3 Reasons Why Men Shouldn't Live With a Woman They Love

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[@buddyrojek9417]

Bro I am an Australian living in Ukraine. Come stay with me at my ski house. We will do a lecture to Ukrainian men and get it translated . Luckily in Ukraine a woman is only entitled to assets after the marriage accumulates

[@AnthonyManzio]

If she bored she's for the streets only for material and will never be happy ends u divorced not a valuable women to be in a long-term. True no need to be married and can take you to court for marriage for living together.

[@AnthonyManzio]

Cleaning lady you can't clean red flag

[@mcfishyfirst253]

I found if u say “u can stay as long as you want she know has power I learned to say you are a guest

[@mcfishyfirst253]

Women stocking report. Any negative comments about women on this timeline

[@TheHumanRanger]

YOU invite her into YOUR house because YOU care about her, and within a short time, she thinks it's HER HOUSE and she will act that way until she PUSHES YOU OUT!

[@Son-of-Krypton]

Not to forget intimacy drops faster than anything else when you move in with her 🙄

[@TheHumanRanger]

This is 100% true. My ex and me were both super sexual together for 7 years, 10 times a week spicy time MINIMUM, and when she moved in, this number dropped to a lazy effort 1 per week. After 2 months the only way she would be OK with spicytime is if I impregnated her. Divorce was started 1 month later and she went NUTS trying to BS the judge and get all the $$$ she could! @@Son-of-Krypton

[@honor9lite1337]

​@@Son-of-Kryptonfamiliarity kill intimacy.

[@LatimusChadimus]

Another proof that women are like children, not just because their brains biologically do not mature past their teenage years, maybe 98% of women

[@Kevin97587]

@@Son-of-Krypton Had a girl move in once, we went from hot passionate almost daily to barely once a week after about a month... so ye

[@gtomcat321]

100 % Absolutely right My ex moved in to my house with her kids after the lease on her rented house came to an end. After 2 years of living apart in our own homes I thought I knew her well enough to live with her. I WAS VERY WRONG. I have made just a short list of MANY of her behaviours which I didn't expect at all (Because I didn't think she was like this as I THOUGHT I KNEW her: 1. I didn't realise how co- dependent & 'entitled' she was. Even though she constantly was going on about how a "Strong Independent woman" she was. Absolute hypocrite. 2. I didn't realise how bad she was with money management & budgeting. 3. She was always broke 2 weeks before her next pay day & came to me for money - Even for her kids bus fare, lunch money or school clothes. (I would lend her the money for the kids school clothes or school trips but she NEVER paid it back) 4. She used emotional blackmail saying things like: 'Well you are my partner & you love me don't you? Men are 'supposed to' support the women they love". 5. She became very defiant & argumentative. -If I tried to calmly & quietly to give her any advice or my opinion on topics or situations she was stuck with which SHE brought up, "I was "Patronising her". 6. She would blow up over the slightest little thing & cause an argument over it(Crying over spilt milk) if I didn't argue back or if I walked away she would get even more aggressive. 7. I would come home from work & there would be strangers in my house without her asking me first She said things like "Oh, I just thought you would be ok with Sarah from work coming over & staying for dinner" (Whaaat??!!) 8. We had a very short brief conversation one day in whether we should have wood flooring or carpets which we both agreed to have a think about & discuss again later. One day I came home from work & she had pulled ALL the carpets out of EVERY room of the house & thrown them all over the back lawn. 9. I bought her a decent used car for her birthday & surprised her with a massive ribbon on it, balloons the whole works. I paid the full year road tax, her insurance & i serviced it for her myself. I told her the next year when her road tax & insurance expired it was her responsibility to renew it. When next year came around she came to me to cover all the costs. Suprise, Suprise. 10. Her (Trainwreck) friend would call her very late at night & spend an hour complaining about men & she would complain to her about me. 11. She stopped giving me any affection & would spend hours at night on her phone. If I came home after a long weekend with my mates after missing her & expecting to walk through the door for her to greet me with open arms & a hug or a cuddle , I never got it. 12. THIS IS THE POINT YOU MISSED RICH. HER BAD HABITS. When you live with a woman for a while & they become comfortable with you, all the nasty habits are revealed. - I would be relaxing in the bath after a long day of dirt biking & she would walk in sit on the pan & take a sh1t. - Whether it was on the sofa or in bed she would fart. Even loud raspy wet farts. - She snored like a Rhino. After calmly discussing it with her & suggest getting a special pillow or even enhaling Vicks before bed, she never did. - Morning breath & seeing all the spots & greasy skin without her makeup -She would bite & pick her nails whist we were watching our favourite T.V shows or films together. -When I had to use her car & she knew I had to use it the fuel tank was always emptying. She would even drive to work in a morning to drop kids off at school with the fuel light on. -Especially during winter, instead of doing one load of washing, hanging it up letting it dry then putting it away, She would put continuous loads of washing in the washing machine, so we had wet washing hung every where in the house all over the place. My mates would come round & say ..."What the f**k?!" I was so miserable & stressed out with it all that after finishing work I would park up in a quiet spot for an hour because I didn't want to go home as just never knew what I would be walking into. ....And that is just part of it. NEVER, EVER LIVE WITH A WOMAN. Live apart, always see her looking her best & having her best attitude & having her best manners for you. PEACE OUT ✊🙏🤟

[@nagel1968]

Wow wow wow ...m8 I feel your pain ....

[@jumhed994]

I actually lolled at your post. Epic.

[@phatmanlovescake]

The only problem I have is that my girl after awhile of living with her I realize she is kind of a little brat ... and she argues with me about stupid shit ... like she gets defensive about the dumbest shit

[@kindredspiritzz66]

Just stay single dude

[@StreetFig]

Wow, just wow. But hey, at least her kids were great, right?? riiiiiiight?? 🤣🤣🤣

[@michaelprince3486]

My uncle told me years ago, if you get married buy 2 houses, one for her and one for you. Now 20 years later, I understand fully what he was trying to say.

[@BIanka0200]

I aint buying no ho a house lmfao. But i get the message

[@mariegrobbelaar3332]

Read how it worked in the tmes of Abraham and all his decendents. TWO houses😊

[@metalmike570]

That's how me and my ex-wife ended up. We had extra stress because our son is a low-functioning autistic boy, and now a young man. We were separated for a few years and then I got an attorney for a divorce and that was already 4 years ago. Yep, we ended up with two houses.

[@RegnaSaturna]

You didn't buy her a house, did you?

[@entertainmentyoutube3606]

Yeah, I came to that realization too, but who da f can afford two houses

[@CryptoCore121]

Relationships are like yard sales, from a distance they look interesting, but up close it’s just a bunch of shit you don’t need.

[@_AntonioX]

😂

[@dennischarles4243]

I’m howling🤣🤣🤣

[@ML-lg4ky]

😂

[@jimb3093]

Good one!

[@mrChinoLynn]

😂😂 this is too funny

[@brianbertin9893]

Living together will kill the "mystery"

[@TechnoMageB5]

For a relationship to work, it needs a few fundamental elements: 1. Interest in each other. 2. Boundaries set early and clearly, and agreed to. 3. Honesty with each other [as soon as you start to transgress the boundaries and hide the transgressions, that's the beginning of the end - and while the initial transgression can often be forgiven, hiding it and indulging it leads to the unforgivable, breaking the relationship]. 4. Continuing to create the relationship. This is making time for each other as well as working towards common goals. Been with the same woman 31 years now, 25 married, and we still very much enjoy each other's company and look forwards to seeing each other. She's the type to go out of her way to bring me lunch even though I'm at a work site an hour away, just to see me for 15 minutes. Why is she still like this? Because she puts in the work in the points I outlined above. Most women leave things on automatic at best, transgress at worst. Add to that financial incentives by the State, at the expense of the husband, and that's why women overall are unreliable as companions - and why marriage breakups are the norm. Edited to fix mobile misspellings...

[@77magicbus]

Congrats for winning the Lottery. But I am sure you both deserve a lot of credit. I wasn't so fortunate, as I am 65 and never married. Always wanted a family and became very financially successful but never found what I wanted in a woman who wanted me.

[@UnpluggedSauce]

@@77magicbus😔😖😖

[@OperationsMgr]

@@77magicbus ...and all the ones that I wanted didn't want me. A lottery indeed! 63 and remain unmarried, no kids I know of. I contemplate whether to resurrect what's left of my desire for a woman in my life in some non-marriage capacity. Time is running out in the meantime. I was told that phrase 15 years ago. Pfff.

[@johnkruton9708]

Damn I can’t even get wife 3 off her chair to open the door when I come home after work. When she’s waiting anyway. Lol. 1 hour drive for her is to the casino. That she’ll do every week.

[@lovewhitey4462]

@@77magicbus there is still time Golden Bachelor ❤️

[@macfly7476]

Learned that a long time ago (late 90's) when i worked at a Courthouse and saw men get ripped apart by the system. I hope a lot of men get the message. Listen to this guy young men.

[@peterwardle5222]

That must have been one hell of an education!

[@stu6097]

They should do a reality show on that.

[@TheHumanRanger]

It will never happen. Popular media wants men to be ignornat, drunk and horny so we don't realize how fixed the system is against us @@stu6097

[@adamsnelson4689]

​@@stu6097~ the System would never allow that .. they don't want the truth exposed..

[@CZAR-]

I am a 60YO man who never got married and I have never lived with a woman and I don't have any crumb snatchers. When I was a young teenager I witnessed three men getting DETROYED in divorce court and one commited suicide. After witnessing those three events I said to myself that a woman will never ever have access to my finances and resources.

[@simonize251]

My favorite chapter in the book is “Why smart men avoid marriage “ 🤘🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[@davidperry4972]

because theyre smart

[@Killersushiofficial]

Just choose your woman wisely! RICH and his words are toxic…he spreads hedonism, promiscuity and societal decay.🤮💩⚰️

[@grantnaidoo3349]

Wow that was alot... good thing you didn't marry her. 👏

[@levidwashington]

Statistically men with higher IQs are more likely to get married and married men dominate all metrics of success.

[@Ghostface__x_]

Nah u just have a terrible view on love, relationships n women so God is sending you what you keep complaining about.A gold digger not a woman who is there from day 1 n loves u for you, You think majority of women are out to divorce or cheat on you, that's fear,fear manifesting into your world, don't say I didn't warn u, u want a better life and a meaningful relationship w a woman change that thinking

[@ShinkuGouki]

In my experience,living together and seeing each other everyday leads to more arguing. Eventually making you ask yourself why you're with her. Living apart leads to a better relationship, where you are eager to see each other and there are less arguments. That's what I've been doing for the past several years.

[@drvee1983]

I'm a retired doctor that is straight, and never married. I lived with a couple of good women, but ended both relationships after a few years. My dating years were amazing for decades. A rich, successful male patient of mine asked me " Doc. You never got married? I replied " No. I guess I haven't found the right one. " He replied " What made you so damn smart?" I was speechless. He replied "Don't change anything Doc." I never did. This video helps me maintain my perspective. 3 day weekends or short trips are great, to different surprise places, then back to my separate life and bed. Better peace of mind, and no problem saying " No."

[@freedom4life123]

Its nothing to do with being smart, men instinctively know when something doesnt benefit them but they still stupidly involve themselves with women because of the fear of being alone or something stupid like that or they think it gives them access to continued sex when sex can be had with many women . The secret is to be comfortable in your own skin without a woman, if a woman doesnt add value to your already contended life then why add her to it ? I was married for 14 years and I was only happy for the first year. Im 58 now single financially secure and have never been happier. If i want sex i rent, its cheaper and you get to choose which one you fancy for that moment. variety is the spice of life.

[@calebc6028]

Bass boats over hoes

[@SkywalkerPaul]

Same here. Not a doctor tho😊

[@brankog7]

Kick her the fk out!!

[@KevinStClair-ln5ir]

Bravo. Peace is the most amazing thing to have at home.

[@TheHumanRanger]

PS if a girl leaves a comb, clothes or a toothbrush at your place, she thinks she owns you now.

[@robertanderson2150]

Mine left her hiking boots lol

[@TheHumanRanger]

I would give her 24 hours to pick them up or they are going into the thrift store@@robertanderson2150

[@mashleyred2180]

Mine her dressing gown but i have said before if it ends you can take it with you.

[@TheHumanRanger]

That's one more excuse for her to come over and try "patch things up" when you break up with her@@mashleyred2180

[@mckricks1]

Maybe it just means you can expect her to come back over the next weekend lol lighten up

[@mikeydrookie351]

been divorced for 15 years....had been going out with a lady for 8 years....ultimatium call came about 18 months ago....the ole "do you intend on living with me ever" response: not ANYTIME SOON....click that was the end of that....i started thinking maybe there is something wrong with me as I dont have ANY DESIRE to live with a woman....thanks for the validation

[@Ghostface__x_]

Nah you just scared of it happening to you again, you let fear control u

[@HermannCortez]

Next!

[@mrmcbeth]

I have the privilege of knowing some of the personal details of older couples' lives because of my job. I don't get to know everything, but I have noticed the older ladies have the utmost respect for their husbands. I don't think I've ever seen younger women with the same levels of respect for men.

[@TheHumanRanger]

Generation X and younger women in Western Society are mostly a waste of time

[@bigyandevkota5637]

lol i was with older lady, she was bat shit crazy, monkey branched to new guy

[@effexon]

thats why they are marrried and didnt do any impulsive thing :D plenty of those stories too and difficult, impossible for women to find new husband often.

[@fjj310]

Nah, they're just virtue signaling. They loathe and hate their husbands intensely but they won't tell you that 😜😝

[@oldrandon]

@@fjj310 🤣

[@stevis78]

I knew a couple like this in the late 1990s. They each had their own 2BDR condo in the same development, about 500' apart. His place was a pig pen, her place was spotless. They ate dinner together most nights, had movie nights, went on weekend trips together. They were very happy and stayed together until his death.

[@jamalydude]

I honestly feel like this would be great like imagine if you had a couple acres and each had a small house close together. You’d live happily ever after

[@TheSusu125]

Sweet! My deceased husband Butch and I had our retirement plan of 2 small homes connected by a deck, while he was alive we shared a large house where he had his side and I had mine. We never shared a bathroom or bedroom for sleeping. It was wonderful for both of us. He was an oil field fluids engineer, so gone weeks at a time. So it was always exciting and we were able to miss each other on a regular basis. I had rental properties to manage. After 11 years I loved him far more and appreciated him more as the years go by. It scares the hell out of me to think of a full time joined at the hip living together situation. Anyway this guy tells it like it is and makes sense.

[@gunslinga7077]

Me and my girl live together and we’re both the happiest we’ve ever been . It’s fn great living with her , best thing I ever did . We’re very happy , our home and our relationship together is our safe place

[@in.edieudonnesworld3167]

😂😂😂😂

[@18wheeler76]

give it a couple years and it will be the opposite and boring

[@Steelhorsecowboy]

Give it time. Not that you will want to unload her but that she will take over your life and steal your peace. It's a novelty right now.

[@kat-601]

Playing with fire we are not wrong just give it time

[@tiger05rtc]

@@labas9817were

[@michaelweaver6733]

Rich referred to the study a few times in regards to the intense romantic feelings lasting in only 13% of couples after 3 years. Frankly, I am surprised it is even that high! I the book “the five love languages”, one of the most profound things I learned was that on average, this feeling only lasts about 18 months, but this love is taken over by a deeper love that happens in a maturing relationship. What we are seeing nowadays is the manifestation of a society that is incredibly shallow and selfish that seems incapable of providing the sacrificial type of love we need to have to maintain a long term relationship. People at that point are doomed to be in an endless cycle of seeking a relationship”high” until in wears off and they need their next fix!

[@hareeba5879]

Replace the word "society" with 'women'. Fixed your otherwise accurate comment.

[@lovewhitey4462]

Exactly ✍🏻

[@michaelweaver6733]

I wouldn’t necessarily disagree with that! Given 80%+ of the divorces are being filed by women…..

[@TheHumanRanger]

Also, don't make the mistake I made by thinking that lots of sex meant lots of love, because it doesn't

[@hillsideonly]

@@TheHumanRanger so what happened to the relationship??

[@hw2211]

I lived with a woman twice and it was the worst mistakes I’ve made in life. Lost a ton of money trying to make them happy and was a prisoner of my own space. I couldn’t even walk upstairs to use the lav without being questioned. Once they started questioning me about what time I came home from work.; I normally would get home around 11:15is and if I came in at 11:23p I was asked where was I. I got out of those situations fast and never rue we back.

[@gbd-oq1rz]

I hate how these women act like control freaks. It really pissses me off.

[@bigbosslive69]

“I was minding my own business”

[@bhec7715]

Sounds like my girlfriend. When I walk into my own bedroom she says, “yes?”

[@Ghostface__x_]

​@@gbd-oq1rzthen go date a man geez you western men complain more than toddlers

[@Ghostface__x_]

If you are losing money tryna make a woman happy it's your fault 100% real woman wouldn't put you through that n she won't mind taking you out, you are with the wrong person

[@chrisgilling543]

Exactly right, 100%. Never, ever live with a woman. All the mystery and desire begins to leak out of the relationship the moment you move in together. Everything begins to get far too familiar and stagnant, small things become hugely annoying. You need to live apart, you need to miss each other so that you look forward the time you spend together. Worst thing I ever did was move in with my ex. I still believe that if we’d never moved in together, we would probably still be together. I’ll never, ever live with a woman ever again, even if I absolutely love her to bits. I learned the lesson.

[@steelstreet3765]

What if it's a long distance relationship of 5 years trying to wrap it up? Do you just end it or wrap it?

[@chrisgilling543]

@@steelstreet3765 isn’t ending it and wrapping it up the same thing? Long distance relationships can and do work for many couples. The great thing is that you both have the chance to miss each other when apart, and look forward to the time that you do spend together, which keeps the relationship healthy and passionate.

[@Dad-ct1ik]

Bruv this is so darn true from head to toe. If you’re reading this listen to OP. Not only did all of this happen when I moved in with my ex but once things fell through I also lost thousands of dollars worth of personal belongings that ended up leaving behind because of pride

[@chrisgilling543]

@@Dad-ct1ik I hear ya buddy, spot on 👍

[@thomasmulhall4873]

I made the mistake of having her move in, for the financial reason of paying half the rent, which became quarter rent later on. The money I spent on her far outweighed her contributions to the household. She became bitchy and unattractive to me. I gave her the boot and am living happier now with more money that I don't get robbed from by taxes.

[@KP99]

I'm a single guy who sometimes feels down over the fact that I'm not married or in an LTR like most of my friends who I grew up with are. This was a great video to hear. It always seems like the grass is greener on the other side. It's good to remind myself that 50% of marriages end in divorce and probably another 15 or 20 percent are just staying together for the sake of the kids, so you're talking two-thirds of married people don't even want to be there anymore LOL. So maybe my situation isn't so bad.

[@princelevi1804]

Your right . Be careful what you ask for

[@tundeuk]

Same with many of us

[@jatall2797]

…. And you get to keep all your money.., peace.. and stuff!!!!….. you DEFINITELY winning!!!!

[@manabouttongue]

Actually over time it's more like 80%. In other words, do a survey to see how many marriages last 10, 20, 30, 40 years, and so on.

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@jatall2797 and life force..

[@jamesbarrick3403]

The far majority of any relationship has an END. You do not want to live with somebody when it is time to move on.

[@TheHumanRanger]

I have been there and IT IS THE WORST

[@rokpeter8012]

​@@TheHumanRangerbeen there twice... very f... painful.. especially if you still care for the human being in front of you..

[@sleepytimeshecomes]

I honestly don't know what I was thinking letting my gf and her kids move in to my house, it lasted a yr and they got comfortable disrespecting me and even calling the house theirs. They did absolutely nothing to clean, or contribute in any way. I paid all the bills, cleaned, yard work, cook, all they did was make tiktoks and be on FB. I even had to clean the girls room because they absolutely refused and the mom, my gf had zero control over them. Never again!

[@martinledermann1862]

it's easy, you weren't thinking, you were simply in love

[@sleepytimeshecomes]

@@martinledermann1862 that is true, unfortunately she must not have been to stand by idol and talk to me the way she did. "where are the good men at" says the woman who's betrayed all the good men she's met.

[@MrBigbangbuzz]

So you now live separately?

[@edwardlouiscruz]

Stop dating women with kids that aren’t yours.

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@martinledermann1862 in love with a worthless woman with a bunch of crappy kids? nahhhh. just pussified

[@kristinej.4182]

Rich is right. The genuine burning desire is maintained when the couple does not live together. I’ve been with my BF in a long term relationship and we live in our own houses. Due to work and his kids, we have a routine schedule of when we see each other and it has been working out well. We text and talk everyday but we give each other space which actually makes us miss each other and bc we miss each other, passion stays alive.

[@georgemoore2877]

I think it’s a mindset thing. I’m just tired staying all alone and I’m all out to make a life with that one ☝️ woman who will read my heart ♥️ every time. I think I should stop here, do you mind getting to know me?

[@aldastroud9671]

Someone else is taking that space you're giving each other, just wait for it, same for her.

[@alansewell7810]

Wife's most recent bout of disgust was when I put a roll of toilet paper on the kitchen table when guests were present because we ran out of table napkins.

[@MattMeyers-x4q]

Can confirm. Married long time. Went on epic post divorce binge. Dozens and dozens of MILFS. Found “the one” moved her in. A year later all the passion is gone. Effing shoot me

[@HateBear-real]

The problem is women. Women always screw everything up and can't handle normal life.

[@cesardrudi8238]

❤

[@claytonmurray5004]

Oh well, it sounds like the sex life was great post-divorce. Move this new one out and move on.

[@steelstreet3765]

Does the "one" ever exist past the age of 44?

[@TheHumanRanger]

The article about the rich guy who had to pay $50,000 a month is REAL. National Post Sep 10, 2020. Don't let your PP ruin your life guys!

[@TheWorldisaLIE2]

or could be like Jeff Bezos and lose billions

[@VersionBest]

​@@TheWorldisaLIE2Then the media portrays his ex wife as a "Philanthropist" lol.

[@TheWorldisaLIE2]

@@VersionBest well she did donate 12 billion to charity……

[@TheWorldisaLIE2]

@@grayrider1865 look it up, she’s far more generous than Jeff

[@hareeba5879]

No. He donated it.@@TheWorldisaLIE2

[@jugendamthamburg-ggkonform381]

I'm female and it seems that for both good men and good women best to not shack up. I wish 'gender studies' at US universities would be scrapped and replaced with looking into better ways men and women can live well as married couples. For religious and traditional people it seems to work better, but if people are more and more secular then in the US we ought to look into better secular ways to protect both good men and women as married couples. For example, make paternity fraud a serious crime in all states. No child support for children who are not one's own or legally adopted.

[@Katarzyna-h2z]

Creating home is for strong people who have common purpose not just temoprary needs.

[@GymJones865]

Experienced this first hand bc my fiancé inherited a house that her father left her when he passed away. Shit went south shortly after we moved in. I’ll never do that again.

[@riggitydoo5116]

Inherited a house, she leveled up, needed a man on a higher level.

[@GymJones865]

@@riggitydoo5116 she’s actually still single to this day. Has a bunch of cats though.

[@riggitydoo5116]

@@GymJones865 someone should save those cats.

[@1966johnnywayne]

"my fiancé inherited a house" ... NO, the two of you inherited a house. Sadly too many men don't UNO REVERSO on broads and apply their rules to them.

[@GymJones865]

@@1966johnnywayne that’s how I saw it. She came out with the this is my house bs during an argument one evening. But every time something needed to be fixed, it was our house. Lasted 3 months.

[@DaclaudLee]

I have several rental properties and my girlfriend actually lives in one of them and pays me rent. I just live in another house with my mom. It actually works out because she doesn't want to deal with my mom and my mom doesn't want to live alone either since my dad passed away. Since my girl is month to month without a lease, I can legally just give her a 30 day notice if things don't work out between us. She is free to go and I don't have to deal with getting screwed over.

[@davidmiletic6647]

Bro you figured it out!

[@TheDudeAbides337]

Boss shit

[@mckricks1]

You're still in an iffy situation but good it's working out for you!

[@buddyrojek9417]

Come to Australia. Men can marry men. I can take half your assets if you abuse me financially , mentally or physically

[@armandharris100]

@@mckricks1explain..

[@calvinjackson-zw7ef]

Cohabitation does indeed ruin the foundation of a relationship. The foundation is the thrill and excitement of anticipated time together. Cohabitation eliminates that foundation. I've been in a state of bliss with the same woman for 18 years. We're both homeowners. She's a 10 minute drive away.

[@jameshunt7972]

Great video, the way I handle this is that I allow my fiance, soon to be wife to live with me, but I have chosen a career path that has me on the road at least a few days a month if not more. I send her pictures and videos of me my coworkers (some females younger than her) having a great time at company events. I find this generates enormous competition anxiety that she tries to hide. When I get home, she is completely focused on me, she does her best to give me great sex and she does not nag me at all. I am totally faithful to her and she is reassured of that but I allow in just enough doubt into her mind for her to understand that she needs to stay competitive. Does this plan have lots of faults and traps? probably, but it works for me and provides and alternative to simply not living with your LTR of spouse. great video Rich, I loved unplugged Alpha. Keep up the great work.

[@philinn4788]

She probably getting clapped out while you out and about big fella. Or are you such a Romeo she can't even look at another man 😂

[@bsaintnyc]

Brilliant plan. Still get a prenup. Dont fuck around get the fucking pre-nup

[@VisitaInteriora]

I think you are right. There is nothing better than going home when she starts being annoying. All women get annoying after a while. Historically men would always leave the house in the morning and be away, for some times days. It's natural not being around her all the time.

[@honor9lite1337]

It's natural for not coming home everyday, there is some war over there.

[@KingLouisDaSaint]

You're right. A man is not supposed to be around his woman or children every single day. It's not a natural thing.

[@Millennialtomb]

Correct. The only reason to spend extended periods of time with a woman would be to raise children with her, because you are sacrificing your emotional energy towards a worthy goal. However, it goes without saying that having children in the current environment is NOT recommended.

[@VisitaInteriora]

@@Millennialtomb I'd say its important for a man to have at least one son. All your knowledge and time is well spent educating a young man, because a man naturally implements what works, so that is fun and fullfilling. Also spending time with familiy i.e. women is good when there is no pressure as to work or other duties. Vacations are a good way to create a bond with the mother of your children.

[@lovewhitey4462]

Chris Rock 🗣mentions in his new routine and the constant texting is beyond ridiculous over BS no doubt ⚠️✍🏻

[@dw4956]

The only bill you can split living together is the rent/mortgage. When you live with a woman its; water bill X4, gas bill X3, electricity bill X3, cost for food inluding wining and dining X10, Fuel cost at least X2, etc etc etc. The list goes on and on.

[@nenagebhard4729]

What if the woman has the upper hand financially, morally, physically. Materially? What can a man do?😂

[@nenagebhard4729]

It goes both ways 😂

[@nenagebhard4729]

The way I see it, if there’s no trust... don’t get involved

[@nenagebhard4729]

If both not 110 committed in relationships-run!!!

[@dw4956]

@@nenagebhard4729 thats an opinion. Nothing wrong with an opinion but factual information needs to be the foundation of forming one. Otherwise is would be just feelings and emotions without solid ground.

[@charlieparis1]

Great video Rich, as a married guy of 18 years I can vouch for this. Too late for me as I have two kids and don’t want them to have to go through a divorce, so I am doing my best to keep it together, but if I could do it over again I would do so many things differently. Such as not slipping into a routine of only working and being a reliable provider, but also having significant activities and hobbies outside the home that do not involve her. Saying no sometimes, even to sex, I believe would also help keep things balanced, although I have been terrible at this one. I agree that women don’t necessarily do the betatization thing knowingly, but they are definitely pre-wired that way, and there is no way to change it. BTW cool drive down Adelaide St and merge onto the DVP. My daily commute. Cheers.

[@adebowalegbenga4316]

Saying No, sometimes even to Sex - good point. My way is to have sth you are pursuing: a career goal, business, sports or any activity that completely takes your mind off her...she must never stop pursuing you for her emotional needs. I mean Never! I always allow and will always make a woman(spouse) initiate sex..I can do the outside work but sex itself...Naa, that's her job. Why? That's what I enjoy and that's what she wants. I killed my selfish desire for sex long ago in order to achieve that feat.

[@funqdoc1]

I feel you man …

[@Tyweezy84]

Crazy how this popped up in my feed! I’m literally in process of looking for a new place and my lady is already looking into how she wants to decorate but hasn’t mentioned anything about a down payment or security deposit

[@justfine77777]

I work for a very big company. They are a top 5 market share company. The part of the company I work for is managed terribly, so a good manager sticks out like a sore thumb. I remember having a conversation with one of my bigger bosses, and he talked about how he dealt with people in general. He mentioned always having a standard in life. He did not make deals with people. He pointed out, that if you make deals with one person, you have to start making deals with everybody. That is very simple, yet it’s some of the most useful advice ever. Have a standard, and stick to it. It simples up your life, and you and other people always know where you stand with you. 👍🏻

[@Pintosonic]

I can guarantee that if your girlfriend wants to move in with you she will find a way to make it almost impossible for you to not let her do it without breaking up. I know someone who’s girlfriend told him that her landlord suddenly decided to evict her from her apartment to do some renovations. She asked him to live with him for a few months. It turned out that she just stopped paying her rent so that’s why she was evicted. She had no intention to find another apartment and he ended up having to hire a lawyer to evict her. She was hoping that after a few months he wouldn’t want her to go.

[@G44052]

Whoa. I’m sure the red flags were there from this woman. She must’ve been really attractive!

[@overcomerbtboj]

@@G44052 not necessarily all a woman has to do these days is put out and she can pull men left and right

[@msjrenee8146]

This happened to me but the other way around. I had a boyfriend do this to me🙄

[@Pintosonic]

@@msjrenee8146 There are some Pookies and Ray Rays that leaches off women but usually it doesn’t take long before they stops putting up with that. Women usually realize faster than men when they are leached on.

[@thebacka]

​@@Pintosonic ya because a leech easily recognizes their behavior in others! 😂

[@CheetoTheCat]

My younger naive self would have argued with you, but my older wiser self knows you are 100% correct, and wishes my younger self knew that 40 years ago. 😔

[@doctorartphd6463]

When growing up in the 60's , there was an old saying..... Which you nailed. It says, "Familiarity breeds contempt". Excellent lecture, Rich. Thanks. Very sensible.

[@77magicbus]

I am afraid you are most probably right. As Aesop said : "familiarity breeds contempt." It isn't the man's or the woman's fault at work here. It is just the nature of who we are as humans. Mark Twain also said something : "Familiarity breeds contempt. How accurate that is. The reason we hold truth in such respect is because we have so little opportunity to get familiar with it." Ben Franklin: "Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few." And Antoine Rivarol: "Familiarity is the root of the closest friendships, as well as the intensest hatreds."

[@nickwelchoff4677]

Great video Rich. I couldn’t get my X- girlfriend out of my friggin studio apartment because once she puts her name on the mailbox she has just as many rights as I do. I had to break my lease & move out. What a nightmare. Never live with a woman, trust me.

[@shanegraham9077]

Which state

[@nickwelchoff4677]

Connecticut

[@HiddenHandMedia]

Maybe you should have vetted her first? How long were you together before she moved in?

[@ghostSWANK]

A tip for those already shacked up. REST IN DIFFERENT ROOMS. Giving you your own personal space so she doesn’t have to always be under you, you can enjoy your solitude and she can build desire through not being next to you every second.

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

Attraction grows in space. She has to have time to think about you, wonder, fantasize, ruminate, butterflies fluttering, anxiety building and building until she can’t wait to see you. As long as you keep an aura of mystery about yourself and keep a healthy amount of distance in the relationship, you will keep those butterflies fluttering in her gut. That’s crucial. You cannot bore women. This is why situationships are a thing with modern women. They’re addicted to the anxiety and uncertainty. She doesn’t hear back from him for a week, then he hits her with the “hey big head come over” text at midnight and next thing you know, she’s driving 2 hours in the rain to see him.

[@philinn4788]

In the meantime she got Chadvsnd Tyrone dropping past to scratch the itch in between .

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

@@philinn4788 What I just described is what a female experiences with a Chad and Tyrone. 😂 Tf you talking about? But yeah, hoes gone be hoes

[@Lea-hs4st]

Honestly if a man ignores a woman for a week he is not really interested in her. This is not a healthy relationship then. Why playing these childish games!? An intelligent woman will see through this and say bye bye.

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

@@Lea-hs4st Oh idk. I was saying in Situationships, women will get ignored for a week or however long and be obsessive the whole time.. And yeah, it should be obvious that he’s not interested if he leaves you on “read” for a week, but apparently it’s not so obvious to many women. Women like this are not healthy minded. They’re probably mentally ill or personality disordered or something. I have a theory, the reason these types of women never see the blatant red flags and obvious signs of being used for sex, isn’t because they’re dumb or naive or being tricked. It’s because they have some kind of trauma or baggage from childhood that distorts their perception of these things. What does that mean? Usually, if you’re around someone who gives you bad vibes, like you can tell they have an ulterior motive or that something is just off with them? It’s like a gut feeling, almost like an anxious uneasy feeling in the gut. Well, these women feel that too, but they misinterpret that feeling for butterflies, or that “spark”. Same with blatant red flags. You see red flags, it’s associated with similar feeling in the gut, right? Anxious uneasy feeling. She sees red flags and feels… 🦋🦋🦋 Despite logically knowing that those are red flags, she “trusts her gut” Now, some women will just be hardheaded and keep choosing fuckbois until they finally grow up, but the ones who are trapped in this cycle and who seem to have no insight at all, it’s because something is wrong upstairs. Now, that’s just my theory. Not that you asked, you’re welcome anyway. 😂 If you have friends like this, share it. Tell them to trust their brain not their gut.

[@stopinjorancestuaj]

Hey sir, where were you 10 years before? Why I didn't see this video at least one decade before? I fully agree with everything. Thank you smart man, late is always better than never.

[@AndreAngelantoni]

The love comes and goes but what keeps the couple together is the commitment. It’s completely irrational to expect New Relationship Energy (“bliss”) to last more than a year or two. But a couple can get into a deeper type of love that isn’t NRE but is very fulfilling.

[@lovewhitey4462]

Very Rare in this Transactional world 🌎💥

[@biglou80]

LMAOOOOO -- wrong channel for you casanova!

[@classy4ever63]

Seems like the mature comments are getting a lot of heat from jaded immature people.

[@Wise-Lady-La-Aura]

Before you get sucked into another relationship, take a look at this book “How to Avoid Love and Marriage.” If you couldn’t avoid it, and you already fell for someone it really is better to live separately! If you already moved in together, here’s a tip, do what we do: We bought a really big old farmhouse with outbuildings. I try to stay up on the second floor, while he has the first floor. I go out to the pool house to work or read, and he has his man cave. This will help your marriage. Good luck out there!

[@robf2952]

Lived with wife 2 years before we got married. Been married happily 33 years.

[@p19shelt]

Happy for you.

[@enzoonorati8524]

I was married for 1 year and got divorced and never looked back…why do women try to change men after they marry? Live apart 👍

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

It was Chris Rock from his "Relationships Are Hard" comedy routine...."F your hopes F your dreams, now let's go out there and try to make this eoch happy"....

[@MicolashHostOfTheNightmare531]

People expect a relationship to be burning passion and gooey feelings nonstop like life is suppose to be TV ad or instagram. The real happiness and fulfilment in a long term relationship comes from wanting to build some kind of life together, not just two people seeking hits of good feelings. You're not friends doing fun stuff together you're partners.

[@thirdbase5369]

These are the folks that live for pleasure. Most of them are probably sex addicts. It’s all about good feelings and being happy.

[@techsir8866]

Number 1 tip from me guys is to never "fall in love with your lady" love her and find one that loves you. Never fall though, peace out and have a great day.

[@briandam8126]

You win the internet today🏆 Do not catch feelings. Do what YOU want to do, whenever YOU want to do it. Do not move girls in, even if that means living in a f’n studio apt early on as a young man. It’s not worth it. From, an old man.

[@leonardsodje9905]

You're absolutely right, I've experienced this, my relationship always comes to an end whenever I start living with a woman

[@dbowles53]

"As of 2024, common law marriage is only recognized in Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, New Hampshire, Texas, Utah, and the District of Columbia, with each jurisdiction having its own specific regulations and requirements for such situations.

[@mckricks1]

The relationships that I've seen people always happy in are when they have to be apart at times due to work. You don't get tired of each other because you're not always together and and start to miss each other.

[@SachelleCambria]

Don’t be surprised when you find someone else in her bed, she doesn’t have to be faithful.

[@mckricks1]

@@SachelleCambria Oh for sure. I'm not saying that won't still happen for either side!

[@rn2811]

I would politely tell her good luck on finding somebody else with a private jet and wish her well. Everything in this life is temporary.

[@KINGDEVON16]

I’ve been there, done that! Separated from my Wife/Children’s Mother whom I was staying with at her 2 Family Household. We’re now expecting our first child together after she had put me out. I called her out on b.s. pertaining to holding onto her past and she didn’t like it. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@silverstake88]

- and yet you impregnated her..... 🙄

[@OleDiaBole]

I have no idea what are you saying 😳 Wife, childrens mother, with wich you are expecting first child. All that happens at her family 2 household. W.T.F. 😂😅

[@overcomerbtboj]

@@silverstake88I can’t help it the way you said it cracks me up 🤣😂🤣

[@Annasayshello]

Happily married 28 years. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, only imperfect people that refuse to give up on each other. I can’t imagine my life without my husband. I believe he would say the same.

[@NWOResistance]

I feel the same way about my twin flame, we will continue to live apart because we both have kids but we have a strong, loving connection between us that will make us retire and move in together at some point. ❤

[@rwdchannel2901]

You're an outlier because over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Out of the other 40%+ of marriages that don't end in divorce, about 30% of them say they're not happily married. I know a guy who's 75 years-old and hates his wife, but he's staying married because of the trust money. He sneaks around his house just to make a sandwich and try not to get into a confrontation with his wife.

[@Annasayshello]

@@rwdchannel2901 perhaps I am an outlier, and wish it were the norm. I feel people give up too easily.

[@rwdchannel2901]

@@Annasayshello I live in southern California. In Ventura and Orange County the divorce rate is around 80%. It's so ridiculous that in the neighborhood I live in, I have 3 neighbors that are divorced single women, and 1 neighbor who's a married divorce lawyer. My parents divorced in 1996. I witnessed my father lose a 5 bed, 3 bath house near the beach in Ventura. It was his 3rd divorce. His 3rd ex-wife tried to take 50% of his military retirement, but didn't get it since they married right after he retired. When they met, she was working in sales at a jewelry store and was 20 years old. He was 38 years old. She had nothing and he had everything. After 20 years of marriage, he was forced to give her 50% of everything for starters. Every few years he bought her a new car. She had her bachelors degree in accounting paid for by using the equity on the house because she didn't want to take out student loans. He adopted 3 kids for her, and paid for 1 child to be artificially inseminated. When they went through their divorce, I was 14 years old. She made my father live in our backyard garage for 6 months. He almost checked into a mental institution, but his therapist talked him out of it. After they sold the house, my mother insisted me and my brother move in with my father, and my 2 sisters move with her because she's a feminist. Anytime I called my mother after the divorce, she always had some demeaning question about my father such as 'How's that jerk?' Then she would go around telling everyone how's she a strong feminist single mother who's surviving in the patriarchy with her new business. The reason I'm 43 years-old and not married is because I witnessed that divorce and I've seen a lot of stories of other men going through the same or worse. Do you get it now? Divorce court is even worse today than it was when my father went through his 3 divorces.

[@Annasayshello]

@@rwdchannel2901 your experience is just that, yours. I understand what you wrote. I don’t lack comprehension of a persons jaded perceptions based on their environment. My experience is very different that’s all. My parents stayed married until death, my husbands parents stayed married until death. My two sisters are still married celebrating decades together with their spouses. My brother is also celebrating 35 years married. My experience is just that, mine. I wish you all the best.

[@dee1251]

Absolute truth , I wish I would know this knowledge when I was young and live by it. If you’re a father to a son , and you’re not imbedding this to his brain, than shame on you, cuz you know schooling won’t.

[@hocuspocus9713]

The whole not living together thing goes beyond being in a relationship and extends into male/female family dynamics, I noticed the same thing happening as I got older and was still living at home with my parents, my mom and sister would constantly harp on about me being disorganised and messy and there was a lot of animosity in the household. These days I have a small place of my own and go to visit regularly and everyone is happier for it.

[@ernieduran6589]

Loved the video and the content wish I found this years ago. I’m over fifty and was brainwashed so thoroughly that it’s too late for me. I pass the message along to younger guy so they don’t make my mistakes.

[@TheHumanRanger]

Bro it's never too late to be your best

[@steelstreet3765]

I am 44 and thinking of getting married. You think I shouldn't do it?

[@TheHumanRanger]

If you are not 1 million percent sure that she is the one then don't do it @@steelstreet3765

[@mikeenwright2622]

To be clear, "Common Law" marriage is not recognised in the UK, Spain, Germany and other European countries; by only a few states in the US and under certain conditions in Canada.

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

It goes the other way too, I had a guy move in with me, messed up my house, left dishes dirty, took 2 long showers a day wasting water, left lights on and didn't take initiative on anything. Drove me nuts.

[@danjonmills]

That's not really the same thing: sounds like you moved a bum/loser into your place. Choose a better man, problem solved.

[@oloruncorey6745]

Go complain on a woman’s channel.

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

@@oloruncorey6745 KZbin is public, and I'm not complaining just telling a truth.

[@dagarob_c]

Ok If I can ask, how long into that relationship did you let him move in with you?

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

@@dagarob_c Too soon, was like 3 months of long distance where we met one time, then like 3 more months where we lived close enough to see each other like 4x a week then let him move in. But I should have known he was messy because his car wasn't exactly neat. My bad.

[@arturodiaz1063]

I know of people who have commuter marriages. One lived in the U.S. state of New Jersey and the other one in New York City. They would see each other on weekends only for fifteen years.

[@xaviergarner6750]

VERY DEEP AND Makes a Lot of Sense approach 💯School is Definitely in Session appreciate your Content

[@JohnSmith-ps7hf]

So true. Why would I waste my precious time, living space, and money to please a used modern woman? They are "strong and independent" . I am too!

[@jenniferkopp2923]

That why I married a marine. He was gone a lot, and we both had our own space same house though then when he got out of the Marine Corps he became a truck driver.

[@bareki351]

Nowadays, people complicate simple things. Married people living together has never been an issue untill we as generation grew too sensitive.

[@anachronistic8246]

It all started with the women rights movement but remember in ancient African societies the men also don't live with the woman. He has his own living space separated from his wives.

[@rouvenbeland716]

Man boldy in a car sounds to had really got his heart broken 😢. There are like million studies showing that man in a heathy releationship live longer, are happier and heathier. Also funny to not share any information regarding the study 😂. Asked 100 bros I guess. "Beeing an Enterpreneur (no matter what), father, having a podcast and driving cars" is a qualification in our time and age, I guess. 😮

[@saveamericalive287]

Here's the opposite scenario of not living together and/or being married. And this is a real life situation I lived. We lived in a duplex she on one side and me on the other... (not living together) every time we had an issue I would simple go back to my side not wanting to deal with the problem, this went on for 20 years and ruined our relationship.

[@Mav0585]

I’ve been with my wife for 15 years. Definitely have had ups and downs, but eventually we moved in together prior to getting married. I had a lot of prior success with women prior to that and had absolutely no intention of ever getting married or having kids. I fell in love and that all changed. Maybe I’m one of the lucky outliers but I’ve had no issues living with my wife. We have two kids, and I wouldn’t want to be separate from my kids, no way. I pretty much do what I want and I have no complaints really. But she also makes like 8 times what I make so she knows she would be paying up if we ever split…that may help as well.

[@dwwolf4636]

Nope, that typically leads to her cheating. Unless you have one of the rare ones that can be rational in that regard.

[@blissdad13]

What does she do for a living! 8x is wild

[@Mav0585]

She is a Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist, hasn't always been that way though, I used to make more for most of our marriage, she went to school, then boom, makes way more, ha. But I established myself and am bringing a lot more to the table as a present father. I could go back and make maybe close to 1/2 of what she makes, if I went back into consulting or sales, but choosing to live on my military pension for now and figure it out. @@blissdad13

[@70two41five]

You must have maintained a strong frame throughout your relationship. That’s where most will fall short and I suspect your prior success with women is what has lead to your strong frame. Much respect!

[@Mav0585]

I've had moments where I slipped a little too much and as soon as I notice that I stand up for myself, have not been perfect by any means but have figured out a balance. One way I do that is I do not compromise with my needs and let them be known if they are not being met!@@70two41five

[@shattered115]

The modern world exposes all of us to so much information which make us think about options and get bored easily. That is not conducive to long term relationships. That is part of the reason marriage and LTRs have changed in the last 50 years.

[@8326nazir]

I love how hes always driving a badass car when talking

[@jaysimeon6951]

I sure appreciate the videos . Battling my beta programming everyday an Oneitis aswell . Thanks for helping to open my eyes .

[@Darth-shaman]

I've managed to rekindle burning desire at 20 years of marriage by following your advice. It was definitely going in the wrong direction before I found your stuff.

[@jamalydude]

How are things now? Do you believe you two will be able to happily co-habitate

[@isaacisgud]

All this issue we are discussing can be voided or maintain. Once one person let things go - tower will dall

[@Grayslakegunner]

Your comment about no one taking the lead in a relationship just sparked an old maxim of mine. If everyone is responsible for something, then nobody is responsible. Only when it's given ownership, is someone responsible.

[@jerrymalisewski2061]

Well I'm almost 70 years old my wife is 3 years younger than I am we have been married for 48 years and have three children all grown. We dated for 3 years before we actually got married so we've been together a long time We are still in love and still are attracted to each other physically. So what you're saying is impossible is actually possible. But there are reasons for it. I enjoy what you said and it actually agree with many things that you said said.

[@Sergeantcruz1216]

Are the laws in Canada that crazy? Spinning plates is the way to go, I've always said...

[@LatimusChadimus]

Wasn't there a case in California where a guy went on a date with a girl and without a warning she brought her kids and since he decided to stick around and hang out, she was able to get child support out of him? Because he somehow provided a fatherly impact to her children?

[@the.parks.of.no.return]

Every useful man needs to leave California - 4 weeks later the government will be gone including the legal system

[@nc0849]

Lol... hardly. My friend got divorced from a nightmare husband. Women can only get financial settlement from a divorce for proven and regular living expenses. My friend barely managed to get her own house back, that she had purchased before they got married. She had two houses. He left her half a million in debt and had taken loans on her houses of which she had no knowledge, and used the money on himself. Men are fcked up monsters.

[@HiddenHandMedia]

What?

[@RobertSmith-jd6wb]

That was Canada lol

[@danjonmills]

From 1 date? Sounds like utter bullshit. Didn't happen.

[@themidtownmonster]

He hit that right on the nose …haven’t heard it quite like this…that you sir. Salute

[@pauldecourley8773]

What's bad is when you have the very worst day at work. So happy for the day to end and clock out. Your driving home happy the day is done, when you realize oh sh*t, I gotta go home.

[@Ogasso]

Men are finally starting to speak out about relationships and marriages from their perspective. It could be your own experience or someone near you that shares information. Our grandpas and their generation were more or less forced to marry (and they lived happily ever after right). This generation of men can choose which road that suits THEM. ✌️

[@jayknight139]

excellent video i thought i was crazy for having come to the same conclusion. I came to the realization that living together was not the best option when I noticed that after vacation the relationship seems to go better. time apart allowed us time to miss each other.

[@db8646]

Gentlemen, protect your seed, don't get married, don't have children, don't cohabitate.

[@tari2073]

......so what's the point of your seed?

[@accridelich7369]

Religion, premarital counseling, 2 year dating & a comprehensive prenuptial agreement have a lot to do with the success of the marriage. You would do no less with a business partner. To buy into a law, brokerage or accounting firm, you gotta have years of proven billings. After buying in & you fail to hold up your end; you get fired/bought out. PURELY TRANSACTIONAL. It's human nature to slack off.

[@Logan24855]

Also, once she goes to the washroom and leaving the door open while you can hear it😮😮

[@cadsmi13]

Done it TWICE now.....there won't be a third marriage.....Rich is spot on about this.....I've experienced ALL of this and more

[@heavensea141]

As introverted I can't lived with even my dream woman if we both could not' Be in our own solitude equal understanding'

[@thetruth1167]

That Canadian millionaire story is absolutely terrifying

[@THE_CHOAS_ENGINE]

Literally... blew his money away

[@Kitiwake]

It's like this... Do you want a gf or a relationship? If it's the second one then your on the right track and you won't judge the other person, examining them, but rather, value the relationship. How do you know? If you dumped her (or her you) would you look for another ( real.... call it what you want) "relationship"? I would. That's how I know.

[@tundeterez]

I have a slightly different perspective. If you find a women that that says she is looking for a man that shares in the value of the woman to be the matriarch at home and the man the patriarch outside the home, then it can work. The man the captain and the woman the navigator, then it can work. They both have to want that and respect each other. Btw, some women like routine because it gives them a sense of security.

[@AldermanFredCDavis]

I know 4 couples pretty well, 3 of which are married, 1 couple cohabitating, who seem reasonably 'happy'. The 3 married couples have been together (married) between 20 and 30 years. The mitigating factor is that the 3 married women were all born and spent their teenaged/early 20's years outside of the continental U.S. (and obviously) they grew up BEFORE the Internet was a 'thing'. The cohabitating couple were both born and raised in the U.S., and while in their 50's, have only been living together 2 or 3 years. All that being typed, I agree wholeheartedly that the odds for a successful union are NOT in a male's favor in a Western country. I think the future of marriage (for those who can afford to pull it off), and where there are no children, or they are grown, is some form of legal, "partnership" agreement..........maintaining two separate households. You're each other's medical surrogates and all of that, while simultaneously keeping your house the way you want it, having more control of your free time, and not being up under each other 24/7. If it comes to divorce, each party leaves with what they came with.

[@G44052]

Men! Only date a woman who is in love with you! You only need to like her a lot! Thats it! You’ll make smarter decisions in the relationship! A man in love with a very attractive woman is destined for failure! Especially if she on social media. If you are currently raising kids with your ex do not involve another woman. You can do you again after they are adults! Move in no one and never ever move into her place! Reconsider when you’re older and with no under age children. Do not give any women titles until then and keep them away from your kids. Be the best dad you can be and as involved as possible. Workout and keep a couple female companions in the chamber for down time. You should be too busy to be “in love” for now.

[@kevindavis1281]

I've thought and applied this for years and now my kids are in their late teens. They've had the pleasure of watching their mothers revolving door of guys that have moved in and out of her house. I feel bad for my kids that they had to witness this. It was natural for me not to want any woman to get serious with me let alone move in with me.

[@lovewhitey4462]

Brilliant also when these women have other men at there home odds of Abuse increase against your precious kids 💔🚨⚠️

[@HiddenHandMedia]

You skipped the most important thing that most men don't do. Vet the woman before you let her in your life. Men fall in love in 2 seconds and don't get to know her first before letting her in your life. You can avoid all the crap if you don't go in blind.

[@G44052]

@@HiddenHandMedia you’re right. Vetting for most men is simply based on attraction. It’s crazy!

[@oleksybabansky]

A nice companion read to this topic would be... Michell Montaigne. Because he is basically the only one in the whole of Western life philosphy who profoundly explores a HUGE topic: how much can you handle ambiguity, the opposites within yourself, are you capable of loving the paradox that is existence and yourself in it. The fact that people really are born here to learn, the mastery of language and mind AND the balance of extremities (to be in LTR love AND not co-habitate as an example). Most people are in denial of one or the other. They can't combine both. They want simple, while the world isn't. It takes courage and abandon and, erm, vigilance, and the genuine desire to learn, in order to appreciate these things. Rabindranat Tagor has a novel about this kind of relationship as offered by a very wise woman to a less wise man. He declined. He wanted simple. And that's how most people operate, alas. So good luck finding a partner who appreciate separate living. You may need patience and perseverance. Maybe s/he leaves you at some point AND then come back, after re-evaluating the whole bit. So good luck indeed.

[@williamschaefer282]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@williamschaefer282]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do i reach her?

[@Curious-Minds]

You were fine before you met her, you'll be fine again soon. Time heals what reason can't.

[@BigM0neyHustla]

Bro.. its time you go to thailand or phillipines

[@tomsplitt4853]

​@josephreglandwhat is her contact info?

[@bradstudio]

Same situation. Just realize you dodged a bullet, and your life will improve. It's a new beginning; embrace change like the Stoics suggest. Stop worrying; this is how life goes; embrace the change. Take up a new hobby, get involved in a community group, or do something you've wanted to do for a long while. Take care of your body, learn to eat like an elite athlete, get to the gym, and learn how to make your body irresistible. Also, for emotional heartbreak, learn the Wim Hof Method and start doing cold showers or plunges, near-infrared saunas, and intense cardio helps excellent. Diet-wise, get on the zero-carb carnivore diet; it makes a big difference.

[@robbpowell194]

In a dialectic, Rich is the Reaction. Is happiness and convenience your highest value? My wife and I raised five amazing adults. Their spouses are solid. Our grandchildren are gold. Our disagreements forced both of us to grow up, and I recognize their immense value.

[@Max-oi9es]

In 2010 I bought a two family home and lived there for almost 11 years without allowing any lady I dated access to my sanctuary. Then came 2023 one month before my 50th birthday I moved to the Philippines. Here the ladies want in right away!! It's a lil trickier here but you can live alone if that's your choice. I ❤ women but I do better where it counts having my own space. New Sub 🎉

[@scottfowler8380]

I lived alone for 15 years. I’ve been living with my soon to be wife going on 5 years now. To be completely honest, I’m much happier. My home is always clean, she’s an amazing cook. And she pays some bills. I know this may not be the case for most couples. I have lived with girlfriends in the past when I was younger, and it was horrible. My girlfriend has her masters degree in clinical mental health, she’s a city council member in our city. She works hard, keeps herself if great shape. I think because of her profession she has had to do a lot of ego work. You can’t help people with trauma if you haven’t worked on yourself. I’m 43 years old, and I wouldn’t change a thing about our relationship.

[@bobjames6622]

"I’m 43 years old, and I wouldn’t change a thing about our relationship" But what happens when SHE wants to change something? Guess what, you're then FCUKED!

[@ianarn]

Good I’m happy for you!😊

[@ShaunTheNavigator]

The best way to let her miss you is to NOT have her LIVE WITH YOU!!!!