A Pakistani Mother Asks... | Nouman Ali Khan (Urdu Q&A 5 - Pakistan)

[@zuairk]

Oh Nouman bro, ya sheikh ya ustadh you have no idea how much we Pakistani people need someone like you. MA SHA ALLAH You're truly a blessing for this modern ummah, Salam to ur parents for giving us the best ustadh for this GENERATION specially in these confusing times. Alhumdulillah lots of love & prayers for u bro oh imean ustadh😅❤❤

[@Febrisf62]

It is amazing how he separate the deen and psychology side of human. Sometimes ppl think that the problems are caused by bad knowledge of deen, while its simply just the way you think about the problem. May Allah bless you, ustadz. 🙏🏼

[@anwarsaleem7283]

The whole Deen psychology

[@BuddyBro86]

It will still boil down to not knowing your deen well enough, reason1: comparison is a foolish thing, everyone will go through their own Qabr, their own accountability call to deeds. Reason 2, destiny is written way before you came to dunya, dua and effort betters it and increase it, Qur'an itself says, do istaghfar your rizk will increase, rains sons will increase and wealth, so comparing wouldn't help, istaghfar would shukur would, reason 3: hadith says yani gist is, momin doesn't bother him/her self with things which aren't their concern, reason 4: whosoever backbites is like eating brothers dead meat, hadith says also that when you supplicate for your brother, an angel says ameen and for you too. Reason 5: inndaz zunni abdi bihi think good there can be other reasons too. But it'll be futile commenting such long, few words can benefit more

[@shahidaperveen7701]

I love to listen him. How balanced and harmoniously he replied. Islam has given shown us the reasonable and practical way of life.

[@shabinaislam9598]

Again a gem.. I use to get in tears listening to you, that If I couldn't have reached out to you/ or your videos, the anxiety would have taken everything from me. May Allah be with you....

[@umairkhalid8980]

Im astonished How I can relate to this.i work in an office. I was subconsciously affected by this thought That there's sth wrong with me. Today after listening this, I became conscious of that thought. And understood that Allah maybe decided another way for marriage, other than my office.

[@GameChanger-vd6eb]

See Allah has everything planned out for you! Just like the thought you were having, It was by the will of Allah ! And this video - the answer, came to you by the will of Allah ! Have Trust in him! He is the best of planner. He is All-Knowing! He completely knows what thoughts you have! He is All-Hearing! He listens to your prayers!

[@crochetinn2021]

He's a blessing for our current and future generation of youngsters. Al hamdu lliillah! A scholar with behavioral, psychological and cultural understanding can cause huge reforms.

[@samkhan2303]

May ALLAH swt reward u brother, we truly need sm1 like yrself to explain the Quran to our elders, has well as our young ppl, break the circle

[@abdullahfaisal1981]

آمین

[@BiryaniLover365]

Ameen 🧡

[@huvaria]

I’m Learning now as a mother of three children the eldest being a teen, it’s so important to socialise with others to ensure your children have them social skills and are part of community

[@hamnamasood7994]

استاد نعمان بے حد قیمتی انسان ھیں. ھمیں ایسے ھی سکالرز کی اشد ضرورت ھے اللہ آپ کو سلامت رکھے استاد جی. آپ علم کا خزانہ ھیں. جیتے رھئے.

[@fizaezainab4163]

I am going through same situation and want to show this to my parents now

[@shanjidashila8936]

Every family always puts pressure on the kids to get married and just looks for proposals continuously.And when marriage is delayed they become so depressed.These put daughters in so much pressure.I am not able to sleep or focus on anything properly for all this.I really feel helpless.😢

[@arifanoor5144]

Tens mat lo jo hoga jab hoga

[@maheentoheed2481]

Ap relax rehain or Allah tala per poora barosa rakhain mera Allah jo chunti ko pathar mai bhii rizq de rha us nay ap kay lie bhi bohat behtar soch rakha ho ga wo janta hai ap perashan hain us se behtar kon samajh sakta ap dua karain or yakeen rakhain ke Allah nay deri mai bhi khair rakhi ho gi

[@sabababintemaksud6463]

Facing same situation, May Allah bless us

[@aneesfathima4581]

Facing same situation Allah SWT hels all of us

[@wajeehaasif5844]

Allah knows how much these thoughts have haunted me till I watched this, it's so soothingly accurate I need my parents to see this video but I don't know how to show them!!

[@peace.n.blessings5579]

May Allah reward you Norman Ali Khan and your team. Invaluable guidance !

[@misszara786]

This subject is so important in our society right now. So many people are lost and angry at the way our lives are running on these types of mentalities and culture. I don’t know if I’ve missed your full talks on this subject but I request you to please make a full video or lecture on this topic. Also if you are able to come to UK and hold these talks in various cities. Very much appreciated ❤. Jazakallah x

[@pixsal24]

I wish every person had a mindset like you. so many problems of society would be solved.

[@amtulaziz8272]

Ustadh...You are transforming society ❤Listening to you gives peace to my queries and mind

[@ehtishamibnemuhammadstuden2135]

Ma Sha Allah.. I am getting addicted to your videos Ustad e mohtram NAK ❤️✨

[@sufiyafirdoush3615]

Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan is a blessing for us youth ❤️‍🩹, Alhamdulillah 🥹

[@mayabini1904]

Alhamdulillah. Stop comparison, and you will get a better solution, Thanks you ustadh

[@IndianSumaira]

I wish someone would have explained it so beautifully as Sir did this a decade ago

[@Windtorment]

Very important lesson here. He's totally right! May Allah bless him. Ameen! Edit: btw, this part made me chuckle 😂😂 0:20

[@AR-kz4zg]

Ustad Nouman, if this comment ever reaches you, please do more series on this topic alone - I promise you this fitna is the root cause of all others - please make a full course on this

[@hammadmalyaar3882]

I agree with you. He should

[@REHAN_ShAikhh]

Mere Gharwaale hi meri jindagi ajaab kar rakha hai😢 Mujhe toh lagta hai k Allah mere gunaho ko maaf kar dega beshak Jo v mai jaane anjaane nafs k wajah se ki hai, Lekin mere maa baap, mere ristedaar ,mere aas parosi sab mujhe kbhi maaf kar sakega! Woh loh kbhi yeh baat Maan hi nhi rahe k I'm changed, yes undoubtedly I don't even care about their opinion about me, but kuch na kuch effects parta hai bhai . Itna toxic people k saath society me kab tak ignore krta rahu?? Kya ajeeb maamla hai dosto!!

[@maryamrauf5633]

Want more information about this topic Sir

[@tatestherapist6958]

Reflecting upon the quran with a sound heart opens the door to akhlaaq. The Messenger Muhammad Al mustafa had the best akhlaaq among the whole of humankind. ❤

[@DarkHorse-vu8xt]

Please always write Sallallahu alaihi wasallam with the name of our Prophet Hazrat Muhammad Sallallahu alaihi wasallam .

[@TahreemFatima-g3j]

MashaAllah.Allah will give you Jaza InshaAllah..

[@SteevFernando-ok4dm]

this guy just became one of my mentors evcenthough i am not a muslim

[@nonihalan-e-islamcorner3821]

بہت اہم پوائنٹ کو اٹھایا سر نے exactly...need this❤

[@ldeal_musalman1234]

Sir please come in India and spread your knowledge our society.I am from India,west Bengal

[@tajwarsultana7003]

Absolutely. A man of Honour

[@tonikaku_]

Masya Allah may Allah bless ustadz Nouman, the mother and the son who ask question. Aamiin

[@MyBilal19971]

I wonder how my life would have been if I hadn't come across Ustad Noman.

[@trustinalqadir2982]

Maa sha Allah My Sir. I always learn new understanding based on our islamic society

[@zohaibmemon602]

So adorable, people waste their time thinking about others. Make sure you have to focus on what you're doing or just want to do. "Everyone has their own different situations" 2:11 So yes "this hyper-comparison is the real problem " 2:24

[@qurashianjumanjum4437]

Very very much,Allah aapko bhut agr de,Duniya or Akhirat me bhut ala agr de,Ameen

[@ecomforks_official]

My 1st and Most Favourite Mentor.

[@nabeelurrehman]

Excellent answer! We must thank Allah for his blessings regardless of situation. Aameen!

[@nasreenshabana1392]

Be social , meet people ...in sha allah everything will be good

[@muhammadshahzad342]

Really you have deep knowledge of Deen and solve so complex problems in a very easy and simple way.

[@Khushisaif-r5m]

This is the great answer to all our society because the generation of this time want to make it's future first

[@faryalkhan6918]

Allahamdulilah for all the resources we have now to learn smallest thing about our religion.

[@guts1893]

MashaAllah.. Allah bless your truthful words, Sir. You are gifted with a sharp mind.

[@abdullahalrai]

What an Amazing response from Br. Norman, this is exactly what’s happening all around Muslim world, specially south-Asian Muslim culture “Please stop comparing and competing with others, focus on your own self building, and your own household” ❤ The rest will take care of itself when everyone will be taking care of their own self building. As Ustadh Nouman has Quoted Ayah, What a beautiful Ayah and advice from our Creator, He states: ( وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا۟ مَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بِهِۦ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍۢ ۚ لِّلرِّجَالِ نَصِيبٌۭ مِّمَّا ٱكْتَسَبُوا۟ ۖ وَلِلنِّسَآءِ نَصِيبٌۭ مِّمَّا ٱكْتَسَبْنَ ۚ وَسْـَٔلُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ مِن فَضْلِهِۦٓ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِكُلِّ شَىْءٍ عَلِيمًۭا ٣٢ ) “And do not crave what Allah has given some of you over others. Men will be rewarded according to their deeds and women ˹equally˺ according to theirs. Rather, ask Allah for His bounties. Surely Allah has ˹perfect˺ knowledge of all things.” (4:32) I m astonished, as if I m hearing this Ayah for the first time. SubhanAllah ❤

[@Xtermination1]

That was such a good question.

[@wnsabu]

I love your question and answer session ❤. Great way of learning

[@tahiranaveed8108]

Waoo amazing I stumbled upon this ❤ so related

[@HammadNajam]

Subhan Allah Just Beautifully explained.

[@shehryarlatif1564]

Nauman Ali Khan I am becoming fan of your personality, you inspiring me alot. Thank you for educating us and guiding us right path towards Jannah.

[@kubraaaisha3327]

My favourite scholar ,so much wisdom

[@Anadilvlogs]

This session is so amazing...!! Ma sh Allah ♥️ jawab ik dm amazing ❤ma sh Allah

[@wnsabu]

MashaAllah always nice and learning by listening to you

[@soubiakhalid2738]

I am loving this question n answer session its Amazing may Allah reward u and your team abundantly ❤

[@SamiawaheedSamiawaheed-cf9xx]

Amazing استاد

[@ypesh]

Really good answer at the end, parents do isolate themselves, really appreciate this video. 🎉

[@furqansaeed6446]

Ustad! You are really transforming the lives of many. Plz give any reference that at the time of Sahaba (R.A), they used to talk to whom they wanted to marry, under the supervision of the family. Your answer will help us more in this regard. Jzk

[@farheenjebi8918]

Subhan allah ....jazak Allah khair ...sir

[@ShaistaImran-f3p]

Apky sb lectures dil ko choony waly hein❤

[@lotuspocus76312]

The first question, at around 1:22....I dont think I am depressed because I am not married to a muslim man. I was married so many times before I became a muslim...I dont think waiting for the right person is a wrong thing. I know religion says "being married" is the best thing that can happen to you, even when we look at protection from the devil, but...! Getting involved with the first person you see at such a young age isnt always the correct way. Your person that God has made for you isnt always the first or second choice. I still see so many struggles, the struggles men often joke about, like "they were warned about how difficult or a hand full a woman can be". Your woman is never difficult or a hand full. Your man isnt either. Fighting or being a hand full do not belong in a relationship in my eyes. Only respect and talking. So I feel like there is auch a huge pressure for young adults to get married so fast because of all the benefits of a good marriage, but I still question the rushing. I thought I met my life partner several times before. I divorced them every time. The ring sounds like a priority in life, when its not. Our relationship to Allah is the priority. I am a single female muslim woman, hitting the number of 50 regarding age in 3 years. I can tell and see the beauty and tragic in getting married so young. We should teach ourselves and our children its OK to say No, and its ok to be single.

[@hadithoftheday3858]

Sahih al-Bukhari 6436 Narrated Ibn `Abbas: I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "If the son of Adam (the human being) had two valleys of money, he would wish for a third, for nothing can fill the belly of Adam's son except dust, and Allah forgives him who repents to Him."

[@sadia.38]

❤💚🤍 Beloved Ustadh Nouman💚

[@fizaezainab4163]

The moment he said , " Maybe family is isolated , maybe family is not social " this is the root cause sometimes. Sir please do another session on this particular cause "daughters are not married because family is not social or maybe their priorities are different , maybe their priorities are attending religious gatherings or maybe spending time with nephews and sons, maybe watching dramas or maybe cooking or maybe playing games on phone, or maybe they gave up because out of 3 daughters 2 mentally disturbed and confused them with their demands so the third one suffers too, or maybe the 3rd one had any minor physical deficiency that's why they gave up.

[@SR15168]

The major cause of being not social or being in an isolation is there are too many disputes in families now adays that I have observed within my family even

[@ambreen4454]

Asa. It is amazing .

[@islamtheultimatetruth512]

Exactly 💯 5:13 if you have any physical problems society start telling us you have to study so someone may marry you blah blah blah Why don't they understand we were not sent here to marry someone only we have a bigger purpose 😂😅😅

[@rukhsananaz6838]

Jazak Allah khair

[@Fawzia87H]

Thanks brother Nouman. All the way from Somalia

[@saimatauseef6728]

جزاك الله خيرا و احسن الجزاء في الدارين🍃💞🍃

[@knowaboutislam-o3h]

right Absolutely ❤️

[@auycharxernaighn7893]

I love you for this Nouman sir ❤

[@mustakimsayyed5641]

I wish people should understand ke deen ne har cheez ko asan banaya tha, ham logo ne mushkil bana diya hai.

[@BTSARMY-sb8sh]

May Allah bless you Ustadh

[@eggshellsandyolk5746]

watching romantic movies and dramas at young age is also playing big role in this problem

[@sundusali6199]

This topic is something that is needed to be addressed.Got some understanding from that: 🛑Don’t compare your life to other people’s lives. 🛑Focus on your own purpose. 🔵Our life’s purpose is not only marrying. That should not be “only “the end of cliff’s climbing purpose. 🟣Daughters are not burden. 🔘Parents should socialize more. 🟢Everyone’s timeline is different. Also 🟢People who could not find someone in their four year educational period, does not mean they are anything less,the reason may b their focus was different at that age.

[@sahanajparvin1490]

SubhanAllah ❤ Maa Shaa Allah ❤️

[@selimchisty3222]

Yes sir I enjoyed it ...o Allah give me Big window 🪟 for my Herat....

[@hurmatashfeen6528]

Amazing bro MashaAllah❤❤❤

[@naseemshaikh1095]

Learnt a lesson amazing answer ustad

[@motivationjourney3599]

I love your content thank you so much for your valuable content

[@shaistashahid8943]

it's so realistic and this is happening every where

[@ishaqibrahim123]

sir plz Ap apne baki saare lectures urdu me b upload krwaden ?

[@Zakir.mondal]

Alhamdulilah May.Allah.bless.you. sir.allah.gives. your.jannatul.ferdus

[@za4347]

Yeh mera Sawaal tha but Alhumdulilah I found its answer 😊

[@MyWorld-h9e]

Mamma you can pinch in this is awesome❤❤

[@convinced_muslim]

facts....facts.....facts...May Allah connect all of the Ummah with Qur'an...

[@sabasaleem8330]

Sir . Aap bahut Acha Kam Kr rahy hain.you just pick the nerves

[@mahamsami2116]

Oh my god this is story of my family my mother never socialised bcz of my dad not good to her and now she can't find good proposal after my dad's death and my dad was never interested in our marriage now I'm 33 and my mom says get married but how ...I never got that freedom to talk to men and now how can I marry a stranger

[@nazishislam]

Try to be social and meet new people. If you click with someone, learn about their habits, and like them, you can send him a proposal. That's actually better than marrying a complete, complete stranger your mom would find you through a matchmaker. Trust me. I'm saying from my experience. I am 29 and couldn't find a better match for myself around and now my family is zabardasti arranging my wedding with a total stranger. I get really depressed about thinking about all this and this is affecting my relationship with my family. So, whenever you come across a good person yourself, give them a chance.

[@realitybeckons4120]

Marry a stranger by looking at his manners, how much his family is similar to yours and see how it goes. Don't go around shooting arrows at everybody and causing fitna

[@MahiMahi-xn8ub]

Sahaba APes ma bat Kia krty thy shadi SE phly ....... 3:30 . Please explain . It's mean we engagement k bad larka larki aps m bat Kr skty but with family supervision??

[@syedaummehumaira3081]

Nouman Ali khan Allah save you every time and every day and every years

[@samilyas]

We have lost that concept of involved community. We don't want to help but want to be helped. There's no two way engagement. The right of not being interfered upon is often mistranslated as apna apna. We have to get engaged with each other in the community as a single unit. Today even blood related brother is kept out of matters so the non related brother!!! Imagine his position.

[@durdurdikir4021]

#Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan Intelligent With Sincerity it's Call #Delightful 😊❤

[@criketlover9155]

great explanation

[@AishaTamimi-r9y]

Ma sha Allah tabark Alhumdulillah

[@rafiatouagbedinou437]

As salamou 'aleykoum dear brother Nouman Ali Khan. We need bayyina Institute in Afrika bi idhnillah

[@sadiaayyub9854]

I like so much your videos

[@shamsa.K2345]

Assalam o Alaikum ustad muhtram. Abi aap n shaba ka zikar kiya kindly guide books about it

[@ayeshakunni6908]

JazakAllah khair

[@leonzaki]

Islam me is par Shaadi se related ye highlighted hai ki, baalig hote hi jitna jaldi kardo to acha hai. Hamare Grand father aur grand mother tak ye sahi practice thi ki around 12-14 yrs tak ladkiyo ki Shaadi ho jati thi, ab Education ko itna importance dete hai Shaadi bohot delay hoti, society me Zina, extra marital affairs aur bohot si kharabiya spread ho rahi hai. Wo to hamare Mom Dad ne Education itna importance diya ke Deen ka ye Ahkam (Nikah) ko easy le liya. Jab ke ye Hadis hai ke, Shaadi ke Baad apka Deen Complete hota hai. Nahi young ho ya old chahiye DUNYA. Deen jo spare time me mil gaye kafi hai, baki Rasul saw ki ummat hai, jannat to mil hi jayegi, ye soch hai. ALLAH swt hidayat aur Amal ki taufeeq ata kare hum sab ko

[@mauroofsultan6887]

Jazak Allah brother

[@maliksami5448]

Dr shb you are great person Love you

[@shabananiazi9083]

Ah I love your videos and they way they are covered and edited..!Hats off to you and your team MashaAllah❤

[@Sabayousaf-z6q]

Exactly on the point....

[@shamimaranawaz1102]

SubhanAllaah ,my brother , May Allaahu Swt bless you, Aameen

[@MR7030-o1o]

Amazing ❤

[@NASRINMALEQUE]

Puri Quran plz hindi me tranlet kar k samjhana hai plz sir aap hlp kijiiye..