5. Don't Need to Hit Children

[@adamscott]

- What are you teaching children, consciously and unconsciously by physically abusing them? It's degrading and it only creates their own latent feelings of violence. We should evolve past this archaic means of correction.

[@gingerisevil02]

Completely agree!!

[@cuchulain55]

I agree completely good man.:)

[@cuchulain55]

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[@cuchulain55]

oh yeah thats definately true.:)

[@eptx1983]

You are teaching them early that all your negative behavior will be held accountable. There is a proper way to spank your children and then there is abuse.

[@samantha8223]

Hitting is hitting and that is abuse. Just as there is no 'proper' way to hit your spouse, there is no way to hit defenseless children that makes it ok or beneficial to them. Maybe easier for you, but your kids shouldn't suffer because parenting is too hard for you. You're delusional if you think hitting a child shows them that people will be held accountable for negative behavior. The only thing you're teaching them is that if someone bigger than them cannot control themselves, it's okay for that person to physically harm someone smaller and weaker than them. You're no more than a bully to someone 1/3 of your size.

[@TheSBleeder]

@@samantha8223 The courts say otherwise. Spankings shouldn't cause pain for more than a second. You can't have a rational conversation with a toddler.

[@Person-ef4xj]

​@@TheSBleeder The courts used to say that slavery was ok so they aren't really a good guide to what is or is not abuse. The courts really just decide what you can be legally punished for so deciding what's abuse based on what the courts say is really just a way of saying that what you can get away with is abuse. The science shows that spanking has a similar effect on the brain as other forms of abuse as well as effecting their behavior in similar ways.

[@vancitypoet]

Just like tapping a dog on the head when it messes up big time, if your kid is running rampant, sometimes you need to give he or she a good smack, it worked on little house on the prairie, and it worked for me. This guy apparently either doesn't have any kids or hasn't been around any bad ones. He reminds me of people who are against the death penalty, but have never had anyone around them who have been brutally murdered by a sick psycho, or like a fat guy trying to tell you how to diet, lol.

[@samantha8223]

You just compared your child to a dog and a death row inmate, then admitted you model your parenting off of a fictional television show. And yet you want to give advice about raising a child. That would be funny if I wasn't so concerned for your child's future and well being. It amazes me how nonchalantly you admit that hitting your poor child works better for you than parenting them. When another adult says they didn't resort to brainless acts of violence with a child, it doesn't mean they had it easier than you, it just shows they're better at it than you.

[@KingMFG]

You and everyone else who responded to this video should really watch your words, because there is a definite line between spanking your child on the hand or butt and abusing them. You would know that if you had ever dealt with abused children. It is at the point of abuse that the child starts to create feelings associated with abuse, and shapes thoughts, and actions based on those feelings. Im not arguing weather or not it is right but the way you say things effect people in different ways.

[@GetMeThere1]

Important stuff for people to know....but it would have been nice if he hadn't begun with a non-sequitor (that he wouldn't be able to make money if he were wrong about his theories). Virtually ALL psychologists have made money with WRONG theories!

[@TheSBleeder]

"If you don't put that cookie down, you'll miss TV." Maybe the kid sees that as a beneficial trade-off. Maybe he's fine with missing TV that night if it means a cookie now. Spanking works.

[@Person-ef4xj]

According to the science it does not. It may look like it works in the short term because the child does what you want when around you to avoid a spanking but when you aren't around the child will misbehave more than if you hadn't spanked.

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@Person-ef4xj Yeah I agree and the same applies to all punishments, they only teach a facade of being "good" they actually increase misbehaviour when no one is watching.

[@karnak333]

What if the child is the spawn of Satan himself?