A Family Conversation | Love, Support, and the Journey with Ivy | Carla Rockmore

[@alittlebitlaura]

Bravo for this educational video. While I consider myself a very open-minded and accepting person, I don’t have anyone close to me who has transitioned so I find myself staying quiet so I don’t say the wrong thing. But I’m listening and leaning and am grateful for Ivy and others who are sharing their story. Beautiful like her momma! ❤❤

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you for being open to learning❤️

[@ixizn]

Thank you for educating yourself even without a “personal” reason to do so! ❤

[@donnastevenson6700]

I don’t know you Ivy, but I love you, and proud of you,,,,.hugs from ny. I am a good listener if you ever want to talk

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

Poor man, his eyes are lifeless, married a manipulative, narcissistic woman who turn his boy into a transvestite, man is completely emasculated! The humiliation of that man is unimaginable!

[@findingLynn56]

Even Carla and Ivy’s mannerisms mirror each other; so mother & daughter. Thank you for speaking and sharing and for your bravery in today’s world.

[@111Sue]

Congrats to the 3 of you for being vulnerable & so truthful to the public. I'd like this video to be shown in every high school, college, place of worship, sent to every tv talk show host, etc. "Kids™ young adults, adults should see the loving suport that your family has shown & is possible to others if they are willing to do the work. Kindness and compassion should be the new trend for 2025. Ivy, the world is your oyster!

[@rachelel-yafi3210]

The world needs more of this. Open, honest, vulnerable, loving conversation. Thank you so much for sharing. It takes such courage to put yourself and your feelings and your struggles out into the world for people to learn from. Sending much love to the whole family.

[@candicecaston2180]

So beautiful to see a family communicating successfully and really coming together as a loving & empathic support system! LOVE! LOVE! LOVE THIS! ❤❤❤

[@CrazyMaryJo]

Interesting to hear your hubby’s process. Ivy’s vocabulary and communication skills speak volumes about her old soul. Kudos all.

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you so much ❤️ So proud of my beautiful family.

[@aprilrain2011]

Absolutely

[@sallyvaughan1231]

Excellent, beautiful. X

[@sipanon9711]

I think dad has needed an outlet to speak his mental process & feelings for a minute. He did good. 👍🏼 I like seeing Ivy, the intellectual. It’s def her authentic self. Mom doing great mom things, as usual. Thanks for sharing. 🫶🏻

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you for the kind words and joining us ❤️

[@EveKrit-Anderson-ev3rf]

I have mentioned your channel and Ivy to my Mama. She said, that is a very courageous young woman. Mama will be 100 in December. I feel proud of her journey and send love and best hopes for all of her future.

[@IAmLadyLuxe]

The honesty and vulnerability of this video is beautiful. This is clearly a family that supports the inner light of each other: whether it is fashion or gender identity. Blessings to you!!!!

[@audreycampbell9483]

Ivy should write a book. She could really help a lot of other people. I could tell she has a lot more to say❤

[@CarlaRockmore1]

I agree ❤️ She is an amazing writer too.

[@portuguesehydrangea4818]

Or a podcast could be a great space too.

[@dianebright9366]

I can’t believe Ivy is only twenty. She is an intelligent, well-spoken young woman. I enjoyed this family sit-down. Thank you. ❤

[@jenniferlovejoy511]

This is absolutely beautiful. I am so touched by your care for each other, your honesty and your love. And I’m deeply grateful for this brave sharing and modeling. Ivy is so wise and so brave. Thank you so much for this important conversation!

[@CherrieForest]

That was such a generous conversation to have with us and thank you. Ivy you are so eloquent the way you explain how your feeling is wonderful. My son has been through difficult times and you are so right he should be allowed to have those times when he just has to feel those sad emotions being happy should not feel like a job. I’m like Michael about happiness I aim to just be and be grateful now that is something I have learnt at 62. I wish I was there to give you all a hug we could chat for hours… and Carla your just great 🤗❤️

[@Aplla13]

I think Ivy, and other trans people, really are an asset to the world. They have gotten to grow up with one set of social norms put upon them and then have the chance to be part of the complete opposite side of the coin. What a wonderful way to be able to say "this isn't working for either side" and to have someone as open minded and intelligent as Ivy comes across, the world will only be a better place for having her and so many others like her.

[@shmeeeeeeeeeee]

This should be a series “Closet Chats with Carla”

[@NJ-Cathie]

What a beautiful conversation! Thank you for sharing this with us. Parenting is the toughest job in the world. You and your husband are doing an amazing job. Thank you for being an inspiration to me.

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you so much ❤️ I really appreciate that

[@indiabilly]

My son was always a boy when I thought back, we just took a while to realise it, but he’s himself and he’s happy and it makes me so happy to see how Ivy is supported to be herself by your family ❤

[@maureenomalley5771]

This conversation is so so very important especially given our current political climate. Thank you so much for sharing! And Ivy, I love love when you are on your mom's videos, you are so classy, elegant and have gotten your mom's eye for fashion! Superb, courageous and thoughtful!!

[@EnfysDebs]

What a fantastic video, the authenticity shines through for all of you. Ivy seems so settled and happy in her own skin - surely that's the most beautiful thing, and she's had your support to help her get there. So many people for all sorts of aspects of their life would benefit from caring compassionate and unconditional support like you've given Ivy ❤

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you❤️ You said it yourself. She sits well in her skin and that's all I could ever want for her❤️

[@CH33R19S]

Thank you so much for posting this and supporting Ivy! My parents and I don’t speak anymore because of a similar situation… so many people say “but it’s your parents” like I want it to be this way, but never “that’s your kid” when they choose not to accept us. 😔 Thank you so much for showing the world what support and acceptance looks like. It’s not immediate, it’s not fake, it’s hard but it’s genuine! ❤

[@marhara1]

I think parents like in you situation also gets “thats your kid”, they just don’t hear it. It’sad when someone doesn’t have parents support, but I don’t think there’s much one csn do about it. It is them, not you.

[@dianekokko6254]

Ivy's smile when her dad said he was proud of her. Michael's smile when Carla said she'd be miserable without him. Michaand Carla's smiles when Ivy said talking to them was a prerequisite for her emotional happiness.

[@mariarodriguez-ry3nr]

qué hermoso todo lo que estáis hablando, y sobre todo la manera en que lo estáis hablando... me emociona tanta honestidad y generosidad para comprender y compartir🥰 muchos besos desde cádiz🌊✨ españa♥️

[@patriciadreyer8977]

It’s wonderful to see a family in growth! So brave to lay it out in a public forum as well. Also fun to observe layered conversation in another family. Blessings to you all.

[@lilic1316]

Thank you for sharing. This is such an important video. I have an 18 year old Trans male. This makes me feel less alone.

[@SamanthaSchi]

Love to hear this! I’m so happy that Ivy has the support she needs to succeed 💗 Carla, you and your husband are the epitome of what every trans human needs. Adapting, understanding, and accepting. Ivy - I wish you the best in your college years, they can be so fun! 🫶🏻

[@CarlaRockmore1]

We will always support her ❤️ thank you for the kind words

[@gwenb6839]

Carla, you and your family just make my heart happy! I just smile when I see you have a new video! This is a great talk! Thank you for sharing! ❤

[@lissat7317]

Thank you all so so much for this… incredibly valuable and honest. Noticed how much comfort Ivy got from stroking the little dog when she found things tricky - great idea.

[@noobenny]

the open mindedness and communication in this video is healing.

[@CarlaRockmore1]

I'm so glad ❤️ thank you for tuning in.

[@cynthiamaloney7963]

This was AMAZING! Thank you all for your openness and honesty! Ivy is so articulate and wise.This will help SO MANY people. Truly a gift you are giving to others especially at this time ❤️

[@itslyndseyyy]

MY HEART IS SO WARM WATCHING THIS!!! What a special and beautiful video ❤ thank you for making it and everyone's vulnerability.

[@lcwinablackdress]

Carla, I’ve watched you for so long for your bright personality, and of course killer style! The snippets of your family you’ve shown have been joyful. This was such a different story than I’m used to with your channel. But I am SO happy to have listened to your family talk about such a tough subject all around. My youngest, I can tell, has something going on. He’s 16, and I hope that we have fostered an environment where he can talk to us no matter what. Your accepting and loving dynamic is hopeful and refreshing. So many deep points were made and in a palatable manner. Thank you for sharing such personal stories. You’ve helped this Mama is ways you’ll never know ❤

[@owlislike]

This was 31:22 of freedom and joy and love in these insane times. Thank you for being such great parents and having this conversation.

[@amariscash1787]

Cool Dad. Appreciate his honest feedback and feelings aloud. How cool for Ivy to look back on. Beautiful family. Such resemblance between mama and Ivy❤ Consistent compliments on my Sling bag 🎉🎉

[@meursaultscourtroom8886]

You can never go wrong by loving and supporting your children. Benefits the parent, the child and society.

[@MM-ug6md]

Point A to happiness….oh Ivy you have me crying. It’s all I want for my child.

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Awww❤️ sending you so much love XOXO

[@franceshills7737]

"What the world needs now Is love, sweet love ..." ... and open-heartedness, which is what you're all demonstrating. With so much hatred and prejudice in the world, your acceptance of each other is a beautiful thing to see. Sending love, admiration and courage from Africa 🌍

[@katherineely3714]

Ivy's final comment, about how it's ok to allow ourselves other feelings than gratitude, is my favourite. Thank you all so much xx

[@sallyvaughan1231]

Ivy presents and summarises the Three Mind States, just perfectly. She will go far. Good Luck Ivy, you are a credit to your authentic Self and because you have such open parents. X

[@TheBeadShopGirl]

Beautiful family, beautiful sharing! I wish every family this kind of love, acceptance, and openness. The world would be a much better place for it. ❤

[@victoriaperry-eldridge3382]

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable about your family’s journey. Our youngest came out at 13. We were so proud of them living their truth. At 15 they came out as non-binary, that’s when the fear really hit me. I’m in awe of the strength, courage and honesty in which they live their life. I’m so glad we’re in Canada because I don’t think they would be very safe in the US. Stay safe.

[@krismyers4940]

Very educational! Such supportive and loving parents.❤🇨🇦

[@CarlaRockmore1]

thank you ❤️

[@kirsty9821]

😢❤ this is definition of unconditional love.

[@jody-annesullivan4547]

What a loving, kind educational vid. Thank you Ivy for being so honest, Carla for posting, and Dad (whose’s name I don’t know) for your Dad questions, they were solid, and insightful. Blessings for a happy life, Ivy.

[@eliflisatuzer]

Michael :)

[@AMMOswifey]

This was so eye opening ❤ Thank you for talking about it and explaining in a calm collected manner. I understood so much and I can go forward with new insights. Thank you!

[@karinamurison1537]

I'm only 3 minutes in but the open & honest communication that comes with compassion & understanding just blows me away. ❤️ I'm even more obsessed with you Carla! And ivy is such a smart, eloquent, beautiful woman! You can see just how proud you & Micheal are of her 🫶

[@momforseven]

Thank you for sharing these vulnerable conversations. Sharing the individual conversations helps us love individuals and better understand the personal stories. I also love the grace that is given on all sides grandma is amazing and empathic and able to adjust quickly. Grandpa is given grace and time to work through his inability process the transition. Such a great conversation and example of ways to connect with the ones we love. Thank you for sharing.

[@gigidodson]

When my daughter came out as gay. I was terrified! They gay murders were top of the news. All you want for your kid is happiness and safety! So afraid was top of the charts. But she was so much happier. Her life got bigger, she wasn't hiding anymore. It was freeing. Ivy has such great parents! She was raised wit such love. Go Ivy!

[@Nickysmom]

So true about how we see ourselves. My father always acted like we were the prettiest and smartest. My mother put emphasis on the importance of what was inside our head, not in the mirror. Looking back, I think I looked gorgeous. Wish I had appreciated it in real time. But I faked self confidence like my life depended on it. Now I realize nobody cares, everybody is worried about themselves. We should be kinder to ourselves at every age.

[@traciebolton1951]

Well done! I became a pseudo parent to a female to male Trans person 7 years ago. It's been a wild, terrifying, educational, wonderful experience. He was thrown out of his family before we met. I didn't understand anything about the Trans community. I didn't understand how this beautiful human wasn't a female. He educated me, I went to therapy, educated myself and it has become one of the most loving and valuable relationships I've ever had. Thank you for having the courage to do this openly. It means so much.

[@l.keithhain1952]

Such a beautiful, honest, inspiring, and informative conversation. Thank you for sharing this. Blessings to you all! 🙏

[@chrissiedcohen]

Ivy, you are insightful & intuitive (and sounded a bit Freudian 🧠). Thank you all for being so open & vulnerable in sharing your journey individually, and as a family. Love is love! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@cupcakenurse]

This is beautiful. I am so grateful to and for young women who are able to have vulnerable conversations with their fathers (parents) and that their fathers (parents) want them to understand that they are loved and supported. I craved it at her age. Thank you for showing me what kind of relationship I want with my daughter.

[@Tina-ru3fn]

How very brave of you to talk about this on your platform. What beautiful parents. And Ivy is so incredibly bright, articulate and strong. ❤❤❤

[@Ohkimba68]

This is so important!

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Yep🙌❤️

[@rachelneal-r3b]

I love the "academic explanation", Ivy. It was absolutely perfect and I truly agree as well. Thank you to each of you for your vulnerability in this beautiful video. I've shared it to my followers as well. I can only hope that people are able to watch this and take it in, not with bias or judgement, but with understanding and curiosity to go beyond any perimeters they've known at one time. I truly hope people will bypass any dissonance that this may hit and gain an ability to see something as a bigger picture. I appreciate each of you. Much love. Rev. Rae Ann Neal

[@troyedwards8863]

What an absolute gift you all are!! THANK YOU SO MUCH for all that you shared in this video! I pray that many parents watch this video MULTIPLE times because there is so much to learn from you all. Ivy, your so amazing and smart. I love how you express yourself and your journey. It was so good to hear a male say he doesn't "think about happiness". That needed to be heard by all of us! Again, I am very thankful and grateful for what you have shared with us all! Love and Blessings to All!!! ❤❤❤

[@Mamamoblue08]

Wow. your family is such a breath of fresh air. Ivy is such a wonderful young lady. Very perceptive, kind and wise ❤

[@tinaw.9485]

I just want to voice my love and support for this video and its message. I can see that Ivy is an old soul, and old souls often have hard journeys, as they’ve incarnated to help others learn lessons of compassion and empathy. It would be very interesting to see Ivy’s birth chart. 😊 I understand that decisions like the one Speaker Johnson made today come from a place of fear and separation (the root cause of all hateful actions). At the same time, that fear and prejudice is so alien to me. I would say to those who identify as Christians: If the Christ were asked about trans people using the gender bathroom with which they identify, he would ABSOLUTELY say they should be able to. We each have a different journey, but we are also all of one whole, and loving and supporting each other lifts up the consciousness of the whole world. I wish everyone could realize that.

[@pigeonqueeen]

What a wonderful family dynamic. Open and honest and smart. Ivy's knowledge and academic prowess is so impressive and aspirational. I am so grateful she has such a supportive family. All the best to all of you.

[@DarthFurie]

It's really vulnerable to share your family's story like this, when people are vulnerable like this it allows others an opportunity to learn

[@CarlaRockmore1]

And that's why we share ❤️

[@catherinestoop5902]

A lovely supporting family, you are all really listening to each other.God bless.❤

[@nicolem2103]

I think this is absolutely lovely. I love families that show one another love and support.

[@CLNSL8]

Keep it authentic and honest. When people see the struggles of even accepting families it helps

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Absolutely.

[@cariethomas-zz2ld]

I love you are so open . My older daughter and her wife are very girly / fashion trendy and people can’t believe that these 2 beautiful girls are gay. You are who you are and love who you love. Happy to see Ivy is happy and in the end that is the only thing that matters❤

[@murt4718]

So wonderful of the three of you to share Ivy’s journey. As the grandmother of a trans granddaughter the pronouns are still hard for me not because I don’t understand but it’s still all too new and I forget🙂

[@CarlaRockmore1]

and that is okay! Thank you for being open to learning ❤️

[@PrairieDawnC]

I hope you are given the grace to learn, grow, and make mistakes.

[@mauramccormick3199]

Wonderful conversation. Thank you all for being so open and honest.

[@melissajohnson2765]

Thank you for this thoughtful discussion and transparent view of your family! Very informative ❤

[@makeitmakesense2616]

Ivy will never know, cause its her normal, how incredibly blessed she is to have her parents My life would be completely different if i had parents that love me for being myself

[@ole9186]

Thank you for sharing your candid family discussion. The answer is always more communication and success is a child feeling they always have a home with their family. No matter what. 🙏🏻

[@dakotabelle6359]

Thanks so much for this! I'm 3 weeks into adapting to the news of having a trans young adult. They are finding their way, and we are so proud of them. I love, support, and believe them; and at the same time, I am unnerved by my fears that I don't understand being trans. It's a vulnerable place as a parent to be facing the unknown. I worked so hard to be strong and prepare my kid for the future and now it feels like the rules have changed, and I don't have any experience or strategies for that future. It's nice to see how much grace you have for each other.

[@gclito]

I've watched a couple of videos with the two of you, mother and daughter. I didn't know she was transitioning. I thought she was born female. Ivy, I wish you all the happiness in the world! Carla, you and your whole family rock!

[@mariamiddleton8186]

Thankyou Ivy… you’re so clear and very evolved for your age. I love hearing you and your family discuss your hardships and of course your happiness. You are lucky to have such supportive parents…. So nice to hear people having real conversations. ❤

[@stephaniesimpson4016]

Thank you for creating this video as a family. Our family’s journey with our son reflects yours almost exactly. It took time and effort and so many conversations and I think we have reached a great point with our college student. I wish I could have seen this 4 years ago when there were raw emotions and confusion, doubt and fears. Thank you to your family tor sharing your journey so others can understand, and families can model your example. You’re an insightful, interesting, beautiful, brave woman, Ivy, and I am happy to get to know you.

[@sheriesanford260]

What a welcome, needed insightful video... Thank you. Such a delight to see a family sharing and discussing heartfelt issues... Your family has set the bar so high.....This openness without anger is needed in all families...no matter the issues at hand...

[@MillyMM20]

Thank you so much for sharing this honest , compassionate, loving family discussion. You’ve helped me as a parent and grandparent struggling with anxiety and worry over the everyone’s future happiness. Keep talking and listening and learning is as you said the key. Thank you all and especially Ivy for your strength and wisdom beyond years. X

[@renegarofalo1569]

I love Ivy! To understand, at 20, that humans need to find their own happiness in a world that continually disappoints us is brilliant. That is such an important concept.

[@carolinebennett5615]

What a privilege to hear this family conversation. I learnt a lot. Such openness and unconditional love. This is what we all want from our loved ones. You are showing people how it can be done.

[@sarojaninaidoo1314]

Fantastic sharing for the age we living in..a big Thanku to this very loving and amazing family .❤

[@thesmileyeffect]

Thank you for sharing this with us!

[@CarlaRockmore1]

It's important for me to speak on what matters ❤️

[@lynnaramini6603]

Thank you to the three of you, for sharing this subject w/understanding, love, support & grace. It is truly a wonderful gift to see!!

[@eileenshea9815]

I love all three of you! You are wonderful people!

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Thank you ❤️🥰

[@thaysramirez9051]

This is so heartwarming and wholesome. Thank you for loving your child for who she is!

[@starfishjennie]

I love your husband’s honesty and his love for his family! Ivy is a very special leader, leading the way for sone that don’t understand. I understand, but she’s helping the ones that don’t. The world is changing and Ivy is helping to lead the way 👏👏👏

[@dionnekyle555]

Deep gratitude for this video. Love and light to you all 🩷

[@chrisbrennan8900]

Brilliant! It is a master class for all parents and teen children demonstrating a loving, constructive, respectful family discussion.

[@CarlaRockmore1]

Here to help❤️ We are still learning over here too.

[@LLovellYY]

Thank you for sharing this great conversation with your viewers. I felt so connected to your family. We share a lot of the same feelings and journey. I’m hopeful that we could get to a point where people can be more accepting. Ivy is such a beautiful soul!❤

[@rozieperera9880]

Thank you so much for having these conversations - it was amazing to listen and learn. Please have more ❤❤

[@janumiah131]

This was gorgeous. You are a lovely family and Ivy comes across as an incredible human. Congratulations on raising such a spectacular person. It's also beautiful to see you all raising each other.

[@sheetalpatel2983]

Fascinating to hear your family's story. Thank you for sharing

[@beckymoody5412]

What an insightful and intelligent young woman. Ivy has raised wonderful parents.

[@julietyler4639]

Such a lovely video! I appreciate this conversation to help guide me in life.❤

[@darlenetrowsse9269]

Thank you for this absolutely beautiful video! It is great on so many levels! Honestly human ❤

[@eltwilli]

This was a beautiful discussion to witness from an open loving family. Carla, thanks for letting us inside your life!

[@Happinc]

This is such an incredibly valuable social service you are all doing in sharing these thoughts and experiences… I am really grateful for such bravery!❤️💕❤️🙏🏽Personally I have found the government’s cynical hijacking of such individual deeply personal experiences and problems for their own political purposes has been just terrible, really dreadful in fact, not just for the individuals and families getting through these very challenging and tough health issues, but for our society as a whole. They appear to be using a divide and conquer approach when it is actually our responsibility to come together as people and respect each other’s needs and our individual rights to be who or what we want to be. I don’t know why masculinity now has to be viewed as toxic when it is a naturally occurring state, it is terrible… it is very clear that what is needed is to exercise tolerance for our fellow man and go back to Christian principles to love our neighbours as ourselves. That means all our neighbours warts and all. That would pretty much solve everything. I wish you all light and love and a very happy and healthy holiday season! From Melbourne Australia 🦘🐨🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@PrairieDawnC]

Masculinity is not toxic. Unfortunately, though, there are a small minority of men who spread toxicity about how to "really" be a man and -- frankly-- how to abuse men who aren't like them and women they want to control.

[@CS-wt7tp]

This was a great & very honest & brave conversation. Thank you for sharing. Love your beautiful souls❤

[@webistebi8310]

Sending much love to you all!! Thank you for sharing all the journey!!!😘😘😘😘

[@anaalves3658]

Well that was just beautiful to see 😍. Ivy you are so fortunate to have such loving and supportive parents. You are such an eloquent and well spoken, level headed young person, your parents can be super proud of the wonderful human they have raised. My daughter is about to turn 10, and she up until now talks to us about everything, I know when something is bothering her because she comes up to me and buries her head into my torso, she gets a big hug and a kiss on top of her head and then I ask if she wants to talk to me? Sometimes she just needs the physical closeness of mom, but eventually she always opens up, i hope that as she grows up and I became less important in her life, that she will always feel comfortable talking to me.

[@louanneross6410]

A great video. Ivy is a thoughtful and eloquent speaking young lady and it is a blessing that she has such accepting and caring parents

[@emeljurd3231]

Thank you, thank you, thank you and blessings to each one of you. My journey is similar, my heart is full, our unwavering love and acceptance is what defines our children’s future.❤️

[@I_Dream_of_Drea]

This is like the best interview ever it makes me so jealous cuz my fam isn't like this but uuggg it's magical to see a mom who is trying to help her doll daughter out