6 Alarming Signs You're Sexually Violated by a Narcissist

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[@narcabusecoach]

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[@dv52528]

Your body feels it, it knows it , warns us but we won't listen...

[@takeysha4]

Sad but true 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@aliciawilliams8884]

The accuracy is insane

[@praveenasampath6145]

Exactly true, no genuine affection,no emotional bonding,

[@ktruth4real]

They are always super nice right before they try to be intimate with you. Right afterwards, they turn right back into a jerk.

[@aliciawilliams8884]

No lies

[@Redpill1962]

Those dark soulless eyes 😵‍💫

[@Kelli-ru7yy]

It was like they were somewhere else and not actually connecting with you. Just solely in their own world. Not connecting to yours.

[@arlenematthews1794]

Sex with a narcissist is mechanical. You don't even feel human it is purely transactional. I remember watching the movie " Sleeping with the Enemy". I identified with the character played by Julia Roberts. It really is sleeping with the Enemy.

[@leslietinyhousebuilderwann3851]

Every bit of this was my life for 9 years! It was disgustingly lonely.

[@MegaRose1958]

Yes sex with my ex definitely felt transactional! I couldn't wait for it to be over. This also made it even more easier to be happy when I was able to get out of this Toxic relationship!

[@TamekaBuckley-h8e]

@@MegaRose1958 Yes Ma'am, same here 🙏🏾

[@kristencobb230]

Agree!

[@YouDontKnowMeDoYou15]

They see sexual activity as something you have to perform for them even when youre not well or feeling low because of their emotional absence & you feel as if you are in a relationship by yourself.

[@tanyadelgado8936]

Intimacy was a "transaction" and control. Mentally removing myself was the only way to survive the degradation of those times. 18 years since divorce and no desire to be put in that ugly situation of vulnerability again.

[@monongahelacats]

My ex narc was exactly like this. He would jump out of bed and shower immediately, as if he did something dirty. There was never any cuddling. My needs were never met. After a couple of years, he stopped making love altogether. He was punishing me.

[@HeavenleeBlue-h9q]

Plot twist: they can also be controlling over "giving" pleasure to you, but it's not about what you want, it's about what they want to "give" you. It's not for you to enjoy, but you have to pretend you like it 😭

[@Wellness_Rose]

👆🏽This 💯 & I’ve been drugged before so they could do that. I’m finally talking about it. Praying 🙏🏽 for you that you’re Healing now HeavenLee. 🤎

[@deborahrohl7690]

Yep

[@MarjyGTV]

1000% accurate

[@shayadayan3343]

Exactly

[@TamekaBuckley-h8e]

They are so not affectionate or passionate people. They are not 🚫 tuned into the basics or anything that matters most to the other person.

[@narcabusecoach]

Absolutely

[@TamekaBuckley-h8e]

​@@narcabusecoachGod Bless You Danish ☝🏾❤️ You are so Awesome 😎

[@figure9607Amy]

This part was very very hard. The no emotional connection part leaves you feeling worthless.

[@figure9607Amy]

He even had me convinced that I must be a narcissist

[@monicarai1497]

It's very hard to describe this feeling. It feels like ....maybe we are imagining things. But your gut feeling keeps telling you smth is amiss. The only mistake we can make at this stage is to gaslight ourselves and say it's not true. And it doesn't help when the narcissist adds in saying that 'everything is okay' when it's not. Imagine fighting the entire day and only wanting sex in the night. That's not love. At all.

[@sherriolson5033]

What can I say? Danish this is so true so accurate. Thank you.

[@lizstraub6621]

My ex-husband did ALL of those things, would never kiss me even during sex. Yet he expected sex every single night, even knowing when I was exhausted or sick. Sometimes I would call him at work and this is embarrassing to admit, ask him if he minded if I was asleep when he got home (he worked until 9PM but never got his behind home until almost midnight, and I had 3 school-aged children to take care of!) and he would say, "No problem, I'm gonna be late anyway, get some sleep" so I would. NEARLY EVERY TIME he would then come home and turn all the bedroom lights on and wake me up! Usually we would end up having cold sex and then he would immediately roll over and fall asleep while I would be awake for the rest of the night. If I had been given a "Pass" and he didn't wake me up, the first thing he would say to me in the morning would be something like "Ya know I really could have used some last night!" Here's the kicker: he was ALREADY getting it from numerous other women! He was just using sex to control me, as you say. These people are SICK and I personally believe they have a Jezebel demon on them (men and women can!) and that is a hard one to exorcise because it is Satan himself. God alone can save them. God saved me from the abuse and I divorced him a long time ago, but some wounds never heal. Thank you Danish, you do a great service and I pray for all who are abused by these demons.

[@brianb1767]

Wasn't it sad, the things that the Jezebel spirit does to their partners? I also suffered for a very long time. Over the last couple of years, she would breadcrumb me. She did it ever so gradually until a wake up call hits you and you start to dissect every aspect of your relationship. I finally said to her, I've emotionally checked out. Blocked 🚫 her, still getting calls, emails, and I still stay committed to myself. I'm glad you removed yourself from that situation. I hope other women/men read these comments and find the strength to leave their misery!!! Best wishes 2025

[@jessicamartin2786]

I'm so sorry you were subjected to such EVIL sadistic behaviour from the Sickest and most wicked of vermon. I can relate ❤e

[@cletiawilliams1436]

Why they would tell me about their insecurities......but you come to find out they slept with the whole town

[@workinprogress3085]

This definitely explains the covert narc I was with. Yes in the beginning I thought he was dynamite but soon after he became a real robotic "lover". His eye contact was as if he was looking right through me, his kisses were like bird pecks, if I wanted to do something specific he denied it, the last two years was only in missionary position, foreplay non-existent, when he would hug me during sex it was hollow. I felt so cold and alone in his arms 😢. If I told him I was feeling discomfort he would still continue doing what he was doing. It was like he was always trying to hurt me on purpose. When he was finished he would either jump up quickly and go shower with his phone in hand or roll over and have his back to me. So BORING & DRAINING. God 🙏🏽 I'm glad that's over.

[@aliciawilliams8884]

I thought I was the only person going through this 😢

[@jessicamartin2786]

It's simply RAPE. I've been through the same with a few ex partners. They are EVIL.😢😢

[@workinprogress3085]

@@jessicamartin2786 yes a few of them have been this way, but (in my experience) none were as terrible and demonic as the last one and the one right before him I thought I would never met anyone worse than he was, boy was I wrong 😢.

[@ChiamakaEnendu]

This is so true. Listening to you makes me feel so grateful I left him. I didn't have to raise my kids in such a toxic environment. 🤧🤧

[@grannyanniesfarm4972]

Yes! Every single bit of it! Plus being held down and forced. He would say that the Bible says the wife has to submit to the husband and please him, always, no matter how painful, even. I watched this video .nodding my head over and over. I wish I could have seen it 40+ years ago. Life would have made so much more sense and I would have left sooner. Plus I wouldn't have felt so bad about myself. What a memory lane trip this video took me through! It must be hard to relive your abuse to share these videos but I am so glad that you are. You are helping the world more than you will ever know.

[@sherriolson5033]

I know exactly how you feel. Exactly.

[@michelleaththas659]

Me too, went through the same thing

[@thewordoflife1463]

I’ve experienced all of these signs and it is hurtful!😢

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

It hurts to imagine life without my boyfriend. I never thought it would come to this point where I might have to let go. I know this may not be the right place to share this, but I feel like I’m gradually losing myself, and I don’t know what to do. I’m holding tightly to the beautiful moments we shared, and I sincerely hope he finds happiness.

[@JaclynHarry]

I completely understand how you feel. I went through something similar when my long term relationship ended. It felt like my heart was shattered, and no matter how much time passed, I couldn’t let go of the memories. I tried everything to get him back talking to friends for advice, even writing letters I never sent. Eventually, I found help through Father Tosin , who came through for me and helped me get my man back.

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

Wow, this really gives me hope. How can I get in touch with Father Tosin Ayodele?

[@JaclynHarry]

It’s super easy! His handle is, Father Tosin. Just reach out and explain your situation to him. He’s a great listener and offers helpful advice too.

[@TeresaGutierrez-e8k]

Thank you so much! 🙏 You’re right sharing really does bring solutions. I’m so grateful.

[@christinemccoy4471]

They use your body to make themself feel good.

[@TMoniq]

I felt dirty afterwards!! I think back on the times when right before becoming sexual, I would develop a gas bubble 😂😂 My body would literally activate bloating and now I understand why. My body was rejecting him in so many ways but it would always be bloating out of nowhere.

[@aliciawilliams8884]

Yessss every time he came around me I became irritated in some type of way and wasn’t interested in sex at all but some way some how sex was always involved then sex began to feel like a chore

[@fallon7616]

You hit the nail on the head . Trauma bonded.

[@lebohanghiine2091]

I experienced all of that and more. I am a survivor and thank God he didn't take me out. Learning to love myself again, for real this time. Thank you for your videos, they've helped me get out of a very dark hole 🙂

[@monicawylie3985]

He wasn’t attracted to me anymore more than the other way around. He made me sound as if I was obsessed with sex. No. I wanted to have sex with him, my then-husband. He chose porn instead. Made me feel less than.

[@carlamitchell466]

Yes my ex husband did all of this

[@kristencobb230]

Same friend…. So thankful that’s 9 years behind me. 🙏🏻

[@marypatterson8053]

Your videos help us define, demolish, dismantle, and discard our past structures that were built on lies. As I listen, and imagine the trash going to the dump for good, I can FEEL hope returning to its rightful place in my heart💝, and that this hope was what was in me b4 the narcs. very amazing and encouraging. so...thank you for your sweetness, strength and understanding.

[@truthseeker-mk4rt]

I'm going to add to this. A covert narc will be cold and disinterested and transactional. A grandiose narc can be very warm and attentive and enjoys cuddling, and... can even pride himself on being an exceptional "lover", but at the end... it is still transactional. And Neither want to bond with you.

[@kryssysmith1486]

That's why I cheated on that one narcissistic partner. Not only was the person almost nonverbal, but sex actually felt like an interaction in the end. I knew there was a reason why I had cheated on the partner but at the time I couldn't see it. Thank you for making this video and helping me understand why

[@Misia-p5z]

I feel pain, I want to cry

[@labazoops]

😮Yes it is defineatly about control ! He compares me to his Exs performances!

[@terriarnold4364]

Haven't missed "Nothing from my former x-narc of 7-9 months. Alot of "Nothingness!"

[@helenakurcewiczowna6695]

My ex narc husband started avoiding intimacy and withdrew all of that as soon as I got pregnant YET when my dear mom died the next day and shortly after he was insisting madly on having sex while I was hit with grief and despair. On top of that our son was just 9 moths I had sleepless nights nursing my baby and I had health pelvis and spine pain still from postpartum.

[@SkarXOX]

I left my body when he was using it.

[@bankingaspirant2515]

Whenever i have sex with my narrccissist husband i feel more lonely and disgusting i feel used 😢

[@Jesuslovesme32-m6l]

Danish you are absolutely amazing, every time i turn around youre saying exactly what I'm either thinking bur unable to put into words. Thank you SO much. Youve been blessing me with the truth for so long. Gid bless you.

[@figure9607Amy]

Big FACTS. Thank you Danish. Now people do not have to feel so alone and so lost

[@cristinintravartolo1415]

I totally 100% understand what you talk about on your videos. Thank you for trying to help. Another gift that your relationship with your Father has given you is understanding. Keep doing what you do thank you again.

[@fredom808]

Experiencing all of them now. Thank You for the heads up.

[@katysmith-n2y]

cmon ladies and gents please raise the bar

[@yolipurpleflower9784]

I went on a date with a guy whose lips felt as though I was kissing a frozen wall. I saw trouble coming a mike away and cut off any further outings with him.

[@RobertaStothart]

MY husband of 30 yrs NEVER kissed me. At church, minister said, “ Now you may kiss your bride” ! Instead he jammed his chin into my lips and I moaned while stamping my foot to stop”. I later wondered what the guests thought, much less the minister ! Your report was as exact as my Sad marriage. I had no idea until our wedding and miserable honeymoon. He moved me to Europe and left me alone and nearly abandoned. I was Able to make the most of it - enjoying travel - but knowing in time to leave . My California neighbors set me up with attorney. He was lost, women left him. Soon after, he died. I’ve survived with amazing jobs and now retired. Our 4 children all gained greatly from Euro childhood. One is now a Dr of Psychology ! All appreciated that we “ left” him.

[@RobertaStothart]

As cruel as he was, he had many high living standards and held prime jobs. He raged a lot at home if asked to do a chore or run an errand- etc. His childhood, between a Narc mother and a job demanding rich father, I think he was doomed. He was well educated, interesting, athletic and handsome. So many sides were lovable. But no doubt, not loving marriage material.

[@Isabela2024-yr]

No one like to stay with the narcissists because of their ability to connect mentally and physically. They end up alone sad and lonely. That's the karma that haunted them. Unfortunately, they don't know how to change that attitude. They're looking for someone new forever and they can't find it. They suffer aches and pain deep inside. As they get older, they look more and more miserable. Stay as far as you can if you have one at home.

[@crystalmorse7412]

All Big Facts Thank u Danish Namaste 💘

[@maryzourides821]

That's how he traps all his supplies.

[@Misia-p5z]

for instance, I know he has or had some addictions or childhood trauma, I just always keep in mind, when I'm angry not to insult him calling him in that or another way. He never keeps in mind that something can hurt me. It's just indifferent for him if I would die after hearing some words or looking what he's doing

[@stupidusedrnames]

Had to...all the time no matter if I had sick babies, if I was tired....he had a damn QUOTA or something. 2 weeks after giving breach birth to first child I had to bc he was being such a prick to me. Mad I had a girl, mad I gave baby attention....bastard

[@Misia-p5z]

I know he would never value me as her and he still remebers jokes of his friends on me and perceives me in such a way

[@Misia-p5z]

the things he done couldn't be changed during the therapy. He just perceives me in that way. Even if he apologies me for harsh words, I just know for him I'm naive and dummy. I want to cry

[@MarionFlowerPower]

Thank you for your videos!

[@shamanmermaidblackdragon]

❤Wow yes I agree Thank you for this content And you’re spot on You should be a tarot oracle reader and psychic reader 😮😅😊🎉😂❤And never could I put it in words like you have But then again Your job literally is listening to all of us suffering patients 😮and hearing us repeatedly tell you what we went through- with these dark lost unintergal insecure loved ones That hate us bcs they hate themselves And yes they are so demonic and robotic and so empty and unfulfilling And therefore makes sense what your explaining to us all 😮😅😢😊🎉😂❤✨👍✨ Much love namaste wawa nui😊❤🌟✨🌟👁️✨👍

[@sarahpadilla1504]

Thank You Jesus for saving my life from evil. Help me to forgive him & pray for his salvation in Jesus’ name 🙏

[@LadreaJones-p5q]

Someone that is like this really sick minded and i can see why they go through multiple partners and dating sites they look for love in all the wrong places meaning they might even carry diseases in curables thats someone im glad to recongnize quickly thank u❤

[@karenluke3923]

100% on point.

[@miley143]

You are correct Sir Danish.Thanks God am a survivor of NPD husband❤❤❤

[@lizapedersen8435]

yep 😢 I can count it on one hand the closeness after s ex through 19,5 years - very sad - I’m lucky it is over 🤗

[@KathySemrau]

I will never trust him again. That Snake is unfeeling, and picks up partners like apples in a grocery store. He has been places, l don't care to talk about. He steals from me on a regular basis. l don't want anything to do with him, and all his other wives. No karmicing around with his group of Narcissists and Stalkers. They have stalked me most of my adult life. I wish he would figure out that l am not interested in him in any way.

[@pameladavis9939]

Thank you for talking about this!!😮‍💨

[@Misia-p5z]

I have a problem. I don't love my partner anymore. He told me too many painful words, assuming my lack of claverness/intelligence and naming me as naive. At the same time he sent multiple love letters to his perfect wife with me in cc. I feel very sad today, I can't be with someone naming me in that way or perceiving as someone not very smart.

[@tashie20]

I remember a few times I silently cried after sex. I wonder why?

[@kundalini123]

I was a store front 😢 making babies for his pleasure omg how sick

[@sleepydoppy8516]

Thank you for this. I just couldn’t have sex any more with ex. It felt so empty and lonely

[@richardbowman7057]

Women and men both either one can be a narc hve hold on me for 6 yrs realizing in last 2 yet is not easy breaking free

[@ReRe_642]

Absolutely made me think he was a Christian.

[@nehasable8347]

Its so true thank you Danish

[@bobbiemcanelly4395]

Mine wasn't any good in bed. I told him he couldn't please anyone but himself .He kept me up all night playing in my hair . Laid all over me even pushed me out of bed . Mine put bedbugs in our bed. I stopped sleeping with him 2 years before we split. Mine was a minute man. Then he blames me . Strangers cloths is what he compared mine to .oh he made me feel more than ugly I felt gross ,he even let his son try to have sex with me , nightmare is all it was .one that I don't know if I could ever have another man or ever have sex again.hes been gone 6 months and I'm still isolating myself . Each day seems better.

[@manjeeram-ju6ny]

Yes. U r 200 percent correct.❤👍🌹

[@masters6651]

All

[@Im_unknown-4u]

Yes my ex wife did all things with me by saying please give me some space , always

[@Misia-p5z]

I can't be with someone who would treat me as less pretty sister but nicer and easier to manipulate.

[@drsheelaprince3103]

Exactly the same I suffered in my life.

[@shayadayan3343]

He would LITERALLY jump off of me, run to the bathroom and wash himself

[@Misia-p5z]

I feel really sad because he wrote me few minutes ago a letter how much he loved her and she cheated her. He said he did everything for her and she chose someone else. He thinks that I'm naive and he can say everything to me without hurting me. I understood he will never love me so much, I feel it's just the end

[@IndraniSasmal-q9j]

In this case mine one was always satisfied with me but slowly tried to become distant but he yelled at me and shamed my body after he got the second supply

[@vaijayantideshpande5189]

Very true in my case

[@smarternow]

I felt used until he refused sex and flaunted his girlfriend!

[@Rania-x9e]

U r safe now lol 😅

[@AlisaNiles-h2q]

🎯🎯🎯everything you're saying here

[@learnfrench3449]

Hey.. very true, am a victim n dat is 100%

[@learnfrench3449]

By thi way my guy used to come home and he just stood in front of the TV while we were watching. Uphhh...

[@timirhonon]

I am scared that am I a narcissist??

[@daphnewhitaker7519]

So true 😢

[@theladyamalthea]

I always felt like an object, and always wondered why it felt like r@pe. I thought the problem was with me, because everyone else talked about sex like it was so great, and that was NOT my experience.

[@sheilabradshaw7540]

🎯

[@MonochromaticBlues]

I dreamt I was having sex with a demon when I was with my ex ..so true

[@saikumarreddy3308]

i know this isn’t related to the video, but i’ve been seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki mentioned in so many comment sections lately. i thought it was just hype until i finally gave it a shot. honestly, the book blew me away. it’s all about understanding your energy and how to naturally draw people and opportunities toward you. it’s not some overnight fix, but you start to notice little shifts in how people respond to you, and it just builds from there.

[@DavidCorbier-w8k]

Yes

[@richardbowman7057]

Can and does bring one doen wmotionally afterward

[@P4melaMasters]

Not a demon, more like a robot

[@Kittu_smiley_edits_143]

this might be a bit unrelated, but i kept seeing Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki popping up in comments everywhere, so i decided to check it out. the book’s all about working on your energy and presence, and it’s way more practical than i expected. after applying what it teaches, i’ve noticed people are more drawn to me, and i feel more confident without trying too hard. it’s been such a low-key but powerful shift

[@montena369]

Yup disgusting

[@lmiller1413]

Is anyone out there healthy?

[@yvonnepettersson2481]

❤❤❤

[@kamalammat.b8953]

സതൃമാണ് മുഖത്തുനോക്കി സംസാരിക്കില്ല

[@raidenewalden4354]

Everyt

[@Amanda-z6o2r]

A demon 😂

[@okiemutepela9507]

I think it is a demon

[@lonewolfmgtow7187]

A lot of this is true I just recently had a horrible experience with a sexual demon and the crazy thing is this demon put all our business out there and I was given the opportunity to confront this demon and when I did how that demon tremble in fear, specially, when the demon knew that I didn’t even fear them so yeah, with a narcissist, there is no connection. It’s a lot of truth with this guy saying.

[@Lonely-lion-t6t]

My narc wife cheated on me having sex with her relatives and later engaged in brothel 😢