even worse for us all.

[@Daniel-ws9qu]

Great video! I have a different view about point nr. 16; If the other person will judge you for it the wrong way, it is totally fine to lie to them.

[@saraluisa3261]

Thank you so much for this video. I am currently 22 and quite recently got out of a break up and I am trying to change my life for the better now. I feel like a video about the power trap (if you haven't done that already) would be super interesting, as I kinda fell for it too. My ex cheated on their ex (but that was about 2 years before they met me) and when they met me they outright told me that they didn't regret doing it, but they wouldn't do it again. I believed them and actually didn't get cheated on, but instead got dumped out of blue, because they missed the whole beginning stage of relationships (the excitement, the flirting etc.). So not much differently, just that they had the decency to not cheat on me first. It made me feel quite stupid afterwards for actually thinking that they wouldn't get bored with me either.

[@mooncover7359]

Oh we're the same age! I've been watching you since that Shallon Lester video 😂 (oh a time of my life) Actually the things she said are not all wrong and I didn't agree with all of that, I just thought I will get what I could get from her. But at that time I had a lot of anger and bitter in me so her contents hooked me in. I got a lot better from then and I'm proud to say I'm back to me and my bestest self ever. Really really happy that I got it all out of the way so now my mind is back and I can focus on and do real things to improve my life. Your videos help. Keep up and good luck girl!

[@lenarose1049]

Just curious, are you implying that shallon’s videos are bad? And if yes why? I would love to hear your perspective!

[@mooncover7359]

@@lenarose1049 No. As I remembered they were not bad. You can watch it and take what you could take from it like me because a lot of the things she shared were true and after that incident I still felt the same about them. It’s just she’s not that role model of a person and she’s kinda catty and bitter and hateful...etc my state of mind at that time was not great and a bit like her so I was hooked by her contents and I admit they helped me too. After that incident I still followed and watched her a little more but as time went by I grew out of her and I felt it was kinda toxic so it was just time to move on. I think the time when I finally saw that she was too much and not that thoughtful and deep was when she shared that she didn’t buy that Britney needed help and the people whose in that FREE BRITNEY movement should just calm down and leave Britney alone. You can still watch her though if you still feel like it because that was me at a time before too. The advices she shared most of the time were true anyway. I think that as you know better you would more likely to turn to people like Anna who is more unjudgemental and peaceful with herself. Shallon is like that aunt that’s fun to talk to but not that wise so you should just take what you could take. Glad that you want to hear my perspective ^^ I’m not fluent in English so I might got some errors. I hope i got my point across to you.

[@happymood2278]

You are very wise for your age and I am sure I am not the first person to tell you this. I am 30 and still struggling with some of these lessons, particularlt not taking up space. I guess it's also cultural. Keep up the great work! Kudos for this channel!

[@ramita1607]

I loved this. You're so good. I'm currently 26, but I think a lot of these points were relatable. I would love it if you could make a video about how to be more mindful in life. I think it automatically will improve the quality of our daily lives.

[@admirbarucija2018]

Very excited to see this now that I’m done with classes for the week!! Been doing a lot of reflecting on life lately myself ☺️

[@toothfairy9242]

I admire you Ana. I hope that I will be able to be as self-confident and ambitious as you in the future

[@IrisDouble]

This video is so enlightening, thank you

[@kr-ed2el]

Cat callers are "Energy vampires" ----THIS!!!

[@hman2875]

Hey can you share more about other aspects of life? Like financial, studying/work etc. Discovered your channel recently and been liking your content.

[@juliemurphy9412]

Thank you for mentioning the idea of reaching for the stars. I am a social work student and I can't tell you how many times I heard in the past year that I am never going to get paid enough, I am never going to be happy nor am I going to be successful, etc. And it used to frustrate me, but it doesn't anymore! If you have that compassion and drive to be successful in your work then why not reach for the stars? People are always going to make assumptions and make judgements, but at the end of the day it's really up to you to decide if these comments matter to you or not. I am also turning 26 this year, thank you so much for the insight!

[@chewy564]

Love to hear the more personal side of yourself, it helps to learn from introspective people. Also, you'll definitely match for internship!

[@sonianhegde3586]

Wow so helpful! I also LOVED skins haha. Really appreciate your content, and good luck with your internship results! :)

[@greyrock9747]

Great list! I wish I had more of these things figured out at 25.

[@micaxmica]

This was so helpful. Thank you

[@redpalex]

Thank you.

[@LiamFlanagan-dd9wb]

Excellent video, one everyone can learn from and relate too. I have learnt a lot of these things in the past 2 or 3 years (I'm 37) and wish had know them by 25. But you can't change the past. Now I focus on my present (still a work in progress) and creating a better future. I do all this through self improvement. Ana has been a part of this, mentors/courses and my brilliant councillor have all been part of it. But I have done and will continue to do it. Thanks for everything @AnaPsychology

[@The_Cowwwthem]

I appreciate this. I have so many thoughts, im sorry you have gone through especially with hookup culture and sexism. I also really appreciate when you provide examples for your tips/skills because they help me understand them better. I hope internship went well!!