5 Dark SECRETS about Dating in the Philippines That Everyone Should Know

[@billyjohnson9166]

Now that I think back maybe I got scammed but where talking small money. But on the whole I’m happy to be here in the Philippines.always go into a relationship with your eyes wide open.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Yes eyes wide open is important here the same as anywhere for sure

[@ruthagbong5156]

Yes ur right

[@robertcross1174]

Under your communication issues with a Filipina, one most used comment from a Filipina is, "You're counting!". They make this comment whenever you try to control your spending or try to create a budget. They don't understand the words, "We need to save money!".

[@apilgrimtraveler8483]

Thank you Sir for being one of the very few foreigner YT vloggers about the Philippines who is honest, down to earth, sincere, and speaks the truth. I have been married to a Filipina and living in the Philippines for 6 years now. This video is spot on start to end. . Keep up the great work. It is very much appreciated. Take good care.

[@vaeldsable]

forget to mention the 3 kids stocked away in the province

[@kingmaafa120]

😅😅😅

[@BogsersJazzPopTrio]

Mine had 2 with her 4 months before I found out. Sooo true

[@vjmm-s4d]

You got love-scammed. Don't pick women from shady places (bars, etc.). The easy ones will fleece you.

[@kingmaafa120]

@ these days with a few exceptions doesn’t matter times be tough

[@ulongpare6619]

yo!!!! FOREIGNERS, YOU ARE, I REPEAT, YOU ARE A MEAL TICKET OUT OF POVERTY!!! don't be NAIVE!!!!

[@25Soupy]

Well yes, but if it an equal exchange for what the 70 year old, fat, sick western gets in return? Don't tell me money, career, and social status isn't a thing for western women. Which is worse?

[@vjmm-s4d]

Yep. You deal with the uneducated lower-class in the Ph- poverty is real and you are the ticket out (not saying all). If you deal with the middle-class and you better bring your A-game- even that is not enough sometimes. Deal with the Rich and you better be a billionnaire or a business tycoon. It's all a matter of perspective. Find a decent professional (insert nationality) and you'll be fine. Don't deal with those from the streets. The easy ones, in any country even from your country- those will surely fleece you if you keep your eyes closed.

[@JCarey-uv3bb]

Everyone has an agenda.

[@gowithin9451]

I have many friends living in the Philippines and many who traveled back and forth on a steady basis. While in the Philippines I talked to many young Filipina ladies and was curious why so many married older expats instead of the younger Filipino men. The reply was pretty much the same, they said they prefer younger Filipino and Korean men, but they have no means of supporting them. So, in many cases it really is about the money and not true love.

[@LantangKaturay]

Of course Filipinas will always prefer their own kind (Filipinos or fellow Asians)! How silly of these elderly Westerners to think that Filipinas will salivate over them! Delusional!

[@vjmm-s4d]

True. Women.

[@chocolatecookie8571]

5:56 a woman that not let you allow to take a glimpse/second at another woman when you are a loyal person is a huge red flag. That person is overcontrolling and might have narcisstic tendencies or be full blown narcissist. When you feel like walking on eggshells all the time and you are not married with that person and have no children with her then simply leave that relationship.

[@BogsersJazzPopTrio]

Great delivery Dan level on point to the point

[@kiwioffgrid2437]

There exists the long game.... Until one withholds ones finances (just a little) inorder to see if it was love or convenience.

[@kiwioffgrid2437]

Then one is often quickly asked to leave.... Under these scenarios, it was love for the foreigner, but not for the filipina.

[@Legion1811]

Really great content Dan, you have the best presentations on the web!

[@jsully4064]

Can't think of any dark secrets, but you made a good list, John...Jim

[@elderdwaynehull5377]

I will like to date a filipina who is finance stable and their family as well.

[@QuinnPrice]

Sage advice. I'm an expat in Ecuador and all this applies to single dudes here.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate that and interesting to hear its the same in Ecuador. How do you like living there?

[@samw.616]

It's interesting to hear how some try to spin the truth. Had a woman tell me about her sisters ovarian cyst removal costing 115k. Definitely seemed excessive but didn't offer any help and the attempts to get the money went silent. She claimed credit covered the balance.

[@billyjohnson9166]

I’ve generally have had good luck dating Filipinas. I don’t have any bad stories just normal things that happen in relationships.

[@Robert-Hamm]

Good work on explaining Tampo......we westerners are very direct........they are less direct

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Appreciate it. We really do need to understand the culture behind behavior.

[@chocolatecookie8571]

Asians avoid direct confrontation. In general I prefer that behavior over Western directnes.

[@Robert-Hamm]

@@chocolatecookie8571 I do too. I only use directness when everything else failed.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

@@chocolatecookie8571 I understand you. Pros and cons over many things in Asian and western culture. One of the things I am grateful to live in Asia is it gives me another way I see people handle situations. Sometimes I prefer the Asian way, sometimes the western way, and sometimes I think there's a middle path that would be ideal. But when it comes to this I'm very tired of western directness and aggressiveness. It's a lazy and usually unnecessarily heavy handed response

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

@@Robert-Hammi get that. It’s the last response not a first response.

[@Lokogerrysfoodandtravel]

Thanks for videoJohn 😁 In your experience re the foreigner supporting his partner’s family, do Filipino guys support their partner’s family?

[@vjmm-s4d]

Yep, the culture is clannish. Everyone (husband or wife) is expected to help the parents of the spouse. Expected but not required.

[@patrickshepherd4664]

Real question, no disrespect, i notice when I was there ,why is it that men seem lack luster in the Philippines no disrespect, can you answer that please

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

if you mean Filipino guys, I think there’s a lot of good guys over here though culturally just looks a lot different than what it might in Western culture and so it takes more time to really get to know people

[@edsteward7717]

Caught your typo. Cheetahs vs Filipinas? I know you meant turtles, because i watch your channel. All good info though.😊 I've had productive conversations about jealousy though. It's good to be up front & honest. Saves trouble later.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Awww where did it say that? Agreed on upfront and honest. Thank you for your support!

[@Robert-Hamm]

Excellent advice. Too many men come there after watching all the hype online and decide I have money. they will be falling all over me. They likely WILL be especially if you flash it around like an idiot lol. But that wont create a relationship. You cant BUY one of those. You can buy a concubine for a shirt time.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Yes, that’s so true. And you put it very well. You can’t buy a relationship. if western guys want one of those over here they have to work at it and work at finding a great partner for them.

[@Robert-Hamm]

@@WatchCaliforniaExpat same as everywhere else on the planet. LOLOL Part of the problem is many bring this bad behavior over with them and think they will have different results. If they want a cheat that will likely work. But not if they want a quality person

[@jeffreyvlogofficial781]

FYI NOT ALL FOREIGNER IS RICH since we talking about truth

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

you are 100% correct

[@goatman3828]

Women will always try to take advantage of a man's money. There is no more or less of that in the Philippines. 90% of the time this happens when the man allows it. 10% does the guy get fleeced unknowingly. If the gal is asking for money and you give it to her, that is on you. That is your fault. Especially if you are giving money to someone you have never actually met in real life.

[@Loigis]

Tampo normal

[@Mikeyyyy_L]

#4. My family tells me that’s all that will happen is that I’ll get scammed or kidnapped over there.

[@Robert-Hamm]

That can happen in ANY country. Hell it can happen right where you live

[@newafricanforum]

Not necessarily. Just be smart about all of it😂

[@DonovanBandlow]

Yea i get it. Not go to the Philippines. Try thailand, but yea jealous is a sickness/mental disorder 😊

[@tinotino9952]

Great video John. At the end of the day, it comes down to age gap. What's a 23y/o doing with 61 y/o foreigner? Red flags all over. Many of these relationships involve a poor, uneducated Filipina sometimes with kids, looking for surviving. Folks, let’s be honest. Cheers!!!!

[@dieterfaust6693]

I am also scammed next time i Go for Justice Rights in Philippines Candon City Ilocus Sur

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

as well as you should help, thats the culture. Im sure if you cut it off, you will stay lonely.

[@charliesult4171]

Tampo equals me time lol

[@JMgmkh]

Is the scam worth the tail 🤔

[@25Soupy]

Trial and error is a real thing. It's good to be aware that these things happen and be prepared for it. It can lower the collateral damage.

[@newafricanforum]

Of course. That's why guys flock there in numbers 😂

[@jimsullivanyoutube]

I don’t need that in my life.

[@haighton]

Hi, pls allow me to try to challenge you in a good way. There is a YT channel that "forbids" me/us to say: "but in my country ....". He then responds with: "we are not in your country, we are in the Philippines". And of course he is right. However, .... Let's compare your country (USA, right?) with my country (NED) and let's talk about one specific topic and then take it to PH. In my country circumcision is NOT done. Its only done when there is a medical neccesity. So, if no medical issues then all hospitals will not and will never do a circumcision. In the Philippines its very common to circumcise baby boys (right?). So, how to navigate this when a foreigner (me) and a Filipina want to make a baby and it turns out to be a baby boy? In other words: I think its important to share how things are done "in my country" so that the Filipina knows what will possibly NOT happen in the future. Either, no baby or no circumcision. Or is there a middle ground? Same applies to baptism and probably even more importantly: how kids are raised in your/my country and in her country. This can or will lead to many major problems in the future. And so far, I havent seen 1/ONE YT channel talking about those issues/challenges. Maybe those Americans give a fuck but I do.

[@chocolatecookie8571]

When in Rome, do as the Romans do!

[@vjmm-s4d]

Find women who are open-minded. Look for working professionals. It's important where you'll raise the kid. Being uncircumcised will result to bullying in elementary and high school in the Ph. Just mean kids stuff.

[@RoseTrinidad-e4c]

Truth be told, SCAMMING IS A NEW PROFFESSIONA 😆😆😆😆😂😂😂IN PHILIPPINES.

[@WatchCaliforniaExpat]

Sad but true