7 Ways Unhealed Relationship Trauma Shows Up

Relationships can be the most beautiful and nurturing experience. However, in toxic relationships, these traumas can deep wound us. Even though we might not be conscious of them, they can show up in subtle ways that create challenges for our future relationship, or even for ourselves. Relationship traumas can create stress that worsen over time, making it more and more difficult for us. They can leave us feeling powerless, and confused, as to why certain things trigger or affect us so much. Let's explore how unhealed relationship trauma can show up in our lives.
The goal of this video is to build awareness on the topic of relationship trauma and abuse. If you feel someone could benefit from these videos, do consider sharing!
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Also, if you want to learn more about the signs of unhealed trauma in general, we have a video on that too: • 9 Signs You Have Unhea...
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[@Psych2go]

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[@k_i1397]

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Egg

[@oliveispresent]

Egg was first

[@Hello-mz3wk]

Egg.

[@سّالجابر-ز4د]

chicken came first , cause you can't have an egg without chicken no matter what or how

[@squeakssqueakers4905]

As someone who’s mostly recovered from my relationship trauma, I just want to say this is an amazing video. There’s nothing wrong with you for struggling and one day you will be better. For now just take your time and know the symptoms ❤️

[@Awkwardgr1]

this video reassured me that i'm not "crazy" and that my trauma is very real and is something i want to continue to work on. I will just take it one day at a time.

[@jessica_moon]

You are so right…

[@JollyJack1992]

Good video with a lot of helpful insights, but the music is too loud, at one point it's hard to hear what the voice is saying because the music is in the way. Other than that, thank you for the great content!

[@emily_kim]

Yes!! Towards the end the music is overpowering

[@Scott_34]

It's also cuz the voice got quieter too

[@ineptadept3251]

Turn on CC

[@chrisvo203]

@@ineptadept3251 yah but it's not just about literally hearing and understanding what the person says. it's also about the experience and ease of watching the video. its called good audio mix.. imagine if you had to look up the lyrics every time you listen to a song bc the backing track is overpowering the vocals.

[@ineptadept3251]

@@chrisvo203 I agree

[@namethestars]

#4 - absolutely. I relate to all of these but 4 is definitely deep. It's hard to reconcile that a relationship I held onto for ten years was a lie, that the person I thought I knew never existed. I'm not even sure my mind is healing atm, I'm just trying to keep busy so I don't have to feel. But my trust in everyone is no longer there, every kind gesture I see through jaded eyes so I question everything. I've been numb for the last year, I don't feel anything any more.

[@curiousgeorge9164]

Sounds like you could be suffering from a narcissistic relationship.

[@boomber_96]

I am so sorry for you. Hope you get healed in no time..

[@jh5588]

I can relate, I’ve been emotionally numb for several years now, it’s like once emotions shut themselves off it’s impossible to turn them back on.

[@HoshPak]

Sorry to hear about your loss. I've been in the very same situation, lately. The friend in question started distancing himself after finding a partner. In about one year our relationship devolved from best friends to acquaintances all the way back to strangers. I had to cut ties with him because it was hurting me so much and I was forced to rethink my definition of friendship. It's a dark place. However, just when I thought I would be all alone another door opened up. Another friend - in fact even older than the one I lost - took an interest in my case and helped me sort through this mess. Keep your chin up, man. The worst part is behind you and it's about to go uphill again.

[@thnkspiritual2851]

Everything will be okay! Find what makes you feel again. Maybe you're numb bc you identified with who you were when you were w that person which makes sense! 10 years is a good part of your life!!!! But try not to demonize them unless they did actually suck that bad....demonizing them and wondering if it was all a lie is just going to make it so much harder to let go...be grateful for what happened and look at how to be the best you

[@creative_elf.official]

Thanks for this video, I am experiencing most of the signs you've mentioned. It hasn't been an easy road and I still find myself fighting my demons everyday day, but I know this road will lead to my healing one day and I guess it's nice to know I'm not alone.

[@anubisgodess2353]

I just want to say that sometimes it's a bit creepy that you guys manage to post videos specifically on things that I find myself going through. However it's also insightful and I learn things so I want to say thank you for just popping up at the right time. Thank you.

[@VanityStarBeauty]

I’m currently feeling ALL of these emotions. I recently got out of a four year toxic relationship. Thank you for sharing this.

[@_love-ly]

I lived in a toxic relationship and suffered just like that for several months. Even though I wasn't in the relationship anymore, I still felt fear, sadness and stress, as if my brain didn't understand that it's all over. It was months and months of anxiety, guilt, shame and fear. Nowadays, I am an extremely complicated person to deal with a possible romantic partner. I constantly find myself thinking about the past and can't look forward to it. It's difficult.

[@manh3647]

I really like the second piece of music. The blissful solitude of being isolated from the rain of judgement like staring at the ceiliing on a sofa all alone at home with no light on but just the TV on and a can of beer.

[@MaritinleYoshi]

I definitely had constant nightmares about it for what felt like a whole year after my toxic relationship ended. Like I couldn't sleep without waking up in sweat and feeling broken as soon as I even saw her in my dreams. I'm still not entirely over it but I'm glad most of those symptoms have been occurring less often through the five years I've been dealing with trauma due to that relationship.

[@CRONKYPIGEON]

I totally get it. There was a toxic person in my life that pulled me apart just being in my presence. I still suffer from her even though she's far away now and it hurts knowing that someone else has to deal with her. You don't deserve to be in so much pain. Just remember that. you are a walking miracle and often the only person that can't see that is yourself. Stay strong 💗

[@261144185]

#4 hits deep. After a 2-year abusive relationship, I feel I can't trust anyone. If I get close to someone, I put up my walls. There's someone I like at the moment, but I keep making excuses not to ask her out: not the right moment; she deserves better; she might reject me, etc...etc... I think it's just a cover for my trust issues. Thank you for these videos.

[@likeag6216]

I looked at this video to see if I still have any signs of unhealed trauma from my past relationship. Looking at this made me realize how far I’ve came in such a short time. It’s crazy how I used to have most of these, and I remember my ex always had me in a stressful and miserable mode whenever I was around him,im glad God provided me strength to put my foot down and leave. NOW let’s get to present tense, im so far in a healthy relationship with someone new. And I’ve been in smooth sailing with him ever since I met him, even though my ex tried to make attempts to shimmy back into my life,I refuse to allow him to get the upper hand again. I’m happier compared to how I was from March 2021- Oct 2021 when I was still having my ex in my life . Thank God for everything and put your trust that he’ll get you through any situation no matter how hard it may seem, Jesus Christ saved me from my past self and healed me.

[@likeag6216]

Forget everything I said,I spoke too soon.

[@sandramary9155]

@@likeag6216 wait what?..you’re back with your ex?

[@KiallVunMyeret]

It's been 4 years since my relationship ended and i still have nightmares about it sometimes I haven't been able to trust people and have closed myself off the world as much as i could It wasen't even a toxic relationship. She just went to study in another country and i fell in depresion which caused us to drift apart. I have pretty much come to the conclusion that love just isn't meant for people like me and that it would be better if i just stayed alone

[@SelenaQuintanillaMusic]

all i need is some goddamn entertainment after a long day of voice acting, & archeology studies for school. this video definitely cured me. thank you for taking the time to make this video. the funniest thing about me watching your videos is that I always have sushi with me. i look forward to watching your videos everyday! i love you!

[@j_nerner2746]

Number 4 really hits me very hard. When you really try your best for someone you love but someone you love just playing heart with you it felt really hurt(a lot), since then its hard to trust people especially when you show your feeling about something that you want to share.

[@bluefox8011]

It takes time to heal from trauma, sometimes a long time, but eventually find that your great the way you are and will find someone or something that makes you better and happier than you ever thought you could be.

[@RegularInvader]

Even though my sister used to have an abusive boyfriend, I feel like the trauma still lingers. #5 is pretty much how I've remembered her since we started college together. She always put the blame on me over simple mistakes that weren't a big deal to begin with. She never respected my boundaries despite me staying out of her way. I ended up moving back to my parents' house just to stay away from her. I don't really keep contact with her unless it's a family gathering my mom set up.

[@makitty_makeupxo]

As someone with cptsd from relationships Thankyou for this. This is very factual and informative! I Love your channel sm❤️

[@michaelladeposa9427]

I cried while watching.😭 I can relate. I'm starting to feel like I don't want anymore relationship because of my traumatic experience 😕

[@lonedruid9869]

Trauma from loss in relationship… I’ve had moments where I felt frail and weak and like an old man. Body moving barely. There was onetime I over heard a crush already having someone in their life. This was someone at work and immediately after hearing that, my body just couldn’t move. I stayed for another hour, sobbing, I was concentrating on work as hard as I could which helped half and half but my body? Just was shutting down. I felt dehydrated. I really tried pushing my body to move almost like screaming for it to move quick and average pace but it couldn’t. Simply couldn’t. I didn’t wanna walk out of work. I didn’t want it to seem I couldn’t control my emotions or I was a coward or I would give up easily. Wat really pushed me to call off was because my body wasn’t functioning properly like literally at all. Tried even drinking more water but didn’t help. Physical pain I can withstand Emotional pain? That will flay me alive

[@OffGridInvestor]

It's hard finding out they already have someone. But I've taken so many hits, it's like bugs on the windscreen now. I find if I never think about them sexually, I don't get upset for any more than 3 days of slight depression (feels more like 3 mondays) if they have someone. Also helps IMMENSELY when it comes to talking to them and looking them in the eyes. But as soon as you start thinking really sexual, all hope of a smooth recovery or even avoiding nervousness is gone....

[@JosephYanni]

Brother, I had the same thing happen to me and it sucks. You probably felt strongly because the way she made you feel and how joyful she was. The thing is, one average woman is able to attract and will date 6 men while single. While an average man will have only one woman to date, and so the odds are stacked against men. No retreat, no surrender!

[@Denz-xd8sx]

The trauma of being decieved & loosing someone like in 2016 still eats me in my daily life, even though as I reach out to her & try to talk about it to just end it without any remorse she wouldn't like i didn't. Now as like many it's just too hard to be normal. I wish I could have been more wise before.

[@beauty.fromashes]

Thats exactly how I feel. Luckily I will start with therapy the next month.

[@beauty.fromashes]

@Ali Osman Diyarı thank you :)

[@missjddrage1111]

0:54... My goal from watching this video is to understand and clarify what my underlining issues could be. The death of a partner is a complicated challenge to endure through. I hope for insightful and creative support through this video.

[@Spooktuberz]

Seeing the animation quality increasing has been one of my favorite parts of following this channel

[@jacobmeans7612]

......... it's been almost 2 years, and i still react strongly with all of these....... number 3 made too much sense to me. I might like to see a video on how to get your mind out of working so differently having those chemicals in your brain constantly. like personally, I try to be productive, but I already had ADHD, and now, I can scream at myself to get up and do something productive, but I just can't

[@maskmaker584]

Everything, why can it be like at the beginning. My family always fighting and blame all on me, my friends left me and did not save me, and my last hope..........My crush was my final key to save me, but she denied my confess, I was feel I will be fine with out her. But my wound in my heart is tearing bigger, each of my broken relationship are equally as each sword stab in my heart. I failed in every process, I can not even show my emotion cuz people will complain about it, so I hide it........All of my wound, all of my pain, even all of my emotion behind a mask call happiness, now no one can see im crying, im anxious or im afraid. If i can die, I want to die in a rose garden with a warm hug from a person that I can trust to leave my last hope for them. Thank you for reading this, this is my inner voices and anxiety talking about me

[@snazziera9407]

My bf betrayed me recently for flirting with his girl bestfriends behind my back and i found out about it when i was checking his phone.. (well, he did checked my phone too and read all the conversation, to show that i have nothing to hide) Both of us are in silent treatment and i've been hurt and alone... I tried to cope myself with distractions but i ended up crying so hard.. Wish if i hadn't checked his phone.. (sorry for my english)

[@OffGridInvestor]

If you checked his phone or did not.... he was still flirting. Some people flirt with everyone, but not many are like this. Most are cheaters. On future do realise you need someone who you can trust and not NEED to check their phone. Because to most people, checking their phone goes against their privacy.

[@cryouru]

My boyfriend had toxic relationships in the past, abusing his kindness, shaming him, he forgave them for cheating on him but now he’s scared I will do the same even if he really love me a lot, his trust issues and traumas control him when he is weakened mentally. But I will fight for him, I will do my best to heal his wounds and make him feel better about himself

[@lamismater8779]

Sadly I'm suffering from all the signs, I hope to get rid form all the toxicity he put inside me and be finally free and see the light again ,he caused me the biggest trauma i have ever had 😔

[@wendychavez5348]

I deal with many of these, and am working on resolving them because I am MUCH happier in the 5 years since the narcissist "allowed" me to leave, than I was in the 5 years we were together.

[@akayla_me2010]

I love this channel you have many things to learn in here

[@ryanricks318]

That tone o clinical detachment stills effective you gonna fix that huh when not so soothing sometimes so lvl oo sojourneys

[@gorajoo2975]

Actually,I miss my twin flame so much.I never had any romantic relationship till now.I would like to meet her soon. Pray for me and her,please.

[@Simon0501]

Hope you see her again ❤️

[@gorajoo2975]

@@mintysali1141 enna wolarureh? Enna paatha unakku kindalaa irrukka?

[@gorajoo2975]

@@Simon0501 Thank you for your kind and encouraging words

[@mysterioereneditz466]

Yea I wish u all the best ❤️✨✨🌎

[@jeremy-yq2qc]

U posted this just when I broke up, I watched this to check myself, thanks for the video❤️.I think I will be fine, I don't have trauma or so I think.

[@Psych2go]

You’re welcome! Hope everything goes well for you!

[@jeremy-yq2qc]

@@Psych2go OMGggggg I can't believe u replied, atleast something good happened today.

[@sreelakshmivijayakumar95]

I am having ALL these symptoms...! Sad thing is that it is not a lover or crush who made me feel awful, but it were my parents... Being an only child, I have been suffering for the past 23 years having nobody to share my problems with...😢 Two years ago I got married to a wonderful man who made me realise WHAT IT MEANS TO BE REALLY LOVED...It was he who pointed out that I have been a victim of trauma...I hadn't even realised it before... I'm still suffering from these problems, especially physical ones, but now I have a true friend for life...He is mostly patient with me and showers me with love...I hope he will help me lead a happy life...🥰🥰

[@Psych2go]

Hi Sreelakshmi, thanks for sharing your story. What an incredible story to tell. I'm so happy to hear you're in a better place with a loving husband. Would you mind share your own personal advice on how to overcome victim of trauma? Perhaps someone in the comment section might be able to see your comment for advice.

[@CrickeyMushu]

could you guys do one on friendship break ups? i feel like we talk so much about romantic break ups but never enough about friendship break ups

[@kellyfields3061]

Thank you so much for this video. I subscibed to this channel in 2018 and I've since used this platform to help learrn more about myself. I thought I was just be crazy for having most if not all the symptoms listed in this video now I understand I just need to work a little deeper and bring this up to me theropist thx again.

[@Nayeon_is_everything]

Thank you for the video because i am now experienced unhealed relationship trauma. It is very hard to move on and i never told anyone about this. But i really need some advice on how move on. It is already been since 2019 i experienced unhealed relationship trauma and i don't know how to ged rid of it. I want to tell to my parents but they said there is no such things as unhealed relationship trauma and said that there is no such things about betraying. I want to tell this to my friend since my parents dont believe it but since i have trust issues i cannot tell. So now i really dont know should i just let it be or should i trust my friend and tell her :(

[@tails0389]

I’m sorry, I don’t have the slightest ounce of what you feel, maybe try going to therapy if you haven’t, it really does help.

[@Nayeon_is_everything]

@@tails0389 i really want to but i dont know any therapy :(

[@eltiobry3859]

Seek help, from a professional, being brave is tough, only you know your family and friends, if you cant open up with them, seek help

[@OffGridInvestor]

My sister has a psychology degree and this is exactly the kind of stuff that requires therapy. I know life hasn't been great for anyone since about 2019, but it sounds like you're seriously effected by something deep seated.

[@Nayeon_is_everything]

@@eltiobry3859 ik im trying but i have trust issues thats why i dont have many friends the other reason its because im introvert :(

[@megant3480]

Heartbreak literally breaks you.

[@nadascakes]

My first relationship ended suddenly 3 Months ago and I have fractured a bone and gotten a 3rd degree burn but that wasn’t even close to the pain of a heartbreak and even though I now know the relationship was toxic I still can’t get over what i wish it could have being

[@avengingscapegqat4598]

Toxic relationships with family and friends destroyed me. Nothing is left but the angry scapegoat that longs to be heading it's own herd.

[@glenweeks4893]

I didn’t realize how much I was grieving the divorce even though it’s been 3 years since we split. This hit me right in the gut. Now how the hell to I get pass this.

[@victoriajohnnie2719]

wow, wow, wow… opened my mind to a lot that has been going on in my life! this video was like shadow work

[@themountainking19]

I've been thinking and healing for years.

[@WaqarAhmad-dd8xo]

I helped a person in healing her breakup trauma... I succeeded But now it's a situation almost same ...and amazing thing is that... Reason behind it is also herself.

[@FreeRangeLunatic]

I love sharing time with this channel. But, guys, the backround music got some special attention today.

[@samanthalee6818]

I think I've had these symptoms since I was a kid, but more notably so for the past 3 years. So how do we get rid of it? 😕 Relationships make me feel unsettled and unhappy as soon as they start and I trust NOBODY.

[@Obi-Wen]

God this came in time to save me from another spike of guilt & doubt. I’ll share this to my ex friend and probably I’ll let her be.

[@eliffaalbs]

My ex used to said that he cares more about his education, that was his excuse ofc. Meanwhile he ignored me and found someone else I was so sad. He never made me upset, maybe once in 3 years but other than that he was great ):

[@katieburke2902]

so true...keep putting one foot in front of the other...♡

[@rahmaahmed167]

It wasn't even a long term relationship and i can't seem to move on even after 2 years... The worse part is that i can't tell anyone about it or open up about my feelings because simply no one would understand and they'd see me weak... And seeing the other person living his happy life without feeling guilty or even apologizing made me feel like i was nothing and never mattered to him lol

[@sommungchisblinkifyoureate6307]

Your voice coupled with the background music makes me cry

[@unassumingsultan]

Stress, stress go away.... I'm still fighting a losing battle in my mind

[@stevebryant5417]

I have exactly 💯 that no doubt in my cra cra mind, still here it's been awhile still dealing with the courts over my ex that idgaf about long story but until this crap is finally over maybe I can climb back to normal great video now back to

[@lucca1-d9x]

my last (and only) relationship only brought bad things to my life. all my traumas and psychological problems came because of it.

[@fam_af6998]

Me and my ex just broke up again right now

[@shinitori5018]

Same

[@mysterioereneditz466]

They just get back and then break up again like a cat coming for food then leaving 🤣🤣🤣

[@fam_af6998]

@@mysterioereneditz466 we didn’t even break up honestly we have been broken up for months but this was the “last time” we are going to see each other I honestly hope it is the last time! It was just funny bc when I got home I seen they posted this 3 min ago.

[@mysterioereneditz466]

@@fam_af6998 all the best to you just know that u are not alone and there is still love and hope waiting for u ☄️ ❤️✨

[@trash3ntity]

Your voice is so comforting

[@JJ-mh4xd]

Wow i love the video, I have some extreme anger and anxiety. I had no idea its from my past relationship that was awful and very abusive. I left but definitely have the physical symptoms.

[@JJ-mh4xd]

@Anne sitter please do list who helped you out

[@besaltman9961]

A suggestion far a possible video: little things that can, for example make your life happier or something similiar.

[@Miyana22]

Thank you for posting this. I wish there were some way to cure it💔

[@chenbenjen]

I needed this. Thank you ❤

[@adorarichlin2551]

I love the music added to this video

[@burtlux3736]

Bro I'm like this since I was born

[@jedilostannon9466]

Its okay im unlovable and better off alone im very accepting of it

[@Ghoulastre]

My relationship was a teenage one. But she wasnt tóxic, till she finally was in the end.

[@BradlyHaubert]

I want to know how you have been posting things so close to when I need them… and thanks 😊

[@SES77]

Hey guys, love your videos as always, but I think you may want to turn down the backround music a bit. Amanda has a lovely soothing voice, and it was kind of being drowned out there for a minute or two

[@youssefsief8354]

Can you please make the future vids without the sound track thats on 4:40 i find it very overwhelming I don’t know why it’s just triggering me , love the vid much love you actually helped me alot throu dep ❤️❤️

[@wilhelm992]

I had someone I cared about turn on me over nothing and now I can't trust anyone. I had a friend group online, I found out one did not like playing with me or so I thought. I could not get that out of my mind and it eat at me till I thought everyone in thay group hated me and I acted crazy and then blocked them all. I regret it and I will for the rest of my cursed life, I just don't know how to trust anyone anymore and I hate myself so much for the things I have done irrationally 😔

[@AF3NI]

I have all zeven.. and i just have a boyfriend for almost 4 months and we had two big fights last couple of days ..We never had a fight before and it's mostly my fault because of all these traumas but we working on it ..

[@Facixot]

Went from education video to ambient music, might wanna get that fixed.

[@ooichiewlean548]

I don't have relationship trauma but hey can you do an analysis on ; Why do some people, no matter how much you do for them, they still think you want something or, you will not continue to help them or, you are not that interested in helping them. I know that is due to lack of self confidence, but how severe can it get ? Will it be so severe that that person non stop hacking your phone 😊

[@rosiesartsy]

Me: has all these symptoms Also me: this is fine

[@SomeMortyDude]

I broke up with my girlfriend because I started experiencing lack of communication and her unwillingness to try, after we broke up she manipulated me by saying she hurt herself because of it, now two weeks later I'm feeling regret because I miss her but I dont miss how I was beginning to feel unhappy with her, it's a confusing mindset I'm in...

[@ivanalaiguana1131]

I know what you mean sometimes we can't help but miss the people in our lives that took a great part of our life, especially if you had feelings for them. But if we truly love them we have to let go, and learn from the experience. Because staying can lead to a lot of toxicity, and you'll only end up hating yourself in the end as well as that person.

[@SomeMortyDude]

@@ivanalaiguana1131 thank you for your reply, i am trying to be better, i have since met good friends and moved on, however i left the door open if she ever wanted to try again i am open to it, but if she isn't willing to open up or communicate, i can't continue in a relationship that's one sided

[@ivanalaiguana1131]

@@SomeMortyDude I understand. It's hard to let them go. But change is a big deal for that to happen. They have to change themselves in order to be happy. We can't always be their well "punching bag" and vice versa. Hoping they get better is the best thing we can do for them. Even fixing ourselves for the best too, and understanding what went wrong can be a big step.

[@jakerobertson7872]

This is the reason why I don't want to be with someone ever again I went through hell afterwoods

[@serenityjohnston20]

It hurts me to actually watch a video on how I actually feel

[@nickyxXxXxXx]

Great video although I disagree with "those who disassociate are more likely to lash out " they are more likely to remove themselves from the situation.

[@duckalienvaded]

Goddamn, I thought that these videos were meant for all kinds of ppl, but I guess I have to have the best ears in the world to hear what is being said after 4:00

[@sonalmundhra248]

Music is too loud in the second half of the video. It makes listening to the content and connecting with it very difficult. Great content as usual, though

[@danieldelange1583]

Ok, I saw this like a grocery store list; had em all. How do I combat this? I’m so tired; I’m tired of being stressed, sad, angry, lonely, confused, heck I’m tired of being tired.

[@ojbgamin]

Yeah this slick is me I've been going thru this for such a long time and I couldn't put my finger on what it was that had me feeling this way. Yeah gotta get back to therapy

[@Ghostshark83]

Sorry, but around the 4:25 mark, I can't hear the narrator's voice! The background music in the video gets too loud. And this part of the video I really wanted to hear, because I experienced this very badly a few months ago with my recent break up.

[@zeeshanquadri1]

This gonna might help in future as the trauma seems, will come later on for sure. 🙂

[@aliciawatson5321]

I have anxiety watching this ! This is 100% me 😕😟🙁☹😭

[@mizuki357]

Hey @psych2go could you make a video explaining depression to someone. Who doesn't really understand? It's hard to explain to someone in my life about how I feel. It's like they don't care about my feelings. And no matter how much I tell them they won't listen. I just want to thank you for your videos. They have helped me get through my toughest days.💜

[@mandapark7042]

saw this after trauma recovery of 6 months i think most of it is behind me and im going great but this is month 6

[@marialuken4429]

I could hear what you said after 4:27, because the music was so loud.

[@fairuzparker9101]

Yes I am suffering and going thru this

[@noaeyal]

I have a wonderful romantic loving relationship with someone i cherish dearly but my past relationship traumas still linger and sometimes i find myself trying to please him because of the fear he'd leave me.. it's all in my head he's definitely not like the past ones.. I don't want to be a pleaser but i can't stop acting like one.

[@eforme7105]

My first friendship with my online friend was bunch of lying and manipulation

[@ODiegoelesabe]

😞 Some days it's so heavy...

[@jakerobertson7872]

This was me I nearly died tried to hang myself couldn't live with the pain thankfully I found friends that took me in and healed me I still get emotionally unstable at times but I'm managing I had to let what I was holding onto go because it was killing me

[@garymclaughin]

Yes like bribe, this one is difficult for moi. For me I've good now not missing someone. I'm sure there different fields that one specializing in. For me it's good to take even a holiday from another. Easier when you get older and been through it a few times cough cough. I hate being heartbroken anymore.🤠

[@misticalrainbowkitty9735]

3:03 the background music here sounds sad yet calming. may i ask for the title or how to play it on piano?

[@tamoyaoakley1968]

This is the complicated part… I was my boyfriends ex until we got back together 2 years later.(we’re still together ) However , our last relationship didn’t end well but after it happened we just ignored each other… Now that I assume we both got over it, we’re together again, but he keeps bringing up the past and that trauma is getting in the way of our current relationship. I don’t think he actually got over it and now I don’t know if we should be dating because of it. 😕 what should we do?

[@Lucky7th7450]

The piano music that started mid way is so sad : (

[@7c9ND2el]

Not sure if it is just me, but at 4:10, the music starts to drown out the dialog. Either way, thank you for making this video.

[@princestarshinesprincesslu2937]

I’m very sad right now lost a friend

[@Damaskox]

The background music should be lower in volume. I cannot hear much what is said in between. Cool animating!

[@susanouillette7048]

The video is great, but I’d personally lower the background music a little so I can hear the speakers voice. The music is over powering it a bit.