3 Ways To Regain Your Husband's Respect | The Happy Wife School Show Ep.12

[@thehappywifeschool]

Video Timestamps: 0:00 Welcome 3:23 Topic Introduction 7:00 What is Respect? 17:29 #1 Make Yourself Happy 22:50 #2 Learn to be Fun Again 25:49 #3 Learn to Enjoy Sex 35:44 Message for Men 38:33 Questions and Comments

[@MarshallMcCrory]

@thehappywifeschool Surely you don't believe these words. I cannot begin to think that women care? Have you not read any of my previous comments?

[@orangeandslinky]

I heard this as a little boy 60 years ago from a woman talking to another woman. "A woman has the RIGHT to change her mind, about anything, at any time, for any reason, as many times as she wants to." That sounded weird to me as a 10-year-old. I asked my mom if that was true. She said, yes it is. So, can you make a covenant with a woman if she lives by this code? Of course not. If you think you have found a woman that does not live by this female code, you are so so wrong. Until the laws are changed to protect men from women, there is no way you should ever get married as I did.

[@jasoncarter4343]

You are right. I’m happily married with 5 kids. I have always been the sole financial provider. If my wife ever had a change of heart, she could easily destroy me financially. It’s a no fault state and no prenup. No man should ever sign a contract when the other party is financially incentivized to break that contract.

[@starguy2718]

"A man's word is his bond", but "a woman can change her at any time, for any reason". There's the crux of the problem, right there.

[@orangeandslinky]

@@starguy2718 Yes!

[@orangeandslinky]

@@jasoncarter4343 so true. Until the laws protect men, we have to shut marriage down right now. It is men talking to men all over the world that is waking all of us up.

[@Neoteny374]

Been noticing this since elentary school. I have four sisters. Boys are taught to be a man of thier word. Girls are taught its a woman's prerogative to change her mind.

[@WillDegraaf]

Proverbs 14 vs 1 the wise woman builds her house but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands

[@The5upermann1]

I have never heard a woman honestly talk about this. It is enlightening.

[@radmcbad1576]

One thing that could contribute to problems is if you devalue what he does for you while requiring more. Instead of paying attention to the 99% he does right, you focus on the 1% he does wrong. Here is a practical example. He cleans the house but forgets to whipe down a counter, and you are upset about the counter, though the entire house is clean now. Guys can't stand this behavior

[@candiceroccia6219]

It breaks my heart to read the comment section on here and hear how men feel. What an eye opener. You are doing very important work here and your content needs to be heard. I have three sons in their 20's and they tell me all of the time that they feel they will never find a woman to marry. They want a traditional relationship like they saw my husband and I have. They cannot stand the woke attitudes and feminist girls who are their age. I am so glad that the algorithm sent your Chanel my way. I will be married 30 years next year and I have subscribed as I want to improve our marriage even further and I have room to grow and learn. We are empty nesters now and we are having so much fun but I want to surprise my husband and grow even more intimate and honor the amazing man that he is. Thank you for your service!!!! One thing that I must say is both my husband and I have always cared more about making each other happy than ourselves. It is having an unselfish attitude and I believe what you put out is what you get back. We have had our stages where we were bitter and angry and I swear, when I changed my attitude his changed like magic!

[@nerychristian]

Your husband is a lucky man. It sounds like you really love your husband. And even though you have had a good marriage, you are still showing humility and looking for ways to improve. Most women won't even try to change, even if their marriages fall apart. And yes, make sure your sons find good women. When they bring women for you to meet, don't be afraid to ask those women tough questions, like asking about exes, asking about their views on raising children, or their views about what they believe is the role of a good wife.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

As a man I thank you for your honesty.

[@hotice8885]

Another man, appreciating the courage it took to say what you said, when you could have dodged around the whole thing. God bless you

[@candiceroccia6219]

@@hotice8885 Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you!

[@susanhaines7358]

Facts!!! I have two sons and I am not raising them to use women or be selfish. A good woman does not make a selfish man unselfish. So many people believe I will do this or that if my partner does this. Selfish.

[@RussellDion]

Family guy summed this up very quickly…. “I’m a husband Brain, a husband is someone who pays for everything, yet is somehow burdensome” Brilliant and would be more funny if it was not so true.

[@turbo1gts]

Men like to fix things. When the wife is unhappy, we have the feeling of unease as we contemplate how to fix the enigma machine that is our wife.

[@derfalschejunge]

It is not an enigma. It is just an impossible task.

[@orangeandslinky]

@@derfalschejunge Sadly, your right. I say sadly because I miss the illusion of doing life with a wife. If you are male, you now are hated just for being in existence.

[@ytthecommunistplatform.2675]

Pmsl you cant fix them because they were made broken .

[@orangeandslinky]

@@ytthecommunistplatform.2675 Yes. Sadly your right. Now we men have to adjust our total thinking about them and marriage and family and trust and covenant and everything.

[@danilaroche1156]

Stop. Don't be so bitter.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Jason Hill, my purpose for my channel is to fulfill God's calling for me. Thank you for recognizing and acknowledging that in the chat today.

[@starguy2718]

You have called yourself a "recovering feminist", but now you say you are following God's calling. What was your moment of "conversion"?

[@karamlevi]

@@starguy2718she said in the video… I would pass someone who’s a stranger and be really nice, then be cold/mean to my husband who’s there for me. That hurt her when she realized it. Why? She views herself as a really really good and won’t except her self otherwise. She has strong self honesty potential. And that woke her up imo. This is my guestamate-

[@importdoc7]

@@karamleviI think you are asking about the moment of conversion of accepting Christ into her life right?

[@b.d.hooten1785]

@@starguy2718 feminism, by definition, is the polar opposite of God's intention for women. When one leaves feminism, they turn around and head the opposite direction. Only with the smallest amount of self-reflection do they suddenly find themselves in God's lap. A "recovering feminist" that hasn't found God yet - really hasn't actually "recovered".

[@freethinkman7678]

You don’t have to believe in one of the many god claims out there to be a good person… maybe some people need that but it’s not for all. Sometimes I do think men wrote the bible to get women to behave better. Female nature has always been a struggle for men to live with.

[@MichaelHabner]

This should be compulsory knowledge for all women contemplating marriage. I'm in tears!

[@starguy2718]

It's 2023; because the laws of marriage and divorce are so one-sided, in favor of women, you should not even be *considering* getting married.

[@VelvetyMoon]

@@starguy2718why are you telling other people what to consider for their own lives? That's mind boggling to me.

[@dallasbohanan269]

Because they will suffer

[@hijaovercomer5500]

@@dallasbohanan269the husband of the lady that is doing this video is not suffering , my husband stop suffering when I found this channel and got confronted with my wrong doing and like us there are many women changing thanks to this good channel and to their willing to change , so who are you to try to be so manipulative and tell people what they should do ? You are here criticizing women and you are doing the same! Heal your resentment against women and you will be able to give a good advice to someone else ! Have a good day 😊!

[@VelvetyMoon]

@@steelearmstrong9616 I think you may have missed my point. Telling someone not to consider marrying is erroneous advice, rooted in someone else's own fear and past trauma, and not applicable to every person they happen to throw said advice at. They shouldn't be telling ANYONE what to consider or not consider for their own lives, just because something isn't for them just because they see something a certain way. There are plenty of people marriage IS for. Whether marriage is for him, for you, for anyone else (or not) isn't something I'm arguing.

[@valdius85]

I agree with what you’re saying. I’ve noticed many women forgot about positive reinforcement long time ago. Many husbands will do a lot for their wife if they feel feminine energy from his. That can only be accomplished when a woman takes care of herself and when sex life is good. And I mean good, not just out of obligation.

[@johnnydiscover2838]

I love your content Karin! As a loving father I have received much backlash, hate and anger from my teenage daughter. My son who is younger than my daughter has learned to follow these same rebellious behaviours. Some of these behaviours has been instilled and influenced into women at a young age, feminist, school, friends, social media etc. Can you please make more videos for father and daughter son relationships, it’s become a nightmare with the outside influencers!!! A video that I can show my daughter and son, So that we can calm down the situation and seek help, counseling!! I love my children enormously and I don’t want to lose them. 🙏❤️

[@turbo1gts]

I noticed years ago, if my wife watched lifetime television with our grade school aged daughter around during the day, our daughter would be really resentful and rebellious towards me when I got home from work. I discussed this with my wife, and surprisingly, she did as I asked and stopped watching that crapp with our daughter around. It really made a difference.

[@jasoncarter4343]

I have 3 sons and 2 daughters. My advice is to take the bull by the horns. None of my children get away with even a hint of disrespect. I am their father, not their friend. Daughters require a more delicate approach. Just spending time going on a walk together and talking about things that interest her can make a huge difference. I’m not a dictator but I don’t allow bad behavior or bad attitudes to go unchecked. Women, even daughters, can lose respect for men that act weak.

[@orangeandslinky]

Johnny, counselors are feminists. They aren't even allowed to know what Karen is saying. I watched therapists come on Kevin Samuels and they didn't have a clue what's going on. Will you lose your kids to this? Yes you will. Prepare for it best you can. Just because you are a man breathing, makes you the toxic one. I was married for 35 years. My wife left when we were 61 years old and our son totally lost it. He was watching how to do life, watching his mom and dad. When my wife just left to go find herself, our son seen us both as total fakes. That was 10 years ago. It's MUCH worse now.

[@SomeGuy-xf9bc]

@@turbo1gts Lifetime should be rebranded as the "Men are Evil" channel.

[@ppepke70]

You are talking about my wife in her complète behaviors over 8 years now. Today as I was sick lying on our bed with à bad cold she barges in turn on bright light with vacuum cleaner blazing ,, I grabed à pillow to cover my head, she ripped it off my head. I jumped up and grabed the vacuum and threw it out of the room, slammed the door them I threw all the wedding pics across the room broken glass and all. I'm so sick ,,, this women I married does not care à bit about me. She looks at me as a functionality person. Thats it. Horrible ,,, this women who makes these videos is so right. I would give my wife everything,,,but she cares nothing to fix our marriage. Yep,,, just like you said. I try to hug her and be fun and playful and she always pulls away,, and SHE NEVER COMES TO HUG ME,,,NEVER, she removed all the love ,fun, etc,,

[@imonlydancingsal1509]

Hang in there bud. I've been there. Love yourself, don't give her your energy, any energy good or bad. While she behaves so coldly, she must not be rewarded. You need to work on your esteem. Is she like someone from your past, an ex, your mum maybe? Don't accept a future of hopeless pain. Resist peacefully or walk away.

[@jasoncarter4343]

No woman can love a man she does not respect. You teach people how to treat you by allowing certain types of behavior in your life.

[@susanhaines7358]

There are two emotional people in this marriage. That's a huge issue.

[@mordecai144k2]

@@susanhaines7358No. the huge issue is his emotions are triggered by her careless behavior. Having emotions doesn’t make a man a problem. It’s a two way street in relationships: while the man should indeed control his emotions… the women should never provoke them in the first place. And if she does, she has the responsibility of not doing it again. The man was sick in bed. He isn’t at 100%, and yet you still demonized him. I hate to make this example, but it’s much the same way with animals… You learn to respect their nature and not provoke them. Yet if a person provokes a dog and they bite them, you understand perfectly that the person is at fault, even if the animal was trained to refrain from attacking them. But with other human beings, all of a sudden… this knowledge goes out the window and people think they can just do whatever they want with no regard to human nature. Which is just another type of animal.

[@tjhammer24]

​@@mordecai144k2great response and example brother

[@joejones4296]

All of those bad behaviors describe my ex wife. I tried everything I could, but she treated me terribly for years. When I tried to stand up for myself she divorced me. I miss what could have been. She tore it down.

[@wattsurfrigginproblem]

✊ solidarity with you (30+years invested in a failed relationship), chin up and treat yourself well; with dignity and self respect.

[@RobertPool-nz5ss]

Stay strong brother go your own way and never forget who you are not alone

[@hotice8885]

" _I miss what could have been_ ." Even though I would have said it a bit differently, This HIT me!!!! I am hearing you, and I relate!!!

[@majorsam83]

Me too, brother. Recentlly divorced after 28 years; when I stood up to her, she divorced me, too.

[@xingchao9125]

Karyn. You are truly a blessing to this world and especially to millions of men. Please please keep doing this channel. I will keep sharing your videos to countless people. You are amazing ❤❤❤

[@rbeysrl7]

A widower now for almost three years. I know now I had found the "needle in the haystack". Would love to find a "graduate of The Happy Wife School"...what Karyn says is soo true of women today, "what will you give me, what will I get" is the prevailing attitude - doesn't need to be said, men are NOT stupid, we sense it a mile away....no humility, no real love...Thank you Karyn!

[@karamlevi]

Whoa!!!!! That’s a idea. Omg 🤩🫶

[@rabidgator6473]

I think I need’s to be said, this is my view as a husband of 26 years. I think the wives should know that, husbands as a general rule want to be the best for our wives. We want to be the best in every aspect of our relationship, and marriage. It’s difficult for a husband to be be the best for her, when you tear up down, or saying everything we do is wrong or bad, and stupid. Keep in mind ladies, we think about things differently, we may be analytic, or creative, or logical when approaching something. That’s not a bad thing, if everyone thought of how to solve problems the same, how would we ever get problems solved ? This does go back to the Bible, Eve was Adam’s “helper”, so she was half of the couple, Adam was the other half; and together they made a whole. I know someone will point out that I said Eve was the “helper”, however, Adam was also Eve’s helper. So why would either person want to hurt the other person ? We need to stop and remember why we got married to begin with. Life has a tendency to damaging to our marriages, it’s up to the couple to decide that the other person is important, even when we feel that we have been set aside or we’re not the priority. We need to make an effort to say something positive to each other. No matter what, or how hard the day was.

[@QuietlyPeaceful]

Thank you. As a woman and wife, for some reason this made me emotional and so happy. Thank you @rabidgator6473 Thank you good men. And yes, my husband is the best! ❤

[@jonodonnell9926]

I'm hopeful that my wife will watch this entire video. I am also doubtful. I have been trying and trying and trying but I seem to be the only one. I'm always in the wrong no matter what I do. I do make mistakes I lose my temper here and there verbally but I'm always just trying to make the better of everything. I hope she can learn to try to respect me again after 29 years of marriage and three grown kids.❤

[@JamesPetroff]

Never become reactive, like an angry little girl. ALWAYS KEEP CONTROL OF YOURSELF. She is projecting hatred of herself (immature, selfish little princess), and wants you to be worse. Do not give her what she wants. It will only make it worse. She will HATE YOU then, more than herself. If she does not grow up, break up. It never gets better by providing love and support. She has to change her outlook and grow up. Maintain youself and your grown up boundaries. My first wife never grew up - EVER.

[@robhines2235]

My wife and I have been in the "Roommate" phase for way too long for us to come back from this and get back where we once were a decade or more ago. She said she knows she has things she needs to work on, but never does.

[@Eliukcory]

1 @Eliukcory 27 minutes ago Send her the video. Some times we need perspective to understand what’s what, and then there’s a chance of it being managed. I’m just waiting for the right time to give this to my wife. This chic is articulate enough I just hope my wife can swallow her pride to do what needs doing snd is right. The difference here if they can buy the angle that they are actually the ass hole they always thought we are and that the ass hole we are is the one that they have created by “fixing” us.they might actually do some thing. They’ve purchased their own lie and friends reenforce it. But there’s so many pieces that fit I hope she can turn the key to unlock this problem. For sure she can see that what the status quo is, is not effective!

[@wattsurfrigginproblem]

Solidarity with you, brother. 30+ years and the last 15 were about the way you described. I made these declarations and since am on the outs. I am now the "waiting man" in an attempt to have faith that it could change and battling with the belief that it could. I suspect it is foolishness but it's my own stupidity that got me in this deep. So, chin up and treat yourself well with dignity and self respect. ✌️

[@susanhaines7358]

What's the point of her trying for the marriage? She will only benefit for herself and possibly a new relationship

[@chucko12]

I think a lot of red pill knowledge deals with the fact that they have the the data now. One particular gender is affected much more strongly by the Coolidge effect than the other gender, to the point the one gender could go forever without intimacy once the initial 4 to 18 month "tingles and butterflies "period is over. So now through the disseminating of knowledge the web makes possible, why would any man commit to a legal binding to suffer this for a lifetime???

[@larrybrinley8222]

What do you mean "Roommate" phase?

[@brandonjones557]

I so need this right now. I am struggling here. Even when these thing are talked about and changes are made they are never permanent. I have felt disrespected, made it aware and even though the words change for a while the actions always show a lack of respect. I am at a point of being ready to leave. This helps me understand that I AM NOT CRAZY.

[@steveos5112]

Great job Karen. Your message is important to talk about. I wish your channel was around 20 years ago. It too late for me as I was married almost 28 years. I’m divorced now for 6 years. Happy, But now you help answers that I often asked myself during my marriage that I couldn’t answer. Keep going Karen. I’ve already noticed seeing another channel reference one of your videos. Keep on swimming 😊

[@martyyoung598]

All I have to say, Karyn, is that after gaining confidence to divorce my current wife knowing I am not the crazy one, I’ll only engage with a woman again if she is willing to take (and pass) your happiness course. I’ll be more than happy to pay for it! What an insight you have!

[@saezon6305]

Lemme guess, when asked about the last wife, "She was crazy!" Thanks Karen.

[@marshaschmid4322]

I had a failed marriage. I can see my part in the demise. Self reflection is a painful process, but I am so grateful. I don’t want to make the same mistakes if I take the marriage road again .

[@Crottinger]

All men watching this live stream. No women. Nothing will change

[@Time_to_Live_for_Joy]

Woman watching replay. Hoping to file off rough edges. Hoping to rekindle my marriage with an undecided ex-husband (whose heart is dedicated and attached but so deeply hurt by me). There is hope. Our daughters are being raised to respect men and consider them - I see this with them and their father and brother.

[@VelvetyMoon]

@@Time_to_Live_for_Joygood for you. Keep showing him you love him in any genuine way you can. Watching videos like this is a good way to help be self aware and continue to heal your marriage. I hurt my husband in many ways earlier on in our marriage. I simply was not a good person or wife in many ways. He has forgiven me and we are stronger for the past 7 years than we ever were before. There is hope ❤

[@lonniejolly5882]

​@@Privateprivateprivyshouldn't have to change bet you on your best behavior before he married you.

[@taketheredpill1452]

Don't get married. With the laws DESIGNED to destroy men, there's NO reason...

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

Thank you for helping me not feel crazy.

[@marklowe5939]

My wife is still fun but she is fun for “just a friend”….. she says our marriage problems are all in my head… except she goes to the pool and when her “friend” is there she loves splashing and being splashed… by him but she’d never allow me to be that way with her…. Wonder why I wanted to see her phone…. I’m supposed to trust her…lol we’re divorcing.😮😮😮😮😂😮😮😢😢😢😢

[@MattB74]

Thank you for sharing your experience and work. Everything you said is so important and true. All women need this and need to fully understand this.

[@stevenfoerst9821]

You are great. God bless you and your husband. My wife tried to change her vocabulary, but she spent years telling me I am not worth an opinion. To stay away from the money and she isn't interested in sex. 😢

[@jasoncarter4343]

And your still with her?

[@stevenfoerst9821]

@jasoncarter4343 Sadly, yes and I keep trying to get a divorce. She is impossible. Small changes and finds ways of stealing control again. She thinks she can fix it (without a coach) but keeps failing to change. 7 years of trying to get away from her.

[@jasoncarter4343]

I’m sorry to hear that. I suffered through a 9 year marriage that was both sexless (mostly) and emotionally abusive and draining. I finally had enough disrespect, grew some balls and divorced her sorry a$$. She begged me not to but it was too late. I remarried and now have 5 kids. My current wife does not disrespect me and can’t get enough bedroom fun. This is primarily because I’m no longer a nice guy. I do my part to be her best option but I don’t take any sh!t from her. I’m not an a-hole but I don’t accept disrespect from any woman.

[@majorsam83]

Thanks for this video - almost everything you are saying about a wife - my wife was NOT - she chise to be unhappy, cruel, uncaring, unempathetic. And there was nothing I could do about it. I sincerely hope and pray that she decides to change… for herself.

[@tracyraven7444]

Soooo much great advice as usual, I hope you write a book Karyn ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@MrJfortheElohim]

24:34 you hit the nail on the head. Bait and switch brides.

[@larryblake3177]

You have such a kind face and manner. I so appreciate all you do for both men and women. You bring me to tears but also put a smile on my face. Thanks!

[@angelcandelaria6728]

It took me my whole life to realize my mom didn’t like my wife because my wife called her out on her bullshit all the time. It caused so many problems until i had to cut my mother off for crossing the line one too many times!

[@miriandoherty6755]

You did the right thing. My mother in law destroyed my marriage, and my husband allowed it. I wasted all my life with anger and resentment. We used to be so happy away from her.

[@dmvarea4644]

Thanks for this platform and letting me know I’m not alone.

[@jimjohnson394]

I would like to add a #4 on how to gain respect back and that is to learn to let go of this need to be right with every stupid decision. There are so many little decisions that can just as easily go either way, but if she needs to put in her two cents, or worse, argue about the details, it will quickly come to the point where I will just check out and do my own thing.

[@hotice8885]

That is a BIG one.

[@hampyonce]

I think I am certain that actually being alone has to be better than being married to a woman who is too busy putting everything else before my needs. I'm about to find out, I guess. I've been ignored for over 30 years. Enough is too much.

[@thehappywifeschool]

Paul Brown, you asked in the chat, "How do you analyze women's responses that say their husbands are narcissists when they are not?" Great question. Watch this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o3StqWaBd8uijqs.

[@ratoneJR]

The real question is why would a wife care so little about losing her husbands respect? Respect once loss will never regain it's former power. What is at once seen can never be truly unseen. The wife will ALWAYS be seen differently.

[@VelvetyMoon]

Maybe control/ego issues, sociopathy, heartlessness. Godlessness which can drive these things further. These are some major issues in people's lives today.

[@hotice8885]

" _Why would a wife care so little about losing her husband's respect_ ?" Do I EVER hear the *ANGUISH* in that question!!!!

[@christys.3912]

As a woman who has been betrayed deeply by my husband and lost respect for him, have regained the respect I had and much more over the years. So that's not always true. Yes, it's very hard to get it back, but it can happen. I do have the Lord on my side though and he helped me tremendously in that aspect of my marriage, and helped my husband tremendously even though he isn't as close to the Lord. God can make things new and even better if we allow it.

[@marcfox622]

I am divorced after 24 years of marriage. Karyn you say that women have a switch and walls. On our wedding say the switch turned off and the walls went up. It stayed that way for 24 years and she divorced me. Even though our marriage was horrible for the entire 24 years I always had hope. I am old school and really don't believe in divorce unless there is a real reason. I am a good man and never gave her a good reason to divorce. she was always so unhappy and of course blamed me. The emasculation I endured was the most painful thing I have ever endured. I am sad that I never got to experience what a great marriage is like. I wanted it in the worst way. I have been divorced for almost 20 years now staying single the entire time. Now after watching your videos I am more open to another relationship. My marriage was so much work trying to make her happy that I didn't think I ever could do that again. If I could find a woman that has an open mind that understands men and our needs and she knows how to make herself happy I feel it won't be as much work. My ex wife was an empty bucket with holes in the bottom and I could never fill it. So thank you for your insight and I will keep my eyes out for a good woman which may be a difficult find especially at my age. Thank you Karyn.

[@edwo6648]

Part of your healing would be to take responsibility for your choosing to stay in a marriage where your wife did not honor her vows to you.

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

Keep your own house and say no to legal or common-law marriage

[@JohnDretired]

Most women won't bother. Mine certainly doesn't.

[@williambowers7100]

Karen, I assume you know you are teaching a lot of Stoic Wisdom with your teachings. Time tested and powerful! You have helped me a lot. I can not change my wife, her ears are closed to you, saying you are a beat down woman. I will be patient with her, but I cannot change her. I can only change myself.

[@theoracle5265]

Respect in my humble opinion is one of the top three foundational aspects to any relationship, but for me Trust is number One (1) Then respect (2) and faithfulness (3) If any of these are missing the relationship will never be healthy and probably at the very least will not be satisfying and will eventually come to an end.

[@josefranciscodasilvaeolive674]

Thw fact that these videos are constantly being made and these topics are being repeatedly addressed reveals thw depth of the problem. We are living through evil times. Our enemies are our own family and the mother of our children. We are betrayed in every way shape and form while being gaslit by every institution and "professional". At this point, it has become clear that certain Truths have been rediscovered. They are ugly but real. Men, we must be each other's support through this all because our women have turned on us and can no longer be trusted. You are doing good work Karen, but I am here ro tell you it isn't going to do a lick of good.

[@ryanmalone2681]

Honestly, I could be happy with the relationship without any of these things. If she just wasn't so nasty and venomous, even when I'm trying to do the right thing or help her, I'd be happy. No sex, no affection, no anything, I could still enjoy her company if she was simply as nice to me as she would be a stranger. That's really all I NEED. Everything else is a want and I could get on without it.

[@SomeGuy-xf9bc]

I get where you are at, but look how low you have set your expectations. If there are no kids involved, consider making your exit.

[@ryanmalone2681]

@@SomeGuy-xf9bc I actually had a talk with her a few weeks ago and told her if she’s completely checked out, I’m leaving her and will start over again. If she hasn’t completely checked out, and wants to try and make it work, that’s what I want, but she needs to treat me as well as she’d treat a stranger at a minimum. I didn’t push for any affection or sex because frankly I don’t find her attractive any more. I was surprised because she looked terrified and was also angry at herself for being a housewife and letting her career go because she had no idea what she would do and how she could support herself because I wouldn’t let her take the kids back to the country she’s from. Things aren’t perfect, but I’m taking her feedback and trying to make changes to make her happier, although she’s got a long list and not all of it is real, and while it’s not perfect, she’s dulled the edge and not showing the vitriol and venom she was actively showing me. So a step in the right direction.

[@scu2r]

There is no reason for a man to get married. The pressure intensifies when you take those vows and ultimately the wife feels entitled to whatever she wants and gets it one way or the other.

[@Steverz32]

Sorry I missed class today, we were finishing off the paperwork on my wife’s new Prius😂It’s her 2nd new car in 18 years. Like me ,she is fugal with our money as well👍

[@erikaahello0880]

I am so happy I found this channel and found you Karin Ty for your advice! 😊

[@rubensoria7457]

That's a huge truth....

[@johntiggleman4686]

There have been so many things in my wife's life that has affected her, it would take up a lot of space here. I will mention that when she was 12 (she's 68 now), he mom died in a car accident, and basically raised her two younger brothers. Her dad worked nights in a factory and did a little farming during the day. Her four older brothers were absolutely no help whatsoever. They were all either married or in college. One of them that was married and lived close by, but gave her no help, nor did his wife. That is just one thing that has messed her up; she still gets upset thinking about it. Getting a hug that lasts more than 2 seconds has just disappeared. Kisses are mostly quick pecks. We haven't had sex in 18 years, and then last year decided that she was too old. Meanwhile, I at 73 am not. Oh, and she drinks a lot of wine to "cope." As someone famous once said "There's no use worrying: nothing's gonna turn out alright."

[@amylee6038]

I grew up in a family of 7 living on $6/day. No electricity, no plumbing, no furniture, and I went to bed hungry often. We usually ate just once a day. It was in a war zone. My uncle was shot dead and I was assaulted to teach my village a lesson about paying the revolutionary tax and not informing on the guerillas. I can go on but I have never seen any reason for a tough childhood to dictate how I treat my husband.

[@jasoncarter4343]

Why would you stay married to a broken person who is not capable of creating a healthy marriage?

[@johntiggleman4686]

@@amylee6038 That is just a part of it. Our firstborn had a botched delivery, and ended up with mentally impaired (4 year old mental level), had two kinds of epilepsy. Years of trying to get a handle on it; and we did get the seizures mostly controlled. Later in his life his medication levels became toxic and he would attack people for no reason. In the years between his birth and getting a better grip on things, the wife ended up with cardiac disrhythmia from the stress. But that's enough of that. Sorry to bleed on people here. Frustrated AF

[@johntiggleman4686]

@@jasoncarter4343 Hellifiino. Maybe just to much of a "nice guy."

[@amylee6038]

@@johntiggleman4686 That sure is a tough situation. Sorry for your troubles with the first born. So this is a problem for you as well as her, and I don't hear you saying it is a reason to mistreat your wife. The one thing I don't see you doing is assigning any agency to her at all.

[@the_smoking_patriot3993]

Found this channel the other day, been enjoying your content. Keep it up, it’s desperately needed today. Gonna send your channel to my GF

[@robertballast9241]

You are doing the world a great service .. Thank you

[@HighOnScience]

Its a wow thank you, still I went monk mode 2 years ago. I never try to approach women on a personal basis anymore. Generations, I will die alone and I am not happy about it...thanks to you😄

[@TephaRhi]

Excited for the video with your husband! Thanks for another great one Karen!!

[@lb1789]

Big fan of your work

[@leolazaris1010]

Thank you for these truth bombs!!!!

[@Josieloveslavender]

Thank you so much Karen ❤

[@traviskellogg867]

I have two stories from before I got married. 1. She stayed the night a few times in my apartment. One day she mentioned that she was upset by me not making the bed in the morning. The next three days i left for work while she was still in the bed. Every one of those three days I came home to a bed that was not made. 2. We had a thanksgiving get together with my family and hers. We where having a verbal joust, joking back and forth, when she came back with "...well if you do that you can get out of my house." While in my apartment, leased in my name, that i was paying 100% of the rent every month. I was young, dumb, and didn't see the signs. Sexless marriage for a while now. Trying to make it work but it seems she's getting less and less happy as i try to do more. Im hoping things will work out. Dont want a divorce because if that happens, ill consider it a personal failure.

[@charmoflucky]

Have u ever seen a group of husbands discussing how to make their wives happy , with such seriousness and underlying sad feeling ?

[@hotice8885]

Have ever seen that? YES. Quite often, in fact--and I have seenit for decades. In church men's meetings and Bible study groups, the topic OFTEN revolves around loving wives: How to donit, how we fail at doing it, how we need to do better, etc. Most Promise Keeper sermons dive right into that, as well, and it is hard to find a Father's Day sermon that simply CELEBRATES AND HONORS FATHERS. Most of them turn into a lecture about being a better husband (see how the kids were left out right there, as well?).

[@susanhaines7358]

​@@hotice8885that's awesome. I have never heard of a sermon in church about husbands. Very inspiring

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

Yeah at bars and golf parks everywhere it happens

[@ralph1655]

Ive recently sent several of your shows to my wife of 38 years, i hope and pray that she watched them. She is a devoted catholic and a good person, but the denial of sex in the marriage is making me angry.

[@TheHillrat4wd]

Your not alone, my wife broke my spirit and soul by willfully withholding sex, it went on for years, once I broke I started drinking heavily. Then that was held against me, it Was a endless cycle. I finally had to violate my entire belief system and I filed for a divorce and of course she is the victim and I'm the bad guy. All I wanted was the girl I married.

[@lonniejolly5882]

Wow!!@

[@roncoon3464]

Ms. Seitz, ma’am, could you do an episode on “Menopause.” What you ladies are going through, its permanence, and the after effects to the marriage? Thank you

[@davidcave5426]

"Happy wife, happy life...provided the woman is happy in herself. Otherwise, run for the hills!"

[@nobodyimportant9127]

1 respect 2 appreciation 3 cuddles😂 Honestly, men ain't that complicated

[@smokedawg9371]

You’re absolutely speaking truth. It’s not rocket science. I love it. Please Consider talking about female solipsism .

[@glempy]

In 46 years, I've never seen a self-help book in the house that I didn't get for myself. I've gone to individual therapy for depression for years. She has pronounced that she WILL NOT CHANGE. Sure, I have my share of issues and have truly changed trying to "fix" us. She won't watch helpful videos. She'd never tolerate this video. I'm done.

[@DavidLyons-k3q]

Greatly appreciate the content you are providing. You deliver such valuable information that I'm not seeing from other women. Please keep up the good work!

[@bigboy11271]

I’d offer respect isn’t just required because we’re human. Men want respect and appreciation because we work hard to be providers, we strive to be good fathers, we sacrifice for others. Good men will literally bend over backwards for just a little appreciation and respect. But often enough we get none.

[@mrwhigham]

I don’t get how I can watch all these psychologist videos from sooooo many different doctors. Then I start watching Karyn’s videos and every single video is spot on exactly what I’m experience. Everything about myself and how I’ve reacted or responded to things. Everything she has done that I have said and pointed out to her only to be told how wrong I was. I even said to her if I am telling/saying it to you then I am not making it up. There must be something happening. So crazy. These videos are so good. Karyn thank you 😊 so much. You’ve given me back my sanity. No more doubt. But now how do I get her to watch your program or attend your school? I sent her a 10 minute video once from your show and she called you names and criticized you. Which to me meant what she saw must have been some real truth because for her to be that way, I was watching someone in such denial and complete selfishness. Love this video. I listened to entire thing and it was 100% true and accurate to my exact experiences. Thank you 😊 thank you 😊 thank you 😊 so much Karyn!!

[@SomeGuy-xf9bc]

She has said it in many videos. If you showed her the video and she reacted poorly, well, now you know. You have some tough decisions to make.

[@mrwhigham]

Yeah. This is such a tough part. Trust me I think about it a lot.

[@dannylake4357]

Your videos are awesome and right on

[@wchamp170]

You are 100% on Target. Anyone can change man or woman. Life is about choices. The ones you make or the ones you choose to ignore. I have four older sisters, I saw them destroy men growing up. I did not exactly understand what I was seeing because I was a child but it made a world of difference to me as an adult. When my ex-girlfriend decided to leave, I said goodbye and turned my back on her. The simple fact is the vast majority of women do not want to change because they are not happy unless they're making themselves and their husband/boyfriend miserable. It's unfortunate but they don't know any other way to happiness. There was a reason that I did not come across your videos until after she was gone. This was meant for whomever is the next woman in my life

[@smokedawg9371]

Love your information. Great work! According to your own words you just gave a text book definition of Narcissism.

[@leefields3658]

I am looking forward to "meeting" your husband. Early in this video I started wishing I could chat with him for a while over a cup of coffee.

[@imadoubtful2424]

How does a person just snap out of being unhappy? That's like saying, "just stop being depressed."

[@samuelstewart9247]

Thank you so so much. I want my wife to take your program.

[@jcjasik]

Receptionist: How do you write women so well? Melvin Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability. Melvin Udall played by Jack Nicholson in AS GOOD AS IT GETS.

[@jameswilson1522]

Incredible ! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Andrew-pb6hy]

Men have needed to open up to the feminine side for many generations. We also needed to stop being abusive and controlling. Now we have (generally speaking, it could never be perfect) Now its rime for women to take a step up and meet us. Its time for women to be sane.

[@briansmith303]

Yes, in all of this we must not lose sight of the problems we have inherited from history. We men are not discounting any of that, but the social pendulum has swung too far. Well said.

[@patricedenis42]

It's not the féminine side is the.problem , women since the feminolesbian's révolution change and think they Can Do anything, anytime in relationship or mariage and have no commitment, in a mariage or relation thé most Real part Is outside the relation Is with his mom, bestie, coworker and the last part with the husband. But you don't really live with her men you don't get it women doesn't love us and i 'm actually when she really loves us, she loves her bestie, girlfriends and etc. I understand if you want children you need a wife that's doesn't mean you have to fully trusted her. Don't take thé road's marriage blindnessly, just take Care, pay attention , try to see clear on her group if Friends, you will see clearly

[@ScottDschaak]

If your wife stops having sex with you, and you've complained to your guy friends for years about it. And tried everything to bring romance back in your marriage, with results lasting only days or a few weeks, you need to leave the marriage. She's never going to change, and you'll be angry, depressed and emotionally drained. That's when you don't even try or even care about sex with her anymore. Then, she will seek out attention from other men for validation. That's how I became a 66 year old single man. She couldn't believe that I would divorce her after 24 years of marriage. Just because she made a few silly mistakes! My mistake was for putting up with a sexless marriage for 20-plus years and being too afraid or too lazy to leave. What a waste of 20 years of my life just because I couldn't man up and walk away.

[@grantcurrin4934]

H! two sides to this story, your carnal desire and thoughts won out. The other side is you loved her for many years. You did not waste a day. Every day you took care of what she needed. A hug, a ear, a arm to lean on. Every day you did this, no matter how she treated you, is a day you loved her. That is all that counts. Loved her unconditionally. PS I've lived this the last 10 years, I'm 54, and it just seems to get harder to deal with the intimacy rejection. Both are responsible to care and it's your responsibility to be happy from deep inside, no matter what. Hope you find someone who cares for you.

[@kevinforman251]

WOW!!

[@gottafly30]

the reality is that each person is responsible to be their best version of themself. do your best at everything you do. be the best husband, father, citizen that you can be. and demand it from others, particularly partners. realize people treat you how you let them treat you.

[@timothyodering6299]

Wow. My marriage ended around 1997 when she finally left But your words take me straight back to how it was right before that. Her respect for me was gone. Once or twice under extreme pressure I slapped her, early in our marriage. Other times I punched holes in the wall too avoid hitting her. Redirecting the anger. Marriage vows were sacred and unbreakable to me at that time. And even though she eventually divorced me. It was her who broke the 'knot'. I'm not trying to be squeeky clean. Just saying that it is an impossible situation to be trapped inside a relationship you cannot leave and yet is extremely abusive. I would bring home the 'bacon', and she would spend it. I had no say over that.😢 I would work endlessly to provide and she would rest easy. Critically analyse me and provide such a toxic home life that I would cringe to come home. Shut down and now Immasculine I would yet try to project to the world that I was head of my household. The world was not buying it. 😢 I was traumatised, like shell shock. Years later I experienced it again when I was a nurse. YES, a nurse! I tryed to take on the woman energy en' mass. HOW STUPID ! ! But I wanted to understand that toxic woman energy. Actually my reasoning went, 'I am proficient at engineering, and mens core skill sets,.... now I want to know about WOMEN'S core skills. I know,.... I will become a NURSE. I completed my nursing degree in 2009 and went to work in a toxic rest home. WELL. I was truly immaculated there. Destroyed and stood before a disciplinary body, the New Zealand Nursing Council, within months on trumped up charges, I was shell shocked once more. The Council was not at fault. It was used like an old corrupt lawyer uses the legal system to destroy lives. Women destroying men is real. It is violent to use lack emotional intelligence or feminine guile, to destroy a person, just as it is violent to use physical weakness to beat them up. And give me the physical beating ANY DAY. ❤

[@Animatthias]

I'm watching an old family series from the eighties and I'm mindblown how redpill it is. The wife in this series is so perfect! Something horrible happened to women in the last decades that completely sucked all the respect for men out of them, but what? Feminism was already very much established in the eighties, so it can't be just that. It's still a very depressing thought that this is even possible. No movement or trend could ever just make men hate on women like that.

[@Jnpz]

Thank You!!

[@thebolb]

32:00 is gold

[@clclancy6272]

My wife has no interest in any of what your saying. I've given up and we don't talk, have sex, eat together, go anywhere together so on and so on. I'm divorcing her after 31 yrs. She earned it as far as I'm concerned.

[@gtharo]

I understand where you’re coming from, I’m so close to where you are. I predict before the end of 2024 I will file for divorce…

[@markh7004]

I hear your message, that sex is important to men in marriage. I agree. I had never been in a relationship like the one I am in right now. We've been living together for around 8 months. While we have had sex, I find it repulsive that she is asexual out of (and in) the bedroom. She prefers to be in pajama bottoms with a sweater, especially at home, but will go out dressed like that. Her clothing isn't really gender specific, as a man could wear exactly what she wears and be just as much of a bum. When she wears something "nice" out of the house, it's stretch pants and a t-shirt (with a logo on it of course. One t-shirt advertises a restaurant "pig's butt"). Around the house, she almost always has a "blanket" which is nothing more than t-shirts sewn together, as a skirt over top her pajama bottoms. She wears the same outfit to bed, with panties and a bra on underneath. About half of her bras are sports bras which compress her breasts as the bra seems about two sizes too small. In the 8 months together, I have yet to see her naked. I have spoken to her a number of times about her lack of "sexuality", as I call it. She claims that she just wants to be comfortable. I have told her I want her to have a certain level of pride in being a woman, especially if we are going shopping, out to a meal, on a date, etc. I've been married twice and in several relationships throughout my lifetime (I'm 56 and she is 54). In every relationship, I have never had this issue. It's plaguing me, because she wants me to love her, but she is putting in zero effort to be desirable. My heart is just not into it, despite that she is generally a nice person. She has a fairly nice figure, but it's hidden underneath a hideous choice in clothing. So while sex isn't necessarily an issue, wanting to have sex with her is.

[@wattsurfrigginproblem]

Hey, it could be a blessing in disguise. Think about this: she likes you, right? And if she doesn't feel a need to get dolled up to go to Walmart or the grocery store or the post office, that means she's not desperate to attract male attention. I understand you want her to present herself in a way that demonstrates she cares about what you find visually appealing but beware of what you are suggesting. If she loves you and treats you well then stick with that. Trust me. When a woman is convinced she needs to garner attention visually, that's a slippery slope and soon you will be in the rear view mirror. ... just a thought.

[@SomeGuy-xf9bc]

Just leave already. She clearly sees you as a roommate who pays for all the stuff.

[@briansmith303]

I would say that sounds like a self-esteem problem. Big red flag is you've never seen her naked - that certainly means she doesn't want you to, and that is almost certainly a reflection of how she feels about herself.

[@johnnypartain3461]

Its a shame this is so common. I cant imagine how respect can be regained, even after hearing your story. You got lucky.

[@jimkreegerjr.8813]

I have always said that after a woman reaches a certain age she isn't allowed to have any fun anymore. Not a compliment.

[@tgold8422]

It would be interesting to hear your thoughts on women who say that they will respect the man when she thinks he deserves respect.

[@CDRFINANCE]

After listening to you for a few weeks I have decided I won’t even talk to a woman unless she has done the work or is prepared to go away for 6 months and make herself happy then come see me again, I will send her the link you recommend as a litmus test. You are right, good men’s default is general contentedness and us being us grates on women who are still stuck in the matrix so they set about destroying the man and the promises she made to him.

[@joegaccetta5799]

The marriage is never too far gone. God can restore it if you will allow him to. Paul, the apostle was out killing Christians, but he wasn’t too far gone for God.

[@edwo6648]

LOL you've never been married have you. LOL

[@joegaccetta5799]

27 years

[@angelcandelaria6728]

You are a hero ❤

[@pats4381]

@thehappywifeschool At my age, I feel there is no hope for me. But still also hope, my w i f e gets to watch and listen your videos, and not use them to sharpen her skills to further crush me, but get the change I am trying to get her to understand - her effort to change me to her liking along with taking our children away and making them against me - I hope they get woman in their life follows your videos and make their life worth living and not like mine, where I am wondering why and for whom I am living.

[@briansmith303]

Your devotion is noble, and I hope she gets it too. But even if there's no hope for you (for another relationship, I assume you mean) the relationship you are in is not a love relationship. You're better off alone than devoted to a person and alone anyway.

[@denroybuildingandlesch]

Thanks you to help as men😊

[@miriandoherty6755]

I love your video and god bless you for communicating women how to improve our marriage. I am 68 even though people think I am still in my 50th. I would like to know what I am doing wrong. My husband is a great guy maybe not for me. I want to break my marriage because he likes to talk to women, single and married. If he is alone, he does not wait one second. He feels that he is not doing anything wrong. I have had in the past that a women felt in love with him. I started treatment with a psiquiatrist for me to change. I don’t see the point to accept a man , who desgraces, humiliates when he the other women is more important. He says that he does it because he is friendly! I would like to know the opinion of American women. I have done everything that I can do. He does not want to have sex with me, or at least very little. That desgracies me. Praying to god that he changes him.

[@thomasalbers6102]

I almost thought that this is a fake or ironic or a trap. It unbelievable hearing things like that from you. Sex and respect are not part of my marriage for so long and it’s clearly all my mistake. So I will watch more videos from you to get convinced. Thank you - although it makes me a bit of sad for where I am. There are always a few women who kind of like sex but the majority doesn’t. So I took it as a myth, as it is better to come along with.

[@rodneydenlinger8890]

My wife told me that my dreams were never going to happen, so i should stop.

[@viper-the-great]

I hope u left her broken and alone. u don't deserve that crap. sorry to hear that bro

[@IBNED]

Damn...I am familiar...

[@Tom-mu7zy]

A married friend of mine sitting around the camp fire admitted to me that he likes to jog in flip flops so he can remember what sex sounds like.

[@edwo6648]

LOL

[@ConspiracyPundit]

Smartphones have made women Narcissistic but the biggest problem I have had in my time on Earth is BPD in women. Women might take your advice and quit the male friend yarn, but how are you going to convince them to delete the extensive dating apps they use for endless male validation? I am glad you have had God calling you 2017 was when I got the call.

[@amylee6038]

I have done a lot of reading and it is clear that through the 1960's a profound change was taking place in the women of America. Over 2 million casualties from WWII, almost all men, were simply memory-holed and a narrative was poofed into existence about how men had oppressed women for ten thousand years. Women were inculcated with this absurdly stupid belief they were the vanguard of a glorious revolution against their oppressors, and ironically promiscuity with those oppressors was the fruition of that revolution. Smartphones and social media have indeed been a factor recently but they are present in my country, yet we adore men. We marry young. We long to be wives and mothers, not little Marxist revolutionaries. The American culture is sick. When I tell you that girls should be married and having children in their teens, you are going to disagree with me, right? You are going to tell me they need to have their education and a career, so that they don't have to depend on a man, right?