6 Signs Your Partner is Emotionally Disconnected

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Have you had the experience of being stonewalled before? What did you do about it?

[@somekindawayy1292]

I have a very twisted , confusing and painful situation I need advice on

[@ElizabethRitchie]

@@somekindawayy1292 I am sorry to hear you are going through this. I would suggest you have a couple of options, you could speak with a trusted friend about your situation, connect with a counsellor or therapist in your local community, or you can schedule a free 30 minute consult call with me. If you are interested in the consult please send an email to my assistant Taylor at [e-mail] Take care

[@trizzahkiai8104]

No, six years into the marriage and I feel like I don't know the Man am married to anymore.Am confused

[@loliplastic27]

Yes for years And I ended up divorcing . Not nice feeling to be lonely

[@SONshineAcreshomestead]

I'm a Christian, but my husband always stonewalls me, daily, all because I reject Calvinism, and yes, he said that to my face, Calvinism is a horrendous doctrine, I don't know what to do, no matter what I say, he doesn't seem to care. I am very lonely, sad, and cry myself to sleep often.

[@Cookios]

My partner isn’t emotionally available to me ever. I feel lost. This video just solidifies my hurt even more. ☹️

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. I am sorry to hear that your partner is emotionally distant. Have you tried to discuss this with him? Sometimes when people are overwhelmed / stressed they shut down. If you have tried talking to your partner and they don't seem to care about your needs then this may not be the relationship for you? In my view being alone and content is preferable to being in an unhappy relationship where you are left to feel lonely, but I also know that sometimes things are not black and white and it can be tough to change. Take care.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Mars, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@funkysawmanwright5077]

Sorry to hear that😢. I'm the aggressor in my relationship. I was not emotionally avaliable for my wife for 15 years now, and it just got real for me. Now I'm seeking help to save what's left if anything. So sorry that I hurt my significant other without being aware of it.

[@melkerner]

Refusing to look you in the eye, won't put their phone down and spend real quality time with you, even when having discussions. Only discusses the transactional things that keep the house and kids running on time, etc.. Won't kiss, embrace or respond to initiate physical intimacy. Won't go on dates alone ("we see each other all the time"). Not in the picture, not engaged at all.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for sharing - you have given a good description of what a disengaged partner looks like. Are you describing your current situation or was this something you experienced before?

[@melkerner]

@@ElizabethRitchie Current. I am going to counseling, but the elephant in the room is not to be talked about. Something comes up, a headache, an emergency - anything to keep from addressing it and having a real conversation that would require face to face uninterrupted discussion. No kissing or intimacy for almost 7 years. I am losing hope that this is recoverable.

[@melkerner]

Will be 8 years in June and she refuses to budge. I get the feeling she is clocking time, or trying to wait me out so I can file and she can be a victim - aka "I tried, but he left me.."

[@georgiagarbutt3874]

My husband has disconnected like over 7 years ago he doesn't seems to want do anything to help. I cannot even talk to him about it. 😢 I feel somewhat unworthy and unhappy we are living for 31 years. It's crazy

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for sharing what you are going through. Do you know why your husband choose to disconnect 7 years ago? Did something happen around that time? Especially if the previous years things were ok. Is there a reason why you cannot talk to him about it? When you have tried to bring things up how has he responded? As I have mentioned to a few people in the comments section here I am doing research interviews with people who are wanting to improve their relationships and you may benefit from one of these interviews. The research I am doing is for a future on-line program I hope to run. The interview is free and is done over Zoom and I have been told by others who have done the interview that it is a bit like a free counselling session and helps one to gain more clarity around your relationship situation. I have attached the link to my calendar below if you would like to book a spot and we can discuss your situation further. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

Whenever I confronted Dad, he said it was my fault. What a irresponsible narcissist he is! I gave up!

[@missyk1477]

I've been dealing with my husband of 23 years being emotional disconnected. I've asked for him to go to a marriage counselor. He declined. I've tried talking to him about it. I think that made it worse. His top two responses are: I'm sorry you have a problem with it. Or, he'll fall asleep while I'm talking to him. Loneliness doesn't even begin to describe how I feel.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I am sorry that you are experiencing this. Why do you think speaking to your husband about how you are feeling made things worse? Keep in mind you can't change another person, they will only change if they want to change, but you do have free will which means you can decide what to accept in your life and what you will not accept. On a different note- I am currently doing research interviews with people who are feeling disconnected in their marriages / long-term relationships and are wanting to improve things and thought you may benefit from this interview. The interview is free, done over Zoom and individuals who I have interviewed so far have said that it is a bit like a free therapy session and can bring more clarity. Here is the link to my calendar if you would like to book a chat. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@missyk1477]

@@ElizabethRitchie ...that is when the gaslighting starts.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I see - maybe think about doing the research interview if you think discussing your situation with me would be helpful to you.@@missyk1477

[@Kick11111]

Especially if he doesn't care about you and thinks what you say doesn't matter

[@ElizabethRitchie]

If you are in this type of relationship that can be hard but I would ask you if are you 100% sure you know what your partner is thinking? Sometimes people do care they just are not great at showing it. Thanks for sharing your experience. If you are unhappy with your relationship you might want to consider speaking with me for my research. I am gathering information for a future on-line program on healing relationships so am interviewing individuals over Zoom. Feedback from people who have done the research interview have described it as a free therapy session and can maybe help you get clear on things happening in your relationship. If you are interested in chatting with me here is the link to my calendar so you can book your spot. It would be great to chat. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@Stellaxxm]

Very good video thank you so much! My ex was a DA. It was very difficult to get him to open up about anything and I remember after the “honeymoon phase” always feeling lonely in the relationship

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your feedback and I hope you are no longer feeling lonely in your relationship. Take care.

[@wendydaniel1110]

It's not a safe feeling. You're " on edge" because they are...They could be seriously looking for or have someone else at that time so they don't want to feel guilt..

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. You are right, it doesn't feel safe to be in an emotionally disconnected relationship where the emotional safety has eroded. However, if both parties are committed to the relationship emotional safety can be rebuilt. I am doing research on this currently, speaking with women who are experiencing relationship challenges. If you would like to participate in a free research interview with me you can book a spot through the below link. Women who have done the interview say it is helpful, a bit like free therapy and can bring some clarity. You can book your spot here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@annawolvers8895]

Yes to all that you said. I try and try to express needs for connection and validation. They aren't met and always lead to late night fights, high stress, no sleep, and health issues. Time to cut the loss and go our own ways. No talks of future anymore either. It doesn't help that I'm currently not in a stable work situation either, but I've been desperately pursuing work since September. No support in that, just more fights.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Sounds like things are rough for you right now - hope you are taking good care of yourself. I dont know enough about your situation to comment but I will say that a large percentages of relationships can be saved if at least one of the couple has the tools needed to get the relationship back on track, while there is a smaller percentage of couples where things will not work out and parting ways makes the most sense. I do know of couples who have thrown in the towel too soon however and have regretted it. I also know couples who have stayed together way longer than they should and have regretted it. Couples are all unique and can be at different relationship stages. I'm currently doing research with individuals looking to save their marriages or long term relationships and information gathered will be used for a future on-line program on healing your relationship. People who have participated in the interview have said it is a bit like a free therapy session and can bring clarity. If you are interested in this free one hour interview to discuss your situation you can book your spot through my calendar link calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline take care.

[@ZahSoZen]

I feel like i've expressed myself to a point that i'm in a place where i feel emotionally numb to the relationship. And we live together🤒🤕 i want to fix things but i am emotionally exhusted and need a brake from it all.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I am sorry to hear you are going through this and are feeling emotionally numb. I hope you are taking care of yourself and getting the rest you need. You can move from feeling numb to feeling connected in your relationship so don't lose hope. Consistent communication with your partner is a good place to start but you don't want to be communicating when feeling exhausted as usually communication doesn't go well when we are in that state. We need to feel solid and rested before we have important communications. I am doing research on this currently, speaking with women who are experiencing relationship challenges. If you would like to participate in a free research interview with me you can book a spot through the below link. Women who have done the interview say it is helpful, a bit like free therapy and can bring some clarity. Feel free to book your free spot through the below link - calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@mydaydreamers8874]

I’m the one feeling emotionally disconnected and is extremely hard to explain the feeling and the difficulty it causes on our relationship

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thank you for sharing this. The fact you have this knowledge about yourself is positive. Have you considered exploring why you feel disconnected / where it may stem from? Being a detective and investigating your own life with the assistance of a counsellor, therapist or psychologist can unearth additional insights that can then help you strengthen connections.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Cynthia, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@mamadoom9724]

I think my partner is emotionally disconnected but I think I might be too. I’m not even sure who did it first but it seems we both are now and it’s pretty sad. It seems like the only time we even talk is when we’re deciding what to have for dinner or arguing about problems with the kids. I’m having a feeling of deep loneliness like I used to get when I was single. I’m going to try to talk to him about it tomorrow 😩

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. It sounds like you and your partner have a negative cycle going on but know that it can be changed for the better and it just starts with one person. Did you have that chat with him? As I mentioned in a reply to one of the previous comments, I am currently doing research interviews with people who are experiencing challenges in their marriage or relationship and who want things to improve. The information I am gathering through these interviews will be used for a future on-line program on healing your relationship. If you would like to have a chat with me for free over Zoom as part of this research you may find it useful to you. People whom I have interviewed have said its a bit like a free counselling session and helps to bring some clarity to the situation. I have put the link to my calendar below if you would like to book a spot. Take care. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@universaltruth2025]

Yes I’m the same. I used to be a talker. But not anymore. I’m as silent as he is.

[@vickieallen4603]

Absolutely I agree with you on these red flags. You are telling the exact truth and I myself am feeling these . However, I myself have a degree in phycology so I already knew. Anyone that listens to this she is telling you the truth. I also highly recommend that you get help as well. May God be with you. My thoughts, and prayers are with you..

[@SandraSanchez-zj1zo]

My boyfriend from 10 years I caught him talking to another girl on the phone and he said oh how I can't wait to see you and he told her also that he likes her energy and her spirit and everything else about her thank God well anyway I was there but he didn't know it and I heard it all and it's just messed up I don't know how to feel right now

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Sandra, I can imagine you are feeling hurt by your partner right now and that’s a tough position to be in. That being said most of us have experienced this type of heartbreak and we learn many things from it. What I would like you to keep at the forefront of your mind is that you are 100% and you do not need to change or be different for your boyfriend. What might be helpful to you is clarifying what type of relationship you want ( like honesty, monogamy, no secrets for example), and then expressing your needs clearly to your partner. If your boyfriend wants the same as you then great, but if he doesn’t then this might not be the relationship that is meant for you because you deserve to have a relationship that meets your needs and there are many other people out there in the world who would be happy to do this. You deserve to be content and joyful. ❤️

[@TomikaKelly]

Leave.

[@melissawalker6877]

I just realized that I “stonewall” my partner. I just shut down. I hate confrontation.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

That is great you have insight about your stonewalling as it can make things in a relationship challenging. Have you thought about how you are going to address it? Confronting / having a discussion about your situation (so using your voice / asking for what you need / discussing a boundary) in a gentle, positive manner can be a game changer for a relationship. Good luck with things and thanks for sharing your experience.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Melissa, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@Freeman-eo2lx]

Some times its the wife disconnected passive behavior like shutting down preventing all ways to progress forward or make sure that it's not happening again

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Yes correct, all my examples could be reversed and it could just as easily be the wife disconnecting and not the husband. For example purposes I picked a gender but you can slot in whatever your experience calls for. Thanks for commenting.

[@christinachen1152]

Thks for your e couragement. I have lived well, w 4 wonderful children. I m sure many readers r helped by your advice.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thank you ❤️

[@vickieallen4603]

Thank you very sincerely for taking the time to help others on here..

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I am glad you found this helpful. Thanks! :)

[@sarinirangedera7476]

thankyou this was so helpful ❤

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I'm so glad!

[@jetco6434]

I got stonewalled when told she was leaving. When asked why. I got stonewalled. I attempted to have a conversation about it and was met with total silence. I found out later there was a third party she was leaving me for but didn't have the guts to tell me. Even lied going out the door about where she was going. Found out when the postal carrier came by the next day to confirm the address change and it was about 1500 miles away from where she said. I am over it now but felt extremely betrayed when it happened. Makes it hard to trust.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I am sorry you had to go through all that. From what you wrote it sounds like you are in a better place now and likely have more clarity around what you are looking for in a relationship. I think it is also helpful to remember that people behave the way they do because of stuff that is going on with them, and often they don't have the tools to speak to what they are experiencing, so its not about malice, it's about a lack of skill, and as weird as it sounds, doesn't have much to do with you really. So not taking her actions personally would be beneficial because when you think about it, would a happy, mature adult behave in the manner she did? No they wouldn't, so your ex has some growing to do and likely feels guilty about how she handled it and maybe there were things that you feel you could have done differently as well? Each person contributes 50% to the atmosphere in any relationship. Thanks for your sharing your experience and take care.

[@remya7604]

What if husband never accepts that theres a need for talking about these, and claims he doesnt see any problem, he doesnt know what to do, and self blames as a failure!!

[@ElizabethRitchie]

That is a tricky situation. Do you mean he blames himself for issues in the marriage or does he blame you? Is he really hearing your feedback to him, and is what you are saying being delivered in a gentle way as opposed to a critical way? If I were in your shoes I’d start with a gentle conversation (no blaming just stating what you feel) and see if he really can understand your perspective, then take it from there- you might want to check out this video of mine 👇 as you may find it helpful, and I have an online program starting soon that you might be interested in for women only also - here are the links. Program - www.elizabethritchie.com/?page_id=10914 Video- m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmjCpWSQqrRppJY

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

My dad blames me when he knows it is his fault! He is narcissistic, misogynistic and sadistic! I don't bother with him anymore, he's not worth the trouble!

[@christinachen1152]

wished these videos were available 30 years ago. By e time i realised all these, it was too late. We got divorced. 😔

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Well I understand where you are coming from and although it may be too late for your marriage (although many couples do reconcile after separation/ divorce), you now have new information which will help your current / future relationships. And there are people who go to their graves without learning new relationship skills or growing in terms of their personal development so you are already ahead. It’s not helpful to beat yourself up over what you did or did not do in the past and now that you know better, you will do better, so it’s a win!❤️

[@mizeria777]

I was in a long distance relationship with my ex and we ended a month and a half ago. When I brought him the time when I was feeling vulnerable, and I needed his support the most, but he wasn’t able to recognize or provide the care that I needed as hard as I tried to talk about the things that emotionally needed from him emotionally connect with him, it felt like I was talking to a wall because he just listened. While listening may be a good thing, now hearing about stonewalling made me question, is him being unresponsive when I talk to him about something that’s important to me that I don’t get any feedback about what he feels are not opening anything about me why he’s being distant and hasn’t connected with me in an intimate level is that considered stonewalling as well being in a long-distance relationship?

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. Based on what you shared it sounds as if you had a challenging time getting the 'temperature' of your relationship and that can often happen. One’s partner can appear to be stonewalling when they are actually overwhelmed and they do not know how to respond. They could also be fearful of saying or doing the wrong thing and making the situation worse. On the other hand, if the partner is stonewalling, they could appear to be listening but then take no action nor offer support - possibly because they aren't truly invested in the relationship. When it is a long distance relationship it is more challenging trying to ‘read’ things as you aren’t face to face. That being said, long distance relationships can work, if both parties want things to work. How did you come to the decision to end your relationship? Did you decide your partner was stonewalling?

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

My dad, instead. He's always been this way and refuses to change, and I have to turn myself inside out to pander to him; I won't. No contact with him. His girlfriend is a flying monkey/enabler who makes excuses for him. They are pathetic. I don't deal with her, either.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. It is very difficult when a family member exhibits behaviours such as these and is not open to feedback or change, and like you have done, sometimes the only thing we can do is put distance between them in order to keep our own peace. Good for you for keeping your boundaries strong.

[@johncampbell6584]

Do you offer online classes and or coaching still? Thank you

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your inquiry. I’m have been focussing on my on-line group for women (it ends next week and starts again in the fall) but also see clients / couples for online coaching as my schedule allows. If you would like more information you can reach me at [e-mail] - thx

[@user-eb4gt2ef1r]

he is like that all , and i tried to talk w him for 2 years and he always just ignored when I started trying to talk w him I had hopes and etc ...now days I dont have more hopes or even mood to talk w him and he said he doest have too ... If I try to talk w him again hes gonna say that im being attention seeker or stressed or bringing things for us to argue and then he just goes away

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for your comment. It sounds like you are in rough patch with your relationship right now with your partner not wanting to talk. It might be because he a) doesn't know what he is feeling or b) does know what he is feeling but doesn't have the skills to discuss it with you. This must be hard for you and I hope you are taking care of yourself and focussing on what you can control. Right now I am doing research interviews with people who are experiencing challenges in their relationships / marriages and who want things to improve. The information I am gathering will be used for a future on-line program on healing your relationship. If you would like to have a chat with me for free over Zoom as part of my research you may find it helpful. People whom I have interviewed have said its a bit like a free counselling session. If you are interested in booking an interview with me please click on the calendar link below - Take care. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@user-eb4gt2ef1r]

@@ElizabethRitchie its not that he doest have the skills he literally said he doest want to commit ,I tried propose just so many fixes I tried talk w ppl show him things tried have a mid ground and just never worked now days he puts more effort into his work than for the relation and when hes at home he just go do other things ,... if I say something he says im being attention seeker or that I want to argue more or that I never let him enjoy his time ...Im unstable mentally and when he gets angry and say bad things I just want to kill myself and vanish from existence

[@ElizabethRitchie]

@@user-eb4gt2ef1r If you are saying you feel mentally unstable that that would be a sign to seek professional help with a counsellor, therapist or psychologist. Talking to your doctor about what you are experiencing is a good first step, especially if you have thoughts of suicide. I would recommend you seek that help immediately and use this time to get healthy and leave the relationship issues until you are feeling more stable / able to deal with them. Wishing you much luck and remember you are 100% already and you matter! therefor you need to make it a priority to treat yourself well and get the help you need. Much love to you.

[@user-eb4gt2ef1r]

@@ElizabethRitchie I cant go or he would make fun of me that im crazy and need a psychologist and then the fact that I need use to say im unstable and thats what makes us argle ... thats why idk what to do I feel stuck ..I try my best for him and I just get hurt .. I try not to care and then he use it agaist me saying I do nothing for us so he dont know if he should too

[@user-eb4gt2ef1r]

@@ElizabethRitchie what should I do ? any .. any..any ideas ? because it hurts me and makes me really sad in a point I just want to lay do nothing and wait for deeth lol

[@upstatevanlifer6918]

Stonewalling ... had surgery and he knew the date but something better came up so when someone says is it ok if i .... they really telling you not asking. We have had several discussions and now arguements about how hurtful that was and he says he knew i had another ride to take me. Now he spends time on social media which i.told him wasnt good. I walked away he still.reaches out ... what the F ... just being used when convenient .... convenientship.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thanks for sharing your experience- for sure our partners can disappoint us at times and it doesn't feel good. One thing to keep in mind is that we cannot control our partner's behaviour, we can only control our own, so it may helpful to focus on that - what is in your control and what is outside your control. You can express your wishes, desires, expectations etc to your partner, and if after doing all this you continue to have issues then it may be a sign the relationship is not for you. It's a tough realization, I have definitely been there (having to leave a relationship) yet being connected fully to yourself and knowing what you want and what you don't want, make it easy to see whether something is for you or not. Food for thought.... take care.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Also I am currently doing research interviews with people who are feeling disconnected in their marriages / long-term relationships and are wanting to improve things and thought you may find this interview helpful. It is free, done over Zoom and individuals who I have interviewed so far have said that it is a bit like a free therapy session and can bring more clarity. Information gathered from these interviews will be used for a future online program on healing your relationship- going from disconnected and feeling hopeless in your marriage / relationship to connected and energized. Here is the link to my calendar if you would like to book the research interview. calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline

[@cindymclauchlan4487]

What causes a person to become emotionally disconnected and why do they start stonewalling because this is happening to me now he did cheat before and I’m wondering if this is the reason he is doing this I feel so lonely hurt he’s pushing me away he dismisses what I say everything you said is happening to me I left him before and I’m going to do it again won’t be with him ever again I’m wondering if it’s because he is cheating because he cant connect with me if he’s emotionally connected to someone else he’ll tell me he love’s me when I say I’m going to leave sick of being stonewalled its affecting me anxiety unhappy and now he doesn’t phone me at all when I’m working we live together have three grown up family just feel I need to leave him feel like I’m suffocating with the stonewalling all the time causes such an atmosphere and he says it’s me I’m tired off trying dont trust him anymore feel so lonely

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Cindy I am sorry to hear that you are having a tough time in your relationship. There are many reasons why someone may become emotionally disconnected and some of those reasons may have stemmed from childhood experiences. There are two main reasons why someone would stonewall 1) they are overwhelmed/ flooded with emotion so can't think what they want to say and need time to process or 2) it is because they are deliberately trying to build a wall / block you out, and this is a type of passive -aggressive behaviour which stems from anger / fear / low self esteem/ and the need to control the other person. You say your partner is 'pushing you away' and that is exactly what stonewalling #2 is. I believe the most important thing here is- how do you feel in your relationship? If you are left feeling unhappy and hurt and you have spoken to your partner about how you feel and your partner does not seem bothered by this than you likely would be happier on your own. Tell me where I am wrong here. I think it is important to focus on what you can do, what power you have over your own life and what would make you happy, as no person can make us happy - we have to make ourselves happy and if this relationship has to end for you to cultivate your own happiness then you know what you need to do. Sending you much love. xo

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Cindy, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@rosemaryclarke6250]

You poor thing. It's so awful.

[@saroangirma1714]

New sub here keep it up

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Thank you!

[@SandraSanchez-zj1zo]

I overheard my man of 10 years talking to another woman on her phone and he complimented her and saying oh I like your spirit I like your energy I like everything about you thank God that you have everything and then he said oh I can't wait to see you and when I when I confronted him about this he said oh what she's been a friend for like years years go by and I came down a little bit like you know my feelings and stuff in my angerness and I called her and I said hey I said I'm I overheard of and she was like oh no no no I said why would you let my man talk to you that way and you were laughing you know and stuff I said you know what I said there's something going on I said and what is it you know what's what's going on that's very disrespectful and you're married too and I said I wouldn't let him talk to you like that if you are married I've been knowing him for years he's my Dad's friend and then she invited him to her birthday party and he didn't go I didn't even know nothing about it and I said oh yeah and the birthday party I said yeah she goes oh I gave him an invitation for both of you guys I said well he never told me about it

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Sandra, thanks for your comment. Have you had any further discussions with your partner about what happened? Is he clear what your expectations are for your marriage? Im thinking about things like -no secrets, having full transparency about friends etc. so you can fully trust each other - that sort of thing. In the situation you shared I think it would be beneficial to have several conversations about trust / what your expectations are / honesty etc. to ensure that each of you understand each other so that this type of situation doesn't occur again. Hope things are going ok for you. Take care.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Sandra, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@rosemaryclarke6250]

I blame the women. When they see a man in difficulty with his marriage/relationship, they are thrilled and can't wait to lead him on and turn him away from his wife/partner

[@user-on1pc2nj3y]

That's mine

[@ElizabethRitchie]

I hope you are able to open up the lines of communication and reconnect. Take care.

[@dachater1]

Hi Elizabeth. What if the emotional connection is on and off due to the partner struggling with emotional numbing sometimes? Is this going to be detrimental to the relationship long term?

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Deborah, thanks for this great question. I guess it depends what you mean by 'on and off' - I am guessing that sometimes you sense your partner is emotionally close to you and other times you feel they are keeping their distance- is that it? In my experience this distancing by one partner can be detrimental to the relationship if it is happening frequently and the partner is unwilling to talk about it, or work on the issue. If however they are open to discussing the disconnect and are willing to take steps to heal this, then I'd be more optimistic about the chances of the relationship going the distance. Thx again for your excellent question.

[@dachater1]

@@ElizabethRitchie thanks Elizabeth. yes, that's what I meant. Thankfully he is committed and wanted to get to the bottom of his issue with emotional numbing. For the last few months, he seems to be completely normal. He is still not sure what was causing him to be in that state previously.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

@@dachater1 glad to hear things are going well - sometimes we just go through phases... take care.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Deborah, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@kelvindumaka2907]

natural

[@trizzahkiai8104]

Currently am in the situation and am confused, especially because my husband is in a different county.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

How is your situation now? Have you been communicating with your partner on a consistent basis? Sometimes more communication can bring clarity so you don't feel as confused. Thanks for your comment.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Trizzah, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@TP-vu3tc]

How does this relate when your single?

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hello, thanks for your question. Are you referring to a person who is feeling disconnected and is not in a relationship? And if so, are you wondering about how such a person would get connected / heal?

[@dhmill761]

Sadly talking to a narcissist is useless.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

If someone truly is narcissistic then yes, talking may not get you anywhere and the best move in order to protect oneself, may be to end the relationship. That being said, I hear the term narcissistic used a lot when maybe that isn't quite an accurate diagnosis and in that situation enhanced communication and other relationship building tools may be helpful. Thanks for your comment.

[@SteveWallace-bx3gr]

Do you advise women only?

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Steve, thanks for your message. I mostly work with women but have worked with men & couples before as well. If you would like more information / want to book a free strategy session to see if my 1:1 coaching program is a fit please send us an email at [e-mail] Thanks for your interest.

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hi Steve, I am currently doing some research interviews with individuals wanting to heal their marriage / long term relationships for a future on-line group program and am inviting persons who commented on this video to participate if they fit the criteria. The research interview is free / over Zoom and people who have gone through said it helped bring clarity to their marriage / relationships situation. If you are interested in an interview slot let me know or you can book directly in my calendar here calendly.com/elizabethritchie/interviewrevitalizedrelationshiponline. Thx E

[@kerrysullivan7718]

How about the man’s perspective how about when the woman with whole sex no reason we’re not going to the footy with our mates and leaving her at home you feel me why not your respect the man

[@ElizabethRitchie]

Hello you bring up a good point. Any examples I use in my videos can be flipped the other way just as you describe, I tend to use women experiencing challenges with their male partners as that is the demographic I mostly work with, but for sure it could be the man being left at home with the kids while the women is going out with her friends. Male clients I have worked with voice these types of complaints.The important thing to focus on isn't so much the gender it is the behaviour and what to do about it. Thanks for your comment.