I have a daughter who is a counter-phobic 6 and a DIL who is a phobic 6. My relationships with them are so different. My DIL checks on me regularly, includes me and all things I enjoy as a type 2. My daughter is generous with money and is here if I need her, but I have to beg for time with her unless it is a holiday or a visit with other family involved. Such different presentations! It is really helpful to hear Adam talk about being aware of anger but not fear. My daughter is in the corporate world and I am sure she comes across as an 8. My DIL is in the therapy world and autism is her expertise so she is very nurturing. So hard to see they both fall into the same Enneagram type.