3 Psychological Reasons Why Women Come Back After You've Give Her Distance!

[@samuski36]

I went from being single and alone thinking I would never find anyone to love, to now being happily married! And it was all thanks to using the techniques you provide for self improvement, and shifting my focus to where it needed to be! Thank you!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Wow, thank you so much for letting me know this. Gives me so much joy and happiness. Again, thanks for sharing. Much love to you and your partner! - Apollonia

[@Roman-bg8zb]

..and you tuned yourself into your woman's slave. Just be honest and shut the hell up, will you?

[@d.l.hemmingway3758]

Love is fake.

[@luishurtado360]

With that person or someone new?

[@tnasburypl]

samuski36 women aren't good to men anymore. Don't be a chump just yet.

[@pepepez6335]

The most powerful weapon a man has over a woman is the ability and willingness to let her go and walk away.

[@josephconjoh4788]

​@@pabl1to33It depends on her love for you. But if she thinks you're not the one then let her go. What they say and what they think are two different things. She might come back, she might not.

[@marguskiis7711]

Yeah. I did it with a woman I liked a lot. We were lovers for years. She asked: "Would we move in together?" I was a cool guy and said "Naah, I wanna live alone for some times more." She said "Oookey, I got it." Next week she got to live with another guy. I was alone and unhappy.

[@Hassan-Sas]

Very powerful thought! Salute!!

[@pepepez6335]

@@marguskiis7711 You cared too much and were in scarcity. You have to be willing and able to move on and replace any woman at any time. A woman will never want to lose a high value man. If she moved on then she was no longer that much into you and her interest for you faded away. Focus on you and be the best version of yourself physically and mentally. Your happiness should never depend on anyone else.

[@marguskiis7711]

@@pepepez6335 in the real life she was dating several men simultanously and chose the one who wanted to live together.

[@MMed2472]

It's sad that love has to be a game.

[@italiancapo7]

Exactly

[@morepower1989]

Lol, that’s no love. That is usually just superficial attraction and companionship. Love is unconditional. if there is a game there are certain conditions hence no love

[@ahmedzahid6445]

True

[@TomS-o9y]

People are animals, we aren't hard wired for monogamy. I think information like this is how to get and maintain a monogamous relationship more than anything else.

[@LungeloNdlovu-hu3jd]

Everything is a game even life just know the rules and enjoy. Understanding is very important and not judgment

[@David1000BC]

It actually works! She came back only to find me engaged to be married to a Brazilian lady who is my wife today. But my ex hasn't given up trying to this day ...

[@nickming8738]

What a combo!!!😂😂

[@asdfxcvbn746]

@@nickming8738 ultra combo!

[@shubhpatel1717]

She cheated on me does she miss..??

[@Annoyance2227]

How long she took to come back?

[@David1000BC]

@@Annoyance2227 Just over 3 months..

[@TonyN-ib1wy]

U lose money chasing women,...u don't lose women chasing money..facts💯

[@ebiokodo4087]

I love this saying

[@allansola1698]

Perfectly said 😄

[@satvikmishra7045]

Money can't buy loyalty. You can get a lot of women after you are rich but they won't be there for you, they will be there for the money.

[@unathimichaelmxaku8105]

that one works all the time

[@jack43mx]

@@satvikmishra7045that’s not really the point being made. Focus on you is the point and the women will come as a result.

[@kool2493]

I think social media plays a big role in relationships break down these days

[@djavsdjavs]

i agree as it full of bad advice and the alogrythm picking up convos and text

[@BroRyghts]

Definitely bro and TikTok takes the lead

[@solid.john47]

Indeed

[@johne5596]

Yes, because it makes it easier to cheat.

[@himangshusingha8971]

very true, social media is geared to destroy relationships

[@fitforfreelance]

Stay focused on your purpose and your goals 💯 don't be afraid to get in the best shape of your life too!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Yes. :-)

[@marguskiis7711]

And you stay single and childless until your death.

[@Niggiesquadron]

@@ApolloniaPonti You got ignored for month straight by fitforfreelance. You are probably begging for more now since your emotions have been processed.

[@ismarcus00500]

As hard as it is, and boy its hard, the guy suffers so differently, it hits deep but that's when you dig deep, you go no contact, resist all temptations and the emotional urge to reach out, because you miss her. Instead give space, for her but more importantly, for you. Build YOU. If it's meant to be, the universe will work with you. I'm into 20 weeks no contact from the love of my life, well thats what I believe and truly feel, so its hard. Stay strong peeps !!

[@zigizagajam]

And the problem is they stop all the contacting and maybe respond to calls like they dont want to, is that a sign she is starting to compare you with someone else?

[@temptress5688]

I met her over by another page , I think it's coach Lee and she's doing no contact and waiting for u to message her first ..she's waiting

[@imyourwifesbigdsidepiece5048]

Stay strong brother we all go thru it. It WILL pass and one day you will not even care i promise you.

[@TunefullyOG]

How you doing bro?

[@ismarcus00500]

@@TunefullyOG Its been 3 plus months now, in fact I stopped counting over the festive period. I actually met a girl a few weeks back, had a few dates with her. I guess life moves on. Will my ex resurface somewhere in the future, probably but Ive learned time is the healer.

[@johne5596]

If a woman says she needs space, she has an agenda that does not include you. Man up and accept the relationship is over. Under no circumstances should you call, text, or try to see her. Focus on caring for yourself and finding a good woman who wants to be in a relationship with you.

[@matthewisthebest8152]

That’s your belief bro end of lol

[@ThriskaTheCODPlayer]

If that’s how you see it than you were definitely the problem in the relationship and that’s man to man.

[@SentilongJamir777]

​​@@ThriskaTheCODPlayerMy woman left because I became comfortable in my own space and was abusing her when she asked for break to focus in our goals and career she said she will come back if I am single but i acted like a pussy and beg and abused her making the situation even worse. I totally agree that we as Men need to work and develop to become a better version of ourselves sometimes we become comfortable in our own head thinking she won't leave because you know she loves you but in the end female nature works differently. So now I'm trying to fix it by going no contact she didn't want me to cut her off so I'm Giving her time and space while i start working on myself i stopped drinking alcohol because it was the main issue as well as abusive language and to become a better man for the people around me. Deep down inside my subconscious mind says that she is my wife and God is under control. It was my fault for giving her less time and attention and for using abusive words when I was her first she hates men now. 😂 I fucked up

[@IceColdQC360]

​@@ThriskaTheCODPlayerBIG FACTS! If you know shes your queen then give space and level up

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Only emotionally and mentally damage people want distance! Run!

[@philmccutcheon5760]

This does work. After dating for a few months, it seemed like everything flattened out. I was making myself way too available. “I’ll do whatever you want to do”, “Just tell me what’s easiest for you”, “Any day is good. I can move my schedule around”. I would respond to texts within 2 minutes every single time. So I tried some reasonable distancing. Nothing too extreme, but I started answering texts when the time was good for me, instead of dropping everything every time to respond. Something small like this might tell you if she’s really into you or not. But remember that there’s a fine line between being knowingly rude, and creating some distance. Think about how a certain action would make you feel before you do it. It’s impossible to take things back once they’re done, but with thoughtful preparation, you can have her realize how she misses you without permanently damaging the relationship or hurting her feelings. ✌️,❤ and good luck everyone.

[@siphamandlasithole3243]

Couldn't agree more with you. I was doing the same things but only realized how I was always prioritizing her needs after I chose to walk away. Going forward, I'll do things differently.

[@siphamandlasithole3243]

@@pabl1to33 Since you were the one that was at fault, try reaching out to her if you really wanna make things right. It's understandable that she wants to start a new chapter, but that shouldn't stop you from trying to winning her back. To be honest, it won't be easy, it'll just depend on how patient you willing to be if she keeps on rejecting your advances. Best scenario is that she says she's willing to just being Friends, that way you can gradually prove to her how you've changed & willing to make things right. It'll take time for her to gain your trust, but if you really love her than you just gotta be patient bro. Just be careful to not fall into the friend-zone trap for too long while she's dating another dude. If you feel that your efforts are fruitless & that she's not that into you like she used to, then just let it go bro. Work on yourself & learn from the mistakes you've done, you'll find someone when the time is right for you.

[@marguskiis7711]

Yeah. I did it with a woman I liked a lot. We were lovers for years. She asked: "Would we move in together?" I was a cool guy and said "Naah, I wanna live alone for some times more." She said "Oookey, I got it." Next week she got to live with another guy. I was alone and unhappy.

[@semenivanoff8615]

This doesn't. She just moves to the next guy available on her list.

[@deanfairfield9907]

​@@semenivanoff8615then she's not for you dodge a bullet

[@rickycat8241]

If you have to walk away in order to make a girl fall at your feet, she's not really into you, because if you marry her, sooner or later she will get bored like the first time you tried to win her.

[@joemarz2264]

You're so right man. Sad but true.

[@Drikkerbadevand]

Yeah this is insane. Why do guys even entertain these games for a second. Honestly women seem like children when you explain all these fucking hoops you have to jump through and balls you have to juggle

[@jamesjones7798]

Its not considered running away its giving someone space to feel your presents being missed. The never miss you until your gone for good.

[@korypo303]

True.

[@korypo303]

Also "space* means they're sitting on other guys. Don't be fooled.

[@peterwilliams6361]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@peterwilliams6361]

@Emilio Yepez its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@yourmommahouse]

I bet she was getting pounded out by one of the guys

[@JJJJ-he8bz]

The one thing I understand more than ever is if a man can be happy with or without the woman the she has no power or leverage whatsoever. Most woman expect a man to beg and chase but when they don’t it really fucks them up.

[@georgemallory797]

I just gave my woman a bunch of distance a month ago. It was NOT because I want to trigger her into wanting me or to make her miss me. It was to get her the hell out of my life. 😂

[@Famouzlastwrds]

Don't give her a chance! Some people will never change. It will hurt you more to be in the relationship than not in it

[@andrerodriguez966]

Thank You 🙏 your right

[@buckaroobaizuo25]

If you read a book twice you get the same ending .. Move on my brothers & give them nothing

[@joemarz2264]

Yes, move on. You will never get the love you deserve even if she comes back. The history will repeat again, but this time it will hurt you twice.

[@rohan-ghosh]

Don't read your book, write your book.

[@darrendonahue2797]

Lol! Well put.

[@devontindle8149]

You always get something that you didn't get the first time

[@relaxingEchoesOfMusic]

Exactly, wish her the best, and tell her to go kick rocks. Try to enjoy your peace, they always come back. And when she does, tell her to kick rocks, and never come back 😅

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Only emotionally and mentally damage people want distance and can't connect to you emotionally and mentally!! Facts!!

[@johne5596]

You are spot on. Everyone, listen to what this man said, for he speaks the truth!!

[@fredlakota3595]

only works if you have some kind of emotional and intimate bond .. if theres no bond.. and if there no positive happenings between you and her in the past...they'll forget you and move on

[@cpotts672]

To all men out there, Never get attached to anything you can't walk away from in 30 sec or less!

[@jjmst55]

Neil McCauley was brilliant.

[@bobsmith962]

Yes quote from Rounders movie

[@LassieFarm]

Heat

[@nole8796]

Using movie quotes

[@cpotts672]

@@nole8796 what about it?

[@christophermeyers]

I'm fine with the distance and no contact. I've been strong and will continue to be. But damn, when it happens with other friends, family and other love interests time and time again over the years it's very debilitating and sometimes hard to keep the faith. I'll continue to better myself and keep doing my thing 🤘One day at a time.

[@Mycologist_Expediter]

I'm with you brother

[@beastmasterakathabarbaric1509]

I'm going through it now

[@TheWMBWLife]

What Apollonia outlines here is spot on, and it sounds like a recent life story of mine. Merely 5 weeks ago I'd heard from a woman who I hadn't interacted with for just under 2 years (a year and 9 months). I attribute it mostly to the cognitive dissonance which Apollonia discusses here. Most notably, I'm "the one that got away," but would never know. I've moved on long and away, but trust your instincts, guys.....I couldn't accurately predict this, but my gut said I'd eventually hear from her, just couldn't know when. Now, I can't go 5 days or more without hearing from her. I guess I'll never get away this time.

[@michaelrichey6783]

Well you can always block or get a restraining order..

[@TheWMBWLife]

@@michaelrichey6783 Thanks, but I'm quite confident most of us here can reach that conclusion if we've felt it necessary, without any direction from you. But thanks, though. And thanks for watching this video and channel.

[@Runny117]

@@michaelrichey6783 LOL

[@michaelrichey6783]

@@TheWMBWLife No worries, always looking out for a fellow dude.

[@NoName-zb1gm]

So you didn't take her back? Why not did she seem desperate or she was not a nice person?

[@MrLathor]

A lot of words to describe a toxic behavior who you should just ignore. Never accept a person who comes back under these circumstances.

[@johnnycorn7225]

💯

[@rugpull500]

thank you apollonia, your words are comforting during this hard time

[@abdulhye]

Never take her back , you’re not waiting on leg on leg, waiting for her to come back , go for your goals and let her suffer from distance.

[@Revert2010]

If Your Girlfriend Wants To Leave You. Do Not Force Her. Set Her Free. If She Comes Back. Nobody Loves Her. Set Her Free Again. 😂

[@9474u5]

Lmao sooo toxic 😂😂

[@Woeisme2]

​@9474u5 Toxic for not allowing someone who wanted to leave you to not come back in your life? No it's common sense unless you like getting used and abused. Sticking up for yourself is not toxic.

[@Soma-7662]

classic and true😂😂

[@edgarsoto2533]

Caught feelings in the first two months she pull back

[@Revert2010]

@@edgarsoto2533 She did not come back because she missed you, she came back because you were doing better than you were together. And she’ll never forgets that, I’m an expert and I know for fact and never beg if she leaves you always show your reaction that you are not a needy person and disappear yourself without texting or calling and she’ll never forgets you not now nor in the future. Women loves manly men who show respect to themselves by not begging

[@cooldad895hess8]

I wouldn’t try to get anyone back if the relationship was toxic. Find a way to move on and better yourself. I would only consider going back if it was a good relationship.

[@juliorobles1011]

If it was good to begin with, nobody would be here watching this video 😂

[@brugaldr809]

Apollonia presents the Views from both men and women. Shes truLy the Best👑

[@ppumpkin3282]

They always come back, the problem is, after they've explored all their other options, you are their last choice, and you are no longer interested.

[@wellingtonuzamere3511]

As sad as this is but this is true. My ex broke up with me I had no response. She begs me to respond so I give it a shot just for her to tell me no. A few weeks later she says she wants to meet me in person then plays games again and I finally decided to cut her off

[@nolancavanaugh406]

I’ve been kinda battling this with this chick but I seem to get to emotionally attached & I over pursue her then she goes cold. Went out on 8 dates wrote a letter about how I feel About her & dropped it off at her house with some flowers. Won’t talk to me. Do I do no contact?

[@jahvisferguson4848]

yes and don't look back she will always behave this way with you. find someone else who values your presence

[@rogue_spirit]

@@nolancavanaugh406 It's not always good to expreess your feelings to a girl, they somehow consider it too soft and emotional for a man and it puts you as the "needy" one in the relation, meaning you're granted/in the pocket. That's, and overpursuing, why many girls will go cold and put you in the waiting list of guys they know while looking for the hard to get chad! Heard about Andrew Tate? Good fellow with great insight and advices, I recommend! Wish you luck getting the right one with Gods blessings!

[@operationgetthugs232]

Send her back to the streets.

[@joesmith4842]

If I gave her any more distance, she’d be living on Pluto.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

😂

[@Petespans]

🤣🤣🤣

[@anony5021]

Haha

[@jegvilblirik22]

😭😭😭

[@jamesharris9159]

It's not a game it's about not losing yourself.

[@TheBallhawk-qv1tu]

I love that you keep to a reasonable length. These 23 minute videos are for others to hear themselves speak.

[@Jackietreehorn-z5e]

My dismissive ex texted me yesterday. Went out for about 2 years. As we got closer, she pulled apart. She's a good person. Great woman. We've never fought, etc. It went from seeing me a lot, calling a lot to only texting me. Now every once in awhile. This time it's been 32 days since she texted. I've moved on and she'll text every once in awhile. I havent talked to her in a year. All texting. No substance in the texts. Crazy how dismissives will keep in contact. She's a wonderful woman...give these people a break. They are tortured inside. I know at some point she'll find someone else and wiill stop contacting me. They breadcrumb to death. ..don't buy into it but don't be angry at them either.

[@TheWMBWLife]

This sounds similar to my situation I've outlined in my comment. You're right about their being tortured inside and not buying into the breadcrumbs. It's not difficult to tolerate the instability when you know where it's rooted. Just stay easy on the empathy and don't allow it to grow, but don't cause additional torture inside.

[@JoaoPaulo-gt2qz]

And shes "wonderful"?? Man, i hope u meet someone nice. I translated breadcrumb on google. I hope you starve until you find yourself some"thing" just nice to "eat" (ill regret this comment tomorrow) Gd luck pal. Much luv from Brazil. Peace out!

[@wayneshawlinski4898]

Put her on ice

[@JoaoPaulo-gt2qz]

@@wayneshawlinski4898 On ice?? (Sometimes it takes more than google translator) Does it mean u gotta forget about her if shes ignoring you too much? If it is then ur absolutely correct. Do that like ur Sub zero man. If u keep chasing this type of woman will only increase suffering. Doesnt worth it

[@wayneshawlinski4898]

@@JoaoPaulo-gt2qz it’s the same as giving distance

[@studentsguildx]

don't take her back

[@DarthPferd]

No way... When you were at the bottom and nobody cares, she was partying, riding the cc and going easy mode/hypergamy mode. If she is not there in your worst moment, dont take her at your best (or even at a normal stage)

[@valseyer4486]

Don't abort mission, keep doing recon and get new numbers in new area codes, hehehehehhehe. Fly solo and don't get shot down behind enemy lines. Forget the gurl homie.

[@franktoledo9355]

Streets didn’t want her

[@DarthPferd]

@@franktoledo9355 streets may want her short therm only as a broken toy to play with and then throw to the trash :)

[@avivx12]

But I was the A-hole. Literally haha

[@dhanrajmohan701]

Public comment. Words of wisdom. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. ❤

[@-taylor-9980]

Faded affect bias. They will eventually only think about the good times rather than the bad things that lead to the breakup in the first place.

[@NoName-zb1gm]

The age old question: How will she come back? Most women I know would rather die alone than admit they made a mistake or take the courage to come back. I can't see the woman I like taking that initiative even if she wanted to. Do women do this in real life or only on Hallmark Christmas specials?

[@TheUnkindness]

I had the same mentality you do not too long ago. Never one of my exes reached out after a break up. But 3 days ago the last girl I was seeing texted me back after 4 months of no contact and 6 months of not seeing each other. I just knew it would happen, I could literally feel it in me. We stopped talking because she got with someone else her age (She said she wasn't interested in me because I'm quite older than her and things were never really clear between us, we only talked about having fun). She wanted to get back in touch with me... We texted a bit but I refused to go any further. I can feel she misses me (or at least how I made her feel) but I refuse to keep in touch with someone who turned me down and is with someone else. I can picture her coming back to me when her relationship ends (because it will, I just know. The same way I knew she'd text me back eventually). Now the reason she came back but my exes didn't is because of my value (I am much higher value now than I was with them) and because of how we cut the ties quickly. This created a feeling of void or loss. She knows she lost a guy that she's unlikely to find his match elsewhere. Not because I'm a 6'6 multimillionaire GigaChad but because I'm getting close to the best version of myself and because we had a special connection. And since I'm not on social medias, she couldn't get her fix from just stalking me online so she reached out directly. The most important thing to women is how you make them feel. If you make her laugh, make her feel safe, make her wet, make her think and make her feel wanted, she will never forget that. Not tomorrow, not on her death bed. So if she thinks you're worth it, she won't resist coming back. So my point is, just like Apollonia said, build your life and yourself. She will notice. If she can find a guy like you everyday, even though she made a mistake, what incentive does she have to come back? Stay adamant, distant and stoic but be fun, be a flirt and be kind as well and she'll doubt her decision every step of the way.

[@TheWMBWLife]

@@TheUnkindness I'm going to have to agree with everything you've said. Your situation mirrors mine. EDIT: Mine isn't with her being with another man, and our age gap is only close to 10 years (she being younger), but everything else is quite similar.

[@NoName-zb1gm]

@@TheUnkindness Thanks yes I'm definitely doing what you said in your last few sentences. I still see her so I still talk if I get a chance and I pour on the humor and charm trying to make her crazy for me. Some of it is for fun and for my own development. Even if I get a vibe I will not ask her out again. I know there are plenty of other women out there.

[@TheUnkindness]

@@TheWMBWLife We are 13 years apart, but she's 18 so to her 13 years is huge and I get it. Although from what I understand in what she said, she somewhat regrets her decision but she's also not going to dump her bf (which I wouldn't want her to do for me anyways). But I made sure to let her know that I am not mad at her or sad because I know it would ruin how she sees me and I told her that despite everything I still hold her in high regard and maybe our paths will cross again one day but right now it's impossible to reconnect the way it was before because I'm no consolation prize. I don't think I ever will feel the same way again towards her but at least I kept the door open just in case. I think I have pretty good odds of sleeping with her in the future but it'd be hard for me to ever see her as relationship material. She was very special to me and I do feel she's genuine in the way she may have been interested in different circumstances so that's the only reason I might give her a chance one day if she ever proves herself to me. After all, her reason for declining my offer was somewhat valid although I do feel like when there's truly desire the girl will do anything to be with you.

[@TheUnkindness]

@@NoName-zb1gm Is she your ex or just a girl who rejected you? If she's a girl who rejected you I would simply move on. You don't want a girl who isn't into you as much as you are into her. If she's your ex at least you know she already had that attraction for you in the first place. Either way, I think it'd be best for you to keep your distance from her. Trying to make her crazy for you clearly hasn't worked so far, otherwise she would be with you. Cutting her from your life/stop interacting with her would create a loss in hers, this is what would trigger her to want you because right now she gets your attention and efforts without having to give you anything back. This combined with becoming a better version of yourself and flirting with other girls instead would be much more effective if you ask me. Women want men who other women want. Seeing you with other women will make her go crazy.

[@nairnbaker7385]

Best to not care too much. Push them away. Treat them like dirt they stick to you like mud. Never liked that saying but the truth hurts.

[@robertl4765]

Find your inner happiness, if you lose that happiness find it again. Women are attracted to someone that can hold that state regardless of what is happening in life.

[@kizitostephen1669]

Thank you so much This totally saved my relationship

[@westpalmtom1143]

I love the way she says Ponti. Wow!

[@ovib5204]

I agree with distance, but if there is another person involved , the distance doesn’t change her or the marriage,I think…

[@naradaramanayaka3291]

Time will solve everything what you deserve is due to karma but nature will give it to you patience and time will do it that's what i learned from this mentor's video❤ everbody get what tehy won t thts the law of natural love from Sri lanka ❤🎉 🇱🇰

[@mixindabox]

is that your legal name

[@JTDyer21]

A man can put forth a reasonable effort but after a certain point a woman will choose to be with you or she won't. Either way you gotta stay busy and focus on your purpose. You'll be much more stable as a man when you depend on yourself.

[@jsmith355]

The reality is different. Yes, distance is good. But if someone breaks up with you then they have doubts. Then they consider to move on and they do. Only if the next guyS are all a downfall and life for her sucks then she comes back. She still has doubts but might try. And if you were in love with a mentally strong and good looking women - then she never comes back. If you are a good looking man with an heart of a hero and trust in God you would not go back but have faith in whatever might come. It is over. So plan for this. What do need is work, a good body, a smile, discipline and you can and should try to understand where exactly you made a mistake. So in your next relationship you make at least a different one. A woman who can live without you can live without you. She does not love you.

[@seankelly1366]

As always, another impressive video which has valuable information.....I have to agree with some of the other viewers....Love is a game which can definitely pierce certain areas of the heart which can be enriching as well as permanently damaging...

[@hikintrailsndrinkinales]

Thanks Apollonia! I love your honesty and encouragement. I know you can’t waive a magic wand 🪄 and make relationships work out, but you do have a great way of making it make sense. Keep up your fantastic work!

[@justjames1111]

Women don't want you when you're down, they only want you when you're on the up. However, the good news is Guys we're in control of ourselves and what we do, so improve yourself, make THAT your #1 focus not the woman. That way you'll just feel better about yourself, carry yourself with more pride and will start to set boundaries (which women love by the way).

[@zyanidectrljrd2092]

I need this video right now,as I'm on my way of recovering from a break-up,if its 1 thing that I learned is not to be available for her any time as she won't appreciate it from you even if you've tried your best effort,she wanted a break-up because she isn't happy anymore and out of love and respect for her, I've already let her go,setting her free was by far one of the most painful thing that ive done in my entire life and much worst is that she is my coworker right now so everytime I see her,It breaks my heart that's why as much as possible I don't want to see her,Ive even unfriend her,her friends and all our pictures together deleted,now I'm fixing my life especially my heart and Ill come back here if I succeed in my journey, hoping and praying

[@farbodzare]

I agree with you! However, when the girl have wild times with drinking, having intimacy with other boys, clubbing, partying etc etc ofc she is not thinking of you and having fun were she is getting what she loved to get such as validation and whatever she is happy with. And you gotta be the broken one and they having fun. This is what I’m going through.

[@joeljoseph2028]

Be strong

[@thabingoma]

Its tough very tough thats the kind of a girl who became my ex now shes after me m not taking her back

[@scoutsniper762]

Ill never here from my ex again which is not what i wanted but im cool with it. Im some ways im glad i met her. Before her i hadnt been in anything for 3-4 years. I had become extremely intorverted and just worked studied and sat at home. Granted i still hit the gym regularly but didnt socialize much. When i met her she helped pull me out of that shell and since i didnt date for a long time i was all types of rusty when it came to relationships and feelings ect. Heres what i learned a womans likeness or love toward you is conditional as long as it suits her. For men we arent the same like that. The reality is something or things changed her mind about you and you probably didnt know it so the reality is she broke with you days, weeks or even months in advance the kicker is she had no problem with you spending money on dates and gifts ect. As a man always always always stay working on yourself never get complacent.

[@אילושהמש]

hey apollonia i use to watch your videos when its too late but still just listening to you produce more hope for myself and feeling better with my self thank you very much

[@DanielRivera-hi3gn]

Me n my ex have been split up for over a year and I remember a couple months ago after she picked out daughter up she literally asked me if I would pump her gas for her cause it was cold outside and I just replied with it's not my problem anymore. She sometimes text's me random things out of nowhere that didn't proclaim to our daughter

[@cerico76]

Enjoy your new life, an ex doesn’t deserve a second chance. You deserve it.

[@SoleDecembr]

I think my biggest fear is that she finds someone else during the distance, that's the biggest gut wrencher

[@Bosokel]

Well it happened to me. We've been 2 months apart and she found another one... a simp who chased her for round about half a year.

[@Edward-xd1td]

​@@Bosokeldon't worry about him she'll chew him up and spit him out make sure that you are in your masculine frame and that she knows that you're doing fine without her that will make her want you back don't text or call her she must chase you never chase a woman that's feminine that's their job the moment you fall for a woman's beauty is the countdown to the end of the relationship treat every woman you meet like they're just a friend and Watch What happens

[@Bosokel]

@@Edward-xd1td Ultimately i deleted her number and can’t and will never contact her again. I don’t even have social media to contact her through instagram or whatever so i don’t care anymore. I know what I’m worth and even if she reaches out to me in the near future, i won’t respond to it.

[@Doggo505]

Got news for you bud. Thats a fact and a given. The sooner you realize the better. They cant keep their legs closed

[@ceabusiness2023]

Bro to bro, they has always been another man even before she left, and that was why she kept giving attitude that leads to the desolation of your relationship. But not to worry, whatever it is that made them leave, they are going to meet same, cause it rains every where. Your silence or no contact would make her miss and want you back

[@gogurtz1738]

She told me “thank you for everything and I really mean it, you’re sweet but I’m sorry” and she said “I really like you and the time we’ve spend together”. That just hit me hard, and I told her “if you ever need someone to talk to or need help with anything just let me know I’m always going to be here for you, hope you the best for the future.” But she never delete me from her social media or anything.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much for watching! Do you mean that she didn't delete pictures of you on her social media? Or she hasn't removed you as a follower/ unfollowed you or both?

[@gogurtz1738]

@@ApolloniaPonti she hasn’t unfollowed or delete me.

[@lonewolfbynight]

You're Brilliant Apollonia! 🤯

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much!

[@Ken_Johnson]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

[@Ken_Johnson]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@Ken_Johnson]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@NojausVideo]

How are you now, what’s new? Did you get what you wanted? It’s been 9 months since you commented, I want to know how you’re doing!

[@adrianphodaca7684]

It really bothers me when a girl pulls away from me and just telling me that she just feel distant without any explanation. So I was having a long distance relationship with a foreigner. although both our cultures are way different, we managed to work it out and stay for more than a year. we kept each other connected. However, she suddenly got cold feet on me, and she started to be distant and sending me dry messages. Obviously, a guy like me who put her on the pedestal got scared and anxious, thinking what might have gone wrong. I watched a lot of videos on tiktok and youtube on how to get her back or to regain the attraction. Although i found some really helpful videos, she still couldnt get out of my mind. Im always thinking about overbearing her with messages. I suppose that it is a normal reaction for guys who put someone above them. It has been 3 days since i stopped messaging her. the last conversation we had was that I left her on read. It is so hard that you know that she knows how you love and care for her but she just doesnt seem she cares. Although her messages indicate that she still wants to talk to me, but no longer in a non romantic way like we used to. I guess the best way is to move forward on your purpose and goals, dont think of her getting back to you. You didnt lose her, you just returned her. And remember, you were an extraordinary guy even before you met her. Her lost of attention doesnt identify you as a person.

[@TekkenOnlineFights]

I have a similair thing with a long distance relationship and I really love that woman but she out of nowhere changes her mind and then thinks when I get a phone call in morning from a friend that it would be another woman which really hurts me cuz it shows she has no trust in me and even tells me that. Meanwhile I am one of the most honest guys when it comes to relationships. But your last sentence is right and never stop work out or lose yourself even in hard times! Good luck to all of you who have long distance realtionships!

[@abdoulnasser4342]

merci pour ces précieux conseils.Force et courage à vous

[@Ch2.0ris]

You have a phenomenal personality, great video

[@nsa162]

Thank you for your great videos. I wish I would have found your channel sooner. Keep making quality content.

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much for your comment and support. Means a lot. - Apollonia :-)

[@Eros13adios]

She did come back 3 years later after she finished with her ex boyfriend,but I moved on.. Also, i noticed a lot of traumas in her and her personality changed. I could tell she wasa different person,but I can't say if it good or bad. That relationship broke her but made her stronger in other areas and she's a single mother too,so I really wished her well and moved on. Im not her Plan B or Plan C option ( that's how I see it).

[@VC_333]

I recently set a very necessary and strong boundary with my girlfriend, and since I have been giving her more space than usual. This has been very difficult for me, as we have just started dating, and I want to spend a lot of time with her. I think it is working.

[@ZorshaAndHerPharaoh]

It's actually the distance that destroyed us and failure to communicate. Another time we were broken up and I never gave up winning her back for 10.5 months. It took $1,300 Bad Bunny tickets and kissing her to a spanish love song and hooking up in hotel room after to reignite the spark. She was dating another guy and had slept with him two days prior and ended her relationship with him. No contact isnt the only option. Time and space did play a role for us, but I kept in contact a lot and ultimately chased her instead of her reaching out to me.

[@marlon9683]

Unless they moved on and never contacts you again !! Been there before 😊

[@brianwaller7383]

I was ghosted from the very beginning despite her showing me interest. I have a zero tolerance policy for ghosting so I unfriend her and moved on.

[@CharlieBrown247]

This is the way.

[@tsekomofokeng182]

Great

[@marimorena6134]

If you want to loose good woman do what Appolonia is advicing. Very soon you will find her with man who have time and attention for her

[@HardWater91]

A married, older woman at work seemed like she was really into me, a good amount eye contact, watching me from across the room etc. I really liked her but I knew it couldn’t go anywhere, so I thought the best thing to do was to ‘break it off’. So no looking at her or conversations. By the end of the day she was crying. Not 100% sure if it was me that caused it, maybe just a coincidence. Not sure if I did the right thing or not. Eventually I relented and starting the staring again, but this time it got a bit insane plus a whole lotta of smiling.

[@rogue_spirit]

Or maybe you're being manipulated so you reconnect with her (I'm adding to your confusion I know hhh)

[@jorgefloyd6989]

You got mommy issues?

[@HardWater91]

@@rogue_spirit Yes, this has crossed my mind. The way she looked at me though, like she was an previous gf I had years ago. Kind of seemed strange that she would be into that much considering we don’t talk that often.

[@HardWater91]

@@jorgefloyd6989 How do you mean?

[@jorgefloyd6989]

@HardWater91 Never get married through the state. (Government license) Marry through your own both vows. For me, I will if I ever marry, I will say my vows Under God's name. A feminine God worthy woman.

[@lancesgym]

Hi Apollonia, this video really helped me today. Thank you!

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You’re welcome!

[@ezylyric]

You are my fav to listen to

[@ApolloniaPonti]

Thank you so much!

[@quentinadkins432]

Pray in tongues shuts emotion & language center down rewires brain its the bomb

[@martinfoy8700]

it’s not just scary, it’s absolutely hurtful. life is not a movie, no one ever ever comes back. ever. no matter what. respectfully women only care about 1 thing and 1 thing only. ….. how THEY feel. they don’t care if you love them and show up perfect in every way, and act like the best version of yourself, it doesn’t matter if you act like a complete asshole, it doesn’t matter if you lose your leg’s right in front of them. …. if a woman feels the need to want space to be fully aware that she is leaving windows and doors open for anything and everything to happen and showing you that you are not on the level of importance that you are placing her at, believe me it’s not because she is using a tactic to make some bond stronger by creating distance. when your time is up it’s up. acting like a beta tampon is not going to do anything except boost her ego more. and i don’t think any less of a man who is trying to plead because he’s trying to express his love and save the relationship. i say boost her ego every way possible. from experience she will be brought down to earth next love interest or fling realizing that she made a terrible mistake. every time

[@LeonardNemoy]

i just want someone to love me. i am dead inside

[@nwtyrantbecerra7827]

I just went through a break up..i was with her for 6yrs, i thought i could never feel this pain..but i deleted her from my life and blocked her on all social media..if its meant to be its meant to be..be strong people.

[@chipprovost8345]

Dang dude. Sorry to hear that. Focus on you.

[@bobbyvalentino6773]

7:01 thanks for not leaving this out to the fellas 💯

[@ctgeorgia]

Distance, scarcity, etc... How do you apply these to someone that lives with you??? Wife of 4 years... Just told me on Sunday that she was leaving. She started crying when she told me. Minutes later she turned into a cold distant person that has given me the complete silent treatment since Sunday morning. Treats me like a ghost in my house and avoids me like the plague. When I go to bed, she gets out of it and comes and sleeps on the couch. It's been excruciating.

[@GabrielJamesMusic]

If they leave, they weren’t happy… let them go

[@patrickl3238]

Based on my previous relationships, I'd say eventually my ex will reach out.. whether it's tomorrow or in 2 years. Eventually. We had deep talks (soulmates, kids, marriage, growing old, etc). Unfortunately she pushed for marriage after 5 months and throwing a fit for not paying her car bill. I rebounded on something casual fast and she played the cryptic message posts, watching my stories, etc. We were on talking terms (1 min responses) when I agreed to splitting. Decided to use her "best friend" as the emotional tampon. The same guy who made a fake diploma to share to her parents while we stay a month in a hotel together.. I think we all know how this dynamic will play out once it fades.. End of the day.. choose wisely and if she does come back.. know you were probably not meant for each other

[@faisalcheema3017]

All facts aside. What's the point left when it's just a game or play instead of something beautiful and peaceful. A world where lies and manipulation works but truth and loyalty does not ,regardless of the logical reasons.

[@dwaynegarfield1551]

Great video! I have a crush on my friend for months now and I haven't heard from her in weeks and she texted me and wanted to hang out and she took me to church. I was so happy she never forgot about me! Does this means she's still interested in me? I missed her alot cuz I haven't seen her about 3 months and I was glad to see again for a short 3 to 4 hours! 💕🙏😭🌹😊

[@RafaelBMansano]

Apollonia, thank you so much for all the videos that you’ve put out there, I can’t really put into words how much they have helped me in all possible ways!;)

[@darthphaser2991]

Yeah, take as much space as you need. I recommend Outer Space.

[@blasianprince6458]

This is perfect time Apollonia i need this advice from you

[@ApolloniaPonti]

You're so welcome! Glad I could help!

[@blasianprince6458]

I glad you talk bout this I have a friend who I great love because I let my over possessive and she aint talk to few days so give distance eventually she will come around

[@josephcongello9483]

Just want to express a comment. I realize that many of relationship coaches explained about staying distance going no contact if you were broken up with. Yes that may be true. But here’s the real reason they come back. First off very rarely does any one break up with someone to be alone. 99% of the time there’s someone else lined up in the wings. Someone in a sence stole your partner from you. Otherwise they would still be together because you rather be with someone then be alone. Unless it was physically abusive in some way. Now if they went into this rebound relationship and it blows up. Then and only then will they start thinking about you. But if they wind up staying with them. No no contact or distance will ever bring them back to you. Because there falling in n love with someone else and they may think of you but never will they come back. Only and they only if there alone. Then they will ruminate for you. Bottom line. Hopefully my point was taken correctly

[@makingmodernmen8843]

They can and do ruminate about you while in the rebound as well, especially if it was a very passionate relationship, the deepest connection they have had. They will constantly be comparing the new person to you, consciously and subconsciously. Sure, they might want to make it work and move on, but the thoughts are still there.

[@dersteppenwolf5458]

You are right my friend. Everyone here is blind. They do not want to see the real nature of women.

[@karriemanalastas8505]

yeahhhh right. thanks.

[@julioo534]

Facts. ExCoaches are bs don't waste your money, and forgive the monkey branch women s

[@Adrian-xu3xi]

She always comes back I never even worry about it and I never take it personal

[@Whalewraith]

Years ago I split with my then GF as it was long distance & she had lost interest. We didn't really fight it just kind of collapsed. Funny thing was she checked in on me for years. When one day I finally questioned as to why, her response stuck with me as she was trying to explain something she didn't really understand in a second language. It went something like this ' I had a favourite jumper and wore it all the time. Eventually it became old and I got a new jumper. I still wanted the old jumper but never wore it. I certainly didn't want anyone else to have it'

[@lacuevaderene]

She literally told me she had other options and she considered me as a friend, after being together and one year of break up and one year of no contact. She wanted to be friends with benefits but I didn’t accept it since I still having feelings for her. Then she tries to manipulated me, making me think I didn’t want to fight for her and she couldn’t believe me cause my words wasn’t matching my actions. This happened almost a month ago. Tomorrow is her birthday and I feel pretty down today.

[@jacksavage279]

New subscriber

[@peterbennpan7288]

I'm going through a relationship break up now after nearly 13 years! I've brought her 2 kids up as my own from 3 months after meeting her. We have our own 8 year old daughter. All she wanted was for us to live together but me been an absolute idiot I lived between my Mums and hers. Now she's called it a day because I never committed. My whole life is falling apart! If only I'd of lived with her like normal people do we wouldn't be going through this break up now! I'm such a fool because she was everything I ever dreamed of! 😢

[@RsiX_productions]

A co-worker and myself have being exchanging long looks and flirts with some chat , all was well until she abruptly asked where someone was , i didnt like it and completly stopped talking to her or looking at her . I see her test to see if il look but i dont. I see her act up all her best self with friends so i can see / hear . I broke my silence and said she was a bit sharp the other week , she appologized saying it was a bad day . Now when i see her she has this " im sorry " look on her eyes , and her slight shy smile looks like shes not sure if its ok to smile . So ive reset things , brought her real smile back to her when i saw her and waved . She has a cycle every week , monday " dont look at him ".. tues comes shy smile , weds onwards all smiles and looks then monday back shy. I just dont know if seeing a coworker is a good idea but shes got something i dont see in other around town

[@michaelhawkins5855]

Great advice. Thanks.

[@bruceleehee9267]

Distance is different for married men with kids or a short term girlfriend. She needs to let people know the difference

[@jomischwartz6991]

Nice insights

[@blueduck9409]

I wonder how much truth is in this ?

[@big6316]

It's been 9 months. She's never coming back. First time I didn't go back and try to fix things, first time we've never gotten back together in 11 years. All the experts, like this one were wrong.

[@ismaeljrarevalo9640]

1 validation 2 validation 3 validation ALWAYS

[@mornedupreez8203]

My wife of 24 years just mentioned the negative stuff but no positive stuff. We have 2 kids. She said she wants space. It is now 3months when moved out and she is colder than my fridge. So. I have 2 options. Stay in my country South Africa or just go overseas. My own kids don't even talk to me so what keeps me here

[@wm1231]

What have you chosen? Stay?

[@kalaya6703]

Honestly do what’s best for you if they not cooperating then leave start over elsewhere and go no contact and disappear once they ready to talk and want to be involved with you they will come don’t stay or force yourself where you are not wanted

[@petarbursac76]

Hi Apolonia, Would it be ok to send a Christmas message during that period? Thanks

[@LilXp26]

At least you guys didn't get blocked

[@hamfistsman6267]

My best friends wife left him, said she needed a break. I kept telling him to give her space. Quit calling her. Quit begging her to come back. He just couldn't help himself. She never came back.