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[@carlastory9733]

I truly have lost my fur baby and loss is hard no matter what or who. Let your self grieve. You are Grieve. Pet are family!! I'm there.

[@ogresgillette]

please don't beat yourself up for grieving - everyone grieves differently and deserves to be validated for whatever feelings they're having. please allow yourself some grace! sending you peace, love and hugs from the East Coast

[@michellebridges2604]

Loosing a pet is very hard. It is a different grief than loosing a child. We adopted my son's dog which is helping my heart break. Let out the tears 😢❤️Big hugs to you ❤️

[@emmaedwards829]

I lost my first rescue dog Zen after 14yrs to inoperable cancer. He was two at the time of rescue and my children grew with him, he was a big part of our family and loved dearly. 17mths ago he was put to sleep. I have a little shrine for him and I grieve most days and miss him daily. I can’t smell him on his blanket anymore and it breaks my heart. I have given another rescue dog my heart and she is adorable and she helps me deal with my loss, we help each other. Grief of a pet or a human is very personal. There are no comparison; when a soul touches another a loss hurts; simples. Sending you love xx 🇬🇧

[@Ginabina76]

Love you girl! Grief has no time line. Love the "speed sketching"!! 💙💙💙

[@michellehorning2216]

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful fur baby. It is so hard. Our pets become family members and their passing is just as significant as the loss of any family member. Know that your grief is very valid and that time will help you work through to find a way to work with it. There is no time limits to grief and it is as individual to each person as any other feeling. It is hurtful when some people feel you should be "out of the grieving stage by now". I am still grieving the loss of my twin sons 31 years ago and it is very hurtful. Please give yourself whatever time and space you need to grieve your pet. Sending hugs and warm thoughts. 💕

[@carlastory9733]

I truly have lost my fur baby and loss is hard no matter what or who. Let your self grieve. You are Great!!

[@Raenelly7]

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog the end of 2019 and it hasn’t gotten any easier. I had a miscarriage (my only pregnancy) many years ago and it is definitely comparable in my situation even the long term grief. I believe everyone experiences grief differently. Some of us truly connect to our pets and others don’t. I want to say it gets easier but just like most grief you learn to live alongside it. I can hear a snippet of a song and it will stop me in my tracks reminding me of my dog. Grief is a very strong feeling. You are not alone, xoxo❤️

[@judytrujillo1814]

Yes I understand your grief of losing Chloe. I lost my cat of 19 years I had no human babies but he was everything to me. Chloe was a big part of your life. I dedicated a wall with pictures of him. It helps seeing that whenever I feel down knowing I gave him a good life. You should try doing that putting pictures of her up. So sorry for your loss.

[@familyfirst4968]

Hugs from a cat lover. I lost my cat last year, he was part of our family for 19.5 years. We miss him deeply, our hearts were aching and still do. I was afraid to share with anyone…why? Well some of the comments are “ oh it’s just a cat … not the same as loosing a person” and the look that person would give me. I just avoided it.At the same time we lost him, we lost a family member. The pain and grief are deep, but on different levels, but the same in so many ways.He was there and present in our lives daily, he was part of our daily routine and family. It is coming up to a year, and we still have his blanket on his side of our sofa. Thinking of you and thank you for sharing ❤️

[@MFF901]

I totally agree it's fine to cry over a pet ,I have loss so many 😢 it does go away but it hurts so bad😔You got to grieve because they are family we take care of them and love ❤ them ! Don't feel bad at all my friend 💞My condolences to you and the family 🙏 Prayers Tfs blessings from Florida 🙏🌴🌴

[@Hasenkind1]

my cat billy died almost 6 years ago he was 19.5 years old i still miss him everyday and i´m still grieving and crying, sometimes i send you some hugs from germany

[@mamadebbeauty4118]

I just recently had my therapist say to me love comes in all variety’s our love is strong and sometimes unconditional but our love is different for the animals and people in our life. We don’t grieve or hurt any less in the beginning no matter if human or animal. As time passes some grief becomes easier and other grief may never go away. Give yourself grace and allow yourself to grieve, these are your feelings and your love and you don’t need to explain it or justify it to anyone. But allow yourself to grieve and surround yourself with the people who love you and understand and support you.

[@scottaznavourian3720]

I lost my cat almost 25 years ago. Had her for almost as long as you had chloe. I still feel sad when think about her. I don't feel guilty about or wrong about it. And I won't ever tell you your wrong even if you feel the same 25 years from now...people wil say 'oh it's just a pet' or 'its just an animal'...no...they are family. She was the equivalent of a human teenager when she died...she'd been with you for a third of your life..that's not crazy it's normal.

[@melissagreen1117]

Luv the new intro. I totally understand, I had a dog that passed when I was preggers with Kody and my mom didn't want to upset as I having issues. I so have wished over the years that I got to say goodbye. Letting it out sure does help. We all grieve in different ways and different times. You will get there when the time is right for you. Hang out n there❤️

[@tacoferrari]

I have not lost a child.. But I can say for sure that losing my chihuahua was the worst pain I’ve ever felt.. It’s been 5 years, and I still miss him terribly. 💔❤️‍🩹

[@shotdown1215]

You are not wrong for grieving your cat. I grieved my cat and hamster. I hope it gets a little easier for you and your family

[@carriebowlen3785]

I love you all so much! Thanks for sharing your lifes with me! Sorry I have missed some of your Vlog! Where are you Aimee! I miss you! Thanks for helping me BRAVINGtheWAVES with you! I understand totally.

[@mrsreeder03]

Chloe was your baby, you have every right to grieve her death. She was a huge part of your life. We lost our two cats last year. We had one since me and my husband were dating(19 yrs). We don't have any children,so our cats were our furbabies. The other cats died shortly after the other one, I think of a broken heart. My husband and I are still grieving the loss of our kitties. We have been recently talking about maybe adopting a dog soon. 💚

[@brewmastersteve]

I'm sorry Amie. I have lost pets and cry for months when I think about them. When you feel sad hug gator. I'm sure she misses her too.

[@pattieholt3382]

I understand completely how you are feeling I’ve lost several pets and it is difficult!

[@jenniferjohansson5585]

Huggs from a cat lover who has lost a cat.

[@DoctorPhobos]

My condolences for your losses. I'm dealing with my own recent losses, but I can't say if I'm dealing with it the best of ways.

[@charlottewaters1032]

This is a wonderful vlog straight from your heart. thank you for sharing it. There are so many forms of grief that cut to our soul and I don't think any of us understand fully every grief until we pass through that one ourself. I have and still am grieving the loss of my sweet boots, mittens and Jasmine.. I am still grieving the loss of my sweet grandson Beckett. Every day I feel his loss. I am also grieving the loss/death of spouses/parents and dear friends and the dreams that went with them of having a forever life together. No matter what form of loss or grief we have or experienced or are experiencing.... all of them deal with the loss of or change of hopes and dreams we have planned with that person or pet. We build our lives on certain dreams we have and plans that we have made for our lives and when those people or pets or partners leave us Those plans and dreams are shattered. To those of us whose life has just been shattered due to death or loss, we look out the window and think that everyone's life in the world should stop because The pain for us is that earth shattering. But everyone else's life is going on like normal and they and they move about in their normal fashion when our life seems to have stopped. Picking up those pieces andmoving forward and deciding how to move forward is no small task. sending you love on your journey of grief and hoping that each day can you bring some sort of joy for you and that you might strive like I do to find peace and joy in every day regardless of all of our heart aches from losing loved ones, relationships and even the loss of good health that we dreamed would last forever . sending love. ❤️

[@shellcshells2902]

My best friend, my yellow lab, died three years ago at the age of 13 ..I still horrifically miss him and cry often for him.

[@helenbirch5719]

Oh, Aimee, of course you're grieving Chloe, and of course it hits your heart, hard. It's hard to have to choose death for a pet, and wonder if you chose right. Also it renews grief for other losses. My mother died just before my sweetie and I lost a much-loved ferret, and I found that crying hard over losing our little Aurora helped me face and express my grief over losing Mom. (Just my experience, may not be true for others.) You loved Chloe, and you miss her. Of course you are grieving. You don't need to explain or feel that the depth of your sadness is somehow not right. I have never had a child. I have had and lost many pets. I have not and would not ever say to grieving parents that their loss is comparable to mine. But I do know what it is like to mourn a death. I also know that losing a child is inexpressively more, and different, from losing pets or even parents. It helps me empathize with others who grieve, without comparing the quality of the grief. The only thing to say is that this hurts, and I am so sorry.

[@vsgbeth1273]

You lost someone you love. Human or pet, it hurts. I’ve lost two babies and I’ve lost pets as well. For some people their pet can be the only family they have. Grief is grief. I think most people don’t compare it to the loss of a child, some who don’t know the loss might. It hurts.

[@55MissyLou]

My daughter had 3 cats who I grew to love so much. They were my Grand children. My husband said from the start no cats. I had to finds homes for each one. Everytime that someone took one home I felt the loss each home they went to. Though I am in contact with 2 of the owners but one indirectly with the other. I feel loss of not having a here. Yes they are alive but I feel a loss of them. I had to put my dog down last year and 5 years ago I had to again make the decision to put him down too. My heart goes out to you 💔 we never stop missing them...ever. I don't think anyone can compare their loss to anyone else's. We get so much love from our fur babies, unconditional love. We give so much of our lives and love to them that when they are not there it is so hard to carry on without them. They make a better us. I can tell you I miss all my fur babies. 🥺😢😔 I miss Chloe too..😢🥺

[@juliabullock853]

My dog dixie was put to sleep last year she had lung cancer 90% on one side 70% on the other side losing her was really rough hearing her struggling to breath i wanted so badly to hug her and tell her everything was going to be ok when i knew it wasn't hit me like a tone of bricks i miss her alot... i got a tattoo of her not long after she past.. our pets definitely make rough days a little easier i miss her greeting me at the door after a rough day at work i miss hearing her run up the hall way i miss the table shark at dinner time

[@jacquelinemoore7839]

Both my son and I grieved when Monty was put down. It was near Christmas and I knew he wasn't going to last till then. So i grabbed an ink pad and did a Christmas card to my son. But later I incorporated this paw print into a tattoo with filigree name d/o/b and d/o/d. So it hurts yes loosing a part of your family. Even though they don't talk English, they talk to you in there own way.

[@kyrachiriboga5156]

You have every right to what you’re feeling you lost both so you know it’s different you don’t need to explain that to anyone. I do get when you bring it up in comparison having that feeling of needing to explain that it’s not the same but it doesn’t make your grief and sadness any less valid, a loss is a loss. I lost my dog in October of 2019, had him for nearly 15 years and I miss him every single day, can’t seem to remove his photo as my Lock Screen background even though we got another furry companion since. In the past few years I went through many losses of pets (6) as well as my mother-in-law, who was actually a second mom to me. My heart feels so hurt of all these losses, the loss of my second mom was in 2020 and I still don’t feel I’ve grieved her as much as I need to, not that there’s any certain amount of grief that will go away, its always there. Let yourself grieve nobody knows what anyone has gone through, pain is pain, it doesn’t choose when we hurt it just hurts

[@Hotmess1992]

i lost my female hedgehog called willow march 2021 4 days after her 4th birthday , then i lost my male hedgehog called otis september 2021 he was 3 xx soo hard losing our babies it really is

[@carolthalmann4568]

Aimee, here's what I believe - your feelings are valid because YOU'RE the one who's feeling them. And I understand needing to be validated; it helps us, well me anyway, not feel wrong for what's happening. I'm sorry you lost your sweet Chloe; that sounds like it was really hard for you. 🤍