A New Judge Hears This Custody Dispute Between Two Bitter Ex's With a Drama Filled Past

[@joannferguson7574]

His reasonings actually made sense. This judge just showed her bias for sure

[@rhonda5780]

No they don't. He could have that Sunday he likes every other week. It is better in Friday all the way around.

[@aquanettte132]

Judge showed her bias with the too late evidence too

[@lostineggsaisle]

I don't understand why judges even set rules if they're not going to follow them. She has clearly stated that exhibits have to be in so long before the hearing and they weren't, but she got on to the lawyer objecting to the exhibits instead of sticking with her procedure. Yeah, in a case like this it might be petty to object to those exhibits, but procedure wasn't followed. If there's an objection then she should be held to the rules she has set in place.

[@jillspence7227]

@nealcassady-yn3bh yep, and mom is playing her like a fine tuned violin. Saw that right from the get go.

[@bibichristoff9980]

The judge coyld have had them try each way and see what works but maybe it just prolongs the conflict.

[@DemonsSister]

I absolutely agree with you. Family law is so based on feelings. They need to be more stringent with rules of procedure.

[@jenger5405]

Who tf trades kids on Friday BEFORE school? She's making me ill.

[@jenger5405]

Offs! I can't take it. What state is this? This "testimony" from the "therapist" needs to be reviewed by the professional board that credentials her.

[@RB4svideos]

In this case, I honestly believe the mom just wants to realign her children’s schedule with that of her partner and her children to appease her partner. I also believe that dad is probably a bit rough, and probably not as sweet as he tried to come off to me. there is no doubt that he still holds animosity towards his ex-wife for her life choices. any time a spouse cheats on you It’s a lifetime of hurt regardless of how well you think you can handle.

[@jacksyoutubechannel4045]

I think Mom's attorney's focus on Dad not agreeing with his wife leaving him to be with a woman was likely _significantly_ influenced by knowledge of the judge's litigation history. I will never understand why men whose wives leave to be with other women and women whose husbands leave to be with other men get so much less sympathy and latitude to be angry. If anything, I always feel worse for them -- at least if they leave for another opposite-sex partner, you probably wouldn't have the same feelings of being used and lied to since the moment you started dating.

[@rhanBo]

Agreed with both of you completely.

[@valerie362]

I agree! Mom and her partner decided they both wanted Friday to Friday. Once the partner got her way, she wasn't going to budge on it.

[@paw-prints839]

Being cheated on is hard enough to get over. I try to look at things from both sides. If a married man leaves his wife for another man, the wife would feel the same as this man feels about his wife leaving him for another woman.

[@paw-prints839]

I also think if the partners children are on a opposite week on week off it would give the moms to enjoy each set of children.

[@kjarman7790]

I noticed way too many smirks on mom’s face. I think she’s been the 1 making things difficult & gaslighting dad at every opportunity.

[@Spygal92]

Totally agree- it really shined through when she was questioning the attorney as to who he was talking to when her Ex asked him a question.., Also a few other times you could tell she got very annoyed when the attorney caught her answering questions that showed she is not very easy to work with…. And she is inconsistent

[@marisagomez281]

Agree she even said at beginning she was not reading from something when ex husband attorney asked n she said she was looking at card to remind her to be poised etc she had to pull the victim card a few times I’m a lesbian n he doesn’t like me wonder why it’s ok for her ex to pay for everything for her sons as she obviously just got a job she had said- he’s paying for private school n all these activities n therapy but it definitely was bash dad because he works late on Fridays to pay for it all my gosh if they were going to go by her friend the therapists advice ( they spoke prior to this hearing about this n only heard the moms side) why did they bother with all this testimony n why didn’t the therapist speak after the dads testimony notice the ex wife attorney said therapist only had limited time she wanted the therapist to not hear the ex husbands testimony pretty sneaky n obviously planned n not right I always love the selective texts too but who knows just my opinion/observation

[@amber_Forever16]

​@@marisagomez281wow, that's one long a$$ sentence 😂 when you don't use any punctuation at all, it makes it very difficult to read long comments!

[@kryanthis2010]

Mom is the problem here ... and I saw the judge and therapist and knew the father had a .001% chance of being victorious.

[@sydneysovern]

Dad’s lawyer needs to learn that being condescending isn’t going to help his argument

[@JayBizBrewCity]

Absolutely - it made him look like an ass a dozen times

[@rhonda5780]

Amen to that! He is so irritating. He has dominated the hearing. They just don't shut up!

[@peggykeegan6826]

He seems a bit of an ass for sure

[@NurseCDT]

I am also guessing he has no children

[@Disableddawn]

I've decided all parents going through family court should be forced to watch episodes of Sesame Street, specifically ones focused on sharing.

[@wendylovesdaisy6335]

Best idea ever 😂

[@heatherking8689]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 mandatory 10 episodes and a test also....😂😂😂😂

[@laureljenkins1208]

That is a ridiculous statement.

[@heatherking8689]

@@laureljenkins1208 Your comment is a ridiculous thought that no one ask you for ....And it's ridiculous that you can't differentiate between a serious comment and a sarcastic comment.....

[@ErraticKay]

And after the sesame street videos, watch a few videos of their own behavior. Which of these things just doesn’t belong?

[@adamefamily2594]

This judge already chose a side before this case began! A blind man can see that! She should not be able to be a judge if she going to be biased!

[@lesare6509]

Judge was busy with obviously a different case or something, she maybe looked up at any of them like 6 times. Yep she obviously was against Dad, she made her mind up, didn’t matter what Dad said. 😡

[@teresashelton8819]

Geez at the end of 2 hours and 49 minutes I'm still sitting here thinking WTF is the big deal????

[@paw-prints839]

Mom (imo) is trying to gaslight dad into doing what she and her partner want. If the children are on opposite weeks with Mom's I don't see the problem. If both sets of kids are gone on the same week then it selfish of the Moms.

[@bayoumanbryan]

there is no good time for kids to be dragged from one house to another! there are only times that are not as bad as others.

[@sydneysovern]

amen to that

[@AliciaLynn2]

I agree that this was an absolute waste of the courts time and I also might have the unpopular opinion on agreeing with dad. As a parent who did week on week off with a Sunday transfer from the time my daughter was 4-18 while she did school cheer, competitive cheer, and gymnastics our Fridays were always hectic and we wouldn’t get home from games especially if they were away until very late. Which would be the same scenario for their oldest son due to band, so then having to try to gather all the things they need for the next 7 days and then go to the “new” home just doesn’t make sense.

[@mbro11]

i’m with you 100 percent. fridays are exhausting and not the right time for a change.

[@southernladyish]

Definitely agree with dad!

[@tammywilkinson8311]

​@@southernladyishme too!!

[@lesare6509]

Fridays are the WORST day for any change like the Mom wants! So busy for active teen! Agree with Dad too!

[@paloma88852]

This wife is a total control freak, her ex husband is not wrong, I hear it in her voice.

[@knoxwallace9639]

Yes when she smirks she looks creepy

[@Skincareslug]

I thought I was gonna like this judge but so far she's very bias.

[@tylertucker6776]

I agree and I don't like her and I can't even finish this cause I'm in such disbelief

[@tammywilkinson8311]

💯!

[@maryshannon4444]

Why would they want the kids dragging all kinds of stuff to school on a Friday, they can just transfer on Sunday. Talk about pathetic. What's the therapist needed for? Its about the day to spwap over ffs.

[@karenblanck7726]

I’m only 48 minutes into this but her rationale for a Friday swap makes absolutely zero sense to me unless it’s 100% to align with her girlfriend. And I’m just getting to the cross and her attitude and demeanor just changed significantly. I’m finding it extremely difficult to believe her.

[@MommaD95]

I completely agree... Wouldn't Sunday work better, like before whomever goes to church if that's the case or after lunch? If there's games that one child has to be there for band why does Fri makes sense?

[@curtispalmer7866]

She comes off like she has the independence of a baby duck, of course it's what the girlfriend wants.

[@shawncombest1861]

She actually contradicted herself saying she wanted it to happen so " they would have a full clean week" but wanted to do it at 3 on a Friday... that's part of the week being cut off the entire Friday is basically gone that way

[@balla2172]

So they couldnt go to church on a friday dropoff? ​what if they wanted to go to sunday night church?@MommaD95

[@rhanBo]

Exactly. As someone who had to participate in schools sports on Friday, to try to do a transition after all of that would be at 11 PM and would make life so much worse.

[@JulieW11W]

Attempting to villanize the father after all she pulled is something special.

[@melodyalleyn9989]

The arrogance of all parties is nauseating

[@LadyK_TX]

Especially the mother. 🤨

[@kansascowgirl]

It all seems like rich people problems 🙄 like who spends 3 hrs in court over something as ignorant as a pick up day. You have to have mire $ than God to really believe it's worth this.😢

[@AndyRing-wo3ty]

As a father of three children of my own, I think it's important how these boys spend their time with it is very important to sexuality and gender identity of the boys.

[@ldegraaf]

Exactly, listen to the kids and let them decide. Then if they don't like it listen to them and make changes. I don't think kids should drive the bus, but the transition day is hard for kids so let them guide the decision about this.

[@heatherwilkins7228]

Peace and blessings to the children caught between patental disfunction.

[@hihosilverlining]

Couldn’t agree more.

[@cattycorner8]

Amen. It's always the children who suffer the most in a divorce. Very sad.

[@lesare6509]

🙏❤️ so agree. Will affect the children into adulthood & for life in their lives & dealing with parents.

[@kristenpino4635]

This is about changing the day of transportation, period. Why in the hell is the judge allowing all of this information in that happened 7 years ago! Wow!

[@lesare6509]

What’s this bs have to do with day of change? Think Judge thinks she is over custody case?? Pay attention Judge!! 😖

[@karenb2149]

I’m exhausted from listening to this. Those poor kids. Ugh.

[@katefox7692]

A lot of the comments disagree with mum re Fridays but it doesn’t matter because it’s what the kids want! This is so ridiculous, a 16yo should be able decide

[@wileybunch2001]

But the 16yo didn't testify.

[@aleahsimpson7373]

@@wileybunch2001 His therapist did. It also just makes sense, so I believe that is the truth. I mean even Dad admitted that his kid wanted Friday

[@edwardmorris8465]

​@@aleahsimpson7373but the therapist could just say what who's paying her also the school system says Sunday

[@wileybunch2001]

@aleahsimpson7373 Having had stepkids that were in band with IMO it makes zero sense for Friday. She lost credibility for me when she said not a single client does Sunday exchanges. I just hope it all works out. The comments that they only have 2 years left with the older one are so very true.

[@Spygal92]

@@aleahsimpson7373 Having been I. This situation/ ONLY the kids at this age should be speaking about what they want- which is why it’s a total sham having the therapist giving her opinion on schedule… plus not talking to husband …. This is wrong, sadly, this is how this custody courts work…. It’s a whole set of rules …

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

This judge is the worst. (I haven't finished watching yet, so it's not because I disagree with whatever ruling she ultimately makes) Why on earth is she allowing allll this testimony about the reasons for the divorce, and all this bashing of the other parent, etc. It's been established from the start that the ONLY issue is what day the exchanges should take place. Testimony should have been limited for all parties, including the counselor, to that question alone. This could have been settled in a half hour tops. I don't know if she just wanted to hear all the salacious gossip or what, but it was all very irrelevant. I have no respect for this judge for encouraging this.

[@quinnvids]

the answer is that a large portion of her career in law has been about destroying families

[@Barraind.Faylestar]

Shes the worst (or among the worst) for a lot more than that. Thanks Austinites!

[@stephaniemcgarvey4469]

Agree 100% All this sharing of deeply personal info which is now viewable by the world, for one single issue of picking a day. None of this was necessary ESP the damn pics! It’s almost like the judge is being nosey and just wants to entertain herself with the drama!

[@megmeyer7563]

The judge isn't even listening or paying attention.

[@TheSillygirl64]

She has biases!

[@nopenoway9875]

I think Thomas is going to have a breakdown based on the therapist’s description of him both mentally and physically. The therapist seems to be biased favouring the bitter 🐩 of a mom to the point that she’s not focusing on what Thomas might urgently need.

[@dbizzle85]

Therapists ALWAYS favor the woman the entire system does

[@rhanBo]

I am so glad it was just me that saw all of this

[@rhanBo]

@@dbizzle85not just the system. Megan does, too.

[@nopenoway9875]

@@rhanBo Exactly, I wasn’t even sure if I should say anything based on the comments during the video. I disagreed with almost everything she said, and couldn’t understand why she saw it so drastically different than me. Glad I’m not the only one. No offence intended😬

[@aleahsimpson7373]

I agree that Thomas needs some help, but I don't understand how her opinion is making things harder on him. It sounds like Thomas wanted the Friday, which makes sense if you consider his schedule.

[@user-cn8wu2ok5s]

This is ridiculous!

[@edwardranno7119]

💯

[@thatswhatleighsaid]

The privilege is unreal. Imagine having this amount of money to just blow on arguing over a day of the week.

[@BuckCommander8]

Interesting that a therapist can say that Friday is unanimously the best day for exchanges for every family. So if a parent is out of town, just leave the kids there alone, because Friday is best. Also, just because the parents have different styles, doesn’t make one better than the other. Obviously kids will prefer the parent that doesn’t hold them accountable for anything. Something tells me the mom is paying the therapy bill and this therapist knows where her bread is buttered. Either way it seems insane to pay lawyers to settle this.

[@Skincareslug]

I'm sorry but the Mom is controlling as hell and really just wants her time to match with her partners. Let's just be honest.

[@ritawenneshiemer3142]

I agree. It seems like she is more concerned about what is good for her partner. Her kids come first, not her partner.

[@jillspence7227]

Agree totally.

[@Skincareslug]

@@toddmurphy523 well the therapist didn't seem to credible to me. She seemed more of a person that "well paid" people use to sway court cases. The whole way she slanted her testimony and how she downplayed her clinical involvement really made me suspect of her and her motives. Especially knowing she is "out of network" and solely paid for by Mom.

[@mickeyd8273]

@@Skincareslug that's ridiculous. no credible therapist would slant their testimony. the dad knew his kids were seeing her and he never objected to it. he let the mom handle it so she would pay. nothing could've stopped him from being more involved if that's what he wanted. he actually said she got to make that payment as if that was a benefit to her. i admire the way the therapist fought for the kids. i can't imagine how hard it was for her to say the kids were afraid of their father. this whole thing is ridiculous. unless i'm totally missing the point, what would the dad be possibly missing out on Fridays at 5pm? instead he'd rather cut the weekend short and stop all activity on Sunday at 5pm which makes no sense.

[@missmike3693]

How is she the controlling one when she's the one who kept switching dates to try and compromise? Is everyone incapable of being objective anymore. 😒🙄

[@shawncombest1861]

I feel crazy watching this. The mother's reasoning is, "We have a lot of stuff going on Friday, So it just makes more sense to add more stuff on " im...im i the crazy one?!??!

[@ldegraaf]

For me I want all the craziness to be on one day and not add craziness to a day that doesn't have anything. Also, all the craziness is outside of the house so the only thing that happens is they go to the other house at the end of the day. Most people who travel like the father, they don't travel on Sunday because they want to be able to rest and set up for the work week, the same consideration should be given to the kids. Sundays should be for ensuring that they are ready for the school week. All the families that I know who do week on week off started with Sunday because that is how judges set it up, but within months they realize that it isn't working for their kids and they switch it to a weekday, most of the time Friday or Monday.

[@k.stacey7389]

The ONLY reason I could see Friday being a good choice would be if all four kids were really close (which I doubt), so they wouldn’t really have any weekends together with Sunday or Monday exchanges. But mom can’t even get that testimony straight. Supposedly they’re four different kids with four wildly different personalities, and the youngest are very similar. How does that work?

[@jaykeith1909]

the older boy needs to reduce his Extracurricular Activities if it's true what Ms. Arnett said about him looking/being exhausted. taking on to much...

[@jenny_b_]

So much focus on Dad’s “tonality”, yet Mom’s demeanor is nasty, condescending, and downright rude.

[@Delulutrain]

Mom had to write herself a note to remind herself to behave and be professional while in court 🫠🙄

[@darthnocturnis3941]

@@DelulutrainShe had to write herself a note to cover for the stack of notes she was reading from.

[@tracyc5070]

She wrote herself a reminder on how to act and still couldn’t sit there and listen quietly- fidgeting, taking glasses off and on, smoothing hair, making faces. She is a mess 😬

[@ann316]

Exactly! She is a GENERAL and demands her way.

[@ann316]

​@darthnocturnis3941 I agree, she is reading notes.

[@nanders4089]

As a marching band parent, imo a Sunday swap is best. Those poor kids having to bring everything they need to school on a Friday morning for the next week has got to be so hard. Especially when they have a Friday night football have and then a Saturday competition. They need so much stuff. And the boy in sports will be just as hard when he's in high school. The therapist didn't seem to consider that.

[@southernladyish]

Agreed

[@rhanBo]

Exactly

[@murderofcrows7738]

The therapist also seemed to think it was a Friday evening swap. I don’t think she had enough information for her opinion to be so certain.

[@fancy_lette]

The kid has his own car so he’s not carrying a suitcase or a French horn around with him all day.

[@dustydo8048]

He has a car and license, I’m sure he will manage. I think the less time these two parents have contact the better for these kids. Using school as a buffer between them is a great move.

[@Starcatt966]

Are these people for real? How are supposedly mature adults this self-involved, without the slightest hint of embarrassment? This nonsense is the reason the courts are at a breaking point? Two highly educated, high level professionals, who have every kind of support available to them, are completely incapable of making even the most inconsequential decisions, in their children’s best interests, that they require the intervention of the entire, available, and very sparse resources that surround the court? Including a judge, lawyers, witnesses, court clerks, submission of evidence, and an immense amount of the very limited time the court has? And that’s just to start with! Im done with humans today. Until my brain stops exploding, I’ll be hiding in my blanket fort with my cat and a case of red wine. 🔥

[@Claudia-up6hr]

Any room for me under there? I prefer white so I'll bring my own 🍷. I'm a retired psychiatric social worker & you've expressed my thoughts exactly. The pretentiousness, narcissism, & attention-seeking at work here-particularly by the mother-is infuriating 🤬. For sure the children have been damaged by these parents. Over the years I saw so many tragedies I wish I could forget. If I'd been assigned to this duo I would have told them a few things about themselves they would not like to hear. At the end of the day, it's about the well-being of the children so I'd have seen it as my duty to speak up (even though the lawyers would have strenuously objected, no doubt, because the case was limited to choosing a date).

[@Starcatt966]

@@Claudia-up6hrcome on in! We can play a drinking game where every time any member of Team High Powered Lesbian Stepford Mom says “Friday drop off”, we take a swig! All pets welcome and encouraged!

[@Claudia-up6hr]

Lesbian Stepford Mom...😂 You're a funny person. Thanks for brightening my lonely life in a nursing home. We're not allowed pets-is it OK if I bring one of the cockroaches 🪳 this overpriced hellhole is infested with?@@Starcatt966

[@jillspence7227]

And that response is what you consider mature? You do realise alcohol is a direct cause of at least 25% of all common cancers?

[@jh9374]

One of the most enjoyable and apt comments I’ve seen for a while. Thank you and my regards to Kitty!

[@ritawenneshiemer3142]

What is with her? How many times do you adjust a schedule. Maybe the kids need to cut down on their activities so they can see their Dad. Nothing like divorcing your husband for a change in lifestyle. I'm confused on what she wants. Who comes first her partner or the kids. Always what fits for her partner. What does her partner have to do with it. Is it so her and her partner's kids can be there together? Did I miss something?

[@aleahsimpson7373]

Or dad could cut down on his work schedule? Why should the children have to stop doing something they love for their parent. Parents should sacrifice for their kids not the other way around. Besides, him getting home a bit late on a Friday wouldn't stop him from going to his kids activities.

[@hazelhadley-britt6396]

​@aleahsimpson7373 yet he will have to pay child support and all the costs as per usual. Only now he will not be able to afford their lifestyle as much.

[@quinnvids]

“i ultimately am doing my best to make the kids a priority” well except when you destroyed your marriage and upended their lives at 6 and 9 years old.

[@jillspence7227]

I have never yet met a cheating spouse who will admit that.

[@jessplays32]

Why do people keep saying you destroyed your marriage? When some one cheats obviously the marriage was dead or at least in major trouble. Someone had to do something to end it.

[@mandygill9727]

​@@jessplays32 You end a bad marriage with divorce; it's morally correct......cheating and slithering around like a snake IS NOT.

[@laureljenkins1208]

Mother has a right to find love. Men leave marriages and children every day.

[@shawncalderon4950]

Way too much weight is given to the therapist. This judge had no intention in listening to the case; she ruled against the father even before the proceeding started.

[@jillspence7227]

I guess he will probably just miss weeks with them due to his work schedule, and that will suit her just fine.

[@Bob42000]

Most judges do😂 and females think they have a unfair life..ridiculous

[@MDBredBeauty]

U mean the professional? It's clear the father is being petty

[@shawncalderon4950]

@@jillspence7227 good point!

[@shawncalderon4950]

@@Bob42000 Too true. When our society repeatedly says, “You are a victim,” they eventually succumb.

[@gailpatty1786]

This one is tiresome. Tiresome parents, tiresome judge too.

[@GenX1968]

The mothers actions are very problematic. Watch her as the kids Therpist talks. Very weird 😬

[@karlat7880]

54:25 she’s being a smarmy smart-mouth. Talking to the other lawyer like he’s a child and she’s reprimanding him. Then that smirk when she says “so can you repeat it?”. That says a lot about her character imo. No wonder she needs a card to remind her to be poised and professional!

[@jillspence7227]

She thinks everything she does is right, and the 'apologies' for the affair and subsequent family upheaval is all for show to the judge, no real apology because she is always right!

[@mandygill9727]

❤

[@twelch8367]

The only winners here are the lawyers and the counselors

[@shawncombest1861]

I love that this woman says it was about her girl friend not the kids THEN her lawyer says "why is it about the kids not your girlfriend"... she already admitted it was about the girlfriend

[@josimmonds1270]

I’m trying

[@laureljenkins1208]

Dad's lawyer reversed his words. The therapist clearly expressed the words of the children..The 'tonality' BS was not bought by the Judge and those nasty text messges spoke volumes. He is a hater and he cannot move forward.

[@ann316]

​. So he needs to just agree to what ever she wants?

[@domado2011]

Mom wants the exchanges to be the same time so she and partner can both be child free at the same times, I didn't hear anything that convinced me Friday exchanges would be easier for the kids. If anything it sounded like Friday nights are the worst times for the kid in band. The therapist was so focused on trying to prove she was advocating for the kids and not their mom that I had trouble believing her. She seems to have had a lot of conversations with Mom and only one with Dad the entire time she's been seeing the kids. I was really on the fence until it came time to make the judgement and the judge said Mom withdrew the request for the judge to confer with the kids. I can't see how a sound judgement based on what is best for the teenage kids could be made without talking to the kids? But once I heard that Mom didn't want the judge to talk to the kids, I could tell she's pushing the Friday exchange for her own benefit.

[@jupo9928]

So what? They have to manage shared custody and time. So what if she wants to match her partners schedule??

[@TheSillygirl64]

Because the partner isn’t relevant to these children!

[@tiffanyholman4028]

It's *amenable* not amendable. The word is amenable, without a d. Sorry, that is driving me crazy. 😂

[@JordanEmede_376]

Thank you

[@michellehillman2889]

The dad needs a new attorney. The attorney also gives me an ick feeling. Don’t know what it is about him. I do believe the dad is still bitter that she cheated on him with a women. Most switch days are on sundays . I’m thinking her gf and and her are wanting 7 days of no kids.

[@Sevenz07]

As a child of divorce, with a father who cheated and married his mistress, I believe they are both wrong. The fact that they can't hold an adult conversation regardless of who blames who, that in and of itself hurts the kids. What mom did has caused DEEP scars! I can make a pretty educated guess that her new wife is in her ear. As was my dad's wife. It's just my opinion.

[@jemikabates9038]

Thank you!!! Seems if everyone is mad with mom cause she came out..

[@KarenRosier]

My ex moved his mistress in less than 2 weeks after I finally gave up & moved out. This was 28 years ago, he has been married & divorced 3 more times. That MF'er still blames me for leaving and shit talks me to my adult son. Jokes on the ex though. I've been married for 25 years to the same guy, while he has had a wild rotation of women.

[@KarenRosier]

Also, every time a new one moved in, we went back to court. Every. Single. Time.

[@lindadane3655]

Well put. This was my thinking thru out this video. And how about that expert witness. I mean she was so busy framing mother's story / needs, that she dismissed client-doctor confidentiality. The young boys will not share certain information to her after this; nor should they. Also, in my opinion, much thought and effort was not given to the young boys when mother decided to leave father to co-habitat with another mother. That change did not effect the boys? Really? Oh, and no Dr., the young boys are not old enough to be home alone. This ain't "Leave It to Beaver."

[@lindadane3655]

@@KarenRosier I know that could not have been easy for you, esp. emotionally. Glad you weathered the storm. Blessings

[@sadamardis5994]

I think your overlaying thoughts are very biased. From the beginning you were negative towards the dad and ignored mom's obvious smugness throughout her testimony with his lawyer.

[@irishwv3]

2:28:26 the moms smirky face rolling her eyes while dad was testifying tells me everything

[@shawncalderon4950]

The ex-wife belches the bitterness that consumes all possibility of joy.

[@GenX1968]

She’s got serious issues. I hope these poor boys can break away from all this. The ex wife’s therapist is very concerning. This is bad.

[@shawncalderon4950]

@@GenX1968 yes, well said.

[@cattycorner8]

Well said, @shawncalderon4950

[@louiseporterbridges2040]

This is ridiculous. These parents should be ashamed. These kids have been forced to be wandering vagrants for their whole childhoods, first of all. At 16 and 14 they should be able to go to whichever house they prefer, pretty much any time. If they have to switch homes every week, JUST PICK A DAY. A WEEK IS A WEEK. Dad's lawyer, especially, does not seem to understand that every week has a Monday, every week has a Friday... This is ludicrous. I wish Judge Cranky Pants was hearing this. "You say Monday, you say Friday. Exchanges will be Wednesdays at 5 pm. That's all, good bye."

[@phyllistaylor5634]

I love judge cranky pants! His lines are priceless! Do you want me to come micro mange your life? Make the kids brush their teeth! LOL, he would of lost his mind with this one!!

[@louiseporterbridges2040]

​​@@phyllistaylor5634My favorite line of his is, "I'll make the order because the parties are... *ridiculous*... and can't get along."

[@Starcatt966]

This mom is giving the most serious, passive-aggressive, deeply emotionally nuanced performance of a lifetime, in the role of “quiet, long-suffering, gravely wounded mother who uncomplainingly sacrifices all for her family “. 😂

[@karlat7880]

😂

[@k8mcawesome]

Yea I hope she watches this and realizes that talking slow and rudely is not doing her any favors

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

@@k8mcawesome Yeah, I don't think sniping at the ex's atty came across quite how it played in her head... 😂

[@nanders4089]

I liked when the counselor said that it wasn't the kids that destroyed the family. Mom started crying. I hope she feels guilty.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

And now she's wiping her eyes after the therapist testified. I'll say she's dedicated to her acting craft.

[@mariannecoker5895]

Grandparents are always better then parents LOL

[@PurpelDewdrop]

After watching a while, I don’t believe the only thing the mom is reading is the note she showed.

[@kwin2163]

Oohhhh my kitty is named Throckmorton! But she isn't as "catty" as mom.

[@wileybunch2001]

😂😂😂

[@christineterry2381]

Our court system is pro mom, anti dad 99% of the time. I’m a 79 yr old great gramma and I think it’s inexcusable.

[@southernladyish]

Absolutely!! It’s shameful! They’re literally ruining these children’s lives!! It takes a lot for family courts to favor fathers.. it’s absolutely disgusting! They should be treated equally as parents without bias.

[@paw-prints839]

I think the courts need to be more flexible. Not all Dads are bad, and not all Mom's are good. I just wish parents really thought about the kids not themselves. I watch so many of these are more about money, possession of the children (child), and sticking it to the other parent. Kids get stuck in the middle. Poor kids.

[@louiseporterbridges2040]

Imagine choosing to be angry, bitter, and hateful for seven years, instead of getting over it and having a happy life.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

You need to learn a little critical thinking and look/listen beyond the attorneys' propaganda speeches AKA opening statements - especially in cases where the clients have deep pockets.

[@southernladyish]

@@Lucinda_Jackson what are you talking about? Lol It’s pretty obvious that mom doesn’t want to work with dad and she’s the one who seems angry and bitter.. while claiming dad is the angry and bitter one. Thinking critically, I would say this comment was spot on 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@louiseporterbridges2040]

@@Lucinda_Jackson You're funny.

[@edwardmorris8465]

Imagine being around a liar and cheater for the rest of your life because you have children together I'd be mad also I'd rather not have to deal with you at all

[@suziek.2062]

Lmao, @ the comment about Darlene from Rosanne.. I used to be told that I looked like her also, especially when I died my hair darker.

[@rhonda5780]

I can't stand his attorney. He wants to get the answer he wants and asks the same question 1000 different ways expecting a different answer. He is rigid, argumentative, and rude and doesn't get that Friday is better for the children. They're both bent and want Sunday regardless if it is harder for the children. I would hate to have either him or his attorney as a parent. It would be horrible.

[@MummaMia5]

I totally agree. I can see why the kids are reluctant to speak with him. He’s a bully. We tend to do Friday after school swaps here in Australia, Queensland especially because it reduces parental contact and unnecessary conflict.

[@wileybunch2001]

Mom also fought to the bloody death AGAINST Sunday to protect the volunteer stuff she does with the son. The same son that seems like he's going to break into a million pieces from being under so much pressure from how thin his time is stretched.

[@GenX1968]

Lawyers love people like this! They make mad money over who is RIGHT! Sad but entertaining. What are these people going to do to get one over the other when both kids are over 18?! 😂

[@mariannecoker5895]

The 16 year old is going to be gone in 2 years they need to get it together cause when he leaves for college then they’re going to argue over who he sees more when he comes home from college

[@Peaches.523]

Probably avoid coming home all together.

[@jennief7114]

Oh, she showed her true colors. Sunday is the best day in my mind too. That said, she is really pissed, that he has different views, but she tries to paint him as the "evil" one.

[@katking6820]

She decided to cheat lie and divorce . He asks questions ? Yeah that seems degrading. To him !

[@libertywatcher1247]

Friday night is ridiculous in this instance. Sunday seems best because of the equipment, dad's schedule, etc. Seems to me that the mom wants to control everything. Why does this judge seem to be siding with the mother, and why should a therapist have any say in any of this.

[@dougeldridge1219]

Guy hears his Son say he's afraid of him and he takes a drink of coffee.

[@janetholmes2318]

Mum is very snippy. She’s quite rude.

[@GenX1968]

And the therapist, don’t get me started. Don’t let your kids go to Arnett. She’s very strange.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

What surprises me is the lack of thought and consideration by everyone - including the judge - given to GranBear. This choice to deliberately schedule the exchange at a time when Dad will often not be available puts the onus on GranBear to get to the schools and collect the kids and then to Mom's house to collect their stuff, feed them and get the kids to whatever activities they have, like band for the oldest. That's a lot to expect of someone who isn't a parent or present to agree to all of this...

[@mickeyd8273]

the dad's lawyer was terrible. his cross examinations were painful and he scored no points.

[@pearsrtasty3326]

I just wanted to add this comment real quick, probably won't mean much, but it means a lot to me. Seeing the therapists face, when she spoke about Turner...the smile on her face. She was so happy to speak about him. She must enjoy talking to him. I hope my therapist smiles when my name gets brought up...I always think she's thinking, awww shit not her, well here goes nothing. Edit: However, I am just noticing the mother now, listening to the therapist speak about her two sons. She is smiling up a storm and must adore those 2 guys. | It must really be hard being apart of a family like this. I do feel bad for those children though. I feel bad for any child having to deal with divorce.

[@Kevinthesnail]

You said the judge has stuck up for gay marriage… well… there ya go the mom is with a woman.

[@craiggoldberg1539]

I bet she also agrees with straight marriage, what a non point.

[@mindybunny]

The mom was sickeningly smug and condescending the entire video. What a sad situation.

[@girlracer265]

Skylar is getting on my nerves

[@tinawindham6958]

Ask the kids what they want. Done.

[@SheaShea71]

The kids have said what they want. Dad said no

[@mbro11]

this mom is insufferable

[@user-do8ue9un9v]

Sounds like Mom's want the same days off all weekend rather than being full time mom's

[@andreabergenham8779]

Meg, I disagree about the expressions of the parents. Dad is being talked about negatively and Mom is happy that the therapist is talking glowingly about her and not about dad.

[@teresashelton8819]

The dads attorney is a complete dbag! I hate when attorneys talk to their clients as if they're at a cafe😖

[@Sparkyinbozo-xe9fn]

He also just gives testimony/argument when he's supposed to be asking questions. Like he says, "I disagree with you, I think X," when asking Ms. Arnett questions. It comes across as quite unprofessional.

[@kimt9978]

One of the most interesting cases I’ve watched regarding human nature -stubborn, spiteful, and ultimately how parents ignore the best interests of their children in favor of holding grudges and pure selfishness. Continue to appreciate the work put into ur channel including selecting interesting cases that aren’t seen on other channels

[@bzleo2003]

I have so many issues here. 1. I'm not a fan of dad's messages and can believe he is bitter 2. Mom needs to read her note more because her mini tantrum during cross was pretty petty and dumb 3. In my head... Sunday at 5 makes sense especially if Thomas might come home super late on Fridays. 4. There is not enough respect given to this father having a job. To dismiss it so casually is ridiculous 5. Therapist is too biased but dad needs to fix that by being more involved in therapy. 6. Maybe these kids need less activities?

[@JesseCoyle-nf8ss]

So there's three issues... but dad's being a jerk for agreeing to two of them. And the reason she isn't ok with the day is because of how obstinate he's been in the past? The facts are almost completely opposite to what I'm hearing

[@irenekegel5988]

His lawyer is grabbing at straws ..flight delay ….. and grandma is with them….relax..boys want Friday , Friday it is..get it

[@user-by2tl4vp2k]

I don’t see the mom being controlling. I see the dad holding grudges that harm the kids. The counselor clearly states what the kids want, which is what mom maintains she wants. The fact that the schedule would coincide with her partner’s is something even the kids want so they can spend more time with their step-siblings, but it is not the focus of why. Anyone with any genuine objectivity can see what is actually going on.

[@user-by2tl4vp2k]

Side note: when the dad came on the screen, I said THAT’S why she cheated, and with a woman no less 🤣🤣🤣 It all became clear 🤣🤣🤣

[@bradphillips3442]

Feel like the judge was biased. The therapist was definitely biased. Bad ruling by the judge

[@seaturtle979]

This therapist is biased after against the Dad. The Dad wants Sundays so he can BE there. So he is traveling when they are with him as much. Especially when they get there.

[@jimroccasano8068]

Gee, ruled for the mom. I’m so surprised

[@AnnieFlorida]

Do you believe we are watching a custody visitation case for 3 hours? At least I’m painting my door while I listen!!! lol

[@Skincareslug]

Dad has every right in the world to say he doesn't agree with Mom's life style. We often forget ,when it comes to people who disagree with the LGB lifestyle, that all peoples options and beliefs matter, are valid, and deserve mutual understanding. As long as Dad isn't disrespectful or rude in his beliefs he is doing nothing wrong.

[@jemikabates9038]

Absolutely, but seems as if he is being rude and disrespectful ana maybe being petty just because, imo..

[@jillspence7227]

I am not a Christian, I have no religion, but he is and I see clearly how much this has hurt him. No matter that she is a woman in a same sex relationship, she cheated and destroyed what his view of his life was by cheating and is using the kids to cause as much trouble as possible. All I can say is he will probably lose both kids to her doctrine ultimately because she is that awful!

[@MDBredBeauty]

No they actually don't. They've been divorced 7 years and he wasn't worried about her lifestyle enough to go to court. If he has cheated people would be telling her to move on. He should move on

[@lesare6509]

Why is her partner there in this court hearing? None of her business at this hearing! What if HIS gf was there? (If he has one) If I heard that my children (adults now) felt stressed, want peace, confused…Omgosh would tear my heart out! My sister & her ex are pretty good friends, they both agreed after children got older that they were both not in love & separated, did their own divorce, talk to each other quite a bit! It’s awesome at holidays both are there & my new brother in law, sis’s hubby, gets along too! They agreed have to let go of any bad past, keep good memories & any issues, keep communication open.

[@pococolo]

This is ridiculous. Kids are old enough. Just sit the kids down and ask them what they would prefer. Then do that. To me, it makes sense for kids to have the whole weekend at once place.

[@amandahennek4806]

Mom's attorney clearly intentionally displays an arrogant, belligerent, belittling attitude. Also, exhibits a bitterness plus poor social/listening skills that this issue does not require.

[@moonchildluvsbobcrane]

So glad my late ex husband only got weekends and a few weeks in the summer. He rarely took them because he didn’t want to pay to feed them as it would take away from his drug money.

[@selmamartin8737]

Disagree with the GAL about Friday being a day to wind down. My grandson played soccer on a top team in the state and on a club team top in the state. There is a lot of Soccer on Friday. He did some kicking for the football team on Friday. The band is busy on Friday.

[@Lucinda_Jackson]

Right - I'm trying to imagine how Friday is a wind down day when the band has something going pretty much every Friday evening. The logistics of the transfer after school, toting everyone's equipment to the other house, grabbing a quick bite and getting the kids where they need to be with uniforms, instruments, etc sounds like a nightmare to me!

[@eyeamme1917]

The mom's body language when dad was being questioned 😂

[@bzleo2003]

Hannah looked so familiar... so when you said Darlene... I was like HOLY CRAP YES!

[@Blindeyedog]

Counselor: Saturday’s is when they can let their hair down and relax.” Also Counselor: “The oldest has band competitions that last all day on Saturdays.” This is the dumbest court hearing, ever. And Meg, quit defending the cheaters. She has zero credibility with me, she committed infidelity. Watch her body language when Dad speaks. She gulps her drink often, takes her glasses off and on repeatedly, etc. Would you be making the snide remarks towards the mother if the Dad cheated and broke the family apart?

[@kimalbright-good7730]

Why did the judge entertain any witnesses...just put Sundays as exchange date at 7pm.. ridiculous that some of this was aloud in this ...I take it the judge may be a gay or a Democrat continue allow bring up her sex partner choices?? 7 years later...that does even apply to even know...

[@broxibear1941]

The Judge didn’t waste time coming to a decision. Well done. Hopefully the Dad moves on and settles down and accepts what his ex wife has done.

[@leighstevens9208]

Father is controlling! Adults shouldn’t need the law for this!! Ridiculous!

[@jemikabates9038]

We all have the right to be who we are. if that was something she came to later in life then yes it’s hurtful ,deceitful and she betrayed her marriage. What do people expect her to do, stay In a marriage she’s not happy in or simply tell the truth of who she really is (once she got caught) It’s been 7 years, I’m sure he’s still hurt but what’s done is done. I always hear people say just get a divorce, well that’s what happened and people still complain. I’m glad she’s living HER life as she wishes.. we all have that right!!! And if we all were honest with ourselves instead of trying to please other people, we would all be happier..

[@ToldAlthea]

Lapp

[@jillspence7227]

It is EXTREMELY difficult for a man to have to divorce because of a same sex affair, especially a Christian man, just as it would be for a wife, if a husband had and affair with a man and the marriage ended. I don't think it is something anybody would get over even in the long term; there are betrayals and there are BETRAYALS.

[@jemikabates9038]

@@jillspence7227 oh I know., it’s hard enough to get over with another man , but his wife with another woman, I couldn’t imagine..and I don’t get that either of them are that very religious, just that they call themselves Christians..

[@jemikabates9038]

@@nealcassady-yn3bh it’s not , but once it happens do you think you can hold that over anyone’s head forever.. if he’s such a Christian, he should understand forgiveness. And children or not , I don’t advise anyone to stay in an unhappy marriage that’s when people start filling up with hate and resentment.. if it’s not working , it’s not working.. that’s all..

[@quinnvids]

@@jemikabates9038she could have put effort into the marriage as it sounds like he wanted to do, but she wanted to live her lifestyle over providing a stable home for her young children, ensuring that their development would suffer.

[@MissMala]

Oh for pities sake…….and they wonder why their life is such a mess. Wake up.

[@quinnvids]

I appreciate the testimony of the therapist, it seems like she genuinely cares for the kids and isn’t trying to side with either parent, just with the kids.

[@lesare6509]

Oh my gosh, another Judge that is biased & shouldn’t be in that chair! How many children has she screwed by not being able to follow proper procedures, not being fair & unbiased? Poor father, never had a chance. Judge is busy the whole time they are talking. 😡🙄 Therapist was not needed, said too much they told her, children need to trust someone they can confide in, obviously not Mom, cheated & left, Dad isn’t able to talk, LISTEN to them, school officials is hard to trust most times. Bet the children won’t want to confide in that therapist again! 🤦‍♀️

[@martierickson7937]

"her partner has children of her own", So mom turned gay?

[@NG-cf7zh]

Yes and as you note the short haircut of the judge, this case was decided before it began

[@CrankyWidow]

Why would high school students ever want to transfer their “stuff” with them on a school day?

[@megmeyer7563]

Nothing is the fault of the ex wife according to her