A broken heart is an opportunity

Tyohar is answering a sharing about the crisis after a breakup and facing the boyfriend with another woman, giving insights about a broken heart.
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[@michaelz9892]

This is one of the wisest and most gentle explorations of heartache I have seen.

[@90sGasPrices]

You can feel the pain in the woman's question.

[@EdgarBeja]

Feelings are just visitors. Just keep observing them without any interpretation.. the mind is only small talk, leave it alone. stop thinking and Be. namaste

[@naomibettinawatts]

This is beautiful what’s really hurting is our egos not our hearts, free yourself from the ego develop compassion and focus on how you can help others. So important and never let other people’s actions determine your self worth

[@Lene1973a]

Not true. Also our heart hurts.

[@zahidhsarkar4140]

don't be depressed .when u lose anyone, he/she also lose u.nd nobody knows what will happen in future. always keep in smile nd enjoy this bitter experience.

[@mattstocks4749]

I finally broke through. It always angered me When I’d hear people ask ‘who is hurt’. But then I realized, the thought isn’t hurt, the sensation in my chest isn’t hurt and the awareness that is aware of it all isn’t hurt. So I couldn’t find the separate ego that was hurt. It was just a mix of uncomfortable thoughts and feelings.

[@michaelz9892]

When he says, "He needed it. He needed this healing" it was difficult to hear but neccessary.

[@thelaserdoc1]

When the flame of love burns within our heart this becomes the healing transmutation of the soul. When we truly love deeply, we allow what is and our innermost being understands that this pain is necessary for healing to take place. When one door closes another always opens but we are so fixated on the closed door that we fail to see the open door and the new opportunities that exist all around us. With pure love this energy attracts what the soul yearns for in order to heal and transcend. Namaste

[@ChildofGod2743]

WE are deeply blessed by the adequate TRUTH that you speak...Greg Dohring

[@Caprisiasu]

Beautiful message...thank you.

[@jessicagillespie1591]

The cost we pay for love is grief. There is no way around it. One must go through it, whether intentionally or involuntarily. Pain is a part of loving. It is indeed an opportunity for alchemy. You can choose to use it or not.

[@westonweigand1228]

Jessica Gillespie Loneliness is a sin of love...

[@westonweigand1228]

Jessica Gillespie I love that thought an opportunity for alchemy.

[@brentduanefoster]

Jessica Gillespie Love REQUIRES vulnerability. Those that try to avoid it, are only hurting themselves.

[@whatrtheodds]

My love attachment hurts alot, I know there in me also sits an observer beyond all the feelings in my viens, the fog inside my brain, the pressure in my heart. All the thoughts of rejection, of his good qualities. Beyond all of that is peace. With meditation I am able to better be the observer, but right now I'm up to my eyeballs in hurt and it's hard for me to get myself to do the work. Heart break to me feels like hunger that cannot be satisfied. At least I'm here trying to get through in a healthy way. 💔😭

[@katherinehasselman1824]

He has a beautiful way of expression. I have a hard time understanding the accent. But what a gentle quiet, thoughtful nature

[@CyberiaKid]

so true!

[@sweeetly]

Broken hearts can seem overwhelming. Keep reminding yourself, 'this to shall pass'. Go to the bottom of the pain, right to its crescendo, fully feel it. It may only be minutes before it subsides. Then when thoughts arise aftewards you find they have lost potency and don't stick to you anymore.

[@danankahjones9532]

Wow, I listen to so many other beautiful profound spiritual teachers, and I love and honor them all, but for me, in this exact situation, this was perfectly put, perfectly and frankly said, I'm right where I need to be, and the best I can is, witness the the thoughts, know it's identification with a bruised ego, my ego, let go of the fantasy!! After years I lived and loved a fantasy, that had been over for so long, I see that now, he has moved on with someone else, and " he needed that" thank you!!

[@pietrrocks]

"Big punch to the ego" that line helped me a lot

[@Nora-et6et]

Broken heart is a Big Punch to the Ego... Wow, Yes, that's all it is.

[@MiDesertLife]

Wow I'm beyond speechless .. him cheating was never about hurting me it was about my ego. I honestly had been complementing the idea of walking away from the relationship long before I found out I was getting cheated on. So because of my enormous EGO I'm suffering twice as much. I have alot of crying and thinking to do. I also have faith that even if I take the long way out of this it will soon be nothing but a scar and another "love" story to tell.

[@katherinehasselman1824]

I'm in a similar situation. I wanted to get out of a friends with benefits situation with a guy in which I didn't feel truly valued. He ended up finding a gal out of state and bringing her home. We knew each other for years. So, yes, my ego has been devastated. But she has done me a favor. Now it has been taken out of my hands.

[@shannonkingston2658]

Yes how does one find the balance between our faults and holding them accountable?

[@musicmiraclesaroundtheworl9418]

Thank you for your insight. I just broke up with my boyfriend last night of 2 1/2 years. Although I know it was the right decision, I was up all night feeling sick and replaying memories of us in my head. I am grateful for the time we had together and want to celebrate the success and closure of our relationship. I believe we learned what we needed to from each other, but now the single road awaits.

[@FussyLittlePrincess]

I was repeating a phrase he said as he described that a broken heart is a big punch to the ego 17:09 If real love, the ability to really and truly love - unconditionally - is death of the ego, then it makes sense that if you are so heart broken that you can't function, that you have put so much focus on another human being that you fail to become functional without them, then yes - when they leave (and they will) It is a big punch to your ego.

[@jaykayel_silva]

And here I was only researching different retreats in Costa Rica...to find this man. To think I have been following the fb page for quite sometime..first video I see of him speaking, is a direct message for me, in divine timing. I suppose this is where I am to come visit. I think I found my first silent retreat. Thank you Tyohar for sharing your beautiful words .

[@unapologeticfeminine]

Wisdom so much wisdom. In the video and the comments!

[@jesuisravi]

The operative word is "wait". Time works wonders.

[@zaheerheendricks5982]

Beautiful. Truth is immediate. Well said.

[@lilaj2908]

It’s harder when you’ve had abandonment as a young child, the trauma gets stuck in the body so gets replayed in adult. Need to Re parent ‘ self’

[@Joshbaldophotography]

Yes totally, I always wondered why it was extra hard, breakups-def abandonment issues from childhood-Im in it now but got a week under my belt and this video helps ✨

[@utopiandreamer5288]

My partner went back to her homeland on Sunday. We were together over 12 years. I am devastated and will always love her. I can't stop crying. But, we will keep in touch. I have never felt as sad in my 58 years. I will never be in another relationship as this pain is too hard to bear. I thank this good man for his gentle words.

How are you now?

[@bigjojo7915]

WOW he allowed me to get through a major block ive had for 5 years. I was meant to go through that relationship. man did it hurt at the time. everything came to the surface. the bitterness left tonite though.. its gone. were causing the pain not them. my friend you have relieved so much pain in me with this video I cant thank you enough.

[@daisy1bell]

"Punch to the ego"...brilliant!! Thanx...x :)

[@bettemidler8637]

I really get you, you have made a great point. You have opened my eyes and heart again. I can see myself clearly now!

[@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns]

I'm going through a bad breakup after 12 years... and I'm on day one. I feel like..... like I'm out of breath. I want this pain to go away. I don't know who I am without him. But I'm determined to keep walking and never ever look back.

[@yamini6503]

Elizabeth Gonzalez all the best Elizabeth.. its been a month since my breakup. And these days i am realizing how deeply i loved which is overwhelming. Idk what u r going through right now but i wish that u grow stronger and wiser.

[@SZ-su5um]

How are you now? I hope you're doing better, more love and peace to you.

[@M_elliote34]

Elizabeth Gonzalez- how are you doing now?

[@mariehaverty5809]

How are you now?

[@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns]

Marie Haverty ... I’m doing much better. Thank god. It was hard, but I got over it. I even met a nice guy. 🙂 There’s no need to keep someone who has wronged you in your life.

[@RickyBeatsOff]

Like the rain this will soon pass

[@raynelacostacomas8225]

Out of all the videos Ive seen and comments I've read, wow thank you. Just made me laugh but its true. Thanks

[@christheboss1000]

man like jesus you know...... Wow this video really helped me tap into my mind and ask my self why I'm so depressed and sad over my girlfriend... its true the brain is selective it will choose and focus not sparing any clarity to the good things that the other person did for you, don't feed into that look at the facts and you will realise that whatever is happening especially break up/heartbreak is for the better great things are on the way :) stay positive.

[@constancemccoy3144]

christheboss1000

[@scarlettfreedom3629]

My heart feel blood shed in pain and torment. Listening to this now. Unbearable suffering

[@sujanajoyce7163]

Thank you Tyohar..perfect message for me at this moment..Just popped up! So truly beautiful to see you again!

[@enigma5651]

Wow. Speechless. What an answer!

[@bhairavijagtap2526]

so beautiful..thanks..your voice is so soothing...moment of truth...👌

[@secretdekoi]

if you do this you only make it an escape... you do not get rid of the pain, you only distract it... to think of it as something other than what it is, will not free you from heartbreak... ONE must face the heart break completely and look at it without any judgement or condemnation in order to be free from it.

[@NERDRA9E]

Woah , big punch to the ego is right. Amazing explanation

[@irenemac1545]

Wow, I needed this, my heart has been thru it

[@designergirl272513]

Thank you I received Divine intervention. The Universe flows through you Namaste 🌸❤️

[@damarisreynaldocruz9276]

Wonderful advice. Thank you.

[@chilly5760]

Wow this was very helpful for me right now 💫💓💫

[@irenemac1545]

This is beautiful

[@AndyGinny1]

“Break the tsunami of emotions and mind that is coming”

[@mariahspapaya]

For me it's almost purely the simple fact that he was my best friend. Truly. I did everything with him, I went everywhere with him. We have been through so much together. It doesn't feel real. These 3 years we've been together and all the struggles we went through feel like it was all for nothing. I'm willing to fight for him but his depression never compelled him to fight for me. I've lost my sense of self being by his side for 3 years. I don't know who I am anymore. Without him to worry about I don't know what to do with myself. The sense of loneliness takes the breath out of me sometimes.

[@ldhorricks]

I feel the same after 10 years...we were each others home...but it just takes time...feel it, go through it, honour it, dont judge yourself or look for answers...you probably wont find any. nothing is wasted if learn and grow from it. Its painful and its hard but it feels like you wont get through it...we've all been through it...most of us are living breathing proof of it.

[@andrewelkins4864]

Sounds just like my situation, how are things for you now?

[@rafaelchildress2464]

very thoughtful.

[@sasa_dcf]

I feel her so much♥️wish I could hug her

[@farahnaz8885]

when the broke you have no energy and you loss your voice ..beacause my heart is broken

[@CoreyJFoley]

Shivani Shiva shivani, hang in there because you are an old soul and have dealt with this many times before, in this life like in your past lives. every time prior you come through smarter, deeper, and more whole. your elegance is about to mature even more. :) sincerely, your brother Corey from a previous life. ():)

[@dailyfrench]

There is a pain in my chest, solar plexus.. It was there before my relationships and it came back after. It is a feeling that I associate with loneliness, powerlessness, deep sadness and doubt. Sometimes, it gets stronger sometimes it gets cover, but deep inside it had never cured. I have try everything, sometimes I try to feel it for hours but it never dissolve completely... And I know that it's the underlying cause of the suffering in relationship and in my life..

[@ashapareek9056]

Me and my love is not together anymore due to this society, we can't be together anymore due to this society. But I still love him and he loves me too. But this pain ,it's hurting a lot. You had a beautiful message for me , but how can I train my brain for that. I lost him .

[@naturesounds2772]

I can feel what you're going through. My gf for 8 yrs left me without a word. She had to go to India urgently in January this year to take care of her ailing father. In Feb she extended her stay because her father's health worsened . And that's when she asked me to come to India asap because she wants her dad to see her getting married (that was her fathers wish). My mom's not keeping well, so I asked her to give me few weeks I'll be there. But then on Mar 4th , she blocked me everywhere. She also blocked my family and friends. Frustrated by having no means of contact I was getting crazy. I called her from a new number, but it was too late. She was already married in end of March. When I called her and spoke to her for the first time in 3 weeks, she sounded so blunt. She didn't sounded like the person whom I was in love with for 8 yrs. She was so rude and had absolutely no emotion or regret in her voice.She said she's happy with her decision and her parents are happy too, and that matters the most for her. I had hundreds of questions. Doesn't she misses me? What happened to all the promises and dreams which we shared ? Why she did that? Why she didnt tell me that shes getting married?, I could have asked someone to take care of my mom, I would have gone to India if she would have told me that shes getting married to someone within 2 weeks if I don't come. I'm still shocked, in so much pain. How easy it was for her to forget our 8yrs of love and get married to someone she doesnt even know? I dont know how I'm going to live . She was my life.

[@AuthenticSelfGrowth]

All struggle is an opportunity.

[@plaarjharnwongs2696]

Thank you

[@thesohl1106]

God bless you

[@lilmem07]

Thank you. This helps. For me however, although the acceptance, approval issue is a factor, I also feel like I poured a lot of love into the relationship & towards that person and now that I am no longer with them and they are with someone else I can no longer do this and I have nowhere for all that energy to go and so it turns into pain. Of course I know that love is universal and not reserved for one person and there are plenty places for that love to go, but on a more base level I feel I don't know what to do with all that love and emotion. Turn it towards myself and all I guess - and transcend it. Difficult nonetheless.

[@naturesounds2772]

I'm in the same situation. Not able to accept how/why she left me without a word after 8 yrs of giving her so much love. I'm devastated

[@Lene1973a]

@@naturesounds2772 how are you now? It is terrible, its all easy said to transcend but in reality so painful. Bless you

[@naturesounds2772]

@@Lene1973a Thank you Marleen. I'm little better now. Moving on , working, taking each day as it comes, trusting the Universe that it will always bless me with the best. I still think of her atleast once a day. But the pain is fading slowly and I'm accepting life .

[@rojokam7212]

Thanks

[@dianainboulder]

very helpful

[@miasteyn3287]

Dear Tyohar can you perhaps talk about the abillity to love without atachtment and emotional co dependancy . Thank you.

[@TravellingKim]

i don't agree. Some wounds never heal. Sometimes the pain is too deep. I have seen it. My grandfather died 7 months after my grandmother passed away, and just when we thought he was getting better, he left. He just couldn't go on without her. This happened 9 years ago if i think about it deeply, my heart still hurts. Also love. I am in a hate/love relationship with my twin flame for over 3 years. We are on and off, opposites and everything is intense, our connection but also the fights. Once we separated for 1,5 year. I can not continue like this because he hurts my soul. Some wounds might clean up after some time, but some never heal 100% completely.

[@maryannknox7158]

Kim Canaria This is What I am feeling of Course I have fallen in Love but a Twin Flame 🔥 Connection is like no other connection .My Twin Flame 🔥 Betrayed me and chose a Trashy Hoe over the Divine I will New understand I am living out of my bed I no longer have any will to be alive

[@shraddashradda]

Wow I recognize that voice ♥️

[@FussyLittlePrincess]

For me, it a day by day, moment by moment process of remembering to honor the person in front of me because sometimes I just don't feel like it and sometimes I forget. But I guess that's how we grow. I am still so far from getting it right but I like to think I'm getting a little closer to getting better every day :)

[@chabachu]

how did it go? tell me what has happened since . Im going through some bad time

[@Maxinator11-11]

See through the ego illusion.

[@FussyLittlePrincess]

I'd like to disagree. I have childhood friends that I am still in contact. I think it depends on what you are co-creating with the person you are in a relationship with. It can last a season or a lifetime.

[@Maxinator11-11]

Oops my ego got big punch too (the “sacred” 😉 plexus) but the miracles is, my Higher self consciousness is like a boat on a choppy water rising above & the water calms down.

[@jesuisravi]

and now?

[@susannerajiatorf2170]

Love to be with you

[@Lene1973a]

Its not all about ego. Lets be honest. Not in every case the sincere love had already died for someone when the other person ended it. Love exists. So does ego. For sure! But love also exists and it sincerely hurts to lose it!! Lets stay critical too concerning these videos. Yes a big part is ego. But a big part is love and it really hurts to lose someone.

[@e.rpritch4966]

Ego is a pet of love because you’re attached to letting it go. True love is able to let go.

[@PetraStJane-mc3xi]

Hahaha yes

[@zionliloz]

נפלא....

[@Itsasecret04]

Who is this guy?

[@riccia888]

Awalt