4 Blocks that Keep Perfectionists from Healing

[@ladyesther]

No, actually your words: "You need big hug." makes me tear up and cry. Yes, I agree. I was thinking that maybe God is not as hard on me as I am on myself.

[@turquoisoul]

I desperately need a big hug too and to learn to see myself even just a tiny bit more how God sees me.

[@rockerune]

@@turquoisoul Digital hug coming your way. Huuuuuuug

[@turquoisoul]

@@rockerune thank you!!

[@Mumsy_Soap]

Perfectionistcally trying to heal yourself, oh my. I can so relate. I just want to be fixed. And I put in the work. That's not rest, it's striving. A gift is not wages earned.

[@B_Jennings]

Oh the irony of speaking on Perfectionism.. and it doesn’t record the first time. That would take me off into a tailspin. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORK!! It has been a godsend 👏🏼

[@HisBelovedSon70x7]

I laughed out loud when you said "I gotta get healed by last week" because that's exactly my mentality. Man I'm so backwards. It sounds so silly when it's said out loud. Thank you Mark for being such a blessing to us and making your teaching material available to everyone. May God bless you abundantly for your constant generousity ❤️

[@CharlieBass5]

I would like to be healed before they put a toe tag on me. From what I gather that's not going to happen.

[@loresabueckert7793]

I feel called out 😅. Thanks Mark ♥️

[@wisdomhasbuiltherhouse990]

No joke lol

[@marktdejesus]

Me too. :-)

[@ms181]

Sure is amazing how long it can take to see the effects of NEGLECT! Thanks for helping us acknowledge what we haven't even known is there!

[@perfectionista492]

Thank you, Mr. DeJesus! This video is convicting. I had posted a really negative comment before, because I was venting about an experience I had in a past relationship, but it was really dumb and I apologize. And I think it was because I am guilty of operating in a perfectionist spirit *hence my username* 😆😖 lol should probably change it. But thank you for this video because it made me realize that sometimes in my effort to pursue excellence, I can have an intense reaction when things don't go my way and be so down on myself when corrected and that intensity can cause others to feel very unsafe around me. And I don't want that. So, thank you.

[@anyITsolution]

Thanks for the tips … still got to work on this myself in the name Of Lord Jesus !

[@patricknolin2936]

You my friend, are changing my life. Great the inside out. GOD bless you. As I know he does, as you truly bless many. You HAVE found your calling and purpose!! That's the goal. Many prayers to you and your family!! ♥️🙏🙏♥️♥️🙏🙏♥️

[@Star-dj1kw]

❤❤ Such a great video. I appreciate the shorter video. Due to my anxiety, I get overwhelmed and can’t process longer videos ☹️

[@UjalaAyub]

That's actually me n I need healing from it. Thankyou brother it was such a blessing listening to it.

[@gracecuff8515]

Spot on for me - just asked for prayer last night at my small group for self sabotage - THANKYOU for this revelation about my self love -TULA is for me

[@makayadejarnette6671]

This WRECKED me.

[@MegAlicePenn]

So utterly thankful for you and Melissa! Y’all are transforming my life for the better!!! Eternally grateful for y’all and this ministry! I hope I can meet y’all one day. Much love my Brother in Christ!

[@hifiunicorn]

You described my brain exactly.

[@Hollyfilly]

Another amazing video. I realize self compassion is going to take a lot of practice. Your videos do such a good job explaining HOW to practice these concepts and bring so much comfort. Thank you!

[@raf5.13]

Hey Mark, would u mind sharing what audio interface you’re using? Great sound, brother.

[@marktdejesus]

Thanks! I use a rodecaster pro. It's one piece of equipment that replaces a whole rack I had years ago. It works amazing. I heard the second version is great too

[@raf5.13]

@@marktdejesus TY!

[@jessielynn]

I’m so angry I’m not fixed yet, I’ve completely stopped praying and I’m not even sure if I believe God’s word any more. I’m in a crazy, hard, lost, lonely place right now.

[@CharlieBass5]

As an alcoholic I have tried to do the third step, "“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.” This has always been a struggle for me, too intangible. You're a smart guy and I believe you can answer this question: what makes step 3 real, concrete, tangible?

[@jessicascott8780]

Have you heard of Celebrate Recovery? I recognize that step but looks a little different so assuming it’s from AA? I highly recommend Celebrate Recovery! It’s a Christ based recovery program. And they go deep into issues similar to what Mark is talking about with community and Jesus! I believe alcoholism is due to something deeper going on. Bless you, brother!

[@CharlieBass5]

@@jessicascott8780 Yes I went to Celebrate Recovery for a few years back in the late 2000s. Alcoholism is thought to be a disease of the feelings, alcohol changes how we feel of course. A lot to of us know that we're to go through the processes in order to change but for some of us, we can't see the changes and that means we're still stuck with ourselves. I'm not good with close relationships as it is, so I don't know how to how to bring God into my life. I know I'm here on this earth because Him, I know that Jesus shed his blood to cover my sins. I don't have a clue on how the "heart" comes into play. The only thing I've ever understood about the heart is that it pumps blood. I feel like I'm screwed if I don't know how to "love God with all my heart". The thought that this change is a process and there's no fix is depressing. I'm also the one that caused all my problems, I don't my actions being part of the solution.

[@Hollyfilly]

For me, step three has become working towards accepting the unconditional love of God.

[@CharlieBass5]

@@Hollyfilly So this is where more confusing comes into play. Turning my WILL and Live over to God doesn't sound like Acceptance. More than likely I'm over thinking it but I'm can't tell. Simplicity is one thing I miss most often, talk about frustration.

[@Hollyfilly]

@@CharlieBass5 for me, if I reflect on the unconditional love of God, then I want to surrender and have a desire to do God's will out of love.

[@shadia2000]

How exactly do I learn to see my life and struggles through a lense of compassion? I've realized lately that 9/10 I know what's wrong with me but I am very harsh to myself about fixing and about the origins of said problem and why it's still here. When a friend that knows my journey looks and tells me through eyes of compassion what's going on and empathizes, it's completely different. I am unsure of how to do this for myself as I don't know how to speak this way to myself- I don't think this way about myself or my life but I'd like to.

[@asinamirror2253]

I need clarity because I moved into self hate, condemnation, and all the above. I can't see how to handle spinning clearly. Just you saying I need TULA is stressful, because I need fixed not accept where I am!!!! (just exposing my thoughts lol)

[@KimberlyLovesJesus-]

It feels like my brain looks to find something to be anxious about even after recognizing it was all religious ocd, any tips?

[@brookecaylor6734]

Yea that’s just not true at all wow