90 Day Fiancé - (Yve & Mohamed #11) - No Empathy - Therapist Reacts

Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to 90 Day Fiancé, Yve & Mohamed. Includes clips from 90 Day Fiancé, Season 9.
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[@DrLC.]

I think Jibri is Team Whoever-he-identifies-with-most-until-he-doesn’t.

[@thedudeabides5695]

Or he wants camera time.

[@marthagonzalez1357]

@@thedudeabides5695 or he thinks he's a medium psychic.

[@myra3266]

A woman from his own culture wouldn’t even marry him because the mom takes care of him and mo doesn’t have a livelihood…. 😬 Mohammed is very ego-centric. He wants her to revolve around him..cook for him/take care of him/ treat him like she’s his mom…probably sleep with him whenever he wants..dress the way he wants..concert to Islam… He’s passive aggressive and actually I think very manipulative. Reminds me of my ex from Iran tbh! He triggers me so much

[@SB-fh3sv]

He is not a catch at all for anyone. He doesn’t have strong masculine energy to me that would make me believe that he could take care of me if i was his wife and that is a universal feeling i imagine. The part that humors me is how not smart he is. He appears to want a green card pretty badly. It seems like he got lucky with Uve, but he isn’t even able to be clever enough to use the situation properly and make sure it isn’t so obvious. He is going to have a difficult time getting the green card now and i can’t imagine anyone in Egypt wanting to support him at the level that Uve was.

[@daebak_hana]

Most Muslim women expect to be taken care of even if she has education and job/career. He knows no women especially from his culture/nationality is not going to put up with him.

[@vellabella1]

@@daebak_hana Agreed, if they expect a "Wife" type, then it is expected for him to be a "Husband" type. That's why no woman would marry him in Egypt

[@myra3266]

Lol when Guillermo chimed in…did mo work six days a week? He never said anything about work…

[@jodiellen9844]

Jibri didn’t answer the question that was asked. He should have stayed quiet.

[@c4arla]

I wonder if dr honda is ever in a position to tell someone like look your partner doesnt care about you or do therapists even do things like that in couples therapy on accasion

[@quinnlittleg9283]

I which I can say it’s Mohammed fault 💯 percent but Yve ignored all the red flags 🚩 and still marry him 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️😅😅

[@amberwilliams8240]

TBF, both Yve and Mohammed weren't empathetic of each other's position. He explained to her why it was important to him to have the legal marriage then the ceremony and she explained to him why it was important to her to wait. She didn't care and dismissed him every single. time. He said with his words what she was saying with her actions. I wonder if it's the fact that he wasn't crying or people's overall dislike of him that stops people from seeing this.

[@Sandra.-.]

I think he texts because each time he tries to have a conversation with Yves, she goes into emotional outbursts and scream fests.

[@lavinder11]

He texts her to get that type of response. Then he records it to claim she is irrational and abusive. He's quite manipulative but I wouldn't be surprised if he's being coached by someone.

[@brainfluidZ]

Jibri seems delusional. There are no sides. What is he even going on about? When he speaks its reminiscent of an angry 10 year old.. it’s quite embarrassing.

[@sirmel11]

He's super annoying.

[@toocutepuppies6535]

Sparkles is all about getting more screen time for himself.

[@ladyturner8746]

He sounds like my 13 year old trying to convince me he shouldn't have to do chores.

[@andedom]

Jibri shoots from the hip but he’s the world’s worst marksman.

[@RockyDaTherapist]

Knowing the outcome of this relationship Jibri is delusional

[@darter81]

It's hard to watch this after knowing everything else that has come out since then, especially very recently with the DV allegations.

[@darter81]

@Sabrina Buchanan I obviously wasn’t there, but I 10000000% agree with you. (I believe) Mohammed is a terrible, disgusting person.

[@mygrinningcat]

Jibri doles out approval like a generous Monarch. I wonder if it makes him feel like a benevolent Monarch, when he does it.

[@shamsham8328]

This is the perfect way of describing this haha.

[@daniellewilliams9739]

Yeah. He is just like his mother. Everyone needs to remember that therapist are not perfect. A sociopathic narcissist could get a degree and become a therapist. And i do think jibri’s mother especially has done a lot of damage to him. I think she is one manipulative and abusive human being. I have seen dr honda manipulate and edit videos, lie, intentionally take things out of context for abusers that he personally likes. Take his words w a grain of salt. And if you want proof watch him review andrei and libbys clips. He is delusional. I think he projects his own insecurities and preferences. All of this is subjective. Its all from his perspective. And when you watch the andrei videos he has made it will make your skin crawl.

[@mygrinningcat]

@@daniellewilliams9739 it sounds to me as if you might have had a real negative experience with a therapist type person and you're trying to make sense of it and warning other people not to fall into that trap?

[@AGentlRose]

Jibri and Bilal are alike in how both like to dish it out, but neither can take it. Jibri with his mouthy jabs; Bilal with pranks. Only Jibs does it in Spaaahkles and Bilal does it in a suit (with a fake flower).

[@tylerj6182]

Mohammed gets under my skin like nobody else has since big Ed

[@thedudeabides5695]

That creepy HAL-900 voice!

[@adkjani1]

Jibri is nauseating. He really ruined the tell all. How can Mona stand him?

[@acisner1]

Jibri just strikes me as so insensere about anything that comes out of his mouth. All performance for more clout.

[@toocutepuppies6535]

Jibri is that one kid at almost every social event who thinks he's the cutest kid ever and does everything he can to draw attention to himself. Especially, if anybody's taking photos. I HATE those kids.

[@Specialkwn]

Jibri is a poser!

[@vellabella1]

Like his severely attention starved, he is definitely over compensating for something? He seems like he has ADHD or something , completely impulsive

[@vesbarrow]

Sparkles, I mean Jibri is probably eating his words now

[@johannacecilieread-larsen2435]

😂

[@acd1168]

Mohammad is a bully. Yves was too desperate to see through his abusive. But now she sees because they are separated.

[@joybeavers5945]

She was straight delusional

[@acd1168]

@@joybeavers5945 I agree. She created him in her mind.

[@mrssmith1691]

I was giving Mohamad the benefit of the doubt too. Poor Yve. Alot of the reason I did give him the benefit of the doubt was I thought "Yve is beautiful and kind and sweet, who wouldn't actually want her?"

[@lorraineweinstein1597]

I agree that the show is, at times, heavily edited, but that interaction between Yve and Mohamed after he texted her didn't seem edited. I think it really was just as awful as it looked.

[@joywebster2678]

The performative conversation backstage with Tatiana and Mohammed is exactly the,y that because he us up to his eyeballing affairs and schemes to get his green card and hurt Yve, and Tatiana sees the red flags. Yve is the only one still hoping it's all going to be fine, but life changes very quickly.

[@sweetgirl4u247]

When did this become the Jibri show. He had an opinion about everything. I cannot wait until Dr. K sees what happened after this Tell All.

[@sirmel11]

He talks too much! Something happened after???

[@MsJeanneMarie]

Heheh yeah what happened after?!?

[@jessicasnow3373]

I have made the mistake of telling family and friends too many negative things about a partner, at the time there were a lot of negatives and I needed to talk about it to not blow up but now, after 7 years I not only feel I can’t Yam about anything bad when it happens but I don’t think anyone trusts when I say things are going well. It’s a lesson well learned.

[@AmyB369]

I believe they have already split up so jibiris crystal ball must be broken

[@Daijxo]

I think Jibri said delusionally that Mohammad and Yve were going to last because he wants to relate to the foreigner, he seems to attach to anything foreign. It’s started with Serbia, allegedly he took Mionas last name, and during the tell all, he tried to speak Arabic to Mohammad, tried to defend Thais over her brother in law and attacked Ari for holding Bini back. (It’s giving I want to be exotical real bad) And shout out to the podwife for uploading two Yve and Mohammad videos in light of all that has happened since the tell all. 🥇

[@ruseter84]

Debris “Sparkles” is immature. Like someone said a 10 yr old, It’s all black or white. He’s stuck in that stage. Of development.

[@jane347]

"Debris"😂😂😂..would actually give him younger than 10

[@c4arla]

I think ppl were defending mohamed to to comfort Yve more than anything else.

[@faLLingFASterfeARing]

“It was said in anger…” are we forgetting the conversation he had with his friend from the mosque? He had been mulling over the idea of another sponsor for a while…

[@chrisel4349]

It seemed like he wanted the imam to offer to be his sponsor.

[@brianawhittaker8152]

Yeah he meant what he said. And everyone was talking about him going from working six days a week to not working at all. I thought he didn't work when he was in Egypt.

[@mashamitchell9574]

Jibri is a child stuck in an adult body

[@mineliatrujeque9725]

What about the end , where Mohammad was caught cheating ?

[@MsJeanneMarie]

What?! Oh my gosh, I need to watch!! How did they catch him? What happened?!

[@chloecarpenter7504]

@@MsJeanneMarie at the end of the tell all part 2 episode it was revealed that Yve found texts on Mohamed’s phone of him sexting with another woman and saying he was going to leave Yve and talking about “after he gets his green card.” They are currently separated and rumor has it she’s trying to get him deported

[@k.d.2589]

@@MsJeanneMarie Text messages. You can find videos on it if you search up Mohammad cheating.

[@nursetinalouise]

from his phone, messages he will divorce her as soon as he gets his green card and go to other woman

[@MsJeanneMarie]

@@chloecarpenter7504 wow, that’s crazy! Since I left that comment, I saw a Entertainment Tonight story where they said Mohammad reported Yves for domestic abuse and she’s been charged. Her lawyer says he’s using it as a scheme to get a green card because there’s some law that lets victims stay. Who knows what the truth is… Yves didn’t seem abusive on the show at all but I guess anything is possible.

[@marthagonzalez1357]

He has to talk to get attention 🙄 he's a freegin narcissist jeez.

[@TheSecretPod]

Jibri has no idea 🙄 Yve is a good women and her friends seem amazing, Mohammad can't even argue.. hes terrible look into what he's done.. Yve has an interview on KZbin about it

[@TheSecretPod]

🤢Mohammad is fake... lol

[@RockyDaTherapist]

Dr. Honda should react to the recorded conversation between them before the wedding.

[@rethinkcps2116]

He just wants a path to citizenship. Thinking out loud about Plan B, to make sure he's entrenched here. No making sure he's her husband. Some couples seem to be at least trying to be a couple. This is not one of those couples...

[@allysonf419]

" Well I think that it's obvious(they're in love).... well it's not obvious" about Eve and Muhammad being in love is the best thing Dr Honda has said about this couple. Jibri goes on and on pronouncing judgment on all the couples possibly because his relationship isn't really making him that happy just like his mama said. And then he picks all the wrong couples. Even muhammad, as we ultimately learn, or not obviously in love or maybe she was but he was a big question mark.. Jilal and Shaeeda will be fine. Bini.... well I hope they make it but I'm not sure about that one because I don't think she really wants to be married or in that kind of a relationship. She likes being by herself and taking off and that's why she's no longer married to her first husband. Jibri needs to take care of himself. "Thou dust protest too much" comes to mind when he starts talking about how their light is so bright together. I guess we'll have to see..

[@chernobylcat581]

Jibri was so wrong

[@heatheran4783]

and we all know how they turned out. Wrong option Jibri

[@andreawannop8670]

Here's the thing...if u have this kind of poor communication, lack of respect, contempt and lack of harmony ...before u even marry....the writing of disaster is already on the wall. Trying to create a silk purse out if a sow's ear....absolutely is impossible. Yve will see this one day and recognise what a fool she was. I have unfortunately done it myself, which is why I understand she is trapped in hoping for a fairytale with the frog.

[@JulesA5266]

Jibri is really good at putting his foot in his mouth. He's such a child because of how he often uses absolutes when making statements. Like a child would say "This is the best thing I've ever eaten!" or "This is the worst thing ever" - and similarly, Jibri is like "This is true love!"

[@politicaltroll8920]

9:08 would be a good short/Tiktok clip and would be good material for a deep dive as well

[@Hannah-cd1nh]

They have a fundamentally different perspective on marriage. Yve believes that legal marriage = marriage, while Mohamed believes that legal marriage is just paperwork meanwhile getting religiously married is actual marriage.

[@bonkosimasolo5844]

How oppressed is Yve if she chooses to make those comromises Kirk?

[@y0k0b0ng0]

Jibri is like a republican politician post-insurrection. Everything and nothing are true as long as it gets clicks on social media.

[@c4arla]

Dr Honda you should do the Family Chantel divorce situation I think it would be so very interesting not the whole series but snipets

[@joybeavers5945]

He should do smothered!

[@Wc7823]

You should put spoiler alert bc someone said he mentioned it’s on his list to watch them all the way from the beginning. ❤️

[@c4arla]

@@Wc7823 really!!?

[@1cannedpeaches]

Debris likes to hear how wise he thinks he sounds when he talks

[@charlize9341]

But the thing is that the greencard process takes so long, you just have to accept it will be a very long time until you have a normal working citizen life. This pressure to file a few weeks earlier doesn't even mean it will come through a few weeks earlier. It's a big concern if the immigrating partner doesn't appreciate and accept that unfortunately.

[@BettieBoo]

It was odd to see the cast stick up for him..

[@JamesCourse66]

I think Jibri just got the couples’ names mixed up, lol. That’s the only way he’d say he’s Team Mohamed

[@Venezia41]

Thinking back on other relationships from 90 day fiancé, did Mohamed and Yve talk about polygamy? Is this something he wants? It's illegal in the USA, but nonetheless.

[@WooWoo-co4jf]

I remember him saying he wouldn't have chosen those friends for her...But m men don't choose the friends for their wife, or conversely the friends if the husband, whether they're a same or opposite sex couple. He wants her to have his new friend's wives because he knows they barely know her, they will do as their husbands day and report back everything she does it says. I can't stand pick & choose religious rules hypocrites like him. Yve can't speak to a plumber but he can have very s***al conversations with women and share photos and share a bed with both before marriage

[@daughterofzion2146]

I'm not up to date on this season. I stopped watching halfway between but I have to totally disagree with you on yve and Mohammed. I can't understand how they dint have this discussion about Muslim customs and traditions before he came here. I find that weird when Americans pursue relationships with foreigners not trying to understand their way of life and vice versa. This shouldn't have been overlooked

[@allysonf419]

Muhammad clearly did not explain himself or he really has no empathy and doesn't care about Eve. I think he was trying to say, when he said the legal marriage has nothing to do with the wedding, that they could get married legally at the courthouse and then have the party and the ceremony for the event of the wedding and that would get him started on the paperwork so that he could work and sooner than later go back and see his mother. He is very young and everybody forgets only 23? Or something like that. He is immature and he has been coddled by his mother who does everything for him so he is rather self focused and thinks anyone who gets in the way of what he wants is being selfish. Maturity. And possibly he just wanted to come here and Eve was the means by which he could get to the US. And in this case that's what it looks like at the end

[@daniellewilliams9739]

I aak myself the same question about dr honda. Did he watch the same show as us? He covers for abusers all the time. The viewers have boycotted the show, started petitions, etc to get the abusers off this show. But somehow this quack defends the abuse and fawns all over the abuser.

[@daniellewilliams9739]

Yes. Jibri does see things in all good or all bad. But so does dr honda at times. He also uses his insecurities to judge people then he will defend someone that is abusive because he has personally taken a side. Never in my life did I ever think i would see a therapist completely disregard reality and facts to help and abuser.

[@adkjani1]

SPAHKLES

[@sirmel11]

I didn't see that scene at the end of the video? I watched both parts, I don't know how I missed that.

[@lilacscentedfushias1852]

When m said he wouldn’t have chosen Yve’s friends for her…it gave me a cold shiver. That is such a controlling thing to say, I imagine, given the choice he would have chosen the wives of the men/friends from the mosque. They would be very unlikely to have things in common with her.

[@lilacscentedfushias1852]

I’m still shocked when he thought Yve would serve him breakfast in bed like his mummy did. Something like my mom takes care of all me needs! I’m not going to let myself get started on the rest 😂

[@lilacscentedfushias1852]

When he asked his mommy if Yve should dress like Egyptian women 😂 his mommy had more sense than he did. Why should she? She’s not Egyptian, she’s not Muslim…why doesn’t he dress like an Egyptian woman if he likes it so much. Surely he’s seen enough tv from other countries to realise that USA & Egypt are different. I wouldn’t wear some of the things Yve wears, same with mine, but they are our bodies, for us to decide. I am envious of her beautiful pink dress, alas…floaty fabrics don’t look good on me.

[@lavinder11]

I was not at all surprised that Guillermo jumped in to defend Mo. They both came across as extremely entitled and bratty and they both get a pass from 90 Day viewers.

[@helena5442]

Why do you think Guillermo seems bratty and entitled? I think I maybe see it a little bit, but I am not sure

[@TNDRAV]

I am pretty sure Yve and Moe do not get married

[@LucaHelen91]

The sponsor thing is just a misunderstanding. There are two different types of sponsors: the petitioner who you are going to marry and are in a relationship with and then there is the option of a joint sponsor which they’d need if there is not sufficient income on the petitioner side. In Yve’s case she did not do her taxes in time so she couldn’t prove significant income in the US. This is when you can look for a joint sponsor that would be financially responsible for the Greencard Holder when the Petitioner doesn’t have enough income or - as in Yve’s case - failed to do taxes in time. That’s what he’s talking about. Not obviously changing the petitioner. It has nothing to do with their relationship. This is something that’s very common in visa and immigration matters when there’s insufficient income.

[@dianache479]

Hi I watched “I love a mamas boy” season 3 and I would really be interested if you reacted to this show and season!

[@russell7319]

Now that this season is done. Waiting for your full break down of Chantel and Pedro !!

[@leigh-annoosthuizen6062]

If you look at his language use that was not a language barrier!

[@sirmel11]

Ari is pretty bad though. Lol

[@sunnypie2]

Mohammad has no clue how lucky he is!

[@c4arla]

or also some of the andrew tate controversy

[@user-hl1ip7if9r]

14:45 is good for me to see modeled lol

[@thapoppyman]

Tatiana is a text book Karen. " Your being so aggressive to me omg" no were having a conversation.

[@Sandra.-.]

Idk but I totally get where Mohammad is coming from being an immigrant and coming from a culture where we handle conflicts and emotions differently. Americans think everyone should react and process things in an American way. I could tell towards the end of the series he'd checked out of their relationship. Too much whinning and emotional outbursts from Yves. He was ready to walk away but that phonecall from his mother gave him that push to go through with marrying Yves. In the end, he didn't want to marry her. Contrary to conclusions people have made about Mohammad, I dont think he's a narcissist. It's a lot of cultural differences going on and Yves' lack of emotional control and regulation. But I've heard they'd divorced. It was bound to happen. I hope they all find what they are looking for

[@darter81]

You heard, I assume, about him claiming she has committed DV against him and gotten her criminally charged?

[@Sandra.-.]

@@darter81 i don't know that much

[@claudiavidican]

The American way? 😆 What is the Egyptian way? Throw passive agresive remarks 'you're selfish' at your wife, maybe give her a good slap over the head for daring to speak up? Give us an actual example please, I beg you, oh wait, you probably won't be able to come up cause you have no idea what you're talking so just shut up about the 'american way'.

[@rubymeadow]

Well if he didn’t want to marry her he should have just gone home. That’s why it is a 90 day visa - after the 90 days, it is up. Stringing her along and then using things against her was bound to cause emotional upheaval on her part. She was sure about him and that’s why she sponsored him. His behavior was manipulative.

[@Sandra.-.]

@@rubymeadow when you give up everything to move to another country. Its not as easy as buying a ticket to go back. It doesn't work like that unless you have high level American privileges

[@marylander3798]

Jibri is just trying to get the most screen time ⏲️