A Warning To Career-driven Muslimahs | A Woman's Marital Value Reduces As She Ages - Abu Khadeejah

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[@abuyaqoob_]

May Allah preserve our shaykh for indeed he has spoken the truth

[@hwerdoirnaui]

Pure Gold

[@ajassimanwar]

Jazakallahu Khair

[@ummkhadijahtu1]

BaarakAllaahu feek

[@Base.]

May Allah bless the brother! A very beneficial lecture.

[@sumaya1585]

Its hard to explain this to ones mahram. A woman is under the guardianship of her father, what he says is what will go. It's not like us sisters are unaware of this, its that we are under the guardianship of our fathers and they want us to study so we can work and take care of them.

[@jagenaught]

Well to a point but you can still choose not to work once you're married. I do agree with you though on the issue of fathers. I blame the men who encourage this career thing.

[@seiji99]

@@jagenaughtabsolutely. I am being forced to study but also I did it to myself bc back then I didn‘t have this mindset of wanting to be a houswife. Now I have that mindset but I am in Uni (I study education for primary school) and have to study and work bc my parents want me to to that. Esp my father encouraged me to do this... I am like 2 years in. If I get married now in the near future and quit uni they will be so disappointed in me. My sister already quit and my parents are nagging 24/7 how she is a failure to the family….and she quit 1 month after applying. If I quit they will get a heart attack😅I have to do internships study for exams and all even tho I know I don‘t wanna work later🥲i could use this time for Quran or learning the deen

[@alizzahkhann]

​​@@seiji99 exactly, i have recently realised that nurturing a family is far better that being career-oriented. even muslimahs these days do not seem to value homemakers. i ain't buying into that hoodwink. earlier, i had myriad of aspirations but i was pretty far from being pious. however, now my lord have guided me since i have started observing hijab and niqab the right way. i mean i want to study enough to be intellectual. but this corporate culture and free mixing bugs me everytime. may allah grant us righteous spouses who'd value us for what we are.

[@shalimar7517]

Muslim sisters can visit non-Muslim female doctor's, alhamdulilah. Very simple

[@jussuj8158]

Are you that close minded? What about muslim countries where 99% people are muslim and there are no kaafir doctors?

[@abuyaqoob_]

@@jussuj8158still doesn’t mean you go and become one when there are others who will take up that position

[@jussuj8158]

@abuyaqoob5094 no? If everyone has this mentality no one will become a doctor? Why would they if they know it can make their marriage break apart. Also you are okay with your muslim sisters to do this as long as they aren't your wife? That's what your saying and it's really narrow mindedness,insecurity and hypocrisy

[@jussuj8158]

@abuyaqoob5094 there is no hadith, no ayah prohibiting women from becoming doctors only this youtuber small minded sheikh saying so. I'm actually anti feminism but this is just plain idiocricy

[@abuyaqoob_]

@@jussuj8158 it’s not just doctors it’s careers in general but his point is still valid. You’re free to go ahead and chase a career and see where that gets you👍🏾

[@Mrs.K100]

Hard pill to swallow for many “The best men want young virgins” . That speech may encourage even more overly entitled, cocky teenage bratty bahvior. .. not something the ummah needs! Most certainly the uncle is correct on many points especially on that an aged female won’t give many children. Would uncle comfortably turn to his mother and tell her she is now useless? Could a woman who’s children are older run one of her husbands businesses? Could she apply wisdom learned in life to support her husband through his challenges. … in a manner that khadija did.

[@ZaibCookingSV]

This has become an epidemic in kashmir everywhere we use parents sending their daughters to far away countries for MBBS so that society tomorrow can say Aapki baiti doctor ha(your daughter is a doctor) for the sake of praise of community and society they do this How is it allowed when a girls leaves her home and remains in far flung countries for 8+ years without a mahram and and they have no mahram with them to travel back and forth Our society is going more and more towards materialistic tendencies The worst part one can't reason with such parents they will always shut a person down by brining their own rulings and laws

[@Mrs.K100]

@@ZaibCookingSV true. Killings are rising also, maybe cause men are repressed and frustrated, they are getting very very week adopting child like habits and bad attitude towards praying and deen in general. Very sad indeed. Those types of women are not always great to be around either. Maybe the older sister should train to be female doctors once her children are grown

[@ZaibCookingSV]

Here it's all about status, money, respect it's like a matrix here everyone is following everyone when it comes to competing a society of sheep Even they never have the niyyah that when their daughters will come out thru will help other women their niyyah is desires, for the sake of society They start at age 20 and for about 20+ years these career driven women have to study that means around 40 years and yes they marry late, they give no time to deen, if someone tries to advice them not to send their daughters they become defensive all of sudden saying "you want women to be kept in caves, homes Some mothers even go to the extreme of sayings" I want my daughter to study at a free mixing university so that she will learn something otherwise if she be in a all women university she won't learn anything " Imagine wasting 20 to 25 years of life on medicine just for the sake of society calling them doctors, society praising them, they getting respect, they getting huge benefits of pharma, working in free mixing environment,money while neglecting marriage, deen, tawheed, children

[@Mrs.K100]

@@ZaibCookingSV I respect your ability to see and speak the truth. Would be solved by raising the entry level age to 30+ across mainstream education establishments. A grown woman would much rather be attended to by a female adult in a last resort visit to hospital.

[@df5781]

What speech exactly

[@sohrab4497]

We don't need women to bacome engineers, journalists and other work fields which men can also do but there are things like nurses and doctors which there is a need for women to get that education. I wouldn't introduce my wife to a male doctor and Abu Khadije wouldn't likely do the same so in that case we need women doctors.

[@shalimar7517]

A sister could always go to a non-Muslim female doctor, alhamdulilah.

[@taalibal-hadith1327]

@@shalimar7517 what about muslim countries where non muslims are a minority ? The amount of women medical practicitioners required would never be able to meet the supply. There is nothing in Islam stopping women from becoming doctors. The reason why we need women doctors is because we dont want our women going to non-mahram male doctors.

[@NM-zw7qu]

@@taalibal-hadith1327 a woman can get married first and then continue to work towards her degree/residency or whatever else is needed to become a doctor.

[@MahiAbdul123]

@@NM-zw7qu yes and then she can go work a 9-5 job in a stressful work environment which will drain her whiles also neglecting her husbands and kids.

[@NM-zw7qu]

@@MahiAbdul123 that might still be doable if the woman chooses to get married at a young age and raise her kids while attending school. By the time she becomes a doctor, her kids will be grown up lol. That’s why I said education that take years is not a feasible option for a Muslim woman. Your comment should have been directed towards @Talib above who is highly bent on Muslim women becoming doctors.

[@MahiAbdul123]

For all those saying we need female doctors in the muslim communities and this speech is toxic; I highly doubt his speech will lead to the scarcity of female doctors sense feminist aspire to be equal to men its inevitable that the kufur women will pursue this career path and occupy this occupation so there really isn't a need for muslimahs to become doctors sense the kufur women will happily sacrifice their lives and happiness in order to serve us you line of arguments isnt very logical just because 1 demographic doesnt pursue a certain occupation doesn't mean others wont, there'll always be someone to do the dirty work. Another point to mention is theres a growing number of average girls with the aspirations of becoming a doctor due to family pressure, alot of the times they only do this not because they want to on the contrary because the family force and brainwash them into it, and being a doctor is no easy task and is a competitive role and most of these sisters take the riba loan(declare war with Allah) just in order to enter a rubbish uni(because they arent smart enough or dont have the finances to enter a better uni) just so they can obtain the qualifications to become a doctor later finding out how competitive the role is and end up working your average job, their youth and fertility sacrificed for nothing and also majority of these sisters commit zina in these unis and end up pregnant with a kafir mans child anyways, or sense they have to travel alone without mahram(haram) by train to reach their uni or live in dorms with kafir men they become exposed to fitnah that inevitably destroy them.

[@junipercrawford1941]

𝖕𝖗𝖔𝖒𝖔𝖘𝖒 👌

[@jagenaught]

Sadly I see that the du'at don't implore women to be obedient to their husbands. It's become a taboo.

[@naseemweathers8358]

100% they tell women that obedience is slavery. No, it doesn’t mean that it means making the person happy the difference between obedience to the creation and obedience to creator.

[@The-J]

Don't know which du'at you're listening to. These du'at have been very vocal about obedience matters and rights of both husband and wife.

[@jagenaught]

@@The-J Not on recent times and they tend to be very lenient towards the sisters. Maybe 10-15 years ago. I mean Shamsi stated it. It's a discussion a few brothers have had. Obedience is rarely stated in recent times. Which duat speak about obedience?

[@anoniem012]

Even though we disagree regarding subject of rulers, besides that we have everything in common Elhamdulillah. Love you for the sake of Allah still

[@one-haqq]

what?? manhaj is everything

[@df5781]

You disagree with the Qur’an and sunnah?

[@Essameerah]

Why do u disagree with the sunnah? Brother, one thing is enough to take a person out of Ahlus sunnah... So my brother I request u to research this issue more and submit to the truth and not the emotions. May Allah guide us to that which is best

[@mohammadimran2219]

I can totally see some so called empowered women disagreeing with some or even a lot of what the speaker has said in this video. If that's the case, I would like you to know, you are the exact type of women that men don't want as a partner for the rest of their lives.

[@sam_mirza]

Remember you run around looking for a lady doctor for your wife - but you are against daughters becoming Doctors Look at the catch you are creating for the community.

[@beeverything2878]

Women do not need men to want them, we are not seeking for your liking but for Allah, man or woman both seek Allah's pleasure

[@sam_mirza]

NO ladies’HIJAB found in the Quran. The word HIJAB is used in the Quran but not for ladies. The word is KHIMAR in the Quran24:31 - Root Meaning of KHIMAR is just a COVERING, it can also be a neck scarf, any scarf, dupatta, chadar, etc. There is no head, hair, veil, niqab or any such importance in the Quran, but the EXPLANATIONS of ‘Sect’ /Firqa leaders promoted it - by adding it in books written much later after the Quran AND by adding words with brackets in translations and explanations - AND also these Firqa leaders wrote the Dictionary centuries later to push their meanings - ask them : WHEN and who wrote the Dictionary that they show their meanings from? We should not accept new meanings to the words after the word is used in the Quran - now the meanings can be understood by checking the same word usage within the Quran - see where it is used again. They should know when the same root word is used for intoxicants even then it’s used for COVER - any intoxicant or alcohol COVERS the ability inside the mind - NOTE : it does not cover the hair or outer-head. - transliteration of Quran24.31: “yadribna bi’Khumur’ihinna ala juyoob’ihinna” [Plurals : khumur, juyoob] - The importance is about : *..put forth the Khimars OVER THE JAYBs…* Jayb just means OPENING, - like an opening in a dress, deep-neck, like shirt pocket - is a jayb (or) some people translate it as chest/ bosoms coz that’s where the Jayb is. - *they took the desert clothing that is needed in sand storms and called it religion* How can a religion claiming to be for the whole world - promote desert clothing for far off freezing lands? IF anyone wants TO FOLLOW WORDS OF ALLAH then they should verify with the Quran - coz every secondary source should match with the Quran AND they should not add words in translations. The other verse in the Quran 33.59 is about JILBAB - it’s about wearing loose clothing, where it also says that “they can be RECOGNISED and not harassed” So the condition is to be recognised : how will anyone RECOGNISE if you cover fully - like a tent? - so avoid tight clothing - it’s really simple as per Quran. Some of them will not VERIFY what is in the Quran - word by word. And you may get to see how they will jump to start calling IGNORANT and names to the person showing them the research.

[@ummulkadri9616]

And you are the exact type of men women don't want in their lives

[@jussuj8158]

@@beeverything2878 if men dont want women women dont get married if women dont get married humanity ends. Kabooommm

[@manmin517]

the first education came from your parents..women should be educated by their parents so they can grow up,get married,and she will be a good wife,mother..

[@sam_mirza]

Remember you run around looking for a lady doctor for your wife - but you are against daughters becoming Doctors Look at the catch you are creating for the community.

[@hwerdoirnaui]

@@sam_mirza are you a bot or something?? Spamming same comment everywhere

[@sam_mirza]

@@hwerdoirnaui We have to make people realise that a noble profession of a Doctor is to save people from their ailments for which our children including our daughters should rise and work. Brainwashing and demotivating them to sit at home is unacceptable More so when it is difficult for every kid to take that path - only some can.

[@hwerdoirnaui]

@@sam_mirza doctors these days are the big pharma salesmen. They just push the drugs instead of curing the disease. Do you want our children to be the slaves of these mafia. If you want it good for you, don't try to push it on others. Now get lost

[@Suzelle]

CONTROL YOURSELF USING RESPECT FOR OTHER PEOPLES Family. Not hard is it. Problem is:. YOU LACK RESPECT

[@aiamochi1782]

This video has alot of wrong information. In islam women are encouraged to gain knowledge doesn't matter what kind of knowledge and if a sister wants to become a doctor then she should without being told that she should be married by 18. When ever my father takes any of the females of my family to the hospital the first thing he asks is there a female doctor. So if women just decided that we won't become doctors then the men in our religion will be begging for the same thing that this brother preaches against. We women are allowed to study and learn and work in any profession we like with out always being put down by men who have no respect for women in the slightest. A solution to this brothers problem: marry someone who isn't a doctor and keep you opinions to your self.

[@sam_mirza]

You’re right! 👍

[@hishamafzal1999]

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[@star13745]

He's not saying you can't be a doctor and gain knowledge. He's just giving a warning women that if you do that, it will not be a good idea to do so since most women end with a lesser likelihood of the man of their dreams marrying them since she took 7 years studying at uni while not gaining as much Islamic knowledge for the children he would want to raise. It's not that the sheikh has a personal problem, he is simply warning for the betterment of women so they have a happy future of getting the husband they ACTUALLY have wanted all along and not settling for "good enough".

[@star13745]

The sheikh makes points of the benefits of women not pursuing being a doctor that are overwhelming a better outcome. When you contemplate it, you realize he's right as his advice aligns perfectly with the roles and the shariah considering men are the financially responsible ones at the end of the day.

[@NM-zw7qu]

Sister, how old are you and are you married yet?

[@sam_mirza]

Remember you run around looking for a lady doctor for your wife - but you are against daughters becoming Doctors Look at the catch you are creating for the community.

[@hwerdoirnaui]

He isn't against lady doctors or muslim women pursuing this career. He is stating the fact that it's becoming a sort of a epidemic amongst the Muslim women to aspire to be a doctor while neglecting their families. We severely lack good mothers who would raise a good generation of Muslims upon correct aqeedah while there is absolutely no dearth of female doctors available in Muslim Countries or even in non muslim countries. In the process of becoming a doctor they sacrifice their wholesome married life and the future of children who don't get the correct upbringing and tabiyyah they're deserving of

[@sam_mirza]

@@hwerdoirnaui There are lady doctors available now BUT with sermons like this one - there won’t be any in this community in the next generation. I’ll have to say that again here: Profession of a Doctor is to save people from their ailments for which our children including our daughters should rise and work. Brainwashing and demotivating them to sit at home is unacceptable More so when it is difficult for every kid to take that path - only some can.

[@hwerdoirnaui]

@@sam_mirza come out of the delusion that you're in. You're probably the result of an empty home cause both you're parents were busy earning money

[@MahiAbdul123]

@@sam_mirza i highly doubt his speech will lead to the scarcity of female doctors sense feminist aspire to be equal to men its inevitable that the kufur women will pursue this career path and occupy this occupation so there really isn't a need for muslimahs to become doctors sense the kufur women will happily sacrifice their lives and happiness in order to serve us you line of arguments isnt very logical just because 1 demographic doesnt pursue a certain occupation doesn't mean others wont, there'll always be someone to do the dirty work. Another point to mention is theres a growing number of average girls with the aspirations of becoming a doctor due to family pressure, alot of the times they only do this not because they want to on the contrary because the family force and brainwash them into it, and being a doctor is no easy task and is a competitive role and most of these sisters take the riba loan(declare war with Allah) just in order to enter a rubbish uni(because they arent smart enough or dont have the finances to enter a better uni) just so they can obtain the qualifications to become a doctor later finding out how competitive the role is and end up working your average job, their youth and fertility sacrificed for nothing and also majority of these sisters commit zina in these unis and end up pregnant with a kafir mans child anyways, or sense they have to travel alone without mahram(haram) by train to reach their uni or live in dorms with kafir men they become exposed to fitnah that inevitably destroy them.

[@user-rk1pf3sb6g]

@@sam_mirza Are you a Doctor,