4 Ways HOW Kindness Will RUIN Your Life - DENZEL WASHINGTON MOTIVATION

Have you ever been told that kindness is a virtue? That being kind will bring you happiness, success, and fulfillment? In this thought-provoking video, we'll explore the ways in which kindness can actually ruin your life if you're not careful. From being taken advantage of to missing out on opportunities, we'll delve into the pitfalls of over-kindness and how it can hold you back from reaching your full potential.
But this video isn't just about the negative aspects of kindness. We'll also discuss how to find a healthy balance between being kind and taking care of yourself. You'll learn the importance of setting boundaries, speaking your truth, and prioritizing your own well-being. We'll explore the power of authenticity and how being true to yourself can lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships and a greater sense of fulfillment.
Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, this video will challenge you to rethink your relationship with kindness and inspire you to be kind in a way that feels sustainable and empowering. Whether you struggle with saying no, putting others' needs before your own, or being too nice for your own good, this video will provide you with the tools and insights you need to start making positive changes in your life.
So join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth, and learn how to be kind to yourself first so that you can be truly kind to others. Together, we can create a world that is more compassionate, connected, and authentic than ever before.
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[@cerico76]

As soon as I started to put boundaries, and say “no”, she left me and disappeared, 26 years, gone, like I’ve never existed. Thank you, now I know who you really are.

[@Kiki-jx6by]

Happened to me recently. My friend of 15 years DEMANDED me to give him a “ return date.” He insisted to take me to lunch. Then demanded me to take him to lunch. I told him “ I will when I feel like it”. He wanted the money he used on his date with me back. I said “ absolutely not, should have made this known before the date I would not have NEVER went in the first place. We are no longer speaking. I had peace ever since. You are better off with her gone trust me!

[@cerico76]

@@Kiki-jx6by It is hard to accept when I thought she would be the woman of my life. But you’re right.

[@emrosesupmat]

I still remain being Kind. But I know now how to live a balance life. I have my own You tube channel Emrose Supmat I have videos on my own You tube channel. I am divorced. Not yet find my lifetime partner but I still positive and happy and in peace.

[@emrosesupmat]

​@@cerico76I hope we can be friends. Being kind, I learned to live a balance life now. I love to motivate people, I have videos on my own You tube channel Emrose Supmat. I am divorced not yet find my lifetime partner but I am positive and happy and in peace

[@cerico76]

@@emrosesupmat I also need time for myself now. I am not ready to love again right now I think.

[@harmonykardon2116]

I'm 48 and just realized all this during this year Too late but better than never

[@annndungu7327]

Me too @ 49. Am starting all over again.wishing you all the best

[@annndungu7327]

😂Me too here @49. Broke as a church mouse. But I have faith Iwill rise a gain with a bang. All the best 👌

[@JanSonnemann]

Same here. But I'm 55. Never too late (I hope).

[@milenakisel2855]

I’ve learned my lesson the hard way so now I put myself First always ❤❤❤

[@alsimmons1650]

When god has given you the opportunity to see another day YOU are your first order of business.

[@x7video]

Actually, always putting yourself first is not right either. Just as being a doormat is’nt. if i may advise you, try to find a way in between. Be reasonable. Think about who deserves your effort and who takes advantage of it. And act accordingly. God speed.

[@LMF-ct4lt]

You described the way that I used to be. I realized that some people only called me when they wanted something. When I stopped handing out favors, they stopped calling me. I do not miss them!

[@godsvessel9306]

Such a good reminder to set boundaries and be kind to yourself first!! 💯

[@ashdgee]

Some of us grew in Christian families and we know that kindness is one of the attributes of a Spirit filled Christian. However, one must define their boundaries in my opinion. I can relate to this.

[@larrytrejo1882]

It’s ok to say no if you want to. And don’t feel bad if you don’t want to don’t. You have rights too like every body else❤

[@Donnahodgins]

I felt that way, it was Christian's that took advantage of me. God got me out.

[@Isaac-xe4km]

I can identify with you a trillion percent. I was raised in a Baptist home all of my life. I was taught to "turn the other cheek" and keep giving, sacrificing, giving, and be the bigger person will pay off in the future. Come to find out that it only wasted some much of my time, energy, mental health, and resources. Consequently, it contributed to a nervous and hard mental breakdown in 2022. I have realized that the one's who teach you these things are the one's who need boundaries and barriers. It took me forty two years of living to realize this but I'm happy that clarity arrived when it did. As for me, I say, "Point to me in the Bible where it says to be someone's crutch, whipping post, or landing pad?.....Better yet, where does it say that God tells us to accept mental abuse?".

[@DianaDukes-n4h]

My pastor once said,"Being a good Christian does NOT mean being a doormat." A careful reading of the Scriptures will teach us that Jesus Christ was never a doormat.

[@Isaac-xe4km]

@DianaDukes-n4h Thanks for posting this, I needed to hear this and God Bless your Pastor! It seems that everyone is preaching about "You're going to be okay" and "Keep paying it forward", rather than, preaching about not being a doormat and pointing out the fact that Jesus Christ didn't sign up that, so why should we.

[@sds8691]

My too much kindness ruined my life fully now m devasted n lost but after watching this video I must try to rise up again . Thanks million for such an eye opener video .

[@21Casey50]

Denzel, you are one of my favorite people in this world. I love your helpful wisdom. You are an inspiration to millions of people who love you.

[@revizionaryenterprises9655]

Yes...charity starts at home. If you fail to take care of yourself and put yourself first, you will eventually fail to be there for people down the road and have bigger things to worry about than what someone says when they are guilt tripping you. Remember, the good book says to love others AS you love yourself. If you do not take time to love yourself you will run on empty after awhile. This is the essence of being too nice and putting others first. It takes practice and balance. Love yourself, and you will be a better person to love others...Denzel is so right...

[@RmaksKellyo]

I have been a terrible victim because of kindness

[@Shirley-t9b]

True

[@josecayette517]

Me two

[@williesmith3466]

Thank you!!! That’s me! Now, I set boundaries and use the word no! I put my needs first and don’t give a S what other people think!

[@21Casey50]

Love this! A path to an authentic life! Peace and joy to you!

[@CatladyActionFigure]

🎯👍

[@cynthiareid9289]

The worst pain in the world is being used by family. I have truly been through hell but no more. I’m done.

[@Kevin-vc7bp]

I have just came to this realization myself, just within this year. Just know that it has happend to others, too. I know exactly how you feel. It makes me feel like I have been a fool for love of my family, but in the end, I ended up with no family that truly care about me at all. No more. I am living my best life for myself now. Put yourself first, you deserve it.

[@David69278]

Amen to that my families Loop games

[@Lubo1970]

My friends I head a family wife two boys I was the most happiest person in Earth I work hard no break's for years Oh well I got sick and my wife kick me out The think that kill me is my kids I didn't see talk to them 25 years on and I still leave alone and don't talk to my kids I am 54 now but my happy live end long ago Good luck to you all

[@IngridYansens]

Wow ! So beautifully said… I recognize myself in those words. I always gave too much, i was too kind.., but i’ve learned to set my boundaries without feeling guilty. I had to …! because people walked over me…. So learned to say NO ! That was not easy …believe me I feel much better now and i am still kind to everyone 💯🫶🍀

[@vincentmiconi1869]

Been there, done that!

[@jcjasik]

Thank you Denzel. Being authentic is difficult with dishonest people. Be kind to yourself first.

[@omarmunoz4894]

I’m still going to be kind but with the appropriate boundaries.

[@fb90021]

Great and powerful message from this AI Denzel Washington voiceover.

[@MA-ew1vz]

💯I'm glad somebody said it💯

[@gloriaadu5485]

Thanks, it has. all my life i was helping, giving and when it came time for me no one was there. i am a senior, and just trying to stand up for me, it don't feel good right now. but i will get there. (THANK YOU )

[@vanageslangas]

Thank You, I 'll set some boundaries, there is no need to be too kind. I was kind to unkind people and they thought I was stupid.

[@dddphilosophy]

I was told many years ago by someone "you cannot love others until you first learn to love yourself." 1 Cor.16: 14 "Let all your things be done with charity." Thanks.

[@1Fullaflava]

RuPaul tells us that all the time 😅 "If you don't love yourself, how'n the hell you gon' love somebody else?"

[@johnnycruz2543]

Wow! 100% so true. I show this video to my 24 year old son and told him just to listen...

[@LloydMajor]

So true!!! I just learned to say no after 65 years. Thank you for your knowledge and wisdom.

[@jacquedavis3779]

Thank you !!!!!! I really needed to hear those words …. My kindness kept everyone happy and going forward while I’m still here..

[@patrickdunn8918]

I figured this out on my own long ago. I’m a very kind person, and many want to take advantage of that. I learned to still be kind, but set boundaries to keep others from thinking you are weak. I am anything but weak.

[@hadijakalyegira4107]

Still learning! I love boundaries ❤

[@gotti5472]

Your children are so lucky to have you in there life to help and teach them the true values of life😊

[@voiceofreason7856]

SO much truth in this video. Yep - I've learned to say NO to people. It feels good, and they sound surprised/ mad when I do - too bad....

[@maryelle77]

An important point to people-pleasers. Some people aren't grateful for you or for what you do for them, say "no".

[@dannychoroser4823]

Wow, hit by reality! I am going through a bitter divorce at this time. I've tried to figure out what I really did, instead of my wife's accusations. Thank you Mr. Washington!

[@DianaDukes-n4h]

What we ALL need is balance, in ALL things. Especially today, we MUST teach our children the meaning and importance of firm boundaries.

[@kcampbell867]

I love this and truly hope that its not too late for me at the age of 77 since I've done this my entire life! 🙏 I truly never thought of it in this way especially being a female raised in the 50's

[@julieserra9001]

Thank you for the advise❤ very helpful for me.

[@chantaldesmoulin9406]

Kindness is key to everything, but there’s being to kind! The thing I’ve learnt in kickboxing is it’s best not to fight back, people like that aren’t worth your time or energy!

[@maliaimorofriedrichs6101]

Thank so much for this wonderful message this is really helpful may God bless you more ❤❤❤

[@clintistinemayon1779]

Thank you Mr. Washington, for that excellent video!!! I used to be too kind. Family and Friends used my kindness, and I allowed it. No more. PS: My Son was born on the same day as you. 12/28/1967. 🎉

[@Stewpendous360]

Niceness and kindness are not synonymous. Kindness is authentic and includes boundaries and the ability to say "no."

[@devinaidoo7473]

Brilliant 👏 this has been me, taken advantage for my kindness and I've trusted people blindly. Never too late to start over again, great words of wisdom shared.🎉

[@mikekutzner7416]

I love listening to Mr. Washington he's very wise

[@GetulhoSilva]

Beautiful words of wisdom, and completely true in did. Love it & God Bless

[@Ernie-x8o]

No, has been the hardest word I’ve ever had to learn. I don’t know why I’ve always had such a hard time with it, but at 49 years old, I can completely relate to this message, and I told my girl that moving forward we will both set boundaries for people in our life. Whether it be family or friends, we will look out for ourselves for the first time first.

[@mauricefleming-hx9cb]

God bless you

[@janicehussein200]

If you do something for someone, should you Expect that person to be so very grateful, or do it because you wanted to do a good thing. Balance and self-care and boundaries. Agree with those things.

[@bzmanatt]

Killing a person with kindness can be annoying.

[@StepbyStepbyMiriam]

Amen and Thank you.

[@robertpowick8595]

I can agree with every word spoken here and looking back can see this in my own life.

[@Donnahodgins]

I know that feeling. I felt bad and have to repent for being bitter. I gave so much, I have nothing left for me. I love to give, I love to help. People took such advantage of me. I was expected to forget about myself to fulfill their needs. I was drained, nothing left to give. Seems like there is a lot of us. 💖

[@charleslyall4911]

Even that you were too kind you are still a wonderful person always remember that ❤️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿👍

[@lanag9318]

Amen.Very wise and truthful words here ,so beautifully spoken.And i agree with you completely on all of this,for you have to be kind to yourself first and respect yourself first, in order for others to respect you Thank you Denzel for this beautiful and meaningful sermon ,which resignated with my heart God bless you always 🎉💞💐🌸🌷💕♥️🌺💝💖💖💖💖💖🧬🌹🎉

[@Larry-j5e]

He is right. Many years ago I faced a gap. It had to be filled with the RIGHT STUFF, treat others the way you want to be treated. Things go wrong you will know you tried. People will always blame you. Usually it's because they can not because they should. Go forth, be your own person. Don't concern yourself with blaming. It's useless and requires too much of your time. Such things don't deserve your attention.

[@marchaghiradasilva9607]

Thank you for your thoughts and your kindness🙌✨️🫶✨️🙏

[@ShirleyKonkali-u9v]

Ive always struggled with this, and once i played this video it was like starring at myself in the mirror. THANKYOU MR WASHINGTON FOR THIS VERY INSPIRATIONAL AND POWERFUL MESSAGE.😢❤

[@ahmedkadiri1127]

It is always wise to be moderate in everything we do in life. Nothing should be done excessively, even if it has to do with kindness.

[@nato2panama]

Wow just what I needed. Thank you Denzel. God bless you.

[@GeriRogers]

You are so right. Have experienced this first hand!!!!!!

[@raginroadrunner]

Some of the truest words ever spoken. He is 100% correct. I wish that I would have followed these guidelines earlier.

[@shira2151]

I've learned my lesson at work. People I think are my friends are thriving ahead of me and I kindly stepped out of the way. I am so upset because as time went on I got to see they weren't more knowledgeable or have the best ideas...they just take charge. That's when I realize I am better and I need to stop putting other people above me

[@normamorrison3417]

amen brother

[@amelittaberretta9109]

Thank you for your golden words,

[@mohammedmiah5175]

I learned this too late into my life. However, I'm grateful life has taught me a valuable lesson.

[@ImaSkeptic1]

You can be kind. But have set boundaries.

[@johannababoeram7958]

Denzel Washington 😄🥰🥰🥰❤❤ I like the message, very good.

[@janicehussein200]

Many people aren't grateful enough for what they have/ get.

[@ElleMolinaChannel]

It's a good thing to remind our self to put boundary..but I don't think kindnes can ruin an imdividual

[@WitnWisdom64]

Yes..I think it’s the intention behind kindness..giving to get. People pleasing and being a “Nice Guy”.

[@annweech5847]

This actually happened to me, for two years, I felt sorry for someone that lost their spouse and expected someone to support them. I had just sold my house after a divorce. I was constantly giving to them and my family, not myself. I have been living in a self pity party for the last year. I have to live on a pension plus pay rent out of it. I am trying to prioritize.

[@robertpomazal1604]

Denzel, great advice. Thank you

[@RmaksKellyo]

I am genuinely and generally kind and this has made me by dealt with a lot of things I should have dealt with since

[@rosewint7203]

Amen 🙏 I love ❤️ this thank you so much for opening up my eyes cause l’m 58 years old now and have been doing kindness to people so don’t appreciate it so l’m putting myself first takers have no limits so you have to be careful opening your eyes 👀 takers them

[@gailjackson5531]

I had to LEARN to Be "KIND" To Myself FIRST, having a "GIVING SPIRIT" I PUT OTHERS FIRST......and had to Realize I would be Drained.....for Not having to Say "No" to Anyone because of My "GOOD HEART" and Intentions. After many YEARS, I have come to the understand, people were Playing Me for their Own Benefits but, I couldn't get a Cup Of Sugar from Anyone.....after Years of Lifting "HEAVY FURNITURE" or Picking FAMILY UP from their Jobs at 1:00 am as I drugged My School Age Kids out of bed on School Nights....just to make Sure, these FAMILY members got home SAFE! NO MORE, I MOVED OUT OF STATE AND DON'T DEAL WITH ANYONE FOR OVER 13 TO 14 YEARS, NOW! THANK YOU JESUS, AMEN !

[@melvincribbs1883]

This is the truth and nothing but the truth. I had to learn this the hard way.

[@barrywood7234]

"In the end time, the love of most will grow cold..." This was not so true 50 years ago. I lived it...

[@sophiafisher2193]

Truth! Every single word!

[@dugnice]

1. That isn't Denzel Washington speaking. 2. Yes, kindness can be mistaken for weakness 3. But that doesn't mean that one should not be kind to others. Even Denzel has exhibited great acts of kindness, like how he took in Omari Hardwick (the actor that played Ghost on the hit series Power) during a time of distress.

[@naomis.sharif]

Your words resonated with me. As usual, wisdom and knowledge, shared by you, is genuine and authentic. Thank you Mr. "D". THANK YOU.🎉

[@brianbrown-x9v]

These are some very true words that are so true in my own life....

[@surindersingh-uq4vl]

Kindness is not about people,its about creating order in oneself and also creating healthy boundaries

[@connylemaire]

THANK YOU❤

[@JohnSmith-cf4gn]

I'm old and keep forgetting that most people are my enemies.

[@lindafolks]

💯💯💯💯 This ruined my life but God is restoring it!!! Glory be to God! 🙏❤️🕊🌟🎶🌹🎚️⚖️

[@TheFabulousLV]

Learning that No is a complete sentence changed my life.

[@boirampai7404]

Was wondering this morning just who am I and what am I about, I’m 43 and all my life has been about putting people 1st; whenever I choose not to I feel lost and guilty. Took that “love thy neighbor as thy self” too far, so far it became my identity and way of life; it’s ruined me in more ways than 1, career development, relationships, friendships, finances and family….

[@albertamapp220]

😮😮

[@davidmichel1815]

There's not one person that does not feel they give their all to others while it's always the other people who do not reciprocate in giving.

[@ChristianGospelNewSongs-r7l]

You never to live a while to get the old saying, 'No good deed goes unpunished."

[@markreed3160]

I'm sorry that went over my head, what do you mean ? Can you put some layman terms in there for me 😊

[@nickwest1476]

I live with that Denzel!

[@motivamind-namu]

Kindness isn’t about letting people walk all over you. It’s about having the strength to stand firm with compassion. Don’t let the world confuse kindness with weakness-true kindness is power under control. When you know your worth, kindness doesn’t ruin your life-it elevates it.

[@Roger-jt5ev]

Between being kind and being stupid there IS a very thin line. Dont let anybody cross that line

[@ChipROHLKE-h9z]

There’s a big difference between being kind and foolish and being kind and strong. I believe one of the greatest things we can do with our character is to learn how to be kind to others. Much of the worlds problems are because of selfish and self-centered people. The world would be a far greater place if more people were strong and kind. .

[@andrewbedia-ow4zd]

Thank you for these masagged i have my experience help God bless us always family ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Philibusting]

Hot damm!!!! This is such a great message I wish I had heard it when I was younger. I been doing that for the last couple of years of my life, at 64 I could’ve certainly benefited from such advise much earlier in life. Kudos …

[@alexandrajablecki]

Kindness won't ruin you. Being overly accommodating will exhaust you. Remember you are your first priority❤

[@drsingingeagle]

There is a difference between being "nice" and being KIND.

[@55555robyn]

I am a very kind person. My company has taken my big advantage until now where they never gave me any increment but gave me more work n work

[@CatladyActionFigure]

Enlightened self interest is the ticket. This presentation is beautifully put together and expressed.

[@edwinreid8355]

I was in my late 20's when I realised I wis being too kind in the workplace as well as in one or two other areas that certain people were trying to take advantage of my good nature. The earlier you find this out the better.

[@christinahaslam7076]

Tried being kind but time and again people equate kindness with weakness. Now I dont give much of myself because it simply doesnt work in this world. Its so sad but its true. I can spot a user very easily these days, theres a lot of them about.

[@kimpage728]

Thank Danzel. Your the best.

[@cynthiareid9289]

Thank you Mr. Washington, I will take this wise advice with me wherever I go.

[@Scribe127]

Kindness is a virtue. Some KZbin video will not change that. But I have never heard anyone say that it brings you "success." At least by the world's standards. If your "over-kindness" (I have never heard of such a thing) keeps you from reaching your potential then your being kind for the wrong reasons. This world does NOT need more people telling them that they need to put themselves first. The greatest happiness will come from serving others.

[@randallhill7979]

So true, I wish I knew this 20 plus years ago. I know now.

[@flyaway6671]

If you are genuinely kind person you still want to find and connect with other kind people. Be kind first and if they don't reciprocate then withdraw the kindness immediately. That's how I filter people.

[@philershadi6037]

He's not describing kindness, he's describing co-dependence. True kindness is a CHOICE, not unthinking self-sacrifice. If you literally can't say no, you haven't made a choice; you've only just followed your training to obey the dominant other.

[@joesoap8125]

Yes

[@randycarson2949]

Read the book 📕 Codependence No More Best book I ever read Learned self love and I was also important

[@thechildWITHOUTlove]

You are definitely a boy " you do what you can" you are old in age but young in mind...a man does "what he wants"

[@DianaDukes-n4h]

You've just defined the difference between "nice" and "kind". Once I got to the place where I no longer cared about what others thought of or said about me, I began operating from a position of kindness, rather than from niceness.