6 Things Men Notice First In A Woman and Find Massively Attractive

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@erinjayde]

1. Your vibe 2. Ownership of your problems 3. Fully being present 4. Soft eyes, nice smile (radiance) 5. Who your friends are 6. Healthy verbal communication

[@ms.ednapost]

These attributes also repels the wrong guy. They are annoyed being around anyone who exude these characteristics and they scoot🌹

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.*

[@JonathonAslay]

Amen 🙏

[@sherriflemming3218]

Exactly. How they treat you. People will treat you how they feel about themselves and yourself.

[@estefaneoy3483]

@@TheAttractionTriggers I would add "And you decide if that will bring you peace or make you feel uneasy".

[@paulafrate9519]

I keep finding that no matter how much healing I do, there is some healing that only arises once I get into a caring relationship...when the walls come down.

[@SavvyGirl751]

This is so true

[@sherriflemming3218]

How I see it is be vulnerable when there is some trust built. Don't overshare too soon. Your intuition situational awareness and listening is your guide. Common sense before emotions. Be a detective. Analytical and investigate. This is a good skill set. Interrogate. Run a background check. Collect data and facts. You're in the position to choose. We meet and date complete strangers. People show you who they are on day one. Interrogate Your Partners Their Past Is Your Future - Sam Vaknin podcast Safe People by Dr Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker

[@SirenaSpades]

What I find is that men want to bombard you with text messages (which I hate). I don't want to date my phone. This really turns me off, it ruins anything I felt for that man. I move on. Men have no self restraint to wait until we meet again in person to talk about whatever it was. It's such a turn off. Even on dating sites, all the messages, I hate it. (I've been in therapy for almost 20 years, but dating my phone just is not where I want to be, no thank you). Maybe I'm too present :)

[@sherriflemming3218]

Train men to call and video chat. Texting is artificial intimacy. Poor communication. It's lazy. And call them. Block the text on your phone. Also say my standard is calls and video chat. This weeds out the texting guys. Meet IRL. It's healthy. Online dating is The Paradox Of Choice - Ted Talk. The illusion of abundance.

[@dg5175]

2:50 That's the problem, unhealed people jump from one connection to the next without taking the time to heal from a previous one. I took a break from dating in order to heal and once I got back out there, I was saddened to hear men be so critical of my taking a break. They were more focused on the break from a sexual standpoint rather than healing which was an indicator to me what mental frequency they were on. Needless to say I haven't found my match yet.

[@sherriflemming3218]

You do you. What they say is irrelevant. Their agenda is obvious. Keep your standards high! If they add no value, then subtract. Great JA video: He leads with sexuality and is afraid to lose his freedom. Women are not rehabilitation centres for broken men

[@Tbn48ibp]

Fully be present is soooooo important. My guy was constantly interrupting our time with calls and texts. He’d even go to the bathroom and take calls!! I finally put my foot down and said no!!! Be fully present or I’m outta here !!

[@JonathonAslay]

Ugh! That sucks 😕

[@Tbn48ibp]

Now He doesn’t take any calls and behaves with respect but guess what …now I don’t want him. Lol. Has to train him And I worry he’ll revert back as soon as he gets me to commit to him. Ugh. My ass outta here soon!! Lol

[@calgal5752]

@@Tbn48ibp. Good luck to you….

[@sherriflemming3218]

No is a complete sentence - Gavin De Becker No is a boundary.! 👍 Pay attention to shady phone behavior and someone addicted to their phone.

[@janetcarrier313]

Hi Jonathan, I have a friend of 34 years. We are both Avoidants and our relationship of love and friendship works for us. He looked at me with love in his eyes until recently, when his mother passed. I'm wondering if his spark will ever come back. He is a beautiful person but I do not know if he has changed from this experience, forever. It has been a year since her passing. His hugs are full of love and warmth but his eyes are still empty.

[@renette0506]

When you're with the wrong person, you allow them to treat you in an unacceptable way, and stay with them.

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly!!!

[@Tbn48ibp]

This istrue Renette. Thanks for sharing !!

[@sherriflemming3218]

We accept what we will allow and tolerate. Keep your standards high. Standards boundaries a bs detector and a backbone!

[@renette0506]

@@sherriflemming3218 Yes. Which is why I'm doing work, and not dating...on purpose.

[@sherriflemming3218]

@@renette0506 Go sista! ❤️

[@grimmgirl]

My ex deliberately hurt me, he enjoyed it so I don’t agree that people are inherently good. He was diagnosed with a personality over thirty years ago. I found that fascinating, there was no discussion about that years ago so that therapist was very perceptive. When I asked the ex what he did about it he flippantly said “Nothing, I didn’t agree with him”. No desire to change or look within, he just carried on ruining people’s life’s. He was Borderline and Anti Social. Yikes! What a combo, worse than any narcissist I’ve been around. He changed me, I’m much more cynical and suspicious now. Be careful out there. The older users get, the better they are at manipulating.

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes, there are some bad apples.

[@sandragavigan4069]

Being open to the new experience, new adventure, an open mind and an open heart, excitement about dating and love, ( with all the old baggage healed and cleared) an inner sparkle and radiance that says ' I am ready for the new".

[@sherriflemming3218]

With age and experience we become more discerning. Live in the present with an eye to the future.

[@rozannakuykendall60]

I definitely resonated with this video. I also hear something new, interesting and helpful. You are appreciated.

[@michele20248]

Its ok to discuss the relationship in a summary kind of way. I like when guys are realistic and ask about who was most recently in the picture. It shows he cares about what I've experienced. It also says alot about his character by the way he responds and shows empathy

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@cortneyozment7825]

It’s just so great to hear others think the same way that I do! It makes me realize that I am not broken like so many ppl have said in the past!!

[@ScrantonsRebeccaRuth888]

Hi vibe people usually have an amazing vibe and naturally glow✨

[@JonathonAslay]

Definitely!!

[@Theinfamouskiki411]

physical attraction has a lot to do with connection and vibe and all that. It's downplayed. I'm a visual person. We all have a type. With women we tend to ignore that because the guy is good on paper but looks wise we not into the expect him to grow on us. For me, I've fallen in this trap and ended up breaking up with that person. There was no sexual or physical chemistry. You are DOA starting out like that. You can be the nicest guy and be successful and stable but passion is a good thing to have too. I can put myself together pretty well. I like a man that can too. Hygiene and a bit swagger is my thing. But women we are taught to ignore attraction but it's important.

[@russellalfonso2962]

Radiance is one of the three key elements of aesthetic beauty according to medieval philosopher Saint Thomas Aquinas.

[@JonathonAslay]

Interesting

[@renette0506]

Radiance comes from inside, loving yourself completely. It also comes from loving the life you're living, and setting yourself up for success each day.

[@sherriflemming3218]

@@renette0506 💯

[@candacelove4832]

I enjoyed this today. I also enjoyed the way you delivered it. Calm, cool and collected and yet your personality still shown through.

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@RosemaryBrewington]

I don’t need a man to validate me ❤

[@biteynibbles8444]

Women express & communicate in words, & men complain about it. Thats why there are books entitled, "If men could talk, this is what they would say ".

[@renette0506]

🤣😂🤣..."IF MEN COULD TALK!!"

[@sherriflemming3218]

😄😄😄 Indeed. Effective communication is a skill.

[@renette0506]

@@sherriflemming3218 ...I don't know, I seem to find men that do all the talking. Back to doing more work on myself... 😉

[@RosemaryBrewington]

I have been a widow since 2014 and I have joy and happiness, my Sunday class is giving that. My preacher hugs me every Sunday ❤

[@Tbn48ibp]

I’ve been widowed twice and last was 2017 and I’m healed though there are times emotions flood in; but I’m determined to be happy, I’ve done the counseling and spiritual work, and I am ready! The healthier I get, the more quickly I put up red flags. Lots of crazy out there ladies!! Be safe and happy and I wish all well!!

[@RosemaryBrewington]

@@Tbn48ibp I should you

[@sherriflemming3218]

Good point Mari

[@ditaz2378]

It's never ending journey, this healing of ourselves. I am trying to live more in present like you say, and not fantasise 😅. I always have man after me as I give the alluring, but shy vibe, but most of them seen just my externall and didn't bother to see me for who I am. I am healing myself because like you I lose myself for the other and forget my needs. So much love to give, so let's give it to ourselves❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@Tbn48ibp]

I am absolutely in same boat with you !! I don’t know what to do other than just take a break and get a dog!! I’m same as you and I so dislike when they fall inlove so quickly and I know damn well it’s lust or infatuation. I think men can marry a woman they are obsessed with but can’t truly love!! They are so visual. I have large breasts and it’s been a curse let me tell ya. I think I’m gonna give up. Anyway thanks for sharing and I hear ya about the love to give. I’m same. Naturally nurturing but it gets me Hurt…you’re right on…give it to ourselves most important!!

[@taniagil3122]

Amazing content.

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you think so!

[@itsallpractice196]

Yes, it is resonating

[@renette0506]

Thanks for keeping our brain in the best place

[@JonathonAslay]

My pleasure...

[@kayesmith8040]

Great subject,,❤❤❤❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@kayesmith8040]

@@JonathonAslay your amazing 👏 🤩

[@toniayers1445]

Why does my current interest, interject a persons financial success, when talking about them?

[@sherriflemming3218]

They're interested in money.

[@gracepoint3]

Thank you Jonathan. You always bring valid and valuable “food” which quenches my hunger. 🙏🏼♥️🎶🦋🌺

[@JonathonAslay]

So glad!

[@Singinbluebird]

Ohhhhhhhh can't wait 😍😍😍😍

[@JonathonAslay]

Hope this helps...

[@RosemaryBrewington]

Jonathan I am confident that I am beautiful creature and I will wear ❤

[@RosemaryBrewington]

Hugs to you Jonathan ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Hugs back

[@maxinesmith2796]

This is spot on about me. I attracted broken men and wasn't present 😮

[@tamitatangoto5134]

Thank you Jonathan. What you said about not wanting the woman for a relationship but sexually attracted to her. I've mentioned previously I got a guy wanting to sleep with me but not have a relationship, and I said NO I wouldn't sleep with him because I am a moral person. But I have been stupid enough to fall in love with him and now my heart is broken by his ridiculous behavior 😢 I am not used to playing games and it is No fun😢

[@sherriflemming3218]

Living a moral life has a powerful impact on your personal well being. Morals aren't related solely to religion.

[@r.c.2766]

😮 that is true just a little while ago I change my energy because I'm healing and it shows😂😂😂. The problem is where to meet people. I'm coming out of my cave but with age you limited your relations

[@curiousgirl.4134]

Do whatever you love and just go outside your cave, it will come to you

[@JonathonAslay]

Amen 🙏

[@kathleenrojas5240]

Your so right .love your vids

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks...

[@lizielue3411]

Jonathon I am new on here and I am curious of your education/credentials on this topic.

[@JonathonAslay]

3000 hours of personal development workshops in the past 15 years

[@mimimorales6999]

Thank you for displaying a deeper subject of substance….What is truly lacking today ❤Thanks for making me laugh!We are all a work in progress.Wishing everyone the best and true happiness including you Jonathan…”Your vibe will attract your tribe”Be in peace and own your current journey…Enjoy it!❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Well said!

[@bonnygoldberg5852]

Thank you Jonathon for making me laugh. I enjoy watching and listening to you videos. I learn so much. I definitly resonate. Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom and thank you for sharing your knowlege and books Blessings to you always.

[@dianedorney5147]

I always say....I was a willing participant.

[@CathyOlds-c5z]

You are so on it...all 6 of your thoughts/suggestions are such good common sense heartfelt life everyday feelings and experiences we live everyday of our butttt do not recognize coming from within ourselves....AND that's a sad thing your intuitive towards this subject is definitely a good thing. *

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you, but I can't take credit...

[@RosemaryBrewington]

God should judge people nothing else❤

[@juliefrecker3811]

When the man wants f w b does that mean there’s no chance of relationship?

[@sherriflemming3218]

His standards, agenda and expectations are clear. Casual is transactional. Mediocrity. Casual is still a relationship. Low investment. Believe you deserve better than this! You cannot fix, heal, or change a man.

[@juliefrecker3811]

Thanks Sherri! Good info.@@sherriflemming3218

[@UrsaBella]

A small correction. A person is a legal fictitious entity. A living man and a living woman is as we are born. A human. A person is not a human.

[@JonathonAslay]

I don't understand...

[@UrsaBella]

@@JonathonAslay when we are referring a a word “person “ it doesn’t mean the same as a human man or a human woman. That is all. A person is a legal term.

[@JonathonAslay]

@@UrsaBella@UrsaBella Okay, I get that, but I believe my point still stands, which matters most. That said, I most likely make dozens of grammatical errors when I shoot a video.

[@UrsaBella]

@@JonathonAslay yes, Jonathon. I completely agree with you. Great points in this video. Thank you.

[@marshawoods4983]

I’m so impatient Jonathan come on get to it. Ha ha ha

[@JonathonAslay]

Lol 😁

[@concernedcitizen4031]

Idk why someone with a wall up would want to date anybody.

[@JonathonAslay]

Humans crave connection is why...

[@Theinfamouskiki411]

To me excitement comes before you meet in person. I'm online dating so it's different. But I see men expecting excitement but that's cultivated! It varies. To me first it's physical attraction then conversation will get me excited. But WYD, or hey or how's your day aint it boo😂 . Effort, communication, conversation will have me looking forward to meeting. But men think that once we meet in person a magic veil will descend from the heavens and we will connect without prior great communication. No!!!

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing...

[@sherriflemming3218]

What we experience with someone is what's internal.

[@marthalopez6662]

Thank you 🌺

[@JonathonAslay]

You’re welcome 😊

[@sally5256]

Love this! I love Victim Consciousness v. Victor Consciousness! Take accountability! I will definitely be more aware of my own consciousness as well as others! Thank you 🙏❤️

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly!

[@allysonf419]

I disagree to a point. Yes, most people are inherently good, but some people DO use other people and some DO intentionally hurt others - they have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We have begun to use the word narcissist too loosely and emotionally immature people will typically have narcissistic TENDENCIES - much like a child is naturally somehwhat narcissistic - but a true NPD is someone to learn to recognize and stay away from

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes, there are many wounded people out there...

[@MarleneCooley-e8q]

❤ nothing but love

[@jennifercoughlin-ij1fi]

Terrible that you admit to using someone...comment on holding a shot guy as a big brother! Uhhhh, total BS.

[@reneegengler8219]

Present.... as grace is only found in the present!.... not the past or the future

[@JonathonAslay]

Why can't it be all three?

[@StinglikeaBea]

I've purchased pheromone perfumes so I'm hoping this will help men find me attractive. Lol. How sad am I?

[@JonathonAslay]

Not at all

[@RosemaryBrewington]

Confidence is most important ❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Humans have insecurities...

[@RosemaryBrewington]

@@JonathonAslay I don’t have any insecurities at all

[@charlottehanmann]

I watch you almost every day because you are alive...most people are grudging,sulkibg being saur.you give me support,white teeth and all,black hair and AND ALL YOUR WONDERFUL BOOKS..THANX CHARLOTTE DK.CPH

[@RoseMoke]

Well chosen path by god.. it's a must .fullfill your path .

[@nightmareoracle]

Victim mentality drives me nuts😒

[@MargaretCampbell583]

Verbal communication is hopeless with most people

[@JonathonAslay]

Or something to be developed.

[@char72]

Jonathon, I believe you are in your own reality. 😮. Just kidding. I’m watching this video right now and remembering an earlier episode when you felt like you were being attacked. Question: Why does most discussions end up with one or the other is constantly in defense mode?

[@JonathonAslay]

Can you elaborate?

[@char72]

@@JonathonAslay Well it feels like if I have a thought or question, everything gets turned around onto me. I was only joking about the reality thingy. I can be silly at times. The question doesn’t pertain to any certain person. Just reflecting about why I usually don’t voice my opinions.

[@erickanorris567]

blame shifting victims are a total turn off .

[@JonathonAslay]

Can you elaborate?

[@EMuro-wu7uy]

It seems lately you seem to get judgemental about women, and attitudes of women. We all have things to work on. I'm a healthy wonderful person who is working on herself before I get in any new relationships. I'm working on better boundaries, better communication skills, and feeling realistic without as much cynicism. This is hard work. I feel parts avoidant and anxious about life in general.

[@JonathonAslay]

I judge everyone equally... lol 😁

[@waverunner6497]

​​@@JonathonAslayI feel in some ways you have gotten really judgy and women blamely in the last couple of weeks. And this was because you wanted to start a channel for men . In some ways it feels like you've drinking the Red Pill Kool-Aid and that ain't cool. You know darn well that the red pill all they do is blame women blame women and blame women. The last two shorts that you had about women putting men in the friend zone you never mentioned about men putting women in the friend zone. So it really seems like you've started drinking the Red Pill Kool-Aid. If you want to work with men about relationships, that is fine. However, those men are going to complain and complain about women and they're going to suck you into that and they're going to bring you into the red pill .

[@kayhansen9229]

I've got the opposite problem I think it's really good but it could probably put some guys off and that I love a lot of my old boyfriends I cherish them and I think they were great guys and great men and I'll often talk about him and say well so and so would have made a really good husband he was great I'm still friends with him. I admire him for this or that there's a lot of bad guys bad boyfriends but the ones I was really serious about the ones I would have considered for marriage oh they turned out to be really great guys just there were problems that you know like being too young and not being finished with college that really screwed things up for marriage with me but I still can't help it some of these men I just adore and a couple of them are happily married for very long time still married to them. So I think hey look I was right these guys were great they would have made great husbands my taste was spot on.

[@sallysmithy9860]

Teaser 😅

[@JonathonAslay]

How so? 🤔

[@sallysmithy9860]

@JonathonAslay I clicked on your site and it said I needed to wait like 20 min. Just being silly 🤗

[@kayhansen9229]

Yeah but when you get a certain age like 55 to 65 you start getting resting b**** face even when you don't mean it and even when your not bad. I used to ask my grandma who had really bad resting b**** face I used to say grandma are you mad and she look at me and say no why and I said you look like you're mad. You just start to get jowls and stuff like that oh well I guess I'm doomed.

[@marybeeler501]

Like 50 at once

[@juliefrecker3811]

That’s not dating it’s f w b? Oh now it’s sinking in.

[@ScrantonsRebeccaRuth888]

🤗

[@JonathonAslay]

Back at ya 😀

[@teresakarr8328]

Darling, we are old. Yes, the dream is was my pure geneous 14 year old grand plan.. i arrived at 24. I was blindsided no he was. Tragic crash. Not i. My sweet job saved me. I was working. On jan 8 1989. My perfect plan collided and after a funeral i back tracked. To safety a place to raise my children. Done. Its springtime here. And i am going to restart my dream. Im 60. Delusional? Hmm. Im finding new purpose. No safety net. Alexandria can jumpstart from here. Right, loyalty? They would be hard to plan stability but they have quality. Thank you,y friend Alex can have my room. The jolly man may be sbocked if he snoops. The magestic hippy is a psieudo flying monkey that only wants to be about love. Unfortunately, old women rarely are all about love. Still, the aspiration exist. Top notch. Spare key. My business trip is private . My house guest mature. Friends don't leave friends outside. Women need to champion women. The man will be captivated and a gentleman. Solo roller TDK

[@charlottehanmann]

You ate so fantastic( meaningless word)but you are being Turkish.the rng.wrotet Iris Murdoch marroed but wad fornicating around BUT sje wad a philosophet in camb.? Oxford uni?read some more philosophy from todays phil.! It is so very good you show booksBOOKS EVERY TIME ON ALL VIDEOES! cause thats how you æive ( well I doyou HAVE TO HAVE TO MEET LOVERS TO BE IN THE REAL WPRÆD! the net is for krominels! THANX ! YES ECKHART TOLLE!!!!! YOU JUST MENTIPNED HIM.HE STUDIED LITT.AT OXFORD THATS WHY I LOVE HIM AND THE PRESENT WHEN YOU ARE SAD WHEN YOU ARE HAPPY..THERE are other things than pure sex in the world..!!! Remember that ....folks!

[@beckyharrt]

Thank you!

[@JonathonAslay]

You're welcome!