His reasonings actually made sense. This judge just showed her bias for sure
@rhonda57805 ай бұрын
No they don't. He could have that Sunday he likes every other week. It is better in Friday all the way around.
@aquanettte1324 ай бұрын
Judge showed her bias with the too late evidence too
@lostineggsaisle5 ай бұрын
I don't understand why judges even set rules if they're not going to follow them. She has clearly stated that exhibits have to be in so long before the hearing and they weren't, but she got on to the lawyer objecting to the exhibits instead of sticking with her procedure. Yeah, in a case like this it might be petty to object to those exhibits, but procedure wasn't followed. If there's an objection then she should be held to the rules she has set in place.
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
@nealcassady-yn3bh yep, and mom is playing her like a fine tuned violin. Saw that right from the get go.
@bibichristoff99805 ай бұрын
The judge coyld have had them try each way and see what works but maybe it just prolongs the conflict.
@DemonsSister5 ай бұрын
I absolutely agree with you. Family law is so based on feelings. They need to be more stringent with rules of procedure.
@jenger54055 ай бұрын
Who tf trades kids on Friday BEFORE school? She's making me ill.
@jenger54055 ай бұрын
Offs! I can't take it. What state is this? This "testimony" from the "therapist" needs to be reviewed by the professional board that credentials her.
@RB4svideos5 ай бұрын
In this case, I honestly believe the mom just wants to realign her children’s schedule with that of her partner and her children to appease her partner. I also believe that dad is probably a bit rough, and probably not as sweet as he tried to come off to me. there is no doubt that he still holds animosity towards his ex-wife for her life choices. any time a spouse cheats on you It’s a lifetime of hurt regardless of how well you think you can handle.
@jacksyoutubechannel40455 ай бұрын
I think Mom's attorney's focus on Dad not agreeing with his wife leaving him to be with a woman was likely _significantly_ influenced by knowledge of the judge's litigation history. I will never understand why men whose wives leave to be with other women and women whose husbands leave to be with other men get so much less sympathy and latitude to be angry. If anything, I always feel worse for them -- at least if they leave for another opposite-sex partner, you probably wouldn't have the same feelings of being used and lied to since the moment you started dating.
@rhanBo5 ай бұрын
Agreed with both of you completely.
@valerie3625 ай бұрын
I agree! Mom and her partner decided they both wanted Friday to Friday. Once the partner got her way, she wasn't going to budge on it.
@paw-prints8394 ай бұрын
Being cheated on is hard enough to get over. I try to look at things from both sides. If a married man leaves his wife for another man, the wife would feel the same as this man feels about his wife leaving him for another woman.
@paw-prints8394 ай бұрын
I also think if the partners children are on a opposite week on week off it would give the moms to enjoy each set of children.
@kjarman77905 ай бұрын
I noticed way too many smirks on mom’s face. I think she’s been the 1 making things difficult & gaslighting dad at every opportunity.
@Spygal924 ай бұрын
Totally agree- it really shined through when she was questioning the attorney as to who he was talking to when her Ex asked him a question.., Also a few other times you could tell she got very annoyed when the attorney caught her answering questions that showed she is not very easy to work with…. And she is inconsistent
@marisagomez2814 ай бұрын
Agree she even said at beginning she was not reading from something when ex husband attorney asked n she said she was looking at card to remind her to be poised etc she had to pull the victim card a few times I’m a lesbian n he doesn’t like me wonder why it’s ok for her ex to pay for everything for her sons as she obviously just got a job she had said- he’s paying for private school n all these activities n therapy but it definitely was bash dad because he works late on Fridays to pay for it all my gosh if they were going to go by her friend the therapists advice ( they spoke prior to this hearing about this n only heard the moms side) why did they bother with all this testimony n why didn’t the therapist speak after the dads testimony notice the ex wife attorney said therapist only had limited time she wanted the therapist to not hear the ex husbands testimony pretty sneaky n obviously planned n not right I always love the selective texts too but who knows just my opinion/observation
@amber_Forever162 ай бұрын
@@marisagomez281wow, that's one long a$$ sentence 😂 when you don't use any punctuation at all, it makes it very difficult to read long comments!
@kryanthis20102 ай бұрын
Mom is the problem here ... and I saw the judge and therapist and knew the father had a .001% chance of being victorious.
@sydneysovern5 ай бұрын
Dad’s lawyer needs to learn that being condescending isn’t going to help his argument
@JayBizBrewCity5 ай бұрын
Absolutely - it made him look like an ass a dozen times
@rhonda57805 ай бұрын
Amen to that! He is so irritating. He has dominated the hearing. They just don't shut up!
@peggykeegan68265 ай бұрын
He seems a bit of an ass for sure
@NurseCDT4 ай бұрын
I am also guessing he has no children
@Disableddawn5 ай бұрын
I've decided all parents going through family court should be forced to watch episodes of Sesame Street, specifically ones focused on sharing.
@wendylovesdaisy63355 ай бұрын
Best idea ever 😂
@heatherking86895 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 mandatory 10 episodes and a test also....😂😂😂😂
@laureljenkins12085 ай бұрын
That is a ridiculous statement.
@heatherking86895 ай бұрын
@@laureljenkins1208 Your comment is a ridiculous thought that no one ask you for ....And it's ridiculous that you can't differentiate between a serious comment and a sarcastic comment.....
@ErraticKay5 ай бұрын
And after the sesame street videos, watch a few videos of their own behavior. Which of these things just doesn’t belong?
@adamefamily25945 ай бұрын
This judge already chose a side before this case began! A blind man can see that! She should not be able to be a judge if she going to be biased!
@lesare650927 күн бұрын
Judge was busy with obviously a different case or something, she maybe looked up at any of them like 6 times. Yep she obviously was against Dad, she made her mind up, didn’t matter what Dad said. 😡
@teresashelton88195 ай бұрын
Geez at the end of 2 hours and 49 minutes I'm still sitting here thinking WTF is the big deal????
@paw-prints8394 ай бұрын
Mom (imo) is trying to gaslight dad into doing what she and her partner want. If the children are on opposite weeks with Mom's I don't see the problem. If both sets of kids are gone on the same week then it selfish of the Moms.
@bayoumanbryan5 ай бұрын
there is no good time for kids to be dragged from one house to another! there are only times that are not as bad as others.
@sydneysovern5 ай бұрын
amen to that
@AliciaLynn25 ай бұрын
I agree that this was an absolute waste of the courts time and I also might have the unpopular opinion on agreeing with dad. As a parent who did week on week off with a Sunday transfer from the time my daughter was 4-18 while she did school cheer, competitive cheer, and gymnastics our Fridays were always hectic and we wouldn’t get home from games especially if they were away until very late. Which would be the same scenario for their oldest son due to band, so then having to try to gather all the things they need for the next 7 days and then go to the “new” home just doesn’t make sense.
@mbro115 ай бұрын
i’m with you 100 percent. fridays are exhausting and not the right time for a change.
@southernladyish5 ай бұрын
Definitely agree with dad!
@tammywilkinson83113 ай бұрын
@@southernladyishme too!!
@lesare650928 күн бұрын
Fridays are the WORST day for any change like the Mom wants! So busy for active teen! Agree with Dad too!
@paloma888525 ай бұрын
This wife is a total control freak, her ex husband is not wrong, I hear it in her voice.
@knoxwallace96392 ай бұрын
Yes when she smirks she looks creepy
@Skincareslug5 ай бұрын
I thought I was gonna like this judge but so far she's very bias.
@tylertucker67764 ай бұрын
I agree and I don't like her and I can't even finish this cause I'm in such disbelief
@tammywilkinson83113 ай бұрын
💯!
@maryshannon44445 ай бұрын
Why would they want the kids dragging all kinds of stuff to school on a Friday, they can just transfer on Sunday. Talk about pathetic. What's the therapist needed for? Its about the day to spwap over ffs.
@karenblanck77265 ай бұрын
I’m only 48 minutes into this but her rationale for a Friday swap makes absolutely zero sense to me unless it’s 100% to align with her girlfriend. And I’m just getting to the cross and her attitude and demeanor just changed significantly. I’m finding it extremely difficult to believe her.
@MommaD955 ай бұрын
I completely agree... Wouldn't Sunday work better, like before whomever goes to church if that's the case or after lunch? If there's games that one child has to be there for band why does Fri makes sense?
@curtispalmer78665 ай бұрын
She comes off like she has the independence of a baby duck, of course it's what the girlfriend wants.
@shawncombest18615 ай бұрын
She actually contradicted herself saying she wanted it to happen so " they would have a full clean week" but wanted to do it at 3 on a Friday... that's part of the week being cut off the entire Friday is basically gone that way
@balla21725 ай бұрын
So they couldnt go to church on a friday dropoff? what if they wanted to go to sunday night church?@MommaD95
@rhanBo5 ай бұрын
Exactly. As someone who had to participate in schools sports on Friday, to try to do a transition after all of that would be at 11 PM and would make life so much worse.
@JulieW11W5 ай бұрын
Attempting to villanize the father after all she pulled is something special.
@melodyalleyn99895 ай бұрын
The arrogance of all parties is nauseating
@LadyK_TX5 ай бұрын
Especially the mother. 🤨
@kansascowgirl5 ай бұрын
It all seems like rich people problems 🙄 like who spends 3 hrs in court over something as ignorant as a pick up day. You have to have mire $ than God to really believe it's worth this.😢
@AndyRing-wo3ty4 ай бұрын
As a father of three children of my own, I think it's important how these boys spend their time with it is very important to sexuality and gender identity of the boys.
@ldegraaf3 ай бұрын
Exactly, listen to the kids and let them decide. Then if they don't like it listen to them and make changes. I don't think kids should drive the bus, but the transition day is hard for kids so let them guide the decision about this.
@heatherwilkins72285 ай бұрын
Peace and blessings to the children caught between patental disfunction.
@hihosilverlining5 ай бұрын
Couldn’t agree more.
@cattycorner83 ай бұрын
Amen. It's always the children who suffer the most in a divorce. Very sad.
@lesare650928 күн бұрын
🙏❤️ so agree. Will affect the children into adulthood & for life in their lives & dealing with parents.
@kristenpino46355 ай бұрын
This is about changing the day of transportation, period. Why in the hell is the judge allowing all of this information in that happened 7 years ago! Wow!
@lesare650928 күн бұрын
What’s this bs have to do with day of change? Think Judge thinks she is over custody case?? Pay attention Judge!! 😖
@karenb21495 ай бұрын
I’m exhausted from listening to this. Those poor kids. Ugh.
@katefox76925 ай бұрын
A lot of the comments disagree with mum re Fridays but it doesn’t matter because it’s what the kids want! This is so ridiculous, a 16yo should be able decide
@wileybunch20015 ай бұрын
But the 16yo didn't testify.
@aleahsimpson73735 ай бұрын
@@wileybunch2001 His therapist did. It also just makes sense, so I believe that is the truth. I mean even Dad admitted that his kid wanted Friday
@edwardmorris84655 ай бұрын
@@aleahsimpson7373but the therapist could just say what who's paying her also the school system says Sunday
@wileybunch20015 ай бұрын
@aleahsimpson7373 Having had stepkids that were in band with IMO it makes zero sense for Friday. She lost credibility for me when she said not a single client does Sunday exchanges. I just hope it all works out. The comments that they only have 2 years left with the older one are so very true.
@Spygal924 ай бұрын
@@aleahsimpson7373 Having been I. This situation/ ONLY the kids at this age should be speaking about what they want- which is why it’s a total sham having the therapist giving her opinion on schedule… plus not talking to husband …. This is wrong, sadly, this is how this custody courts work…. It’s a whole set of rules …
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
This judge is the worst. (I haven't finished watching yet, so it's not because I disagree with whatever ruling she ultimately makes) Why on earth is she allowing allll this testimony about the reasons for the divorce, and all this bashing of the other parent, etc. It's been established from the start that the ONLY issue is what day the exchanges should take place. Testimony should have been limited for all parties, including the counselor, to that question alone. This could have been settled in a half hour tops. I don't know if she just wanted to hear all the salacious gossip or what, but it was all very irrelevant. I have no respect for this judge for encouraging this.
@quinnvids5 ай бұрын
the answer is that a large portion of her career in law has been about destroying families
@Barraind.Faylestar5 ай бұрын
Shes the worst (or among the worst) for a lot more than that. Thanks Austinites!
@stephaniemcgarvey44695 ай бұрын
Agree 100% All this sharing of deeply personal info which is now viewable by the world, for one single issue of picking a day. None of this was necessary ESP the damn pics! It’s almost like the judge is being nosey and just wants to entertain herself with the drama!
@megmeyer75635 ай бұрын
The judge isn't even listening or paying attention.
@TheSillygirl644 ай бұрын
She has biases!
@nopenoway98755 ай бұрын
I think Thomas is going to have a breakdown based on the therapist’s description of him both mentally and physically. The therapist seems to be biased favouring the bitter 🐩 of a mom to the point that she’s not focusing on what Thomas might urgently need.
@dbizzle855 ай бұрын
Therapists ALWAYS favor the woman the entire system does
@rhanBo5 ай бұрын
I am so glad it was just me that saw all of this
@rhanBo5 ай бұрын
@@dbizzle85not just the system. Megan does, too.
@nopenoway98755 ай бұрын
@@rhanBo Exactly, I wasn’t even sure if I should say anything based on the comments during the video. I disagreed with almost everything she said, and couldn’t understand why she saw it so drastically different than me. Glad I’m not the only one. No offence intended😬
@aleahsimpson73735 ай бұрын
I agree that Thomas needs some help, but I don't understand how her opinion is making things harder on him. It sounds like Thomas wanted the Friday, which makes sense if you consider his schedule.
@user-cn8wu2ok5s5 ай бұрын
This is ridiculous!
@edwardranno71195 ай бұрын
💯
@thatswhatleighsaid5 ай бұрын
The privilege is unreal. Imagine having this amount of money to just blow on arguing over a day of the week.
@BuckCommander85 ай бұрын
Interesting that a therapist can say that Friday is unanimously the best day for exchanges for every family. So if a parent is out of town, just leave the kids there alone, because Friday is best. Also, just because the parents have different styles, doesn’t make one better than the other. Obviously kids will prefer the parent that doesn’t hold them accountable for anything. Something tells me the mom is paying the therapy bill and this therapist knows where her bread is buttered. Either way it seems insane to pay lawyers to settle this.
@Skincareslug5 ай бұрын
I'm sorry but the Mom is controlling as hell and really just wants her time to match with her partners. Let's just be honest.
@ritawenneshiemer31425 ай бұрын
I agree. It seems like she is more concerned about what is good for her partner. Her kids come first, not her partner.
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
Agree totally.
@Skincareslug5 ай бұрын
@@toddmurphy523 well the therapist didn't seem to credible to me. She seemed more of a person that "well paid" people use to sway court cases. The whole way she slanted her testimony and how she downplayed her clinical involvement really made me suspect of her and her motives. Especially knowing she is "out of network" and solely paid for by Mom.
@mickeyd82735 ай бұрын
@@Skincareslug that's ridiculous. no credible therapist would slant their testimony. the dad knew his kids were seeing her and he never objected to it. he let the mom handle it so she would pay. nothing could've stopped him from being more involved if that's what he wanted. he actually said she got to make that payment as if that was a benefit to her. i admire the way the therapist fought for the kids. i can't imagine how hard it was for her to say the kids were afraid of their father. this whole thing is ridiculous. unless i'm totally missing the point, what would the dad be possibly missing out on Fridays at 5pm? instead he'd rather cut the weekend short and stop all activity on Sunday at 5pm which makes no sense.
@missmike36935 ай бұрын
How is she the controlling one when she's the one who kept switching dates to try and compromise? Is everyone incapable of being objective anymore. 😒🙄
@shawncombest18615 ай бұрын
I feel crazy watching this. The mother's reasoning is, "We have a lot of stuff going on Friday, So it just makes more sense to add more stuff on " im...im i the crazy one?!??!
@ldegraaf3 ай бұрын
For me I want all the craziness to be on one day and not add craziness to a day that doesn't have anything. Also, all the craziness is outside of the house so the only thing that happens is they go to the other house at the end of the day. Most people who travel like the father, they don't travel on Sunday because they want to be able to rest and set up for the work week, the same consideration should be given to the kids. Sundays should be for ensuring that they are ready for the school week. All the families that I know who do week on week off started with Sunday because that is how judges set it up, but within months they realize that it isn't working for their kids and they switch it to a weekday, most of the time Friday or Monday.
@k.stacey73895 ай бұрын
The ONLY reason I could see Friday being a good choice would be if all four kids were really close (which I doubt), so they wouldn’t really have any weekends together with Sunday or Monday exchanges. But mom can’t even get that testimony straight. Supposedly they’re four different kids with four wildly different personalities, and the youngest are very similar. How does that work?
@jaykeith19095 ай бұрын
the older boy needs to reduce his Extracurricular Activities if it's true what Ms. Arnett said about him looking/being exhausted. taking on to much...
@jenny_b_5 ай бұрын
So much focus on Dad’s “tonality”, yet Mom’s demeanor is nasty, condescending, and downright rude.
@Delulutrain5 ай бұрын
Mom had to write herself a note to remind herself to behave and be professional while in court 🫠🙄
@darthnocturnis39415 ай бұрын
@@DelulutrainShe had to write herself a note to cover for the stack of notes she was reading from.
@tracyc50705 ай бұрын
She wrote herself a reminder on how to act and still couldn’t sit there and listen quietly- fidgeting, taking glasses off and on, smoothing hair, making faces. She is a mess 😬
@ann3164 ай бұрын
Exactly! She is a GENERAL and demands her way.
@ann3164 ай бұрын
@darthnocturnis3941 I agree, she is reading notes.
@nanders40895 ай бұрын
As a marching band parent, imo a Sunday swap is best. Those poor kids having to bring everything they need to school on a Friday morning for the next week has got to be so hard. Especially when they have a Friday night football have and then a Saturday competition. They need so much stuff. And the boy in sports will be just as hard when he's in high school. The therapist didn't seem to consider that.
@southernladyish5 ай бұрын
Agreed
@rhanBo5 ай бұрын
Exactly
@murderofcrows77385 ай бұрын
The therapist also seemed to think it was a Friday evening swap. I don’t think she had enough information for her opinion to be so certain.
@fancy_lette5 ай бұрын
The kid has his own car so he’s not carrying a suitcase or a French horn around with him all day.
@dustydo80483 ай бұрын
He has a car and license, I’m sure he will manage. I think the less time these two parents have contact the better for these kids. Using school as a buffer between them is a great move.
@Starcatt9665 ай бұрын
Are these people for real? How are supposedly mature adults this self-involved, without the slightest hint of embarrassment? This nonsense is the reason the courts are at a breaking point? Two highly educated, high level professionals, who have every kind of support available to them, are completely incapable of making even the most inconsequential decisions, in their children’s best interests, that they require the intervention of the entire, available, and very sparse resources that surround the court? Including a judge, lawyers, witnesses, court clerks, submission of evidence, and an immense amount of the very limited time the court has? And that’s just to start with! Im done with humans today. Until my brain stops exploding, I’ll be hiding in my blanket fort with my cat and a case of red wine. 🔥
@Claudia-up6hr5 ай бұрын
Any room for me under there? I prefer white so I'll bring my own 🍷. I'm a retired psychiatric social worker & you've expressed my thoughts exactly. The pretentiousness, narcissism, & attention-seeking at work here-particularly by the mother-is infuriating 🤬. For sure the children have been damaged by these parents. Over the years I saw so many tragedies I wish I could forget. If I'd been assigned to this duo I would have told them a few things about themselves they would not like to hear. At the end of the day, it's about the well-being of the children so I'd have seen it as my duty to speak up (even though the lawyers would have strenuously objected, no doubt, because the case was limited to choosing a date).
@Starcatt9665 ай бұрын
@@Claudia-up6hrcome on in! We can play a drinking game where every time any member of Team High Powered Lesbian Stepford Mom says “Friday drop off”, we take a swig! All pets welcome and encouraged!
@Claudia-up6hr5 ай бұрын
Lesbian Stepford Mom...😂 You're a funny person. Thanks for brightening my lonely life in a nursing home. We're not allowed pets-is it OK if I bring one of the cockroaches 🪳 this overpriced hellhole is infested with?@@Starcatt966
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
And that response is what you consider mature? You do realise alcohol is a direct cause of at least 25% of all common cancers?
@jh93745 ай бұрын
One of the most enjoyable and apt comments I’ve seen for a while. Thank you and my regards to Kitty!
@ritawenneshiemer31425 ай бұрын
What is with her? How many times do you adjust a schedule. Maybe the kids need to cut down on their activities so they can see their Dad. Nothing like divorcing your husband for a change in lifestyle. I'm confused on what she wants. Who comes first her partner or the kids. Always what fits for her partner. What does her partner have to do with it. Is it so her and her partner's kids can be there together? Did I miss something?
@aleahsimpson73735 ай бұрын
Or dad could cut down on his work schedule? Why should the children have to stop doing something they love for their parent. Parents should sacrifice for their kids not the other way around. Besides, him getting home a bit late on a Friday wouldn't stop him from going to his kids activities.
@hazelhadley-britt63965 ай бұрын
@aleahsimpson7373 yet he will have to pay child support and all the costs as per usual. Only now he will not be able to afford their lifestyle as much.
@quinnvids5 ай бұрын
“i ultimately am doing my best to make the kids a priority” well except when you destroyed your marriage and upended their lives at 6 and 9 years old.
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
I have never yet met a cheating spouse who will admit that.
@jessplays325 ай бұрын
Why do people keep saying you destroyed your marriage? When some one cheats obviously the marriage was dead or at least in major trouble. Someone had to do something to end it.
@mandygill97275 ай бұрын
@@jessplays32 You end a bad marriage with divorce; it's morally correct......cheating and slithering around like a snake IS NOT.
@laureljenkins12085 ай бұрын
Mother has a right to find love. Men leave marriages and children every day.
@shawncalderon49505 ай бұрын
Way too much weight is given to the therapist. This judge had no intention in listening to the case; she ruled against the father even before the proceeding started.
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
I guess he will probably just miss weeks with them due to his work schedule, and that will suit her just fine.
@Bob420005 ай бұрын
Most judges do😂 and females think they have a unfair life..ridiculous
@MDBredBeauty5 ай бұрын
U mean the professional? It's clear the father is being petty
@shawncalderon49505 ай бұрын
@@jillspence7227 good point!
@shawncalderon49505 ай бұрын
@@Bob42000 Too true. When our society repeatedly says, “You are a victim,” they eventually succumb.
@gailpatty17865 ай бұрын
This one is tiresome. Tiresome parents, tiresome judge too.
@GenX19685 ай бұрын
The mothers actions are very problematic. Watch her as the kids Therpist talks. Very weird 😬
@karlat78805 ай бұрын
54:25 she’s being a smarmy smart-mouth. Talking to the other lawyer like he’s a child and she’s reprimanding him. Then that smirk when she says “so can you repeat it?”. That says a lot about her character imo. No wonder she needs a card to remind her to be poised and professional!
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
She thinks everything she does is right, and the 'apologies' for the affair and subsequent family upheaval is all for show to the judge, no real apology because she is always right!
@mandygill97275 ай бұрын
❤
@twelch83675 ай бұрын
The only winners here are the lawyers and the counselors
@shawncombest18615 ай бұрын
I love that this woman says it was about her girl friend not the kids THEN her lawyer says "why is it about the kids not your girlfriend"... she already admitted it was about the girlfriend
@josimmonds12705 ай бұрын
I’m trying
@laureljenkins12085 ай бұрын
Dad's lawyer reversed his words. The therapist clearly expressed the words of the children..The 'tonality' BS was not bought by the Judge and those nasty text messges spoke volumes. He is a hater and he cannot move forward.
@ann3164 ай бұрын
. So he needs to just agree to what ever she wants?
@domado20115 ай бұрын
Mom wants the exchanges to be the same time so she and partner can both be child free at the same times, I didn't hear anything that convinced me Friday exchanges would be easier for the kids. If anything it sounded like Friday nights are the worst times for the kid in band. The therapist was so focused on trying to prove she was advocating for the kids and not their mom that I had trouble believing her. She seems to have had a lot of conversations with Mom and only one with Dad the entire time she's been seeing the kids. I was really on the fence until it came time to make the judgement and the judge said Mom withdrew the request for the judge to confer with the kids. I can't see how a sound judgement based on what is best for the teenage kids could be made without talking to the kids? But once I heard that Mom didn't want the judge to talk to the kids, I could tell she's pushing the Friday exchange for her own benefit.
@jupo99285 ай бұрын
So what? They have to manage shared custody and time. So what if she wants to match her partners schedule??
@TheSillygirl644 ай бұрын
Because the partner isn’t relevant to these children!
@tiffanyholman40285 ай бұрын
It's *amenable* not amendable. The word is amenable, without a d. Sorry, that is driving me crazy. 😂
@JordanEmede_3764 ай бұрын
Thank you
@michellehillman28895 ай бұрын
The dad needs a new attorney. The attorney also gives me an ick feeling. Don’t know what it is about him. I do believe the dad is still bitter that she cheated on him with a women. Most switch days are on sundays . I’m thinking her gf and and her are wanting 7 days of no kids.
@Sevenz075 ай бұрын
As a child of divorce, with a father who cheated and married his mistress, I believe they are both wrong. The fact that they can't hold an adult conversation regardless of who blames who, that in and of itself hurts the kids. What mom did has caused DEEP scars! I can make a pretty educated guess that her new wife is in her ear. As was my dad's wife. It's just my opinion.
@jemikabates90385 ай бұрын
Thank you!!! Seems if everyone is mad with mom cause she came out..
@KarenRosier5 ай бұрын
My ex moved his mistress in less than 2 weeks after I finally gave up & moved out. This was 28 years ago, he has been married & divorced 3 more times. That MF'er still blames me for leaving and shit talks me to my adult son. Jokes on the ex though. I've been married for 25 years to the same guy, while he has had a wild rotation of women.
@KarenRosier5 ай бұрын
Also, every time a new one moved in, we went back to court. Every. Single. Time.
@lindadane36555 ай бұрын
Well put. This was my thinking thru out this video. And how about that expert witness. I mean she was so busy framing mother's story / needs, that she dismissed client-doctor confidentiality. The young boys will not share certain information to her after this; nor should they. Also, in my opinion, much thought and effort was not given to the young boys when mother decided to leave father to co-habitat with another mother. That change did not effect the boys? Really? Oh, and no Dr., the young boys are not old enough to be home alone. This ain't "Leave It to Beaver."
@lindadane36555 ай бұрын
@@KarenRosier I know that could not have been easy for you, esp. emotionally. Glad you weathered the storm. Blessings
@sadamardis59945 ай бұрын
I think your overlaying thoughts are very biased. From the beginning you were negative towards the dad and ignored mom's obvious smugness throughout her testimony with his lawyer.
@irishwv35 ай бұрын
2:28:26 the moms smirky face rolling her eyes while dad was testifying tells me everything
@shawncalderon49505 ай бұрын
The ex-wife belches the bitterness that consumes all possibility of joy.
@GenX19685 ай бұрын
She’s got serious issues. I hope these poor boys can break away from all this. The ex wife’s therapist is very concerning. This is bad.
@shawncalderon49505 ай бұрын
@@GenX1968 yes, well said.
@cattycorner83 ай бұрын
Well said, @shawncalderon4950
@louiseporterbridges20405 ай бұрын
This is ridiculous. These parents should be ashamed. These kids have been forced to be wandering vagrants for their whole childhoods, first of all. At 16 and 14 they should be able to go to whichever house they prefer, pretty much any time. If they have to switch homes every week, JUST PICK A DAY. A WEEK IS A WEEK. Dad's lawyer, especially, does not seem to understand that every week has a Monday, every week has a Friday... This is ludicrous. I wish Judge Cranky Pants was hearing this. "You say Monday, you say Friday. Exchanges will be Wednesdays at 5 pm. That's all, good bye."
@phyllistaylor56345 ай бұрын
I love judge cranky pants! His lines are priceless! Do you want me to come micro mange your life? Make the kids brush their teeth! LOL, he would of lost his mind with this one!!
@louiseporterbridges20405 ай бұрын
@@phyllistaylor5634My favorite line of his is, "I'll make the order because the parties are... *ridiculous*... and can't get along."
@Starcatt9665 ай бұрын
This mom is giving the most serious, passive-aggressive, deeply emotionally nuanced performance of a lifetime, in the role of “quiet, long-suffering, gravely wounded mother who uncomplainingly sacrifices all for her family “. 😂
@karlat78805 ай бұрын
😂
@k8mcawesome5 ай бұрын
Yea I hope she watches this and realizes that talking slow and rudely is not doing her any favors
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
@@k8mcawesome Yeah, I don't think sniping at the ex's atty came across quite how it played in her head... 😂
@nanders40895 ай бұрын
I liked when the counselor said that it wasn't the kids that destroyed the family. Mom started crying. I hope she feels guilty.
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
And now she's wiping her eyes after the therapist testified. I'll say she's dedicated to her acting craft.
@mariannecoker58955 ай бұрын
Grandparents are always better then parents LOL
@PurpelDewdrop5 ай бұрын
After watching a while, I don’t believe the only thing the mom is reading is the note she showed.
@kwin21635 ай бұрын
Oohhhh my kitty is named Throckmorton! But she isn't as "catty" as mom.
@wileybunch20015 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@christineterry23815 ай бұрын
Our court system is pro mom, anti dad 99% of the time. I’m a 79 yr old great gramma and I think it’s inexcusable.
@southernladyish5 ай бұрын
Absolutely!! It’s shameful! They’re literally ruining these children’s lives!! It takes a lot for family courts to favor fathers.. it’s absolutely disgusting! They should be treated equally as parents without bias.
@paw-prints8394 ай бұрын
I think the courts need to be more flexible. Not all Dads are bad, and not all Mom's are good. I just wish parents really thought about the kids not themselves. I watch so many of these are more about money, possession of the children (child), and sticking it to the other parent. Kids get stuck in the middle. Poor kids.
@louiseporterbridges20405 ай бұрын
Imagine choosing to be angry, bitter, and hateful for seven years, instead of getting over it and having a happy life.
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
You need to learn a little critical thinking and look/listen beyond the attorneys' propaganda speeches AKA opening statements - especially in cases where the clients have deep pockets.
@southernladyish5 ай бұрын
@@Lucinda_Jackson what are you talking about? Lol It’s pretty obvious that mom doesn’t want to work with dad and she’s the one who seems angry and bitter.. while claiming dad is the angry and bitter one. Thinking critically, I would say this comment was spot on 🤷🏼♀️
@louiseporterbridges20405 ай бұрын
@@Lucinda_Jackson You're funny.
@edwardmorris84655 ай бұрын
Imagine being around a liar and cheater for the rest of your life because you have children together I'd be mad also I'd rather not have to deal with you at all
@suziek.20625 ай бұрын
Lmao, @ the comment about Darlene from Rosanne.. I used to be told that I looked like her also, especially when I died my hair darker.
@rhonda57805 ай бұрын
I can't stand his attorney. He wants to get the answer he wants and asks the same question 1000 different ways expecting a different answer. He is rigid, argumentative, and rude and doesn't get that Friday is better for the children. They're both bent and want Sunday regardless if it is harder for the children. I would hate to have either him or his attorney as a parent. It would be horrible.
@MummaMia54 ай бұрын
I totally agree. I can see why the kids are reluctant to speak with him. He’s a bully. We tend to do Friday after school swaps here in Australia, Queensland especially because it reduces parental contact and unnecessary conflict.
@wileybunch20015 ай бұрын
Mom also fought to the bloody death AGAINST Sunday to protect the volunteer stuff she does with the son. The same son that seems like he's going to break into a million pieces from being under so much pressure from how thin his time is stretched.
@GenX19685 ай бұрын
Lawyers love people like this! They make mad money over who is RIGHT! Sad but entertaining. What are these people going to do to get one over the other when both kids are over 18?! 😂
@mariannecoker58955 ай бұрын
The 16 year old is going to be gone in 2 years they need to get it together cause when he leaves for college then they’re going to argue over who he sees more when he comes home from college
@Peaches.5235 ай бұрын
Probably avoid coming home all together.
@jennief71145 ай бұрын
Oh, she showed her true colors. Sunday is the best day in my mind too. That said, she is really pissed, that he has different views, but she tries to paint him as the "evil" one.
@katking68205 ай бұрын
She decided to cheat lie and divorce . He asks questions ? Yeah that seems degrading. To him !
@libertywatcher12474 ай бұрын
Friday night is ridiculous in this instance. Sunday seems best because of the equipment, dad's schedule, etc. Seems to me that the mom wants to control everything. Why does this judge seem to be siding with the mother, and why should a therapist have any say in any of this.
@dougeldridge12195 ай бұрын
Guy hears his Son say he's afraid of him and he takes a drink of coffee.
@janetholmes23185 ай бұрын
Mum is very snippy. She’s quite rude.
@GenX19685 ай бұрын
And the therapist, don’t get me started. Don’t let your kids go to Arnett. She’s very strange.
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
What surprises me is the lack of thought and consideration by everyone - including the judge - given to GranBear. This choice to deliberately schedule the exchange at a time when Dad will often not be available puts the onus on GranBear to get to the schools and collect the kids and then to Mom's house to collect their stuff, feed them and get the kids to whatever activities they have, like band for the oldest. That's a lot to expect of someone who isn't a parent or present to agree to all of this...
@mickeyd82735 ай бұрын
the dad's lawyer was terrible. his cross examinations were painful and he scored no points.
@pearsrtasty33265 ай бұрын
I just wanted to add this comment real quick, probably won't mean much, but it means a lot to me. Seeing the therapists face, when she spoke about Turner...the smile on her face. She was so happy to speak about him. She must enjoy talking to him. I hope my therapist smiles when my name gets brought up...I always think she's thinking, awww shit not her, well here goes nothing. Edit: However, I am just noticing the mother now, listening to the therapist speak about her two sons. She is smiling up a storm and must adore those 2 guys. | It must really be hard being apart of a family like this. I do feel bad for those children though. I feel bad for any child having to deal with divorce.
@Kevinthesnail5 ай бұрын
You said the judge has stuck up for gay marriage… well… there ya go the mom is with a woman.
@craiggoldberg15395 ай бұрын
I bet she also agrees with straight marriage, what a non point.
@mindybunny5 ай бұрын
The mom was sickeningly smug and condescending the entire video. What a sad situation.
@girlracer2655 ай бұрын
Skylar is getting on my nerves
@tinawindham69585 ай бұрын
Ask the kids what they want. Done.
@SheaShea715 ай бұрын
The kids have said what they want. Dad said no
@mbro115 ай бұрын
this mom is insufferable
@user-do8ue9un9v4 ай бұрын
Sounds like Mom's want the same days off all weekend rather than being full time mom's
@andreabergenham87794 ай бұрын
Meg, I disagree about the expressions of the parents. Dad is being talked about negatively and Mom is happy that the therapist is talking glowingly about her and not about dad.
@teresashelton88195 ай бұрын
The dads attorney is a complete dbag! I hate when attorneys talk to their clients as if they're at a cafe😖
@Sparkyinbozo-xe9fn5 ай бұрын
He also just gives testimony/argument when he's supposed to be asking questions. Like he says, "I disagree with you, I think X," when asking Ms. Arnett questions. It comes across as quite unprofessional.
@kimt99785 ай бұрын
One of the most interesting cases I’ve watched regarding human nature -stubborn, spiteful, and ultimately how parents ignore the best interests of their children in favor of holding grudges and pure selfishness. Continue to appreciate the work put into ur channel including selecting interesting cases that aren’t seen on other channels
@bzleo20035 ай бұрын
I have so many issues here. 1. I'm not a fan of dad's messages and can believe he is bitter 2. Mom needs to read her note more because her mini tantrum during cross was pretty petty and dumb 3. In my head... Sunday at 5 makes sense especially if Thomas might come home super late on Fridays. 4. There is not enough respect given to this father having a job. To dismiss it so casually is ridiculous 5. Therapist is too biased but dad needs to fix that by being more involved in therapy. 6. Maybe these kids need less activities?
@JesseCoyle-nf8ss5 ай бұрын
So there's three issues... but dad's being a jerk for agreeing to two of them. And the reason she isn't ok with the day is because of how obstinate he's been in the past? The facts are almost completely opposite to what I'm hearing
@irenekegel59885 ай бұрын
His lawyer is grabbing at straws ..flight delay ….. and grandma is with them….relax..boys want Friday , Friday it is..get it
@user-by2tl4vp2k5 ай бұрын
I don’t see the mom being controlling. I see the dad holding grudges that harm the kids. The counselor clearly states what the kids want, which is what mom maintains she wants. The fact that the schedule would coincide with her partner’s is something even the kids want so they can spend more time with their step-siblings, but it is not the focus of why. Anyone with any genuine objectivity can see what is actually going on.
@user-by2tl4vp2k5 ай бұрын
Side note: when the dad came on the screen, I said THAT’S why she cheated, and with a woman no less 🤣🤣🤣 It all became clear 🤣🤣🤣
@bradphillips34423 ай бұрын
Feel like the judge was biased. The therapist was definitely biased. Bad ruling by the judge
@seaturtle9795 ай бұрын
This therapist is biased after against the Dad. The Dad wants Sundays so he can BE there. So he is traveling when they are with him as much. Especially when they get there.
@jimroccasano80685 ай бұрын
Gee, ruled for the mom. I’m so surprised
@AnnieFlorida5 ай бұрын
Do you believe we are watching a custody visitation case for 3 hours? At least I’m painting my door while I listen!!! lol
@Skincareslug5 ай бұрын
Dad has every right in the world to say he doesn't agree with Mom's life style. We often forget ,when it comes to people who disagree with the LGB lifestyle, that all peoples options and beliefs matter, are valid, and deserve mutual understanding. As long as Dad isn't disrespectful or rude in his beliefs he is doing nothing wrong.
@jemikabates90385 ай бұрын
Absolutely, but seems as if he is being rude and disrespectful ana maybe being petty just because, imo..
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
I am not a Christian, I have no religion, but he is and I see clearly how much this has hurt him. No matter that she is a woman in a same sex relationship, she cheated and destroyed what his view of his life was by cheating and is using the kids to cause as much trouble as possible. All I can say is he will probably lose both kids to her doctrine ultimately because she is that awful!
@MDBredBeauty5 ай бұрын
No they actually don't. They've been divorced 7 years and he wasn't worried about her lifestyle enough to go to court. If he has cheated people would be telling her to move on. He should move on
@lesare650927 күн бұрын
Why is her partner there in this court hearing? None of her business at this hearing! What if HIS gf was there? (If he has one) If I heard that my children (adults now) felt stressed, want peace, confused…Omgosh would tear my heart out! My sister & her ex are pretty good friends, they both agreed after children got older that they were both not in love & separated, did their own divorce, talk to each other quite a bit! It’s awesome at holidays both are there & my new brother in law, sis’s hubby, gets along too! They agreed have to let go of any bad past, keep good memories & any issues, keep communication open.
@pococolo5 ай бұрын
This is ridiculous. Kids are old enough. Just sit the kids down and ask them what they would prefer. Then do that. To me, it makes sense for kids to have the whole weekend at once place.
@amandahennek48065 ай бұрын
Mom's attorney clearly intentionally displays an arrogant, belligerent, belittling attitude. Also, exhibits a bitterness plus poor social/listening skills that this issue does not require.
@moonchildluvsbobcrane4 күн бұрын
So glad my late ex husband only got weekends and a few weeks in the summer. He rarely took them because he didn’t want to pay to feed them as it would take away from his drug money.
@selmamartin87375 ай бұрын
Disagree with the GAL about Friday being a day to wind down. My grandson played soccer on a top team in the state and on a club team top in the state. There is a lot of Soccer on Friday. He did some kicking for the football team on Friday. The band is busy on Friday.
@Lucinda_Jackson5 ай бұрын
Right - I'm trying to imagine how Friday is a wind down day when the band has something going pretty much every Friday evening. The logistics of the transfer after school, toting everyone's equipment to the other house, grabbing a quick bite and getting the kids where they need to be with uniforms, instruments, etc sounds like a nightmare to me!
@eyeamme19175 ай бұрын
The mom's body language when dad was being questioned 😂
@bzleo20035 ай бұрын
Hannah looked so familiar... so when you said Darlene... I was like HOLY CRAP YES!
@Blindeyedog9 күн бұрын
Counselor: Saturday’s is when they can let their hair down and relax.” Also Counselor: “The oldest has band competitions that last all day on Saturdays.” This is the dumbest court hearing, ever. And Meg, quit defending the cheaters. She has zero credibility with me, she committed infidelity. Watch her body language when Dad speaks. She gulps her drink often, takes her glasses off and on repeatedly, etc. Would you be making the snide remarks towards the mother if the Dad cheated and broke the family apart?
@kimalbright-good77303 ай бұрын
Why did the judge entertain any witnesses...just put Sundays as exchange date at 7pm.. ridiculous that some of this was aloud in this ...I take it the judge may be a gay or a Democrat continue allow bring up her sex partner choices?? 7 years later...that does even apply to even know...
@broxibear19414 ай бұрын
The Judge didn’t waste time coming to a decision. Well done. Hopefully the Dad moves on and settles down and accepts what his ex wife has done.
@leighstevens92085 ай бұрын
Father is controlling! Adults shouldn’t need the law for this!! Ridiculous!
@jemikabates90385 ай бұрын
We all have the right to be who we are. if that was something she came to later in life then yes it’s hurtful ,deceitful and she betrayed her marriage. What do people expect her to do, stay In a marriage she’s not happy in or simply tell the truth of who she really is (once she got caught) It’s been 7 years, I’m sure he’s still hurt but what’s done is done. I always hear people say just get a divorce, well that’s what happened and people still complain. I’m glad she’s living HER life as she wishes.. we all have that right!!! And if we all were honest with ourselves instead of trying to please other people, we would all be happier..
@ToldAlthea5 ай бұрын
Lapp
@jillspence72275 ай бұрын
It is EXTREMELY difficult for a man to have to divorce because of a same sex affair, especially a Christian man, just as it would be for a wife, if a husband had and affair with a man and the marriage ended. I don't think it is something anybody would get over even in the long term; there are betrayals and there are BETRAYALS.
@jemikabates90385 ай бұрын
@@jillspence7227 oh I know., it’s hard enough to get over with another man , but his wife with another woman, I couldn’t imagine..and I don’t get that either of them are that very religious, just that they call themselves Christians..
@jemikabates90385 ай бұрын
@@nealcassady-yn3bh it’s not , but once it happens do you think you can hold that over anyone’s head forever.. if he’s such a Christian, he should understand forgiveness. And children or not , I don’t advise anyone to stay in an unhappy marriage that’s when people start filling up with hate and resentment.. if it’s not working , it’s not working.. that’s all..
@quinnvids5 ай бұрын
@@jemikabates9038she could have put effort into the marriage as it sounds like he wanted to do, but she wanted to live her lifestyle over providing a stable home for her young children, ensuring that their development would suffer.
@MissMala5 ай бұрын
Oh for pities sake…….and they wonder why their life is such a mess. Wake up.
@quinnvids5 ай бұрын
I appreciate the testimony of the therapist, it seems like she genuinely cares for the kids and isn’t trying to side with either parent, just with the kids.
@lesare650928 күн бұрын
Oh my gosh, another Judge that is biased & shouldn’t be in that chair! How many children has she screwed by not being able to follow proper procedures, not being fair & unbiased? Poor father, never had a chance. Judge is busy the whole time they are talking. 😡🙄 Therapist was not needed, said too much they told her, children need to trust someone they can confide in, obviously not Mom, cheated & left, Dad isn’t able to talk, LISTEN to them, school officials is hard to trust most times. Bet the children won’t want to confide in that therapist again! 🤦♀️
@martierickson79374 ай бұрын
"her partner has children of her own", So mom turned gay?
@NG-cf7zh4 ай бұрын
Yes and as you note the short haircut of the judge, this case was decided before it began
@CrankyWidow3 ай бұрын
Why would high school students ever want to transfer their “stuff” with them on a school day?
@megmeyer75635 ай бұрын
Nothing is the fault of the ex wife according to her