5 Things Women Say That Are MAJOR Red Flags

In this video, I go over 5 things women say that should send you running for the hills. If you missed my part 1 version of this video, watch it here: • 6 Things Women Say Tha...
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[@Beherenow121]

1. "A real man would..........." 2. "If you really liked me you would...." 3. "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" 4. She gives Ultimatums 5. "This is just how I am" Bonus 6. Anything related to Astrology :)

[@willarmendariz7663]

😂

[@gir3009]

“What’s your sign?”

[@dadteaches]

Wait....so you're saying that the Gods of Kobol ? How will I live the rest of my life....

[@greymatters14]

Ummm. Yup, I pretty Much ignored all 6 in my Last LTR. I might need some retraining! 😂

[@sungjoonkoo6616]

My last ex said all of these things. Shit had to end

[@thomas5798bruh]

I went on a date with a girl and she asked me my zodiac sign. I told her I didn't know. After a few questions she guessed my correct sign, told me her sign, then said we are 32% compatible. In my mind I was thinking that now we have a 0% chance.

[@wayland7150]

Guessed your sign correctly after asking a few questions? Well you're right about one thing, you'd be a terrible match for someone that smart. Your ignorance would drive her nuts.

[@MO-key]

Thats kinda effed up... Sorry about it.

[@andyc3012]

Should had used your Chinese zodiac instead

[@user-ug5xr2gb6j]

@@andyc3012 that’s what I’d have asked, Greek or Chinese. Kind of agree with op. It tells a lot about someone when they rely on that stuff to that level.

[@ottomanpapyrus9365]

Cringe atheists be like

[@wrotenwasp]

After getting divorced in 2005, dating several broke ass screwballs for 10 years or so I finally threw in the towel in 2015. House is paid off at 59 1/2, a nice fat 401K, no credit card debt and I can retire at 62. Much less stress, no one depending on me for $$$$, no criticism over petty things, no more messy house, no more fixing cars for women and Im actually not lonely being somewhat of an introvert to begin with. At almost 60, I just don't need the aggravation. Ive been quite comfortable living by myself for the past 7 years.

[@chumpthetraitor7331]

My man!

[@iuseredshorts]

Share your secrets with us 😉

[@kellywalker8407]

At age 65, I hear you brother

[@hpygolkyone]

Rent. My advice is rent if you get to that point. Gnomesayin?

[@jasonclements9022]

Go off, King

[@Gavs_rc_hobbies]

I remember an episode of Daredevil where Kingpin was in an art gallery and he was had an interest in the curator there, and she mentioned how most men would make large art purchases to get her attention, and his response was "A woman that can be bought isn't worth having". That has stuck with me ever since

[@mrchards37]

"If you can't appreciate me when I'm broke, you don't deserve me when I'm rich." - Men Everywhere

[@joserb-zs1vd]

“When”

[@CourtneyRyan]

😂😂🙌🏼

[@RackzOnShon]

Facts 💯💯💯

[@joelkumar6383]

💯 %

[@andyc9902]

True

[@ajtaylor8750]

I got one: "A real man would do what he wants whenever he wants, would have his own thoughts and opinions, and would never allow himself to get caught up in what a manipulative woman would deem a 'real man' because he's his own man." There you go.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🙌🏼 you got it!

[@Powerarmed]

MGTOW!

[@drip369]

And the good ones will respect you for it.

[@ZongTaVEVO]

Still manipulating

[@captaintorch1238]

based !!

[@gerbenhoutman9348]

10:53 You've probably said it 1000 times. If she ever says she's into bad boys. Run, do not pass go, do not collect 200... Another thing. If she ever breaks up with you. That's it for a relationship with her. If you take her back it will only be proof that she was right in the first place

[@allysonchen2097]

But then turns around and said she wants love and respect

[@iamnotamused317]

Nah bro. If she says that, don't run. If you have to, steal the fastest thing around and go.

[@gerbenhoutman9348]

@@iamnotamused317 Some of those diseases have no cure.

[@1337hal]

bad boys??? she just means confident like me :)

[@gerbenhoutman9348]

@@1337hal Anyone can be confident or shaky inside. A bad boy will be economically and emotionally unstable. Self centered and unwilling or unable to support a woman

[@tod3msn]

One woman I dated long ago criticized me for treating her well. She said my consideration for her wants and needs made her say, “you’re more like my girlfriends.” We ended our relationship not long after that comment.

[@mackmapeto9732]

Don't be be Mr nice guy..all the time when dealing with women..

[@lhendrix470]

That's a huge red flag. It means she's been severely misltreated in the past, and thinks something must be wrong with you cause you like her. These types of women almost always (unfortunately) gravitate towards men with issues or who seem 'difficult' to deal with. Even worse, a lot of those women really need some therapy, and clearly aren't doing the work to repair what's broken in themselves.

[@dangerousdanny8290]

They confuse caring with simping.

[@MrZZooh]

She should've been careful what she wished for.

[@jeffreystewart9809]

You gotta balance the nice guy and bad boy traits. Thats the key. Give women comfort and security, but also excitement and the concept of danger. That of shit goes down you can kick some ass. Love her like a nice guy, fuck her like the bad boy. Sex is an artform, learn your craft. Practice it. Explore her. Play her like a fine and expensive violin. But also, know when to bang her like a bass drum in a marching band. Finally and probably the biggest one we struggle with. LISTEN to them, and dont try to solve their problems. They arent asking you to most of the time. Just listen and affirm. Learn when they want a solution vs validation.

[@glasshalffull8625]

Words of wisdom I was told 40 years ago: A person can only hide who they ‘really are’ for between six months and a year. Please, please wait at least that long before getting engaged or worse, getting married. Be safe out there!!!

[@jonbon611]

100 percent facts

[@Sacrengard]

true, some reveal themselves in 3 to 4 months, which is what most of my relationships lasted... but still, to make sure, wait at least 6 months, and if you live together thats a bonus, things will reveal even faster

[@Anadrol88]

I've read that with someone who has NPD it can last 1.5 years.

[@sonnychhuon2694]

It isn’t so much that they “hide” who they are but rather you see the spectrum of their character over time. After 15 years with my HS sweetheart’s trust and effort diminished and divorce was inevitable. Build a strong foundation of “self” to avoid crumbling when life gets tough.

[@Gawlakman]

My sister dated her boyfriend for around 10 years before they got married, still divorced

[@mainnerd2222]

One red flag for me, when I was dating, is when the a girl would say "You can't handle me." If it's flirtatious, I don't take it seriously, but I've had girls say it to me like I was looking for a challenge and they were the challenge I was looking for. It's a red flag. I take "You can't handle me" seriously. What I hear is "If you date me, or end up marrying me, I'm going to make your life more difficult." My life is already difficult, I don't need more. So I'm going to take your little saying as a free warning you just gave me.

[@drumdad54sdl47]

Seems to me that the correct response to that would be, "Yep. You're right. Goodbye."

[@Fanghurst]

Went through the same thing with my ex. 😆

[@xXxThelegend27xXx]

“I believe you : )”

[@kalaitindubokenneth1739]

Truly

[@DavidBaronStevensPersonal]

I usually respond to that with "oh you mean I won't be able to STAND you. Gotcha. Thanks. Peace, I'm out✌️"

[@phoenixharvesters1373]

Being six figures and 58 years old. I'm so glad that I have reached that age now to where I can honestly say I don't give a funk about any relationship anymore. I'm happy with myself and that's the way it's going to be for the rest of my life.

[@jackmason9360]

Hey suga daddy 😘

[@alshaw7418]

I'm with ya 💯 got no time for them... They're in the main one big head ache 😄👌🏿

[@jpowell2603]

I agree bro! Being single is absolutely great! No drama No BS! I love that.

[@ChapMeifan]

Thank you for this video. I dated a lady who said, honest to God, all of these to me in the two months we dated. When I found out her body count was over 300 I said 'nope' and walked away. Also she was huge into astrology. Her dating profile talked about the Pisces woman and how amazing she is. Ugh.

[@packrat76]

She admitted to you she's slept with over three hundred men? WOW!

[@intosilence1773]

300 though? How is that possible when I'm still at zero? 😱

[@JoeyMace28]

Dear Lord man, lucky you didn't catch anything being within spitting distance.

[@TaiChiGhost]

I'm 72 years old now, single, and out of the game. I clicked on this for late night amusement, but when you got to #5 I heard this loud bell in my head. I was dating a very sexy and intelligent girl (we were in our early thirties) and after the usual 1-2 month honeymoon she started to show an ugly temper. When I asked her how she expected to get away with such abusive behavior she said "Well, if you want a smart, sexy woman you'll just have to put up with it." Of course that was the last time I saw her, but I did call a few weeks later to say an official good bye, no criticism, just goodbye.

[@RayleighCriterion]

Such hubris and pretentiousness to believe because she is a woman that she can get away with abusing people as a matter of fact.

[@USER_S4V4NT]

if they dont bring nothing to the table dont put food on their table

[@bellabowwow2204]

she sounds hot... just don't live with her

[@Olderaccount17]

-If you want a smart, sexy woman, you'll just have to put up with it. -When is she getting here?

[@michaelsix9684]

she got away with that behavior long before you met her, she wasn't going to change, you escaped a nightmare

[@David-lx4yb]

"If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" If I have to handle you - you don't deserve me.

[@seventhson27]

"I THOUGHT YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME." EVERY woman that I have ever told that I loved has tried to use that as a WEAPON against me.

[@doktrulok24]

Thank you for your videos, the irony of then is my ex did all these things and always made me feel like I was losing my mind but I loved her unconditionally. Then out of the blue she said I’m just not what she needs, we sold our house and we moved on. She said she still wanted to date though but the more of your videos I watch the more I saw how horrible of a person she was and she never was a partner. Thank you because I stopped fighting to get her back and I’ve been so happy when I finally let go.

[@alatmaca]

From my experience, another major red flag I think worth mentioning is when a woman says “all men are trash” (same applies for men who say “all women are trash”). Furthermore, it’s a big red flag when anyone says “ALL men/women are ___”

[@CourtneyRyan]

Absolutely! This was in my part 1 video 🙌🏼

[@53strat55]

Why would that be a red flag in your opinion? I'm about to end it permantly with a girl and she also used to say this

[@Kingdom-zu6tm]

@@53strat55 because it's generalizing. Unless you actually dated every single man/woman on earth then maybe saying that holds some worth but highly doubt it. Also it implies that they only attracted and/or chose to let bad people in their lives.

[@ottomanpapyrus9365]

Well they could just mean ALL that THEY have met are trash

[@51TD0wN]

@@53strat55 I also just ended a 3 year long relationship, and the biggest warning sign I didn't see was actually mentioned in this video. "This is just how I am." On the surface it sounds okay, the way she spun it was that "she should be allowed to be herself and not pretend." The problem is that all relationships are about compromise, there is no perfect person for you, and to completely refuse to change or grow in any way makes you toxic. She yelled at me all the time for simple things like questioning facts she told me. One of my friends once said his gf "was not the perfect woman, but she became one." My gf was there, and told me this pissed her off, because "she shouldn't need to change for him." I'm sorry, but in a healthy relationship, people need to change.

[@mike06422]

If she is ever talking about “figuring her life out” “working on herself” tell her good luck with that and leave. You may think that supporting her during this is a good thing, except once she “figures it out” the new her is going to need a new man that doesn’t know her old ways… and that’s not you!

[@johnathandavis9098]

@Matt Joseph FACTS

[@Dafreshcut]

I mean a good thing if a woman works on herself, but if she is genuine about it, she wouldn't mention it like that to you. It shows that she needs validation from it, instead of wanting to simply get better. Same goes for men.

[@paulv8133]

Omg, I lived this and you're exactly correct. Couple hundred thousand dollar divorce settlement later I realized. So true, he's right don't be the "sensitive guy that's going to help her find herself". Fuck that, just say good luck, bye.

[@mike06422]

@@Dafreshcut I’m not saying its a bad thing for her to better herself, just don’t expect to be the one she wants to be with once she does “figure it out”

[@Dafreshcut]

@@mike06422 yea, you're right. Girls are always looking for more, something "better", but it mostly boils down to looks. They get bored of one person so they look for another. Men can also get bored, but they don't have the luxury of picking anyone.

[@Trex13]

Girl ive dating for 2 months told me “In the past men have spoiled me and you dont do enough for me. You dont spend enough on me.” This was said after I paid for all the dates and I flew across the country to see her after she went back home. Any thoughts?

[@msBbee-oq7im]

Yes, leave her. She apparently does not appreciate the fact of traveling the long distance to see her and paying for the Daye! I am a woman, please let her go. A good woman would so appreciate your kind gestures!

[@ZorrowTasogare92]

Dump her ASAP

[@marcanderson9211]

Walk.

[@lukehigley9706]

Gold digger

[@davidreynolds8551]

Don’t walk, run!

[@arayahomes4308]

The 4th thing you said hits home for sure... Thank you

[@GT4viper]

God I love how sane Courtney is, it’s like she’s a real person or something.

[@habsom1406]

Yeah, she is so very sensible, I think her parents did a great job raising her.

[@damelos4039]

Watch Courtney Ryan and Kevin Samuels and you'll never have problem you cannot identify EARLY ON and accurately. Then, you can make intelligent decisions about who to bring into your life.

[@wtDrake]

@@damelos4039 still can't believe Kevin is gone

[@guntertorfs6486]

The kind voice of reason.

[@Concatenate]

Courtney is allegedly a person.

[@tannhauser7584]

Three weeks before our wedding, we're at a Christmas party. A group of about eight people (including us) are in a circle just doing idle chit chat when she contributes, "All men are assholes." Dead silence. The group just scattered for other parts of the room and left the two of us standing there. I'm just looking at her when she says, "What?" "Am I an asshole, or am I not a man?" "I was just kidding.' Biggest mistake of my life was when I let the wedding happen on schedule.

[@SonofDaVinci4]

Man, sorry to hear that. How long have you guys been married?

[@tannhauser7584]

@@SonofDaVinci4 It ended three years later. Just too much bs to overlook eventually. Also it was thirty years ago, and I'm over it, but I still like to tell the stories.

[@SonofDaVinci4]

@@tannhauser7584 Glad to hear that. 👍🙂

[@alltheworldsastage4785]

@@tannhauser7584 This happened 30 year ago?! Jesus.

[@Fuzzy.Wuzzy45]

Divorced?

[@Thebreadedfurflinger]

Your videos are infighting & spot on,at 65 years old & now single after my spouse passed,2 things I find toxic are when she buys clothes for you & says oh I think you'd look good or expect you to put her on a pedestal like a trophy for others to view,both have happen to me & I can't run away fast enough,I am an adult & know my style don't need to be your dress up doll & if you're insecure of yourself & need my praise uh nope

[@cogordoo]

I loved the second one, very well landed with your thoughts ✍🏻

[@mikeg3439]

Bonus item: "I'm a strong independent woman" for the simple reason that 95% of the time if a woman says that, what she means is "I'm not at all strong or independent". You know what I've never heard an actually strong and/or independent woman say? That they are strong and/or independent. You know why? They would think it's beyond ridiculous to say something that is quite obvious.

[@contemposuits1983]

Any woman who utters this always says this because they are weak and overcompensating for their lack of strength and wisdom.

[@5050TM]

Very true.

[@happycamper1111]

Mine said that. Was polyamorous. In the end wasn't single or independent. Needed men to do the work on her house and car. Was never strong enough to have a normal conversation to work on things or even give an explanation after the discard.

[@cbmech2563]

My wife took 38 years to show this behavior

[@NarwahlGaming]

Just like I don't go around saying, _"I'm an upright, bipedal hominid,_ if you are, then you don't need to say it. 😂

[@Valhalla_Heathen]

When I was active on dating apps I would see these red flags on many of these women’s profiles and I would immediately swipe left. After a while, I decided to get completely off dating apps and life is so more serene 🙏🏻

[@andersnielsen6044]

People on dating apps are just the same people as those who sit on the street begging for food..

[@liamflood8908]

@@andersnielsen6044 🤣

[@dmitriysahno2362]

Just closed the video and immediately returned to set like for this video! Very useful information, thank you!

[@Nephibis]

These were good points. Wish I could have had this video years ago. I was put into an ultimatum situation, did what she want and now i'm living with my manipulative mother who is almost as bad as the women you see in the videos who are super selfish and have standards that no human can reach, but absolutely no standards for themselves. I have done the "this is who I am" thing. I got tired of her complaining. For years I did my best to change every time her feelings were hurt by something I said, but it was difficult because I had to lie to keep from hurting her feelings and I don't like lying. If I lied she got mad; if I didn't lie then I was being rude and hurting her feelings. I was often exhausted because I worked, took care of home (she helped cook sometimes) and still pursued music (sometimes walking several hours to get to a show and still going to work the next day). She mainly slept all day and hung out with her friend. I never asked her for anything except to clean up after herself and when she had parties to ask her friends to throw their stuff away instead of leaving cookware and trash everywhere. So I was fed up and she complained so much I was convinced I just wasn't what she wanted. I get there are differences between people, but at some point I started to question if she really wanted to be with me or if I was just a convenience. Especially since she cheated on me.

[@tythesithari4356]

Courtney really making me realize how toxic a lot of the girls I've dated in the past were. At this rate I'm actually going to develop standards for the women I date.

[@agatastaniak7459]

Be careful with this. Since what she pinpoints are very common ways of communicating expectations or setting boundaries and if it's a red flag or not really depends on the context of the situation. Real red flags are for example if a girl cannot have fun without abusing any substance or is willing to sit in the lap of another guy when going out with you or tries to convince you taht her ex should spend a night with her at your place- yes, real life stuff. Has happened to people I know. But saying " A real man would.... or if you loved me you would..." is actually common among happily married people I know and it's not really such a big deal if both sides have healthy distance to it. Women are simply often taught not to be direct about their expectations hence such ways of referring to some ideal "real man" instead of saying to her man " it would please me if you would...". Surely, depends on culture too. But in macho cultures very common. As for ultimatums, were if it's any major crisi situation that''s last resort attempt at boundary setting. Happens in long-term relationship after crisis. But if it's common without a crisis and you have just started dating then yes, it is a red flag. So it's hard to devise a simple list of such things away from a context.

[@ottomanpapyrus9365]

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[@MaKeREV]

@@agatastaniak7459 I'd say it is you who should be careful of how you form your advice, especially if it's directed to the other sex. If men are widely agreeing here, on what is said on the vid, it is a huge note to take for you, not the greatest moment to tell us that we may all be wrong. It's a huge red flag when women comes in and want to act smarter when faced with blatant male expression of their needs and wants. And I am not sure how you observe people, but couples that I know, where the "real man would..." blackmail occurs, are among the miserable. Have a nice day

[@bernardmueller5676]

And you'll never meet the right one. Sigh.

[@kellywalker8407]

​@Agata Staniak You make some good points but I don't trust women. Sad but true. At my age, dating women my age....well, there is a reason they aren't still married after 30 years.

[@johnkendall6962]

I made a point not to tell my wife who she could see, where she could go, or what she could do. What I told her was she knew right from wrong and knew being married meant there were certain restrictions on what was acceptable. She was free to do / choose what she wanted but that I also had a choice whether I wanted to remain if I didn't accept her choices. We were both cheated on during our first marriage and set rules for acceptable conduct pretty early early when we became exclusive.

[@matteorolfi6906]

I LOVE YOUR BONUS TIP!!!!!!!

[@slowcountryboy476]

WOW!! This is good video. At the beginning I thought this does not apply to me because I have not experienced this stuff;... lately. I do not dwell on all the crappy stuff I have experienced so it's like I almost forgot it all. But, I have learned to veer from narssistic manipulative people and it really is a past thing. But, as I continued to listen to you I remembered someone who would guilt trip me. I would get accused of thinking, saying, or doing something I was not. How I failed (me!) in the last relationship is when you gave the example; "I really feel special if you...). In my last relationship I did not appreciate being ignored by the woman when she could have helped me in my time of need even though if I were not in relationship with anyone I would not suffer. I am quite good at taking care of myself and do not need anyone to take care of me or mother me. Mother me?? yuck!! She just di not offer to help. But you are correct, I would have felt special and cared for if she came to my assitance. I broke up with her for her failure to even offer assistance when she had the chance among other chances to reciprocate. I always took of her when she was in need and she did not even have to ask, I just did it. I would see she needed help and I would do more than she even expected. She was out of work for four months and I met her normal everyday life needs. Later when she started working again she would show her appreciation and treat me to lunch or dinner. But she failed to consider that she had an opportunity to help me. To your last point, "This just how I am." I say, "ehh, it's what I do." When a woman verbally conveys apprecitation for stuff I do I say, "eh, it's what I do." I learned to be a giver first. But when I finally see a woman does not reciprocate I begin taking a closer look at the relationship. I see relationship as a give and take thing. I do not subscribe to the 50/50 b.s. because if all the sudden the woman is not putting out her 50 when she is experiencing some kind of hardship I cannot consciously kick her to the curb. I am intelligent enough, observant to see a woman is struggling; sometimes it is just part of life and if I have whatever means it takes to help her past the struggle I do it. The last woman is basically a good woman. She did not abuse me in any way, but she would fail to reciprocate when I need help. When I broke up with her I told her why. I told her that I did not want give an ultimatum, manipulate her to my desires, or convince her to behave in ways that aare not her. I told her that at some point human nature will kick in and the preverbial sh*t could hit the fan in more than an ugly way. I told her I want to remain friends and that I am not going give anger or butt-hurt free mental rent. I gave her a parting hug. I probably should have thanked her for mammaries. Viewing this video caused me to recall some of the ugly crap I have been through with women and caused me to realize that I have learned much, I have learned to associate with better people; women and even men. I have seen men behave like drama queens also; "hood rats." Thank you for this video. It made realize I have learned much and am more than willing to continue learning. I yield back the soap box...

[@slowcountryboy476]

This is a good video. I have experienced all of what you mentioned . This last weekend a woman told me she puts all the men she brings homes to work. I do not know where she lives nor do I have a burning desire to find out.

[@philiprouse8569]

I got one; when she's constantly saying things like, "I'm just worried this might not go anywhere." Guys, if she's constantly saying this, even after addressing it more than once, just end it! You don't want to be with a pessimist! Eventually, you need to ask, "well, what are we even doing here?" You wanna find yourself a woman who's going to look you in the eyes and say, "I'm in this for the long haul!"

[@Josh-dp6iu]

I was talking to a pessimistic woman it was SOO draining. I’d argue it’s one of the most important factors in determining the success of a relationship. HOPE.

[@Valhalla_Heathen]

Exactly brother!

[@davidt1621]

If you're really about that, give her a boundary. If she doesn't respect it, dump her.

[@jleano609]

This is called a comfort test. They can be a good thing if infrequent but assuming you aren’t a complete bozo if you are getting hit with these things all the time she may have an insecure attachment style which is a big problem for the relationship.

[@benhartart9487]

Yeah she will be in for 7 years max 🤪

[@SgtGold3]

Thank you for including the astrology issue. And after personally dealing with this, I can say that using Myer Briggs results against someone to stir up issues in a relationship is a major red flag!

[@vickrunalza8057]

INTJ social Introverted Virgo

[@scottp2462]

Astrology isn’t an ick for me, it’s a no go.

[@SunsetLights]

my ex was into all that BS and was the “what time were born?” girl. She was kinda crazy and we’re not together no more

[@kalebwieland4938]

Still fun to think about.

[@atleelang4050]

Thank You! The Myer Briggs stuff is just as bad as the astrology!

[@Jonasz314]

Story of my life. My wife lives by the 3rd example you gave and constantly reiterates how "emotional" she is, a BS excuse to lash out at people and expecting zero consequences. We have a kid together, I'm sticking around for his sake. As soon as he's old enough... I'm out.

[@btjones874]

I wouldn't do that. Speaking as a kid who's dad left in middle school. Yes it was hard, but I got to eventually see both parents happy and as long as both parents are still in the childs life.

[@cutter892]

As both the son of divorced parents and a divorced only parent myself, DO NOT STAY FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN. This is the biggest, most destructive lie that we tell ourselves. When you are in an miserable marriage, your kids will see it, and they will be asking themselves and you questions. Mommy and daddy are yelling late at night, mom and dad don't talk or show affection to each other, why aren't mom and dad ever happy with each other. All you will do is set a dangerous and destructive example to your kid as to what a relationship looks like. Also they he may start blaming himself for the cause your problems because there are going to be arguments and fights with your wife over the kid. Get a lawyer and get a divorce. The real question that you are going to have to ask yourself is who do you want to have primary custody? I would also look for a personal therapist to talk too while you are going through this because it will not be easy but your kid will be better off especially if you and hopefully her are able to find happy, health relationships.

[@warriormanmaxx8991]

@Jonasz314 - Troy May above is on target ! Kids can pick up relational issues ... if you are daily walking on "emotional eggshells" ... now is the time to get out.

[@positivenergy347]

You get it Courtney. Ty for organizing this content for us

[@helenamuniz5269]

5 Things Are Woman Say That Are Major Red Flags;🚨🚩 1. A Real Man Would...... 2. IF You Really Liked Me,You Would..... 3. If You Can't Handle Me At My Worst,You Don't Deserve Me At My Best. 4. She Gives Ultimatums. 5. This Is Just How I Am...Deal With It! 6. Anything Astrology Related. Blissful Weekend Kings&Queens🌷

[@NarutoUzumaki-hj2hb]

Oh lord, I guess I gotta date dudes now cause girls are always astrological

[@helenamuniz5269]

@@NarutoUzumaki-hj2hb Not All Are...beside Not A Good Time to Date Dudes,As The 🐒 Are Out Now.

[@NarutoUzumaki-hj2hb]

@@helenamuniz5269 hahaha true

[@helenamuniz5269]

@@NarutoUzumaki-hj2hb Be Patient,Things Might Fall In Place When you least Expect

[@jackmaher5606]

I’m so glad that you said that anything astrology related is a red flag. I hate it when girls are either complaining or rejecting stuff about guys that honestly are so little. “I wON’t DAtE HIm cAUse He’S a GeMInI!” When are people gonna realise that everybody in this world is different.

[@archellothewolf2083]

I've had this happen a lot. Why is it always Gemini specifically?

[@jackmaher5606]

@@archellothewolf2083 no clue, bro

[@LadyFairChildVideo]

the worst about it is, we are supposed to believe vvomen are some sort of really enlightened being yet they cling to something so trivial and dismissable as astrology and the logic of assigning traits to the "zodiac" signs. it's all rubbish. that throws almost all of their thought process and ability to be taken seriously out the window.

[@Olderaccount17]

Sounds like gemini man dodged a bullet there!

[@grand73am]

Sounds like a joke there. When you say "everybody in this world is different", and the example is not dating him because he's a Gemini...well, Gemini means "twins", so in that case, twins are not very different ;-) .

[@yugo4606]

Courtney, I don’t know if you read comments, but I’ll tell you this with all due respect: you are incredibly beautiful, inside and out, I wish I had had that kind of advice growing up, although my parents hardly ever gave me verbal advice about my sentimental life, they did so by example, they were married 52 years before my mom passed away in 2004, then my dad died last year at 92 years old. I’m 66 now and I thank God for keeping them alive so long, I always looked up at my dad and tried to live my life the way he did, they never yelled at each other in front of us, which is really hard to do, I’ve been married 31 years and we scream at each other a lot. I don’t want to bore anyone so I’ll leave it at that. Keep up your good work and hope that the newer generation kids listen to your good advice.

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

Great video; thanks for sharing the analysis.

[@adam.maqavoy]

*1. Real men would..?* (In Denial & Undervalued) *2. If You really liked me - You'd?* (Guilt-Tripping) 3. "If You Can't Handle me at My Worst, You Don't Deserve at My Best" - Oh god. So many Wrongs with that Quote (I've *Studied Philosophy* ) This ain't it. Like.. anywhere near it. *4. She Makes Threats?* (Ultimatum - Very Narcissistic FYI) *5. Astrology* - Check V (its really Cringe)

[@lovernotfighter]

The one about her taking accountability was good for me to hear. I just had a relationship tank for that reason. I was expected to bail her out of every situation that she found herself in. She ghosted me because I wasn't able to help her anymore. She called back the other night after 2 months and I finally had the nerve to say go back to whoever you've been sleeping around with because I don't want you anymore. She came back with some lame talk but I think she got the point. A man has to think about whether he is being used or not.

[@Goblin_Hands]

Taking accountability is kryptonite for many. Yours was on the extreme side, but it tends to be hardwired in feminists to deflect any self awareness.

[@hardmanst]

Thanks for another informative video Courtney. As I have become more self aware, I find these red flags you have mentioned easier to spot and respond to whereas previously I would have been more on the back foot

[@philiptrepanier7145]

Hey Courtney. Another well crafted video. Loved how you put astrology into the realm of unrealistic expectations. Reminds me of a KZbin video where someone bluntly labelled Taurus like myself as the sign that is most stubborn and “doesn’t give a f--“. IMO, one of the worst forms of labelling a category of people.

[@NoraDawn]

🥰 As a much older lady, this IS great advice. This is advice I would share with BOTH genders. So applicable to behavior I've witnessed in both Female and Male ideology today. I worked for many years at a university. Therefore, to anyone wanting a true relationship, don't be the red flag individual.

[@Brian.001]

As a much older gentleman, I have to say I instantly go on the alert when someone describes themselves as a lady, or a gentleman!

[@Ssm19494]

Yup you’re right. What she’s describing is essentially cluster B manipulative behaviour and both men and women suffer from these personality disorders

[@mc116]

I think I heard most of the lines back in my early 20s. The "real men..." line can really sting deep in our insecurities, masculinity and pride. It definitely made me question myself as a young and impressionable 20-something guy no matter how confident and arrogant I acted. Suffice to say those relationships with girls who used that line never lasted long and they go through men like it's candy.

[@farrenz6297]

I appreciate this video, and it feels more meaningful coming from a woman... and it's spot on. It's also worth noting one may come across these red flags phrased (or even disguised) differently, which is why the explanations that follow each bullet point are so helpful. Thanks!

[@raymondb5757]

Thanks for opening my eyes, especially with #5.

[@carlosdasilva2409]

My two cents: If she says she's always right even when she's not. That's a big no. That just shows heavy narcissism and believe me. It is so exhausting to deal with someone that can't ever fathom being in the wrong...

[@cyotey4378]

Women who tell you "No one will love you if you don't love yourself". It's already hard enough for us guys because sharing feelings is seen as a weakness to most. With guys like me with chronic depression that makes it a ton worse. This saying implies that if you doubt yourself at all in any way no woman will ever like/love you. I understand a lack of confidence isn't attractive. But saying that shows she's both judgemental and clearly doesn't care for you. Big red flag.

[@williamking9508]

Love yourself ... don't care for any woman's opinion about you and they have no way but to love you ... women are needy and unfortunately most men these days are simps ... being depressed is not a character flaw ... love yourself and succeed in your life and your perspective will change ... a man has to be the leader of the relationship and if you don't love yourself, you can't lead

[@CrutialKills]

Bruh she right

[@kellywalker8407]

I have shot more big game, and stuck it in the freezer, been in more fist fights than I can recall and worked my ass off. If a woman can't take me getting tearing eyed watching a movie......to hell with 'em. Bye.

[@flamingmanure]

"because sharing feelings is seen as a weakness to most" and the fact that people, both men and ESPECIALLY women in my experience, are subconsciously trained to view men as less of a victim in society, the sayings "women and children first" and "but its different for a girl" exist for a reason.

[@kellywalker8407]

@@flamingmanure Interesting comment. Can't disagree.

[@wesleybilharz3935]

Thank you. You verified my 20 yr failed marriage. I’m validated on how I’ve already been knowing. 😌

[@ponokunishima1]

I really like your channel, gives me a good insight to see what women like and want from a woman, rather than a straight talk from a guy. Plus, (not hitting on you) you have the kindest and sweetest voice that make a guy want to watch your channel. Some of your videos I would need to watch again and again. Getting back to the Astrology and Zodiac stuff, I’ve been watching some videos on it and doing my research, because after my relationship of 5 and a half years ended, I was watching a video about the sign that my now ex girlfriend is and it told me a lot. I just dove into my relationship without knowing anything like that.

[@stevepaulding9679]

Penny: I'm a Sagittarius, which probably tells you way more than you need to know. Sheldon: Yes, it tells us that you participate in the mass cultural delusion that the sun's apparent position relative to arbitrarily defined constellations at the time of your birth somehow affects your personality.

[@DeuceBiggerHo]

😂spot on!👌

[@wayland7150]

Perhaps it does. This has been studied for thousands of years. You can also look up the Sagittarius personalty type, she thinks she is that type. Is she deluded or perhaps this actually gives you her personality type? Don't assume that by calling yourself rational that you are actually being rational in dismissing Astrology. I don't expect you've looked into it enough to actually know because you believe you're too smart to bother. Mind you if she is into Astrology she probably does not care much for the dogmatic zero personal research science you believe in. Probably not a good match.

[@SkillzKillzBR]

@@wayland7150 It's been studied dozens of times with tens of thousands of participants in scientific studied in peer-reviewed journals in the last 50 years. It is complete nonsense. No more predictable than a coin flip. Pls just stop.

[@drewodessa2483]

@@SkillzKillzBR Yeah, about as ridiculous as thinking plant growth could be affected by the earth's orbital location around the sun.

[@EdgarHernandez-uu4iw]

@@drewodessa2483 are humans plants tho? Yeah I thought so. Also if this whole horoscope thing was so true, why don’t our fellow animals born throughout the year have the same personality traits as those around the same day or month?

[@s_ade9969]

All the points you made we’re exceptionally accurate and poignant. The one that really stood out to me which I resonated with the most was “that’s just who I am..”🤮 I’ve had first-hand experience of that and I locked off the entire situation immediately. That is one of the most toxic and damaging mentalities a woman can hold, so ugly, super happy you touched on that.👏🏾👏🏾

[@jimwash7437]

I’m glad you said it because if it came from me I would be labeled a hatter. I’ve dealt with females like that for over 30 yrs. I have kicked each and everyone to the curb. No regrets.

[@randelclemons5798]

Awesome video, thank you!! 🤗

[@arunkumar1610]

You have put yourself under men's shoes and thought about all these scenarios. Thanks a lot Courtney 🙏. You are an angel. "It is better to be alone than in a bad company"

[@allysonchen2097]

The fact that she is done that yes she is right cuz she has put herself in their shoes. The real problem is these other women don't and we all know the Golden rule treat me like you wanted to be treated. These women think they're so damn special that they should get everything they want I'm not compromised to make their men happy so they lose.

[@josephstevens9888]

Great video Courtney - and very informative! Several years ago I had a female cub mate at work, and we were pretty close, although she could be manipulative. One day, she asked me to intervene on her behalf in an area that was none of my business. She told me me, "if you really liked me you would do this for me." I responded, "if you really liked me you would give me sex whenever I wanted." She replied, "I deserved that." She never tried that again on me!

[@bloomtv3-thealtchannel368]

the ones at 4:13 and 7:45 -> brilliantly decoded, still resonates !!

[@imjuslooking7270]

Right on, Courtney and great advice as usual. As a guy, I realize I cannot make a woman, or anyone for that matter be held accountable. I CAN and DO walk away when they refuse to behave well, lie, cheat, and are too domineering to me. Accountability is is like kryptonite to most women. NGL 100% true. I hate it when ppl (not just women) say "That's just how I am...!!" Very toxic and narcissistic. I live in CA and lots of these women out here are mean, picky, and shallow. And stuck up! Again, not all are like this but most, esp. close to SF/Bay Area, LA, and San Diego. At least SoCal has better looking women, I will give them that. Oh and the astrology one: if she says signs or talks about "the universe" when dating, HUGE red flag. It means later on, if the universe tells her to be with diff. guy, she'll go with it. Again, no accountable behavior.

[@PRdude]

I was beginning to think that the third one you'd mention is "I'm a feminist". That's something I don't really mind, but that just depends on how far she takes it. I don't like the ones who blame men for everything wrong in the world, or think women ought to be in control of everything that is everything.

[@dotdashdotdash]

It's usually code for "I have a cluster B personality disorder"

[@CourtneyRyan]

I’ve gotta do a part 3 now 😂😂😂

[@PolishKnightUSA]

@Joe Here's why feminism is a red flag: There's a term for equality between the sexes: Egalitarianism. To define 'equality' based upon what women define and want is actually a form of psychosis like a child who thinks the world revolves around them and that is what is "right". Even at its best, a feminist who says that women started the movement to perhaps be treated more equally is now moot since women have all the legal rights that matter (and then some) so a "nice feminist" who still uses the term is not out for men's rights (even if that's what she's mostly talking about) but rather a feminist apologist (looking to campaign for the rights of other groups to lend her own feminine special rights agenda some credibility). More on this regarding Courtney.

[@drip369]

Well femininity and feminism are not the same thing so you need to change that brushing off of the shoulders mentality there because femininity is what Courtney is about, and feminism is not about equality it is about dominance so any girl that claims to be a feminist and that doesn't know the difference, like how Courtney knows the difference, will want you to become her slave and you shouldn't want that for yourself. If you try to help her distinguish and she quits calling herself a feminist, then that's great and I would certainly reward her but if she doesn't see the difference and she doesn't care to quit saying it, I would leave because things will inevitably turn sour because those women do not understand the beauty of femininity they do not value and respect the sanctity of masculinity

[@cisium1184]

It depends. Before wokeism became a thing I worked with a very politically conservative young woman who told me she was a "feminist" but she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom; to her "feminist" was just shorthand for having three kids one after the other, staying at home until the youngest started grade school, and then returning to a career. That's not even feminism to me - my mom worked my entire childhood - but it was feminism to her because her mom was a stay-at-home mom. So I would put it more in the category of, "it's a red flag if she is repeatedly making a big deal out of it" category. I mean, I assume most militant feminists will hang themselves with their own rope on that topic anyway if you just let them talk. If a girl just uses the word once casually and moves on I'm not sure I'd write her off just for that.

[@davcaslop]

It has become like a meme thing, but I can not emphasize enough how important is to identify the red flags. Loooove your content!!!

[@mtm101designs9]

Great advice!!

[@donhammond4856]

courtney you're like the Big sister i never had. you're the best thanks for all the great insight and advice, you've taught me a lot.

[@mikecicero6177]

Very well said Courtney! ALL of these examples are a clear indication of the state of mind and attitude of the current generation of "most" (not all) women's psyche. Our society, popular culture and social media ALL proliferate this type of attitude amongst women. Why did women start being so entitled and obnoxious? Why did women start being so mean and edgy? And while we are here, let's talk about the prevalence of "potty mouth" amongst women today. The level of vulgarity and rampant abuse of the "F" word have become so commonplace that no one seems to even notice that it has become part of their vernacular. My how we have regressed as a society.

[@jleano609]

Yes, we now have multiple generations of masculinized women and feminized men thanks to modern progressivism 🙄

[@NoraDawn]

I couldn't agree more. Working at a university, I couldn't understand how BOTH genders thought speaking with such course and undignified language was a "good thing" I often wondered if some of them really knew WHAT certain words really meant. The definition to the language.... As much IS degrading and unrefined. 🙁 In fact, once I did ask, the poor individual did not know, when I explained..... Needless to say, this person was shocked (a very young person) . But as to most? I still wonder if they understand, I mean really understand. 🤷

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Friday, Courtney 💘! Actions speak louder than words 🎯

[@peterfrancisquinijr.7478]

Thank you for the astrology comment! Totally agree! 👍🏾

[@billpeters4222]

Thx Courtney!! With knowledge, beauty your honesty and how you feel is what not just for a woman to be better in love. It’s for everyone to be better in love, sexual desires and life. Peace, Hope and Dope!!

[@kylelutz7068]

Thank you for calling out that these as red flags to hear from guys as well. These are worrisome to hear from a partner, but we need to check ourselves to ensure we aren't being manipulative either.

[@easternwoods4378]

My wife and I were going to marriage counseling at her suggestion. I was pretty sure she was having an affair. as the counseling sessions were winding down I asked the counselor " How should we deal with an issue if we can't resolve it? ". The answr I was expecting was more counseling ( more free money for them ) The answer I got as " Is the issue worth walking away from the marriage" Perfect answer!! Also gave my wife a free pass to do whatever she wanted. In the end she tried to manipulate me by threatening self deletion.

[@jleano609]

Hoping she’s your ex-wife now?

[@randym.hernandez1408]

Why is it always the "suicide " thing?

[@jrtaylor8903]

@@randym.hernandez1408 They threaten suicide so they can make u feel guilty (as if u are the only reason they are living). Whether or not they are serious (and im sure they aren't), it's not worth staying with someone who will only cause u misery

[@msBbee-oq7im]

Self deletion? I have never heard that put quite that way, I like your use of the terminology!

[@mrdfwproductions]

Wow.... you got me with the astrology tip, my ex-wife lived by it. Thanks for giving us perspective.

[@mrdcza4961]

Man, resonated hard 5 years later after my relationship with a person like this! So many ultomatoes i had put up with. It really messed with my head and has still left me feeling confused for future relationships. I wonder if this type of women ever lose these traits?

[@drumnbass1536]

Thanks for the vid Courtney! I have been mentioning the astrology red flag for a long time now, and it's funny because that bs seems so far out there yet I have met several girls who believe in this more than their ability to actually communicate with someone... honestly saddening, but really glad you mentioned this. Never date an astrology liar!

[@stevenrozeveld5759]

lots of good solid coaching / advice. I've been married for 35 years - and still learning :)

[@sebinsebastian5570]

Are you both learning or just you ? Because it's sounding like she is teaching you in her ways 🙂

[@Inefprag]

That bonus is great!!

[@ruperterskin2117]

Right on. Thanks for sharing.

[@alangrinberg3871]

Great video, direct and to the point. If only I could flesh out some of these things very early on into a relationship I would have saved myself from a lot of emotional torment lol.

[@designsbyphilip510]

A favorite story...a friend of mine started out being interested in a girl he worked with. She said "all men want just one thing." Over several days he tried to explain to her that it isnt true. She wouldnt let go, later saying she needed a man to keep her secure, but she agreed to go out with him after a few weeks. He took her to a place extremely romantic, and had picnic dinner (Asian food takeout, bottle of wine, etc.) At the end of the date he took her home, and walked her to her door. She invited him in. He got this smirk on his face, and said "If you think that men only want one thing, then you must want one thing from men, and your willing to do what men want to get it. I don't have sex with prostitutes." He then left. She never came back to work while he was there. He calls it his "Hate Date."

[@333angeleyes]

Or... She just wanted to talk more, flirt more and, maybe even make-out. There is no guarantee she wanted him to come inside to have sex... Your friend doesn't sound like a nice person.

[@blacklight1104]

@@333angeleyes he's far more nice than what this lady deserved. Karma hit her for that remark. Good on the guy for dodging this bullet.

[@symphonicscents4706]

Wow...your friend sounds like an asshole. While I Don’t have all the facts, maybe that was her intent, maybe it wasn’t, but he jumped the gun a bit don’t you think? Instead of seeking to understand her intent, he just impulsively called her a prostitute because she invited him in? I’d be slightly traumatized if I were her and sex wasn’t my intent, and yeah I probably wouldn’t show up for work either because I’d want to duke it out with that asshole. Shows a lot about how he thinks of women, and that’s not a friend I would ever have. Especially with the prostitution comment, I’m sitting here thinking, what the fuck? I think SHE dodged a bullet with him. I mean, I can understand why 2 people who have already known each other for quite some time (i.e. coworkers) would hang out at each other’s place on the first date, because There’s more than likely already been a certain level of trust and rapport established at work. I would do the same thing if I were in her shoes, and I wouldn’t think any less if my male coworker I was on my First date with would invite me to his place either. Again, trust is already the baseline for coworkers. Maybe I want to show him my sick collection of (insert object here) or chat, get to know each other and make out since we’re in private? Sex most definitely wouldn’t be happening. Many people can actually control their impulses and don’t behave like wild animals when in the homestead of someone they’re attracted to, who they’ve known for a while. A lot of the time it IS just making out. HOWEVER, If it’s 2 strangers on their first date however, that’s completely different, and I think your friend may have gotten that majorly confused. In that case, an invitation to the other’s place is thereby a direct motivation for a one night stand that more than likely would not develop into anything more meaningful.

[@lawrencebolt3540]

@@333angeleyes or maybe the OP is only telling you the relevant parts of the story instead of making the comment a 50 shades of Grey chapter. If you haven't got anything good to say, ask yourself why you're online. Peace

[@XXNerdzillaXX]

That's a power move if I've ever heard one. Beautiful comeback. That guy deserves a pat on the back.

[@honorandspite]

Thank you so much for the astrology tip. It's always been a huge red flag for me.

[@arcticwolf8313]

4:07 Good point Courtney. Most people who say that, usually their best is nothing much. But that saying also assumes that doing something good makes your bad points okay or excuses them, and it doesn't work like that.

[@Auren23]

Also calling you insecure for expressing real issues in the relationship is a good one, I've seen plenty of relationships like this once, have even been in one, where the guy expresses he didn't feel comfortable with her having male friends who were clearly into her, and in turn she says he's being insecure and not trusting her enough as well as saying the usual "you're being controlling" type of thing, when in reality she's just giving the guy more reasons to doubt her, not understanding that trust is earned not given, and once the relationship eventually ends she's with one of her male friends a week later, if not way before that when she was in the previous relationship. I really think that if you want to be in serious relationship you have to give reasons for the other person to trust you, and not expect them to blindly trust everything that you do, and it's actually very disrespectful to completely disregard something your partner feels uncomfortable about simply because you like the attention.

[@walexander8378]

Mmm how does she earn trust if she can't have the friends? Trust is earned sure, but you're not giving her the chance. Yes it is controlling to say no male friends. 100%

[@Auren23]

@@walexander8378 "Male friends who were clearly into her" Oh, i'm fine with her having friends, just not the kind that hit on her constantly while she already has someone, allowing that behavior from guys close to her even though they know she's already in a relationship comes off as disrespectful, both from her part and theirs.

[@sawyer3612]

​@@walexander8378 no Is not controlling. Is just respecting the relationships. If you wanna have male or female friends, be single. Your mom I bet doesn't have male friends.

[@jonathanharshman7194]

Yeah the accountability thing has been an issue. Told a girl recently she lost some respect from me after bailing on me on coffee dates twice. She said I’m sorry you feel that way, but I gotta do what I gotta do. Then the next time I saw her about a month later was avoiding me like the plague.

[@dancahill8199]

You may have "dodged a bullet" there Jonathan.

[@jonathanharshman7194]

@@dancahill8199 Oh I most heartedly agree.

[@mikedoyle7300]

You should have stood her up aswell.

[@jonathanharshman7194]

@@mikedoyle7300 there wasn't a chance too do that. She kept talking about how busy she was, yet had time to go out of the state twice and then out of the country for a month. Hence why when she said she didn't have time to date over text, I told her face to face she lost respect from me.

[@helco2856]

It's a dud, I can tell you right now...she's not interested

[@hcordova09]

Thank you very much! I'm divorced and I've gone through a couple of these red flags. And I'm sorry to say I didn't notice them in proper time.

[@brandonnewby178]

Good stuff. Especially that fifth tip. But also that astrology one. So many of us don't even know what signs mean...

[@spokenwordillusions5756]

Life is about making adjustments. To not adjust is like driving a car without touching the steering wheel: you're not driving it. If both partners are making adjustments, the relationship will go a long way.

[@jatbatman]

The second one comes as the following list as well. If you really loved me... If you cared about me... If I mattered at all to you... If I was important... I'm sure there's other variations, but these are the ones I have heard. Oh and because my father is a drug addict and played guilt trips and mind games, these usually had the opposite effect. It's not how you get what you want from me.

[@NickGould50687]

Yessir! This one hits Lol

[@DinoSvanhvit]

Thank you. I have said this for a long time. 🙏

[@steebo7883]

Thank you so much for your outlook It truly helps

[@drip369]

7:45 "I'm perfect, I make no mistakes, and I'm not changing" (people that believe they do no wrong never/rarely/struggle to apologize

[@dantefernandodantezambrano7910]

A detail to take into account is that some women do so to men who are 100% committed to the relationship. Those women know those men try to work it out, but they take advantage of it by making men feel insecure about "their love" to them. The expression ; "You don't care about me enough" is such a trigger to make some men feel badly about their commitment to women.

[@stevenmisfits6247]

Very eye opening, thank you.

[@theomaksor851]

Thank you so much for your amazing easy to understand 'lecture'. English is not my first language , I have a mild dyslexia and ... are not the youngest anymore - but WOW I was glued to your ... sorry ... lips and could so very well understand it. It also confirmed to me in what a toxic relation I have been for 40 odd years. .... Yes I know - but coming from a strong religious background in a very conservative town .... you get it. I would like to share the very number one word that encompasses all others: RESPECT ! thanks you again !

[@moa3821]

astrology is the new way modern women avoid accountability. im a Capricorn this is how we act

[@kristiannoel4866]

The first point you mentioned was the favourite of my ex wife, and her sister. They would say it whenever I'd tell them anything they had asked of me was unrealistic, and/or dangerous to do long term.

[@glasshalffull8625]

Wow! It’s hard enough to work a relationship with one person, but for all practical purposes, it sounds like you were married to both of them. When I was in HS, I dated a girl and her mother was so involved that it was as if I had this dual relationship. All my buddies felt sorry for me.

[@brothershadow]

This was fantastic thanks!

[@tdegler]

Great vid! Thanks!

[@kevinneesemusic]

I got a kick out of your take on astrology. I've always thought astrology was a bunch of malarkey. I was dating this one gal years ago who was really into it. She had bought this book on astrology which went into great detail and described the characteristics of people with each sign. I was looking through it and told her I would read her characteristics to her. If I remember right, she was an Aires and I actually read her my description (Leo). When I got done she was like, "OMG that describes me perfectly. See, I told you there was something to this." I just started cracking up and was like, "Sorry to burst your bubble...but I just read you my description....Leo." Fact is, people are going to believe what they want to believe, regardless of facts. But I have to agree on that being a red flag. In fact, when I've met someone and the first thing they do is ask me what my "sign" is... that ends it for me. Nope.. not interested...buh-bye...

[@maxhouse2409]

There was a time when "What's your sign?" was used as a cheesy pick up icebreaker. Now it's used as a cheatsheet in order to label someone as having particular characteristics instead of using behavior observation for assessment.

[@theguynextdoor4978]

The bottom-line is: Yeah girl, I really like you because I'm dating you. But a girl who REALLY liked me back wouldn't try and make me violate my boundaries for her.

[@glasshalffull8625]

I dated this woman when I was younger that always wanted to go to the high end establishments. I have beer taste and she was of the champagne crowd. Anyway, we had a date to do The Top Of the Town. Last minute thing, I got called to go to the next city over, but I told her I would pick her up but might be a few minutes late. Got to her office building at about 5:05 pm and she was walking out the front door. I was 5 minutes late and she told me, “Im on my way home since you were late!” There had been several’red flags’, but this was the end. She thought we were going to get married and I was thinking, “NO WAY.” It wasn’t really violating my boundaries as much as accepting who I am.

[@kutluhakan4190]

A million thumbs ups... I love it when women talk clearly at the same time they tell truth. Thank you very much Courtney. You re a star.

[@danielpruitt8550]

You got a good one Teddy! Thanks for the advice Courtney! 😊