7 tips for introverts and HSPs during holiday season

[@alessandrasweetman811]

Dear Ana, this is the first time I leave a comment on anyone 's youtube channel but I felt you had to know how inspiring you are. I have eagerly watched every single one of your videos and what always transpires is your gentle and humble nature: you really are a little candle shining bright in the middle of darkness. Your simplicity makes you stand out and your words always give so much food for thought. Please never stop! It is amazing how you can reach people all around the world and make their day. Greetings from Italy :)

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Allessandra, thank you so very much for leaving this comment. It's a huge support for me, you can't imagine what a boost your words gave me. I'm so lucky to have this community ❤️ Big hugs to Italy from Siberia!

[@grady4757]

I agree, Alessandra. Ana is quite a shining candle. But I think your comment shows that you are, too. This seems a great space for candles to shine together. 🕯🕯🕯🕯

[@gedankenflieger3515]

@@anagoldberg I have to absolutely agree to Alessandra! Dear Ana, your Videos are really outstanding and like a ray of light in these dark, uncertain times. They warm my heart every time i see them, and i always feel so understood! It's like having a sister in mind in Siberia 💕 Love and hugs from Germany!🌹

[@valerierogers9609]

A little candle shining .... oh, that's sweet

[@larabasterrech9111]

I absolutly agree with you Alessandra! Your comment reminded me of a text by a dear writer from my country, Uruguay. He said something like this... The World by Eduardo Galeano A man from the village of Neguá, in the coast of Colombia, managed to go up the high sky. On the way back, he told the story. He said he had seen human life, from up there. And he said we're a sea of tiny flames. -That's what the world is, - he revealed - lots of people, a sea of tiny flames. Each person shines with their own light amongst all the others. No two flames are alike. There's big flames and small flames, and flames of each and every color. There's people with serene flames that aren't even fazed by the wind, And people with wild flames that fill the air with sparks. Some flames, foolish flames, don't glow or burn; but others, others burn through life with so much passion that you can't even look at them without blinking, and whomever gets close, lights up. You are one of the last ones Ana...your sparks lights us up!! Thank you ❤️

[@valerierogers9609]

Many don't have big extended loving family. I've spent countless holidays alone. Alone is thought of as sadness in mind of many. I'm immune from stressors such as travel, cooking/cleanup, family issues. I ignore merchandising/gifts. A martini at solstice and I'm good.

[@anagoldberg]

Love your attitude, Valerie! Alone can be absolutely joyful and meaningful ❤️

[@vanilla_vanancie]

🤗 Thank you 🙏🌺🙏🌺🙏🤗 This year I am going to my previous.hometown, first we have a funural for my dad, then 2 days later I am spending Christmas Days with my 3 adult kids. I haven’ t seen them since April when I moved 55 miles south in oSweden. But then... I told my boss that I could came back and work the days until New Years Eve - I were allowed before to stay in holyday until 8th January, but I changed my mind... So I am spending All the ”Red” days alone. Just want to be With Myself too. Since my kids moved to tveir own spartments I were Forced to be alone most of time, and nowadays I LOVE it too. I know how it is to sit alone in Christmas Eve... my kids spent every other holyday with each father. My brothers and my parents wanted to do other things than invite me - they had new families

[@anagoldberg]

It's so great that you're embracing this situation and making the most of it for yourself, my friend❤️ Sending love!

[@markh8116]

I find alcohol to be a mood amplifier . In moderation and with friends it can definitely enhance social occasions . A few glasses of wine or beer with friends ... If I feel low however , it can amplify that. So during these darker winter months I prefer not to drink. Like you, I make myself other warming pleasant drinks. I’ve spent quite a few Christmases alone and will be spending this one alone too. Whilst it’s not ideal and there is that social pressure to be enjoying yourself , I tell myself that it’s “just a day”. The most important thing is to have a number great days throughout the year, rather that put pressure on yourself to enjoy a specific day.

[@anagoldberg]

You're so right! No pressure, just enjoying the day to yourself ❤️

[@crystalhankey7295]

Hello from Sparks, NV. I just found your channel today. This video really hit home for me. I lost my son this last March - he was 40 and died in his sleep. He just never woke up. Probably his heart they said. Even though he was healthy there is a long line of heart problems in our family. This year I just want to stay home with just me and my husband. I am treating myself with care. Good food to eat without it being a hardship to make it. Watch some movies or read and just not have to deal with people. It is just too hard this year. I am honoring myself and my husband is in agreement. My mother in law is having her usual big to do with all her friends either at her house or her boyfriend's house. I calmly told her our plans and that I wouldn't be good company. She tried guilt and manipulation. We both (my husband and I) offered other days before Christmas where we would make a meal and come to her house and go see Christmas lights after. She declined and said MAYBE we can get together after the holidays. I don't feel like she heard me at all. She said she understands because she lost two of her children. One about 50 years ago and one about 30 years ago but I think she really doesn't understand my need to be low key this year. I will do what is best for me this year - this is one thing I feel strongly about as I have always deferred to and taken care of others. Hoping your holidays are peaceful and special. Take care.

[@anagoldberg]

My dear friend, I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏❤️ I can't even imagine what you're going through.. That said, take care of yourself and your husband, you need quiet time, away from loud festivity and other people. Hope everything will work out well for you. Sending love and support from Siberia🌸

[@crystalhankey7295]

@@anagoldberg Thank you for your kind comment. I did just what I said I would do and kept it very low key. We ate when we wanted and watched a few movies and I read a book. (I love to read) Today I woke more peaceful and relaxed after Christmas. It feels like a breath of fresh air. I watched your video on what you eat in a day. I agree with so many that your calm voice and may I add your way of looking at things is refreshing and I subscribed yesterday and will continue to watch. Hoping your holiday was peaceful and blessed. Take care.

[@grazgal3606]

O my gosh, dear Ana, you do not realise, how much you help me to reconnect with my true nature. I am so much introvert inside, covered with the politically correct facade of socially approved image!! What a joy to find a soul mate, that reminds me so much of my true nature, so refreshing and invigorating. And - to bring another perspective - i so much envy you, that you don’t need to get involved in all this shopping, cooking, cleaning and all other preparations. Great to hear from you! I found your channel just recently but got hammered to it from the Very first encounter. Loves from Poland and priviet:)) Grażyna

[@anagoldberg]

Hello, dear Grazyna! I'm so glad the video was helpful for you and brought at least some comfort 😘 Warm hugs to Poland!

[@sherryharding5792]

Hi Ana, so much truth in this video of yours. I have a family and yet feel alone and misunderstood. Hence, it can be so painful. Thanks for the wisdom. I learnt not to expect much from others and appreciate myself. Yes, i will take a walk.💝❤

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Sherry! Oh, I'm so glad you've found some comfort in the video ❤️ Sending love

[@eliasp.9524]

You are amazing! A creative person, cultured and rich in simplicity.

[@letitbee7248]

Thank you for sharing these wonderful, helpful tips. I will be spending this holiday alone and it won't be the first time. Watching action movies is one of my favorite ways to pass the time. Like you, I also cook one or two special dishes, drink hot tea or cocoa and have lots of special sweet treats. I usually take a walk in the park on Christmas Day. There are very few people there, but the ones that you meet always have a warm Christmas greeting when passing by. It's nice to have a small, kind interaction with another human being on a holiday. I just found your channel and subscribed. Looking forward to watching more of your videos. Christmas Blessings to you and a Joyful New Year!

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for sharing this, my friend! 💚 It's also a kind human interaction, although online but no less meaningful to me. Have a peaceful and safe holiday season 🤗

[@kingalakatos5742]

Thank you for bringing up sobriety, for me it's also an important part on my way (since two years) of living a life where I'm fully present and where I accept life and myself without any "painkiller" which turned out to be more "paingiver" as it seems....thank you for your honesty!

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for sharing this, my friend. It gives me so much support ❤️ Indeed, it turns into a paingiver...

[@fireflyfarmletontheeno777]

Wishing you a warm and cozy holiday season ❄️❄️❄️

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, my friend! ☃️

[@cchemicka]

Hi Ana, those crochet snowflakes and chain made of them are so beautiful. Do you plan some video to share your handicraft skills? Greetings from the Czech Republic.

[@makORmalonek]

I would love that too. And greetings from Czechia as well!

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, my friend! Oh, I hope I'll finally come with some video, maybe a simple tutorial, I'm just not feeling confident I can explain well 😄

[@MagdushB]

I have never spent the Christmas alone, even sometimes I think it would be emotionally easier. However I have spent several New Year Eves being alone and I realized during the years that I do not mind too much. There is something soothing about being alone during the times when we are actually expected to be spending joyful and happy time with our families and friends. Truth is, picture of the perfect family holiday time as presented in medias, ads, movies etc is not a reality for many people. Only day I m really looking forward is 1st January. For some reason it feels like getting weights off my chests. You are right that it is probably the most quiet day in a year and I love it! I will go for a walk for sure. This year I realized that I love morning walks on Sundays or any bigger holiday exactly for the same reason - there are almost no people on the streets so it look a bit apocalyptic. I find current season especially difficult for me and I already watched a nice portion of action, sci-fi and fantasy series and movies. I can relate to practically everything you said in the video. It is good to see someone saying it this aloud. Content like this is a blessing in the overabundance of "perfect life" depicting videos.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for sharing, my friend! I agree, we ain't perfect, our lives ain't perfect but this is what makes them meaningful. Sunday morning walks are my pleasure, too 😄 Hope this time of year will treat you kindly❤️ Sending love from Siberia!

[@CiaraColette]

I’m so happy to start watching your channel! I would love more videos on the subject of being creative, being and artist and a minimalist. I find there’s not great resources on this subject out there. It would be lovely to see more of your arty side also. ✨

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you for this suggestion, Ciara! It's such an interesting and exciting topic for me ❤️

[@debbiekoortzen1154]

Hi Ana, I absolutely loved this video, you are so wise, this video was so meaningful to me. And I loved the little crochet stars. Thank you for your videos. Lots of love. ⚘

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Debbie! Thank you for watching and your kind words:) I hope this week brings you lots of good moments! 🌹

[@siiiriously3226]

love your calming vibe and look! :)

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, my friend ❤️

[@martl3288]

Beautiful

[@anagoldberg]

❤️

[@majosmama]

❤❤❤

[@kgt9925]

❤

[@nicnaknoc]

I really like the snowflakes and have been searching for a pattern for a few days now, so now I'm caving and just trying to ask you :) - could you plz share the pattern for the snowflakes?

[@anagoldberg]

I followed a video tutorial from a Russian crocheter here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z6TTZa2EnZusmZI&ab_channel=DashaGolubeva She doesn't give any pattern, but maybe it will be possible to use machine translation or understand from the video... Hope it helps you! 🌼

[@nicnaknoc]

@@anagoldberg thank you 💜 and marry Christmas

[@anagoldberg]

@@nicnaknoc you too! 🥰🌲

[@chronarie]

алсо, спасибо за видео

[@anagoldberg]

Спасибо, что посмотрела, Динара ❤️

[@whtvr_clover]

I never go out partying or eating out with my colleagues and even my friends. I'm just not the type of person who takes pleasure by going out. I love going home and having my time alone. It's how I reset my day and I am a happier person since then. Self-care isn't selfish. 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Haha, this sounds like a perfect motto: self-care isn't selfish! Love it ❤️ I resonated with everything you've said, my friend.

[@christianemichelberger8245]

Dear Ana, I don't know whether you realize how much warmth and tenderness you radiate. I am in tears. And your community is so wonderful too. Sending you lots of love from Germany.

[@anagoldberg]

My dear Christiane, it's not my community, it's our community! It would be impossible without all of you. 🤗 And I'm so grateful, I can't even express it.... ❤️❤️❤️

[@ExLibris-Alys]

As an introvert I spend most of my time alone and Christmas is no exception. My family often invite me over but I prefer to stay home so I politely decline. I used to accept some invitations to please other people but I stopped doing that a few years ago when I realised that sitting in someone else’s home and doing everything they’d organised just stressed me out. I lost my husband 8 years ago and if I can’t be with him I prefer to be alone, but I’m not miserable and find it strange that other people assume I must be. I’m so happy for you that your precious husband is finally coming home to you Ana 🤗💛🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Alys, thank you for sharing your inspiring introvert experience! I can relate to everything you've said 💚 Sending love and hugs, my friend🤗

[@TheStrayK]

I never liked these holidays (Christmas, New Year...). Living alone and away from my family, I find it a blessing to be away from parties, noise and drunk people. I take the opportunity to watch movies, sleep, eat and take care of myself. Greetings from Brazil :)

[@LolaPopente]

I loved the snowflakes used as transition scenes, its really clever and relaxing. I have an addictive personality and have had troubles with alcohol in the past so staying sober resonated with me so much. it's such a hard time being around peers talking about christmas parties and getting drunk. Here's to a sober xmas for me :)

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, thank you so much for this comment, my friend! It's a huge support for me, too 🤗💚

[@Woeschhuesli]

Much support for a sober holiday season, or any other time. We lost a friend to alcohol at 52 this year and it is so very sad that they felt so bad to resort to this, despite friends, family, work and a high standard of living… I think this was a very perceptive video, thank you.

[@anagoldberg]

@@Woeschhuesli I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏 Thank you for sharing this❤️ Lost my mother partly to alcohol, too.

[@SimoneWhipp]

Some good and useful tips Ana! I think having an early morning walk is very beneficial - exercise and fresh air. I think I will make a herbal tea using the ingredients you mentioned. Not having to cook for others means that you can make healthy choices and eat what you want. I am so happy for you that your husband is returning soon even if it is after Christmas. You can look forward to seeing each other and maybe you could knit him a pair of warming socks! :)

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you, my friend!💖 I've already knitted him a hat, socks can be super useful as well:)

[@inkompetenzkompensationsko4188]

After i moved out of my ex partners apartment i had to learn to cook for myself. I always cooked for me and my child, but when they weren't around i would just snack or eat convenience food and end up still hungry, unhappy and bored. Cooking for myself takes time i can spend with a nice podcast, try recipes i couldn't make with a toddler and have an nice lunch/dinner that feeds me well, makes me feel satisfied and apprechiative of myself. That was such a valuable lesson! Thanks for the video, i hope you'll have a great week ahead of you, Ana!

[@anagoldberg]

Such an inspiring story! 😊 Yes, listening to podcasts, trying out new recipes turns cooking into a joyful experience. Thank you for being here, my friend 😘

[@monikaprakash2645]

Am I the only Grinch here? I don't celebrate Christmas nor the New Year, and I would like to happily ignore them as much as possible. The sentimentality and consumerism around Christmas are too much! The New Year doesn't make much sense neither - it is just a number, and a real change in life can happen anytime we welcome it - no need to wait for a date in a calendar.

[@anagoldberg]

Well, we all have a choice whether to celebrate or not, I'm not into the consumerist side of winter holidays either, but can't help with being sentimental:) New Year for this culture is very essential and ignoring it is almost impossible. I agree with the point you made about real changes in life that don't depend on a calendar, it's so true! 🌼

[@melblack]

yes, i'm the same. i keep waiting for governments to cancel Christmas but my wish won't be fulfilled haha it's too important for the economy...sheeple love it.

[@anne-cecilemouget1657]

Social conventions... We can choose not to celebrate. The day I am glad to live is the 21 because of the soltice and lighted period of days enlarging again.

[@paulijooste3010]

Hi Ana xxx I'm always so happy when your videos pop up - I always try to take a little break at work or save video for a time when I can quickly make some coffee and then enjoy "chatting " with you and Ulysses - at least that is how it feels for me. I've struggled for many years with the "holiday season" because I'm an extreme introvert and cannot stand bright lights, noise and large crowds. Now I've finally made peace with who I am and how I prefer to live my life - BOOKS, CATS, COFFEE and quiet time ;) I love your videos because it fills that bit in me - the bit of maybe wanting to "chat" and that's what I feel like when watching. ALSO PLEASE FORGIVE - I'm just asking a quick question here - I'm gathering books to read over the next 3 weeks while I'm at home full time with my CATS !!!! YAY !!!! I received a recommendation to read - The Master and Margarita by Mikhail Bulgakov - I'm just taking a chance and asking what do you think? Have you read it? In the meantime - I'm now going to have my coffee - PLEASE HUG ULYSSES and big love for you and for your wonderful channel.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, dear Pauli! Unfortunately, Ulysses didn't make an appearance in this video, but he sends his best:) Your words warm my heart so much ❤️ I'm happy to be your chat companion:) Also, Master and Margarita is an outstanding, wonderful book. A great choice for reading! Actually, I think I might re-read it too:) It has so many layers of meaning... Sending love! 😘

[@paulijooste3010]

Thank You Ana - I'm definitely adding Master & Margarita on my happy "to read" pile - I'm very excited about my almost 4 weeks of peace and quiet at home with my books and my kitties and no people until 10 January :) Have a beautiful day filled with light and purrrrrrrrrrrrrrs xxx

[@anagoldberg]

@@paulijooste3010 4 weeks of rest and cosy time sound the best! 🤩🐱

[@MIOLAZARUS]

I have so many conflicting feelings every christmas. This video was so helpful and you give me perspective on a day where I could really use it.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so happy it was helpful, dear MIO! Holidays are often so much harder to survive through than regular days... Sending love! 💚

[@MIOLAZARUS]

@@anagoldberg Indeed! Maybe we grow emotionally a bit every time - I hope it's the case for me at least. We are so lucky to be here, but this experience is so intense sometimes. You know. Have a beautiful day,! I have started writing our project-song

[@anagoldberg]

@@MIOLAZARUS Yes, well said, my friend 🌿 So excited about the project! ❤️

[@carolprosper1800]

I was very happy to hear you will get to see your husband after 2 years. I bet you are feeling joyful. Will he be able to stay permanently? I hope so. I will be looking forward to your videos for 2022. I am not a minimalist, but I do enjoy your content. We are so different, and yet many things you talk about resonate with me as I do live alone, with my cat.

[@sabinegoetz1448]

Hello Ana. Such a thoughtful vlog, which I identified with. I have spent many holidays on my own. We are led to believe large family/friend gatherings are what is normal yet in reality there is such a wide spectrum. For many years I was challenged at the instance of well meaning friends to join them. This went against my inclination, but as I didn't want to hurt their feelings and not except the invitation, I went against my own feelings. It took me a long time to gather my voice and decline, although appreciatively. I now explain my feelings in hope they understand, although I realize I don't need to explain....but still working on that! I found that thinking of all the many people on their own, shifts the focus away from me, and instead I focus on how grateful I am to have comforts of my home. Wishing you well.

[@anagoldberg]

Can absolutely relate to everything you've said, Sabine! Sending love from Siberia 💚

[@metislamestiza3708]

i feel really happy to have discovered your channel Anna. your gentle , quietly kind and thoughtful demeanor really speaks to me. i appreciate your cooking abilities, artistic endeavors, and mindset on frugality and unnecessary purchases. i too have discovered simplicity in many facets of life recently makes me feel more content inwardly and therefore it shows in my relationships in a beneficial way. thank you for speaking your truth and sharing your life - greetings from Canada! лучшее из всего вам всегда!

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you so much, my friend! Sending big hugs to Canada 🤗

[@donatellag635]

I can understand why Christmas is so hard for many people because it's the same for me. When you loose someone you love and everywhere you see families apparently happy... But life goes on. I've already bought ingredients to make a cake and some appetizers just because it's holiday.. This, reading, walking, and life goes on. 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Cake and appetizers definitely make the holidays brighter, my friend! You're so right, life goes on ❤️

[@catherinepatterson4720]

Thank you for these Christmas holiday tips. Very helpful. I thought I’d share that I find Christmas an emotional time (for personal reasons), so I like to do ‘morning pages’ where I write 3 pages of my thoughts (and then tear them up into micro pieces and put them in the bin afterwards: although, it’s suggested, to write ones’s thoughts in a journal, but I don’t). It’s a way of letting go, so I can enjoy my day. I got this idea from a book called, ‘The Artists Way: A Course in Discovering and Recovering Your Creative Self’ by Julia Cameron (Published 1993 and republished thereafter i.e. 1994, 2016). I highly recommend this book. For Christmas, I also like to gift myself a present and a small bunch (bouquet) of flowers. I used to wait to be given what I wanted, only to be disappointed, so now I have learned to meet my own need in this gift giving area & anything else is a (loving) bonus. How lucky you are to have all that snow ❄ I liked how you used your crochet snow flakes to represent each tip. This was very creative. Thank you for another enjoyable vlog 🎄

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Catherine! Thank you for sharing and suggesting the book, I'll try to find and read it. Oh, and a gift for yourself tradition is so smart! I might do the same this year 😊 Sending snowy hugs to you 🤗

[@catherinepatterson4720]

@@anagoldberg Sounds like a good plan📓 🎁🙂

[@kuorenran5402]

You're gorgeous, a beautiful soul and I wanted to remind you that none of us is ever alone as we are all our own best company in this life. No one ever knows us better than we ourselves do and that is another reason why it is important that we hold love and compassion for ourselves as well as others. I am so enjoying your postings, you are so open and honest - it takes great courage to open up and make yourself vulnerable but I feel you have a tremendous inner strength. Merry Christmas and God Bless You; I hope that you can be reunited with your husband soon. Your father is watching over you. Greetings from Oz ~🐨❤️🦘~

[@anagoldberg]

My dear friend, your utter kindness and warmth made me tear up💚 Thank you for your wonderful support and for you being you. Happy holidays 💖

[@williamsdaf]

Thank you for your liberating videos Ana. I will be staying sober and walking and staying alone over the Christmas & New Year period by choice and circumstance. I wish you well and another coffee making its way over to you Inside Siberia Inside. Take Care.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for your kind support, my dear friend! 💚 Be well and take care too, be it on holidays or not 🤗

[@nanetten6238]

Hello Ana - What wonderful news about seeing your husband! That is really something to look forward to. Even though I enjoy Christmas and the holiday season, I consider the day itself (12/25) to be a children's holiday. Fortunately I have some wonderful memories of this day from when I was a child, but prefer to take a much quieter, more down to earth approach as an adult. I am very much an introvert, so a cozy day at home with colorful lights and my husband and my dog are heaven to me. Thank you for being so honest in sharing your feelings with us.

[@anagoldberg]

You've described such a cozy, perfect celebration, Nanette! Sending love ❤️

[@staceyangel8926]

Hi Anna, what a lovely video and very good advice. I am estranged from my family this Christmas, and feeling this during the lead up to Christmas day has been very stressful. I am trying to be kind to myself and even ordered some of my favorite hot chocolate, but I know it will still be tough. Thanks so much for sharing your situation. It takes courage and kindness to share with others when life isn't a picture perfect Christmas movie, but I think lots more of us go through this than are willing to admit, and it's always life-affirming when someone else "gets it." Cheers to you my friend.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, dear Stacey! I know, it can be such a mentally uneasy time... But you're never alone, there are so many people like us, ready to support each other even from a different part of the world ❤️ Be kind to yourself 🌼 Sending love from Siberia!

[@staceyangel8926]

@@anagoldberg Hello, I just emerged from my cave to check out youtube communications and saw your lovely note. Thank you so much! Sending you love from WV, USA!

[@donnachong1398]

Ana, I so look forward to your thought-provoking videos. Thank you for sharing emotions related to the holidays, that many of us might be hesitant to voice. I appreciate how you rise above the negative feelings. To Ana and to everyone in her, 'Siberia Inside' circle, I wish you all little joyful holiday experiences and a positive start to the new year. Greetings from Trinidad and Tobago.

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Donna, thank you so much for these words. Honestly, I'm often so hesitant to voice my thoughts in the videos, but then all the support and understanding that I see here are such a joy... Wishing you many many good moments during the holidays and beyond 💚

[@queenofhearts1670]

Wonderful video with great tips. Thanks so so much. 🙏💯💫❤️

[@loriwilliams2167]

I am finding it very hard getting into the holiday spirit this year. I have gone through a financial struggle and just moved into a tiny apt. I'm just thankful to have good health, good friends and my cats 😻 It's sad how there is so much emphasis on spending money for things we don't need just because it's Christmas. Peace and joy to you Ana 🎄

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Lori! Hope your holidays will be cozy and filled with purrs:) I agree, it's hard to get away from consumerist pressure... But changing our focus is always the best ❤️

[@scribetoscholar656]

Hope you are enjoying 2 January. I just watched this now, so did not have the tip about the walk yesterday. However I did start 1 January with a beautiful, solitary walk and thought, “Why didn’t I start this earlier in life?” 😃🙌🏻

[@gracefontenot1121]

I feel so validated! On Thanksgiving last month I just felt so off, and I declined all invitations. I spent it alone and it wasn’t a good day (perhaps bc I didn’t plan it and cook a lovely meal for myself) but it was better than forcing myself to be miserable around many others I wasn’t comfortable being around. Listening to myself felt so huge for me, thank you for validating my intuition! I’ll also be spending my birthday and New Years alone, and I’m going to try your tips. Ive grown to enjoy my solitude since developing chronic illness, and I am excited to be intentional during the Holidays. Thank you, Ana.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Grace! I'm so glad you've found comfort in listening to what you truly need ❤️ Hope your holidays will be peaceful and intentional 🌸

[@comunidade-luzflordelys9360]

Hi Ana I am Líria from Portugal I make mine the words of Alessandra from Italy Comentários Adicione um comentário público… Alessandra Sweetman há 2 semanas Dear Ana, this is the first time I leave a comment on anyone 's youtube channel but I felt you had to know how inspiring you are. I have eagerly watched every single one of your videos and what always transpires is your gentle and humble nature: you really are a little candle shining bright in the middle of darkness. Your simplicity makes you stand out and your words always give so much food for thought. Please never stop! It is amazing how you can reach people all around the world and make their day.

[@gutchiespencer2714]

I live in New York and I was the only person at the laundromat for hours on New Years morning, and that’s rare. I’m also introverted so I’m good with being alone at anytime, on New Year’s Day I went to Central Park watched the ducks frolicking in the pond, I bird watched, people watched, and walked a few miles, it felt very healing at the end of the day....❤️

[@Mileyworld2356]

Thank you for this video! I feel all these things! Hugs from Arizona!

[@janenewman2984]

I wish I could articulate in my first language as well as you do in your second! Happy New Year from the UK - you soothe my mind x

[@smartstartupenglish]

Thank you for adding the part about "devaluing other people's joy." I love Christmas, even though (or perhaps precisely because) I choose to spend it in a very small group with very little pressure to conform or perform. I love this time of year, but I have some friends that just roll their eyes when I put up my Christmas decorations in early December, and who can't resist mocking me when I start listening to Christmas music. All of these things are done in the comfort of my own home, so it's not like I subject anyone else to it. It doesn't make me enjoy these simple pleasures less, but it does make me avoid the people who make fun of me or rain on my parade. Just live and let live.

[@vessyioannou259]

I am happy your husband is coming. I was very sick from being alone.

[@dawnsie313]

Pleased to have found your channel, I agree with many of these nice comments, but do not possess the words. So, I will wish you a happy new year, with much love from Canada ❤

[@irishcladdagh3]

Winter blessings Ana... I am so HAPPY to hear you and your love will finally be reunited.... That to me is a beautiful Yuletide blessings!!! You made such good important points. I have been working during holidays for 9 yrs... Mostly by choice. I dont have family aside from my daughter and we usually work so our co workers who do have young families can stay home... My eldest lives far away with her beautiful lil family and they have a great time. I currently live in the desert I hate and xmas with no real winter & no snow doesnt feel like holiday to me...I used to do elaborate decor for my kids when they were young but they are adults now and I live minimal so I just have a tiny tin tree 😂 but im thankful for my introvertism because I dont mind being alone and cooking for myself... I would love to have somewhere to go or someone to spend it with but I dont so I dont dwell on it...I love that people take the time to get together and I know people at work feel sorry for me when they see me at work....its ok.... Hey I get paid double time so inside I am smiling as I watch xmas classic on tv at work....(no xmas romance 😠) Winter Solstice blessings to you and your beautiful Siberia from the desert in America....I LOVE your snow flake garland 🐾🎅🎄❄⛄

[@anagoldberg]

Wow, you're living in the desert! I was always fascinated to see American movies with those landscapes... LOVE your positive attitude! Keep it up, my dear friend ❤️ Sending love your way from Siberia.

[@mariawallace3791]

Hi Ana I have just discovered your videos which I love . sending good wishes from IRELAND x

[@anagoldberg]

So glad to meet you here, Maria! Love to Ireland ❤️

[@pequitasfreckles1468]

Holiday used to be supper sad and I always got sick! I spent so many Christmas in bed that I can’t even count them, noe I know, I was depressed.

[@divinaxcommedia]

I really enjoy all of your videos, I like your way of thinking and I would really love to hear some book recommendations or just your favourite books in a future video. In your apartment tour video you mentioned that you read before bed and I thought it would be nice to get some inspiration. I'm glad I've found your channel, great video on a very important topic. I, fortunately will not be alone these holidays but my mom will be. I feel quite sad but the situation and work does not allow us to be together (I'm a single child and we live in a separate countries, my father is working on the holidays and will not be at home). I will show her the video and I hope it affects her positively as it did to me.❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for watching and giving such kind support to this channel! 🌸 I hope your mom will find some comfort. You love her, and this is the most important thing 🤗 As many commenters here already said, holidays are not the only days in the year to be happy:)

[@katiedid1851]

I found you. You touch me in ways that are so positive for me. I have subscribed and am so happy I found you.

[@OnTheSensitiveSide]

I definitely look forward to catching up on some books this holiday season! Beautiful insights. I had the same relationship with alcohol as an hsp and have been happily sober now for 7 years. Learning to cope with our sensitivity sober makes us much stronger in the end 🙏🏽 Tnx!

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for this inspiration, Shannon ❤️ 7 years coping with sensitivity without alcohol, you are so strong... I hope I will be there one day soon. 🤗

[@kimrowe2822]

What is hsp?

[@kimrowe2822]

Highly sensitive person? (Which I totally am!)

[@cucasocksandsandals]

Hello Ana. Thanks for the video. The alcohol part resonated with me. I also sometimes have that temptation because I'm also highly sensitive and drinking makes everything more bearable. But then I regret it. So lately I'm more mindful about it and just have a half glass of wine just to enjoy the flavor/fragrance or have no alcohol at all. Greetings!

[@anagoldberg]

Hello, Isabel! Yep, alcohol for HSP can turn into a vicious circle sometimes... I'm glad you're figuring out your best way! Sending love ❤️

[@nataliecunha2108]

My mother was like that. As a teenager I asked myself a lot why she drank alcohol because she would get very disturbed, upset.... It was to help her with her sensitive nature. I didn't understand it completely until now reading your comments.. I don't drink because I don't like alcohol, but I eat choclate. 😋

[@cucasocksandsandals]

@@nataliecunha2108 I'm glad that you are able to understand your mother better now. Wishing you a wonderful 2022.

[@nataliecunha2108]

@@cucasocksandsandals Hello Isabel. Thanks. Wish you a wonderful New Year too.

[@jackcarter233]

You are always wise Ana! Thank you for sharing these video gifts 🎁. This is a great KZbin environment you created with your honesty, insight, and warmth. Wonderful! Thank you

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Jack! 🌸 It's a gift for me, too - getting so many warmth and understanding.

[@flufftronable]

Lovely video

[@theaodoherty6136]

Hi Ana, I found your channel during a rough time in my life and your videos and outlook have a been a solace. Thank you for sharing. Best wishes from England. Thea x

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Thea! Oh, I'm so happy to support you at least like these, by the content that I make ❤️ Thank you for being here with me 🤗 Sending love.

[@MrsBullfinch]

I love your crocheted stars. Very pretty.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, Sylvia! ⭐️

[@evas.2446]

Hi Ana! I have an anecdote. Three years ago my husband and I decided to go out for a walk on January 1st. We took the Moscow subway to go downtown and see the Christmas decorations. Never in our lives have we seen so much drunk people and so much vomit in the wagons. We decided to get off much earlier and walk home. Since then, we don't usually go out that day 😉 we stay home, я смешал два ваших последних совета в один.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Eva! Hahaha, this is the curse of Moscow:))😄

[@heatherdorsey4770]

These are wonderful tips! I loved the tea idea.

[@ashleighmurton8145]

Beautiful video ❤❤❤

[@janicegardner5027]

I love your comments and I also love your sweet little snowflakes. Did you make those? Thank you for sharing yourself and your musings with the world.

[@anagoldberg]

Hi, Janice! Yep, I made them, it's such an addictive crochet project 😄Thank you so much for being here ❤️

[@janicevin4207]

As an introvert, I still like company but small gatherings: like dinner with up to 5 or 6 ppl so we all can participate in the same conversation. I hate small talk! When I was younger I accepted invitations to parties thinking there will be music and dancing (I love dancing) but it was mostly drinking, smoking pot and small talk: I hated it and started to say no to all these invitations...

[@anagoldberg]

I hate small talk so much as well! And yes, cozy gatherings can bring lots of joy😊

[@FloatingMonkey]

What beautiful energy you exude. Thanks for encouraging and supporting all of us out here to stay true to ourselves. Sending you a lot of love, Ana. 💕🙏🏽

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much, my friend 💚

[@ruralliberal1377]

wise words, my dear.also, i love your collage artwork in the background ;)

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you my friend! ❤️

[@claudiapuppaberlin9689]

Dear Ana, thank you so much for your thoughtful tips! Each and every one resonated so deeply with me! 🥰 Oh, and btw, with the beginning of 2022 I will check out where to find my own Madagascar Jewel. And even though it won't be a one of August's children it will always remind me of the fact that we introverted HSPs live all over the world and in a huge variety of circumstances but we feel the same way. And this makes me quite happy 💕

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, it will be a Madagascar Jewel community 🤗 Thank you for being here and your sweet support ❤️ Lots of love!

[@claudiapuppaberlin9689]

Thank YOU for creating this extraordinary space! ❤️❤️❤️ Claudia

[@Angel-rq3pi]

Ok. I'm going to call these "Ana's 7 Pillars of Wisdom for Holidays and More". Spot on with every point esp re: no expectations. I've finally figured out if I'm upset at or with someone it's usually bc of my unspoken expectations they didn't meet.... And whose fault is that, really? Better to be mindful of limitations before expectations. I'll never win a marathon.... I can't even run in one; so I can't expect to get a shiny medal. On a happier note... YAY!!! hubby will be there soon! Congrats to you both!❤❤❤❤

[@anagoldberg]

Haha, such a spot-on example with the gold medal!:) Indeed, most of the disappointments root in our minds... Thank you as always, my dear Angel! 💚

[@SuzannesSimpleLiving]

I enjoy a simple Christmas with my son mum and partner,cooking a lovely meal and no presents or just handmade gifts. We don’t go out to parties it’s not our thing, much rather watch a film. Loved your snowflakes ❄️😊🇬🇧

[@anagoldberg]

Sounds so cozy, Suzanne! 😍 Handmade gifts are so precious. Sending hugs! 🤗

[@kazysbielskus3259]

Im going to spend the holidays with family this Christmas, but at the same time I have also realized it is important, as you mentioned, to keep expectations from becoming too grandiose. I will sit down with everyone and eat a meal, but afterwards the gifts I exchange with others will not be bought, but made. I hope they like it. But I also know that I must like it before anyone else. Also, cooking for yourself as opposed to by yourself is a wondrous experience- really. I love it. Greetings from Chicago!

[@anagoldberg]

So nice to know that you'll be giving handmade gifts 😍 Hope those family moments will bring you joy ❤️ Love to Chicago!

[@traceygoodman6203]

I’m an HSP Empath and introvert and spent the Holidays with my dear little dog which I consider lucky lol 😆🐶👏💐🇬🇧 I feel I must be getting better at manifesting better things for my dog and me as I found your channel or your channel found me haha xx love and hugs xx

[@lauralau1377]

Hello Ana! Watched almost all your videos this past couple of weeks. I'm happy for you that you will see your husband soon! 🙂 love your personality, and your videos. xx

[@lindajacquot5391]

I am with you 100% on the romantic movies (we have the "Hallmark Christmas" movies here in the US - not my thing). Thank you for another insightful video, even though I watched it after the holidays.

[@Nansense1023]

Dear Ana, I find your lifestyle very simple and calming. I like how you have spent the time getting to know yourself and created a life that pleases you. Your videos give me comfort and I thank you for reaching out to others in this way. I am wondering lately how I can apply some of your wisdom to my own life . I will keep watching. It’s so valuable for us to see how others live all over the world. I’ve feel blessed when I come out of my cocoon here in USA and meet lovely people elsewhere. Happy New Year❤️

[@monikamarsollek3493]

Hi, Ana, thank you for sharing your useful and so nicely presented 'star hints' ⭐️! Haha: i crocheted A LOT of these small white stars, because we don’t have a lot of snow… I love to be in company and I love to be alone. I love to cook for others and I love to cook for me alone and decorate my food nicely. That gives me the opportunity to make mistakes without comments 😉… or to find a new delicious meal I can serve others at another time. People were making fun of me or doubting, whether I really cook for myself, so I started to post my meals 'monialleinzuhaus' = means: Moni alone at home on our family and friend WhatsApp channel. I was asked for recipes a lot… I even posted my ‘ wonderful wood walks' and was asked for company. I mostly walk with only one other person, otherwise there is too much talk and less attention to the 'little things on the way'. But I really like to have walks alone, following my eyes, nose, feelings, thoughts… taking pictures (so easy nowadays with the mobiles!) and to share that. I often paint pictures after my photos. My husband is an extreme athlete, which I admire without copying it, so I’m quite often alone, without ever feeling lonely. You’re right with alcohol: I don’t use it at all (there were family issues with it, tough, but healing in another way). I even don’t drink coffee…We have Samowars and like to have black tea time together, but I’m a 'herb witch', too, drying herbs the whole summer and enjoying it in winter. I like so much that you enjoy what you have and find the small sparkles on your way and I’d like to see much more of your art! Love and ‘paka paka', Monika❣️

[@anagoldberg]

Yet another wonderful comment from you, Monika 😍 What an inspiration! And I think I will try using the old samowar of my parents, just to remember childhood:) Sending love, my friend!💖

[@DominikaDonchinka]

Oh I’m so glad to hear this and to see all these comments that I am not alone and I’m not the only one to stay home with myself during festive times during the year 😊

[@teresabouty106]

Thank you for your vidéo.❤

[@bajan256]

Happy holidays poka poka :)

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, my dear friend ❤️ You too!

[@laletonton]

You're the Best Anna🖐👌❤

[@mariaruiz3848]

I spend the Holiday by myself for the past few years now. I really enjoy my own company. The Holidays for me are a time to flow with gratitude for the journey. I cook and prepare my little table an celebrate with a nice meal. I prefer to stay alone than go anywhere. I also buy me treat, and enjoy the magical moment of open it on Christmas Day. Happy to hear that your husband is coming home soon. Remember that now you have a virtual family and you are not alone. Love 💗 only love 💗

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, Maria, so sweet you are! I am over to the moon happy and grateful for having this amazing virtual family ❤️ Such a great tradition with a gift for yourself! I shoudl do it too:) Sending love!

[@denisewehling649]

A street sale during the winter? 💕

[@gingermcintosh6545]

I’m seeing this in March so I know you didn’t see your husband and won’t until the war ends. I’m so sorry about this. But this video still moved me. The tenderness with which you prepare and gently present your suggestions (with lovely snowflakes) is very comforting, even after Christmas. You haven’t presented a video now in several days and I miss you. I have come to count on your videos, and hearing your kind words and voice. It’s the loss of a friend. I hope you are well.

[@anagoldberg]

♥️

[@rockette512]

Thank you Ana for your words of wisdom. I always feel confident when listening your voices and your sweet advices. I love to have long walk dedicated to carefully watch at nature, and focus on every details : oh that flower, the colors of the bark of a tree, the nakedness of the branches, and the differents shades in the sky... This way, I don't think anymore on daily problems, but I intimately realise the power to feeling surrounded by nature, its vibration and compassion towards me. That's a wonderful everyday gift. When I feel stress or sad, I know that after a walk, I'll feel better with a clear ming going back to home. It costs nothing but acts for the best. Also buying or compose a bouquet of flowers is also a best tips of mine agains melancholia, and enjoy the little seconds (or more), in my day looking at it. Make my mind better. Some writing and diy are also very comforting (without the expectation of doing something wonderful), sometime you're astonished of the result, and feel proud of doing something nice that you can also offer to people you care about. Winter holidays often brings a mix of joy and melancholia. It's good time to reflect on the year, what we are happy of, what was difficult. I love to show gratitude to people who surrounded me and shared my experiences. The smallest attention can have the biggest value in this period. It was the first message I wrote in my life after over 10 years in KZbin, but you clearly deserve it. You speak with your heart, and it goes directly to mine, with lot of emotions. Take care my friend ! Bisous from Nantes, France. Morgane

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Morgane, your comment is a form of meditation... It calmed me down in such a wonderful way, thank you for that! ❤️It means a lot to me, your attention and your words 🌼 Big hugs to Nantes 🤗

[@ilona8415]

Dear Ana, thanks so much for these tips. I've been spending the holidays alone for many years. I've decluttered gatherings, eating out, gifts, shopping spree, preparing special dinner, etc from the festive season. The only thing I do is to decorate my room in a simple way to create a holiday environment. And when the clock strikes twelve I start to meditate sitting in my room with lights and a candle lit up. And then I go to sleep😀And the next morning I go to the park to admire nature, give some food to birds. Everything is so beautiful and silent, that's true.

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Ilona, your plan sounds absolutely perfect and cosy to me! Haha, I LOVE sleeping in the New Year's night, too:)

[@jenniferrayburn1011]

Thank you. Paka, Paka (spelling?)

[@anagoldberg]

Yep, the englush transliteration is right:) In Russian it's пока-пока😊

[@MsPeppersmom]

Last Christmas I ate Chinese food, worked a puzzle and watched Little Women. I was alone but it was ok.

[@anagoldberg]

Sounds like a perfect holiday to me❤️

[@alexanderandreasen3874]

🙏❤️🇩🇰

[@chronarie]

Я ПОШЛА ВЯЗАТЬ СНЕЖИНКИ

[@anagoldberg]

Хахаха:) Я их уже дня четыре вяжу, не могу остановиться, скоро гирляндами весь дом завешу 😄

[@mihaeladaia4673]

💙

[@enarose7062]

Thank you Ana ❤️

[@nikiedewael3766]

Thank you for this perfect message! I realized lately I have put aside all my romantic movies. But I have made myself a nostalgic playlist of childhood movies like Disney, Home alone, Sound of music,... And at newyears day I watch the Wiener filharmonic concert like my father did when he was still alive. Some tears may fall but they will bring relief. I drink no more than 2 glasses of cava and eat Chinese food as much as I can. Yes, no expectations and trying not to imagine the whole world celebrating in perfect harmony and lock me out. Will you give yourself a present? Something you wish but not need and perhaps is a bit over the top? Thanks again for your words and cosy video.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, such a beautiful tradition and an hommage to your father...❤️ I didn't think of any present for myself yet:) Maybe some new yarn to knit/crochet 😄 Thank you for being here, Nikie!

[@nikiedewael3766]

@@anagoldberg Thank you for having me over 😉 Give yourself a treat. Something to cherish. You deserve it!!

[@MWUSA]

Great video

[@--Valentina-]

Dear Ana! I'm behind on my YT watching--it's so busy this year end--I look forward to watching your always wonderful videos. ✨🎄🥰

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you for being here, Valentina! Sending love 😘

[@annasimonova5304]

не помню, чтобы выходила на улицу утром 1 января, надо попробовать. если не буду в салатной коме, как остальные хд

[@anagoldberg]

Ох уж эта салатная кома)) Мне тоже часто лень, но ощущения потом классные.

[@elizabethc6517]

Love your style, this year I don’t want celebrate, I miss my family in Portugal, Right now I live in a country where I don’t feel any connection, just want back and out of this reality. You have one more suscriber 😊☺️

[@anagoldberg]

I'm sorry you have to stay away from your beloved country and family:( Hope the situation will change for the better soon!🌼

[@elizabethc6517]

@@anagoldberg thanks for your words☺️🤗🌷

[@derozenbloeien571]

To be on my own is a great effort to learn to make me stronger. But still those days, it’s all in our minds, so give yourself a nice mindset for the situation. For example: I am learning to be still and confident with myself and it will give me an other view on life. Maybe I’ll be surprised after all. To feel something, I never feel. Not special positive or negative, but…. let’s what happens. (Although I live not alone, I love to be on my own often, (solo retreats) and gives me insights and confidence.)

[@anagoldberg]

Solo retreats, what a lovely name! 😍 Always keeping a good mindset, my friend:) Thank you!💚