3 Signs You're Mentally Healthy (Bad, Good, Idealized Objects)

[@Lightonahill25]

Mentally healthy people: 1) control their impulses. 2)introspection 3) minimize harm to self and others (empathy)

[@Enlighten9096]

I get such a kick out of the way that you enunciate and talk. It’s very soothing for me struggling to come back from NARC abuse PTSD & total shut down FAWN collapse. There is something very calming, safe, and soothing about your voice and presentation. Thank you (from the heart ) for your posted content.

[@TheMazinoz]

I think his accent is cute too, though not sure what it is. The content really makes you think too though once or twice I've felt like I've covered a semester in one lecture!

[@wendyrussell4191]

I fall asleep to Sam often and play him when feeling nervous, same as Richard Grannon

[@adriantepesut]

@@TheMazinozIsraeli Originally I was suspicious but apparently he risked a lot reporting idf war crimes so he can’t be that bad

[@Ravenafeedsravens]

What a reality check. I wish my parents instilled these three into my head when I was a kid.

[@Dan_Chiron]

Good news is you can develop them by yourself now (which is a blessing, because now you don't depend on anyone for your well-being).

[@intelligentcat192]

Several people I knew and considered friends became cold, distant and showed no empathy after my son committed suicide. I have many wonderful close friends, but these people were really outliers and their coldness was shocking and terrifying.

[@estebanamador7601]

As a future student of psychology (and as a patient who had been understanding himself from some time ago and that is discovering those layers in himself ), it's a really nice explanation. Thank you so much.

[@LouiseO78]

I'm mentally healthy! Yay!😂

[@bigrob317101]

whatever

[@Bea_Survivor]

Me too. Yay! 😁

[@beyond3d344]

Doesnt feel that way but seems like I am actually too lol

[@oachie8862]

You are very wise Professor Vaknin.

[@samvaknin]

I am very intelligent but very unwise. Don't confuse the two.

[@annonymous-tt6pu]

I'd like to hear your perspective on the difference between the two@@samvaknin

[@tiffanybluetarot]

@@samvakninis this akin to knowing what one ‘should do’ for the most optimal outcome, yet doing something else entirely (usually, the opposite of what one ‘should be’ doing)? ie. Knowing what to do, conceptually or in theory…but when it comes to reality, taking a different route anyway?

[@sambhavi16]

​@@samvakninsir, being aware of not being wise is wisdom too

[@jamesburke9865]

​@@annonymous-tt6pu wisdom is being able to learn from your life experience, intelligence is being able to learn from other's. Just my opinion tho.

[@Jasminee-s5j]

FIRSTLY, I want to say, I am sorry for thr loss of your son, especially in such a tragic way. As a mother, my heart hurts for you. For a person going through such pain, you must feel abandoned and rejected. Not just pain of losing your son but suffering because you probably feel like you lost the people around you as well. Also, Some people (not necessarily NPD/cluster B), are uncomfortable with confronting pain. When other people go through painful experiences, its so triggering that they pull away and become distant. They cant tollorate the pain it causes in themselves. In some cases people just don't know how to respond and feel burdened when around people going through a painful experience. And some people will use the opportunity to kick you when youre down. My advice is, be specific in what you're wanting or needing. Maybe its an ear to listen, help with the dishes, or a shoulder to cry on. Its less overwhelming for other people, and you will learn quickly which people dont care about you, and never have. Many blessings to you (Sorry for grammer)

[@suzystone244]

Introspection going on daily. On the mend. Healing. Definitely on the right track❤

[@MissQuite]

Thanks for clarifying that! Good to know where one sits on the scale of mental health!

[@amazoniablue7572]

I fell on the first one! Cant control my impulses.

[@VinnyCarwash-js8op]

If you can hold back from responding to this comment, you will have achieved it!

[@CarinaAbramovic-sh8ej]

Staying with you during the merry spring and the warm summer 🌞

[@Rahel]

As we used to say: Get your mind out of the gutter and back in the sewer with the rest of us! Seriously, thank you for your instructive and informative videos, and for sharing your wisdom with us.

[@novanoire93]

Thank you, Professor Vaknin. 🖤

[@amberfuchs398]

So clear, so concise. Makes perfect sense.

[@annabystrzanowska-boruch231]

thank you, Sir

[@mohamedbasha5534]

THANK YOU SO MUCH PROF IT WAS VERY HELPFUL KEEP GOING ❤

[@horse286]

Thank You Very Much!!!

[@daveelliott2055]

The man!

[@MohitSharms-k8u]

How i can not be narcissist ? I want to be a healthy individual both mentally and physically spiritually emotionally, i have survived a covert narcissist and he is a so called father. I want to heal heal and then heal and feel feel and feel

[@joannagiblin5964]

OMG ! On this criteria I dont know ANY mentally healthy people .. and that includes me 🫨

[@NownZen]

Haha! Love you sense of humor😂

[@artsyalkalearnandgrowbeaut3731]

I am mentally healthy. 🎉❤

[@Haidji.]

Thank you 😊

[@XxcrisnaevilxX]

😊 omg I am so happy

[@iohanna.21]

Спасибо вам❤ не понимаю по английски, но вы на меня действуюте успокаивающе))

[@deemwinch]

Так выучи

[@sandybayley4461]

Thank you.

[@jbuntine1255]

Hello Prof Autum down here The ageing Narc ,harder to camouflage and hold the Marks. And watch when it slips..

[@3jesus3christ3]

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[@jbuntine1255]

@@3jesus3christ3 ??

[@danielabatalha17]

Aprendo muito vendo seus videos ... tem muito conteúdo e faz sentido.

[@superpoodlehead]

🤔 All three must be present? Or, just one? What if self control is depending upon the situation (like seeing your r@pist in court, your abuser is taunting you).

[@samvaknin]

All three. All the time.

[@superpoodlehead]

@@samvaknin Oh good. I feel better now! 😄 Thanks much! You’re an inspiration and give me hope with all this validation and clarity you’re bestowing upon us! 👏🏼🩷

[@mikibellomillo]

hmm.. i think my friend's lying to me. he did therapy to me n said i am healthy, but after hearing this video, i don't think i am.. i always have problem understanding people, that's why i easily being trapped in scam or toxic cricle.. i thought everyone is honest, but at the end of the day i always find they're being fake.. i've got a lot of trust issues with nice people n online promotion recently 😔

[@stevepoythress4678]

SWOT = great acronym (corrected!)

[@samvaknin]

SWOT.

[@TheMazinoz]

Strength weakness opportunity threat

[@timsaunders8989]

1 and a half out of 3. 50% ill take it 😅

[@TheEvelyna69]

Prof Sam, i would like to ask you , what about people, , that suffer of specific phobias, such as enclosed spaces, airplanes, fear of heights, diseases etc. . Are those phobias a sign of being a mentally unhealty person or why is it possible to develope such phobias even from childhood? I wish you made a video about that category. Thank you.

[@samvaknin]

Phobias are anxiety disorders and in most cases they start in childhood.

[@atinathenice1]

What is the difference between perceiving one’s life from a outlook of a phantasy object and psychosis

[@samvaknin]

Search the comorbidities playlist.

[@atinathenice1]

Any in particular?

[@suzanavukolic3538]

I'm healed 😂

[@danakarataeva2291]

Hi Prof Vaknin, is borderline same as counterdepedent? if not what is the core difference?

[@samvaknin]

No connection. Search the comorbidities playlist.

[@Am-js1ue]

Is there any possible to become mentally healthy after therapy ?

[@samvaknin]

Depends what the mental health issue is.

[@Am-js1ue]

@@samvaknin thanks for responding Prof. I'm not sure about specific mental health issues, I've related to many symptoms of different disorders, I believe it to be Cptsd. I want to relate to others like a healthy person . psychoanalysis has helped in curing many of my symptoms, but the one's you described in this video seems to be permanent, I've always been like this, I can't connect to other people, there's always some kind of chilling fear akin to death, feeling panic when I try to. I don't see others normally, I split them & always act fake to fit in & be perceived as normal.

[@ОленаКотовамузДніпро]

Хотела бы спросить уважаемого Сэма есть ли у нарциссов хоть какие - нибудь положительные эмоции ?

[@samvaknin]

Search the Mind playlist.

[@myhandle999]

Many thanks for all your excellent videos. You discuss empathy being a barometer of mental health at 7.16. Prof. Simon Baron-Cohen, says that Autism and empathy are a continuum with Autism and Empathy at each end. Can you discuss Empathy & Autism as a mental illness in a video please? He cites a study in which it is found that in areas where tech companies are located there are more autistic people.

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for "autis".

[@mariellevancann7390]

ow shit 😁

[@raumshen9298]

Are mentally healthy in minority?

[@samvaknin]

No.

[@raumshen9298]

@@samvaknin OMG I didn't expect you yourself will reply!!! now that you have, let me say a BIG thank you for everything from Mumbai 🙏 🙏

[@Frdzed]

I’m American and failed all those tests that you listed.

[@safirijorgensen7842]

I'm suffering from severe cptsd from betrayal trauma dealing with a grandiose narcissist. I'm in therapy twice a week and it isn't helping What do you recommend? What is best treatment?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@safirijorgensen7842]

@@samvaknin ❤🙏🏼

[@safirijorgensen7842]

@@samvaknin thank you

[@janv4873]

I, too, was diagnosed with CPTSD. Some things that helped me were: Know you are a warrior. You survived a war, healing is painful, takes hard work & takes time. Anything you did to stay safe, protect yourself or others, was done under duress, forgive yourself. Remember you will never be the person you were before; be open to the new & healthier person you are growing into. Good luck on your journey; may God bless your healing.