A Real Day in My Life Living Alone (how I actually feel)

Here's what a day off in my life can look like. I also wanted to share some thoughts on living alone, loneliness, relationships and boredom.
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[@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701]

“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” -Robin Williams

[@KarmaOfDisgust]

I think its equal, because being alone for a very long time may make You crazy

[@cha2117]

@@KarmaOfDisgust People can make you crazy though.

[@me7od1e]

Facts

[@Edanasaur]

It's shame he didn't realise that no one can make you feel anything. You are responsible for your own emotions.

[@BluArtistEyes]

@@Edanasaur the reason it is so relatable though is everyone's been around people too self absorbed or with bully like mentality to make you feel like you're important and seen. So though ultimately you're in power of your feelings, people with mental problems or extreme depression don't have that same power over thoughts that sometimes make you feel things like loneliness

[@Akta]

I think for introverts, sometimes living alone can be dangerous territory because we can end up being so comfortable with it, and I sometimes find it even harder to be around others for longer periods when I'm so used to being myself. That being said, I do think cultivating a good relationship with yourself is the most important relationship to invest in

[@morningglory.213]

But I low-key like that “I don’t need anyone” but it hurts I get it- I have a hard time asking from help from others as I feel like “I wouldn’t be independent “ it’s a fucked up place to be in but idk

[@speadlove7194]

oh my gosh, that's so me. I get exhausted when I hang out with others and lot of times I suck at making conversation.

[@finewoodworking1080]

No cap I barely talk to people at school now after quarantine

[@EduardoSantos-pv8yo]

Sometimes I think about it. The problem is when I look around I just see people who doesn't have almost anything in common with me. If you want to hang out with someone I think you should hang out with someone who has the same interests that you do.

[@yovannyflores4820]

You figured out a way to say what I couldn't find the rigth words to lol, well said🙌🙌.

[@janetaltamirano4145]

The only thing I didn’t like is that the video is too short. Other than that, loved it!

[@lianvitos]

I was about to write the same

[@zeeshanshahidansari9425]

@@lianvitos I think, people usually watch short videos. Long videos make them bore quickly. She is doing good job btw. :-) :-)

[@AlexBlank]

I love living alone. Visiting people close to me can be refreshing, but ultimately I always look forward to locking myself up in my own little world :)

[@intentionalliving7326]

🤗

[@sennosc]

yasss. i'm currently renting room after a few months of living alone in flat and this is a nightmare for me ;/ like i don't have enough space, i cant cook whetever i want etc. , but i was ranning out of money.

[@jelly3457]

🤍

[@LanaBlakely]

Exactly ☺️

[@caborabassa696]

Same here :)

[@TechLead]

Pro-tip: If you live with your parents, you'll never be alone nor would you have to spend hours cooking.

[@ShahGamingPro]

How did i never think of that

[@lana8008]

Haha that’s my plan. I’m not trying to end up paranoid at night cuz I’m alone

[@moza260]

wow

[@Hamless_Kiwi]

Nooo...that’s a great way to never becoming fully independent and becoming that 50 year old dude in his moms basement

[@lana8008]

@@Hamless_Kiwi not unless you get married. I’m basically waiting for marriage to move out cuz it’s better for me mentally

[@FitKitchenCreations]

There is a French saying that I believe exists in every culture: “It’s better to be alone than in bad company”... 😊

[@jonathandecaudin7410]

Il vaut être mieux être seul que mal accompagné .. :)

[@_shumba]

Very true. I also like the saying that goes "you are the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most". Apart from family members, I hang out with myself mostly; I guess that means my average is pretty awesome... Just kidding but someone has to be pretty special to be considered a friend in this generation.

[@sheheryar89]

Well, that's more like a universal saying. 😅

[@santiescobar9171]

"Mejor sólo que mal acompañado" It's also a pretty popular spanish saying 👌

[@BrotherTree1]

That's where we find our individuality. Crucial to keep society functioning stably 👍

[@katieblake]

Living alone really shows you who you are

[@manicecile]

Love this comment

[@nictoo49]

Ask me. I think I have lived very successfully and happily all my life living alone and now I am 71 and I still enjoy it even more than before.

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Happiness starts with YOU. Not with relationships, not with your job, not with your money, but with YOU.” 🙏🏽

[@victoriaverderico4103]

Well yeah but it's kind of hard to be happy when you are not even able to pay for food or rent don't you think?

[@aimeejane_writings]

Who said that? Please can you state it?

[@niutochophi2334]

Well said @ICEcold JT

[@dghvdhfhhb6405]

Tell that to the people that need to put food on their table

[@melarisuna9291]

The smile on Lana's face when opening the camera is just pure joy😍

[@IshaSharma11]

So true ❤✔

[@DCPinoy914]

3 criticism: -did not tell us the shows you're watching -did not share your sushi with us 😠 -and the video is too short 🙃need more plzzz

[@VivianValeriena]

😆😆 this is a cute criticism 😆😆

[@abigailarana6564]

I'm the only one that thinks every single day she gets more beautiful and blooming🥰

[@IhsanhaqanVlogs]

Hello

[@dessreyes4655]

I agree! She looks happier in this video 😀

[@MuchLove-3]

I think she looks more feminine and lovely in this video due to her cute dress 🥰.

[@mimidoomgbasha5882]

I'm witchu darling 😂

[@IshaSharma11]

No girl, I'm with you ❤

[@PureNoirette]

I have learned so much about myself from living alone for a few years...it wasn't always easy but still the best time of my life

[@the300XM8]

It is weird how after a while you build your inner world, and then all of a sudden, people find you interesting and want to hang out with you

[@IshaSharma11]

Exactly, its the best time we explore

[@tumorlolita]

Same. What a surprise 😊

[@PureNoirette]

@@the300XM8 I noticed that too..went abroad, did some healing, and suddenly I have all these messages pop up on my facebook, Instagram and Linkedin from people who ignored me for bs and now want to hang out..always know your worth and do what is best for you! :)

[@voguemolly]

minimalism looks so peaceful

[@IshaSharma11]

Yeas, its so soothing

[@sophiayuna]

yessss

[@intentionalliving7326]

🙌🏻🤗

[@LivingWellMedia]

It is. I used to have terrible anxiety. Every since my minimalism journey I feel much calmer/ at peace with life.

[@RobertbKey]

I love the authenticity that you have, Lana, in practically all of your videos that I have ever seen. It’s a distinguishable contrast between other KZbinrs who encourage rapid spontaneity in their videos to keep their audience hooked. You keep us hooked by *showing* us your story in a variety of changing clips that doesn’t come across as “keeping us entertained,” but rather. . . As just another human being sharing their thoughts with us. Said another way, in an editing style that really matches the personality you come across showing us. I don’t know if I am in a position to suggest any particular “constructive feedback” as I really do love your style, Lana! It comes across as having a conversation rather than simply being “told” something. Just my thoughts! I really appreciated your video is all! 🙂

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you so much Robert!!

[@lukove671]

"I really do love your style, Lana! It comes across as having a conversation rather than simply being “told” something." Yes, I felt/noticed the same, you put it into words, thank you!

[@DyslexicMitochondria]

I have been single all my life. Being single has taught me to love myself. I love spending time with myself. I love doing things that make me happy, like making videos. Once you start being with yourself, you don't really need someone else's company

[@sterlingarcher8041]

well said

[@tomhappening]

aww

[@epicstuff7522]

cute

[@tompp894]

Interesting selflove is to be more open to yourself ♥️😊🥰

[@SteAndRach]

Love that you documented your day off, Lana. I feel like in today's world, where everyone is constantly trying to be productive, we tend to forget that taking a day to recharge can be the best move to be productive in the long term! 💛🙌

[@wouldiwas8520]

I like that your life looks so peaceful and quiet that I nearly don't feel the pressure of "I should be doing something useful". I hope one day I could live a similar life.

[@niloofar9113]

i love living alone! When i lived in Korea, the freedom that came with it, and getting to truly know yourself is amazing. This is one of my favorite videos that you have posted thus far! I love these types. Please do post more. Its interesting to see your reactions over the simple things in life. Thats what I thing is beautiful. Appreciating the moment and simplicity of life. And knowing what is going through your head during these small moments. That is what is truly beautiful! Love you girl xo

[@LanaBlakely]

Thanks so much!! ❤️ glad you liked this concept

[@shawnd.8498]

I lived in Korea as well, 5 years in Ulsan, 3 in Seoul.

[@lynettechua3031]

@@LanaBlakely i did too!

[@maryv2666]

Such a calming video. Your videos really help when I’m having anxiety!

[@LanaBlakely]

❤️❤️

[@AhmetKaan]

*"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."* I believe in you my friend, never give up...

[@edu-mq5yy]

One of the best comments sections. Really appreciate Lana for creating this amazing community.

[@LanaBlakely]

Yes!! ☺️

[@dlsolof]

Hearing that so many Swedes live alone was interesting for me. I felt very comfortable in Stockholm, like there was zero judgment spending the entire day by myself. I remember eating alone in a restaurant in New York City a few years ago and getting stared at. I wondered why people were staring. If you could unpack what it is about Sweden that makes people so comfortable with solitude, I’d enjoy hearing about that 😊

[@intentionalliving7326]

How neat to notice the difference! Thank you for sharing that 🤗

[@zerowofiles]

Now I kinda want to know more about their culture :)) thanks for sharing this

[@writeitdown2013]

I love the way you emphasize how living alone can affect our habits and standards. I just moved back with my parents while I shop for my first house. When I buy the house I'll likely be living alone. I hope to maintain cleanliness and positive habits even though I know no one is there to notice. Thanks for such a thoughtful video!

[@IhsanhaqanVlogs]

Hello

[@LanaBlakely]

My cleanliness has reached a whole different level since living alone. I pretty much start each day vacuuming 😅

[@writeitdown2013]

@@LanaBlakely that's good to hear! I hope to do the same once I've bought my home, I really want to keep things neat

[@philipjones9586]

I honestly love the format of these videos! I've never lived alone, but I've really wanted to. Just the social interaction from living with people drains me sometimes, and it leaves me kinda frustrated.

[@jaimetan]

I love how you find beauty in the small things. It’s such a great reminder to the rest of us too... that taking the time to be in the moment whether it’s figuring out your new toy (gorgeous camera!) or just walking out in nature and simply “being” and enjoying the moment... is enough. Thanks Lana! 🙌

[@SamElle]

lana, I just wanted to say your videos have such a great calming effect and honestly helps me feel a lot less alone!!! thank you so so much

[@TakeBackYourMind997]

I totally relate to the walks, it's the perfect time for me to check in with myself. So important we make time to do that!

[@stories-of-elle]

sometimes living alone can get pretty lonely, watching your videos is like therapy. Love u.

[@trishalamohan7485]

Your videos calm me when I need it the most, I come to your vlogs.🌻

[@jkc-kp]

This was really comforting. Being the youngest of 4 siblings, I am left in our parents house. My parents stay in a different house as well, making me the only one left in this house. And it's so dark and quiet.

[@paradigmshifttaro]

Honestly I really like your personality , it encourages everyone. We are two different people struggling with different things in life in different continents yet has such similarities to our life

[@PsychedelicActualization]

Sometimes, you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. And you learn a lot about yourself ❤️🙏🏽

[@Anthony-nq4ki]

You are so right. I learned more about life exploring on my own and being by myself.

[@satwantsingh9627]

Its your voice that i come here all the time... i feel relaxed and always click on video to listen to your soothing slow voice. I don't know how many other subscribers/watcher do it or i am the only one, but i like to keep your video on loop and in background once i have watched it. Thing that i would like you to continue is the slow talking. (especially love the way you " I " ).

[@dilarap3067]

I love your videos. It makes me feel so calm, never have that feeeling in my life except while watching your videos.... I just get so much peace watching your format and hearing the calming voice and background noises. Thank you for this incredible channel and thank you for your Newsletter, it love it.

[@IshaSharma11]

She is so calm✔

[@hdonly4k]

Every day, watching your videos gives me positive energy to complete the rest of my day Your advice is great and your style is simple, which really attracts more attention. Your channel is a channel that deserves all the encouragement and praise

[@investinstyle-financeinves1181]

It's great to be reminded that low key moments are just as important in life as the ones where you're working hard.

[@intentionalliving7326]

🙌🏻 the best ideas happen as we wonder around with no agenda sometimes

[@WinnerCrespo]

Great to listen to you speaking in Swedish, it helps me with my learning process.

[@lulutales04]

I loved everything about this video. As someone else said, living alone can become problematic for some people, in particular, if they are introverts already. However, I really like the freedom to follow your inner pace in daily activities.

[@marving.5436]

I literally just listen to you all day, it's so refreshing to hear

[@JessBookgirlTV]

Lana, you did very good with this video. Living alone could get lonely at times. Plus, I love reading and writing, too.

[@jeffreykeomany8447]

I honestly like this format much better than your videos in the past. The laid back style and peaceful music is a nice touch

[@zachlove2689]

You are literally my dream woman. Not trying to simp or anything, it's just that you have qualities I would look for in a relationship.

[@IshaSharma11]

She is so beautiful ❤ and intellectual too ✔

[@zachlove2689]

@@IshaSharma11 Cute introverted girl who's idea of a good time is a walk in the woods or listening to a lecture on the life of Marcus Aurelius? Yes please!

[@gustavsson1977]

The calmness in your videos is quite extraordinary.

[@JohnnyKS2000]

I find due to this Pandemic Everyone is feeling a little strange, but as long as you realize it’s normal to feel a like lonely at this time your good. I find your voice very calming no matter what your talking about. ❤️

[@miketant3509]

I relate to this 1000%. From the walks, to photography, to writing, to always needing to go to the grocery store, and always cooking my own food! And yes, everything has it's own time. It's good to experience both having roommates and living alone. Great video!

[@TiziPhantomRS]

I'd like to thank you Lana for showing me a completely normal day in the life of a really calm person (I'm quite the same as you).

[@yungpapiepepe4184]

I'm getting so calm lately by watching your vids. The way you film, the way you edit, your serene and smooth voice.... Thx for calming us down in these special and sometimes hectic times

[@fikri3503]

I was wondering like, “where are the people like me?”. Well, I think you’re one of them. I mean, I deleted my social medias, live alone, taking a walk alone. Who does that these days? - I never see people around my age in my country (at least) doing stuffs like that. But I do enjoy the time at this point in my life.

[@MentalManasulo]

Me 🙂

[@Seca95]

Looking at your name I take it that you reside in Turkey, and yes, introverted people are not well-liked over there. My parents are from Turkey so I visit the country every few years. I've A-L-W-A-Y-S been commented on my quietness and introversion like it's some sort of mental disorder when I'm there, because people are either very bubbly, or they just talk for the sake of talking - and if you are not like that, then "obviously" something must be wrong with you, and they feel they have the right to look down on you while asking "why are you like this ?". So, may God be with ye' fellow introverts who live in extroverted countries! (sorry for venting :)

[@kashmirakaya6557]

@@Seca95 hahah I'm Indian and can totally relate. People assume I'm in a bad mood, or just rude... but I just like to be quiet and keep to myself until there's something/someone worth engaging with. I value my time and energy greatly. So yah, may we love and accept who we are even when others don't.

[@sheilamainebacanicamacho6845]

I do

[@dragonfang8670]

I love when around 5mins30seconds you said that you usually don’t get bored; this is so true, especially considering that being an introvert we find ways to keep ourselves entertained without needing much interaction from other people. My girlfriend asks me how I’m dealing so well with the lockdown, it’s just how it is, I love staying home and doing my own things, with her or alone.

[@i.m.fin_cefiroth]

04:40 - that was beautiful. That excitement in your eyes.

[@ivanamatijevic3445]

Your videos are so peaceful. Love the content you make.

[@darrenleephotography]

Your voice is actually so soothing

[@syedzohair]

You playing with the film camera just makes me happy😊

[@xStrayfex]

This was simply beautiful. Excellent shots and flow, the video was over before I knew it!

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you!!

[@ayushkajoshi482]

Your voice is sooo soothing and calm. Would love to listen to your podcast ✨

[@MisalignedMess]

Being alone can feel really lonely and boring at times, but it's also a great time to work on yourself and improve your life. That's what I'm currently doing, even though I feel my life is pretty good. There are always things that can improve.

[@yaranabil6473]

you inspire me a lot. I'm an introvert too and I really like your videos.keep going you make such a great content💕

[@brianrooney2529]

Being alone is quite peaceful but also very addicting. Trust me, I know how it feels. I did that for 2 months during the pandemic. No work, laying in bed the whole day everyday for 2 months, except when I would cook food or go out for groceries. You lose connection with reality, and your goals and life just feels empty. When your mind is not in the right place, it kinda throws you off rhythm and your left swinging for the fence the whole time. I had zero motivation to do anything and it still affects me today when I try to get some tasks done. You know when you are trying do work and then take a quick break, and then ends up wasting a whole hour without even realizing it. But even to this day I don't regret taking that time off. Though being like a potato is very addicting, it was also very powerful and helped me developing a sense of realization of what I usually just do on a daily basis and how I often spend my time doing certain stuff that may not seem very uplifting. It left me in a state of trance, from where I had to pick myself back up and throw myself back into system. I enjoyed that time while it lasted, but you gotta work when you have to work.

[@PurpleSirens]

I love this almost vlog like style. It’s more raw and so interesting to see more of the simple personal aspects of your life.

[@CyndyTangerineyyyy]

Your hair is so lovely, Lana!

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you!! 🥰

[@sabrinarachel6053]

Honestly, loved all of the video, it’s nice and calming! I think it’s nice to have a balance between alone time and time with friends/family/people, because I feel like both have a lot of value. Making time to be with both yourself and others ig.

[@harmony2368]

Miss Blakely is a peaceful snow.

[@Connectingthedots.]

Amazing. This video is raw, it depicts such a simple, pure truth. Life as it is for you. Without the "fillers" that we typically see. I enjoyed this video, thank you.

[@ryanap]

You are truly amazing 🧡

[@shoubhikchatterjee1810]

I loved how u enjoy your loneliness and schedule your day

[@maiamaiapapaya]

Lana, you are such a beautiful person. Your perspective on the world grounds me and inspires me. I honestly have no constructive criticism, I loved watching this video. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you for your kind words 🥰

[@thesingingcryptofairy]

this reminded me of my first job abroad. I was living alone in a new city, it was exciting to meet new people, but I had the opportunity to go home afterwards and be by myself. A great time of my life. I liked this format a lot, I enjoyed you embracing your alone time and being honest about your feelings throughout the day

[@Leoo117]

I think everyone should live alone at least once. It really helps us to get to know ourselves and appreciate the value of our own time and money. Which makes us less likely to squander either of them.

[@dooorthvader]

I like that Lana reminds me to slow down and enjoy the present moment

[@grllz]

Love that you speak swedish in this video often, it makes it even more authentic! ☆

[@stacey1480]

Hello!! I think time lapses of the view outside your window, or you writting on your journal can be also interesting to see! Those camera shots that makes us feel more connected or aware of your area/zone 🌞🙌🏼 amazing video

[@olesiasense]

i just moved today, thank you for this video, i needed it

[@intentionalliving7326]

Happy new beginnings 🤗

[@olesiasense]

@@intentionalliving7326 thank you 🌸☺️

[@artsydoll888]

being alone is addictive it is so comforting especially for me coming from a chaotic and dysfunctional upbringing.

[@markokircanski9157]

Being an INFJ, I love living alone, but there is loneliness for sure... So happy for your podcast! :) And that was so lovely seeing you smile when you got your film camera, that was so heartwarming... :) Thank you for opening the doors to your home Lana, and for doing what you're doing. These videos bring me a lot of peace and serenity every Sunday, thank you. :)

[@soundous.boualam]

You, your life, your flat, your voice, all seem and sound like a trip to a bucolic place filled with nature and peace. Thank you.

[@laduchafriaoficial]

Great content Lana, as always 😌 Greetings from Spain!

[@alexarivera9076]

Amo España 🇪🇸

[@kirbynavaja30]

@@Analysis_Paralysis Swedish

[@frfhr]

I’ve moved alone to Japan (from Europe) a year and a half ago. I thought I would visit my family after a year or after 10 months, but the pandemic has started and made it impossible. Also went through a sad breakup. I’ve had to learn to be alone, face “solitude” and the fact that I cannot just go back home. First, it was brutal, then it became a bliss. I’ve learned to love my own company and not relate on others. Also, living alone makes you a great chef & independent. 😁 I loved this video! 💌 Thank you!☺️

[@ThatGirlAbbie]

You are such a breath of fresh air 💛

[@jsmnlee]

boredom is so underrated, especially when it comes to finding inspiration and getting creative

[@im_gabriela9488]

Having got some energy from this video and you! 💓

[@Nadine-kw1nx]

You know, I look at you like you're my sister. Given our same age, personality type, and having similar thoughts and ideas. You gained yourself a subscriber sis.

[@MrExpert]

Calm :)

[@amilinduwijesinghe]

This video truly has that calming effect.

[@nikolaypetrov7568]

The format is perfect, and like always, I love your voice. I use your videos to relax and to practice English, so I am a fan :)

[@shradhanayak2829]

Spilling Self-love, this video! 🧿💫❤️

[@riannaxx5273]

You seem so happy and this video was so beautiful and peaceful, I don’t have anything to criticize, thank you lana💗🦋

[@ramki9196]

almost felt like I took the day off for 8 minutes. takeout and Netflix :) I feel you. I am told that I am an introvert. May be I am. I feel nothing is better than something. I live by myself for 2 years on an apartment. My world is so small these days, internet + netflix + takeout + grocery drive + work

[@rcjacksonbrighton]

Great video! Honestly most of my favourite and most magical moments are alone. I just LOVE to connect deeply to myself and life, god, nature... and I have many many blissed out moments and days, all of which are alone ☺️

[@meghaananth]

Thank you Lana for letting us know that living alone is not all that bad 🙂

[@meauxx9863]

You have such a relaxed, engaging presence on camera. Keep up the great work.

[@arving.4441]

You're so beautiful, Lana. I also love your hair

[@CarloGonzalezTV]

Everything about this video is so beautiful. Every. Single. Detail. I loved every minute of it. Thank you for sharing, I hope you’re well!

[@CyndyTangerineyyyy]

This was such a calming & peaceful vlog, Lana! Very therapeutic to watch. ^__^

[@a.cinnamon6579]

I think it's great that you are finding yourself first. Before being in a committed relationship. Something I didn't do so it took me along time to figure myself out while taking care of my children.

[@AlIbrahim]

Brushing your teeth on the couch is such a boss move! Also, that's a beautiful camera, I've always wanted a medium format.

[@mayanzamir2182]

One of my favorite videos of you, I love this format

[@LanaBlakely]

Oh thank you!!

[@travelaroundtheworldtravel2194]

i would love hear more of your " raw thoughts" and feelings u have in the exact moment you do the video. Somethimes i feel i live to much inside my head (in my thoughts), so its very interesting to hear your thoughts and ideas.

[@travelaroundtheworldtravel2194]

Thank you so much Lana for the thumps up😍 much apprichiated greetings from switzerland

[@rogeliolojo5214]

You really calms me down . Your vids.. help me with my anxiety .

[@johnbcoxmusic]

The introvert in me says, ah alone at last. Investing in appreciating being single, working on spiritual growth in order to better help others. I cannot make it without God alone first!

[@piotrchwalek6925]

I’m usually watching your videos on night shift during breaks and all I can say is you are like ocean of peace. Would be wonderful to talk to person like you;)