5 Neurodivergent Traits Women Use To Diagnose Their Husbands

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[@kenthil]

A wife will train her husband over the course of years exactly how she wants him to behave, and then will be shocked when he actually behaves that way. If you keep berating, negging and criticizing someone, while downplaying all the ways they show their love to you, don't be surprised when they withdraw from you. I shut down and gave up years ago, because if I ever had a problem and brought it up, it became my fault. We are just starting the divorce process, and I will never get married again after this. What I went through wasn't worth it. Ladies watching this: Karen isn't lying. She will guide you on how to save your marriage before its too late. My STBXW refuses to watch her because she feels "attacked". If she would've watched this channel and taken on board what is being said, our entire relationship could've been saved. Now, I'm going to remain happily unmarried for the rest of my days.

[@ItalNico]

Wishing you better days ahead after you are free. I am in the same boat.

[@cfinstr]

@@ItalNico at least half of men are there with you…..

[@SKBottom]

Sounds like you are headed for better times. Congratulations and good luck.

[@kenthil]

@@SKBottom Thank you. It's unfortunate that I feel that I am headed that way, but it is what it is, and beyond my power to change. I honestly think I'm actually done with marriage/serious relationships, although I think I'll still be interested in casually dating again at some point. Maybe.

[@wucjohnwallis]

I urge you to give your marriage and yourself another chance. Divorce is not Freedom!

[@carlmanis879]

I once told my wife you can cry if you want to but I wont change my mind. I also told her I will be laughing at you seeing you trying everything and still not get your way. The first temper tantrom will last a long time each one shorter until she sees it does no good. I showed a young mother in the store with her kid whining and crying. I winked and smiled and held up my finger to wait. I walked over to the little girl and told her I love to hear little girls cry. I ask her if she could cry louder for me she said no I said please. As I was shopping if I heard her start crying again I peaked around the corner and she would shut up and smile. Point is if you give in each time it is worse.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

Wow. I Should've known that before marriage. My wife used crying and acting like a little hurt girl to manipulate me.

[@carlmanis879]

@@nietwojinteres7278 yep

[@jrother]

"My feelings don't matter, so why should I care about hers" is a daily struggle at this point. A few weeks ago, I brought up some of the ways that I was feeling disconnected and unwanted in the marriage and she woke up the next day furious with me and described all the ways she was also feeling unwanted. I'm the only one of the two of us who actually took any responsibility over those two days...

[@Dee-th4mr]

Sad to say but, this is another comment that could be my own. I was feeling unwanted, unattractive,etc because our marriage was sexless for well over a decade. I told her if she would initiate just sometimes I would feel very differently. Her reply...no I'm not doing that. Our feelings don't matter PERIOD

[@rougebaba3887]

Boy does this sound familiar! I came to an emotional breaking point where out of me flowed incident after incident where my wife treated me with disrespect, emasculation and outright contempt. Some of these things are so awful that even while I was recounting them, I was thinking to myself, "Why am i even here still?" My emotions were running high and I admitted to her how over the course of decades I felt unwanted, unattractive, weak, incompetent, a poor sexual partner, zero respect and appreciation.... and then I summed it all up, telling her that as I was relating those things she had done to me, I was feeling all the same emotions I felt at the time, but with the added emotion of rage. And after I was done, having only really scratched the surface of the horrible behaviors she engaged in, but enough for her to know how miserable I felt being married to her, she focused on only one thing I said in that whole conversation... "You used the word 'rage'." Showing my wife her own awful behavior is like showing a crucifix to a vampire.

[@gillm12]

Mine does the same thing but in real time. She asks me what's going on with me and the end of the conversation always ends up about her. Then I get asked why I don't talk or share things....because they either get flipped into something about how she's feeling or I get shamed.

[@leroyj3627]

Dang. I can relate to ALL the comments in this thread! In short, though, at least in my personal experience, women (generally speaking) DO NOT CARE about their husband's feelings or issues; well except the physical ones, which might affect his ability to provide!

[@Dee-th4mr]

@@leroyj3627 that's part of why Karen says a woman's worry about our well being is a form of manipulation. They only worry about it because of how they would be affected if we were for instance injured. Sad but true.

[@maleccnurse1]

My ex spouse literally claimed that I was "mentally ill" - for things like not caring about her girlfriend's problems, or for another example that people close to me like my pastor and a coworker were telling me that I needed to seek help, and proof of my "illness" was that I was not aware of this (said people saying "we haven't heard from her". ). In time I came to see there was a name for this: "gaslighting". I had never seen the "gaslighting" movie (and still haven't) but I grasp the concept. Thanks for your channel: Keep up the great work!

[@Mattheus217]

Yes, you are conditioned to doubt your own memories and mind. The goal is to break you down so that you only see her reality and she is right and you are wrong or stupid or incompetent, etc.. The purpose is to gain power and control, and dominance over someone else Gaslighting is a form of brainwashing that is done intentionally to mislead someone and intentionally to gain power and control over them It is worse than if if it is just an angry difficult person who tells you the truth, but doesn’t deliberately mislead you

[@archierieser4348]

My wife says My problem is that my attitude changes after we don't have sex for a while and she doesn't like it, I said well, you have the power to change that. All I get is that is all you can think of.

[@SteveAppel-r2o]

Then get you sex somewhere else and you will have the wonderful personality she loves "-0

[@bufordman1976]

My wife decided Saturday that she cancelling divorce and wants to go to counseling. We have been in divorce process for almost 3 months. The reason why she wants to cancel divorce is because 4 people on Saturday told her to go back to me, to get over her issues and work it out. I just feel like she is not honest the way told me and could have been more heart felt.

[@nerychristian]

Tell her that you will choose the counselor. Have her talk to Karen.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Sounds like she did a new risk/reward calculation because 4 persons told her to do her homework again. Try to find out why she changed her point of view. Watch out, can be a trap. And, what do you want in life? Still want her in your life??

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

If my wife did that I'm not sure I would accept. I have had to make deals with the devil to move forward with the divorce in the same time frame. I have also realized my wife is worse than the devil I have had to bargain with

[@nerychristian]

@@bufordman1976 You have to take control of the situation. Tell her what your expectations are for the marriage. Tell her that if she is not meeting those expectations, and if you sense she is not being serious about changing, that you will just pull the plug on the whole thing. Also make some female friends. Hang out with other people. Let her know that her position is not secure. She has to work for your loyalty.

[@TheVampirePriest]

Don’t take her back; keep pushing forward with that divorce. All you’re doing is prolonging the inevitable. These problems will not only compound as time progresses, but will blow up in your face. She’ll claim that she took you back & you couldn’t even change for the better.

[@AD-br3sx]

I love how she refers to us as 'good men'.

[@wucjohnwallis]

Amen brother, I love that too the way that she says a "good man". And God made us with a good man inside, one that needs to be nurtured and let out. But not out of egotism and pride and self-awareness and self-righteousness, totally with humility that man can come out and be the leader of his home.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

When she started cheating on me and I became suspicious, she started "diagnosing" me. She told me I'm psychopathic, narcissistic, autistic. She claimed I have both superiority and inferiority complex.

[@Dee-th4mr]

I think it's funny that in my life my being angry or upset about something she said or did to me is simultaneously the cause and effect for my anger. Just another thing I didn't know when I was single.

[@udontknowhoiambutiknowhereuliv]

That’s probably why I’ve never had an actual long term relationship. If a girl said that 2 me I’d probably say something along the lines of; you couldn’t diagnose the common cold, let alone a brain as infinitely complex as mine. So why don’t you try actually shutting the phug up for once in you’re life so that you might actually learn something, dum 6itch.

[@The_Mister]

My wife used to tell me that I needed to receive influence from my wife, but when I told her she also needed to accept influence from her husband, she would shut me down and say “you can’t have that story and be married to me” “you believe lies that are making you subject to the devil and his wages for you”, or “your feelings are subjective so we can’t really discuss them, we can only discuss facts, which are what you did to me.” If I ever disagreed about what happened, then she’d say I was gaslighting her…which meant I was a narcissist, which meant I also had no real feelings, nothing good I did was sincere, and I deserved all her contempt and disrespect.

[@rapsack7058]

Why did you stayed married to such a women?

[@doomguy9049]

Damn bro, how did you end up married to someone that selfish, disrespectful and dishonest?

[@SteveAppel-r2o]

Please tell me you moved on

[@leroyj3627]

​@@doomguy9049I could ask 'myself' the same question you just asked. It's called the "bait & switch," which, in my case, came a full 7 years AFTER I signed the contract; six years after our child was born.

[@doomguy9049]

@@leroyj3627 I understand now, thanks for the reply. I've been with my girl almost 25 years now, married for 18 and she's changed up multiple times herself, usually after reaching one of life's big milestones, like our engagement, marriage, first childbirth etc. Luckily for me and our kids the changes haven't been as bad as what you describe about your wife, and honestly there's been a lot of good in the mix too but they always come with drama and it's really wild to see it as it's happening. I wish you and your kids all the best and good luck dealing with your wife, sounds like she she might be having some kinda mental issues and that definitely complicates things no matter what you choose to do with your relationship.

[@Mattheus217]

Thank you for uploading this video. Your videos are insightful and helpful to examine feminine patterns and mindset, as well as their deep seated, self hatred, and loathing at times. What I’m hearing is basically what I experienced in that accusing you of having problems with your brain or your thoughts is just another way to manipulate control, confuse and dominate you Then you are conditioned or programmed to try to apologize for who you are and what you want to jump through hoops to try try to please and appease but yet deep down, there’s no way to make this person happy You are conditioned to tolerate smaller and smaller crumbs of her femininity and love all the while believing that you’re eating when in fact, you are starving Oh, and about the tendency towards routines and schedules, she reaps the benefit of these things as do you because you just take care of what needs to happen She might think it’s magical or not even realize all the things you do until you separate and then she wonders why things aren’t getting done Wow, I also got to your section about empathy, I was accused many times of not having empathy or trying to emotionally abuse, her etc. I don’t think she actually had empathy, but maybe she thought she did or she thought she knew how to look like she had empathy But when someone criticizes you and cuts you down using shame, insults, guilt, a need to be right at all costs, scolding, manipulation, and gaslighting, I would call that an extreme lack of empathy When you are blamed for problems over and over again that you cannot fix, you run around a wheel and your life energy sucks away You have to get away so that you can survive.

[@Funaccount-pu3uj]

This woman is listening. I’ve diagnosed myself as neurodivergent. I know I pushed him away to the point of doing vacations alone. This created resentment on my side and desire for another woman. She is unreachable and not realistic but I know I’m close to lose him and he’s close to lose me. We don’t want that. I need to focus less on him and more on me at same time as giving love and showing appreciation and affection.

[@AdamRabczuk]

That "diagnosis" list is so ridiculous! It's pure misandry! Holy! If men created such list to diagnose women it would be on the front pages of entire internet. "if your woman is calm and caring, she might be a psycho" imagine that!

[@SemperFidelisFreedom]

😆

[@ethanmiller5487]

It would suck to go through life seeing positive traits in others and then telling yourself those traits are actually a negative. The amount of cognitive dissonance must grow exponentially with each interaction. Damn. Women don't just do this to their husbands, they also do this to sons and brothers.

[@Brent-z2s]

And neighbors.

[@Brent-z2s]

She thinks you are just as manipulitve as her but you are just bad at it. People judge others by their own standards. A thief thinks everyone is stealing from them.

[@jcontreras1736]

My wife has eyes like an eagle she spots things that are dirty across the room that tends to dominate her personhood and she can’t stand it being dirty and reminds me it needs to be cleaned up like ocd when I just clean it the day before and starts arguments and says she never gets help from me and gas lights me

[@SemperFidelisFreedom]

yeah, I can relate to that hardcore. My wife and i went to a counselor that literally told her and I what I was "Mary" and she was "Martha" in the Bible story. For those that don't know...the sister Mary sat at Jesus' feet to listen and build the relationship...Martha was busy in the kitchen and cleaning and then "Called out" Mary to help and then scolded Jesus to have Mary help her. Jesus, said "Martha, Martha...you are worried about many things...but Mary has chosen the wiser thing and it will not be taken from her." (Luke 10:38-42) To this day, my wife actually says Jesus was wrong...and that Martha was the one that is right. She's proud to wear the title of Martha. Meanwhile, I will drop nearly everything to build, strengthen, or preserve a friendship or relationship. It makes no sense to me.

[@rougebaba3887]

My wife will say, "We need to clean and organize around here." And into my head pops this thought.. "Ok, what's stopping you from doing it then?" I am the sole bread winner in a house of 4 people. I work at least 50 to 55 hours a week - week in, week out. She is a stay at home mom with a very chill disabled son who would probably prefer her to leave him alone most of the time and very well behaved 16 year old adopted daughter who is in school all week long. No doubt she does do the bulk of the housework, but I pitch in plenty and she knows it.

[@rougebaba3887]

@@SemperFidelisFreedom That's such a great analogy that i am shocked a female marriage councilor would apply it. And I love this part of what you write: "She's proud to wear the title of Martha. Meanwhile, I will drop nearly everything to build, strengthen, or preserve a friendship or relationship. It makes no sense to me." I dread having any company over, especially if it is my kids or grandkids on a holiday (like Christmas). My wife seems to take on a foul mood in the buildup to the event. If it were just up to me, I'd simply look forward to seeing everyone and just let things flow. In other words, my preparations would be subpar, at least by my wife's standards. The whole point is to spend time together. But I find myself working like a mad man in hopes she will not take on that foul mood. It ruins the whole event for me. And even while they are here, I spend my time trying to keep the place straight so that i won't pay the price later, hearing her complain about the mess and the inconvenience of it all. The end result is that she gets to spend more quality time than I do. It's F'd up

[@davidneufeld8824]

Changed the very first day of after marriage day.❤

[@rulls77]

Karyn THANK YOU! you are helping soo many people, personally I am glad I came across your channel because you help me understand It was not my fault, I have try to implement your guidance but have not been successful with my wife, we have two small kids 3 & 5, and they are the only reason why I haven't got divorce, but I am getting to a point where its unbearable for me to coupe with the lack of respect, happiness and sex in my life, I know I can keep going for my kids, I will keep a facade, will not argue in front of them and try to keep them out of this mess, but I am sure they can see and feel I am not happy. I just don't know what to do

[@gillm12]

I'm at the same point but only one child who's 3. I really can't take much more of it to be honest.

[@purpledrank221]

The crazy person is always trying to tell you that you are crazy. Literally telling me that I have said and done things to her that I have never said or done.

[@francoiskeulen]

Time anchors for quick navigation only #1 00:47 you are gullible #2 02:35 you have routines #3 04:16 you are honest and direct #4 05:56 having an empathy deficit #5 08:25 you stopped being attentive Reply with which ones you have been blamed for.

[@davidneufeld8824]

Why are you so honest ❤never heard a woman be so honest ❤well done

[@robertcsmith4298]

My wife is bossy and egocentric, but; she is always telling me how awful and narcissistic I am. Im tired of being disrespected and just want peace.

[@Funaccount-pu3uj]

I feel like she is me. Have you hugged her? Have you learned her love language? I wish you well.

[@smokedawg9371]

Thanks again!

[@JonasTF24]

Thanks for this, you've helped to clear a major future mind-f out of the way of my future peace

[@ItalNico]

As I was listening to this, I couldn't help but wonder how much of these behaviors are actually hard-wired into women vs learned through social cues and culture. Speaking as a man I've observed that it has to be a combination of both.

[@SteveAppel-r2o]

It’s Biblical. Genesis 3. Since the fall of Adam and Eve women were cursed with dominating husbands.

[@LastRebel1978]

Men have feelings, who knew?

[@Thyst1]

We have raised a son on the autism spectrum whom now is a 24 yr old high functioning member of society with an actual HS diploma and a normal job in a Hospital Kitchen. We both worked hard to get him to the level of independence that we were satisfied with. But now, my wife accuses me of being an undiagnosed male on the spectrum because of my son and I similarities. I don’t know what makes her an expert at diagnoses but she constantly makes me feel like I’m selfish or insensitive and doesn’t understand why I am not passionate about being a born again Christian. I was raised Catholic. The other day we were at “Church” and I am in charge of the sound in the church but afterwards we go and have a bagel and Coffie or some cold cuts for fellowship. She never serves herself food even if she is helping in that area and always wants me to serve her food. I believe she doesn’t want to be seen getting food because she is a little heavy and has some insecurities about that. Anyway, I served myself and started eating while she was socializing. She asked me to go serve her in the middle of me eating my meal. So I said I would when I was finished. I finished and went to get her a plain bagel and the cold cuts had run out. So I served her the bagel and told her they ran out of cold cuts. She said I waited too long to serve her and that I was being selfish and that’s why she didn’t get any cold cuts. She has a way of turning things around on me to make me look like the bad,selfish,insensitive,dumb person. If I do 9 nice things without being told and I do one thing wrong or by mistake it negates all the 9 other things I’ve done right. I always thought I was just shy or timid. Who knew I was Autistic!?!

[@soladeogloria5839]

@@Thyst1 You are being abused by your wife. She is emasculating you. She will get angry yet, in the case of the bagel, that’s her problem. Don’t let her make it yours. Sounds like it’s time for her to start serving you.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

My EX chose divorce. Now she wants to be my friend. I see her this Wednesday, about what IDK.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

Refuse the friend zone. Never do it.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

I have friends I haven't spoke to in decades. She probably wants husband services without being your wife

[@TheVampirePriest]

Don’t see her at all. She wants you back because no one else wants her. You meeting her for IDK is just proving that she’s right about you, “You’ll always be there for her to take her back no matter what she does/say.” Don’t be her simp.

[@edwardcacho7331]

Don’t do it you will be sorry and I’m trying to save you heart ack. Good luck brother.

[@niner8tangojuliet149]

Forget her dude. If everything is final and you have no reason to communicate, don’t.

[@davebrucher5550]

My bride of 43 years just snapped at me as she sat down to do her nails. I left the table and she then indicated she had hoped to talk to me. As she is leaving tomorrow on two long hiking trips, one near Iceland, for a week, then the Appalachian trail, 4th segment for 2-6 weeks. She never asked me about going on these trips, before booking them. She spends plenty of $$ while on these trips and calls on me to help arrange flights, etc. when she wants to come back. I tolerate her being gone for 4-6 weeks at a time as it is nice to have her not around.. I have learned (taught) to not rely on her, in my life for affection, sex, humor and companionship. I am recently on "vacation" from trying to please her. She may be very confused because of this. Perhaps the slamming doors might be an indication. This may be THE trip when she will decide if she wishes to continue this roommate marriage of ours. I am OK with that, either way! Very sad to admit that!

[@davebrucher5550]

Ended with slamming doors and left on her 6 week hiking "adventure" without saying Bye! Perhaps she is trying to find herself. She may find that I am reaching the limits to my patience. Why do some women seek the drama and then react in a negative way when it happens? Giving up half of the estate we have created together is sounding better and better. She TAKES more than half already!

[@kenthil]

@@davebrucher5550 Peace is worth any price. Even half your belongings.

[@wallybigwheels8993]

You are awesome! You just saved another life!.🙏❤️

[@rbjohnson2506]

My goodness, your spot on!!! Carry on

[@albiggs5331]

wife doesnt work never paid a bill looked at a 500 energy bill hasnt given sex in years and told me she wanted romance i laughed and told her i guess im not doing enough

[@bmardiney]

Using the word “neurodiverent” is…neurodivergent. Just call it disordered like a regular person.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@bmardiney, thank you for your comment. What do you call a regular, normal potato? A commentator. 😉

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

@thehappywifeschool that was too good Karyn!

[@bmardiney]

@@thehappywifeschool um. Good one? I was saying something serious in a teasing way. “neurodivergent” is word that was created to make it sound like obviously bad mental conditions are somehow “just fine, just different”. They aren’t, they are actual problems. I agree with the point of your video (as I do most times I watch), but using the language of your philosophical enemy is losing the battle before you even begin to fight.

[@bmardiney]

@@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor come on now. It was pretty dumb. Have a higher standard for comedy.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

@bmardiney I got your mediocre attempt at delivery and then Karyn obviously got it as well. So it was in fact the compounded comedy that made it funny to me. Now you're taking away from what you initially tried to say.

[@mikeeggleston1769]

Does that mean (imply) the difference between the sexes is mirrored between the two major political parties?

[@jamesyoung187]

Actually, women who do this, you could actually turn the analysis around and voila, that's exactly what they are doing. Projection..................she nailed it!

[@archierieser4348]

I don't tell My wife anything anymore, she won't listen to me anyway.

[@wbtittle]

The Spectrum is wide. A lot of us will test positive.

[@gillm12]

That's for medical billing purposes. If they can create a billing code for insurance they can make money off it.

[@wbtittle]

​@@gillm12 the DSM makes it so we can tag anyone somehow. The first reason for the DSM is to give the counselor a chance of finding a path towards treatment. This is not a bad thing. THEN we found out we can use the classification as a billing purpose. Now we use the DSM to make money. "

[@gillm12]

@wbtittle I pay nothing out of pocket for my son....he was in occupational therapy at 2, as well as physical therapy, speech therapy, autism analysis, ect. He was 6mo behind because he's a covid baby they love my insurance, they love the money. A patient cured is a patient lost. All a money grab.

[@wbtittle]

​@@gillm12 It is good for your pocket that you do not have to pay out of pocket. But that should terrify you also. That is how the medical system sucks everything out of the financial system.

[@wallybigwheels8993]

❤

[@deangerber1797]

R u saying women suck?

[@hurricaneaquatics]

Nah, if they sucked there would be far less marital fights..... She's saying all women are TOXIC and can't be happy and you can't make them happy.

[@edwardcacho7331]

You will die first before you make her happy. Just move on brother and start a better life.

[@Karll541]

lol

[@lukenielsen8397]

That's interesting that this is all you got from the video... Seems to me, like you are trying to project something or start a fight with a preconceived notion or purpose...

[@mrpopsful]

You make it sound like being neurodivergent is worse than being neurotypical. The lack of empathy rumour for people on the spectrum is one of the most absolutely absurd myths of all time. Diagnose me as ND, I am. Just don't diagnose me as being neurotypical, because that is something that you can not take back.

[@baccable]

My wife doesn’t just manipulate, she often assumes I’m manipulating when I’m not.

[@henrygoboy8621]

as a man I live a life of structure. God the Father being head, Jesus my head, myself being head of my wife and family and my wife being head of our children. that means I am responsible to provide and protect. that structure orders my family.

[@peterwinzeler2935]

Exactly! I have a hard time feeling empathy for a woman that tries to hurt me intentioally