My parenting rules as a single, sober, millennial mother

A requested video of me giving some of my parenting decisions, morals and values. These are just my opinions based off of my personal experiences and beliefs. I'd never judge another parent for making decisions that best serve their children personally, ever if they differ from mine.
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[@abbeyfickley]

Hi guys, sorry that the video cuts off. I was having some technical difficulties and I didn’t catch that! XO love y’all.

[@strikkerranselmo7622]

so hey girl i don’t mean to be a hater but in one of your KZbin shorts you said I brought my daughter to work don’t you woke at like a bar was that like a restaurant bar

[@123_i_o_n_t__o_p]

Hey could I ask you a question abt addiction

[@emmery6323]

It’s ok❤ I

[@Kristen10-22]

Let me know if I’m right… Aquarius ♒️ sun

[@makailablumhagen7780]

@@strikkerranselmo7622 it was take your daughter to work day I doubt she was actually pouring drinks… my dad worked in pups growing up and I worked in the kitchen with him starting my first day with take your kid to work day. I was 13 almost 14 so it’s a little different but she doesn’t just bring her to the bar scene on the regular lmao

[@SandiHartke]

You put more effort into this 20 minute video than some people put into their whole experience parenting.

[@abbeyfickley]

Lmao

[@sabrinaaubin2191]

Sad but true 🥲

[@lileric144]

​@@abbeyfickley❤❤❤

[@denieraadams4924]

As a child of an addict, you are doing a great job the simple fact you put her before yourself is more than enough ❤

[@lilyfaith6932]

I also had my daughter at 19 and just had another baby at 21. I’m going to my first NA meeting today and I just want to thank you for being so open and honest. Im also raising my kids completely opposite of how I was raised, but as I’m young and still healing that’s been difficult to navigate. I feel heard. Thank you.

[@corablah9809]

That is so hard, I'm proud of you! I had my daughter at 19, and I had twins at 22, I'm 23 now!

[@deannanewman7965]

Awesome video! I've heard a quote that sticks with me "just because someone does something differently, doesnt make it wrong. Just different." You know what's best for your household and intentionally changing things you know wont work is amazing. 💕

[@tiffanydoyle8940]

The amount of make up you allow her to wear is age appropriate. She’s not doing full coverage, cut creases, sharp contour and false lashes. Lip gloss, Pink blush and press on nails. Is just fine!! You’re an amazing mom & I’m envious of your co parenting relationship

[@mariabaker9175]

you’re such a good mom while still being so cool and fun, i hope i can be like you when i’m a parent!

[@tramos8264]

Girl i dont even have kids but i just love supporting you!! Super insightful 💚

[@isabellac8004]

As a child of split homes that was really messed up by it, I appreciate it. I always felt out of place and like my well-being was an afterthought to what my parents wanted in regards to custody and divorce. Makes me feel good ur breaking the cycle and prioritizing her needs. ❤

[@brittneysikes21]

I haven’t even made it through the full video yet but I just have to say, you are an absolutely amazing mother Abbey. I love your videos. I’m so proud of you💕

[@freedom4063]

❤ I like her but I don't agree kids can say bad words

[@hanabanana03ify]

youre seriously such a safe space for me, abbey, and i thank you. lots of love&hugs pretty lady

[@LIFECHANGESFORAREASON555]

I can tell you as someone coming from a split home I would have anxiety often because There was constant changes!!! Not good!!! So I love you recognizing that consistency is important. ❤

[@raheezamajeed9664]

Finally. A parent who gets it. ❤

[@MrsSullie22]

Did the video just cut off..? Hoping she does a part 2!! I love her mother daughter dynamic and am fascinated by this video ❤

[@hollycrouse3260]

Im not a mom, but I am in sobriety and I would love to be an amazing mother like you one day! Also could you do a video on how to stick to a routine because I really have trouble with that I work Monday-Friday and go to church on Sundays so I'm pretty busy all week and I just need some tips on how to stay on a schedule and still have time for me. I get lazy after work and going to the tanning bed when I get home I just sit around and then it gets late or after I eat dinner I'm beyond tired and don't get nothing done I need help and motivation lol

[@Lyssa0095]

What happened at the end of the video it cut off in the middle of the time management talk? Great video though mama! We are so proud of you and mostly all the ones with the most negative comments towards parenting are most of the time not even parents themselves 🤍🤍

[@werethewilsons]

You're doing great!!! Thanks for sharing. ❤❤❤

[@erin6320]

“Shut up” is the one word my bf and do not use at all unless it’s something juicy

[@myrandapistokache6653]

It’s amazing how we have never met yet but we have such similar personalities, experiences, and parenting styles. My daughter is only 2.5 so obviously some differences. There are things I am still processing from my child hood that my daughter is never ever going to have to heal from. I know my parents did the best they could with the information they had but there are definitely things I will never choose to repeat

[@myrandapistokache6653]

ESPECIALLY about food, I’m 28 years old and I’m still struggling with my relationship with food. I’m gonna do whatever possible to try and help my baby NOT have to go thru that.

[@rosettastone_]

Congrats on 5 years sober Momma I love your videos!!! Bring me joy :)

[@abbeyfickley]

Thank you babe!!

[@reannamiller7529]

Hey listen, negative comments don’t mean shit. As someone who came form divorced parents that were addicts and couldn’t get past the divorce for ten years. I’m still dealing with it today. Seeing Myla and you packing up her bags makes my heart so happy. I remember packing my bags the night before checking over and over in the morning or before school that I had everything. And by everything meaning the stuffed animals that were my comfort. Where even after 22 years are the things that still bring me comfort. I slept with alll four of my childhood stuffed animals last night. So ignore that shit. Myla is gonna grow up and hopefully not need that familiar scent because she knows she is so loved. No where and in no sense a bad mom. I have never experienced half of the stuff you have with your mom. Cooking. Her doing my hair. It makes me happy. I can’t wait to have a daughter to show her that type of love, the Love you give Myla. And he’ll yeah my daughter will be able to say damn when she’s home alone. I completely agree with everything. You’re doing amazing literally. She’s gonna grow up feeling loved important and secure. Don’t let anyone tell you different.

[@tater.tot.freak.]

Yesssss keep her off of TikTok!! It’s so dangerous for such small kiddos!!!

[@abbeyfickley]

I hate it lol

[@alanamacneill88]

You're doing a great job Abbey❤

[@Ashley91.]

To each their Own. I respect you and your parenting techniques. Ppl shouldn't be criticizing other moms .

[@maggierappa417]

I honestly feel like people nitpick parenting styles way too much. In my opinion, as long as you’re teaching your kids to be kind human beings who respect those around them it doesn’t matter if they swear at home or not. The fact that people feel entitled and cocky enough tell others how to parent is wild. Also the thing about over compensating because you don’t see your kid all the time is very true. My parents are divorced and the schedule had me seeing my mom and dad seeing me 2 days a week with weekends alternating and both did more of some things than others. My dad would always make me any type of food I wanted and never said no to dessert. And while looking back it wasn’t super healthy but it was something he could do to make up for the time we didn’t spend together. So I definitely get that a lot.

[@Thesweetlifeofaplannergirl]

My fav planners are the maskelife daily and weekly and happy planner

[@lauracox3297]

Your stance on “the R word” made me love you EVEN more than I already did.

[@sophiegordon3743]

I love the home words rule those all make a lot of sense to me

[@CDGarcia06]

You are such a great person and mom Good job as a sober mama

[@lynettealexanderxoxo]

Girl your an awesome mom!!! I am almost 50 and have 3 girls and now 6 grandkids only 1 is a girl lol Anyhow I was the same way with my girls I was a young mom to so I had my 1st at 17teen and I have to say I completely agree btw I also struggled with addiction but have been clean for yrs. & I am still with there dad he was my high-school sweetheart . All that to say you are a great mom and Bobby is a great dad we all make mistakes and are always learning stick with what works for you and your family!!! ❤

[@rileyhenderson9870]

Love your vids such an inspiration ❤❤❤

[@heavenleighdollanger]

Omg the force feeding was huge at my house I’d be sitting there half the damn night over food that I physically gagged over

[@mellison1852]

We can all improve as beautiful beings no one is perfect. Sugestions or thought or ideas are ok as long as your not demanding, comanding, complaining. Just sugest then this mother can eather take it or leave it respectfully as it was respectfully commented. We all have freedom to speak our beliefs its how we doit. Never forse. Dont force because none of us are ever fully right. Every persons life is unique.

[@felishathemom7393]

hey girl ❤ love these vlogs ! so down to earth ❤ Thank You Jesus

[@Lynn-zx3th]

Same with my boys on swear words, and both my boys I allowed to swear at home with only allowing them to only use certain words. Bith my boys are young men and grown now. Neither one of my boys put me through it. They never were out drinking or drugging. Yes I did check them when they came home. I’m in long term addiction & recovery myself. So I know what to look for.

[@serinaa22]

Will you post the part that got cut off? I was really enjoying the video 😁

[@sambricker2563]

Does she stay in this schedule at her dads house as well and does the schedule change on the weekends? I’m recovery will have 7 years this year and I gotta admit schedules is what I suck at. I know I need to get better at them but I just at them. I agree on everything you said and am the same way with almost everything you said except for the schedule part lol. My husband and I are the complete opposite with parenting he’s more old school parents like his and mine did back in the day and im. It like that at all. Im the end we balance each other out.

[@Goblue373]

Thank you so much for teaching your daughter not the way the R word which of some people don’t know is a disability slur. It is so incredibly hurtful

[@crystalrusmisel1832]

I never forced my kids to eat everything on their plates. We as adults as parents fix their plates and we tend to at times put too much. Kids eat till their satisfied/full. Those who force the kid to over eat are just harming the kids.

[@theresa5227]

Luv your family ❤thanks for sharing your life ❤️

[@tsunamimami1]

I have similar rules with cussing- I have a 13 and 9 year old and I could careless they say shit sometimes. I however do not allow any of us to curse at eachother- or out in public- And we don’t say bitch. If my kid says “ I’ve had a rough fuckin day” I really wouldn’t care. However they really only say shit from time to time. If they ever went around saying fuck this, fuck that or this or that person is a bitch or my son say “ my sister is being a fucking asshole” THEN we would have problems. But they know that words can hurt people and context matters so they don’t ever speak to eacogher like that- and honestly since making curse words not such a taboo thing they honestly rarely even say them cuz they don’t seem so… as I stated.. taboo! I want them to know cursing about something Vs cursing at someone is different and certain words like bitch can be derogatory but a word like shit or fuck- as long as not directed at someone are literally the least of my worries as a parent with a teen. If my kid had a rough day and needs to blow off steam and drops a single f bomb I’m not gonna say a word- cuz I’m just greatful my kid is coming to me when unloading about their day and however they need to express themselves to ME as their mom is fine with me personally. They know that if family is around or out in public it isn’t acceptable as OTHEr people may take offense (and they are allowed to take offense) and if anything it teaches them self control and to know that each person you interact with is different levels of vulnerability and they are still children at the end of the day. Honestly my kids and I joke and drop a f bomb or say shit and we have an absolutely amazing relationship my kids get in zero trouble with friends or at school, have zero interest in experimenting when their friends smoke vapes ( yes 12 year olds already do that at their school) so i consider my kids really well behaved! Cuz they are! Cussing doesn’t define you as a good or bad person. I can tell ya that!

[@brandyreagan366]

Dang I was really getting into the video. I hate it cut off mid sentence.

[@mamiefuse]

Also, my daughter is now 18th if she uses curse words I still don’t like her to use the F word at 18 years old and I never allowed them to use curse words, even as little ones but if I had heard what you just said back, then I probably would have and you’re right there other words that are far worse than shit and damn like the R word absolutely what are the worst words in the dictionary to be used negatively

[@lyndsymarie4576]

Listen, you don’t have to explain anything, to anyone. I know as a contact creator, an influencer you want to explain to your Fanbase I am in recovery myself, my child is now 11. I’ve been clean 8 1/2 years. I lost her when she was eight months old and then I didn’t see her for two years I missed those important bonding years. At the fall of nobody by myself. My daughter and Myla are very similar. She’s 11 and she has Chanel lip gloss. She has Tarte bronzer. She has more high and make up and I do. I agree with everything that you said about parenting guilt, and then also about them being the only child I am her only friend, she enjoys the things that I enjoy. She doesn’t have a little sister or brother can play dolls with she likes the things that I like. I completely agree with every single one of your rules. I’m eight years older than you. I grew up with an alcoholic father and no mother so our stories as children are very different, but as adults they’re very similar. I admire ur tenacity, the way you love being a mom, the way you accept and embrace coparenting. I know we can’t see everything. But from what I do see you’re a kick ass, mom and human. Don’t ever let anybody tell you any different. I know sometimes these Karen’s in the comments can get under your skin. Please don’t ever let them make you feel less then as a mother, or even as a human general. We all make mistakes as parents we learn from them and we’re all just doing our best. Keep up the good work I truly love your channel. I just enjoy watching another mom navigate sobriety, motherhood, work, and just life in general! Keep kicking ass❤

[@DistilledVoice]

Whos the cycle breaker bish. You babe. You!! Star xxx much love

[@micheleleedy3945]

It's fine to buy your child my sayings even things that maybe our little too mature for her in some ways or would be used to mature for her as long as they're not harmful who cares but that being said I hope that you were helping her understand the correlation between the work and effort you're putting into afford those things have her understand that not everyone can afford to have those things just because I want to make sure that she's not ever going to be the kid who thinks that that's normal because that inadvertently puts a lot of pressure towards the kids that are around her and it might put a lot of pressure on her as an adult to be at the same level when you don't start at those levels unless you were extremely wealthy from like inheritance or something like that and either way even if you were an independently wealthy person starting out it's important to show even those people that that's not the norm it's the exception just so they can be appreciative of what they have as well as the understanding when other people don't but as long as you're in stealing that in her who cares by her what you want you're her momthose things are not going to hurt her one way or the other as long as she understands and appreciates the value of them because my kid has super nice things but she also understands how hard it is for me to provide those things for her and I think she realizes how much effort it's going to take her to have those things as an adult and I've tried to instill respect for people who are trying and not getting those things as well as a generosity towards the people who don't even have what they need

[@TinasEZrecipes]

You are awesome! I wish my ex-husband would even care to see his 2 year old daughter.

[@giftingflowers]

I like these long talking with down videos

[@123_i_o_n_t__o_p]

16:22 do you vape bc I need to know if I’ll ever get over it

[@ChiemerieandEsimnachiOkpara]

No she stopped doing those stuff 5 years ago.

[@brittneyrenea210]

❤❤

[@silverkitty2503]

IMO its not rules that destroy kids its parental behaviours and dysfunction.

[@ashebark5729]

Your kid is amazing and I’m not just saying that! She has goals and respects you and ya ur a great mom. Also I think you would technically be a zillioniel. Ppl that grew up in later 2000s vs millennials that grew up in y2k

[@abbeyfickley]

I was born in 94! And thank you so much babe

[@kimdrobena5790]

I let all my girls get there nails I started at 2

[@cleosworld9096]

I have a question sweet lady. What about school grades? Are u strict or more lenient? I ask because wen my oldest was younger I was huge on grades but it backfired. She now we know is autistic at 17 and a perfectionist. She had a psychotic episode last year because she puts so much pressure on herself. For context I live pretty near u am a recovering addict been clean since my oldest was about 6-7. I knew she was very smart and knew all of kindergarten before it even started. Anyways. Saying all this my daughter is incredible. And she tells me everything. I also wonder do u ground right away or discuss more first? If u say no phone is it til jobs done or for strictly a week? I know a lot questions but I’m not judging u one bit. I’m genuinely curious

[@positivelyrachel5102]

Girl you are spending way too much time defending yourself. Youre a great mom. Be confident in that.

[@miah_slay]

She is basically my mum😂😂😂

[@Louk-gamar]

Hi salyyy

[@PlutosAsleep]

i’m recovering from borderline personality disorder and i’m only 17, but i really want to be a mom one day. You inspire me that i can do it one day ❤

[@felishathemom7393]

you can. & you’re going to be a great loving mother. In Jesus name . Amen ❤❤

[@Faythe98]

I’m 25, I was diagnosed with BPD at 17. I got the green DBT workbook and it worked wonders for me. As I’ve gotten older things have gotten easier. I just have to keep taking my meds and going to therapy 😂 i wish you the best ❤

[@joshbarnes225]

I'm 39. I have a 10 yr old boy with His Mother. He lives with her. Recovering from BPD. 5 yrs in the making. I know you have the Compassion and Empathy to be a great Mother. Good days, bad days, good weeks, bad weeks happen for everyone. Seeing someone at 17 being productive is inspiring. Thank You for your comment.

[@Thesweetlifeofaplannergirl]

I have bpd you don’t “recover” from it what she is talking about is drug recovery mental health is not something you recover from you will always have it. You can manage it

[@abbeyfickley]

I believe you can do anything! 🥰

[@crazybirdgirlie]

As someone that grew up in 2 homes, hearing your perspective is so validating🥹 The flexibility and respect you give to Myla is going to give her the tools to be an amazing person❤️

[@yeebler]

Abbey, I am 18 days sober from alcohol today. That is the longest I have ever gone. I want to thank you for showing me sobriety is not boring but full of joy and that no matter how bad things got I could turn it around. Your content has potentially saved me my life. Thank you for being a light in dark places when all other lights went out.

[@lillyfigura5378]

You can do it your amazing okay

[@ReeLMLA]

18 days! So fucking proud of you, so proud! I know I don’t know you, but you’re doing the damn thing, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

[@mamiefuse]

Oh my god are you kidding me 18 days that is fucking amazing. I remember when I had eaten days and I thought it it felt like 18 years but 18 days will turn into 30 which will turn into a year which will turn into 18 months which will turn into five years. Just keep doing what you’ve done these last 18 days and it will multiply and be easier every day I am I almost 13 years and I hate even saying that because I remember when I was early on I thought oh my God like you have no idea what I’m going through because it’s been so long for you, but I promise you I never ever forget that day that I made that decision I never forget with those withdraws that like I never ever forget what it’s like in rehab and I will always remember my last high

[@lilaiscool516]

You are doing amazing. I don’t know you, but I am so proud of you. I just want to tell you that are an amazing person, and you should never give up.

[@lunachick-61388]

Congratulations 18 days is a huge accomplishment!

[@kryndolyn]

10:17 "We can never know what it feels like to be Myla" and tbh i think thats what sets you apart from a lot of parents. Yall (including Bobby) practice so much self awareness and give your baby the room to grow within her own unique situation. i can hear the thoughtfulness and consideration in your voice and it honestly moves me to tears. if i ever have a daughter, i hope i can be as patient, considerate and compassionate as you are.

[@kryndolyn]

yes girl i just got an ad GET YOUR BAG!!!!!

[@mcamuez]

You don't have to justify what an incredible mommy you are. You're raising such a strong woman. I take my hat off at your sacrifices, point of view, and relationship with your baby. Not only do you love and respect her, you are also showing Myla how to love and respect everyone e in her life. Don't doubt yourself!

[@abbeyfickley]

You’re so sweet, but none of this is a justification! I had a lot of comments asking for me to share my parenting styles, that’s all 🫶🏽

[@badbela385]

The small things like letting her get her nails done the small makeup everything she will appreciate that as she grows I promise being told no to things like that as a little kid only makes you wanna do it more! Plus you are letting her express her self creatively absolutely nothing wrong with that!!

[@bripearce45]

You are so right I remember as a child my mama would always let me get fake nails from Kmart or Walmart and I thought I was something. She was worried about taking me to nail salons because she didn't want me to get a fungus but I was allowed to go for prom and certain events and when I was 19 I ended up getting a fungus that came from going to the nail salons. Which occasionally I still go to the nail salon to get my nails done but I usually stick with press on nails. We would have Spa nights where she taught me how to take care of my skin when I got older and we would do each other's makeup. Saturday's was our day for shopping and she always made sure that I was dressed InStyle and whatever was in fashion at the time she knew all about it I made sure that I rocked it. Now that I'm older I do the same things with my daughter and I have so many fond memories with my mama. The only thing she didn't allow was for me to wear the shiny white eyeshadow which was everything back in the late 90s early 2000 but with that said I could wear it when I was with my friends she just wouldn't buy it for me laugh out loud❤❤❤

[@jillhamster246]

Well , it's wonderful. Why not teach , your Girls to be well groomed.

[@Rose_22]

You’re a great mom and congratulations on 5 years sober ❤ You and your daughter are so pretty btw

[@jackielowrey3032]

My son is autistic and I have accidentally used the R word when I fully meant to say stupid…. Very frustrated that my subconscious still uses that word to describe something. Embarrassing. I really love that you’re teaching her that the R word is disgusting and not okay to use to describe anything. I appreciate that!

[@freedom4063]

What is r word

[@em13-zz3ps]

R3t@rd. Basically a disgusting thing to call someone in general, means awfully stupid

[@katcalico9142]

Girl you are fabulous and doing a fantastic job! You clearly devote yourself to your daughter and she is clearly very loved!

[@ashleyk9209]

I love how she described swear words as words that hurt peoples feelings. There’s parents out there that allow their kids to say shut up, stupid, the r word and worse, extremely racist words but would have a freakin stroke if their kid said shit 🙄

[@hoseokiies_210]

I love how you are so balanced with your parenting, you allow Myla enough freedom to have fun and enjoy herself but also set clear and healthy boundaries for things she can't do. So much respect for you Abbey!

[@17Lottie]

Not a mom, or in sobriety, but I absolutely love you! You have such girl boss energy 💪

[@morganharris9821]

I love you don’t make her finish her food growing up that was always a rule in my family and it took me a long time to learn it’s okay to stop eating when full instead of when it’s gone

[@ginamoy393]

So happy I found your channel- thank you for everything you share ❤

[@tracyjane1000]

Ten out of ten for your parenting style. Love it. Teaching her what really matters and not sweating the small stuff ❤️❤️

[@nolagirl7082]

Please tell me more about Jesse Waters!!! What was that about??

[@vannamaae]

im currently 21 with twins i also have a coparent relationship with their father while we mend our personal relationship this woman helps me realize that coparenting isnt always a bad thing (breakin that generational curse)

[@MaddieRoloff]

Do you ever disagree about a rule that Bobby has for Myla

[@katrinaosorio2134]

What happened to the end of the video??? It just ended mid sentence 😢

[@multibuttercup101]

As a disability support worker, thank you for teaching your little one about the r word. My father used it a lot when I was growing up (still does) and it’s very uncomfortable to hear :(

[@nycole8192]

Hey girl! Just stopped by to support. Hope you had Sissy are doing great! Keep up the amazing work 🎉❤

[@myrepost44]

I think your rules are very valid and you seem like a great mom! I have one question, would you let myla have social media like tiktok or instagram when she’s a teenager or would she never be aloud to have it?

[@lillianmauldin]

so much intentionality and critical thinking behind your parenting style!! love that you don't follow arbitrary rules for the sake of following them and instead have context and reasoning behind your decisions :) myla is lucky to have a momma like you!!

[@breemangie4018]

Why did it cut off 😭

[@x3itsrissa]

Haven’t even watched it and already hit like lmao 😅🤣💖

[@madiArabella]

I agree with the swearing! Swears can be used to express yourself like when hurt or whatever as long as their are no bad intent

[@kristennelson2480]

You’re so right words are words unless they are descriptive to offend someone…like “slow” it’s not a curse word but is will offend certain people but saying shit is not going to offend someone unless you directly call someone a piece of shit However the one thing I don’t agree with is allowing her to watch KZbin but that’s just my opinion…my daughter with restrictions and all learned about TikTok from KZbin and starting talking about wanting to make TikTok videos so I had to cut it off completely…I am not affiliated with TikTok in any way shape or form but the two go hand in hand

[@ScottNapolitan]

Hitting your funny bone and stubbing your toe are the two things that make swearing the most tempting.

[@rhonnelsimms6550]

Also, buy her what u want. I feel for KZbinrs because you have to explain things that I don’t think you should. I know you are being polite to your viewers, but I hope people believe that we are still gracious observers, not tyrants, etc.

[@lilycallender9426]

I don’t get how people have a problem with kids not having tick-tock it is meant for 13+ so it just makes sense that her 8 year old doesn’t have it and she is also right saying that youtube has kid settings witch work really well wen you wanna keep your kids safe online. Love your vids ❤️

[@mariah4839]

i never comment but Girl i love your vibes & how strong you are !! You bring hope to others

[@MandieB-bs4ek]

Hello sunshine, you are such an inspiring person 💗

[@kimberley20]

how many tattoos do you have? would love to see them

[@mamiefuse]

Also shout out to bobby because there are most men who will leave the mom and child and go on about their merry way and then there are the men who want to stay and Mom💕❤️ says OK every other weekend so shout out to your mama because the hardest thing in the world to do is just put your time evenly with somebody else when it comes to your child so good for you you’re doing what is the best for your child? You’re a great mom. This is my third comment because you’re such a great fucking kick ass mom and nobody knows what it’s like to parent in recovery unless you have fucking done it.

[@abbeyfickley]

Facts. He stepped up to the plate big time whenever I went to treatment for the first time.

[@caelynnc814]

You should make a podcast

[@chandlerjohnson9694]

I so resonated w the gift thing. I do the same thing and i won’t stop cause i know it’s right. Love this video

[@henny8883]

I curse a lot lol but I'm never directing it at people like I might say "this pizza is effing banging" but I would never walk up to somebody and say "eff you". I love your channel I think you do a great job.

[@ameliaabrams4839]

Never think you have to apologize for the way that you are raising your child key word is YOUR as long as you are not endangering her and she has a roof over her head and clothes on her back she is great she has her sober mama and that's all that matters

[@brittneeroussel5110]

Thank you abbey !!!! ❤ I requested this & I was so happy to see you made a video! ❤ Love you ❤ I love how you mentioned having a routine so she knows what to expect & how it’ll give her more control. The home words also make sense because I feel like I was never taught what those words meant which encouraged me to say those things. I definitely wrote down a lot of your tips and tricks. It’s great how you also are teaching her cleaning is important and to handle it head on !😊 This gave me so much hope as a new single mom. You’re such an inspiration and I love watching you and myla grow and I can only hope my son and I have a relationship like y’all do ❤

[@ashleynicoleparrish4416]

Fairly new to your channel, I mainly watch your shorts but mama you're an AMAZING parent. Before my two boys I had a drinking problem and had a coke addiction. I've been clean of any and all drugs for 7 years and limited my alcohol consumption where I now haven't had a drink in a year. But if I do drink I only ever have one drink and it's only on a special occasion if I'm with family. I used to be so embarrassed and shameful and you help embrace it and bring awareness. I'm so proud and I love your coparent relationship with mylas dad. I respect it so much. My kids have a step father and he's absolutely amazing with my kids. He loves them like his own. All that aside, let people say what they want. Never have it question you as a mama. You're amazing and the fact you are so open and there for your baby girl will only have her trust you more especially as she gets older. You're doing an awesome job raising the sweetest girl! ❤❤

[@amandathompson5971]

You are so well spoken.

[@brooklynmassey2502]

Agree completely. Social media is so dangerous ESPECIALLY TikTok. Annnnd even certain games they can chat with strangers.

[@bevygerritsen1322]

You’re exactly like me with parenting