A Hasidic Guide to Love, Marriage and Finding a Bride 1/4

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Filmmaker Paddy Wivell's documentary - filmed over the course of three months and with their permission - provides a candid and rare insight into the lives of Hasidic Jews living in Stamford Hill.

[@effectosis742]

BBC doesn't need a big budget to make an amazing documentry . Great work . I also enjoy the music . It fits so well to what we see .

[@elainebmack]

I love the older couple. They are so natural and down to earth with great senses of humor.

[@jaykaye7025]

+E Mack They seem nice and dont hate non jews

[@jaym-bu3cr]

Yiddishe Mama that is good, I love all good people too

[@busterbiloxi3833]

Beautiful people.

[@ToqTheWise]

“He’s made a mess of his life but what can you do?” I love the brutal honesty of this woman. She reminds me of a Jewish girl I went to college with.

[@humanbeing7847]

The teacher and his wife at the beginning of the video were just such sweet and joyful people

[@williamgannaway8183]

I regularly talk to Gabi's twin brother on my post round in Clapton. He's also a very outspoken and charismatic man, always entertaining and interesting.

[@HanksGirl98]

The first older Hasid couple are a riot! They seem like fun people. God bless them!

[@chrissygravitt9196]

The photo of them when they were wed at 4:52 is beautiful! The smile on her face, the sort of cheek and grin look. I love it

[@MeandmySara]

I love the elderly Jewish couple, they're just adorable, I want to hug them both XD

[@anthonycraigthemoviealtern5432]

Avi Bresler, father of five, has been living in the community since he moved from Israel as a teenager. His eldest son, Yitzchok Mair, is getting married to a girl called Simcha who moved to Stamford Hill with her family from Yemen. Avi spent over four years in prison for money laundering. According to the prosecution, just over £6.5m was found, to be used to buy drugs from Colombia.

[@II-be1ze]

❤

[@lekkki1]

Absolutely adorable, kind, charming people. The wife absolutely cracked me up.

[@gefiltefish2000]

The couple is so cute ! I loved their frankness, ‘happy go lucky’ attitude and sweet banter

[@isunlloaoll]

20,000 hasidic jews in London? Here in New York, there's around 200,000 hasidic jews. You see them everywhere in parts of Brooklyn, yet people know so little about them...

[@chunky9791]

Very very true

[@AgnosticProle]

Sean Antisemitic much?

[@shaunboden]

You have to be bigger always lol.

[@AgnosticProle]

The guy who got married got the better deal, he looked like a 12 year while his bride looked like a supermodel.

[@chodeshadar18]

These are beautiful people. I love this old couple!

[@annerfrancis]

This couple is a delight! They should go on the stage because they're funnier than Burns and Allen.

[@SuperFredAZ]

As a secular American Jew, this is a foreign to me, as it would be to a Christian or Islamic person. This represents about 5% of Jews world wide.

[@nightshade2979]

lived in Stafford Hill for fifteen years I'm a Catholic and found Jewish people very nice indeed. I emigrated miss the place a lot

[@mereje]

Sorry but this couple is lovingly hilarious. I really enjoyed this documentary because it really was just about people, their culture was more like a background to the story.

[@DeepHauz13]

the concept of Shomer Negiah or avoiding contact before marriage is actually great. it makes you want the other person that much more.

[@milalazebnaya4356]

It's great, that they are happy! I think it is true, that who can good work, can also good relax...they know what means "to be happy"!

[@Jaybeefromhiscastle]

Without a doubt, the greatest part was that break-dancing Rabbi at 10:12 :)

[@ahmetselimsavi2217]

How do you know that he was a rabbi 🙄

[@maggru91]

I do not think I have ever seen a more uncomfortable human being in my life. The look on the 20 year old boy who is getting married is just priceless. He looks terrified when he should be ecstatic that he is marrying such a beautiful woman.

[@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534]

She isn’t very beautiful

[@SarahsPlace100]

Learn more about Orthodox Judaism and you’ll see that they are both deep in prayer, recognizing the immense holiness of this day. They’re also young and nervous about the future. This is a very innocent thing and a beautiful occasion :) And she is very beautiful. How judgmental we’re being.

[@II-be1ze]

She is very beautiful just like all jewush females. Real beauties ❤❤❤

[@SosaSal_]

You gotta admit, they can dance their butts off.

[@SosaSal_]

emmi H.... ok and? It’s their culture..

[@DipsyMum29]

I don't know what all the fuss is about about a 20yr old getting married is? I was 18 when I met my husband and we got married at 24. Wasn't a big deal and we've been happy together for 18 yrs now. I'm not religious so my opinion on getting married young has got nothing to do with anything like that. I just think sometimes with Western societies insistence on 'living your life first' and waiting until nearly mid life before finding settling down is more likely to fail because that person then becomes cynical, selfish and set in their ways. These people are less likely to be mould their lifestyles together and make it work.

[@DePeaceHunter]

+DipsyMum29 my mom married at 14 with my dad at 24. it was a common practice back in the day. they've been together for 54 years and rarely got into serious quarrel...now when they've reached old age I can even tell they love each other even more. So like you, I'm in opinion that marry in young age is not always bad choice.

[@wmnoffaith1]

I was a teacher of adult vocational students and had a female Hasidic student of 19 who got married this way. She requested the match, and wanted to be married. She wasn't coerced in any way. She told me the bride can so no if she feels that she doesn't click with the man or find him attractive. She was quite blissfully happy, and by the end of the courtship and first year of her marriage, my other female students were expressing envy. They were stating that they wish their parents had put in the time to find them a really decent man who would treat them well and be held accountable for his behavior. They would recount their stories of one night stands, men that cheated, or wouldn't commit. The fact that when they became pregnant there was no question of the man marrying them. He fully expected the woman to get an abortion and if she refused, well then the baby was her problem. Almost without exception, by the time they graduated, the American women all felt that somehow what they had originally assumed was their freedom to explore sexuality, and find their own husband mostly turned out badly they felt. They honestly expressed to me that if they could do it over, they would have opted for a situation like this, where their parents screened the candidates and conducted Match.com in their living room. They felt that they had their freedom and sexual exploration, but had lost the sense that they were a precious gift to their husband that he should value and cherish, and that the man had to convince their father that he was worthy. Instead they felt that they had to keep and maintain their figure, weight, career, remain as sexy as possible, and in exchange they received sex from a man for as long as he felt they made the cut. They could no longer count, as this girl could, on a fairytale wedding or any wedding for that matter. And of the students that had been married, almost all of the class had husbands who had left them with children. Note: I'm not trying to generalize here, or bash men in any way. I'm just reporting conversations I heard. But from my 3rd party point of view, in the beginning the women felt sorry for the Jewish girl, that she didn't have their freedoms. Her life wasn't a life of glamour, shopping, sex, makeup and girls nights out. In the end, they envied her for the care she received from her parents, the quality of the men she had to choose from, vetted by her father. They basically said they felt their freedom really just. Consisted of freedom to be used, impregnated and left, freedom to sue for child support, freedom to move back in with their parents and their young children after their marriages collapsed. They felt some anger at their parents for not ever realizing that there was another way to do things. From a sociological or Anthropological view it was astonishing to me...and heartbreaking. I had so many female students left by their husbands after cancer mastectomies for instance, another group who had been left with special needs children. At the end of the year, the tables had turned. The women were no longer smug about their so called "rights" , and realized that the Orthodox Jewish girl wasn't jealous of them...she pitied them.

[@elainebmack]

I am a 62 year old female - never married by choice, who sees nothing wrong with choosing a mate in these traditional ways. In fact, it may be better in the long run. As a young woman I saw the tragedy of women who took the "liberated" route, only to discover that their lives were tragically unhappy and unsatisfying, having to raise children alone after the nearly inevitable divorce, feeling cheated and estranged from family, and feeling the need to "measure up" to impossible standards of sexiness and beauty in their middle years and beyond. Another thing I experienced was the very deep resentment and jealousy of these women when they see you living life as a happy person, free of the heartbreak and disappointment of broken marriages and failed relationships. The Orthodox community seems to support family life in ways that "modern" cultures do not, so Orthodox families grow and thrive while "modern" families fall apart.

[@webbess1]

8:16- the bride is beautiful!

[@Vandaleese]

ikr the bastard

[@hilltopviewer8204]

That's so nice to let the cameras in, in this day and age, and why not? How do I meet someone apart from the usual bars and clubs, that's what I want to ask? How to feel wanted in life? On the other hand, why so many people divorcing and separating after marriage? Thank You for your video John Daniel. Makes sense on one hand and then doesn't on the other, I guess it's trying to find a balance. What am I on about?!!

[@NXTST]

Excellent documentary !

[@elainebmack]

I rather like the concept of young people getting married. It makes a lot of sense when the culture surrounding them supports family life. I would think that to be unmarried at a late age in this culture would be a very uncomfortable experience.

[@Memorare87]

I absolutely love the wedding photo at 4:48. :D

[@carmengreenwood566]

May God continue to bless you and yours and keep his loving arms wrapped around you. As always, traveling grace and angel wing hugs. Sending you angel wing hugs.

[@marilynglam1986]

Wow that wedding was wild!

[@4trahasis]

This is so awkward yet precious.

[@zoilaabelard949]

beautiful wedding

[@ameard9801]

I m a Former Skinhead ...regardless of what friends of mines said ..i always loved Jews but never said it I do because out them came Christianity ...i love them ....i don t believe they 're. Bloodsuckers..i never believe that...i like their togetherness and even though they 're hated ..they live their lives ...i m impressed by that ....i would never let anyone make fun or hurt a Jew in my presence..i mean in general.....it was people from ( Asians , Hindus .Arabs and Africans I didn t really like .... I had no problems with Hispanics Blacks from the islands and Black Americans .....but time has changed ..the skinhead movement is no more ...yes there are still a few that bear the name skinheads because they can t let go ..do you see skinheads anymore ?

[@lporquai9048]

You seem like a contradiction to be honest... Of your a racist your a racist how the hell can you pick and choose. You say you didn't like Africans yet we all come from Africa. You say you like Jews, and you justify why you like them... Your comment makes no sense.

[@urbanviii6557]

Where is part 3 and 4 with sound? One version of this is full length, but last 1/4 is without sounds.

[@herberth.hebert990]

100 Weddings a Year?! My career as a Wedding Crasher would explode

[@Bulvan123]

Poor people do. Jewish weddings have a few extra empty tables setup so the poor can come & eat.

[@mistres5]

the actual saying is "where two jews, three opinions"

[@shaunboden]

And all right.

[@cheesepie123ful]

This is a classic mishugina Jewish family 😂 I love them!😂❤️ #jewandimproud

[@Cybele1986]

12:25 That's great advice for our century or any century

[@DeepHauz13]

don't see what's such a big deal about a 20 year old guy getting married. it's only today that 20 year olds are considered children. but 30 or 40 years ago, a 20 year old was a man. and this is how it should be. we're an infanticized society. it's sad to see.

[@michiperkins263]

Adorable people!!

[@hilltopviewer8204]

I have been listening to the Clarinet music of Naftule Brandwein in the past few years as a Christian and I'm really enjoying the music. I want to ask how do the Hasidic people in London and the Muslim people in London get along and would there be any kind of tension in this town as in the Middle East?

[@tusepagliacco]

Anyone know the name of the song being played at the wedding??? :D

[@abe8445]

it is a great film a, friends who saw it loved it too and i think that it will be helpful and many more people will watch it if it can be tagd as "avi bresler" and also "gabi lock" thanks

[@lubys4ever]

You can never trust these documentaries of Stamford Hill because the normal chasidim would never speak to a television crew. They only ever interview the people who are not regarded within the community as completely normal. Stamford Hill is very different to how these people describe it.

[@publicminx]

maybe they talked with not normal ones? life is full of exceptions ... i for instance to permanently stuff people would not expect ... ;)

[@flouflis1a]

Correct! Jews don't just have the right to lie every time they talk to a gentile, they have an obligation... This documentary is part of their propaganda...

[@PrincessofErised]

So how would you know? If you are one of them, you would not be speaking here. If you are not, you have no more knowledge that the people that did the documentary.

[@heinerweiner342]

Do 90% of them live on welfare like they do in the US?

[@darlenep.campos3018]

Great documentary! Does anyone know the name and artist of the song at 9:02?

[@eg6171]

I know your request is a year old but here you go kzbin.info/www/bejne/q5eXp615qaugmNE play.google.com/music/m/Tyjqt7n7icpbjhuyy7syirnshli

[@borderlord]

That kid having the wedding...looks petrified and doesn't have a clue !😳 Worrying!

[@ameard9801]

borderlord ...his wife is incredibly beautiful

[@mrsdalva666]

Shame they can't marry outside their community. There are some beautiful looking Hasidics. The accent, dark eyes and hair...

[@SosaSal_]

I went to college with an Israeli guy. Talk about HANDSOME. He had true tan/olive skin and beautiful dark eyes and hair. 😩😩😩

[@lporquai9048]

Why would they want to?

[@ameard9801]

That kid s wife is beautiful I m surprised he didn't t faint when they uncovered her face and reveal how beautiful she looks

[@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534]

She isn’t beautiful

[@alexmenard473]

@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 Show us your wife s face so we could also pass judgment……. SMDH

[@christinepeace]

Hear hear! Cheers Christine

[@sitizenkanemusic]

The matchmaker for Chasidic Jews doesn't even have to work at all. Every Chasid Man is the same, and every Chasid Woman is the same- frankly, you can match any 20 year old man with a 18 year old female, and they will be compatible, since they are brought up from infancy on what kind of man/woman to be and what your future spouse will look for in you.

[@rahuldey80]

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[@chatisawasteoftime]

That's the way it looks to an outsider. That's like saying Americans shouldn't have a hard time finding a mate because any American will do.

[@webbess1]

Well, there are probably differences in wealth between Hasidim. You wouldn't want to marry a girl from a rich family to a poor man or vice versa.

[@Robby334]

I find the religion amazing like all religions

[@cherkas009]

Break dancing Jews they know how to party

[@FashionAplenty]

As much as I am enjoying this documentary, I wonder why the lady had a problem with a Yemenite Jew mixing with an East European Jew? This is the norm in Israel now, isn't it?

[@GeorgiKaua]

Yep like he said you will expect a very humble, calm, no alcohol little dancing etc from these very religious people....is the contrary is PARTY time baaaaabyyyyy

[@amisraelchai100]

that is a separate yet equally amusing saying. however i don't know why you started it with "where",

[@dan4856]

AGGGGGGGHHHH WAHT IS THE DANCE MUSIC AT THE WEDDING??? PLEASE TELL MEEE XD))

[@moskva888]

It's SICK!!!!

[@gaelcohen1998]

Love it!!!! Me in the future BH jajaja

[@FashionAplenty]

Thanks for answering my question :)

[@Memorare87]

You'd never know by looking at them (like on the street, for example), but they sure can party! :)

[@leilocasportuguesa]

I find the ederly couple really cute and funny!

[@sincerelyyours2000]

It's probably because the front door is more convenient. People outside the community sometimes think equality between the genders is the motivation when it's really for a practical reason.

[@muhammadrafiqulislamkhan6994]

Wedding is not to connect two persons each other it has spiritual contacts with man and woman. Jews wedding shows here so much spiritual energy acceptance that is important to others to learn how accept spirit by the wedding from the blessing. Thanks for sharing.

[@MrOnionterror]

@4.40- jewish Dumbledore!

[@Core4ever10]

I had trouble understanding a lot of what was said due to accent - Could you subtitle?

[@askaphilosopherable]

LOL @ Break dancing rabbi hhahahaha

[@tuktuk3142]

Nice it's interesting

[@tigereyes5]

Technically it describes both. The Jews are an ethnic religious group though not all Jews practice the religion and you can be a practicing Jew though not one by ethnicity.

[@DeepHauz13]

it's so much better to separate at weddings also. you focus on having fun and dancing...instead of the opposite sex and being self conscious and having this unnecessary intrigue and nonsense. people are just dancing and it's all good. :)

[@Toywithme200]

thanks!

[@busterbiloxi3833]

Avi, the ex-con.

[@TheEntertainmentsOnMe]

The bride Wow gorgeous 😘😘😘😘😘

[@hilltopviewer8204]

What if you already fart, it's too late! Not to mention a shart, well, thats a different story.he!he!

[@MarjorieNardini]

The groom seems ready to faint. And, of course the bride is a virgin. The couple hasn't been allowed to even breath the same air...

[@samkillersfan]

Why don't you just mind your own business? People should be free to live their own lives along as they don't harm anyone.

[@mrlozmoore]

exactly; but religion like this DOES harm.

[@oleanderpink4505]

Sweet couple I love them

[@flute4hire]

simcha dont mean wedding it means joy

[@smilereceive]

Reminds me of the time I lived in Israel as part of an extreme atheistic group and didn't contribute anything to the soceity around us. We were isolated and lived to a set of clear laws and doctrine, but used all the facilities and depended on the national health care and charity of others. I had to leave because I hated the country and the whole setup felt so hypocritical.

[@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534]

In israel you are a part of atheistic people yes religions are hypocrites

[@christinepeace]

That is want I was taught at the jewish hospital I worked at by the patients and rabbi, not to embarrass someone just because they don't know the rules. Cheers Christine

[@rachelweis3883]

What happened to all the videos.

[@KathrinPi]

@emencz I was taught that not embarrassing someone else goes over that one...

[@alexellisson5054]

But astrology is legit and not absurd at all, right?

[@IHVHandmind]

this jewish couple is sooooo cute ahahahaha lol

[@victoriamayo5774]

So interesting, I was catholic but I identified more with the Jews, my step father is Jewish.

[@3beepu]

they arent around much women until they are married. Werent you a bit nervous when you had your first girl?

[@bayreuth79]

I find it difficult to understand why the Jewish woman would say "he's made a bit of a mess of his life" when she must know that he's likely to see this at some point? And its just not respectful anyway.

[@rachelweis9201]

What is his brother’s first name

[@guiguox]

is combing-over a jewish rule as well?

[@amisraelchai100]

jews have a saying that if you ask a jew a question you will leave with 3 more

[@asktheanswer424]

in love with an Animal Rights Activist

[@miralubin646]

Same 😍

[@scarabee333]

That's what I thought, too. I also can't stop wondering if this is her real hair...

[@betzalel153]

excellent documentary! "Didn't care for the wedding, it was a queer ... he's made a bit of a mess of his life" On the second phrase the woman inadvertently violated Jewish law. We forgive her, Right? Its not something that needs do be said in the Jewish tradition.

[@shaunboden]

He finished up going to the nick for the conversion of illegal substances, there i said it and couldn't care less what you think,,ha.

[@majilyric]

i don't understand her when she was talking about the different ethnic backgrounds. that's sad that she couldn't enjoy herself because she couldn't get over the cultural difference. i'll give her the benefit of the doubt and say that maybe each ethnic group has a different tradition, and maybe it was hard for the people to come to an clear compromise at the wedding?

[@Cuseshorty87]

Well, they def. know how to party

[@KishorTwist]

Miss Simcha is not ugly in the face, at all!

[@DanielSickass]

This lock fellow has a big passion for age play,why was this not covered?

[@DeepHauz13]

he shoulda told him this wacky thing that before each Jew is born, his neshama (soul) is bound with the other part of the soul and then it is separated and put into this earth, for it to find its other half. this is called a "zivug"...or what's more commonly known as soulmate. but it's not exactly even a soulmate. it's more than that. it's the other piece of your soul. there's also levels. you can have 6 "basherets" ie possible mates and one true "zivug". so you may not even marry your zivug.

[@amisraelchai100]

no ignorent, she meant that she is unfamilar with their customs.

[@mohammadazami]

INDEED!!!