3 Habits That (Actually) Changed My Life

[@AdaptWithElina]

The input-output approach you talked about helps so much not only with moving the needle, but also with healthier attitude towards mistakes, doesn't it? We can tell ourselves: 'It's not a mistake, it's an output' - and reach towards new input to improve, rather than getting stuck.

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

I love the way you put it!!! That's what keeps me sane :) Thank you for sharing this!

[@soumyajitsarkar2972]

Damn! Great way to put it

[@amitsanghvi401]

It's seems like a "how to" guide for Charlie Munger's lollapalooza effect...thank you

[@abbymbedzi3075]

I love the tweaking your conversation style to get others receptive and open

[@lindsayalvestad4242]

I absolutely love your framework content and the community you have built here. Your ability to curate ideas, add your own valuable insights, and further the discussion is truly phenomenal. I often find myself skipping most mindset and habit videos a minute or two in because it’s clearly just a poorly repackaged copy of someone else’s idea. But yours always challenge me to look for practical applications and likeminded folks. Thank you! 🙏

[@LeonaZiyan]

You are one of the best channels I’ve found in a long time. Your cafe is such an interesting idea, I can’t wait to experience one of it. My fear of being boring / look stupid has blocked me from reframing my stories to make them land better. Your second point has given me a different outlook on this! These are wonderful, and very unique habits - thank you for sharing them!

[@scottcardais3560]

One of the best on-camera presenters on KZbin. It feels like she's talking to me one-on-one. A great talent and obviously passionate about continuous learning and sharing what she's learned with others. I subscribed before finishing the first of her videos.

[@vadal4043]

Really like the "conversations with books" idea. I rarely get that from socializing.

[@bessless7911]

“I get so much more input just by putting something out.” Simple yet profound. Great vid, thx!

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Thank you for watching and for the encouragement!!

[@delharris8443]

Learn, evolve, refine and repeat. Thank You

[@PinaColada65]

i have struggled a lot with your idea about not starting a conversation because of the thought of not being able to add anything to the conversation . I have definitely got to improve the framing of my convos because I cant curate it fast enough for the type of person in front of me. i was amazed by your ideas of sandcastles and realized that I ve created so many in my life without having built any solid structure out of it. i have a great many layers of introspection to get to. thanks for putting this out for us. definitely, an insightful piece of art!

[@whycandi456]

Such a good one. I love how you put your ideas and learning out there. It's always inspiring. Great reminder to create output, not just consume.

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Really appreciate it!! Thank you for watching and keep me posted on how you go with that loop!

[@Angell_Lee]

Here's your input Vicky: YOU ARE AMAZING always were and always be!! 💖

[@DJ_BROBOT]

Vicky, I may be trippin', but in all the videos I have watched of you over the years, I think you purposely speed up your videos. They sound needlessly too fast. Talk to us in your natural voice and SLOW DOWN. When I watch you, it's like I hear you chirping super-fast on 1.25x speed through videos. Youre too good to have to do this. We will listen to you in normal talking pace...DONT SPEED THINGS UP! I feel like im in a race with you to get to the end of the video.

[@goldfishy]

I personally like her speed of talking and still increase it to 1.25 or 1.5 but that’s just me. :D

[@edjwise]

I agree, something is off with the audio, it sounds fast, it sounds weird in several parts. Im glad to know it isn't just me.

[@Scott-bh2qb]

She likely read somewhere that 1.25 speed is the 'optimum' speed for public consumption or that 11-12 mins is the 'optimum' view time so quickens the video in places. She lives her life through self-improvement books. Being comfortable with your authentic self and working on the desire for constant validation and acceptance is the path to a better life, not 'hacking' your speech, 'hacking' your interactions and 'hacking' your job.

[@bigbao9843]

And if she slows down, there must be people saying she speaks too slow. You can adjust speed in KZbin, whether faster or slower

[@mjt1517]

Sounds normal to me. Rather than expecting a content creator to cater to you, perhaps you should be the one to change the video playback speed.

[@mattc2812]

Vicky, you're so interesting. I like your ideas, so I just subscribed.

[@Bullie_mama]

Amazing insight! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. This is GOLD.

[@dalydegagne1839]

Thanks for your great video - one of the most helpful and stimulating I have seen for a long time!

[@angelhelle198]

Thank you.

[@GaryWard-b8d]

Excellent.

[@linodil]

irrelevant question. I like the lenses you use where did you get them or what color are they :)

[@ArnoldSmithFergusson]

When I'm watched her, I put video speed to 0.75x. She speaks really fast like, no pause & she rushed to do something else.😅

[@Scott-bh2qb]

Have you tried not analysing how you converse and just be yourself? I love my friends who ramble, while I find people who over-categorise everything to be super annoying. Especially if they manipulate thier interactions with others to ensure things 'land' with the other person. I want to be chilled with my friends and loved ones, not be 'worked' or used as experiments for lucidity. This feels like toxic self-improvement/viewing all of reality through the lens of self-productivity.

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Fair point! I get this is not for everyone so definitely take what works for you and leave the rest!

[@14Penfold88]

would

[@goliverapr44]

Vicky, I really like your website but your KZbin videos are too valuable and full of important content to b,e in my opinion, too fast; sometimes is hard to keep up with you. Thank you

[@JemMawson]

I usually skip "habit" videos as they are often dry regurgitations of trite advice I've heard many times before. But I'm glad I watched this. Genuinely insightful articulations from a thoughtful mind. Thank you.

[@CompletedReview]

Really appreciated the input-output loop explanation. It's not just about progress, but also rethinking errors as outputs. This way, we're prompted to seek new inputs, moving past errors for continuous improvement.

[@LawrenceChung]

I learn something new whenever I watch your videos. thanks for making them!

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Heeeey!! Good to see you here and thank you for watching!!!

[@demireyes]

Subscribed!! I love how you think and explain things. So many great tips I want to try in my life. Thank you!

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Welcome!! Thanks for joining and let me know how you go when you try them!

[@seaweed627]

The whole video is insightful but the one point really hits home for me it's when you said "The point is not to prove that I'm intelligent, the point is to learn from them." I often feel like I'm not speaking intelligently, or asking stupid questions, but this quote has eliminate the shame or ego in these situation and focus on what's important. Really appreciate the material you put out here, very glad I stumble across your channel!

[@Angell_Lee]

PS: If someone cut you off, they might be very self-centered. I noticed it with the person I thought was my best friend for 7 years, for me I always listen since I love it, didn't noticed until shared something personal and put the focus on him instead. I then learned about the psychology of self-centered people and narcissist which saved me lots of time. If people are not as well interested in me, as I am in them. The connection won't work for me. Blessings xo

[@mjt1517]

Most people aren’t narcissists. Stop cutting off friendships because of amateur psychological diagnoses.

[@armandosilva6150]

You can get a conversation with the book via IA , chartgpt or llama

[@impendingbloom]

I like this simple little Seth Godin quote, "People like us do things like this".

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

What a quote! I'm going to use that in another essay!!

[@Mr.Monta77]

This was a real inspiration for me. Thanks! 🙏🏻

[@gregorybown]

Vicky! I love how you provide actionable steps, also how you weren't discouraged when your friend didn't care about your excitement with Alain Botton's book (thanks for the recommendation), but decided to change yourself, and then make that into a refining process. You changed yourself, and in sharing, you give us a clear path to a happier life. Thank you

[@FanWu-v3w]

The sand castle is relatable! And the struggle of finding the right audience to talk to is so real! The three steps you proposed are really insightful, but what if you want immediate disussion with some real humans and they are not readily available 😂 time to make davinci cafe to be real time Vicky!

[@lyviaray8819]

Love your videos, Vicky! Thank you so much for sharing. I completely agree that when a story doesn't land, you can take note and tell it even better the next time. I'm looking forward to taking your advice and having even better conversations!

[@eesur]

Thanks, Vicky! Fantastic video to kick off the week. Your input > output > input model deeply resonates, enhancing the iterative process by incorporating creative connections that remain receptive to new inputs. For example, in the art of pour-over coffee, every attempt not only improves the next but also perfects the mastery of the brew. However, you've illustrated how this feedback loop can extend beyond simple refinement, igniting diverse connections. Brilliantly articulated!

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

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[@CarenMagill]

I LOVE your framework for designing your own thinking journey. I'm doing that right now with ADHD. I have so much research from different areas that converge with the neurodivergent brain. I hope to bring a whole new level of thinking to how and why we think differently. Thank you for this!

[@jimglose3838]

Yes, I've heard the input/output cycle discussed before and it's so true. It's how we're built: we take in, but we really don't learn, understand, or make it ours until we've shared it in some form of output. I'm not a teacher, but it must be like teaching. Study, learn a subject but until you teach it, you haven't truly understood it or made it viable in your life. Once, the output occurs, a vacuum occurs and you need more input to fill i--on ongoing ever expanding and progressing cycle.

[@notcomplicated000]

5:07 I too realized this recently, that often I ramble on about something I'm really passionate about but it's causing a disconnect rather than deepening relationships. I'm working on improving my approach 👍🏼

[@alexc2231]

I've been watching this channel for 6 months now - and I'm a follower. I don't usually write any feedback or comments. Not only because I don't write well (but I'll look into your suggestion on writing course) but also because I don't think I'm adding anything new or useful. I'm also Chinese, and I guess many of things you covered (especially this episode) is almost counter-intuitive for our culture. We were taught to listen more and talk less, stay "low-profile", etc. BUT I definitely see your points about being open and taking definitive approaches to refining our thought processing and articulation for self-improvement - and on to a better / different level from where we are. Thank you for the wonderful content all along!

[@prashkd7684]

Marry me. I so need a partner smart enough and curious enough to have these philosophical conversations with me..

[@chayadajiratipasdamrong9597]

I found your channel recently by accident. Your content is very interesting and useful! Thanks for making this!

[@ian_itinerant]

Thanks Vicky, the first of your videos i have watched, much appreciated. I looked for the To Do List video but couldn’t find on your channel. Could you link for me? Time to get a coffee 😊

[@Jenbluntly]

Really loved the reminder that the point of conversations isn't to prove I'm intelligent but to learn! I get shy too and nervous about sharing my ideas thinking people will judge me, but I've been really committed to putting myself out there more this year, so I really appreciate the reminder (plus all your other tips)! What is the writing course you took? I've been looking for a good writing course to up my game :)

[@snowghost9800]

Im sorry. The way you speak still sounds scattered. It's nothing to do with structure. You just honestly speak fast. It's like you skip commas and periods when you read them. I really want to digest what you're saying but i just cant keep up with the speed.

[@1980rlquinn]

The only part I have to disagree with is near the beginning of your part 2. I don't know if I would have called that person a "friend" as much as just an acquaintance or someone in your network. I think a real friend can take the attitude of, "This excites you, and I love to see you glow! I may not have an interest in it, but if you are happy, I want to encourage you!", not "OMG, this is sooooo boring. Can we talk about me now?" I'm glad your number one change was to find new friends, and I hope her hotel in Paris was terrible.

[@crescentworks6855]

Awesome stuff! You're doing a service for a very particular community of curious, resourceful but slightly adrift people in the world (who, me?).

[@hanginwithhannah2295]

First time here and after reading some of the comments, I agree there’s something rushed and choppy with the delivery. Seems like good content; however, I’m unable to finish your video because of such.

[@azteacher26]

I do not understand what you're trying to say here? You aren't by any chance an INFP? You do a lot of lateral thinking away from the point you're trying to make (which can be a good thing but here it's a bit distracting).

[@marionmcnee8759]

I don't understand the input output model. It seems to have worked with you but I have no idea what you do. You described your own experience but it didn't seem relatable, and so I don't understand the concept. I don't understand how to apply it in my own life. It doesn't make any sense.

[@briannaedw]

This content is amazing, thank you!

[@ayasaili4650]

I now understand why no one listen to me .. thank you !

[@rosalitalyn]

Hi Vicky, I love your idea about engaging in conversations through reading books. I’m curious what the writing course you took was, is it one that you would recommend?

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Heya! I did Write of Passage. Would definitely recommend!! It's what set me off on my Substack journey and really enriched my life with great thinkers and writers :) They're doing a free workshop in March if you want to check it out: wofp.samcart.com/referral/testdrive/D7SVeumN0DgfqBat

[@dylanweinholt4978]

💐 "Promo SM"

[@ormulyce]

Thank you. An inspiring video, yes, I'm convinced your conversations are very smart. No coffee early in the morning is a dreadful word of advice for me. I'll try to avoid the two-cup coffee habit I have had for over 40 years 🤣

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Haha! Baby steps 😆 I'm lucky I was a "drink-a-coffee-and-pretend-I'm-having-an-aesthetic-morning-routine" type coffee drinker

[@ormulyce]

@@VickyZhaoBEEAMP Baby steps but sure steps 😃 Thank you for your reply.

[@mrfoo6814]

Hi what is that book about the sunset ?

[@clintl326]

I don't think Vicky is saying there is a book about the sunset. The book she mentioned just before the sunset example was "How Proust Can Change Your Life" (www.google.com/books/edition/How_Proust_Can_Change_Your_Life/sTlqDwAAQBAJ?hl=en).

[@tomasvylicil1055]

cutting sugar/carbs was quite easy, booze much harder but coffee... impossible! 😂

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

lol seems like I've hit a nerve with that habit 🤣

[@biscuitsofdeath]

Lol, I hope you're not cutting out coffee for good. It's only for the first couple hours. What huberman says later is that the coffee has a better effect when you wait until after 90mins. I've been doing this out of pure laziness. It's been working out so far.

[@Ayub-i7i]

Vicky you over deliver every single time. Thank you very much. Your content is valuable and beneficial

[@airnav1218]

Absolutely! The quality is far superior to most business and career vloggers. It seems that are pacing your speaking more consciously so that it is easier to digest your comments. In many of your early videos , the speed with which you spoke made it more challenging to hear, internally conceptualize and consider your insights or explanations. Would it be difficult to include a transcript? Appreciate your growth as a video presenter.

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Appreciate the encouragement and thank you for watching!!

[@VickyZhaoBEEAMP]

Thank you for saying so! I’m actually working through updating transcripts! Will have it in the near future!!

[@Gigusx]

Those are some great insights on having better conversations! As for the last habit, I've actually found it just recently as well and tried it out and think it's improved my energy levels throughout the day? Though right now I'm running a little "experiment" with no caffeine whatsoever for a week, and... weirdly enough I don't feel much of a difference 😅I guess I've just built up so much tolerance over the years (which I've been suspecting for a while) that caffeine doesn't affect me as much anymore.

[@vpeakfiction]

As a Fan of reading manga, I wonder what type of conversations can I have with the manga's I enjoy?

[@clintl326]

Really love your videos, Vicky, and I've learned so much from you. This video inspired me to become a supporter. Please, please, keep the output coming. Your videos are like fresh air! Not sure I can live without them at this point 🙂

[@cartour8425]

Lately been finding your videos very helpful, thanks

[@maggiearden]

The input out loop is what I was aiming for with my reading when I went back to school. I just couldn’t get myself into the routine of it. This is so helpful seeing what I wanted to happen explained in a way that makes sense! Going to retry since I know it can benefit my research!

[@ggad1899]

Do you have a list of these different thinking and learning methods anywhere? I'd love to check it out because it'd be a jumpstart to checking them out in addition to listening to your videos. Thanks!

[@giorgiomera]

I just discovered your channel and it has been a missing link to so much of the research and studying I have been doing over the past three years. I love the attitude and approach to learning and community. Finding others that are like minded and desire to have these kinds of conversations is something I am realizing consciously that I am aching for and have been aching for for quite some time. I will be doing my searches for the right communities as well as looking into joining some of your cafes and such. Instant subscribe and liking all the videos I’ve seen so far! 🎉

[@melusine826]

Love this! As someon interested in innovation theory and what ever frameworks i can lay my hands on this is right up my alley! You had me up till referring to huberman, not a fan. Tho i dont have caffeine most days anyway😁

[@musicsdarkangel]

Yep, subscribed. 🤙🏻🙂 You have great insight and are an approachable teacher. Thank you. PS. I also lived in Paris, right next to the canal (St Martin, I believe?)

[@jearsh]

so youtube makes algorithm changes, then they tell the big channels about it...and everyone else has to...guess?

[@plor1261]

I can vouch for the coffee habit. I've been listening to podcasts that talks about the negative side effects. Figured I'd try stopping cold turkey. It's been months now, but I can stay focus much longer during work. I still miss the taste and smell :(

[@murtza.rehman]

Sand castles is the perfect term you have used for something that leads to another thing rather than the output

[@bulwarkjm2]

Do you need to actually read Proust to get value from that book? I've heard podcasts with that author and was fascinated, but figured I should read Proust first, then realized I just don't have that kind of time.

[@kaylac.4797]

I feel so enriched after watching this! Thank you so much for sharing! Would love if you could share some tips on how to be more detail-oriented. That’s one of my biggest struggles.

[@ocean8866sea]

Interesting insights. For me this is hard to understand because talking too fast and lacking conciseness becomes mumbling.

[@murphyshsu]

Helpful and mentally stimulating. Thank you for creating this!

[@JohnnyGrateful]

These are such great videos. Can't wait to share this info with someone and hear their feedback!

[@markcurtis4215]

Fantastic stuff. Sorry if that sounds like a cliche

[@ericbeck6390]

Great video - I really like your presentation style

[@dwayneneckles]

You could be a coach about this...

[@dianacastor]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍

[@MartinCordova21]

🔥🔥🔥

[@weiweiliu6395]

You put so much thought into every single video, making them succinct and easy to follow, some of them (Framwork thinking, I rewatched a few times) already helped me in the professional world! Hats off to my fav KZbinr!