7 Black Girl Struggles

[@EllieStrums]

Way too relatable it's almost sad! Another thing I hate is the "Are you mixed?" questions. So ya girl has defined curl patterns or her hair is long, she suddenly mixed. Oh you're lighter skinned and it's, "Oh whatchu mixed with?" No, the black community comes in different shades, sizes, hair textures, shapes, and everything else. Stop trying to divide us by that. And no, I have never been in a gang, I have never been shot nor has my family, I don't listen to 50cent, I don't know Barack Obama or his wife and kids, I know my butt is small and I do not know how to twerk.

[@sunshineandsmiles]

I gets so tired of the mixed question!! I just look at them like they talking another language. Like does that even matter?! Go on somewhere.

[@teegraciela]

+Ellie Strums oh lord- the hair discussion🙄. i find the constant questions about my hair on my YT channel soooooooooooooooooooooooo annoying. I'm not a beauty blogger. Run along folks. Lmao

[@JayJay-gb6pg]

I hate that question so much.

[@jayla1151]

when people say "omg you don't act black" like what even is "acting black"? sorry I'm not a stereotype

[@teegraciela]

+Twenty Øne Seconds of Panicking at the Parade *pokes anyone who says that in the eyeball*

[@XXxxhetalialoverxxXX]

Another struggle of my life as a black girl is when people touch my hair without my consent. And then have the nerve to call it "exotic". Girl bye!

[@teegraciela]

+Elizabeth Kirkland OMG omg! YESSSSSSSS!!! How Did I miss this?!?!

[@makaylahairston414]

the struggle is real. And I hate when people ask me why my hair is short😕 😒😒😒

[@iloveseattle123]

ikr when i straighten my hair then wash it people are like you cut your hair??????why???? and im like bro... do you not understand afro hair... do we need to have this convo every time i wash my hair smdh

[@gymnastartis4ever]

remain omgggg I hate when people ask me that I'm like....you can't seriously be that dumb.

[@proudcurlyhairedafricaname1527]

Makayla Hairston ikr!! like I bet you if our hair was straightened to the fullest compacity, we would have longer hair

[@Cosmicalien3748]

+Proud Curly Haired African American Yeah IKR!!! I have having african hair the struggle us real

[@SherrinaSoto]

My favourite is when they ask "How do you brush your hair?" hahahaha please with a brush like everyone else!

[@xxxxjuanitaxxx8942]

You forgot about the "Why do talk like a white girl?" comment! It's not my fault I was raised in the suburbs. It's not my fault that I've read books on multiple occasions. Or that English was/is my favorite subject. PLEASE don't ask me that!

[@teegraciela]

+xxxxJuanitaxxx i JUST did a video on this- about being an "Oreo"

[@j.elizabeth9252]

Same here.

[@jadee4135]

xxxxJuanitaxxx oh my god yessss

[@tekcomics]

Amen and hallelujah! I feel this pain. The salons for me & my daughters are problems. Small butt, full lips, can't dance. Been there, done that. Nice to know we aren't alone.

[@beautibabe]

I love the part where you said those hairstylist have never seen a kink, broke a comb, or know what a nap is...you got a point tho but that part was just funny to me

[@teegraciela]

+Bambi16J Johnson lol! Am I lying though?

[@Nohemiebkm]

Loved the video!! A few things that also irritate the crap out of me is when 1) people think that since you're the only black girl in the class, you represent the entire black community, ugh! 2) because of the lack of representation in entertainment, since you're black, they think that you've done it all: smoke, had sex, gone to jail or other stuff along the lines. 3) when others get offended because you called them out on a racist comment, -.-! Like, can you let me live a peaceful life, please? Anyways, these struggles will keep on making us stronger & wiser!

[@teegraciela]

+Nohémie OMG how did I miss these?!?! Excellent observation! I used to be asked if I had ever been shot before 😑

[@MetalShowgirl]

PREACH! The struggle is real and other people can't even begin to know just how real it is.

[@ana-qt9sd]

them: why do you talk so proper me: why wouldn't I just because I'm black doesn't mean I can't use my manners or speak correct grammar we dont always use slang you know

[@millicathomas7948]

Why am I now finding this? 😂😂 girl I love you and as a black woman myself, I can relate on some of these. Seriously this deserves more views.

[@teegraciela]

+A little bit of Namjoon and a lot of Rap Monster awww thanks!! SHARE THE VIDEO IF YOU LIKE IT💗💗

[@kaylaprince6576]

You are soooooo funny, I was dead. "Your hairstylist has never seen a kink, has never broke a comb, don't know what a nap is." I'm am too done omg 😂😂😂😂

[@teegraciela]

+Kayla Prince lol! Where is the lie though! Hahaha!!

[@bianca5945]

bruh people just expect me to have that perfect body, big boobs big butt... like chill

[@josiejeanlouis5192]

my favorite was the angry black girl and not being able to find a good hair dresser.👏👏💓💓

[@teddyfenelon3766]

your not alone. us black girl/woman community stands with you because we have a great understanding. you explain it SO well.

[@YeahIGotNuthin]

My butt is small 😒😒😒 Tired of people telling me that......bro I know lol I freaking know!!!! I totally felt ya on that one lol

[@teegraciela]

+YeahIGotNuthin I had pancakes til I got fat a few years ago. I know you're struggle. I just enjoyed my slim trip size 4 life in peace.

[@YeahIGotNuthin]

+SomewhereAlways Tee I know....and every tike you feel extra good about yourself, some jerk has to remind you that you aint got no butt lol

[@geegeebabymindcrack]

I just feel like I relate with you on a spiritual level right now honestly I've unintentionally sat here at 4 in the morning and watched all of your videos

[@teegraciela]

+Gianna Ward lmfaoooooooo!!! Thanks girl! I appreciate it! #SoulSistas

[@homebody5549]

I subscribed before the vid even ended! Black girl living in Europe and knowing EXACTLY WHAT UP! You a real MVP for putting it in words sistah! # Netherlands

[@teegraciela]

+Halleluyah Odetola-Benjamin lol! Thanks for subscribing! Living in the Netherlands? What's that like??

[@reggiBB]

FAVORITE KZbinr right now because you are so real, and honest, and not afraid to voice your opinion even though some people may consider it unpopular. You say what I'm feeling and what I want other black women who are KZbinrs to say but they pretend that it's fine. I know the struggle girl! I understand the makeup one, but I live in the Caribbean so almost everyone is black (African or Indian or Amerindian) so that's what's catered for

[@teegraciela]

+reggiBB Awww thanks! I'm full of unpopular opinions man. Lol! And yeah I'm certain being in the Caribbean you have NO makeup issues... LUCKY!

[@sumeyatategami5121]

Girl i feel you. Like i am so tired off when people ask me " Is that your real hair?" and when they say dumb shit like " But you are not black bc your skin is lighter and you are brown"

[@teegraciela]

Sumeya Tategami half my KZbin comments involve hair. I could be talking about super serious topics but no one listens smh lol

[@caramelash88]

Girlll...I HOLLERED!! This video had me crying with laughter per usual...OMG you remind me so much of myself its sickening...great video!

[@steper471]

I agree with all of this, I can't find a hairdresser, and no I'm not angry. Wish people understood that though.

[@samfishy9116]

Effiecacious94 you not black????

[@lylmysstalented753]

"Has never broken a comb!!" 😂😂😂😂Love love love your candidness! I just subscribed! I been living in Vietnam for over a year, and traveling consistently 8 months prior. I relate to all these! I just told my dad the other day about the Black Girl Struggle! I have comments about my curly eyebrows when I go to have them done. It's a different world! ❤❤❤

[@teegraciela]

+Jasmine Gilliam curly eyebrows? Whaaat? That's the one body part I thought was universal.

[@jessybradine4102]

I feel you!! I LIVE INBrazil /I've been there. *Finding a good hair Salon *Way too dark ,or tooo red or tooo ashy + sometimes way too light (powders, foundations and concealers)

[@MissAdaB]

I feel you soooo hard on the tanning situation. My friend and I went on a cruise and the sun was beaming gloriously so we decided to tan. All the eyes were on us bc we were the only chocolate chips out there. They just didn't understand.

[@ayoolaogundeyin5001]

you are so right about that tanning thing i mean it's funny that someone disses you for been black and then goes out to tan their skin

[@v0calbeatzlaughs]

This needs to go viral. Everything you said was the truth! Yet people (especially in America) act like our women don't go through anything more severe than the average American woman. 😒😒😒 Love your videos!!!

[@teegraciela]

+v0calbeatzlaughs I actually just discussed this (on a more serious note) with a Black man on fb who even after I explained the very real dangers and trials of being a black woman- said he needs a list to understand what's so difficult. Paragraph form apparently wasn't enough. A.BLACK.MAN. *sigh*

[@v0calbeatzlaughs]

+SomewhereAlways Tee See, ugh lawd...you da real one for trying to talk some sense into him cuz I'm running out of energy to preach the same damn sermon to everybody...As a black man, I wanna apologize on behalf of all dumb ass black men for not valuing our beautiful women, especially since we are we in the same boat (only with being black obviously) and out of everybody, we should be the first to understand!!!

[@teegraciela]

+v0calbeatzlaughs I had to walk away and preserve my edges man lol. We are in the same boat by black women often fight their battles solo. *sigh*

[@risanekta1245]

+SomewhereAlways Tee he probably needed bullet points :/ but honestly loved everything you said! calling my booty a she from now on lmao XD

[@lilybrown4188]

I love everything you said. I'm black and Hispanic and I get the struggles that my women of color go thought.

[@CaseyA0812]

Girl you were snapping. I couldn't agree more with what you said. Not to mention the whole "you don't sound black" or "you talk white" 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@jule12ify]

Your videos are always so on point and you're very well spoken! Yass rep for us black girl 🙌🏽

[@NHARVdotcom]

"i am just about tired of it." yes, yes and yes.

[@chr4cles]

And they over here telling me what hair texture I have when I specifically told them that I have very kinky, tight curl, 4c hair

[@teegraciela]

xXMONÀExX Ya Girl omg THE worst!

[@chundabrantley2640]

OMG Girl! I'm an Texan, Afro-Latina Panamanian too. I'm in the IT field and I totally understand! I have so many different stereotypes thrown at me, MAN!! TY for making this video.😁

[@LAtttiful]

Girllll you shouldve known damn well that wasnt your color lolol

[@michel4938]

Loved your video and how you said so much of what had been in my mind but have never felt like I've been able to say out loud. Thank you for being so honest and real about what's right and what's wrong with the way society treats black girls right now.

[@teegraciela]

+Michelle Girata I'm glad you enjoyed it! I was actually nervous that people would think it's too serious and wouldn't be able to relate. Luckily I was wrong!

[@michel4938]

The topic you discussed of the struggles black girls face is real and serious but in my opinion you approached it very well and conveyed it in the perfect way. Im anxiously waiting for more videos from you! ❤️

[@Yinskiiii]

You are hilarious!! 😊

[@JulianaKayG]

This video deffo spoke to me in all those aspects during the different times I've spent abroad, I just got back from a year abroad in Latin America, and one thing that did always annoy me was the fact that people always assumed that I'd be great at dancing because I'm black, especially my host mum who would always make a point of mentioning that mi "gente tiene swing", it is a lot of pressure really. You also reminded me of when people actually ask me why I use sun cream and whether I tan (funny enough a mixed-raced friend (half black)) asked me that.

[@teegraciela]

+JulianaKayG people are soooo annoying! LET.ME.LIVE.

[@freezice]

When you mentioned being comodified it reminded me of the song "White Privilege I" & "II" from Macklemore and Ryan Lewis. Good video!

[@teegraciela]

+freezice I heard one of those. Can't remember which. It was cool of him to acknowledge our plight.

[@KhadijahInspires]

loved this. Speak your truth queen !

[@BambyGurrl]

no joke. the struggle is real. i get judged so much for everything and anything because im a woman of color. from me loving Sailor Moon to the fact i dont have weave or corn roles. just let me be me. LOVE YOUR VIDS ❤

[@teegraciela]

+BambyGurrl they're dumb. lol I need to start watching Sailor Moon I want to know which Sailor Soldier is my spirit animal. Any thoughts? Lol

[@its_a_myday_thing]

the struggle is real I have never even been to a hair salon I break a comb in my hair every other month and I'm tired of people asking me why I put oil in my hair people touch my hair without asking then they asked me why I get so mad

[@KensGems8955]

OK so this is my first ever comment on KZbin and I been watching videos for more than ten years!! Your energy is so vibrant that I had to stop by and say thank you. Your essence is intoxicating and feels good to watch. Sorry you have felt the way you have on all those trips you been on solo dolo but just think you have all those places you liked so when that person comes along in the future and you all find yourselves in of the many places you have been you have gem to share. I know alot people benefit from the truth and the strength you have and share we us all online and in person. Your day is coming where someone will be giving to you. Blessings and comfront I offer to you with my energy and desire for you to be happy. I am planning to visit Japan with a friend in Oct and looking forward to seeing if the things you and others have said about that part of the world is true and I was already planning how I would react if I get the chance to see someone black. Hopefully they will be as cool as you are and if not oh well I have been around them my whole life so it wouldn't matter all that much. I'm lying I may have to let them know don't do that shit! I really am going to see if I come across someone very melanated need to start not saying black ....I will leave that alone but I hope my short trip yields me some wonderful memories and one step closer to going on a dream trip of hitting up Accra, Ghana but hey I got a travel buddy that has been to JP several times and willing to show me around, so it should be fun.

[@teegraciela]

+those070 B Japan was actually really great! I hope your trip is amazing! I may do a video on it but I didn't vlog enough- holding a camera is skressful!

[@AyakSors]

Lol, this is the new year and you've just made a new subscriber. all of these are SOOO true!

[@AshleyKristineEsseya]

I totally feel you on all of these things especially the dancing one lol

[@njeridiva85]

preach sister!

[@justice6858]

Girrrrrl I hate when people look at me so hard in the storeeeeee

[@xxLilly05xx]

3:10 This truth right here 😍

[@servantrose]

I love this! so real. YES I CANNOT find a hairdresser for my natural (born like this) hair. You said so many things on point. I don't wear makeup but yes I know it's a struggle.

[@MariyahinLondon]

Brown girl here, but I totally feel you on the struggle with tanning :( I just want my legs to match my hands/face but somehow that's weird to people? o_o

[@teegraciela]

+Mariyah Nazir (Mari) is that too much to ask?! Being one tone *sigh* the joys (and curses) of excessive melanin production!

[@mercymawire2141]

this is one of the best videos I've seen, so relatable

[@robbriannatennant8603]

ur right about every thing here. lol my lips are big to and i go through that same thing with the lips. its sooo annoying.

[@efurubrewer5029]

Omg honestly I was die laughing to this bc it's like u didn't hold back on what u were saying so it made it actually interesting and relatable 😂😂💕

[@virginiavaughan7176]

i subscribed 7 seconds into the video 😩😂🍫🍫 black girls rock.

[@teegraciela]

+virginia v lol! Thanks!

[@kiwaller88]

I'm tired of being asked if I'm mixed because my hair is soft

[@Juicycity2]

Had to pause the video to comment omg I fell on the floor with the picture of the foundations 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the struggle

[@teegraciela]

+Juicycity2 #StruggleCity

[@naiomalopesdesa2401]

I just have to say I'm a black girl and the struggle is real. People are always touching my hair (a reason you forgot FYI not trying to be rude) and ya it's just so annoying! 🙄

[@solar8569]

the hair struggle is real

[@FaithL05]

thank you!!!.... there are too many black girl struggles to list.... I amm beyond tired

[@teegraciela]

+faith elle yeah girl!! The list is soooooo long

[@kaygbo8919]

Say it girl....You nailed it! Thanks

[@nicolesnotebook]

YES GIRL 😩👏🏾✨ to everything.

[@nkirukaj2384]

I love the use of the term "unequivocally" 😄

[@ThatBelleStyle]

Awesome video! T, you are hilarious. I cried real tears at Centaur and 50 inch butt! As real as our struggle is, I wouldn't be anyone else. Here's One: The absurd thought that speaking properly means we are trying to be "white".

[@sxx9275]

"sis stop, we can't take it. it hurts." 💀💀💀💀

[@bftscgirl1977]

I was totally with you until you got to the tanning part. I am already melaninated so there is no need for me to toast and roast in the sun, but if I did I would just be getting darker not getting a tan. Semantics I guess. I do love your videos keep up the good work.

[@teegraciela]

+Rahshedah that's the exact definition of tanning as a verb- to become brown. I become a darker shade of brown. I love getting darker in the summer. Give me a nice chocolate cocoa brown any day!

[@MiaCarter7]

I don't like how society always compares non-Black women to us, claiming they are more beautiful. We also get left out a lot in the media especially when it comes to portrayals of innocence, femininity, beauty, main love interests , etc. That issue also carries over to other countries unfortunatly. Gosh and then being darker skined is a battle against people of other races and intraracially.

[@blackrabbit2282]

Here's a struggle I have as a black girl... when I take pictures you either can't see me in it because I'm blacked out or when I use flash I get completely whited out. it sucks

[@nkreseknowledge2241]

Yes!!!! I love this!! Thank you Beautiful!!!! I support you

[@pandaluvr]

You just made my whole day ❤ thank you

[@GRACEFS1]

Girl, I enjoyed this video and just because we don't walk around with that fake-ass smile, we are angry black women When you mentioned commoditized, look here, its stealing ------ before they can have something its wrong and ugly; but in the back of there heads they are trying to figure out how to get it, as soon as they can get it------ its wonderful. Coconut oil was one such thing before it was not good for you, coconut oil was advertised as causing high cholesterol now its a superfood

[@KrisandAurelia]

Also, 'I don't want cancer' I can't! 😂

[@Schubert34]

this video is amazing, I especially agree with the dancing part

[@alaynam2530]

When ppl always always touch your hair without asking

[@Aamr1827]

When people be like “can I touch your hair, it looks so pretty!”

[@MsKeelyKat13]

1. I can dance but only because I've practiced hard since I LOVE dance 2. I hardly get angry and no one has ever seen me at my worst, I'm too generous with my kindness 3. It's so hard to find makeup and I'm not that dark. As a mixed girl, my undertone is freaking weird and I can't find a shade the will blend properly 4. I have...somewhat of a butt but I hate having a big butt. WHY do people like that? You can barely find jeans that fit! 5. I've hated my hair since 2nd grade when my mom started straightening it and I've worn it straight for 7 years nearly everyday. I'm accepting it now 6. Stereotyping black/half black girls is wrong. Don't get shocked that my dad is as white as a sheet of paper bc bitch I AM FREAKING TAN, not dark chocolate (yum lol) 7. I don't wear braids haha 8. I have average white girl lips...from my dad 9. I look burnt if I get too much sun....lmao I can't tan or I get sunburnt and plus, nothing wrong with skin color but, I don't want darker skin. The thing I hate the most IS! Just because I am [half] black, does NOT mean I say n***a. Does NOT mean I smoke weed or can rap OR only date black guys. I've actually never dated a black guy and haven't been interested in a black guy yet. I have the laugh/singing voice of a white girl because I AM HALF WHITE. Even if I was fully black, this stereotyping shit needs to stop.

[@keturahox7742]

Haha I relate to this so much! You're so funny I love your videos😂 Definitely subscribing

[@teegraciela]

+Khamya Keturah thanks for the support!

[@samiratastic]

I LOVEEEE your sense of humour!!!!!!

[@kalady3671]

there's this girl who's real mean to me one time she cut in front of me and called me a black rat really? why would you call someone that all she was doing is trying to make me mad so I would fight her but I'm not gonna do that also I struggle with you somewherealways

[@Blakberi73]

Loved it! Loved this! And yes, people are fucking stupid. Those people watching you tan were jealous that you can get more brown. When wearing foundation, go with your gut and trust it.

[@Appollochan]

I feel you on each and every point!

[@jiji1241]

You know how you get you hair done and you're looking gorgeous af n suddenly everybody wanna touch your hair n ruin it like noooo keep your hands to yourself

[@NewBeginningsAJourneyofFaith]

I agree 100% minus the make up part since i don't wear it. People look at me mad crazy when i go tanning. Um i am a woman of the sun and my skin illuminates and charges from it, therefore, i am about to lay my black ass in the sun. As for the "angry" stereotype, i am a quiet person and people think i'm angry. If we're loud, we're angry, if we're quiet we're angry. The absolute fuck? Like have several seats. Yassss though for this video!

[@teegraciela]

+Afro Hippie Vegan this is an excellent explanation "I am a woman of the sun...my skin charges from it". LOVE.IT. Would you mind if I used to to check folks at a later date? Lol

[@NewBeginningsAJourneyofFaith]

+SomewhereAlways Tee go right ahead! Lol

[@EllieStrums]

Yesss! This is everything! Like the sun feels good, it makes me feel good, my skin looks good dark and even and glistening afterwards, I refuse to not go out in the sun just because I am already dark like bye!

[@NewBeginningsAJourneyofFaith]

+Ellie Strums right? Like i love being dark and wouldn't mind being darker.

[@danix454]

Preach! Especially the hair/lips bit.

[@LaBacanitaYaniqueque]

"I mean.. she could use a couple o' squats." had me rolling.

[@teegraciela]

+LaBacanitaYaniqueque I'm saying! They would do her right! Lol

[@jvajvajvajva]

i love this so much and relate to it, you at inspirational , love you Tee❤

[@teegraciela]

+Joyce V.A Awww you're too kind💗

[@carejem]

😂😂😂 has never broken a comb... girl preach

[@akeliawilson6672]

I don't tan cause it feels so painful to me plus I only have to spend 3 mins in the sun to get 5 shades darker and yes I'm black and dark skinned.

[@seriouslystephany]

Every time I get braids and people think my hair grew and I dreded my hair every single time even tho I explained to them that they are briads and I how I did it (experience in Japan)

[@justnice0409]

PLEASE brown girls STOP bashing other brown girls cause they want to relax their hair. Cause natural hair is like raising a FREAKING child and cost just as much as tuition for said child. I don't have time for it. I take care my hair just as much as you do. So, don't feed into the foolishness! We are all good no matter if we natural or relaxed. #justrelax This video was so on time!

[@srowe7897]

I feel you with the tanning!!! I do it so that i'm completely one color, and melanin lacking people always ask with their mouth open like "WHY????" like I should be avoiding the sun at all cost... Sorry, I'm not sorry I actually like being dark, I like being black, problem? It's sad that many hate being just a little dark.

[@teegraciela]

+S Rowe hahaha it's happened accidentally one summer and since then I like the transformation into a mocha goddess! I think they want us to hate blackness so they can't understand is wanting to be darker.

[@srowe7897]

+SomewhereAlways Tee the sun is a natural tone corrector, I really need black ppl to stop with the bleaching cream... The self hate is so real out here in the south. The slave worth based on skin tone is still very prominent!

[@srowe7897]

+SomewhereAlways Tee the sun is a natural tone corrector, I really need black ppl to stop with the bleaching cream... The self hate is so real out here in the south. The slave worth based on skin tone is still very prominent!

[@TheLavenderPodcast]

This is one of the reasons why I haven't started wearing makeup and I am 18!!

[@teegraciela]

+Amariah marsie don't let that stop you. If you want makeup, test some out. (Smashbox 15 hour got some good brown non-red tones + Fenty beauty)

[@TheLavenderPodcast]

SomewhereAlways OK Thanks!!!

[@legenden1252]

That one girl in my school keeps asking me everyweek how I wash my hair like guurrl im washing it likr everyone else

[@niruyagami5109]

im so here for this

[@siennaa.5123]

This is so funny! I relate to all of these as well!!! New Subscriber.

[@angelluv7223]

Hmm people say I have kylie jenener lips but there just big and plump cause I'm black

[@teegraciela]

ANGEL LUV poke them in the eye

[@joliearytravels]

😭 " their skin is like sis you need to stop"

[@jordyntichenor352]

I'm binge watching all of your vids and I just love how real you are !!! I just followed you on snapchat!

[@teegraciela]

+Jordyn Tichenor thanks sweetie💗💗

[@purpleguddess]

thumbs up i feel ya (except for the tanning) these people dont understand the daily struggle.

[@teegraciela]

+purpleguddess they don't understand... AT.ALL.

[@wadek798]

Absolutely loved this video!

[@maiababyy]

Bless!!!!! Not a lie was told in this video!

[@teegraciela]

+Maia Broussard not.a.single.one.

[@WolfCien]

Yo I just found your page and sis we are friends in my head lmao.. i was dying all through the truths in this!

[@teegraciela]

+Winter Selah LOL! Thanks dear!!! You know, I hear this a lot "friends in my head". There's so many of us 😂😂. I've gotta coordinate something this summer to try to unite all of us pretty, witty girls LOL