25 Life Lessons I Learned by Age 25

[@Daniel-ws9qu]

The points I liked the most: - it doesn't matter what people think of you - honor every cycle, no pain no gain - reflect on why you were triggered - mindfulness - when something bad happens, take it as a lesson

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Confidence is the key. If you don't believe in yourself, then nobody will.

[@muslimmetalman]

vital

[@captainzork6109]

My mom would!

[@GENIRYODAN]

I'm hitting 25 this July, and yeah, it's definitely an experience transitioning from the younger first half of my 20s into the more serious responsible second half. Good luck to us.

[@leovolont]

Well, 25 is better than 20 but the real goal is 40. "Life begins at 40".

[@theboombody]

The transition is a beautiful thing when it happens. Embrace it and you'll enjoy it. Good luck to you all.

[@trishbabyxo]

Just turned 25 a couple days ago and I still feel 19 :( definitely trying not to be overwhelmed not having my life or career idea together

[@MrNegative57]

Halfway to 50

[@TheArticulatingAnoraksPodcast]

My brain grows 3 sizes when I watch these videos

[@AnaPsychology]

😂😂

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Omg 😆 same I am newly subscribed to her channel.

[@cardy4ever]

Hey. As a guy, the dating people you're unsure about rule doesn't just apply to girls it definitely applies to men as well. Even if you hook up or have fun together if they are acting flakey or aren't emotionally where you are then just move on or at least put less and less effort into that relationship. Great video as always. I'm the same age as you and both of my parents are psychologists so your mindset is really equal to what i grew up with so it's really comforting, thank you

[@cardy4ever]

Same for the advice against hookup culture thing applies to me as well as a guy. It's really draining. I want more and I wanna be matched with someone who values me not only for my looks but also my intellect. Just messing about with Tinder and hooking up with strangers really reminded me I want a serious relationship.

[@PeaceOfMelody]

20 year old here and here is some life advice I live by: 1: Treat everyone with respect (even the people you hate) and understand some people won't reciporcate 2: Learn your boundaries 3: Build your own Moral Compass, aka find out the meaning of Right and Wrong to you 4: Try to understand others opinions and allow them to get their point across without interrupting or trying to get your point across when you find something wrong in their argument and learn to agree to disagree 5: Figure out what you want out of life and work and aim for it 6: Understand everything comes with time 7: Have a reason to why you do anything and constantly remind yourself of that reason whenever you feel like giving up 8: Spend time with and understand your emotions

[@enbykenz]

I would’ve been so much healthier if I knew all of that at 20 wow

[@lodragan]

I'm 57, and while I concur with many of your lessons, some were markedly different I think primarily because of situations I found myself in. For one thing, I was in the military for 12 years during the time when I was your age, and many times I had to deal with people both above and below me in the rank structure who were red flags. I didn't have the option of walking away or distancing myself in any significant way. It was an extremely stressful environment (there were weapons, explosives, and heavy equipment involved) where one mistake could mean death or injury, and I had to somehow navigate it successfully for myself, and for those in my care. I didn't have the luxury of picking those I would work with; I had to do the best I could with the hand I was dealt. After I got out of the military, most 'stressful' events in civilian life didn't seem so stressful after all. I was also a very shy person when I was young, and have had to manage my energy levels in the face of hyper-interactivity present in both the military and jobs since. The only constant is change is a firm understanding I have about life and the universe as a whole. The best things in life have always happened when I stretched my comfort zones, although I do tend to stir my coffee the same way - more out of muscle memory/efficiency than OCD - and I expend my energy on innovation and stretching in other areas instead! For example, I am out of work, and starting up several new things including commercial drones, writing, software and systems development, that I hope to generate enough cash to become my own business this year. I guess the biggest lesson I've had to learn is that I, nor the people around me, act perfect all of the time, or even part of the time. When I was younger I would take it personally when someone didn't act nicely; I would be especially hard on myself if I didn't live up to my self image either. I've come to accept myself and others as we are, and this has been a great sense of comfort for me. I've never been in therapy before, but your videos have helped me learn a lot of things that I either never examined, or did not know about the subject, making me consider doing so. Thanks!

[@dianareyes4692]

As someone who fears getting older I truly did need this! I’m 21 right now and seeing how much I’ve grown since graduating high school is so empowering for me to continue to grow

[@mmmissmiss3356]

Love your videos. I hope you'll make a video on jealousy in relationships someday - not only romantic or sexual jealousy, but worrying that your partner cares more about their friends than they care about you as their partner. And always having the fear of being left out, of not being prioritized by people you prioritize. I struggle a lot with this due to low self-esteem and trauma from bullying when I was a child. And on top of that, struggle with shame because of the jealousy I feel. I hate those feelings so much, they're so intense. And I've got terrible abandonment issues.

[@AnaPsychology]

Not 100% the same as your suggestion, but video on rOCD and limerence set for next week! :)

[@chrisandrews3793]

I second this, please!

[@qwerty-js5ip]

I am in the same situation 😣 I badly want to get out of this situation 😣😣

[@Twinflame_4]

I’m turning 29 this year and glad I learned these already. Thank you 💖

[@leeanncomeau8930]

I just turned 25 and I can see where you are coming from with a lot of these tips. Some of them I think would be totally worth incorporating into my life

[@vivi72892]

I always learn so much from your videos! I am almost 30 now and I wish I was as wise as you are when I was 25! Also, I graduated from a college in chicago and been working as a psych nurse since!

[@financeorelse]

I turned 25 in January, and one thing I realized is that I've wasted so much time in my youth. I can't help to compare to people at same age on how accomplished they are. Most of them are well on their way to a career or a family, while I only just managed to finally finished university but with no real work experience. The feeling of dread is something I can't stop myself from feeling when I think about my future. However, reminding myself of my friends' and my sister's love and care has been my stable source of motivation to move on.

[@Scorpionic_]

From one psychology junkie to another, I really appreciate your existence ✨🥰

[@michaela5986]

I love getting to know more about you. Love these types of videos because I’m only 18 and I want to learn things through others if I can

[@AnaPsychology]

My grandma always says to learn from the mistakes of others, so if you can do that, I think you’ll have a great advantage :)

[@Socsob]

i feel like "don't aim low" can be bad for some people. i for one get overwhelmed when i see a giant task in front of me, so aiming lower and slowly aiming higher has worked for me better. obviously everyone is different, anyways great tips!

[@phoeberose1094]

I'm about to turn 30, I'm finally graduating from university and I just left a 5,5 year relationship after moving to another country to be with them and I'm trying to figure out what to do with my life. I appreciate these tips and insights 🥰

[@sanecatlady]

100% agree hookup culture is not empowering. Honestly it feels like the exact opposite... giving your body to men or women who don't care about you. How is that empowerment and feminism?

[@ryokohonda4619]

Something really changes when you turn 25. It's whe your frontal lobe develop. Like your decision skills start to be better and clearer.

[@mavshorts1076]

never settle-you’re an inspiration to me-

[@enriquetorresgonzalez8748]

I'm grateful I found your channel. I'm 25 as well and been having therapy sessions for a while now and the material you create and share has been an excellent companion to my process. Thank you for your work and the information you spread. Best of whishes to you and your career.

[@marciafab7]

Thank you Ana for another thoughtful and helpful video. This is outstanding and I'm so incredibly proud of you. I appreciate your time and energy.

[@AnaPsychology]

Thank you so much!

[@larazamora800]

Thank you so much for this video Ana. Very insightful. I am 23, living abroad for some time and going through life one day at a time, avoiding negative things and situations….still I think my worst enemy is myself in terms of thought patterns. I want to be a therapist just like you. You inspire me so much and you’re so well spoken. Thank you ♥️

[@geraldquanico3250]

I love how you pointed that the reality and the universe will always be neutral. It will either go with or against our ways, and that therapies should not make false euphoria among clients that is very contradicting to what is happening in the real world. I love how grounded and mindful your statements are. (This is also one of my main interests in research when I hopefully get into postgraduate studies in Clinical Psychology too!!)

[@wimderoos5407]

damn woman, you are wiser at 25 than most people I know of any age! good on ya, shows what a commitment to learning and growing can do for a person

[@lvnamoths]

agree with you so much on you hookup culture take. i participated a bit in hook up culture as a teen, and im still healing from it at 20 years old, even though i've been in a committed relationship for two years now. it really catches up with you later in life.

[@dianasisakian3940]

Salutări din Armenia, Ana! Thank you for your videos! You are like a family member for me, like a sister. I have just turned 26 and all these lessons are absolutely relatable. I am currently pursuing PhD in Translation Studies and hope to defend my dissertation this Autumn. You are such an inspiration for me! Your one video makes me go and work on my paper more feverishly haha. God bless you ♡

[@theboombody]

I learned much more between 25 and 40 than I did before 25. It makes me wonder how much I'll learn between 40 and 55.

[@johnsmithjnr9628]

I learned so much by the time i was 20. thing is a lot of that was bullshit misconceptions that didnt help.

[@theboombody]

@@johnsmithjnr9628 Some of that's pretty hard to avoid. I'm working on clearing some misconceptions up at this age still, mostly about math.

[@marjialhermanoche5982]

I’ve watched a lot of ‘Life Lessons by’ videos and yours has definitely stood out. You’re so eloquent in speech and reflect on things so well. Love your channel :)

[@may6v6]

as someone whos turned 20 this year i really appreciated watching this !! thank you!

[@Taeyangsmissingjacket]

Found you right after I broke off my engagement. Your videos gave me confidence in making the right decision for myself. Every time I found myself doubting my decision I just go back to watch them. Thank you.

[@AnaPsychology]

Aww this makes my day to read, thank you so much for sharing!

[@Lyssalafemme]

I totally needed to see this video today. If you did write a book, I’d purchase within a heartbeat! I’m so glad you’re on KZbin!

[@nihalhathaway4089]

not sure if you said this, but I've learnt the hard way that intuition/gut feeling is really important and rarely lies!

[@donalvarito3165]

I found myself nodding to half of the points and jumping with enthusiasm and shouting "YESSS YESSS"; "Right? Unbelievable how people are sometimes"; "Mhmm, RIGHTFULLY SO"; "Just like you said, YESSS 👌" with the rest of the points haha. You've made feel validated and less crazy, thank you very much 🙇

[@ic7846]

Giving less shits honestly helped me a lot. Just not caring about how people think of you, not caring about jumbeling up words in a public speaking, because at the end of the day we're all human and we all make mistakes. It has helped me a lot with social anxiety

[@jlbeeen]

So much of this is just making me feel worse about my ADHD as I can't control my emotions without medication, and I have a lot of struggles feeling like I'm wasting people's time and resources, and I tend to push people away because things take me longer. I'm glad some of my profs have been really good, but where I don't know if I can actually find a medication that doesn't cause side effects, it scares me. I've faced so many failures do to things out of my control and ableism for both ADHD and my chronic illness, and it's so ingrained in society that your ability equates to success, and that was drilled into me as a kid being told I had to have good grades. It's so hard to overcome that, and find people who are willing to work with my needs instead of tell me to just try harder. It's just a lot to work with when there are more strict limits at play. Invisible conditions and disabilities really need more awareness because no one believes me, even my doctors say I'm normal, while my physiotherapist has been really good at telling me what is a problem, and what I should do instead (I'm hypermobile and have dislocations).

[@pepenani4046]

I can't believe we're the same age!!! You're so full of knowledge and wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing them to a wider audience! I really love your channel, thanks for guiding us towards mental and emotional maturity, sanity, and all the good words ending in "ty" haha

[@FatimaMD7]

Thank you!!!💗💗💗💗💗💕💕💕💗💕💗💗💗💗💗💕💕💕💗💗💗

[@mauribudi7290]

Hi Ana I am an Italian guy (sorry for my english), your videos are very interesting and informative. Unfortunately internet is full of pseudo-scientific bullshit and your channel is a reference point where I can learn something about psychology and feed my curiosity. It would be useful also a instagram page where it possible to see the updating of the YT channel and some short psychological posts.

[@ic7846]

Not spending energy and thoughts on people who can not return the same feelings is a big one. No matter how hard you try they will never like you as much as you like them. On the other hand I don't like the phrase "there are plenty of fish in the sea". While that statement is somewhat true, finding other people you like can be very difficult and tireing process.

[@ic7846]

Slowly phasing out of people's life, not creating enemies nor drama is another big one I agree with. You never know who knows who. And keeping good terms with people will always be beneficial. Doesn't mean you have to be friends with them

[@Jeremy_936]

When I was 25 I was the same person I am now, but nowhere near as wise. Where does the wisdom come from? From failure mostly and partially from successes. Don't let the fear of failure stop you. Life is a school and you basically fail your way to success. You also fail your way to true confidence. Not cockiness, not ego, but a true belief in yourself and your purpose in life. Never forget that. From your worst experiences will come your greatest gifts. I speak from the perspective of a 25 year old, 25 years later. Find your purpose and keep going.

[@roach1892]

⚡️⚡️💯💯💪

[@enbykenz]

wow I’m 25 and I thought you were older than me 😩 you’ve accomplished so much at such a young age!!!

[@karinturkington2455]

Great lessons. I wish I'd known about them many years ago before I made mistakes.

[@CalebHatesGames]

I appreciate all you do, Ana. Thanks for making these.

[@lizzie404]

I love your KZbin channel and am so thankful for it!! I’ve learned so much from you! I hope you continue to make videos and keep informing us!

[@Wauly]

I've been watching since 2020 and you're glowing with confidence now more than ever. Your videos are so cozy. Thank you Anna Also, side-note, I would love a video of what your favorite music is, or if it's a psychology related video, the effect that music has on productivity, stress, etc.

[@lily_nai]

omg i love your hair so much!!

[@Omar-su3ii]

I’m 23 and look 18 as well lol, but I am turning 25 next summer in 2023. This video’s good

[@juliemurphy9412]

Thank you for mentioning the idea of reaching for the stars. I am a social work student and I can't tell you how many times I heard in the past year that I am never going to get paid enough, I am never going to be happy nor am I going to be successful, etc. And it used to frustrate me, but it doesn't anymore! If you have that compassion and drive to be successful in your work then why not reach for the stars? People are always going to make assumptions and make judgements, but at the end of the day it's really up to you to decide if these comments matter to you or not. I am also turning 26 this year, thank you so much for the insight!

[@Dontclickmychannellll]

I turned 25 last month needed to hear this ✨

[@Nytrouse]

I just turned 25 three days ago! Your videos have been helping me a lot lately, realized I've been handing out advice based on my own defense mechanisms and it just makes people feel uncared for They've also helped me improve my relationship! Thanks and congrats on turning a quarter 🤠

[@Yourrrr]

Great video!! I’m also very excited to be aging as a young woman lol I heard the thirties are good! Also I remember how I felt when I realized what a farce and danger “hook up culture” is. I feel like this is how people must’ve felt when they realized how bad cigarettes/nicotine is after hearing doctors recommend cigs or seeing positive kids commercials about smoking 🤧 I’m just glad I realized before any irreparable emotional/physical/mental damage was done

[@Lil-lt8np]

Hey Ana. Thank you for this video. I'm 23 and I've been feeling lost lately. Your videos help me

[@kendrickeraart]

Happy birthday Anna!! Thank you for sharing all your insights with us

[@otea-app]

I've been watching your videos since 2020, when you helped me find the words to describe why I was unhappy in my relationship. "If you can tolerate distress, you're truly unstoppable"-- yes absolutely! I always am able to take something from your videos and I appreciate them. I just listened to a podcast by Dr. Alek K. about inner vs outward-oriented perfectionists, and maybe you've already talked about it but I would love to hear your take on what you think of those findings (essentially if you have both types then those are the highest achievers, whether or not it is actually healthy), and how you might contextualize that with the idea of "try not to care what people think of you." even outside of the online or dating arena

[@beautifulnmad]

I simply love your channel! I can't express my gratitude for the knoledge you share.

[@blackleviathan]

very grateful, thank you :)

[@zse3012]

Lots of wisdom by 25!

[@videosfromlauren]

this video is AMAZING. i've only been watching your videos for a month but i've realized how much i identify with you and your values and it's so inspiring. keep up the amazing work!!

[@sr3549]

You’re so wise! I love watching your channel. You’ve turned into a household name and a good friend of mine. ☺️

[@Ms1Deviouskiller]

Happy birthday!!! I love watching your KZbin videos! Please consider making podcast!! Your talks are awesome!! You should convert your KZbin to podcasts!!

[@kr-ed2el]

Cat callers are "Energy vampires" ----THIS!!!

[@spring.knowledge]

Great lessons from a person close to my age who studies human minds and behaviors! Thank you 💯

[@AB-ps4ob]

Exactly, I read the same opinion on Quora from someone explaining karma as just consequences, not necessarily to do with a bad wrong judgement...

[@Canoby]

That whole looking younger than your age thing is going to be a nice thing if you can maintain that past 30 (at least in this 42 year old man's experience). I really enjoy your videos, your discussions on the research, and just the insights you've picked up from life and your formal education.

[@redpalex]

Thank you.

[@angels4evah]

This video was AMAZING!!! I’m going to keep coming back to this when I feel I need to be reminded of what truly matters! Thank you 🤍

[@cooking.with.catholicism]

Also turning 25 this May and I am excited!

[@juliangarcia2639]

yeeeesss please i would so appreciate an elaboration on lesson 25! I’ve been in this sort of situation and would absolutely love your insight. ☺️

[@roselightmoon]

thank you so much for sharing this. I turned 26 and it was really good to hear how similar we all share some experiences around this age. Made me feel less anxious about where life is heading. :)

[@db2ez]

In life, you never lose, you either win or learn

[@krugersavage6347]

I can't remember why I used to hate you but here I am, back and subscribed.

[@saraluisa3261]

Thank you so much for this video. I am currently 22 and quite recently got out of a break up and I am trying to change my life for the better now. I feel like a video about the power trap (if you haven't done that already) would be super interesting, as I kinda fell for it too. My ex cheated on their ex (but that was about 2 years before they met me) and when they met me they outright told me that they didn't regret doing it, but they wouldn't do it again. I believed them and actually didn't get cheated on, but instead got dumped out of blue, because they missed the whole beginning stage of relationships (the excitement, the flirting etc.). So not much differently, just that they had the decency to not cheat on me first. It made me feel quite stupid afterwards for actually thinking that they wouldn't get bored with me either.

[@toothfairy9242]

I admire you Ana. I hope that I will be able to be as self-confident and ambitious as you in the future

[@troymcclanahan7685]

#16 was a big one for me a few years ago. Your videos are so helpful.

[@plumtrees]

I mean...these lessons are a little too important to just come across on the internet? Thank you Ana for sharing your insights😌

[@ambermartinez2616]

These are so good I've learned alot of these just moving through life Good stuff

[@learnurduwithsara1068]

This channel has helped me a lot. Also I wanted to see you in that dinosaur snow suit.

[@bowbowbow9954]

best life lessons video ive seen to date

[@elaine378]

happy birthday! I've loved your channel for so long & ty for these personal videos

[@ramita1607]

I loved this. You're so good. I'm currently 26, but I think a lot of these points were relatable. I would love it if you could make a video about how to be more mindful in life. I think it automatically will improve the quality of our daily lives.

[@amytv787]

You are full of wisdom♥️♥️ thank you for sharing your thoughts and content!

[@rexheavens1889]

you can tell a lot about a person based off the lessons they have leanred

[@happymood2278]

You are very wise for your age and I am sure I am not the first person to tell you this. I am 30 and still struggling with some of these lessons, particularlt not taking up space. I guess it's also cultural. Keep up the great work! Kudos for this channel!

[@alana.banana]

Hey Ana, I would love a video on navigating the issue of differing covid beliefs in relationships! My girlfriend is very skeptical about how the disease originated and if the vaccines are really helping or if they’re dangerous somehow. I, on the other hand, back scientific evidence thus far. I just can’t wrap my head around anything she says about it and she never has anything practical to back it up. I know it’s a touchy subject but I think we can all benefit from learning how to not let all the controversy make this pandemic even worse for us all.

[@LittleKittyCat]

Not only are you knowledgeable but you're also so beautiful. 😊

[@m.m7249]

Great thoughts about life, and you're gorgeous❤🔥🌠🌠🌠

[@kpik23]

I love this! I recently let a male "friend" go after the sixth time he became verbally aggressive and hostile when hearing my boyfriend say something that he took personally. He always apologizes afterwards but continues to let his emotions control him, so his "sorry" means nothing. This "friend" also said that I should send him shirtless photos of myself and he had made it obvious he was into me. I made it known that I was not interested, the only way to make it more obvious was to yell at him to screw off - but that goes against my character. A difficult lesson I learned is that it is not your job to make people understand you, they will perceive what they want and if they have no power over you, they will dislike that. I cannot help everyone nor is it not my job - kind of like you said in the video! Life isn't fair but you have to protect yourself - especially if you're a woman, whether attractive or not, people will judge you and think what they want. The "friend" said it is easy for women to be popular on social media if you show your body, as if women are a commodity and that is our only value. Protect yourself and your life! I know you can do this. ~

[@BybeeBunnie]

I’m so proud of you! You’re inspirational honestly. He wanted you to stoop to his level but instead you kept it moving. I’m working on gaining control over my emotions so people can’t bait me to join them in the mud anymore. Love this!

[@admirbarucija2018]

Very excited to see this now that I’m done with classes for the week!! Been doing a lot of reflecting on life lately myself ☺️

[@mooncover7359]

Oh we're the same age! I've been watching you since that Shallon Lester video 😂 (oh a time of my life) Actually the things she said are not all wrong and I didn't agree with all of that, I just thought I will get what I could get from her. But at that time I had a lot of anger and bitter in me so her contents hooked me in. I got a lot better from then and I'm proud to say I'm back to me and my bestest self ever. Really really happy that I got it all out of the way so now my mind is back and I can focus on and do real things to improve my life. Your videos help. Keep up and good luck girl!

[@lenarose1049]

Just curious, are you implying that shallon’s videos are bad? And if yes why? I would love to hear your perspective!

[@mooncover7359]

@@lenarose1049 No. As I remembered they were not bad. You can watch it and take what you could take from it like me because a lot of the things she shared were true and after that incident I still felt the same about them. It’s just she’s not that role model of a person and she’s kinda catty and bitter and hateful...etc my state of mind at that time was not great and a bit like her so I was hooked by her contents and I admit they helped me too. After that incident I still followed and watched her a little more but as time went by I grew out of her and I felt it was kinda toxic so it was just time to move on. I think the time when I finally saw that she was too much and not that thoughtful and deep was when she shared that she didn’t buy that Britney needed help and the people whose in that FREE BRITNEY movement should just calm down and leave Britney alone. You can still watch her though if you still feel like it because that was me at a time before too. The advices she shared most of the time were true anyway. I think that as you know better you would more likely to turn to people like Anna who is more unjudgemental and peaceful with herself. Shallon is like that aunt that’s fun to talk to but not that wise so you should just take what you could take. Glad that you want to hear my perspective ^^ I’m not fluent in English so I might got some errors. I hope i got my point across to you.

[@Daniel-ws9qu]

Great video! I have a different view about point nr. 16; If the other person will judge you for it the wrong way, it is totally fine to lie to them.

[@SoVidushi]

great video as always ana

[@rcz2023]

I would definitely buy your book. Thank you for making these videos, you are unique in your style. Thank you

[@megdeeprose722]

this was amazing, thank you so much!

[@naruchiha4064]

Yess, yes yes, commenting for the algorithm because I agree with most of what you said 💓

[@chrcoc]

🤞🏻 crossing my fingers for your internship. thanks for the video and your insights, very valuable as always

[@chewy564]

Love to hear the more personal side of yourself, it helps to learn from introspective people. Also, you'll definitely match for internship!

[@ic7846]

Thank you for sharing number 11. I've always wanted to do something with drawing because I love it to death. Lately I have found game dev to be a great way to use this passion since every aspect of it interests me. Since I chose the safe route and went to school for business, I felt that I made the wrong choice and I should have tried to go for game dev in school. But in highschool I had no idea that that might be a realistic goal. I still don't know if it would have been realistic but maybe I can still find some workaround to still be able to incorporate my passions into work.

[@IrisDouble]

This video is so enlightening, thank you

[@samueljohncalma3113]

Belated Happy Birthday, Anna. ❤️