Transforming a Neglected Kitchen for a Widow Battling Depression

Nancy lost her husband nine years ago and has been chronically depressed ever since and struggles with lack of motivation. She has also had shoulder surgery recently which has just made matters worse. Her kitchen has been an overwhelming task for her and she needed a reset. In this video, I will be washing a lot of dishes, clearing out drawers and cupboards and reorganizing the contents.
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[@grace-xo]

Bonnie please don't compare yourself to others! There's no need to apologize and the people who can understand your words with the kind intent they were meant with, are the people here who stay to come back and watch you! We could all learn tremendously from your kind heart and selfless acts that you share. I promise that your work is not going without recognition and support, it is truly invaluable what you do Bonnie! The mental health awareness that you spread is also so important to so many people and to the amazing community you've built on yt. You're making a kinder world and one that sees people through less judgement.

[@susanf4857]

Yes! I agree! Well said ❤️

[@АллаМаркова-т1п]

Пео​@@susanf4857

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words!🥰🙏

[@Zombie-adventures]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpBonnie, never underestimate the help you are giving. Mack has his way of dealing and so do you- just EMBRACE your way of coping and embrace your difference. Show the funny and the bloopers and all; nobody’s perfect and it’s refreshing! Always introduce yourself and state what you’re working towards; let us know how long it’s taking; what tools you’re using; invite sponsors too! You got this girl! Go Bonnie go!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@gregpendrey6711]

Agreed 💯 percent. The top stars simply delete and block the commenter. You are becoming a star now. The channel sells itself which means you. Just edit if you want or keep it if you want. Reasonable viewers make your audience so anyone that does it is out on the 3rd offense. As a matter of fact you can delete me. I'm annoying and will still watch you clean, subscribe, and like haha. ❤😎, G

[@nancymoore8250]

As an 8 year widow from a 42 year marriage, who uses her warming drawer to hold all my lids; the grieving depression is real. The excess of kitchen essentials is because she moved out of her home and had to downsize into the apartment. Loosing her home after loosing her husband is alot to bare. So many others advised me to move from my home, but I'm glad I stayed put. I hope your client finds a therapist and starts to find some peace. Helping her clear her space will help her clear her mind.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for sharing your experience. That makes a lot of sense.

[@SierraNovemberKilo]

The clutter looks like ptsd to me. That is, her current situation is the stressor. Mourning is best done in one's chosen space not somewhere someone else has decided.

[@nancymoore8250]

@@SierraNovemberKilo exactly. everything in my house was sacred after he died, and i didn't want anyone touching anything until i was ready ... his favorite plates, cups ... his favorite frying pan and spatula. The towels he chose and his brand of toothpaste ... everything has a memory attached to it. Others cant relate unless they've been through it 🤷‍♀️

[@janjones4772]

You are about one of the sweetest, greatest people I’ve ever seen, you such a precious person, to help others, I feel like this lady you are helping, I couldn’t believe it happens but I found out the hard way, I lost my hubby after 40yrs, I miss him so much, I lay here and cry, can’t think of any thing elas I’m so lonely, don’t have any close friends,I’m disabled also, hurt all over can barley walk. I Talk to God, he’s my friend, it’s so nice to have a friend like you,God Bless you everything is looking amazing.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@mjgraham795]

Lost my mother this year after having lost my dad the previous year. This is my house right now. It is so overwhelming and distressing! I can't have anyone come into my home!

[@lightgiver7311]

One thing I realized after my husband died, I had too much unused stuff. As a Senior, I slowly purged my kitchen, I only have three fry pans, wasn't using my crock pot, thank goodness I had a friend to help me and take things to a thrift store.

[@AngelaRothbauer]

Remember Bonnie - part of Mack’s allure is he is a 6’4 man who cleans - you are a tiny little thing who also helps people - though she is tiny she is fierce- Shakespeare- also don’t underestimate how far you have come

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Indeed. It is very different for a man, especially of his size, to have a cleaning channel, so he definitely stands out in this niche. I love that Shakespeare quote! I am trying to focus on how far I've come from now on. I am very grateful. Thanks so much for your kindness!

[@nicboyd1898]

I just want you to know I appreciate what you do and have not a clue who the guy is you are comparing yourself to so YOU are much more valuable to me than whoever he is! Thanks for pushing through and making people’s lives better!

[@ykook7000]

​Don't worry many would prefer your serene calm disposition way of doing it compared to others ​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

[@TheCaitling]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp also I think men are expected to be funny and sarcastic but there are people out there who just take a woman being funny or sarcastic as that woman being negative or something.

[@OutdoorGal25]

I love how real you are! Tears, gagging and all 😂 Great job Bonnie!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

😜🙏

[@AchtungMM]

One time someone told me “comparison is the thief of joy” and that has stuck with me for many years now.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yes. I love that saying. I actually had that written down to share before the quote from Maya Angelou came to mind. It's a very true statement.

[@MissTrixie29]

I love that.

[@annmcevoy9299]

Wasn't it Teddy Roosevelt who said it first?

[@beckiblack4651]

I'm so glad you haven't quit youtube. I love your channel! I hope people understand how important it is to watch the ads during your video, so that you're making money and can continue.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Becki! I wish I could tell people to watch the ads because, you're right, that is the main way we make money on KZbin, but I understand being bugged by the ads. It's nice that KZbin has made some non-skippable ones so we usually get paid at least a little bit even when people skip the other ads. I do try to watch as many ads as I can on the channels I watch because I know it helps them and it's only a minute of my life. I usually just have their videos going on in the background while I'm doing something else anyway, so it's no big deal to let the ads run. I really appreciate you knowing that and appreciate you putting up with the ads because I know they can be annoying. 😜Every once in awhile I do find one that hooks me.😄

[@sheaczernik9778]

How does that work for you for those of us who don't get ads on videos?

[@LB-ht1qk]

I learned from another KZbinr that all you have to do is watch 30 seconds of an ad and that counts towards getting paid. (This is how I understood what they said).

[@beckiblack4651]

@@LB-ht1qk I heard Bill say that on Live Simple Live Free. If an ad is long, I only watch 30 seconds of it.

[@marloespeters8404]

​@@sheaczernik9778i have KZbin premium and no ads wich i like. But i also want her to make money

[@SandyAlthoff]

I watched this earlier today. Don't you realize how rare your services are? Your clients are very greatful. You are a very good person, please don't doubt yourself

[@Rock.me.gently.7]

There are now many free cleaning channels. Every one has a specialty. Yours is organizing. And you have an honest heart. For me, I really liked this episode because you did everything yourself, no helpers. Wising you many, many more subscribers ❤

[@marybedy9760]

Dear lady, as I mentioned in another video of yours, you are the reason my closet is clean. You are the reason I wash my dishes right after I use them. You are the reason some of my paperwork is way more organized now. Your videos are the reason I realize for sure I have way too many of certain things. I find listening to you very relaxing and inspiring. So yeah, realize that a lot of us really appreciate you greatly. YOU ARE YOU and you are wonderful.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I'm so glad! Thank you for sharing that. I really appreciate it!😘

[@vivian9803]

And you are the reason you’re doing all the right things, because you take the motivation and turn it into action. Kudos to you as well!

[@saradunlap6374]

Bonnie you need to know you are a great person with amazing intentions! You never need to apologize for being your authentic self. I know sometimes the bad comments can be the loudest. Just know the rest of us are here cheering you on!!!!!❤❤❤

[@pamelaharris9318]

Bonnie, you are making a difference in the world of those that you help. One person at a time. We all could learn from you.❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@marilynmccormick3731]

​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpwho in the world would leave you negative comments??? How terrible.

[@DVD927]

I bet it takes 1,000 good comments to override the negative effects of 1 mean comment.

[@3of4sisters]

I love it when you clean and organize for someone in need. This one is quite a puzzle as she owns so much. Time for her to lighten the load.

[@phyllisdaum1213]

I firmly believe that the measure of success and accomplishment is not where you are but how far you have come.

[@justjoanish]

The older I get the more I sometimes think we're all a beautiful mess on and off throughout life, or maybe always. You are a lovely soul.

[@chrisvalley5776]

Oh Bonny. 😭 Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be vulnerable here. Your message about making someone else feel special is SO important. If you touched one person today with your wisdom (you did) there are endless ripple-effects of joy you are responsible for.

[@gregpendrey6711]

Trashing someone is called making a Splash. It's really bad how many people are negatively affected. It is exponential how it spreads or ripples before things calm down. If one person does it because of their disorder, I'm thinking NPD's, they are compelled to trash people. We must be No Contact with NPD's because they cannot exist and not make Splashes. They are not fixable, so No Contact is the only way. It's not you Bonney and btw Mac deletes anything but simple praise comments and you can too.

[@gregpendrey6711]

Agreed 💯 percent.

[@d.k.s.4057]

So true- those 'ripples' are powerful and positive!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate that. Thank you. 🙏💞

[@elexafischer8288]

Agreed!!!

[@brette6117]

I know I would not be the only one that would seriously miss it if you no longer made videos. I enjoy your videos a lot! Please know that many KZbinrs struggle over staying motivated due to discouraging analytics. What I have found is: as long as they remain authentic, that if they do what makes them happy KZbinrs, people are happy to watch. As for views and subscribers, you should be aware that KZbin has been experiencing technical issues across the board. One KZbinr I've watched for years suddenly had videos disappear, another had 100's of videos that suddenly showed ZERO views. Please don't always assume it is you and your content Bonnie, you do a great job!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for sharing that. I am also hearing that some people are being inundated with political ads, which are never fun to watch, so they click off of those as soon as they possibly can, so that may be part of the reason for the drastic drop in ad revenue is because of this being an election year (here in the U.S. - not sure where you're at). Super frustrating, but at least there is a little validation in knowing it's not just me and I just need to stick with it and hope next year will be much better. Thanks so much for your support!

[@LynsAlteredArts]

I was watching a video that said it had zero views that had 41 thumbs up how is that even possible so you know it’s messed up. For the viewer it doesn’t matter that much if it’s messed up but for the content creator that’s revenue, that’s money in their bank, so KZbin get it together! I don’t want to lose any of my favorite KZbinrs like Bonnie!

[@brette6117]

@@LynsAlteredArtsexactly. That's also why WHEN it IS possible we need to support a creator's alternative revenue streams so they are not reliant on ads alone. 💓

[@anphillips8110]

Thank you for sharing your high school story. I was that way in middle school. All it takes is one positive event to understand and believe in your self worth.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thanks for sharing! Yeah, the girl I talked about was always very nice to me and would say hi whenever I passed her in the hallway, but I never knew that she actually knew my name until the experience that I shared. That meant more to me than anything. It's too bad it was near the end of my senior year and I wish I could have had that experience sooner to realize that there are some people who actually noticed me and cared, but better late than never and I will always be thankful to her for that. ❤️

[@wendykarle3114]

Your quote "I just do what I can in the time that I have" is priceless. You are a gem. I'm so surprised that people are critiquing you.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you!

[@hennagal7360]

Well said - its a great takeaway

[@Corvidae65]

Please don't apologize for going "off the rail". I appreciate everyone keeping things real. You and Mack are different people and you explain things well. Keep up the great work. We love you! Audra

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate that!

[@MissTrixie29]

MMC sent me over. I grew up and instead of a warming drawer it was the broiler. When my parents got a new oven, she was so excited to tell me about the drawer and to ask me if I knew what it was for. She’s 75 and was absolutely thrilled with it. She also used it appropriately. I use it for cookie trays.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

First of all, thank you so much for listening to that crazy Mack and checking out my channel.😁 Secondly, I have found out since putting this video out that some oven drawers are really just for storage. I either misunderstood whoever told me that they were all warming drawers or they were also misinformed. Either way, I am finding out that most drawers are probably just for storage and occasionally there for warming or, as you pointed out, for broiling.😊

[@maryleeswope3353]

You are so right...treating one another with compassion and empathy will always be what resonates...not the superficial stuff. Be the best you...that's all you can do. Take care!🎉🎉🎉

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Absolutely!!🙏

[@hildamasi4665]

You’re really good at cleaning. So many people need help and can’t afford to pay. God Bless you

[@marije8562]

I'm sorry to hear about this situation. Nancy must have loved her husband a great deal if losing him causes her to be depressed. I hope the clean home will at least ease her burden a little and give her some space. Thank you for helping her.

[@ashcraft555]

Shout out from the bathroom crew! I used to hide in there a lot, too. At least once a week in junior high, I skipped gym class and sat in a stall. I always had a book in my pocket so I would just read until it was time for my next class or until lunch was over.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

So many people are telling me that. It's crazy how many of us there were. It's a shame we didn't all just unite over our loneliness and become best of friends.😊

[@michellesmith9971]

Ahhh! There’s nothing better than enjoying a hot cup of coffee and the sights and sounds of Bonnie scraping and scouring! Why is that? I love what you do and your clients are so fortunate to have such a lovely caring person helping them thru difficult times.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, you're so sweet. Thank you 😊 💓

[@Amacott99]

I have NEVER seen so much kitchen “stuff”……my Gosh. I’d be exhausted organising all of this. Kudos to you.

[@Bogahome4]

Bonnie be proud of how far you have come! I look forward to your videos! Your victim mentality show helped me more than you will ever know! I was the outcast in school too Part of being an introvert! No need to apologize! You have a caring heart! Please keep doing videos!

[@bearfog07]

And all the introverts say amen, we know what Bonnie's been through.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Do you also have dreams about redoing High School as you are now, knowing that everyone has their own issues even when they look like they have it all together, even the popular kids? I would be so much less concerned about my awkwardness and try to go out of my way to find those who are struggling. I always try to remind my kids that everyone is too busy worrying about how to fit in, so however awkward they might feel at this time, everyone else is in the same boat and it gets much better after high school. I guess I should say for most people it gets better. There are still quite a few adults who are bullies and need to grow up and they can make life difficult for their peers, but, generally speaking, adulthood is better than High School.😊

[@Zombie-adventures]

Amen!

[@bernicehoggsfav]

Please don't quit KZbin!!! I look so forward to your video content. You are such a sweetheart.❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, thank you! I'm not going anywhere. I'm sure I'll stick it out. Some weeks are just harder than others.

[@faithsmith7431]

Bonnie, you are a wonderful person who gives freely of their time to help others. It's ok that you don't talk like Mack. Your narrative is you. And you are wonderful. You have helped so many people, us, through the ups and downs of life. I was also very shy in school. Just be the best version of you in life. Love and hugs from an old woman😊

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Faith! As much as it would mean the world to me to be able to speak well and not take so much time to process thoughts and get them out, I realize I have other gifts and abilities that I'm sure other people wish they had, so I'm going to try to focus on being grateful for those rather than focusing on what I lack. You're the best!🥰

[@rayandkathybussieres495]

I for one cannot watch Mac…. I just don’t get his mean, name calling type of delivery. I’d rather watch you any day.

[@deborahswett3508]

This is the very first video of yours I’ve seen. I’m still watching! I always wanted to be shy! My mouth was open too often and my brain was not always connected! Love yourself❤

[@ale7564]

That’s a good motto. “I do what I can in the time that I have.” That belongs on a shirt. Or a cape!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

😅

[@SousChef77]

Bonnie, you are adorable and have such a sweet spirit. I love your ministry to others. I think you are doing a great job. You be you sweetness...Mac is certainly being Mac! lol We need both your personalities in this world.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You are so kind.🙏

[@margaretburke4506]

i think you are a wonderful person and I can totally relate to your description of your high school years.

[@marilynlegg311]

I watch, Barbie & Mack’s videos also. You are all 3 very different in what you do. I have been motivated by Mack to declutter & cleaning & by you with organizing & cleaning. I hope I never need Barbie’s service. lol But her videos make me aware of how far people can sink into a level of depression that makes you unable to function even on a basic level. So all that to say, Please keep doing your videos. You are appreciated & needed.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, thank you! Yes, Barbie is definitely in a class all her own. 😜

[@jlaurelc]

It's also so nice to hear the voice of an autistic woman in this space. As someone whose struggle with neurodivergence has affected my ability to keep my house orderly and clean using NT approaches, it's so helpful to see and hear someone with a perspective closer to my own talk about cleaning and organizing. Mack is great, but he's too tall to see things from my perspective, lol. 😜 Seriously though, the absolute joy you derive from making things clean, and your wholesome kindness and openness are a comfort and inspiration. Keep being you.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

@@jlaurelcLOL! Yeah, Mack's too tall to see things from most people's perspectives. Glad I can represent a shorter ND population!

[@annmcevoy9299]

Women are usually criticized harsher for things where more grace may be extended to men, for the same things. In my experiences anyway, school, family, workplace, maybe You Tube?

[@LindaAllen-w8f]

We love you just the way you are!!❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏💞

[@amandaborthwick3468]

Don't apologise for showing your emotions, you are human. And so so kind. Amazing job on this kitchen too Bonnie. 👏

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thanks so much.❤️❤️❤️

[@vvvv-h8m]

So sad what a depression does to someone physically and mentally Bonnie you are a great human being for helping her. I hope Nancy will keep it as you left it For a widow she has to much stuff I hope she donates it . Looking forward to Nancy update If she gives you full reins please convince her to donate as you mentioned 75% of her stuff

[@brigetteedinborough9541]

This poor woman has four times more kitchen items than I do and I have a family of six. She really needs someone to help her purge what she doesn’t need. I can’t imagine how hard it might be for her, but it will be a huge relief when her home turns into a tidy comfortable place to live that she can keep clean on her own. I hope that since it’s been almost 10 years since her husband’s passing that this will be the turning point where she can begin doing the inner and outer work to move forward.

[@DanikaLindsey-i7c]

That’s exactly it! The relief she would feel would be tremendous with less stuff. It’s overwhelming for someone without her challenges, so once you add grief and depression, she’s not giving herself the best chance for calm and success.

[@elizabethmitchell5925]

I use my dishwasher for storage, too. My husband is obsessed wiith storage jars. Good place to keep them with two of us at home now

[@sisutytto2563]

Bonnie,,just be you. You have such a beautiful soul and you can't imagine how much you help many people.🤩😍🥰🤗🤗.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

You are an angel to help people. I can't believe what you have done. Amazing. I am a widow of 13 years. Lost my husband when I was 50 and I can tell you the struggle is real. I understand how the woman feels.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

It does sound like you can relate. I'm sure that's very difficult and a huge life change.🙏

[@theresahandwerk7651]

Bonnie, I'm glad you talked about the victim mentality. I feel the same way and hearing you made me feel better. Thanks for being genuine ✨️ ❤️

[@brittneycaldwell-h5g]

You’re such an amazingly lovely human. Please don’t loose sight of that. WE LOVE YOU FOR YOU ❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏🥰

[@amandasnailtasticnails9657]

I can’t wait to see what you do to the pantry. I’m a fan of seeing a pantry transformation.

[@irenepwheeldon]

Don't sell yourself short. You are a very good speaker, I enjoy listening to you, and I am sure everyone who watches you feels the same way. Love the cleaning, love the conversation, love the enthusiasm you give out about your work. Keep it up.

[@kamidsjournee]

Your personal story was for me. I’m still that way, and I’m in my 60s. Thank for what you do. I will always watch and share as I can.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate you sharing that. 🙏

[@juliebrooke6099]

Love seeing you Tetris everything into the Tupperware cupboard.

[@sheaczernik9778]

U are amazing. Keep up your good deeds and great work. Enjoy all your daily adventures.

[@marystrenke3050]

Bonnie!! You are amazing 🎉 Funny, caring, hardworking, intelligent

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏💓

[@kirstyroyles2070]

I too was a quiet child at school and felt your pain with your high school story, but you are an amazing woman who goes above and beyond helping others. That takes someone very special to do this. I love that you always have their needs in the forefront of what you do, not a lot of people would be so caring. I love your videos, you connect because you are natural and respectful of others, please don’t change, the other KZbin cleaning channels are all amazing and you all have different ways of helping, I love Mack’s sense of humour and Barbies strong stomach for some of the dirtiest jobs, you all do fantastic work and we love you all ❤

[@susanf4857]

I love all of them too! They each have something unique about their videos but they are all motivating!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@teresatillotson5561]

Oh Bonnie, you made me cry too😢. You have such a big and beautiful heart, we need more people like you in this world. I can't wait to see the pantry video so much to do. Have a wonderful holiday weekend😁

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Teresa!❤️❤️

[@ThKiwi]

I’ve had the conversation with my husband about the amount of dishes we should have on multiple occasions. 😂 He thinks we should have considerably more than we do so we don’t have to do dishes as often, I like that we’re forced to do dishes daily to keep up and that there are never more than about a day’s worth to wash.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yes! I recently got rid of a lot of our extra Tupperware because now if we ever run out, I know that's a sign we have way too many leftovers sitting in our fridge that have not been eaten and that it's time to clean out the fridge and get back some of those Tupperware containers. An inconvenience for just a few minutes, but overall, it's a lot easier than having piles of dishes everywhere and nowhere to store them.😁

[@sellyourhomenowbook]

Shuddering at your husbsbds idea. Dishes should be washed after every meal. Otherwise they will attract bugs, rodents, and smell 😮. You're correct. Please show him this. Eewl.

[@lauramitchell6725]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpPerfect System!🙌🏻👍👏👌

[@schnetzelschwester]

In general, these things are not very expensive. If you happen to run out of Tupperware one day, you can simply buy some. I now throw away containers without lids or lids without containers. No more “Oh, I could use this at some point”. If the plastic is discolored or smells strange, I throw it away too. There's one drawer for Tupperware and if something no longer fits in there, I have to decide what can go. It needed years until I realized that I'm not that poor to be forced to keep everything.

[@messybunonabudget8773]

This is my first time on this channel (which I’m really enjoying) and so much of the clutter in this video really made me think of Dana k white from a slob comes clean and how your cleaning would easily tie into her decluttering method. A key concept she taught me is that I can keep anything, but not everything, and whatever I keep has to fit in the container or space I have. So if the cabinet for pans is too cluttered that things are not easy to put away or get to then it’s time to declutter. It’s not that those things aren’t useful, I just don’t have room. Same thing for blankets, or clothes, or craft supplies.

[@pilotdiana]

It’s perfect that you talk about all kinds of things while we watch.

[@jennifercole5788]

I love to watch you organize! Like conducting an orchestra 💕 you make beautiful music 😉

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@jenniferknowles7219]

All I can say is YOU ARE AMAZING. Please don’t regret putting in your emotional thoughts. I was just like you in high school. I wish I had half of your energy, motivation and organizational skills! But the thing I love most about you is how you love to help others. That is a wonderful quality!! Again, you are a great person. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you so much. 🙏❤

[@terrybryson6864]

I know that Mira is much more cheerful since you helped and befriended her. You change lives. I love your videos.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You are so kind! Thank you!

[@bluerosa1550]

You are a good person because you have given someone else (girl in high school) credit for how she made you feel. There are so many people that will never admit to something like that. I really like you and your cleaning style and folding of clothes. Stay positive and you are great.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you!🫶

[@maryannhorner1900]

Oh how wonderful Bonnie, God knew just who to send this lady - you! All your experience with Mira now goes right into helping her!! Scrapbook heaven 😍 Let her watch one of your videos with Mira, maybe it will give her ideas for her own space. Love this so much!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I told her she needs to watch Mira's channel. She would relate so well with her.😊

[@joanchurch6227]

Bonnie, you are very articulate and quite charismatic. I enjoy your videos very much, just lately u-tube has not been putting your videos out on my feed. I don't follow that many people, so your videos should come up. I will try harder to find your posts. Love you and what you do.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you so much, Joan. 🙏❤️

[@alicialowesyou]

We love you, Bonnie! You are changing lives! You're amazing

[@mamat1213]

My life changed with I got rid of 75% of my dishes…and I’m in a family of 3 but I swear by having 2 dishes per person. Everyone washes their own! Even when all are dirty it doesn’t cover the counter

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

So life-changing, right?! I could definitely pare down some more, but need to make time to do that. But we don't even have half of this amount for the four of us...haha!

[@carriemayer2980]

I've pared down a lot, and I love what one woman said worked for her: one place setting per person per meal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. It's not always feasible to wash dishes after every meal, so having enough for a full day's worth of meals was a great recommendation.

[@jillsiebman7832]

Always enjoy watching your videos!! You give a fresh start to the people in need!! Thank you!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@BlueAriesJewelry]

I would be so overwhelmed cleaning that kitchen. Bless you for helping people who desperately need help. You’re such a kind hearted lady. 🥰

[@RoseMaryBowen]

You are a kind and compassionate person. No need to apologize for who you are. Love your videos! God bless you. ❤😊

[@rebeccarendle3706]

Great Job Bonnie. You are such a special gift for people in need of help. I know it is not environmentally friendly... but it would do her good to reduce her kitchen wear down to a normal amount and then buy "one-use" paper plates, cups, wood cutlery, and paper towels, so that when she is having a "crippling depression phase" where she has no energy to clean up, she can use the one-use stuff and just throw them in the bin... that will dramatically reduce the amount that piles piling up!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

The funny thing is she had a whole stack of disposable things in one of her cupboards, so I'm not sure why she wasn't using them more, but I agree. I tell people that as well, to just use disposable until they are in a better place. 😊

[@annmcevoy9299]

Bet she had a large home, kitchen pantry etc before moving into her basement apartment,

[@1954evelyn]

Can't wait for next week and you are free to say things it gives us more understanding of you. I am so happy you do this for people I really need it myself I am 70 years old and disabled but watching you it inspires me to do as much as I can do at one time. I have too many things in my kitchen and this has inspired me to get rid of most of teh utensils I am working on sorting today wish me luck

[@colleenpeck6347]

I am disabled also and only use Correllware now. It is light and doesn't break. Much easier to grasp especially when wet.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Evelyn. And, good luck!!😄

[@susanhampton9671]

I admire your ability ro help someone who has chronic grief. You need to be super proud of yourself. You are the brave, loving, caring soul who is a problem solver. Ignore the negativity. None of those critics are donating theit time and resources to help the client out or most other people for that matter.....Rock on!

[@lynnjennings4431]

Enjoyed watching.

[@jessicamelanson4740]

You are so sweet for doing that for people who are struggling! If only the word was full of more people like you!

[@joannevans2505]

Boy, I’d love to help this lady declutter if she was willing. Soooo many duplicates!

[@lindamusser7370]

It is nice to hear that you would help her.

[@celinaquiros9381]

BLESS you pulling out the stove!! Why does no one do this?!!! I swear, it's the yuckiest place in ANY kitchen! Thorough is thoughtful!

[@asumner1959]

You can't please everyone all of the time. There will always be people who thrive on moaning and complaining and find fault with everything. I enjoy watching your videos and I admire your desire to help people. I've learnt a lot from you, especially folding fitted sheets which I always use to end up rolling in a ball out of pure frustration! I love your empathy and your wise words. Just keep being you. I look forward to watching part 2 of this kitchen and I'm sure all your help will be a huge step towards this lady's recovery. Grief and depression is very debilitating and I wish her the very best for the future.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.💞🙏

[@kbrown3230]

My kids are 40 and 35 but I still remember how wonderful/sad/proud/questioning graduation is. It is such an emotional time. I will say that as your kids grow, you get to meet a whole new person that occasionally see flashes of all your hard work/love you have poured into the child. I pray you get through the hard stuff and truly enjoy meeting this “new” person you have created.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

That's a great way to look at it. I'm already so proud of them and all they have accomplished, so I can't wait to see what the future holds!

[@patriciadifferding7688]

Wow what a difference you make!!Thanks for your kindness and hard work! You be you- unique and special.

[@user-fs6ou3fk9p]

I so agree with you, I love a clear counter top.

[@mrsmuggins]

Out of all the cleaning channels I watch, yours is my favorite❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

That's so nice of you. Thank you!💞😊

[@rebak502]

OMG! I used to hang out in the bathroom during lunch in high school, too. And for the same reason! I've never admitted that to anyone. And I'm 60, so I've kept that a secret for a long time.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I can't believe how many people have commented the same thing. It seems like we need to make a "bathroom stall residents" club.😊 It's nice to know I wasn't alone and we all made it out alive and probably more empathetic because of those experiences.

[@johnkelly9451]

School, work, home! Yes a new club! To have two minutes to collect our thoughts and a moment to step out of the chaos! 😆

[@LynnKsCouture]

Thank you for teaching me how to do the tuck folding method. It really makes sheets etc, very tidy.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You bet!

[@jlaurelc]

I rewatch how to fold a fitted sheet every time I do the laundry...someday it will stick, lol

[@harperdean203]

I was running into a similar issue with having too many dishes and a piled up sink - I ended up putting all but two of each dish in storage and somewhat limiting silverware/cups. It has been an absolute game changer! It has really helped to get my husband and myself into the habit of washing dishes daily. Plus, it only takes 10 minutes max to clean everything if we do let it sit for a bit

[@laydbug268]

You are A BEAUTIFUL MESS!! 🙂 You have a beautiful heart. Don't let other's kill your joy. And THANK YOU for sharing your cleaning for others videos!! We may never be rewarded here on this earth, but when the time comes, we WILL be for using our gifts to help others. Hugs to you, Bonnie!! You are beautiful!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I believe everything you just said. Thanks for sharing!

[@emjay5983]

I really enjoyed your sharing some of your personal thoughts today. I think the more open we are the more understanding we can all be. It promotes kindness and empathy in my humble opinion and makes people feel less alone with their own issues. Thank you it isn't easy to share some of those thoughts.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@jamiemikkelson3583]

You are awesome just as you are. You have a heart of gold, and we love you for it. ❤❤❤❤

[@kdautry100]

I’m fairly certain that the widow couldn’t bear with parting with anything since she lost her husband and had to move. Two major changes was just too much to deal with. I betcha she has a memory for each and every item that’s precious to her now. It’s incredibly difficult to get rid of things sometimes. She needs a lot of hugs and prayers

[@fionafiona1146]

I don't know what prayers would help but having a "purpose" to donate her stuff to (helping people starting new households) might be effective

[@angelamelville67]

Thank you Bonnie for your honesty. I love your videos, please don't give up KZbin. Sending hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ from the UK 🇬🇧

[@itsabughunt6310]

Your vulnerability is beautiful!

[@SkyRutland]

She has so many dishes because she moved from a full home, where she probably entertained family and friends for years, into a basement.😔 She needs someone to help her declutter.

[@lizhodgevoicestudio-108]

As Mel Robbins says, “Don’t swim in the toilet of comparison”. You have a unique inner genius of your own. You do wonderful work!! I used to hide out as well. 😢 I love the Maya Angelou quote.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

😘🙏

[@Cosmo26271]

I just found your channel the other day and am LOVING IT 🥰

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yay! Thank you! And welcome. I'm really glad you're here.💞

[@mikimasumoto7392]

Thank you for being so authentic. Love the story about high school. I am in tears.

[@lydiaflatt9859]

How many rice spoons/paddles can one person use? She had SO many kitchen ‘stuffs’. Bless her!! 😊

[@Daringtobemyself]

Love that you mentioned someone from high school who had a positive impact on you. We all need moments like that and we can ALL be that someone to provide needed comments for another person. This is actually my first time seeing your channel. I have a feeling I may binge on these videos for a while. I love your voice, your attitude, and your energy!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, I'm so glad you're here. And I love your KZbin name.🥰👍

[@jaynecallahanhenson3622]

Mac NEVER apologizes to his critics because he knows that they are nothing more than critics.

[@janlyda9964]

who is Mac?

[@Lisa_S117]

@@janlyda9964Mack from Midwest Magic Cleaning

[@jaynecallahanhenson3622]

@@janlyda9964 The guy who has Midwest Cleaning. He’s done vids with Bonnie and others.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

@janlyda9964 I'm always shocked to find people who don't know Mack before they know me, but I will take that as a compliment! As Jayne and Lisa said, Mack is from Midwest Magic Cleaning. He is autistic, like me, and has a very quirky, sometimes morbid sense of humor, which I very much relate to, but is also extremely well-spoken on issues of mental health, particularly hoarding, and has been a mentor ever since our collaboration last October. He's a great guy, but can take some getting used to since he's a little off the wall. 😅

[@janlyda9964]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp i've watched a couple...and ...what can I say, I'm intrigued...😂

[@PennyPudge]

You are an amazing person to do what you do for others. I know you don't do it for persoal praise but you need to know the gift that you have and are giving to so many. Blessings to you

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Penny.🙏❤️

[@vruth23]

You are awesome. I think you have a very clear and kind way of communicating. And you are very sweet.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you! 😃

[@marilynmccormick3731]

It would take me a month to clean this house. Blessings to you for helping her because depression can be difficult, plus being a widow has to be very hard.

[@shaunwalker6651]

I'm a retired Home Health Aide and I understand what people go through. I thank the GOOD LORD each and everyday that I have the power to be strong and to help others. And I'm a mother of a autistic adult son.

[@RoundSeal]

Downsizing just my dishes made a really large positive impact on my depression. Not only am I forced to clean what I use, I have so much less to worry about. There's plenty of room for everything; I never have to worry about where something goes. And if I put off doing the dishes, even if I have to clean them all, there's still really not much. I've been able to start applying that experience to other things I own, and it's been so freeing. 💚

[@Curveofthecreek]

The amount of kitchen ware this one person has is astonishing! Overwhelming! You did a good thing helping her.

[@EllenKlever-c7k]

Thanks for being a caring person. You are a lifeline for those who are in need. ❤

[@debbysouthworth5606]

My parents and grandparents taught me to be a "clean" cook. I think it means using as few dishes as possible to prepare my meals and even one handed, wash or rinse as I go. Takes care of a TON of cleaning. And I recently cleaned out my inside pantry. Yes I have 2!

[@AliceKato-p1y]

Oh my! This is me.....what a good ole slap in the face. Thank you. I needed this. I did donate a bunch of blankets and cleaning supplies to my local animal shelter. This is a great wake up call. Bless your sweet heart.