3 Things: Husband bought too small lingerie, Nice Guy™ post, Teacher makes inappropriate comment

[@YemmieInc]

If my husband told me not to report a teacher being a creep to mu daughter, I'm out. Period. Hes proved that he will never protect her when something like this happens and that he probably does this shit himself. Husband getting left, schools getting left. everybody getting left!!

[@BurbNBougie]

RIGHT!?! They say that they are protectors!! Show it, dammit!!

[@YemmieInc]

@@BurbNBougie Just protectors of predators and ThE bOyZ

[@thereallazygirl]

u know the husband probably talks about women and girls that way so he thinks it's normal

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

That husband is kin to that pastor.

[@08Davis2]

They protect themselves and each other, not women.

[@inprogress5210]

1st lady is so far gone to the point where she's apologizing to someone who offended her and is invalidating her own feelings. Hopefully she realises what's happening one day.

[@soniaoliveira8207]

If he's into bondage play he should just say so. This lingerie thing is just coersive and weird it's giving groom8ng vibes.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

She wants to hold on to him No matter what

[@SRHisntSilent]

Definitely the result of centring men for two damn long But his kink could've been brought up in a different way. It's a red flag to me

[@SRHisntSilent]

​@@kayshawnsimmons5585 but at what cost

[@Isthisjoebiden]

She's a nut job

[@hubabaloop]

That dad who said the sexual comment was a “joke” needs to put kept outside. What a creep

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

He's testing the boundaries so he can go further 👹🤛🏾

[@NeciPooh854]

My own father found out about abuse I suffered not from me but my kids. This is after i long kicked him out of my home. To this day, he's befriended my ex and doesn't see a problem with what he did. I lost respect for him and it changed the way I see him. No father should have his daughter feeling like he doesn't have her back. This bros before all else thing leaves women so vulnerable. At the end of the day, if im ever in a severely dangerous situation, I'd never come to my dad for help.

[@jjohnsengraciesmom]

That is terrible.

[@mordecaiissad8529]

I've said it before, the whole "what if it was your daughter, sister, mother" argument doesn't work. Men that are sexist, mysoginistic or cowardly in face of the world will see the fault in the woman regardless. My experiences weren't as bad, but the last one that was creepy with me was my dads friend and he still considers him a friend. I was told to be polite. They won't magically change by having a child.

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

Oh wow, I needed to hear this. I wake up to severe symptoms of betrayal trauma after a few hours of sleep, and my dad is the worst when it comes to that. It hurts so much to know he would pick anyone over me. During my weakest hours I can't even turn to my dad. I used to trust him, even after so many betrayals. He's not worth it anymore and I don't deserve that. I'm sorry you went through this. I'm glad we have a community to support one another though. Hearing this stuff is important for me and my healing.

[@sonja4164]

That woman's husband is *suspect* as hell. I don't think I would be able to continue the marriage at that point.

[@ChelGriffith]

That dude has gone down some dark paths on the internet, I think. Got a bad feeling about this.

[@brittanyr2927]

After a comment like that? He’d no longer be my husband because I can’t trust you to have your own child’s best interest at heart. Disgusting. He definitely has some skeletons in his closet and I hope they are exposed.

[@BurbNBougie]

And they're the supposed protectors!?

[@olympiaelda1121]

That first story was incredibly triggering to me. Playing controlling mind games and coaxing people into sexual intimacy AFTER you made them uncomfortable is NOT a kink. A kink is something you discuss beforehand. This man gets off on control and power. She is totally brainwashed either by him or her childhood prepared her for this. But this is not normal, nor should be normal.

[@jjohnsengraciesmom]

You are right and I am glad I said this.

[@seabreeze4559]

It's a known PUA tactic to trick the woman into losing weight (buying too small underwear). Also, part of sexual coercion involves making the person feel guilty. He's a sexual sadist.

[@no_peace]

I was thinking he made that up to explain the small lingerie

[@rtphotos4691]

​@@no_peace- I don't. You'd be surprised the things non bears get off on. You name it, one of them has turned it into a fetish. 😂

[@kimleemoon]

1st story: she’s being emotionally abused and doesn’t even recognize it. 2nd story: women have a right not to entertain a man’s company if she doesn’t want to. Such fragile egos. 3rd story: the father may be looking at the daughter himself. I would not put it past a man, even a father.

[@pink1237480]

I'm so sick of these predators receiving protection while their victims have to "think" about their actions when they feel they have been victimized. It's so ass backwards and im tired of it. Her husband is wrong!

[@esjay-rh7wx]

Agreed; children's safety must come first. That sleazy teacher put his own career at risk when he spoke to OP's daughter inappropriately. My father would have been at that school confronting that teacher face-to-face, ready for whatever. Both of my parents would have raised hell at that school and reported that teacher. OP's husband is a coward, and if I were her I could never look at him the same way.

[@rebecca7856]

PREACH!

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

If I wouldn't have had my man come in during my Dr appointment, I would still feel like gaslighting myself about a bad experience. It's disgusting that we aren't believed.

[@tiffyq7794]

I think parents don’t understand that if your child comes to you and tells you that someone made them feel uncomfortable and they did nothing about it you’re setting it up for them to not come to you again, she’s looking for the ppl who should love her the most to protect her, they are telling her that speaking up doesn’t help and her her sympathising with the teacher is also teach her to sympathise with abusers. This happened to me and not being protected made me not tell anyone anything again and things kept happening.

[@aysyaw6038]

Facts! And unfortunately sometimes mothers and fathers will not agree on the stance of protecting a child but they will still be united front which is one of the worse things possible.

[@DelphineTheWorstBladeEver]

This happened to me too. Fucking preach. It's disgusting.

[@victoryv116]

Why does my blood boils whenever any man uses word "bitch" for woman randomly......it just infuriates me ...tell me any word that hurts equally for men ...

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Especially since they act more like bitches than any woman I know😒😑

[@fantym1633]

Eunuch

[@Camille4Real]

The only equivalent for men is a slur that I refuse to type, because I also hate how their community is viewed in a negative light.

[@Egh0127]

HUGE red flag

[@Iquey]

​Nah. You're just transphobic. How many women are calling men that? Sounds like something men mostly calling other men that. @@fantym1633

[@AB-jl1un]

In the first story the husband is sadistic. He is mentally and emotionally destroying her and it's all by design. Unless she wants to spend the rest of her life in this marriage from hell, she needs to leave. I doubt she has the strength to do it.

[@tlrcarroll]

Why is it so difficult for men to accept that simply because THEY see a woman and are attracted to her SHE HAS NO OBLIGATION TO RETURN HIS FEELINGS 🥴 Also, that teacher needs to be reported and that father is suss for not taking it seriously.

[@aysyaw6038]

Also just because they're attracted to a woman doesn't mean she should want to even talk to them. Hell if she wants to act like he is non existent, she should be able to.

[@MelissaThompson432]

#3 this happened in my family. He was reported and the school board moved him to a different school. Not long after, we made new friends in the county. The same teacher had done the same sort of thing to their child at his new school, and, of course, they reported him. He was moved to a county office job. He wasnt "punished," but he was removed from access to other children. The point is, DO REPORT HIM: if not for your own child, then for the _next_ little girl. Because there _will_ be one.

[@Diana734]

Report the teacher because no adult man should be saying or thinking anything about a 4th Grader developing a "body." WTF!🤬

[@NikkiaSings]

I was so triggered by this story!!! 🤬🆘🤬

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

The story about the teacher the wife needs to file the report on the comment period. He’s said that to many other girls. Her huzzband protecting a man over his own daughter makes him trash! She needs to file for divorce too! The huzzband and teacher are out of line! That baby girl needs to be protected!

[@Li8aGun92]

HE IS!!!! Why the f would he even CARE if this shitstain loses his job?! This is about the safety of his own child and those of so many others! Oh poor him, he won't be able to sh little girls anymore. Like it matters that his daughter will leave soon, other kids will still be there! I guess he would consider to sell her out too if he got something out if it... nasty

[@Lambeh]

OH MY GOSH. RIGHT? What is this husband going to do when she starts growing up? I would NOT be trusting that man to be alone with any under-18 girl.

[@katherines144]

I said the same thing out loud. "That dude is prioritizing some strange man over his own daughter!!!"

[@seabreeze4559]

@@Lambeh He could be grooming his own kid. Most child grape is incestuous.

[@ana-nim]

Husband is a red flag. He failed to develop empathy to his own daughter. Nothing stops him from crossing the line.

[@nkoistrash]

That last story literally disgusted me so much. Thats absolutely disgusting and clearly the husband is the same level of pedo.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l agree👹🤛🏾

[@meaculpa22]

💯

[@dharma6481]

That first story, she needs a therapist to help her unpack what is happening and how she is being abused. He is treating her as an object to be manipulated for his pleasure, it’s very disturbing and seems to be escalating. Can’t imagine this is first time he’s manipulated her into “damsel in distress” if this was consensual/play OK, but it seems she is unaware and an unwilling participant in his kink. The way he’s manipulating her shows a sociopathic lack of empathy.

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah there's certain women they stalk because they're trying to tame them and it's always women that are naturally pretty and if she has a job sometime they will call the store and check up on there ex GFS just to get back at them for deciding to leave they subconsciously want her co dependent on them because certain women look attractive enough to be trafficked why do they think there not allowing pregnant women in southern states to divorce there husbandd now? Don't pay attention to any of these rulings they passed and ignore it even if your married because I draw the line on forcing women to be in relationships with stalkers and abusive men that don't deserve to have them. I also noticed that ugly or fat women never have these problems they always promote them and put in the powerful positions. You'll hear them bragging about retiring and receiving pension or getting married even though you can tell they did nothing to deserve any of these privileges other than get fat.

[@NikkiaSings]

I thought the very same thing… 🤔

[@lmn1516]

We women know that clothing sizes can vary greatly depending on the brand and manufacturer, so for the first woman to be that upset, he has been playing head games with her long before this particular incident, even if he never said that he bought the incorrect size on purpose. Being too focused on the scale, clothing sizes, and age over health and mobility can do a number on someone, and her husband is exploiting that insecurity for his own perverse reasons.

[@hubabaloop]

He really liked her? These people are as shallow as a kiddy pool. YOU DIDNT LIKE HERRRR. guys have done this to me so much I just stay in the house now

[@fantym1633]

That she could tell from a distance what was what & tell him, "I'm good" is telling he's an _obvious_ creep

[@aysyaw6038]

​@@fantym1633 Facts! Men don't understand that most of us notice the desperation seeping out of their pores. The moment I feel like a wolf (sometimes in sheep's clothing) is looking at me like I'm his prey, I am completely turned off. Also we know most of them just want to fu** and majority can't even hold a basic non-sexual conversation.

[@mwandikay]

Her "creepdar" was up, her intuition told her he's a total loser and she listened to her instincts. Good for her!!!

[@beautifulk2k6]

I would be pissed if he told me he wanted me to be uncomfortable. Wtf

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

YES! 😮👹🤛🏾

[@elipotter369]

Me too. I'd be out of there so fast.

[@CherieMonique5]

“Nice guy” obviously scared her. That’s why she reacted like that. 🤦🏽‍♀️ can’t believe dude can’t see that. Intense sexual attraction on one side does not mean it’s going to be welcomed or reciprocated.

[@aysyaw6038]

Attraction can turn real creepy in .023 seconds but they don't understand.

[@EmyN]

I knew what was up about the lingerie before the update, it’s a tactic of abusers to demean you in order to make you feel insecure, like that Reddit story of the guy continuously telling his girlfriend she’s smelly, did not end up well for him thankfully lol, and he also distanced from OP on purpose. Funny how he wants her to come with him to his work trip, now he’s making an effort huh lol

[@lmn1516]

It is a way to keep you "off balance". Unfortunately, I am extremely petty. I would be looking up "boxer briefs for extremely well-endowed men" and ordering a pack, along with some Just For Men/Rogaine and some ball deodorant. I am by no means endorsing this as healthy behavior or a relationship worth sustaining, but there was a time when a guy would pull this stunt, there would be a crying contest and he would win. An even better option would be to avoid those situations altogether, but I digress.

[@EmyN]

@@lmn1516 LOL, warranted 100%, just get him a taste of his own medicine and then dip, seems alright to me lol

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife]

A lot of people who are around children, should not be around children. Rather if they have anger issues, SA issues, and more...

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

l smell a predator who is trying to see what he can get away with 😡👹🤛🏾

[@silververnallbells191]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585 The teacher AND the father. The "father" is sus as hell.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

@@silververnallbells191 I Agree

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

I’m questioning the dad in the last story and his past because what what Has he’s done she should do a background check

[@thewrongshoes]

Maybe dad knows he has said some inappropriate stuff to some underage girls too and that's why he doesn't want to rock the boat

[@kayjeffs3741]

She looked like everything he wanted and he looked like nothing she wanted 😂

[@annt7384]

Self-described “nice guy” probably creeped her out after staring at her a little too grossly when making his initial assessment she was the right kind of attractive.

[@islandgirl8067]

I agree!

[@AndyyWithAY]

I saw this post yesterday haven't seen the update. I was seriously wondering what was going on. O...kay that's incredibly disturbing. Some men do like when women wear clothes that are too small, but not to make a woman cry and feel insecure and uncomfortable? Then he wanted sex after making her feel awful? 3 red flags in a trench coat.

[@EvaeAwake]

110% stealing 3 red flags in a trench coat, made me giggle😂

[@inprogress5210]

Last story - Report him. It's disturbing that the father didn't care but that goes to show that there are men who will provide and protect other men than their wives and children. I hope she reports that perv to administration.

[@Its.giselle234]

Thats why we say all men are the same. Deep down if they would they coukd, thats why they agree with degenerates

[@susanplatt5331]

How uncomfortable does he want her to be at the hotel, alone?! Getting size wrong isn't a bad thing, but on purpose. How much does he want her to need him, alone, in a hotel room?! Honestly, I'm scared for her.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

He needs to go🤡🤛🏾

[@allyross3321]

I'm literally afraid for her

[@kgs2280]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@GenXsinglefree]

OP1: She needs intense therapy. She is extremely insecure and vulnerable for exploitation. OP2: He's not nice. OP3: Her husband is a coward. She needs to report the teacher and take her daughter and leave her husband.

[@Egh0127]

Ikr first story she's basically like "yes he emotionally wrecked me last night but he's a good man! He wouldn't want to hurt me!!"

[@OO9O9]

​@@Egh0127she is in the sunken place

[@thesacredbombshell]

That husband sounds like a coward. It's insane to react that way about your child when someone is threatening them.

[@mars3745]

For the story about the husband not wanting to report the teacher... is really odd... i thought men, especially husbands and fathers are supposed to be protectors of their families, not random men...huh🧐

[@jojoone1099]

The lingerie story has me scratching my head. He is either a sadist and/or is cheating. They need marital and individual counseling. If someone bought me ill-fitting clothes that made me uncomfortable, I'd let them know I need the appropriate size. He's digging deep into her insecurities. Not fitting into random gifts shouldn't hurt her so much.

[@aysyaw6038]

I agree! I believe they both need therapy though. I wonder if he has a bondage kink. At first I was wondering why the lingerie had to be so tight, snug and tight are very different. Like is it leaving marks on her body, is that what he enjoys seeing? Maybe this is his baby step. Either this needs to be discussed in depth. Making her cry over it, I would hope would be a red flag to him. It's just common respect, she not obligated to like his kink and this situation can turn worse if they don't figure this thing out.

[@jojoone1099]

@aysyaw6038 Upsetting her on purpose for his enjoyment --- not good.

[@a_noelles]

Definitely seems like withholding sex prior to was targeted as well. Dude is playing with psychological warfare to get his rocks off.

[@tempestholmes]

Rolling a "Nat. 20" or natural 20, is a tabletop gaming term. It means rolling a 20 on a 20-sided die, it usually means an automatic success in trying to land a hit on an opponent. Even if the opponent has an armor class so high a player normally could not mathematically land a blow at all a natural 20 will hit. I am a geeky gamer type. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

#WomenAreTheProtectorsAndProviders.

[@redgoddess]

Facts.

[@sb.632]

💜💜💜

[@Egh0127]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@NikkiaSings]

That’s BEEN my LIFE experience 🙋🏾‍♀️💯🗣️

[@gm25140]

What Kind of a father is the husband in Story 3?! Incredible, that he wants to protect a creepy semi-stranger making the weirdest comments on growing Girls over his own child. Also: His rhetoric makes me super skeptical concerning his overall moral compass and views on consent and womens bodily autonomy. Now I cannot shake the feeling that he was one of those frat Boys that exploit drunk girls, if you catch my drift. Seems like predators protecting each other to me 😢

[@EmyN]

Of course the father didn’t see an issue with it, men are so complacent

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

They hardly go against each other right or wrong

[@kgs2280]

It’s that good old patriarchal “bros before hoes” mentality (sarcasm), but from her FATHER??? Most decent men would have to be held back by his friends to keep him from beating the hell out of that teacher. Hell, as a woman, they’d have to hold ME back from doing that!

[@ogolden8315]

First story …. I bet her insecurities about her age and body is something she makes known to him in different ways. He’s playing subtle mind games with her.

[@nothingbutme1150]

For the story with the so called nice guy a similar incident happened to me when I took a solo trip to Cancun last year. I was surprised how many men felt entitled to my body or think we were going to have seegs just because you speak to them or are cordial with them. We are all on a resort with swimsuit on , bikinis ect but men use any location or excuse to have an encounter with a woman who they are going to ghost anyway if they get the chance. The adult temper tantrums these dudes had when they realize that you don’t want them , it’s very scary and weird.

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

Being cold to men is better than being polite.

[@nothingbutme1150]

@@AnnafromHungarylvNW It’s funny because when you are cold to men they call you names like the B word and tell you no one wants you because you are a B , but if you are nice to them they are ready to take out their sausage in a heartbeat. They are so delusional.

[@aysyaw6038]

They can't comprehend everything not being about se x because that's all they think.

[@KimberlyPinkney]

It's Dungeons and Dragons lingo for a 20 sided dice roll. A natural 20 is the luckiest, highest and hardest you can get off of one die and it usually means you're overwhelmingly successful in whatever you're trying to do. But if you roll anything lower you may fail. If you roll a one you failed spectacularly. So it takes that high of a roll to get through to the guy.😊

[@imweakfordeaky]

I was just coming into the comments to say the same ! (I can’t believe it’s been over 30 years since the last time I played D&D)

[@multicrafter639]

I think the first story may actually from the husband, trying to get justification for something he did to his wife. The insistence on repeating the "he didn't mean to make me cry" part is the giveaway to me.

[@WanderlustHomebody]

You might be onto something here! The possibility of her being this dense is too much to bear. The OP actually being the husband may be 🎯.

[@existentialgamer9206]

Yeah this seems like a f3tish story written by a man

[@kgs2280]

Wow, I didn’t see that, but you might be right. I think you might have a future career writing slasher/horror stories! (I mean that in a good way, because your imagination lets you think of different scenarios than one would expect). You’ve already got a good plot line for one.

[@rtphotos4691]

​@@WanderlustHomebody- Oh, I've heard this type of justification many times. It used to be called "battered wife syndrome" where they'd list all the supposed "good" qualities of the husbands who abused them.

[@SA-ey6nt]

​@@rtphotos4691 Stockholm syndrome in other words

[@Sunny-tc3ul]

The lingerie lady, she’s to far gone bless her heart. Plus, if your husband has to persuade her into love making something is seriously wrong. Plus, 38 no social media? Yea, he’s cheating.

[@islandgirl8067]

The 1st story is so weird. What's the point in buying your wife clothes that are too small for her? He admitted that he got off on seeing her uncomfortable and crying, and she doesn't see anything wrong with that? She knows this is abuse but is deep in denial. Why does the guy in the 2nd story care so much that a stranger didn't want to talk to him? All he knows about her is how she looks. The woman in the last story needs to side eye her husband if he thinks a grown man making inappropriate comments to a 9/10-year-old little girl is a "joke." He may be a predator himself.

[@BurbNBougie]

Ok, so it's official, we're cousins

[@islandgirl8067]

@@BurbNBougie 😆😆🥰🥰

[@evergreenforestwitch]

Story 2 just makes me mad. I know it's one of millions, but the entitlement is just disgusting. That he has no concept whatsoever that there's a difference between wanting to use her body as a surrogate for his hand and actually liking her is wild. That she is a complete stranger and yet he thinks he is owed her attention and a chance to eff her. And yes, it's immaturity and a lack of emotional intelligence, but mostly it's just misogyny and even the dude who called his friend out and told him he was acting like a baby, although accurate, doesn't address that he thinks that women owe him. It's specifically about women, not thst he is unaware that humans have preferences because he would never pull that bs if a dude he wanted to befriend brushed him off. He'd honestly probably respect the dude more and assume he is busy or has important shit to do whereas he takes it as a character flaw in a.woman. So gross.

[@EmyN]

He takes it as “a character flaw” if it’s a woman, this 👏 we become “bad” women 😂

[@evergreenforestwitch]

@EmyN they just don't want women to have choice, period. Ironic since the constant refrain when women complain about the egregious behavior of men is to "choose better" but they do everything they can to eliminate women's ability to choose for themselves.

[@lilm497]

My middle school English teacher ended up being a pedo, he was arrested to-catch-a-predator style maybe 4-5 years after I left that school. Looking back all the signs were there. NEVER ignore them!!! I was too young to connect the dots then but who knows how many girls he victimized. Makes me sick to think anyone would care about “ruining his life”.

[@maco9324]

First story: husband is trying to push his fantasy kink onto his wife without asking or discussing what goes on in his mind. Bottom line he will NEVER back off at his age and actually acted on it. Will eventually lead to cheating or breaking up if they both don't agree on this kink and anymore he may have. But, if she has a hidden kink he will put it at rest and NOT participate. After all, it's always all about the man and what he desires.

[@mskitty8874]

First OP is delusional as hell. If she like it I guess we love it? Smh

[@LilithsCosmicLounge]

No woman wants to get divorced I guess…

[@Myraisins1]

I really don't like men buying me feminine things. It's a pet peeve. Is it just me?

[@annt7384]

No, not just you, especially if the “gift” benefits him more than you. And if it’s one of the usual suspects of “romantic” gifts that seems impersonal - maybe because he doesn’t know you that well - and makes you feel somehow indebted to him for giving it you, you can give it right back.

[@hubabaloop]

Yeah they be pressuring

[@kammyr4082]

​@@annt7384 I had a man buy me some hunter boots for Xmas. I'm super girly & prissy af. Wtf am I going to do with some damn boots? Go out and work on the yard?!

[@annt7384]

@@kammyr4082 So I take it you weren’t with him when you saw a pair of Hunter boots and said, “oh wow, what great boots, I could really use some of those.” 🤣🤣 I’m from New England, so those boots come in handy for the really slushy, wet snow. I was buying vacuum cleaner bags in Sears once as everyone in that section, customers especially, was trying desperately to talk a guy out of buying his wife a vacuum cleaner for her birthday. He just didn’t get it. I could tell he was still thinking about it when he walked out of the section (he was pushed).

[@AnnafromHungarylvNW]

​@@kammyr4082He wants to go hunting and doesn't have company.

[@tatathebutterfly]

He won’t be able to hit or trigger your insecurities if you don’t tell him. Control your emotions and most of all shut up 🤫

[@SaltationIgnite]

The last story…. The dad is the exact opposite of any sort of protector and provider for his family, and is a sorry excuse for a man. And it’s obvious he’s gaslighting the wife like crazy too. I am also an educator and that teacher is a predator who needs to be removed immediately, which can’t be done with other men like this asshole covering for him over protecting his own daughter

[@kgs2280]

Exactly!

[@TheShePill]

The teacher and husband story!! Omg her husband is a PAB! Ain’t no way he, as a man, thinks that’s ok to say to his daughter. As for the PAB that was mad he was rejected, shows their lact of emotional reasoning. Crazy how women are the emotional ones tho.

[@lamalaita3767]

The husband in story 3 is a predator no doubt. It makes sense for him to defend it. They need to look at his browser history.

[@mamat1213]

Unpopular opinion but I think wife in story #1 was gas lit. Husband is cheating, figured out She discovered the lingerie and spun the story. ICK

[@marthadivine8426]

Just terrible, he takes pleasure in her pain. The husband that's protecting the teacher is disgusting.

[@OO9O9]

westerners labelled abuse "kink"? These ppl are mental.

[@sherrita8582]

The 2nd story,wow men can be delulu in how they look..she might not be attracted to him or she's in a relationship or don't want to be bothered..the 3rd story she should do what she feels is right,too many stories of young women being violated

[@nki5ikni5i45]

14:10 😮 this father sucks! First he's down playing what happened to his daughter and he's not brave enough to protect his daughter. And he doesn't even care about how this man might be doing to other kids in his class.

[@ButterflyBree]

The third story is very concerning because the father isn't advocating or protecting his daughter from an abusive Male teacher. 😢😢

[@Gumbier_Than]

I love my dad, but he wasn't the kind to get buck when needed. I feel bad I had to be a cow to my teachers but that's what happens when you have to protect yourself. At least my mother was bigger, more effective cow when I needed protecting. Shame when dads don't advocate for their daughters. Only my one BIL will tear asses up over my niece. 😁🤘🏾

[@meowy4720]

And calling it a "joke". Like, WTF does the word "joke" even mean anymore? Men have no problem butchering the English language to suit their agenda.

[@rgirl1243]

Whoo! All of these were emotionally rough.

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

Omg some of these wives need to stand up. Omg it's sad. Sad.

[@aprilfox9205]

First story...What in the f did I just read???

[@MsKwesi]

Second dude never liked that woman. He was just lusting after her. He can't "have" her, so now it's "F" that B. 👀

[@marieo305]

1st story: does "creepy weird guy" cover this? Walking red parade of a husband? How far down the rabbit hole of brainwashing and mental ab4se is she? Is there nobody that can talk sense into her? Wonder about those creepy dm's though, if she's normalizing the desire to see a partner uncomfortable. 2nd story: that B had good judgement😂. OP is a baby. 3rd stoy: teacher needs to be reported, he is the sole responsible for his bad reputation. If he is not reported, he will only escalate in a few years. Husband/father needs to learn he is responsible for his daughters protection, not for protecting a creepy teacher.

[@maddart4445]

He liked the fact of making you feel uncomfortable?! He’s trash.

[@OO9O9]

westerners labelled abuse "kink"? These ppl are mental.

[@madalice5134]

ETA: The Nat 20 refers to Dungeons and Dragons. If your character has to perceive something, have some bit of insight, wisdom, etc. The DM will have the player role a dice to see if the character will succeed and a Nat 20 is a perfect roll. In this context, the dude trying to check his friend's attitude means he'd need to roll perfect to get the dude to listen to him and see he was being a creep to the girl. Story 1- Kink without consent is abuse! You don't just push your fantasy into someone like that, and you definitely don't rry to play a scene without negotiation and aftercare prep!

[@tishanasimon7600]

Her mind is messed up...he finds joy in her weaknesses...It is not physical or even emotional abuse (maybe?) but it is twisted. Why would you want someone to love you because you weak. There is no "awe" but love out of pity.

[@OO9O9]

And these westerners labelled abuse "kink"? These ppl are mental.

[@ccannon1]

Wow that first story! Like woman, he wanted to make you uncomfortable because he LIKED IT???

[@OO9O9]

westerners labelled abuse "kink"? These ppl are mental.

[@EclecticECD]

"Nat 20" refers to naturally rolling a 20 on a 20 sided die, which in a role playing game (ex: Dungeons and Dragons) gives you the best outcome via luck. Idk if anyone mentioned this, but since you were cobfused, hope this helps!

[@BurbNBougie]

Thanks 😊 I appreciate it

[@Just_a_Goth]

Oops, I didn't see your comment. I commented the same thing... 😅

[@Bubaluve]

Ok my father was a lot of thing but this guy is crazy. How can you not defend your kids? I once was walking home from school and a guy kept harassing me and said thing that were inappropriate i told my dad as soon as i got home he left to find him immediately and the guy never bothered me again he would cross the street when he say. No idea what my dad said to him to this day. My husband had this blasé attitude about our kids and someone being in appropriate with them i would divorce him.

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

What the hell was the first one, so he gets off making her needy, bought a smaller size? I would find all this crap very offensive, wont have tried it on when i saw the size. Thank the stars i do not like men buying me stuff like that!! The second guy feels just because you like someone means she likes you back? What if he is not her type? The entitlement of the guy, nobody owes you their time, company or energy!! Report the teacher because the next girl might get more that an inappropriate comment. The husband's is wrong in his understanding on the matter, i think she should report him.

[@queenshelaine5539]

Nat 20 is a D&D reference. It means throwing a 20 sided die and it comes up on 20 naturally, so you don’t have to add in and other points to it to make 20. It’s a saving throw.

[@videofan1010]

The first OP is definitely being manipulated...

[@joyofdance999]

The bar guy is mad she "ruined his night" by not beng interested back 😂

[@MelissaThompson432]

#1) I wonder where he suddenly got the idea he likes his wife restrained? "He likes it when I'm uncomfortable and begging," is not my idea of healthy. #2) "my friends just happened to know her and they 'accidentally-out-of-the-blue-with-no-nudging- from-me,' invited ourselves over to sit at her table where she was having a night out with people she _wanted_ to be with, and that spoiled HER good time...how dare she?"

[@MelissaThompson432]

"Nat 20 rolls" is a D&D term. A natural 20 on a 20 sided die, with no bonuses, ie, extra points, is hard to get; they're saying breaking his delusion is something only a person with serious mojo can do. Virtually impossible.

[@kabo3247]

My ears were BLEEDING with the second woman 😩🫠

[@wrappedaroundmyfinger]

That male in the last story is not a husband, father or man. What do we need males for at this point? I feel so bad for that litttle girl.

[@jet4415]

My friend’s father was a teacher before DNA testing. He got his student pregnant, he said he didn’t do it, and he is STILL teaching into his late 70s. He accepted the child when the boy was 18. (He’s a cheapskate) I’m a teacher and find this so repulsive and never go around the family when he is there. Narcissists do NOT get better with age.

[@jenndesharnais6101]

He is turned on by her being insecure... huge red flag!! He should have talked to her first so she could have known it was a fantasy. Instead, he wanted her to genuinely feel uncomfortable and insecure. That's a terrible thing to do to anyone male or female. He gets off on her feeling terrible about herself... that's gross! If he cared about her, he would have talked about his fantasy so she could be comfortable with it. It's mentally abusive. Part of his fantasy is bringing her down so he could lift her back up. It's a head game and a control issue. He wants to control her emotions, and that's EVIL!

[@sue487]

1st story this man is cheating a has successfully got his wife to believe his stupid story

[@esther_inbloom]

He bought that lingerie for someone else. It's clear as day. She came home early remember. She seems so sweet, and, lost. Why must Women go through this kind of nightmare?

[@zedmak]

I thought he wanted her to lose weight on the sly. This is much more sinister

[@thepoliticalcat]

It's COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE for a teacher to comment on the bodily development of a child. And the boldness with which he did it indicates he's done it before. You might be saving a lot of little girls some suffering by reporting this POS. He needs consequences for his actions. And, yes, I do think he is a pdf file.

[@NOYB28]

My husband would never say it wasn’t anything and if he did we would divorce. Because men that say stuff like that are pedos and it might escalate where one of those students gets harmed! Then she’d have to live with the guilt that maybe she could have stopped him. The first one she’s a little left behind 😂 because no one who loves you will get off on your discomfort.

[@thekameru6058]

Story 3 - If op had bought a lifestock guarding dog and it's reaction to being told a drooling wolf was staring at one of your lambs was a whiney, pathetic 'oh lets not ruin the poor wolf's life, its only drooling and whining and spooking the sheep right now, it might come back and cause problems if I see it off, eeeh' you'd get rid of the fuckin dog as a useless liability.

[@msthang5366]

“She had to gather courage”, WOW!! My heart hurts so much for women in these unbalanced relationships. Happy to be dying alone. I own no pets.

[@La_Ru-yg8es]

That third story, just wow. Even most guys who'll take up for other guys regularly will draw the line where their daughters are concerned. That dad is messed up, but at least he's consistent. 😬🙄

[@thesecretshade]

Nat 20 is a term used in DnD. Its the highest roll when you roll the dices. So what he says makes sense 😂

[@HunterLvyiXIII]

Story #3 "it'll become a dangerous situation" *it already is a dangerous situation*

[@sandrao-xr3lv]

Nat 20 means natural 20 its a dice roll for dungeons and dragons thats hard to get and used to check success of an action during the game

[@the.masked.one.studio4899]

The one with the tight lingerie gave me flashbacks and a panic attack of how my aunt used to force me to wear clothing that was too small and physically painful. When she was helping my daughter and I she would tell me I wasn’t allowed to buy clothes and I had to wear her old clothes or would force her unworn “shopping spree” mistakes onto me. She’s about a foot shorter than me and at least one size too small. I didn’t know at the time but I’m gender non conforming and along with the physical pain I’d feel, I would give me bad gender dysphoria. This wasn’t the only issue, but we ended up going no contact 2 years ago.

[@atlanteancherub2560]

Nat 20 rolls is a Dungeons and Dragons reference. It has to do with the rolling of the 20-sided die. Lol

[@Just_a_Goth]

Unrelated mostly, but Nat 20 = Natural 20. It refers to 20-faced dice typically used for most rolls in games like Dungeons and Dragons. We call this a "critical success". If you see the term "Nat 1", it is the same except that this means a "critical failure".

[@nyxdwolf]

Nat 20 is a dungeon and dragons/table top gaming term where you roll a 20 (the highest natural roll) when doing an action during a scenario. Usually the scenario has a value you have to meet with your roll along with any bonuses or negative attributes which adds to the roll value. When you roll a 20 by itself it’s an automatic success.

[@essmac3453]

@BurgNBougie the Nat 20 comment is refering to Role playing games e.g. dungeons and dragons. When you roll a nat20 it's almost always a critical success.

[@Alex-mc5yn]

11:50 so, in tabletop games like DnD, 20-side dice are used. Generally when you roll for some ability or skill check, you get a number that is shown on your dice + whatever buffs and debuffs you have. However, even when the number requirement is >20, when you roll a 20, the action you are trying to take is an automatic success, and this is called a nat(ural) 20.

[@Zzz-ff1np]

that first lady is delusional. Even if he just figured out he's a sadist, a decent dude would bring it up in convo first and not just jump to treating you like an m without a discussion of boundaries. The second ladies husband is suspect and that teacher is so gross and inappropriate.

[@cindychristian1700]

I once read in an Ann Landers column where this wife wanted to know how to handle her formerly cheating husband! He had an affair, and she actually saw the woman and and noticed her expensive jewelry! Her husband ended the affair after she found out but a year or so later he gave his wife some of the same kind of jewelry that he gave to his former mistress!😢 She told him that she appreciated the gift but it reminded her of his affair! He didn't deny knowing that it was the same kind of jewelry and told her she was overly sensitive because the affair was over! She wanted Ann Landers to help her to get him to understand that his behavior was making her feel sad and uncomfortable! Ann told her to tell him that his affair still hurt her and that she needed time and that the jewelry was just a reminder of what he had done!

[@Iquey]

"nat 20 rolls" is a Dungeons and Dragons / Table top roleplaying game reference. If you roll the 20 sides dice and it lands on the 20, that means it's really lucky! If you get a character you're playing having something they try to do hinge on the D20, then 20 means their attack/healing/charisma/vicious mockery interaction on another player or NPC in the story is extremely powerful! But a slim chance/almost miracle. So basically the comment was saying, men holding other men accountable and them coming to their senses is like a 1/20 chance miracle.

[@SRHisntSilent]

9:47 THIS!!! I DON'T FOCKIN UNDERSTAND I don't see how the *father* could have taken his daughter being sexualized *by a TEACHER* so lightly.

[@Emo2heart]

Natt 20 rolls was a DND reference. And I laughed so hard 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 because ma'am

[@JettSettingBengal]

Story 3: hoping he’s not, but what if the teacher is an actual predator? The dad is willing to ignore his comment?