a video for the quiet girls

[@L33tski19]

As a quiet in high school and in general this felt so real.

[@desireepolloreno1069]

I have always been the quiet girl, I am older than you but I felt seen. High school was the worst, I would avoid going. Or go very late to school just so I don't have to deal with being alone. I had one friend who was also quiet but she left in junior year. I went late or didn't show up almost every day, my mom worked in the cafeteria. I sometimes used to wish I could do high school all over again, just to change my high school experiences. But think everything won't change because it's you. You are the shy quiet social anxiety introvert and you can't change that. I remember sitting in class and girls that never talked to me, said omg you wear makeup, and I thought maybe they wanted to be friends. But then they never talked to me after that. The quiet friend I had, had more friends than me. She would invite me to do things with her friends, but I had really bad social anxiety. I wouldn't talk to them, and they just avoided talking to me. imagine trying to talk but words don't come out. I would hang out with them but talk to no one in the group, which made me feel a lot more alone. How do you get yourself to start doing KZbin? I have been trying but can't get myself to start. I only did one and got really bad anxiety about it. PS I watch some of your other videos, and love your style.

[@flowlotl]

I know it feels like you're alone, but I could relate to everything you said -- just remember that your worth is not defined by how introverted or extroverted you are. I also had anxiety about starting my channel but it was more of a comfort to me knowing that If I couldn't express myself verbally I could at least do it here. It's hard talking to the camera and I'm still not used to it, but that's where the power of editing comes in! Trust me if my videos weren't edited I would sound like the most awkward person alive lol. I really encourage you to keep making videos and make them only for yourself and don't worry about numbers or who's watching. Art Is the important way of expression especially for quiet people like us! Thank you so much for watching my videos and the support

[@desireepolloreno1069]

thank you, I will keep trying to make videos, for me. I think it will help me get out of my shell. @@flowlotl

[@teamili7957]

This comment was from a month ago, and i will be graduating highschool next month in may. I definitely resonate with you. Whenever i am with my friend in her friend group, nobody from the group talks or notices me, and my thoughts make me think that they don't want me there. It sucks because my friend is the only one that i really hang around with in school, so if i leave her, then she'll feel betrayed, and I'd be alone. Prom is going to be hell for me, but im still going. I still need the experiences, even if i will just be following my friend around..

[@paigeebradley_]

i feel like i don't belong here because i've always had friends, i've never had to eat lunch alone, or eat in the bathroom. but i've always been the quiet girl. i've always been the girl who doesn't speak up in class. the girl who never gets invited even in her own friendgroup. i've always hid my "true" personality online or even in my bedroom. and either way i don't get invited. i get looked at weird. all my friends are liked better then me. i'm weird without even being my full self. i've never been myself around others because then i would be the weird kid. the one that nobody speaks to. so i hide it. and i feel like i don't belong anywhere because of that. i can't even relate in the introverted "community" or to so many people to all relate to you. but thank you, i relate to some aspects of this and it makes me feel some sort of belonging

[@SpaceCatt99]

I relate to this feeling a lot. Highschool was a hard time and I remember having so much anxiety. I had a few friends and one friend I was really close with. But most of the time I didn’t talk to anyone during class and sometimes it felt kind of lonely. I had a difficult time relating to people and wasn’t interested in the typical highschool drama/gossip. The public school system isn’t very accommodating to quiet people. I didn’t like the system and I feel like it needs to improve. I felt restricted. Sitting in a desk all day, having to eat at the cafeteria, etc. I am a hands on learner. I like to feel connected with the earth and be present. Sometimes it’s nice to just be quiet and exist. I was called awkward and weird in high school and it used to hurt my feelings. But I have accepted who I am. I think a lot of quiet people are interested in art because it’s a way to express ourselves or for some it’s just relaxing. Art is my comfort. Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I really like how you did the video as well.

[@flowlotl]

I managed to avoid a good two years of highschool due to the pandemic and it was truly a blessing lol but I agree that introverted people are keen to being more creative. I'm glad you liked the video

[@jennamottier5497]

Thank you for mentioning the agreement among quiet people. Sitting in silence can be awesome :)

[@fleshfactoryy]

this video really resonated w me, def spent my fair share of lunches in the library and wouldn't wish it on anyone :(

[@kyramenezes]

I don't think I have ever felt this seen. I'm still in high school and people will walk past me with their backpack swinging and hitting me and not even notice because they don't have any awareness of their surroundings, and at mealtimes I try to oscillate between friend groups I'm not apart of but I'm learning to find peace in this situation at least until I go to college. I'm just trying to get through the nect 1 1/5 years and I think I'm going to keep coming back to this video as well as the comment section because it feels so much better to see evidence of actual people with the same experiences. I wasn't always this lonely but it's not the first time in my life that I've felt like I have no genuine friends but I'm fortunate enough to have access to therapy. To everyone else here, I see you, hang in there. :)

[@kimiakaidan]

i found this video from tiktok and i’m so glad i did. this is the best youtube video i’ve watched in years.

[@flowlotl]

Omg that means so much to me!! thank u so much

[@annak8436]

thank u recommended tab omg i can so relate on not having any real friends and the comments people make on me for being quiet i hope it’s a bit different at uni but i’m going to have to get way out of my comfort zone which is scary as hell 🥹

[@flowlotl]

I think college is a lot different from highscool so hopefully it can be a better place for you to grow -- but I wish you luck!

[@luisascheid164]

this video is so relatable to me. thank u for that

[@janetsnakehole4836]

your experiences and thoughts are so relatable as a quiet person

[@emmaegel5803]

Thank you for being so vulnerable..I think a lot of times sitting in silence can either be very pleasant or deafening. no inbetwen. For as long as I can remember, I’ve never shared the same interests or niches with the people I’ve surrounded myself with my entire life. Always felt outcasted and feel like I come off as a weird individual to some. I know I have a big heart. Big aspirations. Big dreams. But I’m so insecure about how silent I can be, and how awkward. I think I just have to understand not everyone will like me, even when I am my most loyal, quirky self. And that’s alright with me because I’m finally at a point in my life where I’m beginning to feel okay with who I am as a human being. That’s all I need.

[@emmaegel5803]

I hope if anyone reads this knows you’re not unlovable, nor too bizarre. You’re mot a burden. Not too broken beyond repairs. You will flourish and shine in due time 🐛🦋✨🪐

[@kawaiiakuma1909]

Wow, I haven't commented on a video for a long time but now I just have to! It is absolutely crazy how much I can relate with the things you say, not only in this video but also in the fashion trends video and basically every single one I've watched to far!! I think I've never related more to someone and it's totally blowing my mind haha!! Thank you so so much for making those videos and sharing your thoughts and your art!! 🖤✨️

[@flowlotl]

Yay I'm so glad!! It makes me so happy that people like you understand my videos and can connect with them. That's all I ever wanted. Thank u so much for the support 💕

[@chioma2844]

This video came out on my birthday last year and I deeply relate to it. I only discovered your KZbin channel this year 2024,and seeing this now on dec 19 feels like a late birthday gift lol! I even have a similar video on my KZbin that I made a year ago! Thanks 4 this!

[@karolinakotwicka4471]

wow, I can relate so much

[@SUMLIGHTZ]

i really like this video 23:22 was my favorite part haha, we are in the same boat. Turning 20 this year and trying to come to terms I will no longer have “-teen” as the end of my age.

[@fair5075]

14:37 too real 😭

[@hannah.e6478]

such a special video, I love all your videos and how personally artistic they are

[@flowlotl]

thank you

[@colomba7619]

im so in love with your videos, thanks 4 this i can relate so much omg

[@stargirl_lee]

I don’t know if this video just now got un-privated, as I’ve never seen it before and it showed up on recommended, but I wish I could give you a hug. As an extrovert, I’ve always been intrigued by introverts, only to scare them off usually. I love how deep and reflective you are🤍 nothing is wrong with you, everybody is different, and we all coexist for balance~

[@flowlotl]

AWWWW extrovert x introvert friendships have genuinely always been the most fulfilling friendships I've had in my life so u will never scare me away tehehhe 🥹

[@everythingsydn3y]

i really loved this video and as a fellow introvert i relate a lot!!!! 💞

[@Bieski5]

Thankyou 🌻

[@SUMLIGHTZ]

thank you

[@rosalinahasbay5017]

you are too cool. and you really loook and remind me of when i was a few years younger, it’s reassuring to see someone external… and be like wow things weren’t as bad as I thought it was and I was actually pretty cool. Hun stick to what you are doing. you’re growing great. from some 25 year old from the future haha

[@daniellesarah_]

Yay you posted a new video - perfect timing xxxxxx

[@flowlotl]

thank u for watching

[@sincerelyhafsa]

this video is everything 🥲💗🫶🏽

[@flowlotl]

thank u queen 🫡🥹

[@studiowylen]

Thank you

[@takeheartmyfr1end]

i’d consider myself on the more extroverted side of being an ambivert, but i’ve never really felt included in any group i’ve been in. i’m a senior in high school now, and i’ve tried to make friends countless times, and the connections never last. i always try to keep up a happy facade at school, and i think it works, but i’ve always longed to have real friends, people who see me as i am and don’t try to change me. being so close to college, it’s difficult to feel comfortable in this period of in between adulthood and childhood, and even more difficult when i don’t really have anyone to lean on that’s my own age. i discovered this channel last week and i felt so seen. i always try to look out for the outcasts, the lonely girls, the quiet people, and make them feel the same way as this channel does: loved, safe, at peace, and happy. thank you so much for this video; you really do seem like a friend from far away to me. with love, mer 🩵🩵

[@flowlotl]

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