Can you guys help do us a favour? If this video is helpful, can you share it? We feel a topic like this needs more awareness than our other vids. Yep ironically these topics don’t get as much interest on KZbin.
@fluffyfluffy793810 ай бұрын
I would like to say that there's a term value boarder polar and its a overlap and mix of bdp n bipolar idk if that's something u guys would like to look into
@amethyst553810 ай бұрын
Could you make a video for adult parents who are trying to navigate a relationship with children with BPD?
@supersillyme10 ай бұрын
of course, it’s unfortunate these topics dont get the attention they should. would you also maybe consider covering another topic similar to this, expect how to deal and not tick off a (mild) BPD parent, more specifically mother? thank you again for this video!
@supersillyme10 ай бұрын
@@amethyst5538 oh wow, i’m im a similar boat but with switched roles! if you’re a parent, i’m very, very confident you’re doing incredible with your children.
@aronchow10 ай бұрын
I will definitely share and save this video for reference. I have someone in my life who has BPD so I have educated myself as much as I can in the last few months (literature, working with a psychologist, etc.) and I can say that this video is very well put together and absolutely agree that this topic needs more awareness.
@HashiKyo10 ай бұрын
My boyfriend has BPD. We're high school sweethearts. We dated in high school and early college and that's where i experienced his BPD. We broke up after 5 1/2 years. We were apart for several years after that. We tried a couple more times between 2012 and 2016 but nothing ever stuck. We started really talking again in 2019. Found out he got diagnosed with BPD while we were apart. He went to lots of therapy and took meds. Well now i can say we've been dating for over 2 years now and he is better than ever! He has learned to manage it with just what he learned through therapy and no meds. I'm very proud of him and with how far he's come in 10 years. We really do love each other and I'm very supportive of him and his mental health and he is the same on to me. We are each other's support system and the best cheerleader to each other. ❤ Edit: Just wanted to let everyone know that we're engaged now and we couldn't be more confident in each other and happy! I truly hope that other people who have BPD can have the same story as us. There is hope! 🥰
@peacheyearth10 ай бұрын
Aww well done guys 🥰 good job, happy to hear it
@t5uu_10 ай бұрын
does he still have mood swings, and the worst parts of bpd? or it stills, but not so much intense? (as someone diagnosed with bpd i really suffer a lot with that things, and i would like to know how the simptoms got better!!) if u dont feel confortable to share it, i respect its totally fine :D hope the best for both of u 🥰
@HashiKyo10 ай бұрын
@@t5uu_ So he also has depression and anxiety but I guess that all goes hand in hand. If work is really stressing him out then he'll noticed himself slipping a bit but fortunately he doesn't take it out on me anymore like years ago. Mood swings are very mild in these cases and he notices when he needs to take a step back and evaluate the situation and recognize how he's feeling. I didn't go through therapy and all the meds with him so I don't exactly know all that he learned. I do still worry when he does feel like this but I know that as long as I'm patient, understanding, and continue to educate myself on BPD that he'll be okay at the end of the day. He takes a lot of steps to protect his mental health. I wish I could be more help to you though. 🥺
@HM-cp7gy5 ай бұрын
thank you for sharing your story, it gives me hope! my boyfriend of two years was diagnosed with BPD before i met him but received therapy. he does still fear abandonment but it just manifests as seeming a little clingy. otherwise i don't notice any other symptoms in him, and he says he has his emotions under control from the techniques he learned in therapy
@m.htruth88805 ай бұрын
I'm glad he's off the neuro-toxin psychotropics
@bassinblue5 ай бұрын
My ex gf was EXACTLY like this. I left her 6 months ago and still trying to learn, grow and understand about these things. I would say the only thing that stopped her from fully exercising her nature towards me, was my confidence and security in myself. Her tricks never worked and creepy enough, it made her lose interest. If you're with someone like this, encourage them to get help and honestly...leave them be. You're not an expert nor should you be their therapist. It'll exhaust you beyond belief. Best of luck!
@KASHOLE.10 ай бұрын
Wow great timing!
@LlJjJackson10 ай бұрын
Hey guys I really don't care anymore I done close the door and I promise I'll not and I say that again I not let him back in he did me in good luck to you guys
@ShenalVimukthi-m3c10 ай бұрын
thank you for sharing this about bpd
@anthonywhite350710 ай бұрын
If you have bpd, stay strong! Remember you are not alone and there’s resources out there to help. You matter, and you are loved!❤️❤️
@chronistderkonigin111610 ай бұрын
That are some nice words… But nothing more… Still… I’m thankful for them… 🥲
@anthonywhite350710 ай бұрын
@@chronistderkonigin1116 of course they’re more than just words, they’re truthful. It’s a long journey to being better, but one that’s worth it. Stay strong and positive my friend
@stars_for_night_lights10 ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
@anthonywhite350710 ай бұрын
@@stars_for_night_lights you’re very welcome ☺️
@chronistderkonigin111610 ай бұрын
@@anthonywhite3507 Thx. 😉 I‘ll try…
@D_0_S10 ай бұрын
As someone who dated someone who told me they have BPD, this is all true, and something that I personally had dealt with in regards to our break up.
@simonwilliams310510 ай бұрын
Yep
@feensekte10 ай бұрын
Yeah now imagine what they have to go through everyday
@D_0_S10 ай бұрын
@@feensekte I don't have to imagine because I have heard it from those who I know that are still around her. She's got a lot of people she's cut off, but it's habitually seasonal and something that breaks everyone she does it to. And I didn't want to break up at the time, but now I see it would never have been a long lasting or beneficial relationship
@tietosanakirja10 ай бұрын
I was married to a person, whom, I think, matches the description. It was hell. I was walking on eggshells for years. I was never at ease at home. When she'd get mad, it seemed she wouldn't stop until she had stomped me out of existence. On top of that, her therapist blamed me for making it worse. If I wasn't at my best and couldn't take and swallow the onslaught, it would lead to a bad fight. She used to threaten me with divorce, but wouldn't go through with it. Finally I decided it wasn't healthy for either of us and applied for divorce. Being lonely is so much better than living in hell.
@D_0_S10 ай бұрын
@@tietosanakirja I understand the fights, it was either that or a cold shoulder. I have Bipolar myself, but I was doing everything to keep it going when it was already a losing battle. Sometimes I just think that in the end help can only happens when someone wants to get the help, and if anything that's something that led me to my new relationship. Something that helped us flourish is the mutuality that we both craved from our previous ones.
@A55a551n10 ай бұрын
Timestamps 1). What is BPD 0:28 2). Let's talk about abandonment 1:24 3). They seem hot and cold 2:19 4). Their moods shift quickly 3:48 5). They have a history of rocky relationships 4:52 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@foxfellsansthetrashydork61110 ай бұрын
You too dude. 💜💗💛💙
@A55a551n10 ай бұрын
@@foxfellsansthetrashydork611 hope you have a nice day too
@anderstermansen13010 ай бұрын
What is bpd
@ellakramar193110 ай бұрын
How does someone develop BPD is it common in children that grew up in an abusive home?
@RanDom-if2ee10 ай бұрын
💙
@Hades-cs9ql10 ай бұрын
I have bpd and at the beginning of my relationship I had to make a promise to myself that I wouldn't end my relationship because of my insecurities. It's been hard and I've had so many painful ups and downs but I have an amazing partner who's always stuck it out with me and we've been in this relationship for a little over a year. But that promise to myself definitely helped me when I didn't feel good enough or thought she'd be better with some one else and when she ghosted me (in my head) I had to hold on and I'm just so lucky that she never took advantage of that and is genuinely just a nice good person ☺️🥰❤
@anderstermansen13010 ай бұрын
What is bpd
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your personal journey. Wishing you ongoing strength and many positive experiences in your relationship.🥰❤
@lacyyyy10 ай бұрын
@@anderstermansen130watch the video
@fluffyfluffy793810 ай бұрын
@@anderstermansen130I would advise u to check healthygamergg he's a pych and explains but more in depth but the pych2go vidoe was good to
@fluffyfluffy793810 ай бұрын
@@anderstermansen130ts like a person being distorted cus of the experiment they had I think some bdp think they r fine or it can be confused with bipolar but ik that bdp and bipolar u can have both I think
@portableface5976 ай бұрын
seeing these negative comments about dating people with bpd makes me sad and i cant imagine how people with bpd feel when they see them. i am dating someone with bpd and yes, some days are hard, but they are so loving and thoughtful and their sensitivity means they understand me like no one else. the hard days do not outweigh the love i have for my boyfriend. his bpd does not define him and it doesn’t define you either
@ChrisPTY5074 ай бұрын
Everyone has the right to choose what kind of people they want or do not want in their life. I find it childish to force people into accepting bad behavior and attitudes. We all go through that stage, and in my case, allowing bad attitudes gave me lots of headaches, which is why I keep such people at arm’s length. No amount of shaming or criticism will make me change my mind. Stop pushing personal preferences on others.
@tylerleuschen81324 ай бұрын
Look up videos on narcissism. It's nothing but people absolutely hating on people with NPD. Understandably so for those who don't care and don't want to change, but there's. So. Much. Hate. There's 20 videos on healing as a victim and the signs for every 1 that looks into how to deal with NPD.
@paccawacca40694 ай бұрын
Bpds are literally just another form of psychopathy
@lokismischief25124 ай бұрын
Thb, i feel kind of bad reading them. I'm a male with BPD and in a very loving relationship with my wife. I hold myself accountable when I have episodes and keep tabs on my splitting and correct myself internally when I find my behavior incongruous with my typical baseline. I get quite upset about a good few things, mostly my experience as a homeless teen or my struggles as a recovered drug user (12 years clean) and recovered alcoholic (5 years clean). I get mad about society and its treatment of people, i get irate about pay disparages and inflation gouging everything. And i mean really upset, but I always tell her it isn't her, I'm just chaffed. I get emotional tempests that brew on and off for days, and I keep her informed of my state when I'm oscillating through emotional states. I hate myself somedays and accept myself others, but she loves me to death every day. She has seen me at my worst, but she knows me at my best frequently. The face that she sees who I am at all is a blessing. These comments just make me feel like others with this condition and myself are irredeemable creatures of misfortune and are to be avoided at all costs. It's bleak.
@portableface5974 ай бұрын
@@ChrisPTY507 i think you may have misunderstood my comment. i completely understand needing to keep people at an arms length if they make your life miserable and i agree. i was just saying that the amount of negativity directed towards people with bpd is upsetting to see. sharing your bad experiences with someone vs saying something like “never date someone with bpd” are very different things. i don’t like seeing things that could make someone i love feel unlovable. i was just pointing out that people could be a little more compassionate that’s all.
@hannahcichon528610 ай бұрын
I'm really glad that quiet BPD symptoms were addressed in the video. It's often overlooked. I personally internalize everything and either blame myself or hold resentment for another person, but i wouldn't lash out like others with the same diagnosis. I've been taking meds and have been in therapy for 10 years and I can honestly say it helps. I used to be very toxic and now can better manage my symptoms and take accountability for my actions, regardless of why. Thank you for such an informative video!
@jujuoof17410 ай бұрын
We’re so, so proud of you💖 Good job! ^^
@ChrisPTY507Ай бұрын
Not loving how this makes these absolute psychos sound like innocent cutesy little wittle victims when they randomly lash out, cheat, lie, manipulate, threaten self-harm, treat people like pawns on a chess board & generally go through relationships like a hot knife through butter. It's like a mass gaslighting with this disorder because nobody is willing to talk about the realities of it. There's a reason so many therapists won't even treat them. No matter how badly you feel inside, that doesn't justify abuse & violence--physical, verbal, emotional or otherwise. Unprovoked mood swings & making people walk on eggshells IS abuse. Putting someone on a pedestal only to kick that pedestal off a damn cliff the next day for no reason other than something you imagined in your head IS abuse. You think schizophrenics or people with severe OCD or Tourette's don't feel absolutely miserable inside? Tortured, trapped, afraid, ashamed, etc? Still, you don't see them treating others like the Cluster B crowd. It is 100% a choice & there can be no change without accountability. Take off the kidgloves; you are officially enabling.
@ph_illy13 күн бұрын
@@ChrisPTY507 Calling people with BPD “psychos” just tells us enough about what kind of person you are. Get educated on the topic - therapists who don’t want to treat people with BPD are simply not qualified enough to treat complex personality disorders. Because the thing about BPD is that there’s always multiple or a single coexisting condition such as MDD, generalised anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, CPTSD, etc. And that’s why it’s so difficult for therapists to treat people with BPD. Simple because it’s incredibly complex. Mental illnesses manifest in MANY different ways. And if you read the diagnostic criteria for BPD, it doesn’t say anything about being manipulative and abusive. Nothing about cheating, lying or treating another person badly overall. These are very personal and dependent on a person, not their disorder. Despite what you believe, science has a consensus that people with BPD are in fact victims. Victims of their parents or caregivers. It also proves that with extensive and right kind of psychotherapy, people can go into remission to the point where they don’t even meet the diagnostic criteria for BPD. Truly, get educated on this topic because it seems like you’re being too emotional at the moment.
@ChrisPTY50713 күн бұрын
@@ph_illy IDGAF about your opinion. Take therapy, stop victimizing yourself and giving pitiful excuses in order to manipulate and abuse others.
@msrpmusic3034 ай бұрын
BPD, like most psychological issues, is on a spectrum. But when you have full-blown BPD or any severe personality disorder, it is your responsibility to seek treatment and self-improvement. People with BPD can be abusive towards their partner and we cannot allow untreated BPD to be an excuse. Seek treatment if you are struggling, these diagnoses are not death sentences. Everyone has the potential to get better. But again, it is on YOU to take these steps.
@Stticka10 ай бұрын
My ex has bad BPD.. i tried with her for so long and it was absolutely traumatic for me. I eventually had no choice but to let go :(
@cecilia76086 ай бұрын
My psychiatrist once said about splitting that the devaluation and idealization seems to come from a perspective that we as people with bpd have on ourselves, projected on who's around. Basically meaning that as my self image shifts constantly and with that my self esteem, going from good, to very high, to very low, to acceptable, to the worst etc I then see the people around me through these lens, always, ending up treating them as I feel about myself. I found it really interesting but I would love to hear other perspectives too!
@garxik9715Ай бұрын
Yep. Totally makes sense. When someone would devalue or belittle someone with BPD, from experience, they would take it out and do the same to their closest ones.
@bigkittykissezАй бұрын
this is the most true thing ive ever read. 100% if im feeling insecure or not stable in myself i immediately get angry with what my plans are/or the people around me. just frustrated. for no reason. then ill shut down, not knowing, had i just changed my outfit, done things that made me feel good, i wouldnt be feeling that way. its unfair. but things like this help me understand myself, thank you.
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Was this video helpful? If not, let us know so we can decide whether to make more vids like this one or not. Comment below yes or no.
@BigFlusteredMess10 ай бұрын
It is helpful
@Amirisphere10 ай бұрын
I made it before you guys.
@Amirisphere10 ай бұрын
But beautiful content, nonetheless!
@danavixen627410 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this important information. ❤
@XTale-Chara10 ай бұрын
Very❤
@cynthx10 ай бұрын
A lot of people who dated someone with BPD in the comments saying they finally feel validated. That's kinda sad and telling how victim minded BPD can be because the other person will always be the villain.
@haleyjarnagin56869 күн бұрын
Ahaha no. I have BPD. The worst villain to me is myself, I blame no one else.
@blumenkol6338 күн бұрын
@@haleyjarnagin5686 same here. I already feel like everything is my fault. It's really mean to categorize everyone with bpd because everyone is different, how every human is different in their own way. Of course someone with bpd might be victim minded, as every human without bpd could be. Bpd is a personality disorder, not a personality and it really hurts that people seem to forget that we're humans.
@cynthx8 күн бұрын
@@haleyjarnagin5686 It's great that you're self-aware this way. Many others with BPD are still working on recognizing this within themselves. Until then, they will feel like victims in many self-fulfilling challenges.
@lorslickrocky46265 күн бұрын
Yeah your definitely right😔
@HaleThePandaКүн бұрын
That is so untrue and I get the feeling that you're implying that people with BPD are always perpetrators in relationships.
@galaxyfigure452010 ай бұрын
I suspect I have bpd and seeing alot of comments talking about people who had dealt with it in the relationship and ending it because of it, made me sad. I get why but I realize it might be impossible for me to keep a relationship with bpd... If anyone knows any way to help tone it down enough to be tolerable in a relationship, please lmmk!
@frozenintime10 ай бұрын
Probably a relationship therapist? But hey the video didn't say abusing drugs to the point seeking out a therapist is inconceivable couldn't work. So maybe stick with what you're doing? Meaning stick with researching why you lack what you desire improvement on then pursue no action outside of asking for others to complete your mild efforts.
@brunscrum937810 ай бұрын
Therapy and being open to introspective work is a lovely start! Try to find a therapist for yourself that helps you feel safe, and don’t be afraid to ask them questions, too. You deserve goodness and patience, and you don’t need to be toned down to make yourself palatable for others. You need self-compassion and tools that can help you on your life’s journey. Tools that can help you navigate and be healthier for you and for those you care about. Medication is a possibility, which can be intimidating, but when you find one that helps along with therapy, it can really help to change your current struggle and baseline. Also a romantic relationship isn’t always the answer if you need to focus on yourself. That doesn’t mean it can’t happen, but it is important to remember a relationship won’t magically fix things, even if it feels good for a while. If we don’t deal with our mental health, it won’t deal right on back. Take care, and keep trying :)
@abcefg450410 ай бұрын
Learn to handle your emotions and not let them control you
@TheIGITnBLUE10 ай бұрын
@@abcefg4504 Agree. You always have a choice.
@kijanithebat10 ай бұрын
As someone with BPD and a successful long-lasting relationship.. It's definitely possible to maintain relationships, and even if it takes time, don't resign yourself. A few things are necessary in order for it to work. - Honesty, understanding, and communication on both sides; explaining to partner/friends why certain things happen and hearing out their sides. - Establishing and respecting boundaries for everyone involved. - Introspective work on yourself, therapy, and whatever other treatments you choose. You don't need to make yourself more palatable to other people either. The right people will love you for who you are. And sometimes it's okay to focus on yourself if you aren't ready for a romantic relationship. It's a lot of ups and downs, but it can work. I wish you the best.
@sugaryberry10 ай бұрын
My ex had untreated BPD, it got really bad in our relationship and i cpuldn't help him. I struggled a lot about idealization and devaluation, until both of us couldn't deal with it anymore.
@lacyyyy10 ай бұрын
feel u
@samhain246310 ай бұрын
One of my friends is precisely like Psych2Go describes in the video. Has all the symptoms and her background also checks. Struggling with the whole idealization - devaluation rollercoaster is something that, unfortunately, I understand perfectly as well. And also being the one on whom she vomits all her frustrations during the mood swings (that's a little better since I decided to set up more boundaries but only to a certain point). It's not like she has fun doing this, I know, but it's just... It's just. And she doesn't trust mental health professionals either, she's convinced that they just want people's money, so this disorders+ the eating disorders are all untreated.
@keithrogers687610 ай бұрын
@@samhain2463 With the not trusting mental health professionals, I have had many friends like that over my lifetime, and was also there myself early in my life (refusing to get help). From my own personal experience I have found all you can really do is suggest things in a casual manner, without putting pressure on them, and be supportive if they mention they are thinking about getting help. Mental health professionals can't really do much unless the person in need of help decides that they want help (at least from my experience anyway).
@Gibshinboi10 ай бұрын
@@samhain2463 Sounds a little bit like me, I think one difference is that I hate myself a lot
@PhoenixfromCanada10 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder 1 & 2 in 2008. Then, in 2016, I was diagnosed with BPD, Social and General anxiety. I have taken treatment such Dialectical Behaviour Therapy and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with great success. However, I have found a repeat trigger that causes my BPD to rear its head is my mother. I've discovered that if I don't include her, my BPD is not triggered, and I don't have to ride that Ferris wheel roller coaster through the dark maze of emotions. ❤
@NaijaBossx5 ай бұрын
I resonate so much with your words, I was diagnosed with BPD and Bipolar Disorder and the truth is whenever my mother comes into play I go through a roller coaster of emotions, I’ve gone through two therapists and still not found a solution. I believe the best option is to stay far away from her
@AJinTheTardisss10 ай бұрын
My ex has BPD. It’s been almost four years since we broke up. Still haven’t fully recovered from that relationship. Haven’t dated anyone since
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
I can imagine how challenging it must have been for you to go through such an experience. I'm genuinely sorry that it has left lasting effects, and I sincerely wish you a speedy recovery. Sending you hope, love, and strength on your path to healing. Take care!
@Sara-ym2dq10 ай бұрын
Watching this video, im starting to think that my fresh ex bf has it too Was the best relationship i ever had xD i really love him and i felt so understanding and loved but there was days where i could feel he really likes me and only me, and days where he wasn't even sure to ever loved me. Days where i was the perfect girl to start a new life with and days where our relationship for sure will not work...was starting to become a limbo. We have been in a relationship for almost one year and he decided to broke up with me almost 3 months ago...and, also if his dubts were starting to create problems, i was suffering so much, i went through depression... after a couple of months w.o any type of contact he texted me saying he was missing me etc etc and he still dont know if he wants me or not xD Atm he is in therapy and we text eachother everyday and we r trying to keep in contact as something like friends But after watching this video and read some comments...i think would be better for myself if i just run away xD cuz is still like a limbo...he doesnt want to lose me (he also cried hard around 2 weeks ago when i said to stop talking and meet eachother), but he still isnt sure about his feelings for me
@joshy2joshy6 ай бұрын
Watch AJ mahari. She is a god send.
@Silenceeify3 ай бұрын
Holy stigmatisation
@thebigvega441510 ай бұрын
I dated someone with BPD and it was the sweetest but hardest relationship i ever had, seriously mess me up for years, had to go to therapy for quite sometime
@xragdoll56623 ай бұрын
Poor you 🙄 imagine what your ex went through
@thebigvega44153 ай бұрын
@@xragdoll5662 uh?? Do i know you or something? What could you possibly know about my relationship or what she went through if i didn't shared any details? 😂
@Darksyyyy3 ай бұрын
@@xragdoll5662way to down play peoples trauma just because someone has BPD doesn’t mean they do not hurt those around them, it doesn’t give them an excuse I was abused by someone who was diagnosed with BPD throughout my life physically, emotionally and sexually doesn’t that mean I can’t have trauma? Just because they were diagnosed with BPD? Yes, not everyone with BPD is abusive but there are people out there who did not think they need help and refuse help that’s not on us, so please do not shame those who have been affected by others who have BPD
@chemstudent48262 ай бұрын
@@xragdoll5662stfu, people are allowed to feel how they feel
@mysnackrАй бұрын
@@xragdoll5662 If someone's mental illness contributes to them abusing someone else, is it proper to blame their victim and mock that other person's misery? "Oh but your abuser must have gone through so much worse to make them that way."
@Bomberdumb10 ай бұрын
I whom is diagnosed with BPD can just agree with everything in this video! Thank you for this, BPD needs to be talked about more.
@BlackJim10 ай бұрын
Yes so people are aware of how dangeeous people with BPD are.
@anderstermansen13010 ай бұрын
What is BPD?
@Bomberdumb10 ай бұрын
@@BlackJim Dangerous? Mh, not really. More so can be toxic if left untreated.
‘I whom’.... your grammar is fn atrocious, a very fitting screen name 🙄
@liamward933710 ай бұрын
thanks for putting this video together; it's a bit of a relief knowing that other people have gone through some of the same phases themselves, or experienced similar things with their partners as well. before I get to my story, I know there's a lot of stigma and misinformation surrounding people who suffer from BPD, and I wanna make it clear that not everyone with the diagnosis is like the person I'm about to bring up. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with somebody who had BPD a few years ago. the first month or so felt like a dream I didn't wanna wake up from; I mean, it wasn't perfect, but it was the first time I'd ever felt like I was truly being loved romantically, and she assured me that the feeling was mutual. the next 2 months were complete and utter HELL. I dunno if I got "split" but she'd disappear and wouldn't say a word to me for days about 2 weeks after I brought up something she did around Christmas that made me uncomfortable. then, days turned into weeks, and weeks turned into months, and I was just hoping, praying that things would go back to the way they were and that she was gonna be alright. turned out the 2 months she left me high and dry, she was busy sleeping with other people 🙃
@sarahalexander508710 ай бұрын
where is ur story? i'd really like to read it.
@tonynewman59710 ай бұрын
So sorry to hear this, you deserve better than someone who treats you this way.
@Music_mental_health10 ай бұрын
I am someone with BPD. It was hard reading this story and I’m sorry that you experienced it :( I am in a long term relationship with someone who is incredibly patient, loving and understanding. Now, I admit to engaging in self-destructive behaviours which have impacted on our relationship. I cannot speak for the person you were in a relationship with of course. I frequently split against my partner. Now deep down, I know that I love them through these intense feelings of anger and resentment and that it’s not true hatred of them. What I personally experience that constitutes as splitting (I think anyway) is something (for example, an event) which triggers an emotional response based on my thoughts or feelings based on that event, combined with my associations with it if it has happened before. When I’m splitting, it feels like white hot rage or very bitter resentment, if not a combination of both. When I’m feeling it, it feels almost like it’s having a physical impact on my body via adrenaline and such. It feels so vivid, intense and incredibly raw and real - sometimes to the point where I’m struggling to breathe despite no strenuous exercise being done or without valid reason for it. Afterwards, I feel exhausted. Like the wind has almost been knocked out of me. After I recover, that’s when I start to return to my Wise Mind (a DBT concept I learned this year while in therapy) and that’s when I’m capable of listening, genuinely empathising, feeling guilty and remorseful. Something I’ve been getting a lot better at is owning up to my own mistakes and apologising to that person or persons that I have negatively impacted as a result of my own feelings and responses. It is not easy at all but it something I work on.
@TT3510910 ай бұрын
@@Music_mental_healthI have bpd too but when I apologized for my past actions, they kept digging deeper and wanting more than an apology so I started to feel like a monster. It led to two bpd episodes back to back. Crying and hitting myself. What to do then? I worked so hard for so long. As the video said here, I feel like I didn’t have any symptoms of bpd for years (2-4) then it all came back when my partner brought up my actions and after I apologized, it wasn’t enough.
@Khaotic45010 ай бұрын
Wow, your experience sounds very similar to mine. That’s spooky. I’m very sorry you went through that. I put up with my ex’s abuse on and off for the good part of 3/5 years of knowing her and I developed PTSD. She has bipolar and BPD. It was a nightmare. I hope you’re feeling a bit better now. ❤️
@gitcat816010 ай бұрын
Dated someone with BPD, 1 person was like completely 2 different people, she was so nice and warm to me and honestly I kinda fell in love, a couple months later she changed and got super cold and said she doesn't know me, doesn't know me?? Really rough, a year later im still not over it, she clearly is though
@gabegabber29964 ай бұрын
I think the biggest issue in dating someone with BPD is when they don't accept that they have it in order to accept professional help. They just get angrier and accuse those closest to them of being judgemental.
@E4439Qv52 ай бұрын
^it's true tho. They *were* being judgmental, and I *don't* need the independent opinion of a professional therapist or counselor for that.
@Noonə2 ай бұрын
I would argue that the biggest issue is knowing how to recognize the effects of childhood trauma in individuals with BPD. Understanding that and getting counseling for yourself might be uplifting.
@haleyjarnagin56869 күн бұрын
Don’t generalize. I have BPD and I sought help. I’m smart enough to realize that’s not normal behavior.
@E4439Qv59 күн бұрын
@@haleyjarnagin5686 Congratulations. You're healthier than my mother for that.
@elf_bunny_blue666Ай бұрын
My husband is aware that I have bpd. He was the first one I told after I got the diagnosis. We both agreed that, while it's no excuse for the behaviors I can display, it definitely explains a lot and helps us understand why I gave self destructive, impulsive behaviors. It's helped me be a better wife and it's helped him become aware of things that can cause an episode or when I'm struggling in silence. It's brought us closer.
@DaggerJay910 ай бұрын
I broke up with them because most who have BPD tend have anger issues and cheated on me. On top of that I have depression,so I ended up ghosting and left them thinking I broke up with them.
@bvnny137910 ай бұрын
It’s wild how this video popped up in the notifications just now, just when I needed this exact type of video.
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Timing is everything.🥰
@AsherBeHappy10 ай бұрын
Fellow BPD People: 👇
@FI0ch10 ай бұрын
How is everyone doing this fine night?
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Not bad, how are you?
@FI0ch10 ай бұрын
@@Psych2goI’m doing ok. Thanks for asking! Have a goodnight!
@lakersrdbest10 ай бұрын
I'm doing ok. Honesty I wish better than right now. How are you?
@promeneuzivotu11710 ай бұрын
Pretty good thanks for asking.
@FI0ch10 ай бұрын
@@lakersrdbestI’m doing alright. Just feeling a bit of every emotion.
@facopse10 ай бұрын
My first relationship was with a girl with Bpd. I had no idea what was happening to me and I thought this was normal because I never had a relationship before. It took me about a decade to overcome the trauma inflicted by this relationship.
@Khaotic45010 ай бұрын
I’ve been there. Ended up with PTSD. I never wanna go back. It’s hard but I hope things get easier for you in due time. Sending you my deepest sympathies. ❤️
@Southghost59978 ай бұрын
Yeah and what repercussions for them?
@vsnsh8 ай бұрын
wamp wamp poor tRaUmAtIzEd cry or something idk lol
@smuella64544 ай бұрын
@@vsnshwhat makes u feel the need to comment something like that
@haltmur3 ай бұрын
@@smuella6454they had a good reason
@AwakenedEmptiness10 ай бұрын
Untreated BPDs shouldn't be dating.. for god sakes they shouldn't even think about it until they've had years of therapy or start doing serious spiritual practice or preferably both. Had traits of this nonsense from my mother after alot of abuse.. it takes years of serious effort to dissolve the mental tendencies of a personality disorder.. because its rooted in the deep unconscious and subconsciously controls the fragile ego of these personalities. I've been abused by multiple girls of this personality disorder and even after years of growth it doesn't matter how patient kind or empathetic you are.. they just gaslight lie and manipulate until they bring you down to there level of dysfunction.. drag you into the deep unconscious.. its crazy making at its finest. Smh.
@DuelingNetsJadenyuki10 ай бұрын
Remember BPD is NOT an excuse for abuse, if you're dating some one who has BPD and is emotionally or physically abusing you, you have every right to leave. wish them the best, and urge them to seek help but do not put up with abuse...
@bill803910 ай бұрын
Right and all you have done is made it worse by abandoning them.
@DuelingNetsJadenyuki10 ай бұрын
@@bill8039 so stay in abusive relationships? Sound advice.
@Luminous.Dynamics4 ай бұрын
@@bill8039 other people arent a fix for bpd
@jennacallahan14 ай бұрын
@@bill8039they have to get help on their own at that point. It’s not worth the risk.
@cshaffer825810 ай бұрын
I was married for 23 years. After 19 years, my ex was diagnosed as having BPD. The only problem, was that she refused treatment or to even believe that she had BPD. In her eyes, she was fine and the doctors didn’t know anything. She tried the medication at first and within a couple of weeks, refused to take them or anything. She refused therapy or any other treatment. This all lead to our good marriage ending badly. It’s sad how everything happened. We were happily married, had 2 beautiful children and things just fell apart after year 19. She was definitely scared to death of abandonment, however her fears actually made things bizarrely worse. I miss what we had together. It’s been 11 years since our divorce, but she hasn’t changed whatsoever. And refuses to do so. Sad!
@biopticleader910 ай бұрын
damn
@peacheyearth10 ай бұрын
Gosh I'm so sorry! Well done for choosing you.
@pikapie288310 ай бұрын
I love you for loving her with everything you had 💜🥺🫂
@sergioalegre74308 ай бұрын
Sorry, I'd like to understad: Your ex, during the first 19 years had no simptoms of BPD? Things got badly since some date? I was 6 years with a BPD woman and she had the simptoms, but unfortunately I wasn't informed about this disorder.
@viobliterator10 ай бұрын
Can you please make a video explaining the difference between someone having BPD and someone just being toxic? I feel like there's some overlap here
@SeelenTaucher10 ай бұрын
Plus: Quiet bpd. Not showing any emotions towards People, but just botteling up and than exploding breaking down anywhere Else. The heavy emotions no prob, as long as they had been put at table. The freeze and deatdh Mode, no clue. Its like with Introverts, not communicating oder months. Imagine u would be with a loved one introvert, and suddenly no meeting, text, call nothing, but u found that she him had been party vacation fun all time While u asked for being together. Minds and Fear can do cruel stuff with the self and others. I Know how it feels ghosting and being ghosted. Acting as if I never knew that person, never loved them, being with others, blocking, not answering or Calling. It can cause traumata. I got my karma back. Infj door skam both sides us ugly af. Not compassionate, not peaceful, for no one. The ego mind can be such a trickster. I tried to ignore every feeling, but botteling and masking made stuff just worse. Honesty made me feel more lighthearted. Greets
@TheIGITnBLUE10 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, it'll 90% overlap. Sometimes, there will even be dangerous situations. The truth is hard to hear, but that doesn't mean we can't provide more studies down the line and provide better professional help.
@SeelenTaucher10 ай бұрын
@@TheIGITnBLUE Lots of hard Work insidd the self and within Relationships. Do MG nothing will result in nothing.
@thecommenter356010 ай бұрын
@@SeelenTaucher I’ve been dealing with a quiet pwBPD who has recently devalued me and let me know it too in a passive aggressive manner and I also did a INFJ “door slam” the person and now he keeps hoovering to see when I’ll come back and start begging for his attention which I don’t want anymore
@SeelenTaucher10 ай бұрын
@@thecommenter3560 I feel you. I remember that Person and time WE once Had in good ways, but I Not Like to BE a single giver in my Relationships anymore. Most people I know sayed "Uh I enjoy the time with U so much, I appreciate U much" but in the end they Not invested much in Meeting me, IT was me WHO asked for Others over Past years and really Not many did ASK for me and went for "together time" They invested their time Into Family, Collegues, Strangers, Others, so now I am done, coz I also enjoy my time and self Being really valued. WE all can think "thanks for the great time WE shared" and "No to such devaluing my existence and time Behaviors" so WE can BE gentle and still communicate "your Behaviors are Not Feeling good. I told U Guys that I Need real Meetings, Not phoning only, Not texting only. U know I Go and went to great lenghth, driving in Rain, taking train and stuff, to See you. But If you lived 5 Minutes away and told me "I have No time" you better say "I Not wanna Invest in the Connection between you and me, the WE I spend elsewhere" . Taking Labels, such AS "introvert" "bpd" "ptsd" as an excuse Not treating Others Feelings and Relationships with Kindness, Not working in theself and Relationships in General, to me US a No Go. The blind Ego mind finds excuses, the honest Heart goes for Courage and Connection and Love. Blessings dear. Take Care. ☺️🫂
@emilyremington721610 ай бұрын
Finally a great video on BPD and explaining how we truly feel. I see things that make me cry because it's so hurtful and mean to a disorder I have no control over. This video made me cry because I finally found a video I feel truly heard. I love your videos you're truly amazing.
@AlexPostScript10 ай бұрын
I have BPD too and I feel that :( there's a lot of disparaging comments that can go around like those with BPD make it seem that BPD is about as bad as narcissism, it's a genuinely awful feeling when you feel so much pain and yet the wider internet treats you like a monster at times. They don't know about the rotating friend groups, the various partners that never stayed very long, the loneliness, the isolation, the fear of interacting with new people because they'll probably just up and leave because i'm too much which as literally been said before, or they just don't want to deal with me anymore. So many people have said they'll stay around forever, where are most of them? Gone, the impermanence is hard to deal with. There is hope though, and you deserve a fulfilling life, despite what the world says at times. I do hope you find happiness, it's going to be difficult, but I hope things get better.
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
I'm really touched to hear that the video resonated with you and made you feel heard. Your kind words mean a lot, and I'm glad the videos can provide support.❤
@IvanDaGrVIII10 ай бұрын
What do you mean 'no control over'? Maybe it's the self-victimization that puts people off. Cuz when you're on the other side and have to deal with you people, all of a sudden your actions are completely disconnected from you and responsibility is off the table. My mom was a bpd maniac but refuses to this day to accept and deal with this. That's not my fault but scarred me for life. So no, no one gets to say they have no control over anything. Because then others pay for it
@CosmicCrimson10 ай бұрын
@@IvanDaGrVIII They may have no control over it, but that's different from having accountability for said issue they have. It's like narcissists saying they arent narcissists or stupid people saying they are smart. Not everybody is able to see within themselves and be truthful for who they are, especially when it comes to their issues.
@fluffyfluffy793810 ай бұрын
@@IvanDaGrVIIII think they talking about the emotions bdp ppl have more intense feelings then the average
@cardboardmark4 ай бұрын
Guys, do NOT enter a relationship with a girl with BPD. Holy cow. Run as fast as you can. Never look back.
@lewiscrazygame724 күн бұрын
If you really like someone, you shouldn't look at BPD as a reason to end a relationship. Of course, if the person is hurting you or anything then you should break up with them, but don't look at people with BPD as walking red flags. Just because we feel things more intensely doesn't mean we don't deserve to be loved. Like the video said, BPD is really curable and 70 percent of people are actually semi-cured of their symptoms after about a year of (I forgot what its called something similar to cognitive therapy.)
@HaloJumper710 ай бұрын
I thought she was a covert narcissist with abandonment issues, but she can be good and genuine without having to imitate me so maybe it's BDP or a medley of problems. Hope shes gets better.
@TheIGITnBLUE10 ай бұрын
I'm seeing all of these comments with stories ending badly. I'm no different -- had a BPD friend who was really abusive with her boyfriend and I, and then later lost control of her emotions and tried attempted murder. As much as I feel bad for people struggling with BPD, I cannot afford to go through stressful situations like that. I believe despite these things, we always have a choice as adults. Please see professional help when you can though if it's that bad; don't throw your life away.
@5049usrluvtyx10 ай бұрын
Feel free to believe what you will but there was a long study recently finished at Stanford University where free will was determined infeasible in the highly interconnected universe we live in. A random person across the world can sneeze and cause a tornado in your neighborhood. When you realize how small and powerless we really are the world changes.
@darlinqq_4 ай бұрын
unfortunately i dont have the resources right now to start therapy but in the future its one of my top priorities, ive already started working on myself in the forms of self regulation and boosting my self-esteem and over all taking care of myself, its quite hard but im proud that im making this progress even without a therapist (i was diagnosed but cannot find a suitable therapist since they all just kind of always paint me in a bad light simply for having the disorder)
@kkisfinn10 ай бұрын
Dating someone with BPD was so draining, I tried, he and I had issues but it was just so bad, I had to break up with him. This was earlier this year
@suko80192 күн бұрын
What made it so bad
@keip456810 ай бұрын
hopefully nobody breaks up with people who may have it from this but in the end people with BPD are people as well. They just "feel" more than the average person...
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Yep! This video is aim to bring more awareness and education so both could navigate the relationship more effectively.
@BlackJim10 ай бұрын
And are extremly abusive and manipulative and selfish. A danger to everyone
@jelenaninic92976 ай бұрын
It is not true! Not at all
@mq7wn5 ай бұрын
@@BlackJimthis is such a harmful and ignorant way to think about us. We aren't all like that. Not even close.
@sophiestablein4 ай бұрын
@@BlackJim Actually, we get manipulated pretty easily once you understand how we work. I was in a toxic relationship for 8 years, where he convinced me that my reactions were always unreasonable and that it was okay for him to flirt with other women or to persue them cause it "helped with his self-esteem". He also tried to kiss my little sister twice and then told everyone I was a liar. Ab*s3d me while I was asleep, manipulated me into thinking it was okay because it was "his kink". But of course I'm the one with the bpd, always seen as a monster, not this excuse for a human being that was my ex. Now It has been 3 years in therapy, but still when I read stupid comments like yours, makes me wonder if it isn't the whole human race to be evil, but a few caring people that make up for the rest. I'll try to be in the latest and that you'll come with me when you stop being such a hater.
@ivanhernandezmedina928610 ай бұрын
I have noticed some things that are similar to BDP or as undetached in my ex boyfriend. I once told him after we started an argument: something that bugs me is that your feelings towards me don't seem constant. One day you say you love me and the next day you act as if you met me yesterday. He also has a tendency of putting someone else's efforts and work as less than what he does. We ended breaking up but still talk to each other. Not sure if both of us going to therapy could have saved the relationship but is something that I now noticed while watching this video.
@S.T.C.410 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed with BPD at 14. I'm 25 now, and things have gotten a lot better over the years. I've stabilized a lot, although I still have my moments. I can still be explosive when something bad happens to me, but I've learned to control myself when it's someone else that caused me to be upset. The fear of abandonment is still the biggest issue, although it's gotten so much better. Acceptance became one of my favorite words. I think a lack of control is what brings out a more manic side in people with BPD, at least it did for me. But learning to be okay with the things I can't control really helped me the most. Learning it's okay not to be in control of everyone and everything around me. I think it's just harder for a lot of us to stay grounded when we get overwhelmed with a feeling or bad thought. Be it a state of anger or sadness, or paranoia thinking this or that or my SO is ignoring me maybe I'm boring, etc. I can get over anger in seconds or a minute now, but sadness can still beat me up for a day. But I think the older you get and learn how to deal with your emotions, the easier it gets. It's a little harder than it is for people without it, but you'll get there eventually :)
@xragdoll56623 ай бұрын
That’s bizarre since it’s normally diagnosed when you’re an adult or late teen.. maybe you should get reevaluated. You might have bipolar instead
@ledoge207310 ай бұрын
knew someone with bpd and this is dead on how she was. I wasn't perfect and tried my best but.... the splits, the sudden changes.... I really tried but nothing was ever enough for her and in the end she's gone. Just hope that she is well and getting the help needed for herself even though things ended badly between us
@rangigamage4 ай бұрын
It's okay she will understand that you tried your best to help her❤ and as a person someone who has bpd and had a simmilar situation.. I wish u good luck on your future. With or without your friend❤
@PumpkinLady114 ай бұрын
I had a friend like this who I cut contact with this year due to her constant changing toward me. It made me feel bad about myself and gave me a lot of worry and anxiety, so I knew it was best to just end the friendship.
@hampter381910 ай бұрын
The only thing I learned here is that I might have BPD
@AlexPostScript10 ай бұрын
I don't really devalue my partner, usually with my quiet/discouraged BPD it's all 'i'm somehow not good enough, what did i do? how can i fix this?' it's a self-devaluation, a coping mechanism, I devalue myself first so i have more control over the situation, it's 100% not a good thing to do, but growing up with a narcissistic parent, actually, multiple of them, and one that also most likely has BPD too, you learn to take the blame, the scapegoat mindset is real, but there's a difference between selflessness and self-sacrifice, being horrible to yourself for even a percieved slight and feeling worthless and completely unlovable and that you'll die alone because you upset a loved one or they just don't love you back like they used to? that's how bad it can get inside my head. I've had enough therapy to curb a lot of it, but not all of it. Got diagnosed with BPD a few weeks ago, and even though mine isn't as angry and impulsive, it's still a horrible experience at times and it feels like the world is caving in around you, the helplessness is so awful, I KNOW it's self-sabotage, that's why I want to get help and manage my condition better, not just for me, but for those I love who don't like seeing me like this.
@kazeperiwinkle10 ай бұрын
this video is incredibly validating, thank you for making it. i’m healing from a breakup with someone with bpd and it’s taken a long time to really cement it into my head that their devaluing me and “splitting” on me wasn’t indicative that i deserved it, but rather that they didn’t get help earlier in life for their illness and that’s not on me. i truly believe that they will eventually heal and be able to have healthier relationships than they did with me, just as i have become healthier and learned more about protecting my boundaries since then. i’m curious if someone with bpd who knows they have the disorder is always aware of what’s going on? i asked them once after the constant shift between loving me and saying i’m a great partner so suddenly shunning me, criticizing me and saying i don’t do enough, i asked them if i was becoming their fp and they said no. i don’t have the disorder and i can’t read their mind but the idolization, the splitting, the refusal to let me go after i said i couldn’t take it anymore and needed to end things for my safety. i have a hard time believing as someone who doesn’t have bpd that what was happening wasn’t an fp
@mokie742110 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you went through that, and good job on learning that you weren't at fault for the disorder they have to burden. I was wondering, what does "fp" stand for? Favorite Person?
@lacyyyy10 ай бұрын
@@mokie7421ya
@kazeperiwinkle10 ай бұрын
@@mokie7421 ya, i don’t have bpd but from what i understand it’s a term for when someone with the disorder gets attached to a person to the point that they get kind of emotionally enmeshed with them. so their mood becomes indicative on the fp (someone who actually experiences this correct me if i’m wrong)
@jeremyyates10269 ай бұрын
@@kazeperiwinkleyou are correct I have bpd and that's what an fp is. Basically if the fp isn't happy the person with bpd isn't either. Our whole world revolves around them If their fp ghosted them they would get extremely depressed and depending on the person might even commit suicide just from the pain of it.
@kazeperiwinkle9 ай бұрын
@@jeremyyates1026 thank you so much for responding. are you always aware that you’re developing an fp/splitting on someone or does it sometimes take a while to realize why you feel the way you do in a given moment?
@mrjiddly56510 ай бұрын
This may have been good to see about 4 months ago. It’s still good now. Actually before that too, I may have a track record. BPD women are hot (lol and cold). …I may also have BPD
@Mirmnqc10 ай бұрын
As a person with BPD, this was very helpful. Thanks!
@nadillasakinah95010 ай бұрын
Is this basically Catra from She-Ra? Also, could you do a video on SA inflicted upon by family members and maybe put Astarion from Baldur’s Gate as an example?
@ThaPrettyAqua10 ай бұрын
I hope someone willing to work with me some day and not against me.
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
hope you come across that awesome teammate soon!
@starry-p3 ай бұрын
Reasons why I don’t date 💅✨ ( I have BPD, ADHD and some undiagnosed third thing).
@salmeleons3 ай бұрын
im convinced i have BPD but i dont think i can get diagnosed
@amaiaava1010 ай бұрын
I am BPD lol I am diagnosed
@stayhappylittlemermaid10 ай бұрын
You Never Know How Strong You Are . until Being Strong is the only choice you have !
@THENEONARCADE2110 ай бұрын
I feel so pathetic. I feel such a complete mess.
@kimjasmine.10 ай бұрын
Same
@fuwabnuuy10 ай бұрын
Pros of dating someone with BPD You're dating a bunch of ppl
@SupernovaFishsticks5 ай бұрын
That’s not really what BPD is, I think you have it confused with DID 😭
@SpiritVines4 ай бұрын
It’s a hard thing to deal with. It’s like your brain is like “oh I love them so much and they love me too” then it switches to “they hate me, I hate me too, I should leave”. Glad to know that with treatment it can be in remission. I’ve been in therapy for 7 years now I’ve dealt with many different things in between that time.
@anthonychesery384110 ай бұрын
My girlfriend has this and that's OK
@marianadobreva_10 ай бұрын
I relate to these statements a lot, a frightening lot. (Though not in dating, I haven't dated anyone yet, but these apply to closer friendships) I've always understood it as being sensitive for myself, but I fit the descriptions shown a lot. What should I do? Like, realistically. I've been in therapy for a year and a half due to trauma and still go because of low self esteem and dealings with people I can't manage. I'm afraid to ask my therapist about it. She'll think I'm ridiculous if I mention I got the info from the internet and there's not another way of telling her that could substitute and hold the same weight in reason as just telling the truth 😔
@-emmathetotaldramafan10 ай бұрын
(I know it isn’t easy as it sounds lol but if you can go and ask your therapist this) “also is there any chance I might have borderline personality disorder? I saw a few symptoms I relate to but I want to get properly diagnosed.”
@marianadobreva_10 ай бұрын
@@-emmathetotaldramafan Alright, thanks! I'll try it out! :D
@CumbersomeCucumber10 ай бұрын
not me realizing Im the one with bpd...
@mx.ollieoxenfree4 ай бұрын
Hey me too! DBT therapy and medication was a life saver. It takes time and it SUCKS to have but its not impossible to have happy relationships, it just takes a little more effort and communication :)
@SavageCristin4 ай бұрын
Same ❤
@GerackSerack10 ай бұрын
Many videos about personality disorders treat those afflicted as "toxic people you should avoid". I love that you can see them as just flawed human beings, like all of us, deserving of love too. Keep on being this awesome.
@gafer880810 ай бұрын
Nice words, people should not be described as toxic people. An incorrect and immoral term if the thing is out of the person's control, certainly it is not a joke or something that should be described like this
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Thank you for your kind words! People with personality disorders, like everyone else, are individuals with their own struggles and strengths. Keep on being awesome too!😊
@eatanotherzio68114 ай бұрын
But people with BPD are toxic They cause CPTSD and sometimes suicide
@kingmuizz70810 ай бұрын
Not dated them but I have a few friends with it. They usually tell Me that "it's fun, before it isn't" and that's with regards to any relationship with them. It seems all fun and games until you finally understand the gravity of what a relationship built on unhealthy attachments entail. But it's not all doom and gloom, this with BPD are great people from my own experience and they have lead lives that are great for them and their partners. Love to all my friends with BPD in the comments too!! ❤
@sholandosmiguelito650810 ай бұрын
I feel like im that friend, personality wise.
@AlexDoerflinger10 ай бұрын
I love these videos I always learn a lot
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
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@teegutta468910 ай бұрын
HEY GOOD EVENING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST STOPPED BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS EVENING, THIS IS A GREAT TOPIC LIKE THE VIDEO SAID IT'S HARD TO TELL, I CAN SAY THAT, I SOMETIMES I FILL LIKE THIS , GOOD NIGHT MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY , SLEEP WELL, INTELL TOMORROW. TEE 🙏💯🙏💪💙
@teegutta468910 ай бұрын
good morning tee I just wanted to let you know that something good is going to happen soon
@teegutta468910 ай бұрын
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING WELL I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 🙏💯🙏💙💪
@BlackJim10 ай бұрын
Run run run
@jendookie203310 ай бұрын
I used to be in a talking stage with this girl who has a bpd, and I’m telling y’all it is not for the weak. I was fighting for my life (figurative speech) and for our relationship but it was really hard, but I did tried my best and I did love her..
@DaggerJay910 ай бұрын
Not worth it , it'll drain you psychology.
@Khaotic45010 ай бұрын
I can relate.
@Khaotic45010 ай бұрын
Very true.
@sewgeekdesigns911310 ай бұрын
An ex has this… she’d text me 19-20 messages In a day demeaning me. Then the next day say how awesome I was… after a while she dumped me… thankfully she even moved out the country… haven’t seen her since (I even blocked her and she had other accounts so I changed my numbers) not something I wanna deal with ever again
@Dallas870910 ай бұрын
you guys should do more videos on neurodivergence
@Psych2go10 ай бұрын
Yep! Share all the suggestions :)
@homicidal._goose10 ай бұрын
Haha.. *we both have bpd lmao-*
@randomaccessmemories89125 ай бұрын
Oof
@allyschmidt85504 ай бұрын
Same
@rileyanthony10 ай бұрын
@Psych2go today isn’t a good day for me as today is my aunts funeral it’s going to be good
@tailsgottagofast10 ай бұрын
oh heh...I strongly might have bpd..look like quite a bit on me heh
@sr.favopossodeixarvaziosim459510 ай бұрын
"How to date someone with BPD" Don't? I mean, there are plenty of mentally healthy people around, are you that desperate?
@vsnsh8 ай бұрын
ever heard about 'love' thingy? nah?
@adude452 ай бұрын
My ex girlfriend was diagnosed with bpd and immediately used the diagnosis to ghost me and scapegoat me. I’ve never felt emotional pain at this level and there’s nothing I can do about it. BPD has really just come to be something shitty people can use as a scapegoat to excuse their horrible actions and behavior
@CROninja66610 ай бұрын
Interesting... This explains a lot. Like why I withdrew from my crush back in school.
@prions_arent_cool_man10 ай бұрын
0:00 - Intro 0:28 - What is BPD? 0:58 - Overview No. 1: 1:28 - Fear of Abandonment No. 2: 2:20 - They seem Hot ‘n Cold No. 3: 3:48 - Their Moods Shift Quickly No. 4: 4:43 - They Have a History of Rocky Relationships
@WhyThoAce6 күн бұрын
Raise your hand if you watched this video and realized you have BPD.
@HollyKost3 ай бұрын
A relationship with a person who has BPD is a terrible waste of life energy because they're toxic poison that nobody should endure.
@salmeleons3 ай бұрын
dude rude i deserve love too
@hugovhhАй бұрын
@@salmeleons And the normal people who has relations with BPD deserves what?
@salmeleonsАй бұрын
@@hugovhh deserves love too. someone with BPD can have a healthy relationship theyre not doomed to hurt everyone they meet
@SomethingInteresting-nw2um19 күн бұрын
are you speaking from personal experience or is there some study that proves your not just biased because of your own bad experience
@hugovhh18 күн бұрын
@@salmeleons without treatment partner gets drained
@cakecryptid10 ай бұрын
it's me. i'm the bpd boyfriend. i'm lucky that what we have is so amazing and pure through and through. our relationship is iron clad, though personally i'm going off the rails a lot. it's not fair to me or to him but i'm actively getting better because he was never the one who hurt me
@teegutta468910 ай бұрын
GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO SEE HOW EVERYONE IS DOING THIS MORNING 🙏💯🙏💙💪 HAVE A BLESSED DAY
@Dekoan0110 ай бұрын
Okay... this feels kinda strange... just klicked on this video to see what it is about and it turns out 9 of 9 things describe me ....F*ck
@irlshintsukimi4 ай бұрын
WOW really called me out there near the end (people pleasing & idealization leading to taking in and clinging onto people with SERIOUS red flags)
@AlexVictorianus5 ай бұрын
I have OCD and I think, OCD and BPD are quite inconsistent with each other. OCD patients want security and reliability, while BPD patients are unpredictable in relationships. This would make an OCD person crazy.
@xCocoaWolf10 ай бұрын
Probably the most stigmatised disorder nowadays.
@Mothxcat2 ай бұрын
i suspect one of my close friends may be struggling with bdp because some of the signs you described in this video are pretty simillar to her idk how will I bring this up in a conversation tho T-T
@starry-p3 ай бұрын
Saying this for the rude people in the back: Just because someone has BPD it doesn’t mean they don’t know when someone they dated was actually toxic or an abuser. People who are abusive tend to figure out you’re mentally unstable before you do and use that against you to control you. Some people with BPD have a lot more self awareness than most people think! We know we can be toxic too, we aren’t stupid!
@skulkdude4 ай бұрын
How do you not talk about the mania? Or BPD I pr BPD II!?!?!?!?!????
@thekoreanarmy72763 ай бұрын
That was freaky I hit every single thing.
@funkymonk5424 ай бұрын
After 5 years I had to throw in the towel as hard as that was , I heard a doctor explain it as a person that fell into a frozen lake and the lake froze up and you are trying to break the ice to rescue them you can see each other but you can’t get to them , 6 months later she got married to another guy , it sucks because I really loved her but she never loved me .
@yourdead797410 ай бұрын
Man, this is crazy bro, so im not sure if my doctor has like officially diagnosed me with bpd, but he did kind of hint at it tbh, but he also said he gonna give me meds to help with my emotions that are not healthy and out of wack, legit i legit rant to my gf all the time about her and my mom leaving me, my mom dying, when i get angry its not like normal anger it can be something simple like idk but then i yell like someone would if they where very mad at someone, and also i talk alot about my ptsd too alot about that my old bestfriend that i was with in the hospital said he wanted to kill me, and i talk alot about kms and self harm too cuz it wont leave my head bro. Yea i hope this new med or meds will help and ima talk to my mom more.
@jeffreychandler841810 ай бұрын
if you date one of these people, be kind but get out for your own sake UNLESS they clearly have learned how to manage it. It's for the best.
@Suveramort10 ай бұрын
true this, I can't stand where i am with who i am
@jujuoof17410 ай бұрын
My bro and their gf form a beautiful couple, I am glad for em💖
@who580410 ай бұрын
well that hurts
@jeffreychandler841810 ай бұрын
@@who5804 sometimes the things that hurt are most valuable lessons
@SuperMetalyrics10 ай бұрын
Thanks for the warning; I would think they're just excitable if we were in a relationship... A disorder probably even cross my mind
@Neuroisdelicious5 ай бұрын
This video should be titled as "Top red flags of an insecure or broken self-esteem person".
@zaxkkun47009 ай бұрын
I wish my bf could watch this video, i really struggle to control my bpd... I tried my best to talk to him about it... Whenever i try to bring it up... We usually argue, because he asks me 'how' many times... i keep telling him to research about bpd :( i guess he wouldn't understand :'(
@Palpatine-exegol10 ай бұрын
Being able to date someone with BPD would be better than not being able to date anyone at all
@Durmomo010 ай бұрын
Yeah I was dating someone with it and I was struggling with her having it too lol. She was diagnosed and refused to get treatment because "it doesnt work," in her words. I will be honest manipulation, abuse, cheating and also theft at the end. I loved her very much and I tried so hard to keep the family together but it wasnt going to happen. We have a kid together so we have to stay in touch and I do care about her as a person on some level and as the mother of my son but holy shit Im glad im not with her anymore. For us it was horrible. I havent dated in the years since and im still struggling with self worth and depression. I feel like I missed my chance at a family. One thing is it feels like she was *constantly* testing my boundaries and keeping me on edge. Its one thing to have to deal difficult situations but it never ends and I never had peace. Even now it can be a struggle.
@watercolournight10 ай бұрын
Hey can you please credit the person that made the thumbnail? Just a name doesn’t allow for people to search for their work.
@ukrainer772310 ай бұрын
So, who recognized the symptoms in yourself rather than your partner? 😁 As always, such videos questions our stability))