7 Reasons Why We Hate Ourselves

Why do we hate ourselves? Why is it so hard for some of us to just let ourselves be happy? To feel like we're good enough and that we deserve to have our dreams come true? Self-loathing is defined as hatred for oneself that may manifest as anger, self-sabotage, and low self esteem. If this sounds like you and you want to learn more about why, here are some of the most common reasons why you may hate yourself.
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Writer: Chloe Avanasa
Script Editor: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Naphia
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[@Psych2go]

Who here hates themselves? Raise your hand T_T.

[@cloudyxclaw1686]

me ;-;

[@keitacakes]

the only time i'll ever raise my hand is for this

[@TeeSilvera]

I’m not sure

[@rii2800]

Mehhh

[@keitacakes]

stop hating yourself

[@aliciadeleseleuc]

Summary: - you had a bad childhood - you had a hard time at school - you struggle with past trauma - you feel disconnected - you don’t have social support - you’re always comparing yourself to others - you have a negative self-concept

[@lemoncardboard3270]

Alicia de Leseleuc thank you so much

[@Littlemilkdud]

@@everafter2611 how are they ruining everything?

[@x_itzliana_x4324]

@@everafter2611 no u

[@kermity_lmao]

yeesh, i apply to all of these.

[@ak47tg93]

@@everafter2611 watch the video before reading the comments

[@The.Queen.Cat.]

Number one reason: you told the waiter "you too" when she said enjoy your meal

[@ellielovealtman8948]

Number two reason: you said “you too” when your friend told you to have a happy birthday.

[@chloema9616]

@@ellielovealtman8948 Flashback of Frank James’ birthday video XD

[@moonmoon2479]

@@ellielovealtman8948 I do that all the time,

[@ellielovealtman8948]

@@moonmoon2479 oh wow

[@soobtonin_]

Thank you for making me laugh :’)

[@bule_blossom0863]

*7* reasons why we hate ourselves *there’s more*

[@dsyrdragon3309]

One sec gotta count Somewhere between 27 and 42

[@3eyeduser]

@@dsyrdragon3309 yes

[@OnlyBTSforlife]

@@dsyrdragon3309 for me it's 100 or more

[@brokenskull7455]

@@dsyrdragon3309 umm I can’t count how many

[@janewick509]

There's more?

[@seungmongi]

Read the title and instantly knew this is gonna be me

[@Darcactusofficial]

Hehe same

[@James51525]

*Hehe* samee

[@sadclam1881]

Hehe same

[@sabrinacollard8077]

Yep same

[@avserenity7240]

Hope things get better for you ❤️

[@purplex360]

Us: I hate myself. Psych2Go: *Understandable, here's why you think so. Have a great day.*

[@ahhwe-any7434]

*Psych2go* : this is why you hate yourself *Me* : the f? I dont hate myself. & You know, to be some "psychological self help thing" theyre awfully harming to ones soul. Welp, at least theres no way ironic, tunnel syndrome, one sided, self defeaters wont come on this video, trolling ppl, talking about , "they just need validation, are seeking attention, & dont know sh about themselves... " *What the world thinks...* : shes lonely, & she spends her days comparing herself with the rest of the world. I mean, could you blame her? We're really charming. She fills her head w/ basic consumer trends, wishing she could amount to them. She feels like an outsider & could only wish to look like kim k. She dies for the sense of community... Bc group thinking nurtures her freedom, independence, & allows room for growth. & Its not that everyone else is delusional, its that shes delusional. I mean, look at her shes alone. If only she would listen to my burdens, & baggage, shed realize, shes not alone. *Me* : in short, could you just go away? Like it took time for me to try & be creative to come up w/ whatever about what other ppl r up to. Could u just go get laid or some sh? I mean, idk. Go do something.

[@BloomTotallyHere]

@@ahhwe-any7434 woah woah calm down O.O

[@danganronpaxoxo7201]

@@ahhwe-any7434 Chill down dude, no need to be serious in this video, this video teaches us why we hate ourselves.

[@vampire_6]

@@ahhwe-any7434 who hurt you?

[@ballonstudios7799]

@@ahhwe-any7434 jesus christ-

[@SuperWiiBros08]

I always lacked so much social support from friends and is been hitting me hard

[@ansh_pannu4927]

😟.... same

[@mmm-ei3yi]

same

[@whateversinmymind5644]

I pretend that I have friends

[@ThatShitGood]

Same...i'm just always the "forgotten" one when it comes out to hangouts, no matter that even i've been friend with them much longer that the time they know those peopel who hangout with, it's like i'm the black backgrounded people in their mind who they prefer to contract less with, i'm 21 and it sucks.

[@squirrelbear6982]

Same, it fucking sucks

[@ZorbianYT]

I’ve hated my self cause of my self-hatred, embarrassing myself, not doing anything right, feel like I’m just a mistake and I’m just down right mean to people for no reason I feel like I wasn’t meant to be born in this world I feel bad for my mom and for my family that do everything for me but I just re-pay them with nothing I am such a horrible person

[@JoeMama-kd9bh]

I feel the same bro

[@ronimydear98]

Same lol

[@Greentea0083]

SAMMEEEEEE

[@deepitkujur5486]

Same

[@ronweasley4767]

It’s a terrible feeling

[@skittle-chan1628]

I hate myself because: -I always give up -always do embarrassing things -annoying -has social anxieties -not good at anything -Im the worst -unlucky -crazy -weird Everyone around me is fine they’ve been good to me but myself nahh

[@sme138]

Bruh are you my twin cuz SAMEE

[@ellielovealtman8948]

Same..

[@isabelleborja1066]

I guess where just a pathetic human beimg who cant do a single thing right we just mess up

[@skittle-chan1628]

@@isabelleborja1066 like you wanna bring yourself up but yourself also says nah

[@meowvo]

Ahhh i have a new twinnnn. Now im happy:D i just hate myself when im 6

[@MrJoon360]

Who needs enemies when you have yourself?

[@m00_n26]

That’s BS

[@ironbeanitsnotamistake6652]

My dad: *drinks vodka* My dad in next day: *uses medic that makes u dont drink vodka thats good*

[@ship_sickly4119]

I have 2 enemys myself and João

[@onyxlotus7126]

Or so called "friends & family"

[@namelessmefacelessyou2138]

Bro this is so me

[@bradbrad7968]

i just hate myself for all the things i’ve done in my past it really messes with me and i think it’s extremely hard to cope sometimes when you don’t have any social interaction

[@Greentea0083]

SAME!!

[@Emilieyes]

Same girl my whole life has been an embarrassment and I’m the weirdest most depressing, yet annoying person alive yk?

[@kyssssssss]

i sabotage every good opportunity that comes my way because i always feel like i don’t deserve it and that im not good enough. really sad

[@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385]

Same.

[@thesaddestdude3575]

Hey its okay, atliest you are pretty! But otherwise same

[@mahmudhasanrana9575]

Edit : Okay, I just edited the comment , because that was really getting uncomfortable and stressful after a while. But I did appreciate those who commented. It felt nice . Edit : tysm for 1k . I have never had so many likes before :D

[@palashneema4855]

Mahmud Hasan Rana no

[@mariolumbanraja8276]

Your thinking pattern is too extreme chile, if you don't change it u can't get the help u need

[@optillian4182]

"3. I trust people too easily" "4 . I never trust people" ? ? ?

[@kaishatumangger6319]

@@optillian4182 weirdly I understand it

[@jarydperez2952]

@@kaishatumangger6319 yeah

[@auroraastarr]

When you can relate to all the reasons- Me: *laughing and crying simultaneously*

[@blacklightboy3671]

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

[@silver_things4064]

That's my entire fricking life-

[@udayayadav547]

Ss I relate to the whole video

[@Mizukisupremaxy]

So let’s see -check (you’ll see) -check (bullied) -check (one of my parents died when I was 6) -check -check -check -check Also everyone I know is too ignorant to ever notice that maybe I’m not enjoying myself, that maybe I can’t do things as well as them because I can’t just can’t.

[@aqvanii]

When you relate to all, but don‘t hate yourself: 👁👄👁 But i do have self-doubt sometimes, i think that‘s normal

[@codeman7055]

I hate myself. I have no idea why. I just feel like I don't deserve anything in my life. The only thing I could obtain and accept was having value for living. Beyond that I'm in the dark.

[@user-ls8cj9sd7o]

🫂

[@nanami_akumudeadchannel7115]

“7 reasons why we hate ourselves” Girl why you gotta rat me out like this-

[@keitacakes]

1. You had a bad childhood - 0:44 2. You had a hard time at school - 1:23 3. You struggle with past trauma - 1:42 4. You feel disconnected - 2:15 5. You don't have social support - 2:56 6. You're always comparing yourself to others - 3:29 7. You have a negative self-concept - 4:03

[@egg6944]

Tqqq

[@egg6944]

This is so helpful

[@lemoncardboard3270]

Oml thank you so much!!!

[@James51525]

Have a good day/night stay safe kind stranger.❤

[@robbirob557]

Thanks pal.

[@nadiadarwish82]

I think another reason someone might hate themselves is feeling a lack of control. Where things get so overwhelming. So you just want to give up and hate yourself for not doing better or being able to handle whatever it is.

[@Ryuuzaki145]

That. I felt that

[@NuhaAnimasi]

@@Ryuuzaki145 Same.

[@MegaAlsf]

Yep

[@CoachDavidAdes]

feeling overwhelmed by negative emotions on a frequent basis is a symptom of what's called dysregulated emotions. It's a symptom of a negative inner critic, a weak "true" self, and some other, more complicated things. growing your true self until you have the strength to meet your emotions head on is the answer. it's a long, difficult journey. but it's possible kzbin.info/www/bejne/f5zQg5uPi9yffpI

[@xmaskedartistx]

So, everything? Not being able to handle anything because of how pathetic and retarded I am?

[@ThexSpiral]

I feel like the reason I hate myself is because I don't feel like I deserve to be happy or have anything good. I feel like I don't deserve to like myself.

[@jackyspancakebreakfast3701]

do other ppl like\love u? cuz if they do *||AND I KNOW THEY DO HUN||* its because u deserve it. or its unconditional love and that even better if u ask me. i dont know why u think u dont deserve your love but whatever it is, if u wanna talk abt it with some random person u never met and that u will probably never meet but is very supportive and loving im always here for you :) or u can just talk to a professional if u can. thats always better. but if u cant and dont wanna find some other random person the u can try to talk about it with someone u trust. or write it all down in a diary. whatever option that seems better to you. i hope u can overcome it and love yourself ❤

[@sweetdreams1028]

I hate myself -My family's disappointed in me -No matter where I go I just make things worse -I have almost no one left in my life -I'm picky -I can't move past horrible things -And I've never really achieved anything really good in my whole life Sometimes, I feel like just taking myself outta this world would be for the greater good😓...

[@cluntun]

Hm.. are you still alive now? It has been 2 years- ._.

[@sweetdreams1028]

@@cluntun yes. I’m doing a lot better now :)

[@Crystal-Playz-gb5hm]

Me: *gets bullied for no reason* Also me: I hate myself- ALSO me: *thinks about killing the bully*

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Bullies: hey, haha. Im mean. Me: (honestly, youre the most repulsive sh on the outside. & In. You gotta be working w/ something! Its hilarious. _oh be mature, more civil, less barbaric_ ). I dont think youre gonna like the attention ure gonna be receiving from begging for it over there.

[@isabelleborja1066]

@@ahhwe-any7434 They never even know who are they even bullying i have a bully at school now look at him!crying everytime after he bullys me AND IM THE ONE TO BLAME EVERY SINGLE TIME

[@typicalfangirl9891]

XD same but also I scare myself when I think like that

[@CoachDavidAdes]

@@typicalfangirl9891 good. you're smart. it should be a little scary when you realize how you fantasize about expressing your rage/anger/frustration/aggression. It's normal for us to fantasize about things that aren't socially acceptable, but it's not normal for it to happen all the time, control our lives, affect our day-to-day behavior, etc. So while it may be frightening, it's okay if it's not very frequent. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJy7e4h8jMl9e8k

[@Krisztian08]

*Doom music intensifies*

[@gabby3056]

psych2go: why do we hate ourselves? me: Thats a good question... I wasn't... expecting... that question😰

[@fr33kout82]

Um... That emoji looks like an O-face on Android.

[@harderdaddyowo2153]

I'm starting to think Psych2go are reading minds.

[@PancakeTheKat]

I hate myself...😿

[@escapefr0mslender]

I feel so ugly and disgusting i just want to go away

[@xlxcy_edits5731]

I do hate myself. Why, you ask? -I used to be a bully -I always feel awful because of my past mistakes -I always feel constant guilt to those I have hurt in the past -I do have some trauma. My BEST friend moved schools 3 years ago, and it's not the same without her. I used to bully because it made me feel good about myself but now I know it's something terrible to do. I've learned from it now. If you're a bully, please reconsider your actions and ask yourself if its even worth it. Remember that your mistakes exist for a reason. For you to learn and grow to become a better version of yourself

[@shivanikadam8888]

"You might not have social support" Me: *pretends to be surprised* confused Pikachu face

[@Kidflash2323]

Literally just googled “Why do I hate myself?”, opened youtube, and this was in my sub box.

[@cheeseycheezy]

I hope you get to love yourself someday! ^w^

[@bongee7268]

i do this all the time

[@Kidflash2323]

I used to. I don't know what happened.

[@w6rning273]

Welcome hooman, if your brain tells you that you hate yourself just remind yourself that I love you and I dong know you but you are important everyone is...hugss

[@Feber2001]

And it was uploaded fairly recently.. Isn't that crazy?

[@cloudyxclaw1686]

I've had a rough day and I just had a meltdown. My parents just kept on insulting me....oof

[@uncannyonions2691]

Bruh, that sucks. Hope your day gets better and you feel better too!👊💗💗

[@lemoncardboard3270]

Bruh ur great I’m sure it’ll get better :)

[@peytttg_]

Phoenix Lord i hope it gets better ❤️❤️

[@chanhailey7848]

I don't know you, but I wish the best! ❤️❤️From seattle

[@nicolabianchini4875]

Sry to hear. Stay strong I'm praying for you. Hope u have a better day tomorrow🙏🙏

[@attackerstoasdfa]

Why I hate myself: - No friends - Exceedingly unlucky - Bullied - Weird - Almost 0 things I'm good at - I give up - I'm lazy - I (almost) attempted suicide - Nobody understands my situation

[@simbathelion123]

I could totally relate to this so much

[@xxjustanaveragehumanxx3779]

Why You Hate Yourself Me: Because I suck lol

[@CoachDavidAdes]

this is your inner critic. it's like a voice in your head (a part of you) that wants you to feel worthless. it wants you not to live. it wants to make you feel wrong, bad, ashamed, etc., like you are not good enough. it prevents your "true" self from growing, and it prevents you from living your life. your true self needs to grow in strength until it can match the power of the inner critic kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJy7e4h8jMl9e8k

[@emmacroker5603]

Everyone in my school is prettier than me lol

[@MrJoon360]

I don't hate myself, I just like myself as a friend.

[@avserenity7240]

😂😂😂

[@foreveruseless1292]

Friendzoned? Uh, I selfzoned?

[@StrangerE0ns]

@@foreveruseless1292 *im in the me zone*

[@moonmoon2479]

I guess you have it better. I hate myself and I know it’s justified. What I wouldn’t give to be someone else. Maybe then I could be better for the people around me.

[@robertloerwald3]

@moon Change. Be better for the people around you. And for yourself. By being accountable

[@revzoom]

Youguys have helped me so much love youuu even if i dont myself!

[@egg6944]

:'0

[@dorisbeckman8664]

I still dont understand why people think they dont like themselves? I grow up from a dysfunction family myself ...I don't just get it?

[@zttz]

Right now go listen to « can I get an amen » by rupaul! That’s an order!

[@dorisbeckman8664]

@@zttz Thank you....These girls are out of this world 🙄

[@suktadas9737]

They helped me recognize it and music helped me express it, I am happier now with a better meaning

[@earthwormsally368]

It’s not that my parents are toxic, it’s that i never had any exciting moments in my life.

[@Kiio_io]

Today I'm just a child but I feel like I have most of these problems and I went through a toxic relationship with me "friend" that set me to pieces and I'll never forget that

[@lorainebejar2837]

Bad childhood I think is the worst, because most likely the child who experienced it doesn't have a choice and after that bad experience they will question everything. They will blame their selves. And childhood trauma is hard to heal because it's already within you for so many years. If I have one wish, that is to heal the inner child of everyone who had bad experience. I pray everyone is starting their journey to healing. 🙂🙏💞

[@SRHisntSilent]

Thanks for this 🤗 hope you're continuing on your healing journey 🖤

[@no-wd5nk]

does hearing your parents fight a lot count as childhood trauma? or is it nothing and it's normal for every parent to fight or argue?

[@phenitagomes1292]

@@no-wd5nk good question. I would like to know this too.

[@hypert1253]

😄👌

[@Qvts.spr1te]

@@no-wd5nk it depends if your parents fight often then mabye but if they dont often fight then i dont think so but im not 100% sure just my thoughts

[@tanishan3254]

How should we react when we find out that a person who showed themselves to be very confident and filled with self-love turns out to be very insecure and filled with self-hatred on the inside? Without making them feel worse

[@luckyduchesse8924]

Maybe compliment the person? Keep your comments positives. I mean, just genuine compliments can help a lot

[@LuanaJantz]

@@luckyduchesse8924 Being kind.

[@mediocregamer2484]

Personally, I enjoy little, genuine compliments more than over the top ones. Trying too hard to push a compliment can come off as sarcastic and ingenuine. I enjoy giving deep compliments more so than surface level compliments. For instance, I try to compliment on peoples personalities, the way they laugh, birthmarks, mannerisms, etc. Things they're born with or developed over time that are hard to change. Chances are, if they view it negatively, they may feel like they're stuck with it as opposed to accepting that part of themselves. This is just my 2 cents tho

[@lachimolalagoeson5089]

i💜u Army.

[@goldenmomentz6582]

You should go to him stare at his face and say I understand what your going through it will all be better and give hin the biggest warnest most loving hug you could possibly give and then tell him in here for you if you wna talk

[@iiiiiiii6228]

*I thought moving out from home heading to college would change my life, but the only thing that changed was moving away from my family, doing everything for myself and paying bills. It has been 5 years since i set foot in this foreign country for the first time, I learnt the local language, restarted high school, graduated, and now in college. Not what i expected my life would be. I have been feeling lonely ever since i got here, it got worse after moving out. I literally punch myself to sleep. Existing is so excruciating for me. I wish i had a switch to turn my conscience off. I think dead people are lucky, i look forward to death, and i hope there is no existence else where after death, i want nothing to do with existing, just like before i was conceived.*

[@Innominates]

Some times I feel the same, I want life to end. I want death and the rest that comes with it, but then I remember the little things. I remember how beautiful the sky is in fall or a random bird outside my window. The smile of a stranger and the warmth of the sun. I don't want to forget the smell of fresh bread, the colors of a flower, or the heavenly sound of music. Maybe death will be nice, I don't know. I'm just going to try my hardest to love the life I have.

[@ronimydear98]

Hey are you still alive

[@ts25679]

I love loads of things about myself, the problem is that almost all of those points aren't valued by anyone else. It turns out that if I were the exact opposite I would have all the things I've ever wanted, only, I wouldn't want them anymore.

[@l4dinfected1]

I’m always comparing myself to others :( I don’t know how to stop

[@HeronCoyote1234]

I have this quote on my refrigerator: “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” -Steven Furtick

[@l4dinfected1]

@@HeronCoyote1234 I really like that quote ♥️

[@jackyspancakebreakfast3701]

compare others to yourself. if its a video game ur really good at or u can play an instrument or draw real nice- whatever it is. can they do it too? can they really do it better than u? i dont think so. you're awesome man. never forget it.

[@pharoh67]

Same

[@Alice_gallaxy]

Me to i allways compare myself to their life and looks😞

[@priyanshu3162]

It feels better when there are no dislikes.

[@theultimateshadowgunmercen751]

There is 1 now unfortunately

[@user-hu4cp7mw3u]

@@theultimateshadowgunmercen751 Yeah that's bad...

[@iforgorowl7590]

😔👊

[@priyanshu3162]

@@theultimateshadowgunmercen751 haters are everywhere.

[@prativaray1054]

2 dislikes 😭

[@artvision2175]

Now i know why i have this feeling... Happiness comes from the inner core not people they cant make us feel good

[@maytalacedo2942]

- my parents were too strict and emotionally neglectedful and abusive - was bullied by my preschool teacher for being different and humiliated me infront of all classmates my age, later was bullied in elementary School to middle school -I couldn't feel normal because of how i get punished constantly when it cames out of nowhere - i couldn't connect with friends i wanted because of my mother sheltered me isolated me for the rest of my life - I was there for my friends but never there for me and even when i told them they tried to "fixed" me and think it's good to accept "abuse" -I compared myself because my mom letured me to say to care about what other people think and always be ashamed of yourself because it's righteous to and that's how i ended up comparing myself to others - I got a negative consept because I was told to my entire life and childhood. Self loathing because I was molded to hate myself by my so called family and it ended up ruined my life as an adult. And now I'm broken entirely and don't know how to get up again.

[@samyukthar8923]

If u are affected by everything = Depression

[@Sam-ko7qi]

Yep

[@PancakeTheKat]

I am depressed and i only have #2, 4, 5, 6, and 7

[@CoachDavidAdes]

depression is just a symptom, of something that's much deeper, much more tragic, and more complicated. it's very, very unlikely that you simply have "depression". what you have is something worse, and one of the symptoms of this thing is depression. Trying to address depression as if it is the only enemy is impossible. There are many reasons for depression, many different possible roots. One cause of depression is having a very strong, very negative inner critic, that prevents you from thinking positively about yourself, prevents you from taking action for yourself, prevents you from being yourself and living your own life. it wants you to think you're worth nothing, you're bad, you should feel ashamed, etc. the answer is to grow the strength of your "true" self, until you can match the power of the inner critic. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJy7e4h8jMl9e8k It's not so important what the names and labels are. What's important is that you can learn to feel different ways, access different emotional states, learn to support yourself, grow, share, express, connect with others, etc.

[@lll-lq4zt]

@Lyfull ok I believe your words saying you don't have depression but have every symptom meaning apparently you hate yourself and have past unresolved trauma? nonetheless how you worded it sounded like only people who have therapist have depression

[@blehp5990]

Ahaha..

[@hahaewno671]

1:31 let's just all ignore that person with a friggin cactus on their head

[@runaway6959]

Lmao nice observation

[@Nick07900]

There was one without a plant on their head- they must feel left out

[@blehp5990]

😂😂

[@afishxd_]

People who call yourself useless like me always remember that...YOU WERE BORN FOR SOMETHING AND YOU ARE NOT USELESS...

[@ronniehicks3258]

I used to be self hating It took becoming a Christian to help me heal and realize an envious relative who tried to harm me caused the helplessness I had felt when my family took their side.

[@ronniehicks3258]

@christine_chan_101 Thank you

[@cellb0tt514]

I remember in my junior year of high school my art teacher had submitted one of my artworks from the previous year to a statewide art competition and I had gotten an award for it. She handed me a ribbon and the whole class congratulated me. I looked at the ribbon and I felt so... empty. After I left the class I threw the ribbon i'd gotten in a trashcan in one of the school bathrooms. I forgot about it but I felt so bad.

[@youtubeuser6725]

I completely relate. I remembet on my last semester in high school my mom told me they're gonna make a party for me. When i heard that, i felt completely disgusted at the idea and told her don't do it. another one is i was procrastinating really hard one day but when i got up and achieved my goals for the day, i didn't feel happy, but I felt that disgust again. After examining this behavior, it turned out to be something called self sabotage. We all have a subconscous threshold of what we feel we deserve (threshold for how people treat us, threshold for productivity and success, etc..). if we pass that threshold, we start feeling that "disgust" and self hate creeps in. The more i let go of these thresholds, the quieter the negative voice got when poeple care about me (like mom) or when i get things done and be productive. It's interesting stuff.

[@Paige-Turnner]

@@youtubeuser6725 what do you mean by thresholds? Like one can only take so much certain treatment from others for so long? One can only be successful to a point? How do you let go of those thresholds? And how do you move past them?

[@youtubeuser6725]

@@Paige-Turnner check out Julien Blanc's videos on self sabotage. That's where I learned all of that

[@foressekeeshjaramillo4783]

You had rough time at school Me whos been bullied since 3 years old and now: interesting.

[@ItsKim_Him]

:(

[@isabelleborja1066]

And if i fight back *IM THE ONE WHOS TO BLAME* *EVERY* *SINGLE* *TIME* im tired of this shit

[@foressekeeshjaramillo4783]

@@isabelleborja1066 same.

[@foressekeeshjaramillo4783]

@@isabelleborja1066 and thats how i became an introvert and having a social anxiety.

[@foressekeeshjaramillo4783]

@@Nick07900 god will be with you so dont be afraid my friend.

[@__-qd7zv]

Man, when they said comparing with others, school, past trauma and childhood,it hits hard for me

[@onyxlotus7126]

This video is ALL me. Been through ALL of this & still struggling with PTSD & depression. Trying my hardest reading books, going to therapy but its hard. I am trying to love myself but it feels impossible. I don't even know what love even looks like because I've never received it.

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

👍The way society tells us to do some things in life, like go to college, get a job, get married and have a good family life. When really some of these things may not be compatible or agreeable with people, but there is a sense of pressure on them from others because of how society has built up certain perceptions. If you don't cave under the pressure, I commend you for you have chosen to follow your own will rather than what others say

[@astoldbynickgerr]

THISS‼️‼️‼️💙🖤💙🖤💙🖤💙🖤

[@astoldbynickgerr]

A big part of why I feel so shitty about the way I do is because it’s “not the way I’m supposed to be living” as in I’m not following the path that’s generally set up for society. And for a lot of it, I don’t want to, but I feel *under* *pResSuRe*. I know I don’t have to feel this way, but it’s easier said than done.

[@w6rning273]

Yeah

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

All the way through High School, there were those teachers who would commend certain students "who marched to a different drum"... THEN they'd get to me, "Who yanked the drum away and smashed it, and then built his OWN drum to march to!" It can be a bit lonely living this way... BUT only occasionally do people ever try asking me things like "Why are you single?" or "When are you going to settle down and get a real job?" or "Have you even seen the inside of a college?" or (a favorite) "Didn't your momma ever teach you...."

[@ahhwe-any7434]

What they think/(hope?) i listen to: cut my life into pieces. This is my last result (why the f do i always confuse result w/ resort in that song?) What randomly pops in my head through out the day: she fn hates me! Trust!

[@thetarotcards1280]

2:52 Psych2Go was not An Imposter (2 Imposters left) Edit: WOAH, thanks for all the likes! Have a great day everyone, or you are sus.

[@kermity_lmao]

made my day a little bit better. ty

[@bhuvaneshsm7341]

Lol

[@silxbeats]

Bruhh

[@monete9]

I thought the same XD

[@user-oc2ub1cy8v]

:-;

[@vaishnavirajagopalan7354]

Yes the thought of healing myself and taking efforts disappears over night..... I keep helping ppl with their emotions and I'm now left out empty 🙂

[@alexdaniel5641]

if you need help go talk to your Friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..

[@jackiechild9740]

After a couple of childhood traumas i was bullied in both primary school and high school, then worked for a narcissist for 12yrs ... it has taken a long time to realise all these things concurrently and combined, reinforced my self hatred for years. It is only now, after many many years that I have started to question the origins of my self hatred... it's a struggle at times but have been trying to work through it... although it is NOT easy! All the best to others in the same head space. You are worth it! 🙂

[@jamienatanielandres1432]

I cry when I feel so sad but while crying I think I don't deserve to cry cause I always think that's it's my fault

[@elliea5088]

me too , there is this song it says if you got to cry let it out if you have to scream let me hear you shout it's okay to let your emotions out it's better it's not your fault that you're sad , the song is believe by safetysuit it really helps me when i'm or others or making me feel ashamed for being upset maybe it can you too

[@kukkeii9768]

I had this same problem. But i thought i was selfish when i cried and that it was my fault that im like this. But i now i think its okey to cry, even if it my fault or if im being selfish. I think its okey to cry, since its the only way we can let out our emotions, and that no one owns crying. If it really hurts it okey to let it out since its the only thing that can help in that moment. And fun fact crying relies some kind of serotonin

[@kukkeii9768]

Just realized i probaly didnt make sense but eh you bet the idea

[@CoachDavidAdes]

your inner critic is too strong. it's negative, and it wants to prevent you from doing anything that's good for you. Even expressing your true emotions is difficult because the inner critic jumps in and criticizes you. It wants you to think you're wrong, you're bad, you're worthless, etc. It prevents your "true" self from showing, growing, connecting, and expressing. Your true self needs to grow in strength until it can match the power of the inner critic kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJy7e4h8jMl9e8k

[@musicaddict1178]

Sometimes I wish I had someone to tell me it’s going to be okay and hug me. But I don’t have that. I have people to hold my hand, but I feel like it never helps. Sometimes I don’t want advice and some telling me,”It happens,” Sometimes I want comfort. I’m a hard person to understand, and I have so many connections as to my I feel this way that it would take weeks to explain.

[@doublev4409]

Ikr? And when you say that to someone that you just need comfort, they're like "well, people are not going to behave just like you want them to." Tf?!

[@musicaddict1178]

@@doublev4409 FR. I’m happy someone could relate!

[@janewick509]

Sends *internet hugs* don't worry about my profile picture. I just think the guy looks hillarious

[@GeckoCraft13]

For me, it's all the labeling. Sometimes I wish I had someone to tell me that everything that's been shoved down my throat about how human nature is supposed to work is BULLSHIT! Different emotional freqiuencies are REAL! I wake up everyday in fear that as soon as someone sees how happy I am due to how detached my sense of identity is from my experiences in life, they'll try to convince me that I have bipolar disorder!

[@chaos1controlchaos264]

The main reason I hate myself is because every time I try to do something I like or choose to show a part of myself out . . . . It just ends up creating a trauma that I would have to live with for eternity I just have so many corrupted thoughts and so many things that are considered wrong that I want to do but . . . Sadly you can't just do them in this world

[@ZaChousenWan]

Really says a lot when I can easily think of the negative things about me and struggle to find the positives.

[@noar2171]

Well well well............ Welcome to Another Episode of "KZbin Knows that your in Pain"

[@argenta7658]

“Does this sound familiar to you?” Well duh, why do you think I’m here?

[@heartairaa]

im surprised by how accurate and relatable this, and actually started crying near the end. i relate to like, 95% of the reasons

[@meidraw1044]

Im so tired, i’m 22 and my self loathing killed any opportunity. I lived in an abusive environment and i can’t help but feel like everything was my fault.

[@stephl7154]

psych2go: you had a bad childhood. me who's still a child who thinks like this: 👁👄👁

[@afellowturtle2119]

I felt that

[@stephl7154]

@@afellowturtle2119 T-T

[@TheAlexiss09]

True

[@Shijimae]

I'm a child to 👁️👄👁️

[@tashicaelwin9558]

Yeah

[@poptartcat1116]

Is it bad that if I hear an adult yelling at me, even if it's some sort of good warning, I cry?

[@jackyspancakebreakfast3701]

yup. very bad. umm im not sure if its the kind of "i already know its bad but i want confirmation from other people to validate it" or if you actually dont know. so umm if its ok can i give my opinion? if it is continue reading if not then forget abt this reply. whatever age u are i think u might have some trauma concerning adults. whatever it is it wasnt a good experience but its far in the past and there's no erasing it so u have to deal with what it left u with and its really hard. another thoght that i had might be that u get overwhelmed by the loud noise. if its positive or not, a figure of 'authority' is raising their voice at u and you're just dont have the mental capacity to take it. it makes u feel strongly but since you're overwhelmed all u can do is cry about it. if its the first one i suggest u console a professional that actually know what their saying and not some rando on yt. if its the second i have only one suggestion and its probably not affective for every1. try to asset (

[@silly_.rabbit2]

I cry as well If it's anything negative, even if it's a joke, I start getting really really upset and suicidal, then the negative feelings go away as soon as something, anything good happens

[@BasedAcoustic]

We were all loved as children, therefore however we learned to love is how we pass it forward or... we weren't loved.

[@justanotherweirdofromearth]

I hate myself so much. The only one of these I really relate to is feeling disconnected, but there is so much that I overthink about. I’m a teenager with ADHD and my parents try so hard to get the right medications for me and I feel like I made their lives harder. I’ve never actually tried to kill myself, and I don’t plan on killing my self , but sometimes I do wish that I was dead.

[@emerson6912]

I always compare myself with other, even if I've reach my parents goals and make them proud

[@-violet-7012]

Reasons why: -My parents compare me to other childrens -I don't have enough social support -I'm quiet -People insult me for being such a failure -Depression attacks -Social Anxiety Disorder attacks again

[@drywall3924]

You know you are not alone right?? I am with you and so is everybody else. No matter how much your parents compare you to other people they still love you. Just take a deep breath and go slow. Admire the beautiful things in life admire your self. I know it can be hard but it's not impossible. And sorry for the long comment. PS: stay healthy and safe. And spend a lot of time with someone who makes you feel better and special.

[@-violet-7012]

@@drywall3924 i kinda felt relief from what you said maybe you're right..im overthinking too much I hope you have a wonderful life too

[@drywall3924]

@@-violet-7012 thank you so much. Wish the best for you too. More power to you stay strong.

[@_.ana._.]

I don't compare myself to others, it's my family who does, and I always feel inferior to everyone else.

[@thesaddestdude3575]

Me too, but for me it was my classmates alot of the time aswell, they genuinenly hated me with thier guts becaus i was the worst in my class at basicly everything. So in a way they were right. But it resulted in me getting excluded from work groups which made the work tasks unbearable. Even the a considerable amount of the teachers hated me so so much. I even once walked past a meeting room where i overheard them talking about how much i suck and that i should never even have attempted to go there. My parents and family did too, but that was more about relationship crap, becaus i look like a rat that has been beaten and skinned its impossible for me to ever have love and they would constantly lie about it even though i knew the truth, however whenever they would get angry they would suddently berate me for being an ugly loser instead.

[@_.ana._.]

@@thesaddestdude3575 I'm really sorry. My classmates hated me too and boy did they let me know. It got so bad I had to change schools.

[@theforgotten8931]

"With time, hardwork and dedication, it gets better." Don't mind me, just hanging onto these words

[@xx_midnight_xx5789]

Me:*Sees in recomendations* Me again: Tf has youTube gone into my mind and read my thoughts...?!

[@MrWhitman]

You missed "Highly ineffective therapy techniques." I've had so many therapists do nothing more than defend everyone that I'm angry with to the point that they come off as being desperate to defend them (I mentioned being irratated by someone racistly assuming I spoke only spanish and she said, "It's not like English is the national language [of the United States].") The problem with this is that it gives a feeling that I don't have any right to be angry about anything and no matter what anyone does to me, they're in the right. I've had them get pationate about defending others to the point where they're yelling and screaming at me but never in my favor. Then there are those that are listening for victim mentality rather than what's actually being said. Testing this, I once told a therapist about wanting to fly like Superman (unaided by any machinery). She actually asked me, "What's preventing you from doing that?" I responded, "The laws of physics and nature." Her response, "How are the laws of physics and nature preventing you from doing that?" While I admit it wasn't nice to bring in an impossible dream, it also showed me that she wasn't actually listening to me, just blurting out a generic response. I could go on, but my point is, when the techniques prove to be ineffective, it leads to a feeling of self hatred in thinking that I'm my own worst enemy because I have feelings like everyone else does, but I'm not allowed to have them. And when I actually feel like I'm being real, I'm wrong because it's victim mentality. This only leads to a feeling of despair because it gives the thought, "There's no help nor hope for me."

[@alastor9141]

Same

[@ng2861]

My mom doesn't allow me to get a therapist because she thinks its too expensive and they will manipulate me, and I'm here tearing apart by myself hearing my mom say "you should be grateful for having a loving family" like wow :")

[@starboxrock9133]

same here. how are you now?

[@ng2861]

@@starboxrock9133 doing much better now tbh, I've found more support from my mom. I've been taking medications that are actually effective. Its a long trip to this point and there were lots of times i hated myself, thanks for asking. How's everything with you

[@starboxrock9133]

@@ng2861 Good to know that you're doing well. I'm having the ups and down. Wishing you to be alright.

[@smiling_face0534]

i love this channel so much... these guys helped me when i had severe depression and made such an impact on my life. Im crying with happiness while im saying this , thank you all guys i love yall

[@aninditafarahyuwana1705]

I had experienced a difficult time in my life and can be easily triggered by depressed/sad song/video/feeling/memories Your channel sometimes reminds me about what I had to go through at that time but you help me find answer for myself :)

[@lydziu8]

I'm honestly surprised by how much this channel posts every day

[@drinasun6984]

I had a hard time at school. I went from a happy, bubbly extroverted kid, to a resentful, defensive and defeatist introvert.

[@Rita-md5qo]

I always bring the worst of people or simply meet the worst kind of people out there. Even my sister at first couldnt believe what i went through and calling me dramatic liar until she meet people i met in her life. I still dont know how to fully love myself, thats why i dont know whether someone will be able to bear myself. Even i can’t stand myself sometime…

[@MK-uu6jx]

I have definitely felt this, but thankfully the feeling has receded a lot. It's still there, for sure, and it hits me from out of the blue at night sometimes, but it happens much less than it used to. I have to admit, it's nice to know that I'm not along on this. To anyone who's reading this, if you still struggle with self-hate, no matter the reason, I hope you know or someday will know that you are indeed valued, and that you do deserve love. I know it sounds unbelievable and may sound just like everyone else, but you really are and do, and I promise. If you are in a bad place, a toxic relationship, or anything that just makes you feel bad, it's okay to worry and stress. It's okay to cry. You have a right. Just know that you are not alone, and one day you will probably find someone who will truly understand and help you feel worth it (since you are!) Peace be upon you, good human! Edit: when did I get over 1 like? Thanks for (probably) reading the whole thing!

[@heatherheinz2455]

Exactly! If you hate yourself,it’s not your fault. Just keep in mind that there are more supportive people than you think there are. I learned that when I went to college.

[@sunilchauhan5953]

From my school days I was bullyed and got neglected by teachers and classmates , they called me sluggish, careless, dumb, quiet. I accepted their opinions about me....now I have developed social anxieties, insecure feelings inside me which killed me everyday in the form of unhappiness 😢

[@madielaineeeee]

i know its gotten bad when i literally google why i hate myself so much.

[@Funny_in_blue]

Watching this for my partner cuz I wanna help them stop hating themselves😔

[@lemoncardboard3270]

Awww that’s so nice of you! I hope that they get better :) good luck

[@Funny_in_blue]

@@lemoncardboard3270 thank you so much!❤

[@lemoncardboard3270]

fluffle demon of course! Have a good day :D

[@isabelleborja1066]

Your a good person I hope you get to have a good life

[@vanillacream2383]

They always one’s worst enemies is themselves.

[@vanimallesh9408]

That's true😧

[@jackyspancakebreakfast3701]

ya know im happy i watched this. because i hated myself, i still do but not as much and im glad i understand why now. most of the points mentioned in the video are things that happened to me and im currently working on overcoming my depression and healing it. its a very hard process and a lot to deal with as a teenager that started highs chool in zoom meetings. but socializing in school and making new friends was a big stepping stone for me. so sometimes i really put myself down, but it doesnt happen a lot anymore, and sometimes i really praise myself. even for the littlest things bcs it really does help. to everyone struggling with self hatred, depression trauma and more, know you are not alone. there are a lot of people in your life that love you and will support you no matter what. and in the case there arent, know that you will find those people. and it might even be very soon. life is better than it seems even if more often than not its hard to remember. focus on the little things that make you happy, no matter how stupid others think they are. and have a wonderful day ❤❤❤

[@makita-chan2836]

today was a horrible day. im a person with many bad and toxic relationships in the past. i have friend and trust issues. it was actually very difficult for me to make friends when I had just moved to a new school. the first time someone tried to become friends with me, I told them I was toxic and I would only hurt her.. we became friends anyway.. slowly then, I had an amazing group of friends. they made me love myself and they supported me whenever I felt down or whenever someone was picking a fight with me.. however, I'm a very clingy person.. i lost too many people, and I guess I also developed anxiety over losing more people. i tend to think about how to please people, and how to make them "like" me.. little things get to me,, any small amount or act that I'm being ignored or neglected, I immediately dread the feeling.. recently- no, actually, most of the time no one would take notice of me while we all were conversing in our friend group. it was a horrible feeling, and I felt like I was losing their care and attention... so, I left the group, because I was too scared to argue with them with my issues and to end up losing them. i shut my phone down after that. another thing I was scared of was that Id be right.. often, they'd message me separately and ask why I left. only one of them did. after that one person added me back, they didn't ask much and were having a casual convo. actually, someone in our friend (b) group said something that got to me, so i left the group. she left too, but she was added back before me-- guess they forgot to add me too, but that one friend (a) added me back. suddenly things were normal and they were laughing. i felt discomfort.. so i left the group again and told friend (a) that i have to learn something on my own- and that i didn't want to be in the group in the meanwhile.. that thing i had to learn by myself was to stand up on my own. i always let my emotions get the best of me. maybe i was scared of losing them-- but now i decided to distance myself from all of them to sort my feelings and emotions out.. it was nostalgic. this feeling of loneliness i brought upon myself. i think it was also because i relied too much on them for my happiness. i was depending on them. whenever i had these friends with me, i felt like i had the confidence to do the things that i liked. that's why i wanted to learn to have confidence by myself, because I'll only end up getting hurt if i keep depending on them.. they said they'd wait for me to come back, its selfish. I'm selfish. since i was being ignored there, then i wasn't necessary to their existence right? they were okay before i came, and I'm sure they'll be fine if I'm gone.. i guess i wont be speaking to them until i sort myself out.. and it may take a long time. its actually pretty hard not to tell anyone the reason i left or the reason i acted cold towards them. i love them, but i hate myself right now. I've always hated myself.

[@wrendina9996]

I just got an ad saying that it would let me know how to live to 120 and only to skip if you didn't want to live to 120

[@fr33kout82]

Did you skip? If you did, t h e y ' r e c o m i n g f o r y o u

[@Pandorartle]

Who want to live up to 120,i want to live up to 121

[@runaway6959]

I'm 19 rn. And I'm trying my best to survive 2020 and become 20 next year.

[@astoldbynickgerr]

Reason 1: Because I am me, existing like how I’m existing.

[@FlufflyKitty64]

What’s wrong with being you though?

[@g16santosmikyllaclairec.97]

Thank you for this video! I have found this video relatable in many ways, I would say that it is really hard to stop hating oneself, but it is a long process. I don't really know when it will be, but I hope that too all of us who have experienced this, I hope and wish that you know that you are loved and cared for. Sure, it doesn't sound believable, but trust me, things will get better. Have a blessed day to all of you!

[@himari6960]

I hate myself because -I won’t be good enough -Stressed -social inside -feel like I’m Always alone….

[@user-tl2rp3kj5u]

Sometimes I'm proud of myself. Most of the times I hate myself, kept thinking on how I'm not good enough at anything.

[@avalon3821]

Think positively! I know its hard, really hard. But you can make it through this. Im rooting for you! YOU ARE ENOUGH

[@user-tl2rp3kj5u]

@@avalon3821 I find it hard to believe that I'm enough but reading your reply warms my heart. Thank you kind stranger. :)

[@swethayang4307]

Hey where are you from bro?

[@tarrySubstance]

It feels like I do hate myself. I never thought about it this way. From point 1 to 6 it is accurate to my discription.

[@lelandholmquist2467]

I’ve always had short lasting wins. I never loathed on my wins. My sister on the other hand will loath as much as possible.

[@achika-chan948]

we become an open minded person when we with someone. But when it comes to ourselves, we will naturally feel in a small dark room and like there is no light or way out.

[@ejynk]

I just feel like I'm always being scrutinized, put down, ordered around, and insulted by my parents even though they don't physically abuse me at all :( i needed this even though it doesn't make me hate myself less it feels good to know why.

[@fEYEburGlasz]

Hey. You. Yes, you. I want you to remember that your an amazing person. Your beautiful, and are always there for everyone. Never think bad things about yourself. Remember that everyone loves you, even if it may not seem like it at times. Your perfect in your own way, and always keep shining. Have a good day/night. ❤️

[@samb2814]

🥺 ty💕

[@cow7358]

don’t make me cry because I know it’s not true.

[@dinossaura1661]

No

[@fEYEburGlasz]

@@cow7358 Bet

[@ieatbloxburggirlsforbreakf9031]

Lies you know i suck you know I’m ugly you know that and it’s true

[@chamomileclover]

it’s self-perpetuating, because you know your suffering is caused by your own thoughts of yourself, and then you blame yourself for that.

[@whoareyou6211]

I'm not getting bullied, I have a supportive family and friends, except i don't have anyone reliable who can support me at school and my dad died about 3 years ago. But my actual reason of self-hatred is that i'm insecure about my actions, thoughts and decisions because of how others made me feel. I'm still not really sure if that's the truth and what's the actual reason, but i think it has something to do with my class and teachers critisizing me for each mistake and every time i try to open up about something, i fail miserably and get embarrassed alot. Even in kindergarden i never really had any friends. The outcome now is that i basically have another half of myself judging me for every single thought. For example if i'm sad and i think about it, the other half of me tells how "dramatic" i am. Or when i'm proud of myself of something, for example how i love my appearance, my personality and all that and then my other half tells me that i'm a narcissist or whatever.

[@v1p3rlotus]

Here’s mine: I’m still kinda having a mental breakdown because of hating myself and probably emotionally abusing myself since I was bullied in TK. I am getting better at opening up but still struggling.

[@JKAZ_M]

It feels as tho it's been forever. Dealing with these feelings of self loath, of uselessness. Feeling misplaced, like I belong nowhere, not even in the mud. Unworthy of attention, of affection, of love. Everyday wishing to disappear, to be swallowed by earth. The few ones who know me insist in that the fact I'm still here is proof of my strength. But that isn't true. I'm not here because of me, I didn't fight to be here, I'm here because others have struggled to carry me. And that makes me feel even more like a burden. I gave up on me long ago. I just wished others could do the same.

[@Oshin_Life]

Take care💖

[@certified_npc3]

Giving up on yourself makes this a lot worse for you, as you will have to deal with amplified versions of this. It’s never too late to start self healing and slowly have some self love, which isn’t easy but it can always be done. These thoughts are just thoughts, and they are most likely false. Thoughts can be like rumors that you created using information you had on yourself. Know that you are NOT a burden, you just need some more help with self love, that’s all.

[@TheLily97232]

The existential part is a great point ! Thank you

[@appolo300]

What makes me hate myself -being helped (i feel like im just being selfish and in a debt because its hard to repay people and id rather not be seen as an attention seaker) -asking for help ( it feels like im being a neusance by taking peoples time and distracting people of what theyre doing) -Talking in general ( i just feel like an distracting, and irritating person to be arround)