5 THINGS GERMAN WOMEN DO DIFFERENTLY 🇩🇪 As observed by a New Zealander

[@Attirbful]

German (female) here, I will give compliments even to random strangers and have had nice conversations deriving from it. I think especially female to female is not a problem. Male to female random compliments about looks might be more tricky and seem as a kind of come-on/flirtatious thing that we are instantly suspicious of LOL

[@Tessa-st9zx]

As a German woman I fully agree with your 5 points. 👍

[@andrea089]

Yesss, me 2 😊

[@fruitytiurf4135]

Me toooo

[@Mamaki1987]

True, why would you dress to impress a man or a woman? You can't keep it up for more than a few month anyway, if you don't do it on a regular basis anyways. If you dress and groom yourself the way you always do and according to your needs, people can see right away who you are. And your own fashion style and makeup style or your preference not to wear any makeup at all can change over time, depending on your own developement in life.

[@aenwynsnow2828]

Good observations. I am no exception. I only wear makeup and dress up on special occasions. I see no point in daily life where work comes first. So comfortable and clean is priority. As I worked on self-love and self-acceptance during the years, I learned to accept a compliment and compliment others which usually confuses them. 😊 And I do have a macho allergy. I have a negative bodily reaction to those guys. Geht gar nicht.

[@AnniN96]

I totally agree to all 5 points. I became a stepmon sooner as planned. My husband had no custody of his son because of the law at the time he was born. My husband fought for his right because he heard his son was in foster care. The judge gave him half custody. The plan was that my stepson is going to move to us in the summer school holidays. I worked full time at this time but than he had a huge argument at the foster home and he ran away. So he came on a Sunday night with the emergency service of the child care to us and since that day he is here. I worked less hours but it doesn’t work. He is a special need boy and so I‘m a stay at home stepmom and nobody judge me. It’s the opposite. Everybody says how great we are to take a boy (especially me, because he‘s not my biological son) with so many problem to give him a better life and a chance of a better education. He was in a „Förderschule“ but we achieved the normal school for him. And he does great.

[@lemmings6516]

What a good heart you have ♥

[@AnniN96]

@@lemmings6516 thank you

[@tmalloy9]

Thank you, mother-to-mother, for loving this child as he deserves in our world, and helping him become a whole citizen out of the shadows of foster care.

[@AnniN96]

@@tmalloy9 thank you so much for your kind words but I just do what every human being should do. Everybody can make this world a little better. If someone needs a helping hand, don’t close your eyes. There are so many small things nearly everybody can do to help. The choice being a full time stepmom was easy for me because I saw how much this boy suffered. The big thing was the stand for my decision because my family didn’t want me to do it. Now my family is the caring family in my stepsons life. My parents are the grandparents for him and my sisters treats him like her „biological“ nephew. My family worried about my mental health because the knew we have to walk a tough road we a lot of trials and fights with the biological mother’s side. It was hard but we made it.

[@jassidoe]

I totally agree. And the compliment thingy is sooooo true xD the chances are higher that it will translate to "this person is trying to butter you up, because they want something" than to an honest compliment so people might just answer with "what do you want?" instead 😅 It's so much easier to deal with constructive criticism. That says a lot about the German culture 🤣

[@hayati6374]

It’s less suspicious if after the compliment you give a little critique too 😂

[@victorialo8992]

I think the level of stay at home moms varies highly depending on the area of Germany, in southern Germany it's more common to stay at home and day care is often less widespread, whereas in my homecity of Berlin universal daycare is a right (if not often well exercised) as well as in many eastern German federal states where there is a long tradition of moms working and children going to full-time daycare at a young age. Just a side note! Loving your observations, especially regarding the compliments!

[@missis_jo]

Second that! I’m originally from Berlin (east) and I never even considered being a SAHM, because that’s not what I grew up with. I thought it was an outdated concept from american movies. Haha, little die I know 😅. I live in Bavaria now and the system here kind of forced me to stay at home for much longer than I anticipated. 😒 I‘m in my late 30s and hope to finally get a foot into the job market for good, but with day care reducing hours constantly it’s really hard to be a reliable employee (and I’m still lucky because my husband feels equally responsible to puck up the children and care for them).

[@victorialo8992]

@@missis_jo Haha exactly! :D My friend from Berlin moved to Bavaria with her three children and there was no afternoon daycare available because they said there was no demand ... so she had to self-organize with other families in order to be able to work a regular job. All the best of luck to you with going back to work and getting it all "under the hat" ;)

[@knitsforthesoulpodcast4186]

Yep, it's rather in the western or Southern parts in Germany. Especially in the Eastern part one year is the usual time to stay at home. The percentage of dad's also staying home is increasing, which is awesome. As we get a bug part of our wage during that 1 year, it's easy to do. That kind of support is sth I love about my country.

[@Quotenwagnerianer]

Universal daycare is a right nationwide. Problem is that the state kind of forgot that there are not enough childcare workers to fulfill that right.

[@Imnottrainedforthis]

I think it got less to do with North or South, but more with city or country life.

[@susanne_huehn]

Staying at home with the kids ist totally freedom, and its a gift if you can afford it.

[@emiliajojo5703]

As Peterson said:with the last breath,nobody says I wished I could have worked more.but many say I wished I had more time with my kids.

[@Melbeauty-ie3iw]

Hello Emily

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

1. You are right. Macho men are immature boys. 😄 2. We are still 'independent' while at home for a while. 3. We don't struggle with compliments, but it is not necessary at all, mostly when it is just small talk complementing. We are serious. 😄 4. Too much make-up is ugly and too hideous. 5.Yes, comfort is bliss and I/we most likely don't want to ruin my/ our feet with high heels. 😄 Summary: German women are serious, natural, strong and with dignity. 🙂💛

[@petrabeschorner459]

Nobody should ever be judged for how they decide to conduct their private lives! There are so many things, that may have been considered within the family, which no one else even knows about. It would really make me happy, if this judgmental attitude towards mothers having a job or not would end. They are all 'working' anyway, mothers just do it without a salary!

[@worldhello1234]

Okay, so you think nobody should be judged for abusing their children or their husband because that is just how they conduct their private lives. Interesting. It is well known that children needs their parents in the early years. 🤔If you cannot afford to take proper care of your kids, you shouldn't have kids. Period. If someone needs kids as a status symbol, they are the problem.🤷‍♂

[@petrabeschorner459]

@@worldhello1234 Excuse me! What on earth does the question of whether a mother has a job or not have to do with the topic of child abuse??? The latter is a crime and as such by nature not a private matter. Why do you need to get this explained? Are you stuck in the years 1933 to 1945 when the only purpose of women was giving birth and raise future soldiers and their wives?? In the 21st century women are finally considered equal to men, and - YES!!! - it is their natural right to decide whether to have a job or not. If you need to get explained, what child abuse really is, be welcome to ask!

[@Alias_Anybody]

Compliments are a thing women expect from close friends, very targeted, and on a "two times per evening" basis. Randomly being showered with them from strangers is suspicious and unwanted attention.

[@Agnesriegel]

I have the same thoughts as a polish living in Germany. For the 5 years living here I got a compliment from German lady once - it was about my perfume 😄 and it was at the doctors 😉 one of my biggest shock was the maternity gap. many partners of my male colleagues aren’t working to devote time to raise kids. My Polish brain couldn’t process it for a long time 😃But even if I am not a person willing to do so, I find it so relieving not being judged about your choices. I love it that it is so normal to reduce full time to 70-80%

[@manub.3847]

Let's not forget two things: a) maternity leave; b) lack of sufficient crèche places -> both lead to those who can afford it financially to stay at home. Since in many regions "Kita vouchers" are only issued for those who absolutely need a place. Interestingly, here in the north more mothers seem to go back to work after about a year (expiry of the full amount of child-raising allowance) and therefore need a place in a crèche. Since the introduction of parent-plus time, fathers have been staying at home for at least the required 2 (or 4?) months. Many employers also offer part-time work, so mothers often work up to an average of 30 hours a week. Positive side effect: new fathers in managerial positions are much more relaxed when one parent has to stay at home with "childhood illness" ;) That's why you can envy the newer generation of parents;) -> in my generation there are still enough bosses who don't understand.

[@jennyh4025]

As a German Woman in her early 40‘s I agree with everything you said. While I love looking at professional rugby players (well not the too thin springboks from the last World Cup), I wouldn’t want to have a macho man at home. Brains and heart are much more important than the body. Edited for grammar

[@Quotenwagnerianer]

But be honest, you would't say no to Henry Cavill. The one guy that is both emotionally intelligent, a huge nerd, all wrapped up in the body of Superman. ;)

[@jennyh4025]

@@Quotenwagnerianer he‘s actually not my type. But as someone once said „abs are nice, but if your personality is abs, I don’t want you“. Unfortunately lots of muscle and very little body fat require a rather strict regime in the gym and the kitchen. And I prefer to spend my time in another way and eat without a bad conscience.

[@schuhschrank947]

What is the point in having children when you don't spend much time with them? It is very important for a intense bonding between children and their parents. And beeing a stayed home father or mother is a big job in itself. Someone has to manage the family!

[@susanne_huehn]

what do we learn, dear german women? Being more polite and giving us more compliments, I do that a lot.

[@juleungewitter7513]

As for the compliments: I personally often find compliments about appearances strange indeed. After all, I didn't make my 'beautiful eyes' or my 'beautiful hands' myself. I'm not congratulated on being 'German' or 'female'. These are all things that one does not choose. I find it much better to be complimented on things that you are really responsible for: A good sense of humour, good taste, etc. But I find it rather chumming up to be praised for unchangeable outward appearances. I tend to reply 'Thanks to my parents'. 😆

[@bombay3201]

Lol😅😅😅 omg I'm dying!

[@Karin_Aquatica]

I couldn’t agree more on every of your 5 observations. They are spot on.

[@fraufruhling2713]

That's a very respectfull video. Thank you! ❤

[@readingirl1984]

It was interesting for me, that it considered a stay at home mother, if you are home with your child in their first 3 years. For me a stay at home mother is someone who are home with their child much longer. Perhaps because in my country (not Germany) one of the parents can stay at home for 3 years.

[@Neko-uq9cr]

The Make-Up and the compliments are connected with honesty. Germans are considered to be honest. Wearing to much make-up is seen as fake. Compliments should be honest too. I don`t want getting a compliment because someone wants a date or sex with me. But I am happy when I get a honest compliment. I am the kind of woman who likes do dress up. But I usually don`t wear Make-Up. The point with stay-at-home-Moms isn`t that easy. In rural Bavaria you get judged when you don`t stay at home. There are issues with day-care.

[@shibolinemress8913]

German parents in general have more opportunity to stay at home with young children because paid parental leave is available by law to mums (for a certain time before and up to 3 years after delivery) and dads (after delivery). Their jobs are also kept for them, even if the company has to hire temps for the duration of their leave.

[@Siegbert85]

From watching a lot of American movies and hearing stories from podcasts I believe Germany is quite different in people commenting on your appearance in general. I don't think I've once heard a stranger comment on my looks at least in my adult life. It's like we learn that somebody's appearance is a hot topic and unless you're sure on how they would respond the safe option is to say nothing at all.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Wir sind halt nicht so oberflächlich. Ich könnte nicht in den USA leben. Menschen fake, Häuser fake, Essen fake. 😄

[@Quotenwagnerianer]

As a german male I can also say that I'm not impressed by the homely, obedient, housewife type.I'm not interested in women that look for a provider, I want an equal.

[@frogmouth]

I dont like compliments because they make me feel self conscious .I would rather mix with people who don't' keep up appearances ' ! And focus on activities and humour and fun.

[@oldfrittenfett1276]

The make up thing is interesting. And true. When you see a woman in heavy makeup, they mostly come from eastern europe.

[@imrehundertwasser7094]

Oh, but you do see macho males here in Germany. They're just (usually) not Germans, but Turks, Arabs and so on. Machismo is alive and well in these cultures.

[@edithputhy4948]

Oh please, native German men are not immune to toxic masculinity at all. One look at football fans will tell you everything you need to know.

[@Apdominn]

Stop talking Bullshit

[@zorrothebug]

Your second point, stay at home mum or dad. You mentioned you believe the social system in Germany makes it easier for parents to stay home. Well, yes! There is a so called Elterngeld (Parental Allowance) to give parents the opportunity to spend time with their child, especially during the child's first year, without suffering financial loss. Parental Allowance thus compensates for the loss of income when a parent stops working or reduces working hours to look after a newborn child. The allowance ranges from a minimum of 300 euros to a maximum of 1,800 euros per month and is paid for a maximum period of 14 months. If the other parent also claims Parental Allowance, it will be paid for at least two months. And if you don't want to stay at home, but don't want to go working full time there is Elterngeld Plus (Parental Allowance Plus) for who want to work part-time soon after the birth of a child. It provides financial support for a longer period of time - including beyond the child's 14th month, as one month of Parental Allowance is counted as two months of Parental Allowance Plus.

[@utecanbolat3590]

The main reason for many women in Germany to be a stay-at-home Mom, at least for the first 3 years, is that they don't get daycare for their kids under 3 years, sometimes even longer. My daughter was 4 and a half when she finally got a place at Kindergarten. And private daycare (Tagesmutter) is very expensive and equally hard to get. And besides, when you apply for a job and you are a mother, many companies will reject you, because you might not be fully available all the time, stay at home whenever your child is sick or not concentrate on your work enough. I believe it is not so much a matter of it being more socially accepted than elsewhere to be a stay-at-home Mom, but most mothers have no choice. There is not enough daycare available, and by this women are purposefully kept away from the work market, so the unemployment rates will not be too high. (When you are "not available for work" because you have no daycare for your child/ren or because you are sick, you do not count into the unemployment statistics) Take the small town near Frankfurt where I live (around 40.000 inhabitants). My daughter is now an adult, but currently 160 children over 3 and 200 children under 3 were not accepted to a Kindergarten run by either the Municipality or one of the churches. The Municipality knows that more daycare is needed, but they just don't provide it.

[@ane-louisestampe7939]

Giving children the best possible start in life is a sensible investment in the country's future 🥰 Ps: I have NO connection to your sponsor. It's just the name my parents chose 😅 Stampe is our family name

[@emiliajojo5703]

These first years go so fast,and they never come back.good to have a choice and not be jugded.

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

I prefer a natural look on any day. It just feels more like being myself. Regarding the influence of makeup on the perception of age, I totally agree. I usually wear none and people tend to think I am 4-5 years younger. And I am in my late twenties. But to be fair looking kinda babyfaced and as if puberty does not want to let go of the face is a thing in my family, so I cannot tell how big the influence of little makeup really is.

[@teachersusan3730]

Yep, your observations are spot on 😁

[@gailmendoza4897]

I just had my baby and regarding to point 2, I agree to it but it is because getting childcare spots are becoming difficult. If you want to send your child under 3 years old in daycare, you need to register as early as you can. Some areas need to register during pregnancy. For our case, we registered as soon as baby was born for next year’s intake but we would only get confirmation of acceptance 3 months before the start date. But I agree, the support from the state is great that parents are allowed up to 3 years of parental leave.

[@ealamin]

it is a crime to force mothers to work before children are 5 years the first 3 years there is a symbioses between mother and child- have you never thought about so many narcists in our time? kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIS9e5iOi7pgoac

[@oliverwestphal3082]

Hey Antoinette, again you have very interesting comparing topics. And it's always nice to hear your nice original accent to keep myself up to date with my english language. I hope your family is doing well. Greetings from Upper to Lower Franconia (since last year 2nd time Grandpa) 😎😄.

[@Fruehlingshaar]

As a German woman I just recently read: The German ideal for women is the mother, the French ideal is the partner to her man. If you do not have children, it is a little bit weird here followed by: Oh my god, the poor couple could not get a child. I have a son, but I know women, who always have to explain. I live in more conservatice Bavaria and almost all women over 30 have at least one child here. A Geman man, who gives to much compliments at date, makes himself suspicious to directly want more. I think, that is almost a hidden sign.

[@janastratmann-severin1892]

The topic of compliments got me thinking and I considered how I myself react to compliments. In fact, I don't want to get compliments because either a. I feel differently about the reason for the compliment (e.g. you look great) and therefore it seems phony to me and b. I feel like someone thinks they need to build me up, which I don't need. I look at the world and myself in it from a neutral point and don't accept any opinion about it, nor would I impose my opinion on others about their lives, looks or anything else, because it's none of my business. It is different when someone I like and respect or even love compliments me. If I trust the person, I value it as "genuine" and am happy about it.

[@dasmaurerle4347]

It should be noted that most German men aren't very fond of women that fit the ancient stereotype either. Most men here prefer strong and independent women.

[@holzkopf4589]

That's because they want a surrogate mommy doing their laundry and cooking for them though

[@worldhello1234]

That is a feminist stereotype - "strong and independent woman that need no man" - that has little to do with the real world.

[@ropeburn6684]

Can confirm. As a man, I want a partner in crime, not a subordinate. 😂❤

[@dasmaurerle4347]

@@ropeburn6684 Hehe, that's the formula😂👍🍻

[@ropeburn6684]

@@dasmaurerle4347 😂🍻

[@paigemartens8224]

I've recently discovered my ethnicity to be greatly German derived and trying to learn more and more about myself and this was Really cool to watch this and grown up in the US and still somehow carry some of these traits in my personality it's fascinating to me!

[@nordishbynature268]

I think the compliment thing is comparable to the make up issue, it is mostly seen as fake. You don't know if a compliment is for real or if the person just has some interests to manipulate you. As make up does, it changes your look. In extreme the woman looks totally different without make up. We do like truth here in Germany, in mostly every aspect ;)

[@lorenaklein7278]

Sehe ich auch so. Ich finde es besser, aber auch herausfordernder, sich zu geben wie man ist, wer einen dann mit den nicht so coolen Seiten akzeptiert wird es erst recht bei den attraktiven Seiten tun. Ich rede vom banalen Alltag. Zu besonderen Anlässen darf sich eine Frau dann auch mal in Szene setzen, aber auch hier gilt stets das rechte Maß.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Genau so. 🙂

[@Bob31415]

Subject of video starts at 2:53.

[@AngelikaRickert]

In East Germany it was not normal to stay at home . My Kids for example gone to Kindergarten at the age of 1. Then I was going back to work .

[@andreaslange8256]

In Germany, the conception of "alpha male" doesn´t tend towards gym or drink guys with self-confident and sometimes bold behavior. This type of men is rather considered to be somehow juvenile naive, simple minded, not to be taken too serious as a person. "Alpha male" in Germany is more about a cognitive mindset - a guy with grounded self-assureness, able to lead in social interactions with skill of empathy, communication and determination. Jobwise or other archievements of success are taken as signs for such an alpha status.

[@petraw9792]

I'm not so sure that's true for compliments as a whole. The examples you gave refer to someone's looks. But you also observed that we don't really care that much about how we look. Complimenting someone on an achievement, a smart idea, a job well done is probably much better received. Personally, if someone complimented me on my looks I don't really know what to make of that. But if they comment on something I care about I'd feel seen.

[@ibaspelk8826]

We do not care about our look but we really love to comment about the looks of others, behind their back and with long stares.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

​@@ibaspelk8826Nö, mache ich nicht. Für mich zählt der Charakter. 😄

[@vforv9402]

Thank you for this great video. I totally agree with your list, with one exception. I’m living in Bavaria and I feel that women here do judge women who go to work when their kid is just a couple of months old, or work full time during the first 6 to 10 years of their kids childhood.(Maybe Frankonia is different) Since KiTas weren’t a thing at all until the late 90s most of us grew up with stay at home mums at least until we were in kindergarten (which started when we were 4 back then) I think it will take a bit more time for slow Bavaria to catch up on the whole being-a-mum-and-working-full-time thing. So that it is not only accepted but really respected.

[@eva3414]

Tja. Mein Enkel sollte m Schulhort einen Bikini anziehen, um zu sehen, ob er vielleicht lieber ein Mädchen wäre.... Meine Tochter wird den Job wechseln, um mehr Zeit für ihn zu haben mit weniger Fremdbetreuung.

[@kilsestoffel3690]

Tbh, I find myself judging parents, who give their kids to a Kita as soon as possible and I am annoyed by myself.

[@Mondhase2000]

I stopped wearing make up by the age of 30 or something like that. It saves a lot of money and time 😁and I got a lot more compliments and look much younger than I am 😁and like my husband always says : a beautiful woman does not need make up and it doesn't help when you are ugly cause it's just make up and no magic😆😂😂plus : it's healthier for your skin cause make up, especially when you wear a lot of it, ages your skin faster😁I only use a 99% aloe Vera gel for moisture my skin (cost 5€ at Rossmann) every day and that's it😁

[@thatguyalex2835]

I am a guy, and like frugal women (and frugal guys also). :) Makeup is also bad for the environment, and is a waste of natural resources. Thanks for saving our one and only Earth.

[@johnjohnes698]

aaand from the very first talking point, although talking about German women, a classy #femonazi can't withhold from bringing #propaganda and #misandry: muh "toxic masculinity"

[@ThomasBoling-g4h]

I truly believe that less is more when it comes to make-up, and overall German women sound fascinating to me (american male).

[@johannapink446]

I think all your points are true but there is also a class element to it. I remember when I went to Gymnasium and around age 16, we got a new girl in class who came from Realschule, i.e. one tier further "down" the educational ladder. Her face was caked in make-up, she had false lashes, thick lipstick, tons of cheap jewelry etc. Everyone kind of stared at her, some boys were making fun of her... and she toned it down pretty quickly. The things you describe are definitely true for educated middle class people, but it might not be universal.

[@idontknowhowtobeme]

I prefer casual...comfortable dressing ❤

[@frs-01-35]

As a German woman I agree with the points in your video.

[@Susan-fr1rq]

I love your hair! (American woman giving you a compliment)

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much🤗

[@hermione3muller674]

I am german and can confirm all points. Also, i hardly ever wore makeup or heals, only for certain types of dancing. Yes, macho men totally put me off, as do compliments (always make me feel like a sex object only being complimented to take advantage of me). You hit the nail on the head with this one, i think.

[@hassanzorome7497]

I just subscribed love your content I’ll be visiting Cologne this fall.

[@santosmorales8704]

You have astoundingly gorgeous eyes! Wow!! Great to have you here!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much!

[@annestaudacher972]

Really interesting! I agree with 1, 2, 4 and 5 but I really disagree with point number 3! I really like giving and getting compliments and I never had the impression that my compliments were not well received. They have to come from the heart, of course. Most Germans I know are not into fake compliments or hypocrisy in general.

[@ibaspelk8826]

Why do you consider a compliment fake? I do say the weather is nice today so why not compliment the person having a nice shirt while waiting for the bus?

[@annestaudacher972]

@@ibaspelk8826 I do not consider it fake if it's meant in a genuine way. Sure, it's very nice of you to pay a compliment if you like the shirt!

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Ja, ein echtes Kompliment ab und zu ist ok. Mit oberflächlichen Lebensweisen kann ich nichts anfangen. Tyoisch deutsch eben. Bodenständig. 😄

[@derkrankezocker]

@Stay-at-home-mums: denke das ist sehr regional: im konservativen bayern, wo es auch weniger kitas gibt, bleiben frauen eher zuhause; in bundeslaendern der ehemaligen ddr, wo es aufgrund arbeitskraeftemangel notwendig war, dass viele frauen arbeiten gehen, gibt es kaum frauen, die zuhause bleiben

[@312Annabella]

Richtig. Hier in Sachsen gehen die meisten Kinder schon deutlich vor dem 3. Geburtstag in die Kita. Nicht immer klappt es gleich zum 1. Geburtstag, wenn der Erziehungsurlaub endet, aber kurz danach. Mit 18 Monaten besucht die Mehrheit der Kinder eine Einrichtung, und die Mütter sind zurück im Job. Für die Eltern ist das ganz normal - schon ihre Mütter, Großmütter und Urgroßmütter waren berufstätig.

[@patsyh.]

Same here, german woman writing: all 5 points are right. And as point 6 i would say: Woman here know they can live without a man so we choose to live with a man. Woman dont have a need they want it by themself.

[@alegramonticelli6038]

I'm a german woman and I looove to complement people, even strangers. I feel most of them appreciate a nice complement, but - you know most of us are raised to be humble/modest. So I think it's more a 'not showing' how much they like your compliment 😶‍🌫 To us basking in a compliment may quickly seem conceited ☺

[@bird7464]

I checked your older videos and you look very pretty when wearing more makeup.

[@ibaspelk8826]

That’s a funny compliment 😂

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

But it is fake.

[@coraline1503]

​@@oOIIIMIIIOojust in your opinion

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

@@coraline1503 Really? Never thought of that. 🙄🥱

[@mydetlef]

On 2) Without explaining parental leave, parental allowance and the right to return to the old job to non-Germans, the comparison to New Zealand is unfair. German parents receive parental allowance for up to 14 months, which fully or partially compensates for the loss of earnings (parents with low incomes receive up to 100%). There is also a job guarantee. If a parent takes parental leave, their employment contract is suspended during this time. He then has to be employed and paid again in the old company.

[@taghiabiri3489]

As a Swiss Woman I can agree with the german women. These Neandertaler men died out long time ago here.

[@salzwell25]

There is a place and time for the tough men. In war, for example, they will lay down their lives to protect you.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

​@@salzwell25Yes, but they forgot when it is the right time. What women fighted against was the enemy at home. Maybe men find a way beyond a perpetrator at home and the defender against an outside threat. 🙂💛

[@edithputhy4948]

I see plenty of Neanderthals when I walk into a room of men watching football

[@ibaspelk8826]

I’m quite surprised about the comments about mothers staying at home with their children. We have maternity leave most use this opportunity but after this time most mothers work outside of the house, many part time 20-30 hours a week. And yes Istay at home moms get judged and moms per se get judged for working, for becoming pregnant, for being on maternity leave, for coming back to work, for staying home with sick children. Sorry the mother part is a really, really not easy one!

[@floodgates182]

I once got a compliment from an American woman. We were in an elevator, and she said - wow, great shoes. - thank you - you're really brave wearing them, they are so last year. It made me laugh out loud, right in her face. 😂😂😂

[@annao1827]

Omg..so true about compliments

[@hannahbmt4919]

I agree with your points, especially about macho men and clothing / make up :)

[@susanne_huehn]

sometimes I need the glitzy glam look from camilla, australia :-))

[@karinmartinazimmer2463]

I call the thick and very obvious makeup war paint. Kriegsbemalung. I wore at night if I went out to a disco or a pool bar. Now I have two kids and wear no makeup. There's simply not enough time for it.

[@invaderhate]

Any tips on a lesbian trying to pick up other girls/lesbians? I'm going to Germany for 2 weeks this month, for history and LGBT scene. Any advice?

[@Bob31415]

Based on a small sample size I have found Germans in general and German women in particular to not have very pleasant personalities.

[@markalexander71332]

Natural look of course. 35 degrees with make-up. Oh gee.🇩🇪

[@01jausten]

I don’t think being a stay at home mum means you are not independent or assertive.

[@bombay3201]

I agree. My mother was a stay at home mom. She had to be strong raising us!

[@lemmings6516]

Well observed lady ! :D we are not the most trusting people but once you pass the vibe check we stick to you like superglue ♥

[@lynnsintention5722]

Yeah that is what I miss in Germany...real men

[@blackforest_fairy]

so a neanderthal cavemen with no brains and no respect to others is a real man? sorry but that is rather an Ape when a man. A real man is educated, well mannered and composed.

[@BeWeRo]

Me too agree with you!

[@aislingsturbridge1105]

The stay-at-home mom is historically based. There hasn't been enough support for them to go work. Ie. a daycare a) at all, b) an affordable daycare, so working makes sense.Lastly, women usually earn less even if they're equally educated, the famous 'gender pay gap' (the fact that women had to stay at home again fired the cycle of them earning less bc, obviously, they'd lack the experience in job then...haha. So, historically, in Germany women/families usually were forced to let the mother stay at home, since so the mom/ family has enough money left.

[@thisismetoday]

💯💯💯 This German agrees!

[@taridean]

I can listen to that Kiwi accent all day.

[@annebraun581]

100% agree, don’t wear makeup either. German woman here😎

[@svr5423]

Women often don't understand emotions and can't deal with them. It makes them anxious.

[@karinjunghans4477]

It' s the best for babies and small.children to be cared by their own mother. If this do not impress men, I don' t mind. I am " strong and independent. enough to ignore the opinion of men

[@MartinAmbrosiusHackl]

Yeah. Makeup is a big turn off for me. A plastic face cannot impress me. If there are imperfections, I have the feeling to be with a real woman. (The same applies for high heels, btw.)

[@tiavelvet3141]

Mir sagt mein Freund auch, dass ich besser und "jünger" aussehe, wenn ich mich weniger schminke. (Ich bin 27). Aber das ist mir egal, was er sagt😂 Ich will sowieso nicht jünger aussehen, und ich liebe einfach diesen Shirin David-Look mit falschen Wimpern. Er muss mich auch so lieben 😂 Für mich ist das auch irgendwie Luxus, mich ewig lang zurecht zu machen, weil wir ein kleines Kind haben, und das tut mir einfach gut, mal ausnahmsweise etwas NUR für mich selbst zu machen.

[@kilsestoffel3690]

Genau so... die machst das für dich, dein Freund "darf" dazu seine Meinung haben und äußern. Und den Rest der Menschheit geht's nen feuchten Kehrricht an. Wenn du das schön findest, ist das schön. Ich bin meist zu faul, mich zurecht zu machen und ehrlich gesagt, bin ich auch nicht gut darin. Und was auch immer andere Leute dazu denken, interessiert mich nicht.

[@tiavelvet3141]

@@kilsestoffel3690 sehr gut!! Ich mag es auch nicht, wenn mein Freund seine Haare im Sommer kurz schneidet, weil ich seine wuscheligen Haare liebe. Aber ich muss das auch akzeptieren hehe

[@kilsestoffel3690]

@@tiavelvet3141 immerhin hat dein Freund Haare.. bei meinem wird's immer weniger. Und wir sind uns da einig, dass es schade ist

[@edithputhy4948]

​@@kilsestoffel3690er könnte sich Finasterid verschreiben lassen, das hilft gegen erblich bedingten Haarausfall bei Männern

[@coraline1503]

omg manchen frauen ist nicht zu helfen! she loves to look like an streetworker 😂

[@ulrikesextro4187]

Dressing up. A lot are dressing up with the latest fashion for their followers on instagram or tiktok

[@gigihammerstein5944]

we are not as superficial and " girlie" as i experienced here, zum Glück😊

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

Bodenständig und das gefällt mir auch besser. Ich habe genug von der immer weiter um sich greifenden Scheinwelt. Wenn ich könnte, würde ich in den Wald ziehen, back to the roots. 😄

[@williambrown4152]

Aust male here: Independent, confident, no-nonsense, low maintenance, straight talking, punctual, what you see is what you get, women who drink beer and pay their own way? You are the embodiement of Nietzsches' ubermensch. The world was a safer place with Angela M at the helm.

[@rolandscherer1574]

Regarding #1: Are you surprised? After all, Valkyries are also German women. ;-) Regarding #5: German women don't want to impress men with their fashion, they want to impress women. Men have little idea of the subtleties of female fashion, if you ask them what a woman should wear, they answer: "As little as possible!"

[@carstenlarsen8144]

starts at 3:00

[@PortCharmers]

I remember an evening out with a gorgeous friend, and a first kiss which in the end didn't happen because I was too put off by her excessive make-up (one of the bigger regrets of my life).

[@amerubix185]

I took the effort and scrolled back to your older videos. According to your description in this video I expected a much more plastered look. 😅 Not exactly like this one: kzbin.info6yQVoXBEXNI But you get the idea. 🤣 Really don't know why anyone would have or should have commented on your make-up back then. I would say it is still considered a rather natural look. 😊

[@FranziskaBirke]

😂😂😂

[@praxisfurnaturheilkunde5394]

Komplimente: Uns sind Äußerlichkeiten nicht soo wichtig. Wir denken, es kommt auf die Persönlichkeit an.

[@elkealbust8801]

it is not accepted to stay at home as mum. it is forced on many women.

[@yuukihoffner8433]

It might be helpful to consider relevant data and to know some of the laws on social and therefore very political topics like childcare benefits for parents of babies and toddlers BEFORE spreading bits and pieces of information on national characters, customs, and identities (By the way, I am not German).

[@Mintaka.]

Stay at home moms??? For the first years?! Where? I know hardly anyone because ppl can't afford this anymore. All should do this, all over the world, but who can afford this.

[@maneyarain]

why would i go work when i have government support during stay home with the kid? 😄

[@nein7564]

What hast staying at home with your children got to do with being weak or dependent, not equal?

[@Bob31415]

RE #3 - So would one come across more genuine and believable if one were to tell a German woman that she was unattractive?

[@MiSaLiAnW]

Hi, ich trag gerne den natürlichen Look, aber ehrlich gesagt würde ich schon gerne mehr schminken. Ich fühl mich aber dann so falsch in meinem Körper. Außerdem bekomme ich es nicht so professionell hin. Dh ich seh aus wie ein Clown

[@SheratanLP]

Ich habe es noch nie gemacht, wenn Frauen zu viel Make-up tragen. Wer küsst schon gern eine Chemiefabrik.

[@nataanda2486]

3 years paid parental leave with guarantee to get your job back after that.....a dream for us Swiss moms