7 Signs Someone is Too Immature For You

Are you in a relationship with someone who might be immature? In order for two people to be able to have a strong and healthy relationship, there needs to maturity. The level of maturity that partners have can make or break relationships. In this video, we'll be providing the signs to help you identify whether someone is too immature for you. Perhaps, you might find yourself being the less mature partner, but that's where you can learn your weak areas and grow.
After learning about what makes a person immature, you'd probably want to learn about the opposite - what makes someone mature. If so, you can check out our previous video where we discussed the signs of a mature person: • 8 Signs of a Mature Pe...
Note: We would like to mention that this is meant for educational purposes only and not at all intended to attack or criticize anyone who may be displaying these signs.
#immature #psych2go #maturity
Credits:
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Sam Rain
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
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[@Psych2go]

Rate your maturity level from sponge bob to pizza below.

[@thatoneguy6355]

I’d go with pineapple pizza..

[@Kilo-Kilo-]

Thank for the information!

[@2okaycola]

somewhere between Pooh & Pepe

[@siohiri]

idk

[@imanigalloway841]

Psych2go Hawaiian pizza

[@nehameena8441]

8. When you're trying to explain yourself but they think you're arguing with them😐

[@sebastianvonnebenan5260]

I know...

[@BlaecOleander]

Truth 😩

[@heyoitslitty2689]

preach!

[@CKALLY]

Ughh... I’m getting flash backs 😖

[@aimermr1342]

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ yes.

[@jiajingzhang3805]

Not only for dating, these kinds of emotionally immature friends are toxic too

[@SR77736]

Facts

[@mahima7638]

I'm going through this😭😭😭

[@katarinailic1095]

@@mahima7638 I've been through it so many times, it really sucks. You think you have someone to rely on but you end up hurting terribly and it is not your fault. 😛 It really sucks

[@hesinnocent]

exactly why i’m here

[@interstellar0123]

agreed

[@AndresAlonsoPerez]

Summary of the 7 signs: 1. They act on their emotions 2. They take everything personally 3. They lack self-awareness 4. They blame other people for their problems 5. They always have to have their way 6. They act passive-aggressive 7. They are overly possessive

[@naruto2841]

Looking at all of these signs I got to know I am the one who is immature Well I am working on myself let's see how it will turn out

[@UserFin]

@@naruto2841 Good luck with the self improvement! First step is realizing you're the one who truly needs to grow.

[@naruto2841]

@@UserFin thanks 👍

[@matteo89ify]

Half of this signs are no signs at all , like that is not being immature but human , “they blame other people for their problems?” Ah yes si the fact that I’m in deep depression not even eating anymore cause of trash people that treated me like shit is my fault of course

[@NeverToMuch21]

About 5 out of 7 sounds exactly like me. And now... I must wonder in space, make mistake, get into trouble, learn the hard way, then after 5 years of doing so... I'll be mature.

[@amelia.h4158]

I was in a past relationship where I was the immature one, and it ruined our relationship (partly), he taught me to be more mature by showing me my wrong behaviors and finally I was ready and mature enough for a relationship only after we ended our relationship. I feel so sorry for my ex for having to put up with me, but I am thankful and know that I was not the only one who had flaws. I am proud of myself that I grew and now found a healthy relationship with someone as mature as I am and its a perfect match.

[@MistaGSpecialEducation]

I used to be the immature one, and I can definitely relate.

[@seltascare4713]

the best part of all this is that being immature can be attractive if it has boundaries- boundaries which stop exactly when your partner is being harmed or doesn't know what to do- this shouldn't ever happen. So being childish and knowing where to stop is very very very attractive and even teaches ur partner to actually understand what u wanted to tell them.

[@brittanyhernandez4778]

Signs someone is too immature for you 1. They feel attacked by this video

[@venus_2345]

Yea, I cried

[@orlandobittencourt5475]

I only feel sad

[@disease30yearsago76]

STFU

[@miketheyoutuber1713]

im sad

[@martina-iq5xc]

idk im rigid about political opinions and that leads to arguments with people in general. i dont force them to have the same opinion as me, but i also dont approve it. is that being immature? idfk

[@beryl.pretorius]

1. They act on their emotions. 2. They take everything personally. 3. They lack self-awareness. 4. They blame other people for their problems. 5. They always have to have their way. 6. They act passive-aggressive. 7. They are overly possessive.

[@selena9904]

Thanks

[@Carl_Johnson75]

Thanks you

[@inactive.5680]

-Mmm seems like most of my old friends

[@matoscela]

thanks ❤️

[@VirginiaDowdy777821]

All these sound like my toxic ex best friend.

[@jnikz]

Just ended my 8.5 years relationship and never felt so relieved in my life. She kept saying that I was immature but in the end, it was her all along. Walking on eggshells was on point. I used to think twice before I speak because she got hurt so easily over little things. Then she gets mad for not telling the truth and say whatever is on my mind. She gives me silent treatment all the time and when I try to talk to her, she said that I should know already like I’m a mindreader. I avoided my friends just to make her felt secure. I gained 60lbs so she wont get jealous of other girls looking at me. Now I will find someone who would truly appreciate me for who I am.

[@JuanHernandez-ho6hd]

Bro yes congrats my friend you deserve the best like we all do and unfortunately I am stuck in the same situation

[@jnikz]

@@JuanHernandez-ho6hd Better get out and find someone who appreciates you. There are 4billion women in the world.

[@sunilsethi2982]

She sounds like a Dilusional Jealousy person. Probably controlled you and was insecure. Good you set yourself free and you will find someone good take your time.

[@takudo3]

I know you commented this a while ago but I’m going through a similar breakup now. Seeing it from the outside I feel a little better about the breakup and also hope to find someone better and more mature

[@only1lilboosie94]

Sheesh man I’m going through this same shi RIGHT NOW.. I would love to talk to you about this

[@teacherfromthejungles6671]

There's also one critical red flag of immaturity: often change of partners after a short period of dating. It means the person is only capable of the 1st stage of romantic relationships, but isn't capable to move to the next stages where you have to take responsibility and do something beside dancing and eating in a cafe.

[@CosmicHarmony58]

That’s me! I know how to get the woman! to sleep and be with them for a few months! But I can never keep them long! 🤣…longest was 3 years. Could of been way longer or still together now if wasn’t for my immature, lack of growth ways…All I wanted to do was lay, watch tv, play games and do the dirty with her…safe to say even I got bored of it too lmao

[@djperryboy]

There are alot of people with different problems and reasons. Some might have a diagnosis like Asberger or whatever. Some might be socially afraid. Some might not now what they know or maybe the reason is that they know exactly what they want so they jump off the train as soon as they realize that they don't like it. Some might be to shy. Some might be pushed by their friends to date or not to date. Some might not be allowed by their parents and need to quit. Some might not think that they are good enough. Some might have gotten a bad message like someone closely related have died or that they have cancer. So they can have instability in their life. Or maybe it's just in their personality. You don't know why they are like that and what they have gone through. It's that persons choice so what is your right to judge them. If they are a problem for you, then maybe you should check what is the problem with yourself. Lack of wiseness and understanding? If you have a problem with them, then just don't mind them. Or if it directly affects you, you can also ask them. But to generalise is extremely immature.

[@LighthouseJaye]

True. For a long time even I didn't think I was capable of loving someone past 6 months but once I'd been in a relationship and done the work on myself, because I was so afraid of committing I didn't know when love wasn't going to just fix everything and sometimes you have to let go even if you love them. After watching this, I blame myself less for breaking up because my partner at the time had at least 5 of these 7 issues in abundance. Hard to lose but harder to stay

[@1Skorpia]

AGE DOESNT DEFINE MATURITY. ive seen men at 50 acting like children and 17 year olds handling heavy responcibilities with grace .

[@acharich]

🎯🎯🎯

[@harukapologist]

true.

[@whatshouldinamemyself809]

definitely.

[@swatisaini6447]

Ikr

[@Ash-ty4qp]

Omg but this is so sooo true💯

[@trishauntaylor9834]

When you realize that you were the immature one 😓

[@dominusbalial835]

You can grow and improve yourself. It's good to look at the past, but not dwell on it. You should look at what happened, where you went wrong, why, and how you can fix it. You should try to go for the root cause of the issue as it will resolve it permanently. You can get better, you just have to put the work in to do so. With hard work and perseverance, you can better yourself so you don't make your past mistakes again. Good luck my guy.

[@bobusan_duuuugnut-oh]

Ikr....came to the video and was looking for positivity not self realization

[@Witchofthewoods.]

Hey...taking the time to admit it is a step in the right direction 👌

[@Cindy-to5mu]

Same here. I realized i projected my immaturity onto my ex. Im realizing now its like looking in a mirror. I’m learning as I go. I’m still young. I want to grow and be better! There’s always time for change 💜

[@yukisakura-nl8ro]

Anas Arman same here 😭😭😭

[@fatimah230]

This goes for friends too. I had a friend who definitely had more than a few traits from this list. She is five years older than me so yeah, like a lot of people are saying in the comments, emotional maturity is not at all defined by age. I do still miss her because she was really nice and fun to talk to, and she was really great in a lot of other ways. But her immaturity made it so hard and I did feel like I was always walking on eggshells around her.

[@st4rgirl251]

definitely goes for friendships too!!

[@satstudios_]

Same here, I was trying to help her be less immature, she can admit when she's wrong (sometimes) but she never does anything to change it, and if she said she would, it was never clear of any efforts they made. Just recently she decided she didn't want to be friends anymore, and that's when I realized she never really had that much care towards the relationship and I was the only one trying to keep together, so I ended things with them.

[@SunandSunflowers]

I ended a 35-year friendship. realizing the more I grew the more she didn't. She admitted at the end of our friendship she had a anger problem. Why? I don't know. I was hanging on to the friendship because of history but I was so tired of walking on eggshells. Maybe she realized I was tired also. She kept saying we trauma bonded like she was doing me a favor being my friend.

[@Puszek_KittyCat]

What am I supposed to do if a friend makes jokes that make me uncomfortable, and I already said how those jokes about a certain austrian painter and his ideology and a certain group he disliked make me feel annoyed/ angry?

[@satstudios_]

@@Puszek_KittyCat You should communicate your frustrations with them, if they lash out, call you names, or try to guilttrip you even you should probably stop being friends with tjem.

[@MrBern-ex3wq]

Never forget that this can apply to ALL relationships and bonds of confidence, not just romantic partners. Friends and family can exhibit this too.

[@MrJoon360]

A reminder for everyone, including myself: maturity is not measured by your age, it's measured by your experiences and your willingness to grow from them.

[@dankline9162]

Im 34. My ex is 19. I'm surprised at how mature she was, but we both need some growing. She has 6 for sure, and we both had 7. I hope she can open up to me again to talk more, bc I really want her to grow.

[@artisticbeing260]

I'm 16, and so is why ex. And he's significantly less mature than I am despite being at first subtle about it

[@loveawayfromreality6453]

Yeah true

[@seph1109]

Tysm for this

[@josesarif.matocinojr.5641]

No you'll experience any kinds of stuff even about life if you're not in proper age.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses, and start making changes.” ― Roy T. Bennett

[@gargimondal9864]

Yess truee

[@andreamagyar7776]

EXACTLY!☺

[@erickeker8761]

"That's a good quote" -Erick Eker

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

@@erickeker8761 "That's a exquisite expression of thought." -- Me.

[@acharich]

Mmm, taking responsibility.. 🔑

[@IkarusSteora]

Your videos have really opened my eyes to just how unhealthy the relationship I left truly was. I thought I was going crazy, or just making things up or misremembering behaviors and events wrong... that it was all my fault. I'm finally able to put things into perspective now so I can start to heal. Thank you so, so much. ♥

[@mars6153]

My friend said something very interesting once “maturity is basically just how good you are at hiding your true feelings”

[@michaelwillette5837]

It's not bad but it needs just one adjustment... "Maturity is basically just how good you are at recognizing and allowing your feelings and controlling them." How does that sound?

[@anvitham6166]

@@michaelwillette5837 much better... I agree 😊

[@michaelwillette5837]

@@anvitham6166 =)

[@avasinha9764]

Maturity is when u realized , ur are not the only one suffering in this world.

[@user-sd5ne9gf7b]

@@michaelwillette5837 "maturity is expressing your true feeling in a way others can understand" i feel is better from my experience

[@chryzz7395]

Breaking up with someone with all this traits has got to be the smartest, most relieving decision I've ever done in my life.

[@red_dulge]

You go bro!

[@matissesaurel2545]

1 year and a half with a person that have all those traits. 1 year to realize it wasn't normal , was toxic asf . and 6 months to actually have the balls to break up with the girl i loved 😔 i wanted her to change those behaviors so bad but ppl gotta change on their own, else it's not working

[@matissesaurel2545]

Good job my bro ik it was hard

[@EM-ke1ic]

@@matissesaurel2545 i hope i can get that courage bro im so confused right now

[@todoroniapproves3068]

Same. Glad you got out love 🌹

[@user-li5xz7uk1q]

i'm around someone like this 24/7, i'm praying for the day i can finally escape, yes escape, from them. i hope it's one day very soon. **Thank you to all those who left words of encouragement, I wish you lots of love and happiness. 💙💚💛😗

[@freefalling1440]

Are you married to this person ?

[@shelbylynn6596]

me to its so hard to leave

[@freneticwreck6720]

Take a break from them. See if you can actually live without them.

[@wilmatoppo6023]

You should be the one to take the step if you can’t take it anymore, it’s not good for your health to be around someone like this if I’m being honest. I’m talking from experience and the aftermath is not good since they tend to make it all about them and play victim even after it’s all done. Take care of your health first.

[@aliyahblidner]

Am I them?

[@ataxie]

7 out of seven describes my ex wife. It was sooo hard for me to realise the situation clearly because she also had narcissistic traits by gaslighting me all the time. To anyone who is reading this, there’s hope! Just focus on your own self, figure out why you are attracted this type of person in the first place. Once you build enough self dignity and understand your worth, you will never let anyone ruin your day anymore. Stop pleasing people and make yourself happy first.. You cannot make others happy. Hard lesson.

[@lillyplayz3429]

Words can’t describe how much better this made me feel about myself, thank you🙏🏼❤️

[@The_NJG]

*cries in maturity*

[@PistachioMustachio_]

hahaha...haaa

[@official_karmastudios5413]

I think me and my dad are the mature ones and my mom is well...not exactly mature. She acts like since she owns the house that we have to worship her. And every time me or my dad tries to prove her wrong she goes *INSANE* (literally...) And I can’t do anything about this... *joins by Also crying in maturity*

[@a.m.1675]

@@official_karmastudios5413 maybe your mom is a narcissist

[@Zackisnotdead]

a. m. Ughhh I hate when parents are narcissists because there’s literally no escape

[@Zackisnotdead]

Duckfan 1982 She might have a stress disorder. Exactly how INSANE does she get?

[@orangesodabliss]

maturity is so weird especially when you’re a teenager with a brat for a mother, and you’ve been taught it’s okay to hurt people when you’re angry, etc etc. like just.. whew. i’m going to be loving though, for myself and others. it’s much more sweeter being a lovely person. god bless immature people because most of the time they lack guidance, love, and discipline in their lives. they’ll get there yall. just love them from far away

[@johanna8932]

You're doing great just by educating yourself and being the best Person you can be at the moment!! Lot of Love and good luck for your journey as you grow into an amazing adult❤️

[@hannahbanana3767]

I relate to this so hard sadly

[@rattatoui]

you should be proud of yourself that’s amazing ! ✨

[@acharich]

😕❤

[@BluDrop5]

So.Many.Facts.

[@riyannaangel]

i just had a break up recently and i felt like i was immature in the relationship and that’s probably what pushed him away but i’m glad i have self awareness and is willing to change for myself and hopefully he can notice it and maybe things can work out better i still need time tho no one change over night it’s a lot of understanding i need and i lot of flaws i have and i need to be more calm and patient

[@Nobody_lol]

Me too

[@themysticalcolby]

The thing I like about this channel is they say brutally honest truths that we need to hear, thank you psych2go for being brave!

[@axcystan_1884]

1:09 They act on their emotions 1:32 They take everything personally 2:03 They lack self-awareness 2:36 They blame other people for their problems 3:13 They always have to have their way 3:50 They act passive-aggressive 4:25 They are overly possessive Edit: I recommend to watch the vid for more infos🙂

[@bubuwinnie2009]

Thanks a lot!!

[@ladynoname3621]

*Oh NoEs they are a Tsundere*

[@anodos_]

LIKE MY MOM OMG

[@lumine_traveller]

Most at me..

[@bread1055]

My friend yelled at me at work about not picking up my phone when it was on not disturb and she didn’t believe me and I never lie to my friends also I always pick up my phone when I see a caller I know or hang up and text them depending on the place.

[@mtwata]

Before watching: Hmm maybe my partner is like that.. After watching: Hmm maybe I'm like that..

[@ezzeFarhana]

Maybe both

[@katherinemuega1376]

💯

[@loveawayfromreality6453]

Relatable

[@debadityanath5558]

I'm like this and i need help TuT Want to grow up and not be unfair to my partner 💔

[@letsthink7862]

That thought itself is a sign of maturity... accepting ours flaws.

[@harshitakesarkar6020]

I was like this 2yrs ago. The fact that I understood those signes and I'm still learning to improve me 🙂❤️ thanks for it I'm saving this RN!!

[@lillyplayz3429]

Words can’t describe how much better this made me feel about myself, thank you

[@smol9109]

That feeling when this applies to you...but you have been trying to change

[@SerpentHermet]

I wish you well.

[@smol9109]

@@SerpentHermet Thanks allot

[@ShaleNinja]

Some of the most terrifying but truly most rewarding effort/labour you can engage in, in your lifetime, is personal development - especially the parts that you don't like so much when you see them. The stuff that really counts is the stuff that sucks the most. Kinda like working out, haha. Best of luck!

[@samuelsams614]

That makes two of us...and it seems some others as well ✌

[@kamuiyato]

@@ShaleNinja how one can achieve personal development?

[@sl33ptilldawn]

I loved the scene, "he tried to push me" *dramatically falls down*

[@humanbng7123]

😂😂

[@Sleepingismypassion]

That's my youngest sister sometimes

[@niyazidilek8835]

thx for showing me that I'm still immature even though I try to criticize myself all the time. it seems even self-criticism can't help to see all flaws you have. thank you so much for this video again

[@johnnyhearldonrocks]

Every point is absolutely spot on in my last two experiences 😂 if only I would of seen the signs back then eh? We live and learn 😉👍

[@oliviakam4198]

we’re all thinking of that someone this video is talking about 😂😂😂

[@nihilistcentraluk442]

I am thinking of the SJW this is based on.

[@trangium]

Me

[@jahnavibhargava2572]

@@trangium lol same

[@Jack1994hoo]

was thinking about myself.

[@SoupyGal]

I was thinking of myself

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks.” ― Shannon L. Alder

[@LandoBando-pj5ox]

Heyyyy could you stop the spam?

[@meettheartist5506]

"he"?

[@alvarez85yearsand81]

Bro you are just quoting,even in your chanel bio there's even more quotes. Do you have a personnality or something?

[@johnbradley7429]

It’s crazy how accurate this is, couldn’t have been more spot on toward an immature partner

[@gummybear4513]

I think there are multiple types of maturity that play a role in peoples lives. Beings “immature” might just be someone acting a little childish sometimes and it could also be them refusing to act on other peoples feelings and instead acting on their own feelings.

[@paulamanansala1812]

her voice is just so relaxing😭

[@patrickstar5159]

IKR

[@hondatrivago5419]

Tru

[@kromp1461]

ur face is more relaxing tho

[@patrickstar5159]

@@kromp1461 shut up

[@kromp1461]

nah man. seeing Patrick's face is and will always be relaxing

[@SuperBlessedKing]

I’ve dealt with an immature person in the past. I was abused physically, emotionally, mentally, and even financially. I removed myself from the presence of that immature person. Moved on to new and better people, things, and places. Now I am at peace with everything. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@SuperBlessedKing]

Confetti x The abused happened for 3 very long years, this is the year when I did get away from the abuser permanently, and I do feel so much better. Thank you. ❤️

[@alexandruaurel5753]

It's possible that you were dealing with a narcissist

[@SuperBlessedKing]

Alexandru Aurel Yes, I agree, the person is older than I am by one decade, I am younger than the age of 21 currently. I am way younger than the abusive person that was hurting me during so many days of my life. The abusive person was actually very narcissistic. I’m glad that I’ve found peace after I’ve left the unhealthy environment that existed with that toxic person.

[@alexandruaurel5753]

@@SuperBlessedKing I'm glad that you've found peace. It's such a great place to be in. Best of wishes!🤘

[@andreamagyar7776]

It is getting to me lately. True narcissism is not that common. Mostly it is immaturity. Very much looks like narcissism, feels like abuse. Sure, nothing to do with age. A true mature person wants to know you, wants to respect your boundaries, wants, needs. Able to communicate, get along, and sets you free. ☺

[@JasonRostro]

This is such an insightful topic to showcase so that people cannot see and be aware of this so they can better themselves.

[@maggie3989]

I love you Pysch2go, they just know our trouble...it feels so good to feel related

[@seirotsyracs3512]

I love their voice.. it’s so freaking calming

[@notpabloneruda8625]

don't get me wrong but i find it erotic

[@lvsiia]

@@notpabloneruda8625 👁👄👁 oh sis

[@seirotsyracs3512]

not Pablo Neruda, lmao what? 🤣

[@notpabloneruda8625]

@@seirotsyracs3512 i feel like i can't play it with family members around .. it's so soft it sounds like sex talk .. lol that's crazy i know.

[@seirotsyracs3512]

not Pablo Neruda OOOHHHH okay I see what you mean

[@mauve9266]

Me: not even in a relationship Also me: damn is my nonexistent boyfriend too immature hmm 🤔

[@rubyhannah4972]

Lmao 🤣 same

[@biblicallyaccuratecockroach]

Best to know the signs by heart before you're in a relationship, that way you'll recognize them earlier if they ever arise, and GTFO as soon as possible, preferably before you're too emotionally invested. Your safety and well being comes first ❤

[@mauve9266]

MJ Barata true. I guess it’s good to know the red flags just in case

[@whatshouldinamemyself809]

why was that me tho

[@daniellaronstrom87]

Hahaha

[@revathin7292]

I'm single and I think I'm immature for my non-existing partner.

[@dujsanchez73]

Definitely going to make sure to fix myself and bring my maturity up so I can attract mature ppl as well

[@tristansoares2452]

Watching this made me realize that I do have immature qualities but more than I thought. Ive definitely grown over the years but theres always room for improvement in everyone. Im guilty of acting on my emotions and being passive-aggressive, though I am self aware and try putting myself in other peoples shoes. I need to work on not taking things to heart

[@lethall6609]

That's pretty good. Just know, it's never too late

[@waaar32]

youre probably the you as apposed to the they, if youre so self aware lol

[@khalilmaliq9300]

if you were with a partner im sure they would be happy.. its good that you are trying to change , i hope my partner change one day as well

[@20ML1]

Just recognizing this is a huge step towards improvement

[@anamikaela4117]

yes same i kinda feel guilty on how i acted toward my partner, sometimes i hurt him, but im willing to improve myself, i just cant help it when i do immature things, do u have an idea on how to overcome this step by step?

[@chloeanne9761]

It sucks that when you love someone you’re totally blind to these attributes until you get hurt by it

[@June-so9vk]

Can't relate more...

[@nikayoshino]

This was me. I admit that, and it’s making me want to give my old self a hug for not knowing these and having the right people around to show them to me in a healthy way as well. But I’m not where I used to be, and it’s the most comforting thing ever. I appreciate who had to deal with me back then, and even though some of them might not be in contact with me anymore, my present self understood why they were the way they were and I have nothing but really thankful for the good they have done for me. I’m not in the place to ask others anymore. I’ve outgrown my old self even, and I’m looking forward to what’s beyond even though there’s a lot of unsure unknown uncertainty to it. I’ve learned, and continue learning, and that’s the most important thing. I remain to be teachable.

[@andrewphillips-hird3761]

People need to be very careful and honest with themselves before accusing someone of blame shifting. Sometimes this is done to victimise someone: and it's the classic "deny, attack, reverse victim and aggressor" - deny that they are a victim, victimise them, accuse them of victimising themselves. I discovered with my new therapist that that was what my previous *therapist* had been doing to me...mistreating me and accusing me of playing the victim

[@niabadass7614]

Well this one is so useful at the same time underated

[@Skerrt]

time traveler

[@Asheisdead]

I'm Wh

[@cassandraaldridge1042]

They aren't underrated....

[@jameskegley4006]

Of course its underrated it was only uploaded 4 minutes ago

[@xellusions]

Wait what

[@istp1967]

"There's nothing smaller than a person who is wrapped up in themselves" -- Proverb.

[@Jinp4chiEGO]

bs

[@JinxisHere758]

@@Jinp4chiEGOhow?

[@SR77736]

@@Jinp4chiEGO no.

[@Isaac125pl]

You hit the bullseye. My gf i broke up few days ago seems to have all of those immaturity traits you talked in the video. You helped me to clearly see the reasons why she is. Thank you very much

[@alzheimer7324]

Thank You For Sharing ❤

[@SterlingAura3010]

When u realize you've been dating an immature someone for 2 years

[@eleah2256]

The struggle is real! I'm in a relationship for 1,5 years and we have so much in common and love each other so much, but our relationship is getting worse.. because my boyfriend behaves in all the ways described (and I might do in some ways too). I feel that it is better to break up but its difficult.

[@CreditR01]

@@eleah2256 If it's been going on for almost two years, you might just be better off as friends.

[@pixelarmy325]

I can't believe I'm reading this lol. I've been in a 2.5 year relationship with someone exactly as described. It was extremely tough, but I ended it for the best of both of us.

[@pixelarmy325]

@@eleah2256 I know it's hard but it's the right thing to do. You deserve to have someone more mature :)

[@downinflames15]

PixelArmy I just got out of a 2.5 year relationship too! She did all but the last two. Ultimately I had to leave for my own mental health. Been 17 days so far but I’m chugging though it. Hang in there.

[@akemus9788]

My ex literally checked all of these, but when I used to talk to my mom about it(to ask for advice) she'd dismiss all my feelings and tell me that "men are just like that", sometimes she'd chalk it up to him being "so in love" with me that he acts like a kid around me. Why would I want to be in a relationship with a man-child??? Also, spoiler alert: Just because they act like children doesn't mean they're harmless like them 🙂

[@meds6761]

I get u

[@Juuxr]

EXACTLY!!! we aren't their mothers. My ex was exactly like this. Our relationship ended with him ghosting me after a argument. Sadly I'm still hurt because I never loved someone so much, but I know it'll pass.

[@Juuxr]

My advice for everyone who's reading this is: NEVER date someone immature, unless they're open to mature.

[@Juuxr]

Update to my experience: 30th November we talked eye to eye with each other. Everything was a pretty bad misunderstood, from both sides. He apologized for the ghosting, and I apologized for not being comprehensive/being too emotional (he's studying for his final project/presentation to graduate and is super overwhelmed, and so I, who's studying to be accepted for college, so we both are really struggling and stressed). We both love each other so much that this time we were separated gave us the affirmation of how much our relationship and love are intense and truthful. We opened our heart and we decided to fight for our relationship. And it's going on pretty well, actually way better than before. So I recommend strongly to all, to be 100% honest and open minded to your partner. No space to be right or be the victim. The wholesomeness of the relationship is more worthy than this. NEVER stop talking 100% to your partner without giving a soulful explanation. ALWAYS be careful of how you express your feelings, remember to ALWAYS think how the other can understand what you will say and how can he/she feels listening to your words. Be emotional responsable. ALWAYS remember you are dealing with a imperfect human being just like you. It's about the perfect acceptance of an imperfect person. Hope my experience can hope you. (If you are ghosted, my advice is to be honest to how you feel, speak it and then go live your life. Just do it one time, this way you've made your part, being emotional mature. Try to be calm and to not overthinking. Ghosting actually says more about what the other person is or what he/she is passing through or what he/she is feeling, than about you.) (If you are ghosting, I advice you to stop it now and to explain to the person why are you doing it, even you've already made this before. To listen actively to what the other will say, and them stop talking for a determined time. This way you can have your time to reflect without being unresponsive to the others feelings. (Sorry for my bad English. )

[@Owlsworthy]

I'm sorry to hear that, that's disgusting :( Unfortunately a lot of the older women in my life say the same thing. It is as though they think it's in men's DNA to act this way when really it's because of people like them enabling that kind of behavior. My brother is the epitome of immature but no one does anything because that's just "who he is". If I were you I'd stop taking relationship advice from her... Best of luck.

[@GabrielH-W]

Thank you for this! I am guilty of a lot of these things and I’m willing to improve :) 😊❤

[@yuuchan6847]

Currently trying to end things with my partner of over 1 year who had all these traits. I addressed these issues to them that I've been bottling for a whole year and after giving them another chance to grow. I see their growth and its improving but I just dont want to be in the relationship anymore. I feel tired and indifferent towards the relationship and I dont feel happy being with her, I just feel lost, drained, and jaded from the relationship. Thank you for the video, it gave me the courage to end things with her and just move forward with my life right now

[@suharsh96]

Was in a relationship with such person and it was absolute hell. She took everything, literally everything like it was an attack on her and we could never have a sane argument. Glad I got out

[@mrjace3]

Yeah it's so draining.

[@soa2444]

I'm in this situation right now and I miss her so much but I think I'm over it. I dislike how she makes me feel. I haven't talked to her for like 5 days because she hung up on me. I'm not calling her. She needs to call me and apologize for what she did but to be honest I'm over it already. It's going to hurt but I need to move on. I have goals I want to accomplish and if she is not going to be next to me then so be it.

[@gerardperrynovela3035]

Same thing here

[@anythingchannel9326]

You don’t know what she’s been through that made her that way. Maybe it’s because someone actually was attacking her in the past so she thinks everything is being used against ber

[@soa2444]

@@anythingchannel9326 not an excuse

[@BellaMusical]

"Is your partner too immature for you?" No, my dad is, and he is 32 years older than I am. Literally every thing in this video applies to him. He can be nice too, but whenever he feels threatened, he acts out in the most irrational ways possibile.

[@deepalil1085]

This is my Papa. He is narcissistic too.

[@ST-yc7uj]

Older people start acting like that. Like immature teenagers.

[@ST-yc7uj]

@@mejo6020 he was never greeted with kindness for his mistakes in his life. How about your grandparents, his parents?

[@ST-yc7uj]

@@mejo6020 how was your dad raised, how was his childhood?

[@VengefulPolititron]

my dad too. I suspected he was a NPD and that I was too. I quizzed him with questions... in casual convo.. like a sneak turns out he is NPD. and so am I.. but I rationalized it away. "oh but I'm actually smart and confident. others suck" and I continued to be this way... and ruined my entire existence.

[@anish9376]

Definitely a good video and as the audience said.... The voice definitely goes with the colours and theme of the video so it matches perfectly.

[@ThedudeThatCantAnimate]

I’ve been in one of these relationships. Every trait on this list describes them and how the relationship was going, I was trying to ignore it but most of the times it made me really mad and snap at them when I really didn’t want to. I feel like getting out of that relationship was the smartest decision I’ve made in a long time.

[@kenny-nk5db]

summary: 1. They act on their emotions 1:07 2. They take everything personally 1:31 3. They lack self awareness 2:02 4. They blame other people for their problems 2:34 5. They always have to have their way 3:10 6. They act passive aggressive 3:49 7. They are overly possessive 4:25 Recommend watching to learn more 🖤

[@matoscela]

thanks ❤️❤️❤️ it’s really useful

[@galsgala]

Thank you

[@acharich]

🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑

[@drifterduckygaming4646]

I thought I was immature and mature at the same time but in reality I thought that me being stupid sometimes isn't related to maturity and instead correlates to me being an idiot. I'm an idiot But I am *a mature idiot*

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Lol😌😌

[@zangfai226]

Waah its truly me too

[@psy-fi64]

Made me laugh

[@dyingsimo7837]

This is me

[@TheyCalledMeT]

a way too deep insight for an idiot

[@KHAMMIE]

This explains my ex.I am not perfect and I might have some of these qualities myself and I might not . But it is hard trying to get someone to open up and they refuse but if you refuse to open up to them then there is a PROBLEM.

[@angellaforbes3314]

I just wanted to say, thank you. Thank you for all your work. I hope you know, how much you are helping.😊

[@user-ne5ue8rd5n]

7 Signs Someone is too Immature for You: 1. They act on their emotions. 2. They take everything personally. 3. They lack self-awareness. 4. They blame other people for their problems. 5. They always have to have their way. 6. They act passive-aggressive. 7. They are overly possessive.

[@user-ne5ue8rd5n]

Looks like I’m 2 weeks late xP

[@kiwinerdy]

I’m glad I’ll never get in a relationship

[@Aventurine.f2p]

I’m look dis week

[@why_oh_elle]

@@kiwinerdy you know... i dont get people who dramatise in a relationship. It most likely happens when those two people are not in their place but they still force it to happen. Honsetly if its not the one for you you should go. And that "standards" thing is stupid. Its not a game where you choose your characters its real life. Anyway as long as it makes you happy lmao

[@fiveo4330]

This sounds exactly like my best friend she would always get mad at me for her problems I don’t really know what to do about it though

[@GaminGawdess]

I absolutely love the animation in the message it helps understanding much easier. thank you for the characters they make me laugh

[@carolinacarreno2562]

I’ve realized that I was the immature one in the relationship we both were but mostly me by being passive aggressive and blaming my significant other that it was they’re fault when it clearly was not I feel terrible bc they probably felt like shit and that’s the reason why they broke up with me but I’m learning to grow from my mistakes day by day there is definitely room for improvement.

[@jasper-tobyabyss4595]

I'm relieved that laughing uncontrollably at farts despite being in your late 20's isn't listed on here.

[@Psych2go]

Yes, that's call having a strong inner child!

[@CatMaster90001]

There's a distinct difference between immaturity and childishness, my friend. You're never too old to laugh at fart jokes. :)

[@acharich]

@@CatMaster90001 😅😂😅

[@1diamondworld]

Facts

[@MotherBroker]

Definition of immature : My class

[@jasper-tobyabyss4595]

*CHECK YO PAAANTS!!!*

[@Psych2go]

And what else?

[@afrontwish9938]

You could always tell that the silent ones are the most mature (if they want to be)

[@MotherBroker]

@@Psych2go maybe my brother also

[@far_08]

Can so relate.

[@Nhatanh0475]

I'm on the both side of this signs as I aware that I act on my emotion, take everything personally. But I do have self-awareness, that's why I watch your videos. I rarely blame other. I do some times have passive aggressive and overly possessive.

[@eduuninja]

Thank you so much for this video

[@hiraqasim3327]

After watching this i realized that i am the immature one in our relationship. But i will try my best from today to be mature💜 Thank u for making me realize that💖

[@Kythos]

Love how open minded you are. You can do it.

[@nikkojamesmahinay4748]

You can do it.

[@dondadaentertainment]

Energy!!!

[@bapemanyo]

same herre. and im acc prety mature but im just like this video. gotta change

[@tomyosh1620]

It takes lots of inner strength to be so open minded. You can do it!

[@marcusallen4177]

This sounds more like “Signs you’re dating a narcissist”

[@roxas5203]

It is

[@martimsantos8900]

Playboi carti 🧛‍♂️

[@rg.0333]

CARTIII11II

[@ignacioleivasanz6834]

A principal aspect of immature people is their narcissism, i think.

[@ojmanman3539]

@@ignacioleivasanz6834 selfishness when selfishness goes too long untreated. It turns into narcissistic personality

[@AkiyuriDesu]

For 6, passive aggressive, I find it difficult to stay open, happy, and friendly when I am trying to calm down and come up with the constructive and healthy words to say when bringing up the issues. So the result is I will have a passive aggressive phase while I sort out my emotions and prepare myself for a transparent and relatively positive confrontation. I would like advice on this dilemma! [edit: typo]

[@anteros__]

If it's anything like me, I have to take myself out of the situation for a moment and recollect my thoughts. Even if I have to go into like a note app and just jot down my thoughts, then that's another way for me to get that passive aggressiveness out. I'm still learning about this stuff since I will admit: I'm so immature[and it's terrible for my age] but I hope this helps you. Sometimes it helps me, but knowing me, my emotions get the best of me and I react.

[@Gaib_al_lisan]

Yeah... I guess it's difficult to strike the right balance. Can't expect from people not to show any passive aggressiveness, given that lately so many things are considered red flags. Honesty is great, but if we have to worry about how and what we say all the time... You can always say, "I felt insulted when you said/did this". I don't think there's a better way since this one is sincere, non-insulting, and direct. Overthinking about it will eventually make you doubt whether you should talk openly at all

[@CoppawyreGaming]

Crazy accurate. Good video

[@NekoJelly]

How weird it is that we all are thinking of someone while watching it!

[@earlypenas4663]

Thinking of myself though😂

[@hydrogenmissle]

no i was thinking of my dog

[@brycethorner]

@@earlypenas4663 fuck same

[@raularmas317]

Actually, I don't think it's weird at all. I think it's called denial.

[@zeel4840]

@@hydrogenmissle lmao 🤣😆

[@ChalkMuncher]

Video: 4 minutes ago The comments: **1 mOnTh AgO**

[@zozmoonbow]

I can't explain that!

[@cynicalsans7225]

It was premier a month ago

[@RosheenQuynh]

Patreon exists. I don't understand why people don't get this yet.

[@thatguywithachainsaw5703]

It was unlisted and we’ve been here since the vid was available

[@DerSingh0329]

I don't find anything like that

[@normandelacruz9269]

I honestly learning new things, thanks to you all😊

[@SamuelJohnQuindoza-ez9wf]

This help me learn how many people i know who are mature and immature

[@benedekffykyra]

After watching this I realized I live in a toxic relationship and I am the toxic, immature one...😔

[@Finaphinees]

1st step is to be self aware, that's how you embrace growth ;)

[@mistervelux]

Same here! 🤦‍♂️

[@Owlsworthy]

Look up DBT, it takes a lot of practice but its helped me so much in my growth. Best of luck :)

[@foodygoody9574]

Same

[@natasharaghav3952]

Same here, man!🙂

[@manonales]

"Mom, is this you?" 😲

[@toqa6735]

😂💔

[@lambgrill4158]

Uhhhh

[@mida8261]

I felt that.

[@pankhuri9870]

Same

[@GomaatlaTiro]

Walking away from such a partner has brought me relief! It was like a weight had been lifted

[@Freestyle_ZVC]

I think there is a misconception with maturity. I think you can be funny and joke and make life more light hearted. My girlfriend calls me immature for that but this video describes exactly how she is. I love her but this is accurate and makes me think twice about whether she will grow out of this.

[@fi-lo1665]

I was in a relationship like this and I was the immature one. But I’m learning and I’m going to grow to become an even better of myself. I feel blame myself for hurting the person that I loved due to my immaturity but it’s okay as I had to go through it in order learn and grow.

[@tylerrees3073]

You’re not alone

[@mehlikaincedere9040]

I believe self awareness is the most mature thing in someone. I congratulate you for that

[@gibbyboi5703]

Same dude, I realized how bad I was, shit, imma die from cringe

[@jujutsucryin3256]

How can I let them know what they do hurts me?

[@gibbyboi5703]

@@jujutsucryin3256 just tell them

[@godomoths2582]

Funny how he called me immature and left me while he was the one acting immature

[@mrjace3]

Jedi Mind Tricks is what I call stuff like that.

[@godomoths2582]

@@mrjace3 why?

[@_Not_Retarded]

People might have fundamentally different interpretations of what is mature.

[@gunjanm8594]

That's mind trick! I was at the same position too, 2 years ago. Today he stalks me and has his own people to keep an eye on me

[@littleredhen8205]

Gaslighting

[@nicolasbota4995]

The presentation of the immature person is so exaggerated i love it!

[@kimberlee5985]

So accurate. Mind opening. I feel really bad.

[@imanigalloway841]

Psych2go As a person on the Autism Spectrum, I can relate to some of these signs. Can you do a video on Autism and how someone with it can find a potential partner?

[@azarishiba2559]

Me too would like to see a video on Autism and Asperger, and how to be with a partner.

[@arcaniade6607]

It must be tough for you... Stay strong. And yes, a video about it would be really interesting.

[@Psych2go]

For sure! That would be a great topic!

[@azarishiba2559]

@@Psych2go ¡Wujuuu! ^O^

[@Mimirules21]

Your wish is granted, watch the next video :D

[@mimi-oy4dv]

Wow, I just lost an online friend who I thought I was close to and this describes her perfectly. She took everything so personally and constantly blamed my other friends for everything. It was tiresome but I’m glad we cut her off :)

[@jasiabu]

I just lost an internet friend and she was so good, idk what was going wrong, but she wasn't bad, gladly she wasn't toxic or inmature or idk, that's why i am a little sad rn, but idk, i just have to move on, i suppose.

[@Psych2go]

It's good that in retrospect you could see why! Hopefully, she finds this video and gains some self-awareness.

[@mimi-oy4dv]

//AuStIn\\ it really does suck when you lose a friend :( I felt that pain too often. I hope things go well for you, remember that there are plenty of others out there waiting to be your friend!

[@mimi-oy4dv]

Psych2Go yeah :) I hope so too!

[@acharich]

🔥💎🔥

[@SaraEly46]

She really has a good voice ! I enjoyed listening

[@louisbeh8514]

This is how my first relation goes. It just makes you constantly feeling stress. it might not coincident, this video is just spot on every single point.

[@justyourlocalcreature]

this just sounds like me, wtf

[@obesepp5728]

Well shit...you know what to do ._.

[@sarab6580]

Good luck

[@alexdeleon7829]

I feel like I’ve seen these traits in a whole bunch of people including myself! I know I’m at least working on it!

[@danielbrunk9121]

That resolves a lot of things abt my X and its a relief to hear❤️ Thank you

[@RajeshNikamYT]

Your thumbnails hit the point.

[@liannelee352]

Every single one of theses points describes my ex so accurately. So glad I got out of that unhealthy and toxic relationship.

[@tintinhelicopter2677]

I’m glad to hear that

[@jhazminemorta1317]

Same here

[@dukenukem7043]

This describes my ex so hardcore, and the irony of it, is that she was majoring in psychology ..

[@suyashgaikwad106]

😂lol, when she will be dropping out from university her reason will be very immature too😂

[@uptownlou4568]

Wow me too smh shit was super toxic

[@xcnznsk1755]

Hahaha she pulled a Harley Quinn

[@iamready4846]

😂lol

[@jjberg83]

A lot of them tend to be psych majors.

[@LuckyDstrct]

This video helped me so much, I want to grow in these ways for my partner!

[@sallyfrost5002]

Woah! My ex boyfriend I broke up with five months ago litterally (and I mean litterally) has every single one of these symptoms! Only thing is he was also physically abusive, trying to take control of my finances, liked to make me responsible for all of his faults, and would say the most heartwrenching and cruel things. Being with him was exhausting! I'm so relieved I'm safe now and can feel rested for once.