A Mile in Her Shoes: Changing perspective on domestic violence | Ryan Calvert | TEDxFrisco

[@alanareynolds]

Mr Calvert. Thankyou so much. Everything you said validates my trauma, and shows the general public that victim blaming is a massive contribution towards us being more traumatised and isolated. This speech answers all of thier ill informed and misguided questions. Your speech has validated me.

[@Emzotic]

From a survivor of domestic violence, Thank You.

[@xiaomenghu88311]

Hi, I am a victim of domestic abuse. I never considered myself a woman who would ever accept a man who beat me. I'm well educated, have a good job and my own home. I don't have a rich family. Everything I have, I worked for it. The most painful experience is reconciling a man who had been great as a boyfriend, ever so gentle and loving, with the man repeatedly beat me. There's only one thing to say, please don't blame me. I thought I was a strong woman who could save this deeply troubled man. All I've ever done was love a person.

[@kattykat9600]

I'm right there with you! ♥ I was always a very strong independent woman and never in a million years thought i would find myself in a relationship like that. I was in mine for 5 years & i've been free for 8 and it still affects me to some extent. I hope you are free & safe.

[@mahmoudassran6503]

First of all , Any man who puts his hands on a woman is not a man ! You're not be blamed . Actually we have sympathy and respect for women who been through abuse and we are disgusted by such behavior and we condemn it ! And by "we" i mean real men. Thanks for sharing , You are so brave and hopefully you're in a better place and shape rn . Stay safe.

[@karmagirl1614]

They pursue intelligent successful women and you are still strong, I’ve been through some things in my life but nothing tougher than divorcing an abusive narcissist, they send you to the very edges of your mind, on purpose stay being super strong X

[@cheerios4canaries]

Are you still involved with your abuser? As someone who ran away from my abusive ex he will ruin your life the longer you stay...

[@AdepuharithaR]

Resonates

[@MelIssa-pu6cn]

Sir, my gratitude is immeasurable. Thank you. I will never look at a prosecutor the same. Your honesty and experience make this such a powerful tool to get the message out. Almost out. Fingers crossed.

[@rachaelsmith7646]

I cannot thank you enough for this powerful speech. As a victim of domestic violence for many years, I am just now using my voice. I am breaking the cycle of abuse and hoping to end generational trauma. Silence perpetuates the violence. Staying silent only continues to give power to the abuser. I am no longer just a victim. I am a survivor and I have a voice.

[@beckypetrey8022]

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and accepting responsibility for your mistreatment of the victim. Thank you for shedding light on the victim's life and how difficult and dangerous it is to leave. I appreciated the shark analogy. From a victim to a survivor to an advocate, I thank you!

[@beckypetrey8022]

What happened to the woman whose husband you set free?

[@caseyviccellio645]

This was exactly what I needed to hear as a survivor. My abuser is now in jail- for abusing others- but the DAs always let him go with my case. Because I didn't leave. I finally did. With no help. Or support. But it cost me and my children a lot.

[@narellesmith4242]

Thank you for shining a light on this issue, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in your honesty

[@jenniferboeglin3250]

The shark analogy is amazing. It’s also why as a survivor I have extreme PTSD when my ex and co-parent goes silent... the enemy you know is better than the enemy you don’t right? In reality, that shark fin is just as dangerous until you completely escape it, and it’s as unpredictable as the fin you can’t see... 😔

[@truthwins4358]

Absolutely.

[@marksavoia3687]

@@truthwins4358 The rule of law operates on integrity. Within any environment where rule of law exists, individuals who have no integrity will destroy themselves.

[@EmilyKnight413]

I would have also dropped charges because I was afraid of my ex husbands family. Thankfully the prosecutor and judge both called me and said “you will be dead in 10 days if you don’t let us prosecute. We have pictures of his thumb prints on your neck.” I still live in fear because he didn’t do much time and the system must change.

[@jocelynnowen3078]

Yep. I heard something similar from DV advocates in my state. Took a while but life is happier.😀

[@mahmoudassran6503]

This should be taught at school !! Kids should be educated in a very young age about domestic violence that its wrong and should never be tolerated.

[@BobbiFreedman-e3j]

I don’t call 912 anymore. They have done nothing the last two times I called about the stranglings.

[@melissagodlewski]

You should read the book "Why does he do that?" about abusers and their allies.

[@kathymisuraca5047]

Because he can. I don't care why. I care about the remedy

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

@@kathymisuraca5047 read the book instead of making reactionary comments

[@christinewarren9660]

​@ASMRyouVEGANyet That is what the book says. "Because he can" it also says "their intent doesn't matter" so people don't try to explain it away. When you remove the "reaons" abusers have (because there is no excuse) then you are advocating for the right side.

[@kaylisa2655]

@@melissagodlewski thank you, I will find it if I can on Amazon

[@LeighCommean]

This book details the WHY we all need. Still read it often

[@sweetlipsAsmr]

Thank you. From the bottom of my heart

[@ashleytaylor-smith8093]

An important message. Thank you. I am a survivor of 9 years of domestic abuse, the judicial system failed my daughter and i. Mt abuser was given visitation rights to our daughter… i left my 2 day trail feeling ashamed and betrayed by a system I believed would protect me … if i ever found the courage to leave. I am a survivor! But i still carry shame and frustration that the courts made HIM right. He told me many times while standing over my body…. You wont ever leave me and no one will ever help you…. You will lose.

[@truthwins4358]

A powerful speech, changed the perspective completely. Thank you.

[@jocelynnowen3078]

That was awesome!!! It took a lot of courage to do that. I freeze up all the time telling people about why I left my ex. Took about 2 years before I wasn’t groveling around men for a protective father figure. People did not believe my story but now they do but it takes a long time knowing them for me to not feel as though I’ll be scorned and isolated from normal friendship. This helped me to tell my story again and encourage others about the me too truth of life. There are solutions we can create together

[@jodibenjamin1272]

I love the title, "A mile in her shoes," because sometimes dv victims are told to walk in the shoes of the offender to understand him/ her better. No. The offender should learn to walk in the dv victim's shoes. Better yet, if children were taught empathy from a young age, perhaps domestic violence would occur less and be much less tolerated.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

It should be “A mile in their shoes” because DV isn’t just a woman’s problem.

[@tempertempernow]

This man really impressed me, he nailed it.

[@etishbite456]

Never underestimate learned behavior.

[@RebirthofMe]

After my husband attacked me to the degree my children physically intervened, I made the decision to leave. He violated the Final Restraining order 5 times. He's been in jail since July and set to get out at the end of this month and I'm terrified because I don't know where his head is. A stalking order and final restraining order are in place but I feel like it's just another piece of paper to him

[@jocelynnowen3078]

I really don’t like to use Bible quotes but in this case I will because my energy is a cloak of invisibility. Weird huh? I went through this move, hide, court order that only seems to encourage them, nightmare, too. Finally I just hung out with edgy people. Not the 9-5 ers. The artsy music types and remembered only one thing when the fear kicked in.”I am with you.” Jesus Christ. One day in a parking lot my abuser was 10 feet from me. Looked right at me. I froze in fear. He didn’t see me!! Why? Because fear is like a homing beacon for the unholy monster but courage is like being cradled to safety by a nuclear sub😀believe in yourself. Be careful of course

[@Amani9800]

You really know how we have or continue to live and why we don' t "just leave" . Thank You

[@mariamunozpiz6070]

Abusive relationships are like spiderwebs and almost impossible to break free from but it’s possible and in my personal life it was through the power of God alone. And before we get started be careful for most churches are part of the problem but God is God alone and He sets free through His Son Jesus Christ.

[@blancarosasmusica]

I knew someone that he would hit her, and she had no money, no where to go, she had two kids, poor thing had no family no body that cared about her well being, that guy told her if she leaves she losing everything. it's easier said than done, it's hard to leave if she is all alone.

[@mommaof6]

How did you help her?

[@AllegedlyMaybe]

Im in that right now

[@Karma-zx8qe]

Find a way. There are resources out there especially for your kids sake, you'll damage them worse

[@brandinicole7411]

I understand the anger, it’s so hard to understand the victims perspective. My good friend refused to testify after her abuser almost killed her. When he got out of prison they resumed their relationship without any of us knowing. He killed her. Her child is now motherless, her parents had to bury her, her family has lost her and suffered a horrific tragedy. I don’t blame her, I am just heartbroken that she is gone. The pain is unimaginable.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

My friend's two nieces were shot and killed two weeks ago by one of their boyfriend. They got into an argument and he shot his girlfriend (one of her nieces). Then her sister (the other niece) came to check on her and the boyfriend shot and killed her too.

[@amylechelt5011]

Thank you for this Tedx talk and it’s accuracy. I would love to partner with you in creating continued awareness, as a Survivor myself.

[@StudentTBrown]

As a victim of domestic violence, I have to thank you for sharing the reality and perspective for many women victims. It is true that I appear unintelligent and irrational to friends/family/the judicial system/ and police. However, as a student working to gain my M.D. in two more years, the stakes are incredibly high. I must choose between being in an apartment and environment that is provided by my abuser or be homeless. Both options are less than ideal as a student working in labs, research, and even giving speeches for my school. However, it is also true that my leaving would cause me to have a greater potential of poverty, homelessness, uncertainty, and fear. Furthermore, my abuser is like a shark spinning in the water - as long as I can see him, I feel like I have some sort of safety and control for the others that I do not want to be hurt. The call to action is valid in that society needs to make domestic violence our business. Using your sociological imagination, place yourself in the lens/perspective of the victim rather than judging the victim is critical. Instead of asking questions like "why don't you just leave?" ask more questions like "what can be done to help you leave this situation?" Great Ted Talk, Prosecutor Calvert.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

We need to help male victims too

[@nicolecourtney8688]

Location location location applies not only to real estate but to perspective as well. Everything looks great from your front porch but you cant see in someone elses home or heart from over their on that higher ground. Put yourself in their shoes and you'll likely find answers you didn't realise you had questions for.

[@aradhya5323]

this was such an amazing speech. Definitely gave me a new perspective. Much appreciated.

[@angelawendling3719]

Coercive control. Needs to be illegal and a crime

[@InfantryWife85]

It is in the UK and I think a few other countries in Europe. They've added it under the umbrella of domestic violence. Dearly wish the states would pick up on that.

[@OneSparrow-76]

Amen!

[@Light-jc3fj]

This man needs to be on the world stage. The system is so broken and we lose so many women every day worldwide. Sir, please come to Australia to speak...our police are truly TERRIBLE. Misogyny in the police is so bad, it nearly ended my life.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

Men deal with this too!

[@LaReinaDeMuerte444]

I had a Near Death Experience on Feb. 16th 2020 from being punched repeatedly in my head and left eye from my boyfriend cornered in the passenger seat.He who had became extremley violent, controlled everything, II couldnt work,drive or leave. I felt held at my will at times. The humiliation, shock and fear of what he will do to you if he thinks you want him in prison is paralyzing. I would have been another missing person. I remember telling the Ctreator it wasnt my time, surrounded in light with my father who committed suicide in 2008. God is real, have no fear. Your voice matters. Say something.

[@jocelynnowen3078]

Awesome. As physics would conclude you created a blinding light ❤ me too😀

[@tentrix8505]

God, the way they say "Why is he hitting her?" at 10:31 hits me so hard

[@DishonoredGOD]

This guy makes some good points, but what kind of prosecutor gives a man probation for setting someone on fire? Even if it was her fault (which it wasn't) there are people sent to jail for minor drug offenses. C'mon man!

[@SafeSpaceInc]

From a survivor of domestic violence. Thank you.

[@mymoenadaniels2495]

Inspirational - great presentation that will no doubt change lives..

[@kaylisa2655]

It’s been almost 3 yrs and the case just ended. I have a 10 yr restraining order and he doesn’t follow it! He will kill me

[@Tony94188]

How do we start campaign 'International Leave An Abusive Relationship Day'?

[@mommaof6]

I love it!

[@ChildrensRightsFirst947]

I love it, too, but a lot of victims don't realize their relationship is abusive.

[@Tony94188]

@@ChildrensRightsFirst947 very true. But an annual awareness drive might help them see the light

[@cassiemontgomery45]

I love this. How about April 12th? I already celebrate this day. It was the day I successfully got out of my abusive second marriage. April 12, 2017.

[@Tony94188]

@@cassiemontgomery45 I'll raise a glass to you on this date. I hope you've found someone nicer?

[@shubhamarora7196]

Thanks I m domestic violence victom also I m son of my mother who abused by my father I know how it feels every word of it

[@bb5579]

My Mom stayed, he killed her when I was 12, then I was his victim. But he had 2 personalities and nobody believed me. I hated my mom for a while, why? She was scared to death he would kill me! She gave her life for me. Her family knew, they didn’t help me or her. They left me w a monster. You don’t know what you don’t know Thank you for this! I hope it is different today.

[@carolinewolf565]

Thanks for informing others❤

[@phaunz2284]

Just got done watching a movie about abuse called Let Him Go. I believe we put to much on material things when leaving an abuser. We talk about money, homes the kids. Just leave and stand up for yourself. As a prosecutor I would have followed the evidence and pushed for the maximum.

[@he-mememan359]

"I believe we put to much on material things when leaving an abuser. We talk about money, homes the kids. Just leave and stand up for yourself" Selfish creatures.

[@caseymead8368]

I tried to leave and he pulled me into the house by my hair in front of my kids. He said you’re not leaving! I shut my mouth because it’s shame. We blame ourselves. Fear. We are afraid it will be used against us later. It’s hard when so controlled but you can be ok it comply. However, if you don’t? You will pay that price until you do.

[@BurntPopcorns]

Shark fin is the best analogy

[@bizzybee3762]

So many BIPP -batterers programs-blame the victim, try to convince the victims they are causing the abuse. I had one counselor that told me that there was no such thing as victims but two abusers.

[@SudarshanDee]

I am so sorry you had this happen to you. How awful.

[@py528]

You're only a victim if you allow abuse to continue after he/ she hits you the first time dear. When ppl stop tolerating abuse IMMEDIATELY AND LEAVE, THE PATTERN CANNOT CONTINUE. Period. Don't be a statistic... be a survivor.

[@gailboerwinkle9315]

Excellent talk..

[@kaylisa2655]

I was strangled unconscious. On Valentine’s Day morning my x fiancé tortured me for 71/2 hrs.

[@rosemadder5547]

This is perfect 💜

[@kaylisa2655]

Victims don’t get justice

[@lizlong8891]

Well said 👍

[@kaylisa2655]

The system let me down and I cooperated with the DA.

[@eugeneallison7457]

So did he get time what was his sentence and how long ago was this

[@kaylisa2655]

He stood up and admitted to everything he did. He told the judge that he was guilty and everything I said he did he did. So, it was plea bargain time and my DA lied to me. The case went on for 2 yrs. I will never be in another relationship again.

[@leahgary1107]

This is a very informative video.

[@UnderAttack-x1s]

I'm a domestic violence Survivor. Unfortunately mine had government jobs with clearances, friends in high places, etc. My abuse didn't stop when I left. I'm trying to pick up the pieces and I am attacked still a lot.

[@UnderAttack-x1s]

I was criticized for leaving and blamed. Changed my life, destroyed my career....I don't know if I'll ever be ok and the abuser us out of the picture.

[@SafetyMentalst]

Laws protect us from one another I'd rather have laws than the other When the other causes us to suffer Law is a buffer from a cruel lover Hiding I cry as he beat up Mother

[@kaylisa2655]

The abuse was so bad I wish he would have killed me, he took me away! I can’t find myself now and San Diego County let me down. I was my own advocate! I had no advocacy!

[@taranuzum8428]

I hope things are better for you now. I worry about all the commenters saying things like this. I’m so sorry things aren’t set up better for the ppl needing them!!

[@KKk-g3n]

In my NY town... domestic violence is accepted by law enforcement Everything this man says is true

[@DCornwell-d2t]

So backwards

[@kaylisa2655]

I just looked at the date when this was recorded and it was recorded 4 days before I was tortured by my x fiancé 2020

[@briannaherron7217]

thank you

[@skinnyway]

when men police men... will that ever happen again the way it was originally designed?

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

Lol and female abusers are straight up ignored

[@MorenaMarie]

I didn’t leave because they said they’d kill me and my daughter’s father I felt without options it’s true….

[@kaylisa2655]

The system needs to change

[@kathymisuraca5047]

Participate in my own destruction? I WOULD rather die.

[@Zarih67]

As a survivor, some of the responsibility lays on the victim. She or he has a choice. They choose to stay. They choose to sacrifice their children. Is it the victim’s fault cause she or he is abused? No. Definitely not. However, they chose to stay. Staying is easier. I will never forgive my mom for staying and letting me be abused. Children don't have a choice. Adults do. They threaten you, control you, hit you. LEAVE!

[@kingkris9867]

Every word is true

[@Werewolf0216]

Well, it is tricky...because to some extent she may be brainwashed and other psychological factors going on that keep her staying (besides possibly having financial limitations or children involved)...but on the other hand, she needs to take responsibility...because if she doesn't, who else can? Often the abused is hurting people who care about her who are ready to help her...they do reach out and help when she does leave...often generously if she leaves with practically nothing...but then she goes back...and the ones who care about her go through all kinds of turmoil worrying about her. When police/the legal system gets involved, they may send the abuser to a series of classes (which seldom help him truly change)...but they never send the abused to classes to help her understand why she stays or defends him...we do need to ask, "what is wrong with her" besides "what is wrong with him". Because honestly he isn't going to stop...you can't help him...so all you can do is help her to get away and stay away...she may have a chance.

[@melissagodlewski]

An example would be to go to a therapist that he pays for. Specifically to screw with her head.

[@chanabayla1823]

The answer to that first question is u dont put yourself in that position to begin with, u carry yourself w/confidence and u learn a martial art like krav maga. Then he will never do it again cuz chances r hed be dead. Yep, noone f-ks w/me-no one. Its called self worth

[@AdityaKashyap-mg5cw]

And what about male victims of DV?

[@DCornwell-d2t]

Stay tuned

[@AdityaKashyap-mg5cw]

@@DCornwell-d2t for what

[@shobhagudi3695]

Can i use this video

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

Think of how many in that audience are victims and who are perpetrators

[@acvr8974]

Many abused woman have no one to help and no where to go. And other people do not want to get involved. So they have no option but to stay in the situaion....

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

Abused men too

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

My friend's two nieces were shot and killed two weeks ago by one of their boyfriend. They got into an argument and he shot his girlfriend (one of her nieces). Then her sister (the other niece) came to check on her and the boyfriend shot and killed her too

[@kaylisa2655]

I’m trying to find a shelter now and they are over packed can’t get into one!

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

Tells you a lot about why women need to just avoid relationships with men. It literally puts women at risk.

[@DarkerSideOfDawn]

I suspect Will Smith is a battered husband .

[@missytsjourney9652]

I created a KZbin channel to discuss domestic violence issues. I am a survivor and I want to let people know they are not alone.

[@SudarshanDee]

Please post your link here. I am a dv survivor.

[@kaylisa2655]

Then change the system!

[@samanthahughes6669]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@kaylisa2655]

That sucks

[@eric.mahoney6158]

Apparently men feel tougher in gangs and women are I them too. They feel tough.

[@HoseaMatavao]

👍👍👍

[@theresak288]

HELP

[@anovosedlik]

Instead of sending these men to prison, they need to send them to rehab. They need mental rehab. Those 8 week programs aren't good enough. I know my boyfriend needs serious mental health help and anger help in an intensive, in-patient environment. And he does love me, as I do him, so forcing no contact between us is awful. It's a broken system.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

These women too

[@eugeneallison7457]

Bull 💩 these people CANNOT BE REHABILITATED

[@EricCampbellUAV]

how can you talk to a general audience about domestic violence? preaching to the choir

[@SafeSpaceInc]

From a survivor of

[@EricCampbellUAV]

so what do you want me to do about domestic violence?

[@EricCampbellUAV]

i can’t step into or judge somebody else’s relationship

[@lauralaplace9945]

Jesus knows everything . Let Go Let God

[@gdes008]

I personally think that the topic of domestic violence is an extremely complex issue with interwoven and nested factors. The act of domestic violence itself is wrong. But its not that simple. Much like most other crimes. There various legal, societal, educational and economic factors that needs to change in order to mitigate this. While I agree with addressing "why he hit her", and "how can we stop him from hitting her", the question of "how can we help HER" skews the issue solely towards the fire and not the oily rag(legal, societal, educational and economic factors). which drags us back to the antiquated blanket belief (and the legal attitudes that follow) that men are too tough for anything women can do to hurt them. I refuse to buy in to this and be biased towards the intent of this video. I have stopped violence only for the probability of protecting an innocent victim, but never acted like one of those "I dont care what she did, theres no excuse to ever ever hit a woman" people and straight away turn around and start bashing the male, because anyone who does that clearly dont see women as human beings with human qualities (half of which are malicious). I will however assert that regardless of how we chop and change laws, human nature will always create collateral damage out of innocent victims whether it be women or men.

[@gdes008]

@Meade Vlog channel Because society still ties men's identity to being tough to handle anything women can do to them. This lense is held and sold and when that fails, enforced by the alpha males and alpha male wanna bes....cant judge them for steering society in the direction that benefits them, but doesn't mean the average male has to sit there n absorb the outcome of their intentions. Which is why I'm a firm believer of MGTOW principles.

[@xiaomenghu88311]

Hi, I'm a victim of domestic abuse. I've been lingering since it's only been five days since I went to the hospital and the only thing that heals me is repeatedly educate myself on domestic violence, by watching videos like this and other victims. And I will tell you, I agree with you. There's no reason to put your hands on anyone, regardless of gender. I've never put my hands on my boyfriend, other than very jokingly lightly slapping his muscular arm or him teaching me how to punch and letting me punch his biceps. I'm not saying that men should hit back. What I'm trying to say is that I believe in zero tolerance and being a woman doesn't make it ok. But I will say that, there are a lot of women like me who gets beaten regardless. Because domestic violence isn't an rational act. It is is act of control.

[@PutinsMommyNeverHuggedHim]

@Ryan Calvert I can’t believe you gave that guy probation who practically burned a woman alive. Also now we as a society are in danger from that psycho running loose out here

[@biglove456]

Good talk, but you can only help someone who wants to be helped. It's a mental issue that no one wants to talk about due to the fact it comes off as victim blaming. It's called accountability sometimes too. People get fired from jobs all the time and have to start over, so that's not an excuse in my opinion. Titles don't change anything in my opinion, either. Mother, wife, husband, brother, uncle, friend, etc. You're still a person to me, and if you do something that I do not agree with or I see it brings harm to me, I'm taking the necessary steps to remove you from my life. I'm a petty, vindictive person, so I'd be the wife that gets beat and then pretends everything is ok, until that one night where you think everything is ok too and then I beat you over the head with a sock full of batteries. But I do wish men stopped putting their hands on women. It's completely uncalled for.

[@kitkat3155]

I don’t think the wife is ever pretending everything is ok, she knows full well that it is not okay. But she will often stay because of fear for herself and her loved ones. It’s often not just physical abuse, it’s also mental torture.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

And women need to stop putting their hands on men.

[@eugeneallison7457]

​@@VaporwaveLover2000 more men put hands on men than women putting hands on men

[@Karma-zx8qe]

Something wrong with both of them

[@chanabayla1823]

The nanosecond youre disrespected no matter how physical or not u leave. No second chance period. No matter who does it or when. Unless youre a doormat and I'm female btw.

[@MpumiM-1]

Shouldnt the title be "a mile in the victims shoes"? This "tedtalk" makes victim synonymous with her/womanwand has painted women as the universal victim and men as the universal perpetrator. How can this be "a perspective on domestic violence" when your very words and narrative excludes abt 40% of victims of domestic violence? How is 60/40 vast and given with the lack of reporting for men those numbers could easily change. This video is just disappointing

[@Alphacentauri819]

Also...you apparently didn’t even watch (or listen) to him. 6:44 time stamp A prosecutor with this much experience knows.

[@claremolony6050]

He said that because majority of women are victims if domestic violence then he will generalised that this is about women who have encountered domestic violence.

[@VaporwaveLover2000]

@@claremolony6050 Actually, the stats for violence against men is pretty high. Also, why does it matter who deals with it more? It’s not a gendered issue.

[@carolinewolf565]

I often worry for others, instead of myself, no matter what! My brother is a Fire Chief, my family comes from a Military background . I work for an education institution who has been made aware! I have had numerous court cases throughout my life! I have a had a previous Order of Protection violated! I have trusted in the system that has failed me multiple times! God bless those who understand,don’t judge and eradicate those who harm other women! My hope is to help other victims and children once I become well myself ❤. Much love🫶🙌🏻✌️

[@staceywooddell3181]

😒ik ALL 2 well mYself😔