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[@hard2hurt]

Question for Viewers: What are some other common things you hear about self defense that make you roll your eyes?

[@FightClubStellingen]

"Why are you carrying pepper spray, when you're a martial artist?"

[@langying]

"I'd just shoot'em with my 🔫". Ever heard of disarms?!

[@jamesrowlands1943]

That you can't just "Go to the body"

[@no-trick-pony]

"If you face an attacker (with a knife/weapon) just run away as you won't be able to disable them". Biggest bs ever. Most people wear backs, purses, jackets, whatever. Women often unsuitable shoes. And even if they did not, your attacker is probably much better prepared for running than you in most situations. You have to open doors, manage staircases, etc. Honestly, if it's a mugger.. Just give him the fuck he wants. Won't be as important as your life.

[@no-trick-pony]

"Better be judged by 12 then carried by 6" either from people who carry guns and have no idea how to even get them out in time or people believing in other supposedly deadly self defense gadgets or knifes. Especially dumb if you carry that shit in your backpack or purse. As if you would get your friggin knife/kubotan/gun out of your purse before your mugger bitchslaps you three times with his knife.

[@jimmypetelol]

4.53 "You do not rise to the occasion. You will fall to your level of training" best quote

[@marcreyes7474]

jimmypetelol Archilochus

[@TENNSUMITSUMA]

@@marcreyes7474 ?!

[@marcreyes7474]

TENNSUMITSUMA “We don't rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.” -Archilochus

[@hard2hurt]

I phrase it a little differently. I had a guy say it this way to me once and it was my first time hearing it... so it stuck that way.

[@stephenschiffman5940]

It's really a joke how some people think that a little shot of adrenaline makes you Superman.

[@kirkcargill2289]

"Just because you're willing, doesn't mean you are able" is a great piece of advice for anyone approaching fighting/self defense

[@hard2hurt]

It's a little bit heavy handed and not quite my style but I do think it's a good point

[@ancientdarkness3102]

"the will is nothing without the power to sustain it"

[@kevingooley8510]

my favorite quote from guys who think they're hard, "its not the dog in the fight, its the fight in the dog". yeah, i train dogs, Chihuahuas bite like 8 times more people annually than pitties, but which one makes the evening news? will is important, but ability is crucial.

[@legabausscarter8042]

"The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak" Matthew 26:41

[@jenw6009]

Where there's a will, there's a way...? *hopeful*

[@rjflores3800]

Always check the backseat before you hop in your car. That’s horror movie 101

[@grandcatsmama3421]

So true! So many movies the woman opens the car door and throws her purse on the passenger seat without looking in the backseat! Duh! Have a small flashlight available, ie: on your keychain.

[@hard2hurt]

Yeah because there are a ton of dude's out there that can stealthily get into your locked car and hide unseen. That happens a lot

[@slothisasin8240]

@@hard2hurt I mean, kind of? I've seen people break into cars and houses as if it was the easiest thing in the world...

[@Ironfangzu]

Also, running several feet into any woods or bushes in the dark and then crouching down motionless will make you impossible to find. Only movie monsters have the nose of a bloodhound and can appear magically behind or next to you.

[@assassinmanx6128]

Yes that is possible in the 60s, 70s and 80s with big ass old school cars. You could hella tuck down in the back seat especially in the dark lol.

[@Christina-cf9ot]

Worst I heard was, "I took a one hour self defense course ten years ago, I feel so much safer." I've done martial arts for years, and while I like to daydream about defeating male attackers, I know from experience that it's highly unlikely without a huge dose of surprise and a force multiplier.

[@LokiCDK]

Skill disparity is an excellent force multiplier. Your ten years could do it against some gutter punk. A baton is better. :D

[@blacktigerpaw1]

@Yu Tubaru I like to think of the CroCop taking down a seven foot tall Asian boxer. You need to be aware of your disadvantage and plot accordingly.

[@brandonbarnes8997]

@@blacktigerpaw1 yeah that was amazing to watch but people need to understand they ain't that man.

[@blacktigerpaw1]

@@brandonbarnes8997 Of course. But my point was strategy helps.

[@jenniferbates2811]

Yes!!!🤣🤣

[@ninobrown9600]

"Karen you're not going to do s***" greatest quote of the week.

[@piccoloatburgerking]

You can't take the kids Karen! I'll bust your myths with facts and logic epic 69/420 style!

[@jamesrowlands1943]

That depends on what level Karen you're dealing with... you might be facing a level 3 Karin, or even a level 5 Caryn, and she has the "I wanna speak to your supervisor" hairdo...

[@maexpert11]

There are a high percentage of women around where i live that act like that, its hilarious.

[@hard2hurt]

You guys know exactly the type of woman I'm talking about.

[@maexpert11]

@@hard2hurt i remember having to tell one off that made the claim if any kid bullied her kid she would go to that kids house and beat their mom up in front of them, they live in a fantasy land then when you bring up the reality of going to jail for tresspassing or just assault or getting their head blown off for being violent on somebody elses property or making it worse for the kid for a number of other reasons. Then i just suggested that of she was so worried about her kid getting bullied to put him in jiu jitsu or something she didnt have anything else to say

[@GuitarsRockForever]

The number 1 myth isn't entirely wrong in most places of the world. Most bag grab is crime by chance. The criminals do that, don't usually want to grab the person. They want to quickly grab your bag and quick money. You put your bag in a "not easy to grab" position, they will look someone else.

[@hard2hurt]

Maybe.

[@Adrian-mc1mv]

@@hard2hurt everything in life is a maybe...its about inproving the odds

[@HDloly]

It's so true, this is my standard bag holding position. But if you are alone at night nothing that impedes movement is a good idea. I suffered a robbery attempt at night once while I was with a friend holding at my arm. I had my hands in my pockets, because of the cold, and a crossed bag stripe at my chest. He tryied to grab and pull the bag, but one of my arms were in the middle. He got mad and thrust something pointy at my belly. My friend panicked and got mad too and attack him with her umbrella. He backed off and I never knew what the pointy thing was (too dark to identify), but it didn't cut my coat or me.

[@brandonbarnes8997]

@@Adrian-mc1mv the best way to improve your odds is to up a 40 on a bitch nigga.

[@esterelina]

Exactly what I thought. If people have their bag like that then they're probably at a crowded place and want to avoid their bag getting stolen. I think the chance of someone trying to grab the person in a crowded place in broad daylight is pretty small.

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

#4 ''I'll kick him in the balls, break my leg like Anderson Silva, then use it as a nunchaku.''

[@hard2hurt]

Leg-chucks

[@laiva2175]

Unbeatable technique it even has the freak out offect on the opponent

[@Legatus2kx]

You forgot to blind him first with the blood squirts.

[@jeffreydecoster4461]

"You want a piece of me, huh?"

[@Kurostyle21]

@@Legatus2kx Unexpected Jojo reference

[@Garvielok]

When i was around 14 my brother kicked me in the nuts so hard that i teared up. About three seconds later my leg was through a door to get at him. Causing pain isn't a really good self defense strategy unless its truly debilitating.

[@hard2hurt]

Yeah it only "drops" people when it's ok for that person to be dropped.

[@brandonbarnes8997]

I got into a fit with this kid that I was friends with. Basically he kicked me in the balls when we were just chillin and then I got mad af and punched him then slammed him and started stomping on him. After he ran off I went home and laid on the couch with my balls in pain for a while. I was only 12 and no I didnt know how to properly fight and yes I know rage is bad for a fight and does not make u invincible. I hate when people think that there rage will win them fights. Moral of the story a kick in the balls did not stop me from fighting in the moment.

[@anthonysicily5768]

Agreed, but if that kick had been immediately followed up (while you were teared up) with a kick to the throat..... and several to the head, I doubt very much that you would have been chasing him anywhere. There is NO silver bullet move, no single “if I do this I win” move. But groin strike are very effective and powerful, other than eye gouges they are pretty close to top of my list,

[@vlavrentiekutubidzosani]

@@anthonysicily5768 kick to the throat and head? If you can roundhouse your enemy why do you even consider cheap shots bruh?

[@alexferrana3979]

One of my friends once was kicked in balls by an aggressive bully. Instead of crunching on the ground, he yelled and attracked that bully and wrecked him badly.

[@SidneyBeers]

When i teach selfdefence to woman, i teach them two numbers from a british home office study: 60% of all attackers let go if a woman fights back or screams, 90% if a woman does both.

[@assbread5950]

and then what about the 10%? the woman gets raped or killed? thats still 1 coin flip out of 10. not good odds.

[@hard2hurt]

@@assbread5950 Oh right we should just use that 100% Effective move that definitely exists and is better than what this guy was saying...

[@redrobins731]

Ass Bread What a useless comment lol

[@42ayla]

How do you know that's why they let them go? Was this study conducted with the attackers? Please stop teaching this tripe and insinuating that it's the victims fault for not screaming loud enough or fighting hard enough.

[@redrobins731]

42ayla This doesn’t assume it’s the victim’s fault. Wtf, you might as well say self-defense in general is victim-blaming, lol it’s just giving potentially life-saving advice.

[@Cyrops]

Mike: watch with wife, gf or w/e Me: *sits alone in a room*

[@driver3899]

Spend less time with 2 pistols and more time with 2 movie tickets?

[@hard2hurt]

@@driver3899 I would guess more like to gaming peripherals

[@hard2hurt]

Sorry man I would do videos on how to pick up chicks but Kristian Would not approve

[@OmniscientWarrior]

The "w/e" is strong with this one.

[@patthetech]

I sent the link to some of the women in my life I care about and hope are smart enough to just run(but probably have at least one of these in their heads).

[@ravonne6308]

In defense of the bag across the shoulder: It protects against the ones who just want and easy steal and really don't want to engage in a full blown assault. I believe there are plenty of those people. If someone is willing to assault you, you are in great danger and your bag's position won't matter to much anyway.

[@DadBodDrumming]

The myth of the hollywood movie robbery. This almost never happens.

[@fakshen1973]

When someone is stealing your bag, they don't care what happens to you. If yoi fall and crack your head on the sidewalk... so what. If you're wrapped in your bag, you're going to get pulled off your feet. There's nothing in that purse worth getting disfigured for or getting brain damage for.

[@user-md1ol7nj7h]

@@fakshen1973 however a lot are just looking to take the bag without being identified or getting into a fight

[@edmondlibosana57]

@@DadBodDrumming must suck to be this naive

[@alexferrana3979]

And not all robbers are sodt and gentle guys which just wanted the money. They can drop on you, beat you up with an iron pipes, bricks, crowbars and bats and even stab you. Especially if you would resist. Don't underestimate street thugs and robbers, even if they aren't trained in martial arts and fighting.

[@matthewzito6130]

I can't tell you how many inexperienced, untrained, un-athletic people I've met who just assume they can knock someone out at will, as if it were the easiest think in the world.

[@junoguten]

"I can take down a tae kwon do practitioner if I just don't follow their very restrictive rules" as if the practitioner would let himself be restricted by those rules in a real fight against someone who clearly isn't.

[@chifuyu5164]

I swear it hurts to throw a punch

[@alexkmoz]

@@junoguten I used to work in the same facility as someone who used exactly that logic, regarding my BJJ. He kept saying that because I do lots of tournaments, I'll be trained to oblige by the rules, and not go for eye-gouges, ball-tearing, and biting. He does have about 80lbs on me, and plays rec-league ice-hockey, so he's not completely weak, and may be able to land some shots/utilize athleticism. I'm not saying I'm guaranteed a win, but, the idea that I wouldn't resort to "street tactics" to win a street fight is laughable.

[@jooot_6850]

alexkmoz depending on the danger and emotional state, I think most martial art practitioners would be fully willing to go absolutely monkey mode on someone and rip their face off or some crazy s*** like that

[@charaznable9209]

@@chifuyu5164 You can punch the air and break your arm if you do it wrong.

[@greenmedic88]

It's the illusion of safety. People will convince themselves that one or two simple things or bits of knowledge will keep them safe because the alternative is the existential angst that occurs when an average person acknowledges the world is not always a safe place and that they are ill equipped to deal with potential threats.

[@andrewhannigan931]

yeah but that illusion disappears the first time a situation like that arises. its like with these wannabe gangsters who think they're really tough. most of them haven't been in a real fight and dont realise how badly they'd get battered. a lot of people who do martial arts are ones that experienced a hostile situation whilst young, just look at GSP for example.

[@snazdogdbfan251]

69 likes sorry can't ruin it

[@richardrichardhaleysguitar8810]

I agree

[@niBBunn]

I know one thing that will keep me safe - run for your fucking life (unless they have a gun lmao)

[@keneyhector1897]

@@andrewhannigan931 Wanna be gangsters dont fight they carry guns lol

[@TysonKilbey]

"I'll just kick them in the balls" really is one of the greatest and longest standing self-defense myths.

[@SyxxPunk]

I thought I was the toughest man in the world for not reacting after being kicked repeatedly in the balls. Turns out, it doesn't work that much.

[@joebyrd9141]

@@SyxxPunk Think that if you want 🤣

[@SyxxPunk]

@@joebyrd9141 Yeah, no. I don't think that at all. Being able to continue on fighting after getting blasted in the groin is not all that impressive.

[@Annokh]

It's not that easy to land this attack properly as well. Sometimes a simple reactionary half-turn can save you. Other times you're out of breath on the spot. Either way it's a distraction, but capitalising on it requires a ton of experience.

[@laiva2175]

If you have alot of adrenaline then nothing hurts as much as it should

[@rachaelpollack3842]

Born in raised NYC here. I was riding the subway to work. I should probably mention that I’m less than 5ft tall. Also, I’ve ridden the subway hundreds of times without incident. I always carry a book when taking the train, but once I go below ground, regardless of how packed it is, I do not read. I keep my nose toward the book, but using my peripheral, make sure to scan full 360. Once, I noticed 2 men, seemingly giggling to themselves while looking my way and getting closer. I simply looked up from my book, looked them straight in their eyes, and slid my folding knife out of my pocket, cupping it in my hand. I made sure they knew I saw them, and that I was ready to stab. The train came, I got on, they did not. We smiled pleasantly at each other as the train took me away. Be vigilant.

[@jooot_6850]

People don’t like getting stabbed. Knives are scary. One time I had a goon friend of mine threaten to stab me, scared the hell outta me. He didn’t even have a knife on him though, was just getting messed with

[@therealshino4607]

Few things can beats a knife or a gun

[@marcosyy87]

👍

[@NJames-dh6kz]

"I'll just kick them in the balls." Most dudes are lightning fast at protecting our junk.

[@ThePhillyDz]

We've been training since the hallways of grade school to protect our junk from sneak attacks from our buddies. Woman thinks we're just gonna horse stance and take one for them or something.

[@vlavrentiekutubidzosani]

@@ThePhillyDz yeah I practically have godly reflex whenever there's something in the radius of 50 cm near my junk, after getting hit so many times there.

[@djsonicc]

@@ThePhillyDz "Hey what's the capital of Thailand?" Bang-COCK!!!

[@djsonicc]

lol...cupcheck!

[@craigross341]

"You're not protected by your moxy". Indeed. My mate the cop and five of his pals struggled for ten minutes to get a wife-beating nutter into a cell. When they finally managed it this female said, "I'd like ten minutes in the cell alone with him". My exhausted and disbelieving pal said, "Why? So you could be beaten to a pulp?"

[@mrjjman2010]

Craig Ross “ten minutes alone with him tied to a chair” lol

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Probably meth'd up.

[@BrazilianBikini38]

@The Scatman the cops are restricted by the rules that they arent allowed to actually hurt the guy for real while performing their task. The criminal isnt held back by that rule. It is much easier to night stick the guy unconscious then drag him into the cell, any single cop can do that--and lose his job, get felony assault charges thrown against him, and be sued for violation of civil rights. So they have to try to get him into a submission hold, drag him through a door, and then release him safely without any bruises he can sue over, all while the criminal is trying to break cops arms, kick them in the balls, hammer punch cop skulls, grabbing door frame, etc. That is much harder.

[@ams6454]

@@BrazilianBikini38 Are you dumb? Cops literally kill people and keep their jobs...what planet are you on?

[@oldmillennial6872]

No joke. My buddy is a prison guard and he got attacked in a cell. He had a cell fight and broke his back. He fell back to his level of training and suplexed the inmate because he was getting his ass handed to him. He had to leave the rules behind to preserve his life. He slammed the guy on his head and in the process broke his own back.

[@itsurmombruh1391]

“Oh man that’s terrible, the sounds of you getting assaulted” that was the funniest thing I heard today

[@lefish5277]

“You still there? You’re doing great sweetie”

[@blockmasterscott]

As someone that has taken and taught martial arts for almost 35 years, my most annoying headache are the women over 40 that don't want to put the time in to get physically and mentally conditioned to be able to defend themselves against a physical attack. I always get "well can't you just give a self defense class" or "I need something now", or "Can't I just rake the eyes and go for the groin?" They just can't get it through their heads that it takes years of hard work of going to class and testing what they learn against actual people. Oh, and one thing I get from both male and females over 40 is "do we really need to make physical contact?" It's not that they are female. I've seen so many young ladies that train all the time and take what they do seriously. It's the middle aged and senior citizens that are delusional, and balk when they are told it takes years to get good. And talking to them is like talking to a wall.

[@TheSansoomike]

The I will kick a guy in the balls . I hear that one, the most. I like to point out . That from the time a boy is aware of the pain from a groin strike . He is training to avoid being hit in the groin. Most guys are very proficient at guarding their groin. I also point out . That a groin strike doesn't immediately end a fight . I find women who have taken a self defense seminar are way over confident that the one thing they remember from their class is the end all to any violent confrontation . Too many women believe the crap they see in movies . Where the 4 foot 8 . 90 pound woman is kicking the crap out of linebacker size men .

[@hard2hurt]

I actually say something very very similar to what you said about groin strikes and in that reaction being ingrained in all men. I said it in this video but it got cut for time and we realized they could be a video all on its own

[@DunedainAkkarin]

Add in the prevalence of Muay Thai these days. Good luck getting a foot or knee anywhere near the groin of a guy who has trained MMA or Muay Thai, especially if you haven't.

[@jeramysteve3394]

Sometimes it make it worse because it pisses a guy off. And trust me you do NOT want to piss a guy off.

[@DunedainAkkarin]

This story is still told in my family. 25 years ago, we were on holiday, and my younger brother is kicking gravel into my sandals as we are walking. I asked him to not. He kept doing it. I turned round, and went to kick him in the gut. He tried to evade the kick, and my foot landed full force in his testicles. He howls in pain, then about 2 seconds in the howl turns to rage, and I noped the fuck out. Bear in mind we're teenagers, I'm 2 and a half years older than him, and he's never taken me in a fight without using improvised weapons. My parents thought it was hilarious.

[@edwardmyers8782]

Yes properly delivered groin strike will end the fight because the I tent is to collapse the pelvis up the balls are incidental punishment.

[@itswilbur3747]

I liked the last self defence tip. Start a completely random conversation (cowtipping) to bamboozle your opponent 😁

[@hard2hurt]

Classic misdirection

[@Winnerslay1]

I think this actually applies to everyone, not only women

[@OmniscientWarrior]

True, but mostly of women.

[@aubryannatrujillo7130]

Thank you, like actually. Also, not all women say this shit, and I felt like some of comments were slightly biased so thank you for not being a douche.

[@scoutiano4441]

way too many guys think they're tough shit trying to pick a fight, not realizing just how much trouble a fight is, I've been in a lot of fights in school due to being bullied, I was never scared of them, but that was because we were kids, no further trouble after it's handled in school, not that much force, but as you get older you become aware that a fight as an adult could be a murder charge if things go slightly wrong

[@GrahamGotGame]

The issue is most men are afraid to fight another man. If most men don’t like fighting other men, how can a woman, that’s typically weaker then the average man, go out fighting someone who IS READY FOR A FIGHT?!?!

[@pat_555]

You are right, but this video is mostly for women for a reason.... First of all, these 5 myths are lady problems... never seen a guy worried about his bag or figuring ways out to kick another dude in the balls. Secondly, most attack and mugging victims are women and most attackers are men.... so yeah, that's already a bad start for women... Men also get into fights with other men of course, but not usually while being mugged or over a shoulder bag or something. More like in a bar fight...ect. So yeah, the situations this video talks about are more for women to pay attention to. Thirdly, at least statistically, women has to take self defense much more seriously.... here is an example: You can be the most badass average sized woman on the planet, martial arts expert...ect. still, your 130 pounds will be no match to about 80 percent of the grown men in the world.... on the other hand, I'm an average guy, 6 feet tall, 180 pounds, athletic, well built.... not a martial arts expert, did about 5-6 months of hobby boxing my whole life, that's it, nothing special. But I can guarantee you, that even on my worse day I can mop the floor with about 50 percent of the grown men on this planet and about 99.9 percent of the grown women. So yeah... men are in general much safer, than women. Women in general are smaller and weaker, that's not an insult, that's a fact. And if women take that seriously and do something about it, instead of just trying to go for the balls or poke at attackers with a key, then perhaps one day that can save their lives.... that's the message of the video, to women. Not sexist, not biased, just advice based on facts.

[@geekaythedj7554]

Thank you for this! I have been a martial artist for over 20 years and I took about 5 years off due to injury. I decided to get back into "something" and tried a Krav Maga class. I went to 2 classes and never went back. The "instructor" was teaching some women some really terrible techniques that would NEVER work in the real world! I stayed till after class and addressed it with "instructor"! He tells me that they are " Time tested techniques, and if they tried them on me full force I would go down!" The biggest lady in the class was 5'9" and 155lbs. I am 6'2' 265lbs! So I asked him to demonstrate at his 75% on me. He is 6'0 and 185lbs. It didn't go too well for him and I didn't go down. It makes me sad that there are so many people teaching bad techniques and even worse, giving these ladies a false sense of confidence that will end up getting them hurt really bad. Please keep doing things like this to show the truth.

[@hard2hurt]

Please tell me you recorded it

[@geekaythedj7554]

@@hard2hurt I wish I did!! Let's just say, with another 3 seconds he would have taken a nice nap.. It was at that point I knew never to go back and to persuasively discourage anyone that asked me from going to the school.

[@adnanelardi3101]

@@geekaythedj7554 stop lying black man

[@geekaythedj7554]

@@adnanelardi3101 huh?

[@MonsterPumpkin]

@@adnanelardi3101 wtf

[@niku10]

Worst part in those type of videos is, the attacker stay still.

[@hard2hurt]

Well there is a time and place to demonstrate that way but at some point you gotta crank up the intensity

[@sexybluelady]

Thank you so much for this video!! Hot damn it was over due!! I am a woman, and a trained [caged] fighter and have a longer solid background as a boxer [I started out as a boxer]. And even I always tell people, that I always do everything possible to avoid a street fight. And that if I was attacked randomly on the street from out of no where I would probably lose. WHY? Because i would be relaxed, not paying attention, and the attack would more than likely be some stupid sucker punch from behind or with a blunt object. Fighting in a controlled environment vs "the street" are two completely different worlds apart. And this is coming from a lady who activity spars weekly [with men twice my size] and get's in the ring/cage.

[@sexybluelady]

Also movies and tv shows help with spreading bullshit too. My couch potato's grandmother and aunt love, Lifetime Network movies. The movies always end with some 90lb soaking wet zero experience in fighting/combat/survival woman who is already heavily beat up, taking on some 220lb solid either abusive or serial killer man that loves violence. Taking him down with some, "would never work in real life" move(s) and winning. So now they all think that they can do the same thing too.

[@hhhisnotthegame]

This is an often overlooked aspect; a lot of people who claim there's a huge difference between street fighting and cage fighting act like a street right is just MMS plus a few moves like groin strikes etc. Most likely, a "street fight" is really someone being assaulted because the attacker has some (at least perceived) advantage, like size, surprise, weapons, etc.

[@ficedulamortis6434]

Justanother fancy screenname I'm not really a fighter, I just take MMA classes and compete in BJJ. I have a mother and sister who are the same way, they think they can take anyone on. One day I told my sister to just spar a round with me, I liter her up like a Christmas tree, and she still thinks she can take on men. I gotta wonder, how does she think that if a 5'2 17 year old can light her up, that she has any chance against a 6'0 man?

[@sexybluelady]

@@ficedulamortis6434 I hear yea. Yup, it blows my mind too! I spar two to three times a week. With guys that are three times my size. We have 11 pro fighters in my gym. And I am far from being a push over female, I am a trained fighter and damn strong for a female my size. 5'7 135lbs. And I still have to work my ass off to make sure that I don't catch one "on the chin", when I am sparing with the big heavy weights 220lb or anyone over 180lb+. So for women who are fat, out of shape, never been in a ring before or know how to carry themselves and stay clam in the face of violence, think that they can "take on someone three times their size, I'm always like LOL YEA OKAY BECKY!!! HAHA good luck with that.

[@ficedulamortis6434]

Justanother fancy screenname shit I can't even keep with most the ammy fighters haha, so I think it's hilarious when any of my family members who are the same size as me think they can do anything. And it's even funnier when you consider MMA is only getting more popular, and you can really never tell if you're picking a fight with someone who actually trains. Like look at Justin Gaethje, he looks like a regular dude that works out a bit, doesn't have huge arms or this amazingly chiseled 6 pack anything like that, but he's probably the worst person to pick a bar fight with

[@DaShonuff]

5:33 I think women should really take this to heart. So true. Most men will obviously not hurt a woman, an attacker who is coming to hurt and steal from you doesn't care.

[@folirinaislam4810]

Biggest fucking lie women are hited by man all the fucking time u need self defense class in India its hella common

[@SenatorJaiz]

Man, leave cow-tipping alone. I tip cows all the time. I get chased out of fields regularly just trying to give cows a dollar for being damn good cows. I don't know what they spend it on though, I never see them at the store. Steve Buscemi does not believe in cow tipping though.

[@ryanweible9090]

i salute you for that terrible, terrible joke.

[@SenatorJaiz]

Ryan Weible somebody has to make the horrible jokes. 😂

[@tappajaav]

It wasn't bad.

[@lefish5277]

[Dave Ramsey has entered the Chat]

[@Fede_uyz]

"In Combat, no one rises to the occasion, we all fall to our training" Thats how i always remebered it, same thing

[@TS-ql2gl]

Best part of this was that i grew up on dairy farms. And the minutes i hear someone say they have been cow tipping icease believing another thing coming out of their mouth

[@hard2hurt]

It is really weird. Chances are they have probably done something that would better illustrate how wild they are without pretending that they have abused animals

[@nidstang373]

"I'll just bite him or poke him in the eyes." I hear that one all the time.

[@hard2hurt]

Right so a certified tough guy with a solid understanding of violence already did it… once. Soccer mom from the Suburbs likely won't have the same impact

[@OmniscientWarrior]

Well, if you can, go for the eyes, but don't hyperfocus on them. But biting is more to leave your mark on the person in the event you lose the fight so that if the person is found, they can id your teeth marks to their body. Biting actually sets you up to be hurt even more.

[@Fsilone]

Years of old-school slapstick comedy training has shown me the best defense against a double poke to the eyes is to hold 4 fingers vertical in front of your nose, aligned outward.

[@ireviewshtuff]

Bas Rutten was talking about that, where some people in his gym were like "I'll just poke him in the eyes and get out of this GUILLOTINE CHOKE". Never fuck with someone with a dominant position over you. You could literally poke him in the eye and take out his brain, he's still gonna break your neck before any of that shit takes effect.

[@sovcast8760]

The last guy to give me a serious kick to the balls was just regaining consciousness about the time the "Not sure if I'm going to have massive diarrhea or puke my guts out" feeling took hold. A groin shot should be part of a combination, not a magic one shot win move.

[@credfen1]

Being on the phone with someone can be a helpful thing. Trying to call for help while being attacked is not going to happen. If you know your in a sketch situation you can get on the phone and provide your location and a running commentary on whats going on around you. You can give, at a minimum, a partial description of any person who comes close to you or is around you. You can update your location and status in real time. If something does go down, the person on the other end can end that call and get help to your last known location much more quickly and easily. Being on the phone with someone is a possible deterrent for the bad guys too bc they know the above facts are not in their favor. It's not fool proof but it's better than being all alone fighting for your life and nobody knows where you are. Situation information is critical. Cops rely on that fact every day.

[@CoachKussenVuist]

#6 I'm just going to scream fire so people will come and watch whats going on. (hear that one a lot in seminars)

[@hard2hurt]

That was actually in here and cut for time.

[@NetAndyCz]

Well depends where you are, some people actually might come and watch...

[@XXXX-yc6wv]

Always LOL at the "I'll kick him in the balls" as if guys haven't had that happen a couple of times as a kid and learned not to let it happen ever again.

[@hard2hurt]

We covered it in this video and mentioned exactly that but it had to be cut for time

[@OmniscientWarrior]

One of the reasons you don't use a direct face to face stance when fighting. Then they have to use and indirect method, and indirect hits don't hurt as much. Just like you see in MMA fights on TV, it is a rare thing to happen and most likely will be by accident.

[@howielowis458]

Girls can't imagine how good guys are at protecting their balls. I caught someones leg between my thighs once, when he tried to kick me in the groin. Didn't expect it at all but my legs snapped together like a flash. It's sheer instinct.

[@niBBunn]

X XXX I swear our balls have like a sixth sense or something

[@uuoc]

*always wear and athletic cup*

[@Alex-zm1qv]

I watched self defense videos before. But when I actually started training jiu jitsu, boxing and Muay Thai it’s so so different. There are so many intricacies in fighting and different techniques that you can not learn by just watching videos. For instance most people think that if they punch someone it will hurt. Not really, you’ve gotta have a certain motion and body position, foot work, calculation, balance, force, to even get a good punch in. And even with all that you might miss. So you gotta be prepared for everything and polish the skills.

[@spencestep1998]

“Im not worried i grew up in the hood” “My dad showed me what to do” “I will GO OFF on him” Hear that last one a lot. Sure some guys back down because of their morals but some guys will hit you like a man. Just like mike said

[@RamseyDewey]

Good video. Important discussion to have.

[@driver3899]

Well said

[@hard2hurt]

Thanks Ramsey. We are going to go deeper on what I call the "mama bear fallacy" soon.

[@matthew-514]

Nice to see you here

[@HODthunderwolf]

To add to “I’ll just kick them in the balls” - kicking an attacking Male in the balls will not disable them. I have been smashed in the balls multiple times in fights and it’s never stopped me. Yeah it hurts, sure. But in the middle of a dangerous encounter you just soak that pain up and keep going. If a man is looking to really harm you he’s not going to stop by being nut shot. And that’s presuming you actually do hit them well.

[@duolingo_abuse_is_realclub7949]

I like how you touched on what’s adrenaline really does. I learned how to do Heimlich maneuver on myself with a chair. When I actually started chocking I freaked out. I tried to get to the bathroom to get water or throw up. I walked maybe two steps before I knew I couldn’t make it because I was to freaked out. I found a glass of water in my room and chugged it. And it got the food down my throat. Looking back drinking water could have put water in my lungs but at the time it’s what I did and it possibly saved my life.

[@izme4700]

I don’t know about cows But we used to go giraffe 🦒 tipping Back in the old neighborhood

[@hard2hurt]

That sounds really dangerous for everyone

[@NetAndyCz]

How do you tip that? www.boredpanda.com/giraffes-shortest-sleeping-animal/ They might wake up and kick...

[@mullm5375]

Nut shots and and other “dirty” tactics are the excuses given by both men and women for not needing to actually learn to fight.

[@datguitarplayer1656]

And are, practically speaking, ineffective in a real fight.

[@mullm5375]

Michael Yep.

[@matthewnoland4415]

Idk my pocket sand don't fuck around

[@alexism7800]

Yes but in a life or death situation no ones’s thinking about what’s “dirty” and what’s not. For example, hair pulling is a bratty, low move but if another girl attacked me I wouldn’t hesitate to pull her off of me by her hair (this is coming from someone who’s trained Muay Thai and bjj for a few years. I’m not a pro by ANY means whatsoever but I know basic technique). Same with scratching. No matter how good my technique becomes, I won’t be able to out muscle a man. If I have a chance to dig my sharp nails into his eyes or knee him (not a weak foot kick) in the nuts I’m taking it so I can run.

[@simoneriksson8329]

As soon as you hear someone say "I would just..." about selfdefence you know they haven't thought it through

[@LuLu-Sil]

Hold up, I'm already a girl so … do I still need another girl to watch this??

[@gabriel300010]

Bring more girls to watch this. The more tge merrier

[@penttikoivuniemi2146]

I know one woman who is definitely one of those who think they can do anything and everything. She's had that encounter with a purse-snatcher, and instead of going the safe route she struggled with the guy until he gave up and ran off. She refuses help offered because she assumes people offer to help her just because she's a woman, and for some reason she believes she could win a fight against anyone. The truth is she's short, overweight, out of shape, and doesn't know the first thing when it comes to fighting. I could just push her over with one arm, and I'm not a huge dude. I've always been a bit worried about her safety mainly because she over-estimates her own capabilities and gives off a super cocky and arrogant air... About the key-thing, putting them in between your fingers is absolutely insane and going to harm you more. Furthermore, having the keys in your hand in the normal way, ready to open a door, is also a much more effective way to use them as a weapon. Especially if you have a whole key-ring, it's almost like a small knife with the other keys resting in your palm and the key of choice (lol) protruding forward.

[@Over40pirate1217]

Never thought I would hear cow tipping in a self defense video, lol.

[@hard2hurt]

This is like the 3rd video I've done on it hahs

[@hydrolito]

Cow are big and weigh over 1000 pounds so not advisable to go anywhere near them unless your actually familiar with the cows and know how dangerous they can be, some people find out in a bad way.

[@ItsAsparageese]

People definitely do actually go cow tipping lol, the end of this video was a bit overconfident. It's just true that cow tipping isn't happening to fully asleep cows, just cows that are awake but perhaps very tired and not paying attention :P Cow tipping generally involves being hammered so mostly it's just people running around trying to tip a cow and failing. But it's still definitely a thing people actually attempt to do haha, they're just probably rewriting the memories a bit if they think they had much success

[@ryanweible9090]

to be fair, if you could tip a cow onto your attacker, it would probably pin em good. practicality is a little suspect though.

[@r__b6095]

The scariest one I've heard from several women is "if I feel like someone might be following me I kneel down and tie my shoelace so they have to walk past". No! If someone is out to hurt you you've literally just got on the ground and given them your back

[@Laz3rCat95]

Yeah that just makes you an even easier target, definitely don't do that.

[@B305M]

Thank you for this video. I'm a woman and naturally ALWAYS observe my environment wherever I am. Many of these girls/ woman designed self defense are bastardized and offensive IMO 🤣. I grew up with boys and men so whenever i train i do it with the belief that my attacker will be some dumb ass boy-child / a drug addict... either way oftentimes they are not trained just "predatory looking", the more you train at full capacity the less confident you will be in those situations.

[@JaneTheMessage]

I’ve been to a couple of self defense “classes” when I was training in ballet for summer intensives (I don’t totally know why that’s a thing, but it’s a thing), and I was told to stab their eye out with your fingers, but I always wondered about that advice because 1) I DO NOT WANT TO EXPERIENCE HOW THIS WOULD FEEL TO DO 2) Wouldn’t that really really really piss the attacker off? The other thing they told us is try to break their knee cap, kicking it from a slight angle. Just curious what your thoughts are about this. Personally I know my strengths; I can scream really loud/high pitched (thanks, vocal training) and I can run really really fast. That’s all I ever anticipate doing.

[@Laz3rCat95]

Even a scream is often good enough to deter would-be attackers. They don't want to attract attention to themselves while they're committing a crime and get caught. It's no guarantee of course, but it's better than doing nothing.

[@Docinaplane]

Very useful information. Thanks! When I was working the ER in Philly, I had a 60 something year old woman come in because someone had grabbed her gold necklace to rip it off her neck. This amazing gentlewoman held onto her precious necklace, and even though she was pulled to the sidewalk and received some significant road rash, she still had her necklace ;-)

[@hard2hurt]

What an idiot

[@sportyeight7769]

@A.A.Ron Davis well, depend on were you live buddy. But in a country like USA where owning a gun or a knife is common ground for everyone, I will give my possession as quickly as possible. My life cost more than a necklace. Gee, even a night in ER cost more than a necklace in USA

[@rustydj]

Amen. Great video. Whenever I teach womens self protection seminars, most women "know" to put keys in their fist. But when I ask "show me how you'd use that keyed fist", they're in sprained wrist mode. I've even heard women say they'd fight for their purse. WTF! Let it go for heavens sake! You're going to fight for lipstick, keys,hand sanitizer and a wallet ? Blows my mind. I always tell them "self protection training is like learning a language....if you dont practice it then you wont be able to use it in practical situations." You can't get directions to the subway when the only thing you remember to say is "one beer please". Lol.

[@Galemor1]

Do you know how hard it's to collect the stuff that's in the purse, that perfect shade of lipstick, that took you years to find, and isn't in stock anymore. And if they get your phone, you have to change every single password you ever had, let the bank know, and what about getting a new driver's license... I will probably try to fight back for my precious stuff..

[@scienceandtechnologyrocks6802]

@@Galemor1 You would rather risk death or permanent disability than go through that? Smh

[@Laz3rCat95]

@@Galemor1 You can replace lost stuff. You can never replace a lost life.

[@sovcast8760]

As a martial artist and a sports/med massage therapist my advice would be to wear your purse the first way, over both neck and shoulder. Almost every woman I work on has a repetitive strain injury from doing the one shoulder carry and believe me, a repetitive strain injury is much more common than purse snatchings. Beside there are some wicked and easy Silat sarong chokes from the over neck and shoulder position. It's kind of like how in BJJ you'll sometimes use your own Gi to choke an opponent. Just spend an hour modifying the Gi chokes you know and you'll come to realize the potential of the over neck and shoulder way.

[@andrewelder2739]

"You will not rise to the occasion, you will fall to your level of training" says it ALL!!

[@gundorstoneskin5900]

I always wondered about the cow tipping thing, because I worked with cows for a while and have never seen one sleep standing, so I always thought "how do people tip them? What kind of cows are they?" And never stopped to think that maybe it was complete bullshit.

[@42ayla]

Don't you mean cowshit?

[@codemiesterbeats]

I guess it's kind of like snipe hunting

[@zakosist]

And even if the cow was standing sleeping, wouldn't it still be seriously dangerous and physically difficult to tip them over? Cows are heavy and they can turn aggressive.

[@TheBlahblah86]

One of the best pieces of advise I got on self defense was you don't know what's going to transfer from your training until you actually do have to defend yourself. Scary fact, but I discovered it was true when I actually was attacked. Just the habit of keeping track of where two guys were as one came at me could have been the one thing that saved me. I didn't run because I was a couple doors away from my house, and I would have had to pull out my keys and open the door to get in, which could have left my back exposed long enough to take some hits. That didn't even occur to me until I was in the altercation. It was quite the learning experience, playing it over and over in my head for years now

[@hard2hurt]

Everybody thinks they have the stuff… but if you recognized that it is almost a certainty that The typical person is wrong about their own proficiency then you should recognize the fact that that probably means you to

[@theoilandgasresourceportal2132]

The other aspect of kicking to the groin and eye gouging is how it could psychologically alter the attitude of the assailant. Originally, he was thinking about robbing you and escaping as quickly as possible. But now he decides he's going to give you a beating followed by a kerb stomping.

[@antgto]

Wow! I wish I'd found this video sooner. Since moving to Texas with my sister, this has been a conversation we've had numerous times, and despite my having done martial arts most my life, she refuses to believe anything I say, and insists these myths are true. Because she saw it on Ellen or some such nonsense. Definitely one I'll be sharing.

[@piccoloatburgerking]

The biggest thing, and this goes for both men and women is that they underestimate the pain you can expect from a fight. While fighting you'll punch, and be punched, kick and be kicked. The ability to endure that and incapacitate the other one before the pain gets the best of you is part training and part experience.

[@godzillaburger9690]

"everyone has a plan for fighting until they get hit hard in the face." can't remember who said that, but yeah.

[@VivekRamanan87]

@@godzillaburger9690 Mike Tyson said that

[@driver3899]

it usually doesn't hurt that much until after the adrenaline wears off in my experience, getting hit disorients you more than anything

[@hard2hurt]

Yeah fighting is hard and sucks.

[@metas1779]

Gotta keep Liam Neeson on speed dial

[@hard2hurt]

I have a very specific list of contacts

[@novelacollection]

5:04 “Today is not the day and I’m not the one “Karen youre not going to do s****! 🤣🙌

[@sixfootkiwi6957]

I wish I had seen this channel 9 years ago before I learned things the hard way. I love your channel and everything you do on it. So glad to have found you and FightPerfect TV. 2 of the best on KZbin today.

[@hard2hurt]

Well I wish I had made it nine years ago.

[@midsein]

Smells like some juicy story. Do share, please. :)

[@WuzuquanSpain]

Great video, as usual. Regarding wearing the handbag strap (and without advocating one approach or the other), my understanding of the rationale for wearing it across the body was the supposition that a bag snatcher would notice this, realise that it would not be an easy grab and thus target someone else. I have never understood it to be a defensive tactic in the sense of "If he grabs my bag I can hold on to it and fight him off" (which, I agree, would not be worth the contents of the bag).

[@Torthrodhel]

I do some of these. Here are why: 1] I carry my handbag over my shoulder in that way so I won't drop it. Nothing to do with self defense. I guess I have slopey shoulders? But either way it's not so someone else doesn't steal it, it's so I don't lose it myself. 2] I have done this just for reassurance, but I am aware it's just a mental bolster. I never imagined I would poke someone's eye with the keys, anyway. Just imagined if it did come down to it someone would see I'm holding them like that, and them thinking "oh shit, she's prepared" could cause some hesitation. That's the self-defence application. It's no use once the fight's started, I know that. I'd probably drop the keys when that happens. 3] Back when I used to smoke I used to occupy myself with some cigarettes walking through a dodgy area or at a dodgy time. Nowadays being on your phone can be a valid substitute for the same thing. I don't imagine anyone is coming to my rescue just because I'm on the phone. But someone looking to cause some mischief's looking around for a target and they see one person with their attention fully immersed in something else, and another person with their attention free to be grabbed, and who are they gonna pick? The one who isn't doing anything. That's why I feel safer doing something when it feels sketchy. You're a little bit less likely to be the target, and that does count for something. Also it's just plain mentally reassuring to be talking to someone you know, no matter whether or not it makes you actually safer. I'm not a motorist, though. Disability means I can't be one. So it could be different for motorists, as you describe. I'll never have that option. I don't have the internet on my phone though. One reason is my sensory issues mean I can't handle touchscreens, so I'm stuck with 2010 models. The other is I see what it does to people and I actually don't want to have it on my phone. 4] Ha, yeah that one is dumb though. I don't go for the groin, it's a too often too well defended, too out of sight target, for me who is no expert at landing such kicks. And not really much of a kicker in general. 5] Yep and this one's dumb too! But I just wanted to say those things about the first three.

[@ItsAsparageese]

I'm incredibly confused by your third point. Assailants generally target people who are distracted and doing something other than looking around. Being occupied on your phone or with another distraction makes you an EASIER target. Where did you get the idea that it's the reverse?

[@Torthrodhel]

@@ItsAsparageese I guess assailants vary from one area to another, then. A large group of people out to cause trouble's gonna have an easy time against an individual either way, I guess. I probably got the idea from seeing people react to eye contact, stuff like that. If you blend in they don't notice you and don't care. If they notice you noticing them, they take it as some kind of personal affront or something. Something along the lines of "what do you think you're looking at". That's been my experience, anyway.

[@Niahc]

Took Karate for about a year that included lot of moves to break free from various holds. Tried them out on my husband and told him to actually resist. None of them worked, hes a moderately strong guy but not a crazy gym buff or anything. I think the important thing is that you have to hurt or distract them somehow. Just trying to break out of holds does not seem to work on its own unless you are stronger than the person fighting you.

[@zube410]

I was the smallest regular attendant of my jiu jitsu class. I took about 10 months of jujitsu classes doing between 4 and 9 classes per week. I was 148 lb, the instructor was 320 lb, and the largest guy in our class was 370 lb. He and I had started training around the same time, and I had tons of people ask if I really did know enough to win a fight against him. I suppose it's better to ask than to assume, but with us both training about the same time, the training pretty much canceled out, and on a really good day I could make him breathe kind of hard. Best I could do was try not to get submitted for a long period of time. Very good training, but that size and weight advantage is a bear, and the previous 6 years or so of karate that I had taken barely made a difference, and certainly was much less helpful than the months of jiu jitsu I took.

[@timmychonga4901]

You too are so real and so funny. You both made many good points. Fighting is unpredictable, false confidence can get you hurt or worse killed.

[@hard2hurt]

What a compliment man. Yeah this woman is as real as they come

[@chancepaladin]

"I'm just going to draw my gun from my purse..." Except ambushers choose the time, place, and method. So no you probably aren't if you're the target. :/

[@007Strings007]

lol the bad guy -" you are going to draw a gun from my new purse i dont think so ,I'm just going to draw my gun from my purse"

[@brynmitchell5774]

Hard to Hurt, I am a real fan of what you have to say, the honesty and delivery. I am not a fighter , yet I love combat , this breakdown is something All women should understand.Well explained and executed. When my Daughter said she was taking "self defence lessons" I wanted to attend to make a mockery of the class ...that would have been a Rude thing to do so I taught my Daughter instead.I challenged every lesson she brought home, not as a Father but as an attacker, she quickly understood .Now she Boxes and Sprints. Clever girl .Great vids !

[@TheInfinityzeN]

The kick them in the balls thing is way overstated in effectiveness. Even if you manage to kick someone in the balls during a fight, chances are extremely high that it will do little to slow them down. Once that adrenaline dump happens the most likely effect of you kicking a guy in the balls is that he gets really determined to bash your face in repeatedly.

[@aprilmontoya986]

I love that the ad for this video was Batwoman beating up guys.

[@anthonycoscia5501]

LOL jerks are Everywhere. What can I say?

[@blarfroer8066]

If someone stronger than you wants to hurt you, they will usually succeed. The best advice for self defense is "run like hell"

[@emmy4537]

Or you can learn how to fight.

[@bob67497]

It's the Dunning-Kruger Effect- when you don't know ANYTHING about something (in this case fighting) it's easy to assume it's really simple, and that the things you can quickly see and understand are all that you need to know. AND like the OTHER thing people assume they're good at (sex) fighting is very primal, and whether or not normies think about it, your ability to fight is essential to survival if you don't have the rule of law threatening to punish people for hurting you. I appreciate content like this, because I've been telling my female friends for years, "learn to fight if that's important to you, but don't make some half-measure and assume you'll be okay" because people putting out false fixits like that ARE CAUSING WOMEN TO END UP IN VULNERABLE POSITIONS WHERE THEY BELIEVE THEY'RE SAFE. The whole, "girl power, just kick his balls" thing isn't just wildly unrealistic, it's not safe at all to believe that.

[@JudoGeoff]

Just came here to say thank you for this. Really. These are messages that everyone needs to hear. I'm glad that people with a much larger platform than I have are taking the time to try to speak about what may or may not actually be practical.

[@morgana2006freemail]

Points 1-4 are good, but I am really happy that you said the 5th. Whenever I said that there were a problem with the women´s attitude on the trainings (if they showed up at all), I was called anti woman who does not support the ladies. What I hate so much when I hear that a women only course was "enpowering". I see those empowered women with a bigh mouth outside of the trainings, some of them on the women only courses, but when they come to the mixed classes, they train together. 99.9 %of the Warrior Princesses who came to the courses had done nothing, just a half ass training with a lot of chatting. Their empowerment lasts until they get a male training partner, then they prefer to quit. They need reality, not enpowering. But when you face them with it (you are not as good as you think), they just say you are not supporting them and get offended. When I had to realize in the first mixed group where I trained, that I am not as good as I think, it just motivated to train harder. Whenever I am told on the trainings that I am good, I correct them, that no, I am just not as sh.it as the 99.9% of the women just because I did not give up after the second training. In a confrontation I will just buy seconds as you said, that´s all.

[@hard2hurt]

Our feelings about violence matter very much... On the next day. On that night your feelings are meaningless. That's the hardest thing for many people to swallow.

[@junoguten]

It's empowering if they never have to use it.

[@michalamoodie8632]

@@junoguten it would.be nice to have a life where there was no physical violence.

[@ShellyBellyBeans]

This is great advice. Understanding my physical limitations is necessary for me to be able to adequately defend myself.

[@nikolaj4925]

26 women rose to the occasion and let us know that today is not the day! Hahahaha

[@hard2hurt]

26 Karens

[@NoName-fj5hv]

Not kicking someone in the genitals because your gonna hurt your foot is on my top 10 list for the biggest bullshit that made it along my way

[@cardassa]

There are some oversights here that I think should be taken into consideration. These are mostly in the realm of psychology with people that have little to no experience in combat scenarios whatsoever. Like you mentioned, the element of surprise plays a big role here and its hard to break out of that reflexive mold most people tend to grow up with in general, which is to protect your belongings. I guess if you live in a rough neighborhood and experience violence every other day, you might be be able to think on their feet a lot quicker but most people that have ingrained themselves into daily non confrontational lifestyle will hardly have that expereince. When a person is looking to grab a purse there is a good chance this person is going to make the attempt and keep running regardless of they are successful or not. Its very different when you are able to read the environment from a distance and ready yourself but when completely caught off guard, this is not possible. In your case, you were a cop and a member of a SWAT team, so you have been definitely conditioned to read the crowd and always be on your guard. The other is, if you are not willing to resist at all, you might be a habitual victim of the same attack as the perpetrator will now know you as an easy mark. Most people always opt to fight instinctively before taking flight because we always mentally project ourselves as a "tough" individual. If a person doesn't possess this then they would have a hard time achieving any goals in their life since they have accepted that they are incapable hence lacking any confidence in themselves in any situation that amounts to a level of competition. I would also think that the moment your legs turn to jelly is when your body is turning into flight mode but if you are still resisting, it will end badly. Its here that it is critical to be in sync with your body and follow through instead of resisting impulsive response. Which obviously cannot be achieved without training and conditioning. Knowing that you are about to walk into a fight is very different than somone running up on you from behind and punching you in the back of the head, most of the time you will get up angry and retaliate without thinking. Which can end even worse than just cradling up into a ball. Your advice is not wrong but it doesn't include regular people in an everyday physically non-confrontational situation.

[@KN-op3et]

These are all great insights. What is very interesting is that this is what drives many women to carry a firearm -- completely different discussion that you could probably spend hours on. But plenty of women I know do not want to go through the physical training needed for unarmed self defense (or using a pocket stick/flashlight, etc.) and spend their time training on how to back away, draw, and fire a handgun. I understand why (firearms very easily overcome any strength and size difference), but I agree with one of the philosophies espoused on your channel: It's all about having layered defensive skills and tools.

[@hard2hurt]

Yeah layers are super important both for self defense and living in the South during changing seasons. The gun thing is a touchy subject because there are people out there that are just not going to be comfortable with it any time soon, no matter what the logic or statistics say

[@nerfinator465]

What gets me is women (and men) who carry their guns in absolutely horrible places like their purse or their car. You can't draw it in a situation where you need it and if someone steals your purse you just upgraded a purse snatcher into an armed robber. Many of these same people refuse to spend range time to actually build any kind of skill and they certainly don't do drills with a live opponent for various situations.

[@SaurusMediaOfficial]

Well, the phone-thing works, but not because you can provide any information. Rather it acts as a possible deterrent (note that I said possible) from people to attack you. I've been gang-stalked a few times where picking up my phone, and pretending to talk has stopped them from robbing me. Usually I type the number of the emergency services and I'm ready to dial should the need arise.

[@sentoryumartialarts4064]

Great video. This is brilliant and has amazing points. Another one for you - Women always say - It will never happen to me. - WHAT???????? I hear this all the time. I am a woman that runs a Martial Arts Club that focuses on Self Defence and I still hear that.

[@Ptrrrrrrrr]

Hi Mike, step 3 actually works I think, but not because of any rational reason. The assailant is just less likely to attack you because of some psychological trickery, where if they know you're own the phone, it feels to them as if there is another person there. Granted, I haven't actually read the study.

[@noooo8669]

I don't fuckin care how old this is, you just hit a core necessity for any serious situation at 04:55. It matters a lot, too many people think they watch a couple videos and they're good to go. If the basic repetitions are not practiced, then all you have is a false sense of security packaged in video format. Thanks again for reminding me why I subscribed!

[@redrocker1055]

1. Muggers go for the path of least resistance, especially in a crowded environment. 2. She's holing the keys wrong. She's holding it vertical, to far from the knuckle and she has a weak grip on the key. Flipping the key horizontal and palming the handle will result in a very effective improvised weapon. The others are spot on.

[@nidstang373]

uhhhhh, have you not heard of the infallible "that's my purse, I don't know you technique"? Works every time.

[@ficedulamortis6434]

God dang it bobby

[@urbosasfurry2126]

Remote control exploding purse FTW

[@GhostCrowGamer]

you can really see the difference between the experienced martial artist vs the ones that watch a youtube video or Bruce Lee video and think they are invincible.

[@kimzandre1110]

I think the thing that stuck with me the most in this vid was the cow tipping part.. I've heard so many people say that they used to go cow tipping. I'm glad all those cows were never tipped over😂

[@SunBornF...]

Cow tipping gets me everytime, bet that farmer who sent his boys out to tip cows is still laughing in his grave. That joke had some legs.

[@RudolfJvVuuren]

I did Krav Maga for a while, with a focus on self defense. And what I loved about the guy who trained us was: he always said that the technique alone can't save you. He focused a lot on "simulating scary/mugging situations", and training to build explosiveness and aggression in us. Saying that in a real life situation you're going to have to be able fight harder and more aggressively than the other guy, if you want to have a better chance in surviving. Like we didn't do "choke/weak points" (like poking the eyes or hitting the throat) at all, and when I would ask them why not? They would say, because in real life it would be too hard to hit those specific "small" areas. What was kind of shocking for me was when we (as the guys) fully simulated a mugging situation on a girl in the class (like grabbing her violently from behind with a gun/knife in her face, screaming at her to get on the ground) how most of them went completely blank. Like rabbits caught in headlights. After a couple of seconds I would tone it down and remind her of the technique we just learned, and that she's got to do something now to save her life. So it's totally true, I was once in a mugging situation (with a gun) also, it is SUPER scary! If you've not been conditioned to react appropriately in that situation, don't assume you will. Any way, my 2 cents on the subject.

[@TheCCBoi]

Icy Mike: "You should watch this with your wife, girlfriend or whatever..." me: "Let me get my weeb body pillow."

[@rolandlee6898]

1) People snatching bags will rarely be willing to fight for it. Bag snatching happens in public, crowded areas where they can disappear quickly. So at that point not having it grabbed is the priority since youre not in any physical danger. If youre alone and get mugged - it makes no difference how you carry your bag. 2) Never seen that key thing. Heard that people should use keys like a flail or hammer instead.. idk how that would work tho. 3) The phone thing is intended for someone to know where you are if something happens. If you walk alone and get attacked - no one might know where you are and no one will call the cop or ambulance for you. If youre on the phone and you get attacked the other person knows youre being attacked and where exactly you are. What might happen instead is you might get your phone snatched, but the risk of assault or rape is lower because the assailant knows the other person will call the police immediately to that location. 4) When youre in a fight a weak kick in the balls is better than no kick. Or whats the alternative? Bend over and spread you cheeks? 5) Being arrogant sure doesnt help.

[@maggiemartin9773]

Just shared with my A Girl & A Gun Gainesville ladies! Great job, Kristian!

[@stephenschiffman5940]

The two most important parts of this video. 1:14 "I'm not fighting over a bag." Bingo. Inanimate objects that the police will probably find, and that insurance will probably replace if they don't, are not worth risking your health (or even your life) for. And this goes for men too, not just women. 6:25 "We are not talking about the women defeating the man in combat, we are talking about her buying time." Again, bingo. In all reality, most women are not going to defeat a man, especially a man significantly larger than then, in a fight. Okay, maybe you can you're a champion like Ronda Rousey, but other than that, no. Instead of being taught how to win, they should be taught how to escape and reach help.

[@hard2hurt]

Pride is a hell of a thing

[@BodaciousWench]

Besides if you just throw your loose change into your purse, you can swing that sucker around and clock the jerk.

[@ItsAsparageese]

Rousey is a one-trick pony, no chance in hell she's actually beating a man in a fight if he's got any significant bit of size on her. And I'm a chick who's sparred with dudes, it's not about gender, plenty of women can hang against most dudes within reasonable size range and she can fight better than most women. But judo doesn't go very far when you can't box for shit and are facing an opponent with heavier punches and a longer reach

[@brandonwordmusic]

This is a really informative video, but what I like most of all is yalls relationship. Y’all are really cute and and seeing y’all interact candidly with each other is really great. Also I could watch another two minutes of you trying to give her more synonyms for moxie.

[@hard2hurt]

Ha she doesn't know words

[@jamesrowlands1943]

@@hard2hurt it's more likely that Kristian just doesn't really listen to you lol

[@SeigenMizu]

There's a timeless piece of advice in here that everybody who thinks they are prepared for a fight should hear, and I am glad I heard it so concisely: "You do not rise to the occasion, you fall to your level of training." Yep. Precisely.

[@squamish4244]

I read about a woman who was being stalked by three men in an empty parking lot at night. She pretended to be drunk so they would think they had time before they rushed her and then once she got close enough she ran for the car. She got in, slammed the door and locked it. Immediately a man's face appeared at the side window, full of rage. She drove the car forward and hit the second man, who slammed his fist on the hood, perhaps to try and scare her into stopping. She drove past him and left the men in the dust. There had been a series of rapes and murders in the area and after her escape, the attacks ceased.

[@driver3899]

This video needs to either go viral or be used at high schools as a PSA

[@hard2hurt]

Haha

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

Or both.

[@OmniscientWarrior]

The full version, not this cut down one. Really give full detailed info. Kids gotta learn.

[@johnny2hats330]

Here's what might be a good self defence tip for if you have to travel somewhere dodgy: bring a decoy wallet with like $10 and an expired gift card in it in case you get mugged

[@user-md1ol7nj7h]

perhaps monopoly money

[@mrhellothere4143]

m o n e y c l i p t o t h r o w h i m o f f h i s r h y t h m

[@ecalzo]

Loved this video.. She's focused and straight thinking .. you two both did great job ..

[@greydragon6215]

I teach women’s self defense and I always tell them that they are not learning to beat a guy that’s 6’2”. Rather they are learning techniques that might give them the chance to stun and run.