90% Of People Ruin Their Relationship This Way...

[@JulienHimself]

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[@theodor3742]

There is a book written by a swedish psychologist ”quit worrying and ruminating” by Olle Wadström. He is advocating the exact same technique to stop worrying. Accept what might happen and accept the anxeity and negative feelings and do nothing to get rid of it.

[@Snowboardbound]

Be brave enough to trust and strong enough to handle life if that trust is broken.

[@petermorgan3274]

Amazing video Julien. This really hit home for me at the moment. You Skype coached me several years ago but I was really deep in a place of self-hate at the time and struggled to apply what you were teaching. Recently I've been consistently breaking my comfort zone by taking action and in the process revealing/discovering more of my authentic self. There is still a lot of progress to be made but I am already feeling noticeably lighter and more grounded. Thank you so much for your help. I wish you all the best for the future.

[@Proppa-Gander]

I hope life is going well for you my friend! 💕🙏👍 God Bless xx

[@brianbrown2505]

People cheat because there focusing on what's missing instead of what' they have in front of them

[@PatchworkFarmette]

Sometimes people cheat because they are with paranoid partners that always think they are cheating

[@TyeDye622]

​@amywebber956 then just leave those "paranoid people". If they're going to cheat then respect that person and end the relationship.

[@mcmcmcjose992]

​​@@PatchworkFarmettewell that's the most stupid insight I've ever read. If for example my gf is paranoid that Im cheating on her, then should I cheat? Hell no!! That's not a valid reason to cheat. There's a saying that if you truly love someone, you won't even think of cheating. You don't cheat on the ones you love. Well if your other half cheats on you, would you still think that he loves you? He loves you and the other one I guess.

[@RedManeWritingandIllustrating]

When I read all of this in my head it sounds like your lacking something in the inside to the point you start to self sabotage and think your not enough, apply the method of just enjoying yourself while your with that person if it happens it happens if it doesn’t it doesn’t, be okay with who you are, improve yourself with the goal of being authentic and a better version of yourself everyday and love unconditionally for your sake and not others, your love and authentic self isn’t for anyone else but yourself, who you attract and share that with will be determined by who you are as a person

[@PatchworkFarmette]

That’s not even close to what I meant but however

[@sebastjankrek1744]

How to deal with trust issues? The old julien would've said: Make up ridiculous lies all the time and corm across as a terrible liar, that way they'll think you can't/wouldn't lie to them about something serious! Tbh this advice is gold for harem style lifestyle

[@Gohan9112]

He also made videos on how to game girls with boyfriends. And said there's no guarantee the girl won't cheat if she comes across a cool hot guy who made her feel like it was before she got into a boring relationship.

[@JoyProductionz]

Living with paranoia of the potential that they are untrustable drains so much energy. Great video!

[@marcyates7087]

I have been struggling with paranoia and jealousy with my current relationship. Its gotten worse over time. From no worries the first few months to things even I admit are crazy. Constantly questioning their intentions and paranoid behavior such as constantly checking her location, going through her phone ect. There was guilt and mistrust bc she cheated on her ex with me. He cheated on her first but I still felt guilt bc I was "that guy"and I wondered if she would ever do that to me, though I would never, ever cheat on her or give her a reason to cheat. She added a few guys on fb. No evidence of any foul play but I flipped out bc she didn't tell me about it and I took that as a red flag. I really needed to hear this talk. Thank you man

[@tonyp.bahama9368]

How are you guys doing?

[@El_Rey-V]

Needed this badly, thanks for the free gold!!

[@JulienHimself]

You’re welcome! Thx for watching!

[@ElizaSpotz]

Julien, thank you for helping to heal hearts. You’re doing a great work and creating a beautiful wave of expansion for not only myself, but so many other people. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom and for leaving a beautiful impression on the world, I pray that eventually I may be able to do the same for other people just as you have done and have been doing for me. Thank you 💗

[@ladev91]

I got like this in about the 1 year mark with my current wife. I can't believe how paranoid I got and never thought I'd get like that because I was following RSD stuff and knew it was unattractive but love makes you do crazy things. It got so bad would even get paranoid to the point of watching her to see if she would look at other men because I thought she was attracted to them if she looked at them. Let me tell you, that is a horrible way to live life. You are constantly paranoid and in fear. It was truly destroying out relationship. I can confidently say I am so much better now and I don't do that shit anymore. My wife is so happy I am not like that anymore and so I am.

[@kingsjsj123]

What steps did you take to get better at it? I’m currently in this phase

[@shroomuae]

How did you get it fixed?

[@josheves438]

@@shroomuaetry Corey Wayne if you want to learn that kinda stuff

[@Fverheijden]

I was not expecting to feel this so deeply. Like you talk to me personally. Kind of shocking. Thank you. I needed this.

[@tz8565]

Another great seminar. I liked the 'hiding' part relating to the book Radical Honesty. It resonates deeply. Im dropping the front. No wonder I feel drained after talking to others. Stop people pleasing, approval seeking. Just let go and validate myself. Great insight!👍

[@OwenCookFreeTour]

Amazing releases lately 👌-Owen

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! 👊

[@normanvanchristoph5958]

NANDATOOOOOOOOO?!?!?!💢💢💢😫😫😫

[@B3nkeii]

Im not sure but I think you have One basic 'principle' and you extrapolate that to all this Life advice. Beautiful! Thanks bro

[@luisds2667]

You don’t trust that isn’t going to happen. You don’t get toxic about it or blind and try to trust that you will for sure walk away if it happens

[@KalkiAvatarATWAR]

Selecting wisely is a giant part of this too, choosing an intelligent woman with no daddy issues is the baseline for having no worries in that area

[@Youarelovewalk]

What do you mean by daddy issues? Him not being there? Him being too controlling?

[@antonzaitsev8411]

@@Youarelovewalk from that to him "touching" her and doing drugs with her

[@nathanhagerman9928]

Yeah, problems with dad are problems for you at a later time

[@topramenraymond7005]

@@Youarelovewalk doesn't have to be her biological father just if she had a proper father figure in her life

[@dje-foxx9691]

1000%!

[@Sharing13]

Thought this was going to be cheesy but instead I heard very honest statements this was refreshing!

[@samxsara]

I believe it (trust) all comes from within first 🙏

[@uktea785]

I also like the idea of sharing my whole life experiences with everyone as a mental challenge to break that wall and trust freely, but it has a really one big flaw. I have, and not only one, done really really horrible things in life noone knows, not even victims, if someone would know, noone will ever talk to me again, noone will look at me again, not even my own family. It was several years ago, I'm now a different person with completely different mindset, habits and more mature and I really regret of doing those terrible things, but I can't talk about them to anyone, it would ruin me, it would ruin also people who are close to me and break all of us. But on the other side, I'm worried that all of my paranoia and doubting and trist issues comes from keeping in the shadow this. If it was possoblento simply erase that memories, then all problems would be solved, because the only person it hurts is me, but if it was exposed, maybe I would be slightly more comfortable in trusting people, but exposing it will hurt more people then just me and the consenquences of it will most likely hurt also me on another level than just regret of the past.

[@JennilizSotoRivera]

What you did is done. The best u can do now is spare their happiness. Not confesing makes you feel terribly guilty, anxious and horrible. I get it. Trust me. As long as you NEVER EVER do that again. It's fine. Accept that old versión, you learned from it and when someone hurts you give them the same grace you secretly need. Who needs to approve of you is you. Period. Also when you change, God loves the new person you are. He says the old things come to pass and He won't remember them. Why should you? Focus on loving others and remember that everything works for good always.

[@Luke51015]

Glad to see the re-upload! These vids were really helpful for me then and even more now that my perspective has changed with time

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! However, this is not a re-upload... This was filmed a couple months ago in Austin!

[@alurusumanthkashyap8277]

You need to be in India. The best I have heard.. Seriously you are going deep and touching cores of everyone.. Presenting TRUTH boldly !!

[@ronniehunsinger9882]

This is just what i needed! Thank you so much i love your videos!

[@stilnessspeaks8104]

I can't believe the timing of this video. I really needed this!

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this spoke to you! What was your biggest takeaway?

[@ricandroll4772]

Thank you for the amazing content Julien! 🙏

[@JulienHimself]

You're very welcome!! 🙏

[@lejune5083]

If you don't commit your commiting to nothingness. LOVE IT ♥️

[@postmalonalisa420]

This is why I'm working to be the best me I possibly can. Surrounding myself with the best people I possibly can and separating myself from those who I don't feel are matching the energy. Using every anxiety and fear against myself and taking action to get rid of them. Every layer taken off is like a lifetime of weights removed. Then I should find a cool partner along the way 👍

[@gabrielezulliger3942]

OMG!!! JUST waht i needed to remember🙏🙏🙏 thank you for your passion, so much Julian. My entire live i'm in apahty when it comes to relationsships and girls so I'm not even trying it anymore. I had a very conecting tribe but i push them away of fear and security. Wahts just ridiculous. Since i tryed to conetct with oder kids, my first time i rememberd. I had bad expirience. Just logicaly the person i evolve. You're recommended techniques of leting go and awareness is very good. I just think with my pass, i would have more than 3 yeahrs to set me free. So im hope to find a faster way. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I still love what you and the people around you do for the community.

[@MonotoniTV]

Reminds me of Alan Watts talking about falling in love not rising into it

[@turdledive927]

I never fear cheating, any woman who cheats on me isn't worth my time. She would be foolish and weak to do such a thing. If she doesn't love me or trust me, than I can't do it either. Any woman I love, will want to be with me. She wouldn't let anything get in the way of it.

[@healthyking5161]

Got cheated on and took her back. Don’t do that it only hurts you more in the end. Edit: Shes pregnant now with twins. Perfect...

[@James-cz3sz]

Me too she cheated again and robbed money from me. It sucked

[@zyzzuschrist3410]

Yeah. Worst mistake I made. She just did it over and over again.

[@pokerdiver123]

hope you learned your lesson

[@jpeg.600x2]

@@zyzzuschrist3410 wow

[@rodrigoayala9051]

Great video! Hey @JulianHimself when are you gonna do a show or podcast with Rollo Tomassi from The Rational Male. I follow both channels and think your contents are very cool and complementary. Plus it would be nice to bounce ideas from the wo wo side and the Evo down to earth side. It would definitely expand the minds of all of us. Anyway, just an idea.

[@rodrigoayala9051]

@@tinmon3445 oh ok I see thanks for the reply. I don't understand why Rollo's content would be seen as "toxic" because in my opinion it's just different, a different perspective or way of interpretation. I think it is good to bounce of ideas to not get so fixed on certain ideas...but anyway I really appreciate your reply, thanks!

[@Gohan9112]

He slept with fair share of married women, women with bfs & must've seen a lot of nasty things in pickup. The old school Julien was RP minus bitterness.

[@rodrigoayala9051]

@@Gohan9112 yep, that is also a good point.

[@sloomslukethejew]

Anxious attachment style

[@JulienHimself]

Yep!

[@sloomslukethejew]

All too familiar lol. Working on self worth and reframing beliefs

[@tile-maker4962]

So I guess the issue I have identified with this is how I relate it to my encounters. When I speak to women I like, I throw up a wall of shame when I think about what I have done as shameful. This is a block which prevents her from entering the space of my energy. So I need to be present either in my decisions as a man that I can err. I need to be gentle and kind with who I am and invite courage to let go of these things. (bless everyone)

[@lisafoster3494]

Great video needed to hear this...Thank You.....

[@doctorskull8197]

The key is to not care. Move on.

[@slove654]

Very eye opening 😊

[@seiyan7345]

Thank you for this amazing video❤

[@XenoDystopia]

I mean, it's a cultural thing, really. Where i live, the norm is that you are not supposed to trust anyone. And any act of kindness you receive probably has an ulterior motive. It's exhausting, but you can't do much about it, since everyone is like that.

[@green_beard]

julien is the best

[@ericwolfe666]

I'm gonna dare to trust.

[@jamiejorski1944]

Beautiful! Thank you.

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome! 🙏

[@lejune5083]

I doubt anybody would ever talk to me if I told them everything I've ever done.

[@anxietyhealing]

Great video. Vulnerability is a powerful tool, It's important to know when to use it

[@JulienHimself]

Yes, agreed!

[@BagmanJohnJo]

Thanks Julien

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome!

[@bunnybeetle1304]

Can’t trust, everyone, including those I ever trusted, has ghosted me. I don’t want that.

[@aryanjaiswal7599]

The only people i trust are the ones who were sunglasses inside. lol

[@JulienHimself]

Lol 🙈

[@pokerdiver123]

@@JulienHimself kinda weird to wear sunglasses inside...especially from someone who's about being comfortable in your own skin...i'm sure there's "reasons" haha. GREAT content though thank you. I'm working on my own stuff from learning from you and owen but hit the gym bro, why not work on your physical strength too

[@Jamminyea]

Really empowering presentation. Great info

[@Lagash]

Amazing, Julien. Thank you. Really.

[@JulienHimself]

You're welcome! 🙏

[@AlpachinoHuSTle]

The legendary Julien 🐐 Great Content 🔥🔥love ❤️ from Nigeria 🇳🇬 🇳🇬🇳🇬

[@JulienHimself]

Thx! 🔥👊

[@tourzrap]

How does this only have 30k views!

[@Sharing13]

Hakuna Matata

[@gejzergejzer]

My ex left me exactly because 21:35. I knew her too much.

[@slove654]

الإعتدال

[@colinbeirouty4798]

In life you have to be able to trust.

[@JulienHimself]

Agreed!

[@mcmcmcjose992]

Brother thankyou for this content. Ive been single for 4 years now. I have a 5 years ex girlfriend that cheated on me. Man it changes me. Now im scared to be in a relationship. Because i always think that what if that new girl cheated on me. Also my friends we're teasing me if im gay, because most of the girl that they introduce to me, i rejected it. When they tease me. I tell them "After my Board exam, I'll start to find a girl" But the truth is I'm scared to enter relationship. I just cant tell them the truth. Im 27 years old btw HAHAHHA

[@virkspiritual4939]

Is it Hyaat birmingham England??????

[@JulienHimself]

Nope, this was in Austin, TX!

[@virkspiritual4939]

@@JulienHimself thanks professor 🙏🙏

[@jimmyfallon2484]

Maybe just talk to them how you talk to owen when you two are chilling at ur cribs

[@jaspergabriels8933]

Just on time lol. Felt into the same situation with a girl I was dating and she meet another guy more alpha and more options and I got really needy

[@mehDOGIESRATS2222]

The brutal truth of life is you can't trust no one .

[@raph_koumarianos]

Awesome 🙏😎

[@JulienHimself]

Glad this resonated! What was your biggest takeaway?

[@zenymonk8714]

really good

[@JulienHimself]

Thx!

[@TheMrlobo56]

1337

[@YHProduction1]

can't my tribe find me?

[@rozaliadeac9868]

❤

[@fattyjaybird7505]

Yea, i start a relationship and then it seems like every girl im in a relationship with gies out and f**ks some other dude (dudes) but i must just be paranoid and overbearing 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@poptart8135]

thumbs up emoji from an older generation

[@nf-ib2cr]

👏👏👏

[@Ethan-wg5zx]

看不懂英文

[@three_coffees]

terrible advice without distingushing males and females considering female brain is wired differently than male and what they are attracted to/are able to handle in opposite sex

[@Omkar3324]

Whys he wearing glasses in a room?

[@JulienHimself]

😎