5 Negative Homemaking Traps and How to Avoid Them

[@kathycooper8449]

Being a homemaker is like being a flight attendant on a plane that never lands. Breaks are essential.

[@ladykathrynperry9094]

Domesticity is my strong suit but it isn’t for many other ladies. I will share my best advice: do a small task every day. When my children were small I learned to do one task and consider it an accomplishment. Little people do require so much attention. Now that I am a wiser woman I continue to practice the same skill set. Perhaps cooking the dinner mid day. Perhaps doing a clean bathroom sweep briefly. I do a small load of laundry most days. I grocery shop with a list once a week so that I am well-stocked and rotate my pantry. As I’ve met women of all ages some like these domestic tasks some abhor them. Ladies, enjoy each season of your life span. Find joy in the mundane.

[@kimgordon3695]

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[@---wu3qj]

My husband always has breaks for tea. His English grandmother called it “A civilized moment”. Sitting down for a cup of tea in a gorgeous antique cup is my treat. I take frequent breaks between chores throughout the day.

[@rubycasketcreations3445]

Lots of little nuggets of gold! I love the quote about perfection. And a wonderful observation about our routine becoming “boring” was intriguing. I never considered that being a reason as to why a once perfectly functioning routine suddenly goes flat! 🎉Yay! Great food for thought. Thanks Jennifer!

[@pamcornelius9122]

I’ve heard that unplugging and then plugging an electronic device back in is called a “soft reset.” I hadn’t thought of that working for people too! 🔌 🕯️

[@anniemoulinsteffen3465]

I have no choice. I need lots of break because of post covid exhausion. Life is more than doing cores. Love is more important than perfect home tracking. ❤

[@evasochocki5209]

I love it when you do this kind of video. Thank you. Most of the quotes in this video will go into my commonplace notebook 😊

[@michelletackett9489]

I love dressing up. It helps me get into homemaker mode and mindset.

[@amandazplace5663]

Love the quote about being too rigid. Didn't we see this in 2020? Those who were able to be flexible, open-minded, were also able to pivot and handle change.

[@kham7571]

Thank you Jennifer. I am sending this to my husband who is a Type A individual. Hoping he watches it. Although this was geared towards women, he shares the characteristics. He believes if he just gets up earlier, or works harder, his life will be perfect, everything done. I fear he is missing out on enjoying the journey. He is a successful provider, a good father, yet I do not see him as happy. He is hard on himself, and it affects his family.

[@kimgordon3695]

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[@elinarajaniemi]

Too much rigid work and routine (even at home) puts you on a masculine mode. Not the vibe I want to give to my family all day, every day. So, taking breaks, softness, exploring new things, breaking habits and cultivating creativity makes me feel like a more rounded woman 💋

[@luba-healthywithluba6866]

So well said! Breaks are so refreshing!

[@elinarajaniemi]

@@luba-healthywithluba6866 Thank you, Luba

[@paulabrandt4958]

hei kiva; muitakin suomalaisia Jenniferin kanavalla😊❤

[@pinkroses135]

Yes! To flourish and nurture

[@mmmbopbear2459]

So true. Also, the men in my life want to help relieve my burden if I show that softness.

[@Rosie_C]

Your comments about experimenting with recipes even if you don’t have all of the ingredients rang so true for me!! I have to follow a very strict diet and cannot eat any gluten or dairy, plus I limit seed oils and sugar. People ask me where I find recipes that taste good because many GF things are yuck, and I always encourage people to just take their favorite recipes and make substitutes for the ingredients you cannot have. It works (most of the time)! 😀 My favorite is banana bread - I can make it so many different ways for just about anybody while using my favorite recipe. Once, I made it free from gluten, dairy, sugar, nuts, soy, egg… and it was still delicious!

[@luba-healthywithluba6866]

Dear Jennifer, taking breaks has really lowered my stress levels and increased my productivity. Also, switching up my routine has done wonders. Thank you for your videos. They are always calm and peaceful. 💜

[@krissykimono]

I have literally worn myself to the bone. I am guilty of every single thing on your list. The cost is my health and having to depend on others after draining my all my personal energy resources. I sincerely hope that those who watch your video take this advice to heart. 🥰

[@21972012145525]

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[@carmellamattie8587]

Love that we can see you even though you’re going through some really hard things. We appreciate you and pray your heart will find peace without your father. ❤

[@mussycohen4325]

I think this was filmed before

[@21972012145525]

she said that she had a month's worth of videos prefilmed, but will not be engaging in the comments as usual/frequently.

[@angieallen4884]

Thanks for this; it is just the right amount of advice. When I retired in 2020, I had to look at my routines and adjust in many ways. It took me some time to realize I did not have to do all the things I used to do on Saturday! I figured out when was the best time for me to do things I used to do in the evenings or on Saturdays because I was working and put them in the most convenient places during the day and week. I was time-blocking and didn't know it. It was so freeing! I hope that younger women will be able to implement your advice and find what works for them much sooner than I did! Great content, as always. Oh, I am still not good at delegating, but now that I have more time, I don't feel the burnout I did before. My husband, who has always been responsible for "outside the house" has delegated brilliantly by hiring two services to care for our yard! So worth it!

[@katherinerichardson1767]

Amen! Retirement is an opportunity to change things up to suit your NEW life-style.

[@virgierutledge3004]

I have a large capacity washer and dryer. Now retired, I have to make myself wait for a full load of each kind of laundry because of our water bill going higher. I had a ridged view of wanting empty dirty clothes hampers. When leaving for a vacation, I drive myself nuts not wanting to leave a thing in there. I must change.

[@21972012145525]

weekly is a good start. adjust as needed

[@rachelkreamer5470]

This video really hit home. Something that has given me extra motivation to let go and delegate even if the job might not get done “right” is my recent awareness that not delegating is actually bad parenting! At its core the whole entire role of a parent is to prepare your child to leave the nest. Not letting our kids practice developing life skills because we want the job done efficiently and perfectly sends them a constant message that we do not believe they are capable. They can’t do it right. Leaving the home without the knowledge and the experience to believe they can handle things is the recipe for a life filled with anxiety and depression. Two conditions that are plaguing society. Jennifer your advice in this video is extremely valuable and very timely for me and I’m sure many others. ❤

[@Dulce_Domum]

This is REALLY well put. I wholeheartedly agree.

[@Rosie_C]

Good for you! I speak with so many adults who’s reason for not being able to do a task or do it well is simply because “my parents didn’t teach me” or “my parents never let me do that or help with that.”

[@amywjn]

So pertinent to me right now, & I’m sure others. I am making myself take a break to get some sun for 20 minutes each day & take the dog for a walk. Also, I am stopping housework at 9pm doing some Bible reading & hanging out with my older teens. It is very hard for me to do nothing, some parts of my life are passing me by.

[@violetstarla]

Really needed this today love the quote, "Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you." I'm also a hyper productive person and find it hard to rest until everything is finished but nothing is ever really supposed to be perfect and unplugging really helps you to see vividly your progress and feel a greater appreciation for what really matters in the day.

[@dogcatmom5877]

Great video!!! I have been married for 33 years but I always learn something new or look at something in a new way thanks to you and your videos. ❤😁

[@jennyjenkins877]

That Laozi quote is everything! 💛

[@katiecousineau2412]

Very thought-provoking video, thank you! Can you please consider doing another hour long Clean with Me ASMR video set to beautiful music-I play your hour long one over and over again!!!

[@moniquelacroix1706]

Hi Jennifer! What an interesting and original subject you cover in this video! It is so helpful! I especially liked the quotes you included because they were not only very relevant but also profound. Oh, the power of words! I can say that I have fallen into ALL the negative homemaking traps you have mentioned, but the worst for me would be perfectionism! I had to laugh because recently, I remember thinking that homemaking was to me like the Greek myth of a man always pushing a boulder up a mountain, but I didn’t know the name of that man, and when I heard you mention it, I was relieved! And I was so happy to see that I was not alone thinking that way! With this video, you gave me hope, and useful tools, to see homemaking in a different light! Thank you!

[@juliecarns]

Hi Jennifer, Excellent advice. I wish someone had talked to me during my first pregnancy and childbirth about cutting back on my normal routine and expectations; I was experiencing extreme health issues but no one could diagnose me so I listened to the person that said we are all tired push a lot harder.

[@mommy3950]

I would like more videos like this

[@catherinecolombo8474]

I love your videos! especially videos like this one. Or the tips on how to live an elegant lifestyle. Please do more of those :)

[@TheHouseofHillman]

Thank you for making this video Jennifer! It is nice to know other people fall into these traps, and I appreciate seeing the mindset you use to get out of it!

[@emwhite6796]

Thanks Jennifer. wish I had learnt about these tips 10 years ago! very help ful thank you

[@amylouise9853]

This is a very pretty video. You are completely right about accepting help from your family - learning to accept help from my partner has been a complete game changer in our relationship and has strengthen it immensely.

[@MicheleLRid]

Great quotes that apply to every aspect of life! Thanks!

[@maureencaldwell2975]

If I could give this ten thumbs up, I would! So good, Jennifer!

[@valchica7]

I really liked this, especially the water quote.

[@elizabethelizawker8212]

Hi Jennifer! This is one of my absolute favorite videos of yours that I have ever seen! A lot of wisdom and gems 💎 in this one. Thank you!❤

[@heather5926]

Always a joy to hear your voice. Just popped on and was delighted that you posted 1hr ago. ❤ Such wise words, Jennifer. Thank you 🙏

[@claudiaantoine7679]

Me siento exactamente como Sisifo!!! Gracias Jennifer!

[@katherinerichardson1767]

I love how you incorporate quotes. Good advice.

[@ElleRT19]

I so appreciate this video! Thank you from the east coast ❤

[@wgelsa]

Thank you Jennifer. Wonderful topic. The same apply to not just homemaking, but also almost everything in life. Thank you for sharing the quotes. They are lovely and helpful.

[@CherylAnderson0]

This may be my new favorite video. Great words of wisdom.

[@dariajacq4769]

I would add another one - giving more importance to the tasks and not to the living creatures. Sometimes I want to clean the kitchen or the like and my dog wants a hug or invites me to play, and I think : « She has a shorter lifespan than me, stop your endless tasks and enjoy her precious company ». Idem with my husband or my baby.

[@victoriaoliver9958]

One of my favorite videos! I love the quotes. And I needed to remember that I need to delegate some things.

[@crterwil]

Thank you, Jennifer! What a timely message today. God bless you.

[@smaira2759]

Thank you Jennifer. Such a useful video as I struggle with all of these things. Its almost as if I need to learn how to be lazy!

[@mariosusac9644]

Your style in clothing has evolved a lot, I think it would be interesting to see a video where you react to your style from a few years ago. Great video btw

[@CharleneSomers]

I suffer with all of these!!! This was soooo helpful! Thank you so so much!

[@janjentz1053]

I tried having a daily to do or chore list many, many years ago. for me; I found it to be negative; usually falling short of what was on the list. I was usually busy as a Mom and homemaker every day doing several things; but maybe it wasn't the items on the list. The chore or to do list didn't last long; The important things always seemed to get done without one.

[@gayanemadatian3771]

Good to know you’re not the only one in this rigid pathway 🙋‍♀️🥰

[@laurasexton8932]

Find that my morning routine, though i love it, does make me less available for hubby. We are empty nesters.

[@21972012145525]

thank you. I know all this but some reason, your reminders are enjoyable! I'm usually not a big quote/definition person, but they were enjoyable in this video. Can you share how you do #2 in a future video. What/how often do you do it yourself versus delegate?

[@andreakarisik6320]

Another wonderful video, thank you Jennifer.

[@DansonforJoy]

Enjoyed this so much! Thanks, Jennifer!

[@lorakluwe4569]

Que triste y que lindo...Gracias por compartir... eres hermosa... honras a la vida de tus padres con un amor bellísimo... Dios te bendiga

[@lolajacomino6574]

Thank you so much for a very interesting video. You left me thinking 😉

[@maddalenaturner]

Hi, another topic that I would like to suggest is, do you do a different morning routine on weekends or days when you have a late night.

[@sonyasylvester100]

Beautiful video

[@presentatmystop]

Another lovely video:)

[@kleaftykleafty]

Hello, I love your videos! I was wondering, what is the salmon dish you are preparing in this video? Thank you.

[@21972012145525]

She shared it in a previous video

[@lucindawilson5510]

well done thanks again

[@sherriepiechowski4556]

Good Advice!🥰

[@mandelbrot2232]

yes very good advices 🤩 thank you 😊

[@DonnaSueFlo]

I love Alexander Mc Smith, too❤

[@frannader2739]

Sometimes routines get you stuck in a rut. Flexibility is interesting.

[@WAG24205]

Great video , very interesting. Also I tried and tried to get the code to work for the discount and it would not work. Very disappointing.

[@batiagabrielleeven154]

I started this video excited but unfortunately it didnt work for me! Its all about being too much this too much that, i wish! I wish i had a set routine and worked so hard i forgot to take breaks! Imrather all over the place but nothing gets finished. I stop everytime i feel i did good enough. I guess the videos i need to rewatch are the enemies of homemaking 😅

[@evabeharkova9926]

You have just jumped out of my head

[@robynbartlett2234]

Wish I could give this video TEN "thumbs ups"!!! ❤

[@TheT74]

We started observing the Shabbos to prioritize rest.

[@hortensiengarten]

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[@gayanemadatian3771]

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[@laurawolf9613]

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