A Drunk Driver Almost Took My Life | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 15 | Season 3

A guest shares her story regarding a horrific accident, caused by a negligent driver, who almost took her life.
Studio Guest: Palesa Madisakwane
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[@pearljantjie3784]

we need an episode with someone who works at the public hospitals so that we can unpack and understand all the negligence that people experience at the public hospitals, the traumatic stories i've heard from women who gave birth in public hospitals, its really scary.

[@nomvulairene4177]

So very true dear, so dat we can understand

[@theeelephantbeauty]

Well girl this is really sad as I'm typing right now I'm in tear because my brother was hit by a car 2 weeks back and the way they treated him was so unfair coz it happened at 7am he was taken to the hospital and he was there from morning I went to see around eleven he was not yet cleaned up still full of blood no painkillers were given to him he was in pain.. then they said we can go out and come back after 2hours obviously I can't sit outside for two hours I had to go back to work but I was communicating with him all the time. Then he only got to be stitched at 20:00 this is pm now and after that they decided they won't admit him he must go home at 21:00 and I'm talking about someone with heard injury lost his teeth aii 😭😭😭 these people they just evil period

[@ncisept5900]

I work in public hospital....I have seen it all (both good & horrible) from both stuff & patients. Such stories are quite disappointing.

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

Such a lack of humility in public hospitals. Being rude to people at their sickest is just evil.

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

That plastic surgeon really did the Lords work. She looks amazing still and can continue her career after this horrific accident

[@victoriamokoatle8241]

I understand Palesa saying she understands the pressure that the nurses and doctors at private hospitals feel must be overwhelming but it gives them no right to treat people like trash, the same doctors who work at the government hospitals are the same doctors who work at private hospitals they just choose to treat people based on where they are. @Relebogile we need you to please bring in the nurses and doctors from government hospitals I know you got relevant questions for them lets let them unpack to us why they are so angry and so cruel yet they have sworn to save people's live....

[@zamashazinzuza3701]

as a student doctor, I feel so disappointed at our health system because that's not how we're taught to treat our patients in med. school

[@ncisept5900]

It is sad and disappointing really.

[@nosip9950]

Wow Idk how many times she mentioned motherhood! She really loves being a mother 😊

[@swazi4769]

I spoke to another man who was involved in the same car accident a month ago. This man was so traumatized as if it happened days ago. I thank God that he made it alive and that aus Palesa you made it out alive. From what the guy said, he did also mention that the man was indeed drunk and that he may have passed away. The sad thing about this story is the after effects of the accident. Like aus Palesa the man struggles to be in the road. He has nightmares about it and it takes a lot for him to be behind the wheel and driving is his livelihood.

[@Yaya_mtsweni]

I understand and agree with Palesa when she says its important to have a medical aid . negligence at Public hospitals is real. I am an amputee today because of such negligence. Anyway we thank God for life.

[@ntsoakinkoe3869]

@Ayanda my heart just sank. This is painful truth. Oh dear God!

[@asandaluke8433]

So sorry maan for that

[@Namy689]

I am so sorry

[@molatelochokoe1867]

There’s no such thing as “being rude because they are over worked”. When you work with sick or traumatised people you must be at your a game 24/7 365. Or else find another job. There’s no pressure, they are lazy.

[@graceygumbo6764]

I totally agree with u those nurses are just rude as if someone forced them to do the job by force

[@Nokss87]

You clearly don't know what it's like to work for government...you're ignorant and don't know what's you're talking about.

[@noxoloradebe7973]

Yes it's hard and being overworked for low salaries but if your job is to help people, DO YOUR JOB! Like why choose a career if you don't like it

[@MnunuKapurua]

They are lazy and ungrateful. They behave like they been forced but chose the career. Worst thing here in Botswana the government pays for all our education and even give us allowance at university but they still finish school and go treat patients like nothing.

[@setsomotsoai6336]

Most of them they chose that career because things were tough at home and they had no choice but still the treatment at government hospitals/clinics is appalling 😞😞.

[@nthomengmajara8575]

I lost my dad to such an accident. This episode is triggering. Wishing Palesa and many who have been in her situation love and healing. My condolences to those who have lost loved ones due to such circumstances.

[@phumelelepearl1431]

Watching this show is addictive 🥺

[@nduh2232]

So true I couldn't watch the episodes last week and I'm binge watching the show now

[@noxiek]

Like Nyaope

[@nokubongwasethabile7543]

Very addictive hey 😫

[@annelineabraham9554]

Very much

[@africangoddessesnon-profit7676]

Yoh !!! I'm always unpacking 🥺

[@redirileluvuno8148]

Public Health system is the pits, arrogance inhumane and deadly. When I work I'm getting medical aid these public workers are miserable with their work and pay there just desensitized.

[@LifeWithOrdinary]

Thank you to sis Relebogile and her team for serving quality content and sis Palesa for sharing her story even though it means reliving that moment.🙏🙌

[@nicosekano5942]

Can you imagine how many bribes he might have given traffic cops for drunken driving years before this incident.

[@noreenm5018]

Praying for you and your baby-girl continous healing Palesa

[@gladymash3214]

💔💔💔 I cried 😭 so much jst listening for her story normalize not to drink and drive after your konka guys.Palesa is a strong woman 👠✅❤️

[@graceygumbo6764]

Im sitting on the bed its almost 5 mnths w a broken Patella and still await a knee operation, i have scars all over even on my head and forehead , i also lost 9 teeth and was in ICU for one week unconscious. It is a very traumatic experience and my kids were very affected no one thought i was going to make it im using crutches to move from area A to B and unemployed because of a drunk Indian guy who bumped us from the back on N1 because he was drunk and overspeeding.I was thrown onto the freeway the door of the car came out because of too much pressure from the impact I was in a government hospital for 3mnths and because of a big wound that needed skin graft on the same leg i couldnt get the Patella fixed now my leg cant bend n i must attend some painfull physio to learn to bend my leg before i can have an operation. The guy never got even a scratch n he is living his normal life when im stuck on the bed and cant even work for my kids as a single mom. Im so angry and the guy has never even checked on me. I dnt even know how long Physio will take before i can bend my leg and have an operation. 90 percent of the nurses were horrible but i appreciate a few and the doctors were very kind. People must stop drinking and driving its very irresponsible

[@jmanthosa]

Ohh sorry mama💔💔 Start a go fund me we will definitely help you.

[@graceygumbo6764]

@@jmanthosa hey deae i don't even know how it works or how its done, im just not used to this life of depending on others i was very lucky God had blessed me with 2 jobs in these hard times luckily i got paid the frst 2 mnths and my jobs are still safe if i make it and operation goes well and my knee is fine i will still hv my jobs back. I just pray the operation comes soon so that by beginning of next yr i get back to work but by the looks of things having this leg to bend will take longer than i thought but im leaving everything in the capable hands of our God

[@jmanthosa]

Thank goodness your jobs are still safe, Fight!! And Fight hard! Speedy recovery x❤🌺

[@mosenekepetrussebeela7488]

I feel for Palesa. This was informative. Now I know my headaches and forgetfulness are not abnormal since the accident I had in 2017.

[@pattaika3507]

gorgeous woman she is so humble and calm,I thank God for sparing her,talking about public hospitals service it's such a mocking play ground for less preverage people and it's a place where I feel less about myself the way they treat patient

[@aphiweK]

I love the fact she is so open 🥺

[@poppyful4377]

I hope Palesa is still going through trauma counseling. This is sad and teaches us to consider people on the road before driving under the influence of drugs/alcohol.

[@mkhulumanzula8813]

The majority of health professionals in public hospitals, especially nurses, do not really care. It looks as though they were forced to choose their profession. It doesn't look like it's a calling. Some of them even let patients die because they hold grudges against patients. This is heartbreaking.

[@thandindlovu9088]

No calling at all to them is just looking for a job to get paid only

[@swazi4769]

Rele, the doek is on point. Love it

[@emisto9sakina398]

She looks charming always but that doek on her ke magic love it

[@ntsoakinkoe3869]

Absolutely gorgeous!

[@Namy689]

I was involved in a car accident in 2012… and the after effects are permanent i must say, i have been suffering from headache ever since….. I understand you Palesa… a week never passes without me taking headache pain tablets… it’s been 9yrs

[@zeeelove9259]

I still remember at the Johannesburg gen hospital in 1999 from the accident scene those students from Wits were asking me the same question and told me Mandela is not here and the nurse came & stripped all my jewellery .all I was asking was forgiveness. Had broken fermur arm&facial injuries even today don't like a car 😢😢😢😢

[@zeeelove9259]

Yes they stich you with bottles inside your forhead did the same to me it a rush rush dear you squiz them yourself at home 😂😂😂 bawo baxolele bathi bafuna umsebenzi kodwa

[@thandiadedokun4560]

I love how you r honest about your finances

[@EuniceMadida]

Found my self taken back by this interview, 2019 my husband was involved in a car accident, taken to Tembisa hospital, with fractured pelvic bone, he was only given panadi for a whole week..had to sign refusal of treatment and hired an ambulance to take him to Tambo , where he was taken extra care of...2021 we were both involved on another accident we were both taken to Witbank hospital what a nightmare it was, Drs didn't even know what they were doing, they bandaged the wrong leg i was not even checked, he was thdn transfered to Middleburg hospital another nightmare , he was there for 3 weeks his health was getting worse..had to do the same thing sign refusal of treatment and hire an ambulance again , he was admitted at Tambo for about 2 months where he was treated with dignity and respect.. he was left seriously disabled...public hospital are bad but not all of them.

[@khef3846]

Medical aid is so expensive guys. My doctor advised to go for hospital cover only but yoh🙆🏽‍♀️. Sorry sis Palesa

[@vuvumofficial]

hospital covers only pay after you have been treated and submitted hospital or doctors paperwork. So meaning that you have to pay out of your pocket 1st to be admitted in the private hospital because private hospital will only treat you once money has been in their bank account if you sont have a medical aid.

[@khef3846]

@@vuvumofficial ahhhhz😭

[@kopanomsiza345]

Broken glass part I can relate, they stitched my face still with glass pieces. Someone told me they don't clean wounds, it normal practice. It stil bothers me to this day.

[@mantelekhitsane8935]

The way I cried the day I sow her face nd the car it was like I knew her personally but God is good 🙏💐

[@siphumelelendlangisa995]

This is something I always pray on...Lord protect us from drunk drivers because you can be the best driver and follow all the rules but because they are selfish people out here...we are not safe...

[@nomvuyozakathi3557]

Thank you Palesa for unpacking , May God bless you and your family ausi

[@galanakedi4304]

Saved by God through worshipping. Thank u Lord

[@tiyiselanin]

Drunk drivers are really selfish!!!! 😡😡😡

[@noxiek]

Yoh, the after effects 😭😭🙏🏻 . Am so sorry Palesa.

[@Sasa-wv7gd]

This reminds me of pelonomi hospital in Bloemfontein 🤦 our public hospital staff needs to be trained on how to handle patients who have gone through truama and all

[@khanyisamakahane6840]

Public hospitals need to do better

[@confidencentombifuthi9977]

Nurses and Doctors fail us🙁

[@nanafifi4894]

Sesi Relebogile she's the cutest lady 🌹🌹

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you 🥰

[@nanafifi4894]

pleasure dear

[@Silver-un7hi]

Phenomenal Woman ,May Grace be with you always

[@kabelopreciousmachethe6906]

Sending love to you sesi Palesa and beautiful little zowi❤️❤️.. All is well sesi

[@lebogangmaboko3123]

Palesa is so beautiful

[@swazi4769]

Eish accidents are just so bad maan. It's traumatic. Human beings are mean maan. Nurses and Doctors need to do better. We must do better maan. Can we also learn to stop drinking and driving and stop being on the phone while driving. Lives and livelihoods are at stake maan.

[@pointa2b388]

Motherhood Monday episode will be lit

[@victoriamokoatle8241]

I was hit by 2 drunk drivers and one of them even ran away i had to chase him after he bumped my car ... its so sad can people stop this drinking and driving feeling so emotional as she relays her story

[@whitlingy3407]

As a person working in a public health facility, it is very sad to hear of such malpractices that are just unnecessary 😢 , which don't need to be explained even to a student that they are wrong. I'm deeply sorry she had to go through all that🙏🏽. May the Grace & the Love of God continue to show off with her life ❤

[@lesam965]

Even healthcare professionals in private hospitals can be unproffessional. I experienced this from glorified Netcare Parklane. Right after the birth of my daughter a friend asked me how was the experience because she had a horrible time there. But honestly majority of the staff was amazing.

[@ahviwe]

This is so painful 😭😭🤕

[@LethoHali]

Truly appalling how she was treated!!! 🥺🥺🥺💔

[@ingelosikazi]

Another episode💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 Relebogile spoils us🥺❤

[@sisiphotyeshani8939]

You have such a beautiful name

[@ingelosikazi]

@@sisiphotyeshani8939 Thank you so so much🥰🤗

[@combomalikongwa1407]

Ai mara public hospirals tho.. continentwise nje they just, aaaargg Palesa you have a big heart shem. Sometimes not knowing is the best closure you can get shem. Wishing you and Zoe a recovery that is soon. Kanti where do people get the liver to think they can operate a machine when they cant walk. Drunk drivers make me mad!! Ai Lebo and the things she hears though🤧i pray for you.. the trauma!! Ng ng

[@thabangmaoto1110]

Wow how consistent is this show???🤞

[@amandamgobhoza2882]

Sis Rele looking 🔥🔥🔥🔥as always

[@relebogilemabotja215]

❤️

[@Malekgotla777]

What a strong woman

[@kelebogilemoshe4347]

Yooh I can only imagine how an accident trauma is like. 😢

[@nosip9950]

Aw nkosyam u baby mamma ka Som som !

[@hrsofhealingandIamproudaffirma]

😆🤣 u so funny and stout waisti

[@yolandakona7738]

That's public hospital sometimes I even wonder why did they choose the nursing course when they are not doing their job with love its really sad

[@nonkanyisondlovu5069]

We're back here as if we never left 🥰🥰

[@nthabinolo_nthabinolo_8442]

Is this Bahumi’s mom ?

[@phumlaphisibiya4883]

Yes

[@kabelopreciousmachethe6906]

Yes

[@noxiek]

Yes

[@kgabomolapo9933]

Public hospital tjooo

[@Makhayaafrica]

May she find success in another industry for the sake of her kids.

[@oratilethango8077]

I thank God for life 😍😍

[@jay02021]

Relebogile o pila ngwaneso ❤️

[@nhlanhlakhumaloh]

The trauma that we're facing on Public Facilities is unbearable... ATTITUDE is one of the major problems.

[@nthabinolo_nthabinolo_8442]

Ao shem the babe girl 😥😥

[@mphohappiness1736]

Yo ha ah! Same story after story about public hospitals.

[@pulengkomako790]

So sad Auc Palesa... really....

[@ncisept5900]

We are not all like this in public hospitals. It is quite disappointing. I hope RAF will compensate them well.

[@angelkhayes5450]

People are in the wrong professions!! Whatever happened Empathy and professionalism!! It’s not nice for health professionals to behave like this. It’s not rewarding at the end of the day.

[@tebogop8818]

Yoh 💔

[@lebogangdlaminilebogangdla1691]

She's looking beautiful and look strong. Yeah public hospitals are a mess I don't like going there! We have a health system that fails us. As for the tabloids that's what they do they are like vultures

[@zothaniimlovingitkhaya2599]

South African public services are all horrible. I'm glad she fought for here rights .

[@Mabobo333]

😭😭😭😭

[@raesetjemuroa3767]

We thank God for life

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Always 🙏🏾

[@zakhentshakaza9503]

Healthcare should be free

[@mavislindiwe4738]

Soo true, because private health care is soo expensive. Everyone deserves good health care.

[@zakhentshakaza9503]

Mavis Lindiwe is a basic human need and it is free in other countries including Austria, Belarus, Bulgaria, Croatia, Czech Republic, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Greece, Iceland, Isle of Man, Italy, Luxembourg, Malta, Moldova, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Romania, Russia, Serbia, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Ukraine, and the United Kingdom; but these are mostly developed countries but that doesn’t mean we can’t prioritise healthcare in our country.

[@hrsofhealingandIamproudaffirma]

@@mavislindiwe4738 public care in 3rd world countries is bad...in first countries u are priority and treated with care

[@Keekeembhele]

This hits home. My mom was killed in a car accident with a drunk driver, who was never even arrested and it never actually mattered because it would never bring her back. For Palesa, you were given a second chance 🕯🙏🏾 what a blessings.

[@nompumelelomdluli4730]

Ke Palesa... 😞

[@nthabinolo_nthabinolo_8442]

Sila

[@TshegoMalakaje]

Yooh MmaNnuku🥺🥺

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

Ubuntu is important but the lack of resources, human and otherwise are the problem in ANC funded hospitals. You will never see such in DA territory. Sorry to hear about your terrible experience Ous Palesa.

[@pulengkomako790]

Uuuu shame public hospitals... they looked down on you like they doing you a favor....tjo

[@ElengosCreations]

😭😭😭

[@SerameAndBeyond]

Public Healthcare needs to do better 😏

[@Namy689]

Medical aid is importanter… public hospitals are hell….. …. Make it a priority if possible…… thank you

[@mokz91]

In my opinion unprofessional attitudes. Suxs

[@angelkhayes5450]

You are so right!! And it’s honestly not rewarding!

[@masiyamothwanga]

O mpone ke belaleba at a public hospital/ clinic o mpolaye🙄

[@thatidimema4954]

Should have sued n claim Raf

[@Nokss87]

Sis Relebogile, I'm suggesting you do an interview with someone who works in government hospitals/department/SAPS or whatever so that these people who vote for this government can stop complaining about it's employees without understanding what it's like to work in those conditions. I'm sick and tired of the comments from the public blaming employees working in despicable conditions and expecting them to give them 6 star treatment when they don't even have working resources. There is nothing more frustrating then working in government, get treated like garbage by management and have to deal with unhappy public, and still be expected to smile and be happy because someone paid for a service. It's an insult for people to think we must operate like robots just because of a salary. People must vote better, for better government and better services don't insult government workers just because you're an ignorant irresponsible citizen. Thank you...❤

[@cheryl-janem8794]

Being rude has nothing to do with all that !!! Yes we know that public facilities are not only bad for the public but can be for the employees there, but always try to be kind cos what you do might affect someone else. Simply, just be kind!!

[@thuliendlovu719]

Hayi ngeke. People in public are just rude and conceited qha! Medical practitioners take an oath to do no harm so let’s not BS here.

[@nitaterrytee590]

This was less of an interview more of a PSA (public service announcement) or PR … this was more of public services, artists being under paid , artists being celebrated. I love Relebogile don’t open this platform for people who want to rectify public opinion.

[@Makhayaafrica]

It’s still a story worth telling.

[@bufakazingwane6591]

First

[@masiyamothwanga]

Lol being overworked makes these so called public nurses & doctors behave like they do? Please when you come to work, leave whatever you're dealing with at the at ko gating ya mmereko especially when you dealing with people.

[@silindilemthethwa6663]

A bunch of you like to speak on things you know nothing about. Public health workers lack resources, underpaid and also have to deal with different folks. As if you guys don't live in South Africa.

[@gospeldiscovery9853]

REPENT ALMIGHTY JESUS IS COMING.

[@joanamwareya6188]

Maybe if u did not stop to put your kid in the backseat u would not have met the drunk driver. The stopping actually aligned y your timeline with that of the drunk driver. Thank God u are well

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Somizi said he paid for u Palesa why are u not telling

[@mavislindiwe4738]

This is her story, I don't think it is necessary to name all the people who helped her. She did say that family helped her, so Somizi is part of that family. Let us try to be empathetic, she has been through soo much.

[@noreenm5018]

@@mavislindiwe4738 you absolutely right. Internet people are so insensitive. She said family members put money together, so she now expected to name one family's members name

[@pearljantjie3784]

@@mavislindiwe4738 absolutely right, people hear what they want to hear, @Dikoliza Skk was waiting for name dropping the entire episode and got disappointed when that did not happen. What a shame

[@wendymdzinwa2096]

When Somizi contributed, he was not doing so to be named every 2 second Palesa speaks about the accident and is not the only person that helped. I know he also contributed and that came from Palesa's mouth but she spoke about it at a different setting for different reasons. Somizi is family to her, they are coparent and a friends.

[@neosjournal_]

Why should she name drop everyone who helped her? Hai. Le rata dilo🙄