4 Reasons 90% of Young Men Are Failing

[@ccrookston]

My goodness this makes my heart sad. I don’t fit your main demographic. I’m a 53 year old male who came to the fire service later than most because I moved to a small town and they had a need on their volunteer department. And what is scary is that while 10 years ago this department had a long waiting list of young men who wanted to join, now, they can’t get anyone interested. And watching this video just makes me realize that the problem is much larger than I ever thought.

[@commentsconnection]

Hey, Mike. I’ve been watching your videos for the past 4 months during my hiring process with my DREAM department, and I just got the call today that I made the list! Just wanted to say thank you so much for all the help. Everything I implemented from your videos helped me achieve my goal. You’re the best! Thank you, sir.

[@jeekoza1028]

just from his terminology, you know mike loves some good dank memes lol

[@justincooke6073]

I have watched this video over and over and over again I really appreciate your humble, and transparent approach to the videos you make There needs to be more channels like this that are humble, open minded, and transparent I really appreciate you brother 🙏

[@thebranbona1409]

I’ve been hired to two different departments since I’ve watched you, thank you for all the help and given me the extra boost

[@officerbarbrady8387]

Man, i agree with all of these points so much. I'm 24 and i work at a small department. And some days, I'm really struggling to find my purpose. I want to have a wife and family. But I feel like a freak if i go try and talk to a girl at the gym or anywhere public. I'm trying to workout and be active. I'm so tired of the "sigma male" and "submissive man" viewpoints. I pay for Onlyfans subscriptions and it makes me feel like a complete disgrace and failure. I just want to feel like i matter in the world.

[@kinGsaL1515]

Please please please go to your computer right now and delete OF entirely. I promise youll feel much better and itll be the first step to major improvememt

[@INFECTION112]

In a way, men have to earn their place. That's how I view it anyway, and you'll have a hard time doing that when you're paying women to see them naked or do provocative things. Go out and find some hobbies, meet new people, meet women through people and not just at a gym or whatever. It's important to not give up on yourself and keep looking, no matter how bleak things may seem. Read or listen to some philosophy, like kierkigaard or some stoics and get some new perspectives on how to live as a man or just well in general. Write your thoughts down when they're bothering you so you can get a handle on the problems you're having and come up with solutions. Keep strong brother, you're still so young and have more time than you know to find your way.

[@officerbarbrady8387]

@@INFECTION112 thank you man.

[@minerran]

You're a first responder! A hero to those of us who depend on you! You MATTER and we appreciate you! Its your age (24) that you're passing thru which is a time just starting your career and trying to find your way, and is challenging. I remember when I was your age and I felt many of the same things. It will pass. Stand tall and be proud of yourself for what you're doing for your community. I'm a retired engineer. I would have loved to have had a life that mattered as yours does! What you do online in your spare time is your business and does not take away from the great things you're doing! My advice: Be true to yourself, your goals, your priorities and your dreams. Do what's right for you and don't let judgements of other people get you down. You will do great things in this life!

[@officerbarbrady8387]

@@minerran I appreciate the kind thoughts.

[@gatorm4794]

Amen Brother! I was almost blindsided by men's countercultural mindset, and it almost ruined my life. Thank God I have men in my life that I can trust. What you said about bonding between men is so true. I worked in a small department as an EMT and for the most part, these men were toxic men who almost daily assaulted, belittled, and destructively criticized me and anything I did as I worked. I never felt so alone then when I was with a group of men who cared nothing for me. I still loved being a first responder and pray I can do it again someday. Thank you so much, Mr. Pertz 🙏

[@DG-hm1on]

So I'm 35, have a wife, and currently a very stable job that pays well. But I'm not fulfilled by the office life and want to get back into the community service role that I grew up with, be that Americorps and Peace Corps. I'm in great shape, marathon runner and mountain biker, and am ready to start a new career in the fire service. Am I crazy for thinking this? I've talked with a couple friends who are firefighters and they all say it's never too late, but it does have that feeling when you're staring at the short term affects of the career change.

[@perryfire3006]

Once again solid advice. Not just for the fire service but for life. Mentoring is important but even more important is the young person open to advice. I've seen many times young kids openly ignore older people's attempt to help them to the point of disrespect. If an old firefighter offers you his expertise you would be best not to dismiss him because there won't be a second time if you do.

[@zackattack1199]

Being a man is difficult in this world and we’re supposed to be rough but I was raised by women my whole life and I’m 23 years olds and I still wanna become a firefighter but I’m just not confident enough to start and I’m not sure how to start 😞

[@guysk8r1717]

You got this, just make the first step you will surprise yourself

[@hunterholland945]

Start with emt school it might cost you some money but it’s only 5 months or so. Then register for whatever fire academy is in your area it will be 3-6 months long depending on the scheduling of your academy. I’m 22 and just finished fire academy and soon to be hired. You can do it man just gotta apply yourself

[@collindoyle7569]

You got this brother. What area do you live in? See if any departments around you hire with no certifications and apply. If not go get emt-b and FF1 certification on your own if you can pay out of pocket for it. Don’t be afraid of failing you won’t know until you try

[@jonathanvenit9103]

I’ve been working as school portrait photographer for two years came home one day and realized it wasn’t were I want to be and I just wasn’t happy working there and decided I wanted to be a firefighter I was a junior firefighter in high school but decided to pursue other things in college and I honestly regret not continuing with the fire department I’m planning on applying to my cities academy as soon as I can I just want to help people and know I’m making a difference somewhere

[@markdavey6872]

Well said. We also need to be able to identify these young men and if you are in the position to do so, mentor them. I'm an electrician and became a volunteer FF and EMT at 42 yrs old. Love the fire service. It's a shame more young men are worrying about how to become influencers than getting into a career that would suit them and indoctrinate them into manhood. Pity.

[@Shorty540Productions]

Thank you for showing both extreme cultures in this! A bit more than a year ago I was struggling in nearly every aspect mentioned in this video. I believe all that's needed to begin to succeed is to find fulfillment in one of these categories. In my case I started talking with a woman who would become my best friend, then in time my lover. She inspired me to be the best version of myself, to work hard, to improve my health, to strive toward a future instead of meandering just to get through the day. I've had friends pick up sports and find connections to jobs and even more friends that they never had before, and through those connections romantic partners. I believe it all comes down to determination and patience, faith that things will be better as long as you're trying. Things will still suck for quite some time, but it will get easier, and life will throw you opportunities, you just need to be there!

[@carrot6286]

I didnt grow up poor and my father wasnt absent but he was very abusive and I never felt like I grew up correctly. Im 17 now

[@pissiestguy]

hey man i had and still have abusive parents so i feel you. I'm 18 now and even tho my parents failed terribly at raising me,and this is probably ur case too, i got a chance at experiencing gentle parenting by parenting myself. the way we grew up wasn't our fault but we now have responsibility over ourselves so it's our job to parent ourselves now. i hope now after 8 months you're safe and far from ur horrible father and if now i hope you get out soon🫶🏻

[@commentsconnection]

I know you’re busy, but I wish you’d post more often! Really enjoy your content. 👌

[@CONSC_]

Hey Mike. Just wanted to say thank you for your hiring process videos and the website. I start in January for my local department🙌🏾

[@yeeyee9694]

Really needed this right now

[@MontSuNai]

i agree with all of this, i’m a 22 year old male and to be quite honest young men have become the underdogs and scapegoats of society; whilst at the same time having to meet the expectations, and responsibilities that have always been placed on men.. with no one guiding us or at the very least routing for us men, who are still the BACKBONE of society are being led off a cliff one way or another. i encourage any young man to never give up in the face of adversity, research as much as you can to acquire all the knowledge and information you can, and continue to be a strong moral individual with a drive. because although their egos wont allow them to admit it, you are so very important and the world needs you all. continue fighting my brothers, AND THANK YOU FOR YOU WORDS BIG BROTHER MIKE we love your channel

[@alexrogers777]

Get outta here with that persecution complex about young men being the "scapegoats of society", just unplug from social media once in a while. I'll agree that you're right about them being underdogs though.

[@Rainabow]

I follow Mike's videos for the firefighter content, and since I am not a man I wasn't sure if I should just skip this video, but I respect Mike and his content so I figured I'd go ahead and give it a watch. Who knows I might even learn something or be able to pass the info along. I'm glad that someone is out offering advice to those who need it and respect what you are doing. Keep up the good work Mike!

[@usaveteran1813]

Mike, you are validating my argument for reinstating the military draft. It is shock therapy for young men to modify their paradigm and learn teamwork with self discipline. For some, it will be the first time that they were trained to learn how to push themselves into accomplishing things well beyond what they thought they could achieve. There will be pushback from mothers and anti-war university types. Something is going to have to be done to change that or we will be creating generations of failures.

[@hookedonthebay3890]

Hey Mike. Found your latest video to reach out and say thanks for all your content. It helped me through the fire academy, interviews and ridealongs. I got a job 2 months out of the academy in FL with no experience. Finish line!!!

[@kinGsaL1515]

Interesting to see a non FF type video. I really enjoyed it and agree with what you had to say. We live in a society that wants men weak and women confused. They actively push for single motherhood and financially support it so the next generation of men can be even weaker and therefore more easily obedient than the last

[@Willyamsii]

Love your content Mike. I agree with most of what you said. I’m just in the beginning of my journey but I just got enrolled in my local community college and am getting enrolled in EMT courses as it’s a pre requisite for my local department to be eligible for employment.

[@Sergiohernandez54112]

Hey Mike, Thank your for all your work guiding aspiring firefighters and having so many resources on your channel that help guys get hired. I've watched you for the last couple years, and I got a job offer at a large carrer department in Canada. It is the best job in the world. I've used many of your pointers, especially in the panel interview. Keep doing amazing work, be safe and God bless brother

[@a.c.6426]

Good to see you back Mike! Keep the vids coming

[@ethannutt2611]

Hey man, I’ve been watching your videos over the past year or so. I took the advice and tips you were speaking about and got the job at my local fire department. Thank you so freaking much man I really appreciate you for making these videos you helped me a ton

[@jadenpearce3550]

As a young guy currently in a fire academy, I think content with subjects like finding motivation and creating action plans to help accomplish goals might be a good idea. Especially since you now discussed things that are troubling many young men today, I think it would be great to then provide advice on how to overcome those challenges. I’ve always been a huge fan of the content you create and I’m eager to listen to what you have in store.

[@christianmoore7932]

That's where I am. I am in fire academy and we are doing our first burn. I thought wearing bunker gear was tough and now we are actually going to feel heat. As someone who has never thought of quitting I actually questioned myself for the first time in years

[@DRFelGood]

Courage young men, remember your training, listen to your leaders & veteran FF’s and always have a backup plan in your head if things go sideways. Your goals each shift are to return home to your loved ones after each shift of service to the community’s you protect from fire and medical emergencies. ✌️🫶🏻 Brothers & Sisters 🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒🚒

[@rachelminneapolis]

I’m a single female moved out of state on my own away from poverty at the age of 12. Never been married never had kids I struggle everyday feeling like I’m a woman trying to survive in a man’s world. The last thing I want to do is rely on a man, I want to provide for myself and others. But some days I’m a stubbed toe away from just surrendering on the ground and giving up Next month I become a Firefighter Cadet. I’m terrified and grateful all at once I should be more excited but something inside of me doesn’t feel like celebrating because it’s time to get to work. Although I’m female I can relate to every point in this video

[@mike_pertz]

Saw you got the job offer, congrats Rachel!

[@rachelminneapolis]

@@mike_pertz thank you 🙏 you’re doing good work. I owe it in part to you

[@rachelminneapolis]

@@mike_pertz I’m impressed that you remembered me and keep up w so many of your followers

[@Chrizzz_009]

Its been two months come on we need youuuu. Can you make a video specifically for your younger audience on what they can do now to have a better chance on becoming a firefighter in the furture? Im a jr firefighter and I'd really appreciate that

[@laurarussell5857]

Everything in life is balance. Learn how to be soft and also strong. Balance. Doesn’t matter the sex. ❤💪

[@joshglasscock2586]

As a 19 year old aspiring firefighter your content is super helpful you hit the nail on the head with this i admit to falling into the whole sigma male narrative as a kid who had bad parental figures who were mentally and physically abusive never really had many actual friends and got bullied a lot this definitely resinates with me ive been trying to change my attitude towards life and get to know god and fix myself mentally thank you for the amazing content you put out its super helpful god bless you man!!

[@daveschmidt1601]

Just submitted an application for the local volunteer fire department and I’m a 28 year old male looking to getting started in the fire service I’d prefer in person interviews and filling out paper applications over online application linstead of conversations over phone calls and texts when meeting the Cheif and/or firefighters that do the hiring process for volunteer depts

[@supersoggycheese]

Congratulations on 100K subs! Looking forward to new videos from you. Thank you and God bless!

[@PyroCommondll]

Size up question. Is it something like this? Engine One on scene of a one story residential fire, Flames showing from Alpha and Delta Division 1, Pull lines for defensive, Engine 1 Establishing Command on Fire Tac 1

[@kingofmphs]

We have men that were raised by the internet and a single mother. So they weren’t actually raised. Extremely sad state of affairs.

[@drinmer1]

So I wasn't raised the way you want, because my dad left us and my morther raised 3 kids on her own. Fighting for her kids every step of the way?... You might the toxic people Mike refers to in the video.

[@gabrieleelenapuisyte4928]

@@drinmer1i totally agree. Issue is not single mom, especially if she ptovides and is good kother. It is consumotion if social media

[@JayV98]

What a load of bullshit.

[@Eriamskitka-qg6gh]

Hate to break it to you but all kids are “raised by the internet” in one way or another these days and half of them have parents that are together and have a) an abusive father or b) parents that don’t even like each other and fight all the time. What’s sad is your ignorant attitude and lack of humility. As you can see, some of us men were raised by single moms after the “men” in our lives left or had a father pass away. You should be ashamed of your comment, and considering you were prob raised by a set of parents, you didn’t turn out better than those raised by widowed/single moms.

[@deputy1388]

Well said man. I'm a 17 year old highschool dude who is still figuring things out and kicking bad habits. recently applied to a program to take ems at my local community college the second half of my school day for my senior year. Im adhd as hell so when I'm interested in something I can focus up. I think a Firefighting career path would give me some purpose.

[@mike_pertz]

Good luck man!

[@SurferBum1002]

So spot on. Thanks for the video 🙏

[@Ulf_Gierdotson]

Honestly that is why I like David Goggins because he encourages to be yourself but tells to keep going and do better.

[@kirstinmorrell]

As someone who was rejected from the military, it's important for you to know that one of the biggest reasons is nearsightedness. I was young and fit and had good character references and I passed every part of the admission process but I was just too nearsighted. We've now possibly reached the last generation that will face debilitating nearsightedness and the accompanying risks of blindness later in life because of new technologies that are available like eye shaping lenses and medications to relax accommodation muscles in the eye. But people who are adults now are the most nearsighted in history. Edited to add: If you are going nearsighted, talk to your optometrist right now about ortho-k lenses

[@Chrizzz_009]

First and also THE HUB 💀😭

[@christianmoore7932]

Stops motivation to get into a relationship and destroys whatever you can build

[@officerbarbrady8387]

It's a very hard place to break away from. It offers the quick dopamine hit, but you feel so horrible afterwards.

[@Chrizzz_009]

I know... :(

[@officerbarbrady8387]

@@Chrizzz_009 I'm still struggling to step away from it. I know none of it is real, but for a brief moment I feel okay.

[@seweragerat7041]

@@officerbarbrady8387 just crank one out and move on. No need to excuse a lack of discipline on a quick session with the meat tube.

[@jsock8091]

5:55 in my experience most waivers required were for medical issues outside of the applicants control, i almost needed a waiver because i broke my arm in middle school. My brother needed a waiver because he had dandruff. A lot of the waivers are stupid things, almost none of them are due to a factor outside of the applicant’s control. For the most part an ASVAB waiver is probably one of the few things inside your realm of control to prevent

[@myst7501]

I have a cost of living project coming up soon. I was wondering what kind of car you drive or what car you would recommend for young firefighters? It’s a great help!

[@JamesMooreAthletics]

Amen! 100% right and non-bias !

[@Kong_1.__.1]

Hey first I wanna thank you for your videos I'm constantly listening to them at work because I want to get into fire service but I wanted to ask if you had any tips on wildland firefighting

[@ftwnerd1993]

Hey Mike, I was hoping you could give me some advice. I’m trying to get into the fire service and I just received a conditional offer from both Baltimore City and Howard County FDs. I’m wanting to make a career change to the fire service and I recently received a conditional offer from Baltimore City FD & Howard County FD. I live in Baltimore & I want to help the city with all of its problems, but at the same time I’m very well aware of the issues plaguing the department and that Howard has their act together/has better pay & benefits. I’m the greenest green this side of the Mississippi and want to make the right decision. What do you think?

[@mike_pertz]

You should make the decision based on what is best for you and your family. I obviously don’t know the whole situation but Howard sounds like a better fit.

[@modell1084]

Your channel name changed to your personal name. Which I guess makes sense. But I was confused at first

[@Status3-9s]

I NEED YOUR OPINION, I’m 17 turning 18 tomorrow soon to be graduating, I love fighting(muay Thai) and I also love teaching, I currently train 5 times a week and assist in teaching 3 times a week, I want to open a gym in the future and teach martial arts. I can’t find a career I want, one I thought of a fire fighter, based off your experience do you believe becoming a fire fighter will compensate well with living the life of a fighter, I want to keep building my record and keep coaching, do you think if I became a fire fighter I could get around to keep training to do that? Would be much appreciated!!!!🙏

[@mike_pertz]

Sure, I know a lot of guys that are fighters and firefighters. In fact, Stipe Miocic is a career firefighter and fighting in the UFC. So yes, it’s certainly possible.

[@Status3-9s]

@@mike_pertz thank you so much!!!!

[@THINRED275]

I am a former volunteer firefighter I feel I truly failed on my career path I don't get excepted by any fire departments anymore I have 5 years of service to the community I find myself at times that I am not deserving of my old fire helmet I struggle with ptsd but what can I do to regain trust with the departments ?

[@emmanuelawosusi2365]

Thank you man

[@THINRED275]

I still can't leave the fire service behind even as a civilian I still wear some of my old 5.11 pants out old station boots is this wrong I am still young but this is what I want to do I got to therapy but seriously idk what to do I feel like a dumb kid who made mistakes while in the volunteer fire dept I do not wear station shirts or anything out in public what can I do to get back on the path to being a firefighter or should I just give it up ?

[@JakeJames-b8q]

Hey how are you doing, I have the situational question interview Monday, it’s five questions and they ask what would you do. I was wondering can you give you me some sample questions please, im nervous

[@ladeda9570]

PLEASE READ!!! So long story short I am a 16 year old from Maryland. I want to have a career as a fire fighter. But the problem is I have a medical illness called P.O.T.S and it gets a little better as you get older but I was curious if you could please make a video on whether people with illnesses should become a firefighter or not

[@kimdavis5194]

I know I'm a female. I just completed GPSTC . I am now about to complete GFSTC . I understand there's a lot of stereotyping in the departments in Georgia . How is the best way to cope with this. I'm little but very strong. I can out work half of these men. I will be in the Savannah metro area. I really don't want to interfere with my work it would be the best way to cope with it?

[@raindropz8460]

Guys, what do you think would be better going to a fire academy at community college or paramedic program. I say this because over here in California from where I’m from they both cost around 5k. I’m leaning more wasting 5k for my paramedic license instead of going through a college fire academy.

[@mike_pertz]

Definitely medic.

[@zshock4]

Hi cousin.

[@halfblindbear]

Thank you,

[@ProximusRegent]

prox was here

[@armandoclaros9748]

What hairstyle you have in your KZbin profile picture.

[@dabuya]

Can I get a witness?

[@WapoMore]

Make a short about my comment: Should I have a mustache in my interview ?

[@thomasarmstrong1249]

Facts 😅

[@maximumman4647]

This is video kinda give me the hamza impression why our generation have weak men and we can do better by the youtuber hamza he also made a lot of self improvement videos and ngl he get mad in his vids cause he want men to be stronger mentally and physically

[@Kyle-nc1wt]

Didn’t know Mike was also based 🔥