The Psychology of Malignant Narcissists - People of the Lie

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[@MysterEarl]

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[@DesertStateInEU]

"Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber barons' cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience. They may be more likely to go to heaven yet at the same time likelier to make a hell of Earth. This very kindness stings with intorelable insult. To be "cured" against one's own will and cured of states which we may not regard as disease is to be put on a level of those who have not yet reached the age of reason or those who never will; to be classed with infants, imbeciles, and domestic animals." The world of Demolition Man is run by malignant narcissists, where everything "bad for you" has been banned (or in the case of anybody who does not agree with this, has been forced underground). Not surprisingly, in real life almost all of these people that are trying to force similar "utopias" on the rest of us, are malignant narcissists incapable of seeing themselves as anything other than morally superior perfect human beings.

[@RIZFERD]

All of Western world, Middle East, etc. Corporations, governments, religions, including news/media/entertainment industries. Realize those celebrities famous or not all artists/musicians/actors/producers/directors/etc including religious leaders are these kind of people. #israel #palestine

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[@NotEvenDeathCanSaveU]

those are some big noses in the thumbnail, good job

[@amandamccallum6796]

The problem is our system rewards Narcissistic behavior, they win in court, they get the positions of power and excell in business and politics.

[@sailingaeolus]

I wonder if it was always like this?

[@TheeBohemian]

Perhaps. It has been chronicled throughout history, during declines in empire especially. If so, one could wonder of the nature of the world in permitting the ascendancy of such psychopathological maligancy. Was and is this world purposed as an acid test that temporarily rewards broken narcissistic souls, only to be eternally condemned in the afterlife; as many religious beliefs posit? Perhaps again it is a cyclic pheonmeon, with narcissism coming to the fore during times of societal collapse, wherein constructive and decidedly virtueous actions become increasing more scarce and self-deification is engendered alongside technological advancement and displaced feelings of invunerability. @@sailingaeolus

[@thaistomp]

@@sailingaeolus No it wasn't. The weak (narcissists) have inherited the earth.

[@edim108]

The system is working precisely as intended. It rewards narcissistic psychopaths bc it was made by them for their benefit...

[@michaelnurse9089]

You are wrong. That the system is not foisted upon us. We are part of the building of these systems, either through action or inaction. Non-narcissists are 90% of the population, we have the power (over time) to change the systems but most of us are happier to drink beer and watch Netflix than fight for better systems.

[@ZacTBH]

In simple terms: Good people put themselves on trial and right their wrongs, bad people think they are always right and can do no wrong.

[@tdesq.2463]

Right. That's part of why Good ... Decent, Honest ... People tend to not do evil stuff: We know that we will always be caught and punished ... by ourselves. We never think in terms of "Nobody will ever know if do/did some bad thing." We will know ... and we know it. Good Note! ~TD, Boston

[@Mindmartyr]

None are good

[@thenatureofnurture6336]

There is something critical missing from your analysis, I think. Evil needs to be healed. It flows from a wound that is being hidden and denied.

[@tdesq.2463]

@@thenatureofnurture6336 Or else, if & when the wound is healed, all the foul, evil smelling puss and whatnot will at last cease to flow from the breach. I get what You're saying. At least, I think I do. Good Comment! ~TD, Boston

[@swrvinthetrees8920]

nice profile pic

[@GLsJAwtomatica]

Learning about narcissistic abuse and cluster b personality disorders was literally the most important thing I've ever done for myself

[@michellebarre5397]

1000% opened my eyes to see/recognize who im dealing with-

[@mariahwashington190]

Me too. It’s a life changer

[@DevoidVoid]

Same. But I think this is actually simultaneously more damaging for the general population. One it's incredibly unnerving the amount of dehumanizing language used against them and the scapegoating behaviour they engage with is now pervasive in all our society. 2. The implication of people being unfixable is a double whammy. BPD was this same concept and had the same unfixable stigma just a few decades ago. I'm not sure adding to that is the appropriate solution. It'll just tear society down more. OFC everyone Ironically is less interested in fixing them, or fixing themselves for why they are attracted to them, and more so just have severe contempt, it's an endless cycle back and forth I've found reading everything and learning about it all.

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

These folks don’t just have a little ego; they take it to a whole new level, wrapped in a complex mix of entitlement, manipulation, and a serious lack of empathy.

[@susanmercurio1060]

2:00 I have always believed that killing the body isn't the worst moral crime. Killing the spirit is much worse.

[@bf6048]

I agree 100%

[@Erica-cf1xb]

And most are spiritually dead. They are actively hunting for the woke people. Not the ones with friends. The ones who blows the dog whistle on all of their sex acts against humanity. They don't like their real identity being exposed. They can get any new victims if the producers know they been sick.

[@allshades7991]

100 % true

[@CPT_Pepper]

😢I agree this is why Black Americans should continue to pursue Slavery Reparations. The spirit still suffers TODAY

[@laurenbatson5918]

​@@CPT_Pepperslavery ended in the United States almost 200 years ago. The idea of reparations today is peddled by power-hungry scammers.

[@rhymesandvibes]

I used to be afraid of my Narc religious mum. She used that against me. She ended up kicking me out with nowhere to go. I nearly died out there - It was Dad that brought me back. The best feeling in the world right now is to look her right in the eye, knowing that if she cannot break me, nothing can. Trust your allies.

[@VishruthKumar.]

Are you a woman? Cos I've seen a lot of dads that are way harsher on their sons than their daughters!

[@venitaj3340]

@@VishruthKumar.my mom kicked me out my dad took me in I thought our relationship will evolve I thought wrong the living household situation is worse yes dads are much more harsher

[@fuhrersavior9575]

@@VishruthKumar. That's the americanized male. They pamper the female and use and discard the son. Female grows up and produces that inferior male. The cycle repeats. The Founding Fathers (the ancient Greeks) explored this and broke that cycle. It took hundreds of years for Father Nature to perfect this system. Since the "great enlightenment and the u.s.a., All of this is deteriorating.

[@Hyderagean]

​@@VishruthKumar.As well as a lot of moms who are much easier on their sons than they are on their daughters, which is exactly why we end up with so many coddled, weak men in society who can't handle their own emotions and take it out on women consistently due to never being taught to respect women by respecting their mom.

[@mr.nobody2244]

Don't trust people that trash talk others they know, behind their backs, to make themselves look good. Don't trust people if they get angry and defensive when you call them out or criticize them.

[@akidodogstar5460]

Good advice. I usually leave or object when some one talks trash when the person isn't around to defend themselves.

[@mr.nobody2244]

@@akidodogstar5460 Leaving the situation is the smartest thing one can do. Don't object because there's a high chance you're dealing with a narcissist and objecting will just make you their next target. Don't try to reason with a narcissist - they are unable to understand.

[@gwtomkins]

Politicians

[@egrytznr8893]

The second part is almost everybody, I bet even you.

[@thaistomp]

@@akidodogstar5460 I go and tell the person who they were talking about.

[@ryanpoe9791]

Even worse than individualized malignant narcissism is collective malignant narcissism. As above, so below. When the leaders are corrupt, the people are bound to follow. This is the sickness we live amongst.

[@MattAngiono]

Narcissism is an adaptive trait in this culture... We become more and more like NPD every year.

[@markcooperartcomofficial]

Exactly. The U.S. is probably the worst of all!

[@Flame-Bright-Cheer]

.... unfortunately I feel that you are right but fortunately by you making a statement and me commenting on it show that we are not part of this even though we are surrounded by it❤❤❤

[@ryanpoe9791]

@@Flame-Bright-Cheer We are definitely a minority right now, but history shows us we always were and likely always will be. Best course of action is non-action. Don't involve yourself in their affairs. Stay away from them. People don't change because someone stood up to them or convinced them of anything. IF people change, they usually come to the conclusion on their own and perhaps with some form of divine intervention. Simply put, fear not, fret not. Let your light shine, but dim it before the profane. There's nothing darkness hates more than light... and violently so.

[@afribeanner]

@@ryanpoe9791 Does a Narcissist leader manipulate the gullible masses ? Or does a Narcissistic leader give the masses exactly what they subconsciously lust for? This is not just a modern illness. When the crowd is given a choice to free Jesus the son of God or Barabbas the murderer the crowd shouts Barabbas.

[@sespos]

Narcissists of all forms are so exhausting to be around. So important to identify these types in your life and distance yourself asap

[@thaistomp]

They're literally everywhere now. Lol.

[@michaelnurse9089]

You normally meet them as your boss, your spouse or your parent(s) which makes distancing difficult or impossible, at least in the short term.

[@clogs4956]

That’s because Narcissism is now a gender.

[@mr.nobody2244]

Jordan Peterson calls them Energy Vampires - which describes them perfectly. They only take and never give, so that is why it's so exhausting to be around them.

[@deanpd3402]

My relationship with a narcissist, and the subsequent education I got, as I was pointed in the right direction, toughened me up. Nowadays I could not care less about what someone calls me or might think about me. I know who I am, and that is all that matters.

[@cro-magnoncarol4017]

A psychopathy is a predator, a narcissist is a coward. And as the old saying goes, "Never trust a coward, they'll always sell you out to save their own hides..."

[@allstarwatt7246]

psychopaths lack the ability to feel empathy but they are most often not predators.

[@cro-magnoncarol4017]

@@allstarwatt7246 Nitpicking is one of the greatest logical fallacies.

[@pinkchampagne3718]

@@allstarwatt7246lack of empathy for the pain they inflict but they have great empathy for reading others emotional states

[@PaperMario64]

Narcissists are also predators. They lay traps, they dress like lambs and talk like lambs to blend in with lambs, they will mimic their prey to make it feel comfortable.

[@Sunshine-lo6vd]

Yup!!! Cowards

[@Kitzthekats]

Love to see people genuinely waking up and helping others break free from the imprisonment set on our minds.

[@dehe82]

The corporate world is a haven for these people. I've often thought these people were psychopaths, but now know better.

[@edim108]

Don't jump to conclusions yet. There is a gross overrepresentation of Psychopaths in the corporate world, politics, etc. Narcissism and Psychopathy don't exclude one another. More often than not they come in a package together...

[@michaelnurse9089]

Even non-corporate businesses. I worked for a series of 'self made millionaires' whose self worship was a torrent wider than the Amazon.

[@Herr.P]

Malignant narcissists are actually psychopaths.

[@hi_is_this_clorox_bleach]

HR

[@alaysiakayebutler6299]

They are psychopaths

[@fearthehoneybadger]

I have read that the rate of psycopathy is higher among corporate CEOs than in prisons for the criminal insane.

[@tonyg5132]

People in insane asylums usually are there due to issues beyond their control like schizophrenia or severe bipolar 1, schizo affective, brain trauma, etc. People who are in cluster B are usually in regular prisons or are politicians, businessmen, etc. the difference usually comes from their level of intelligence and money which keep them from jail.

[@tonyg5132]

@MyNextShotWontMiss Whatever you do don’t fall for someone who is like that. It will ruin you. They are the epitome of fake and callous.

[@darkhorseman8263]

Politicians, Religious Leaders, Police, CEOs, Billionaires. They have 4 to 10 times the dopamine in their brains than normal people, and they crave Social Dominance and Coercive Control like an addiction. It means they gravitate to the positions of power and authority like moths to the flame.

[@dustinmiller3864]

My ex and her mom and dad are narcissists they are some of the most evil people I’ve ever met the two faced kind nice to your face while planning your demise the hole time doing horrible things and not caring one bit hurting myself and children without remorse it’s a sad sickness I believe it’s spiritual and it’s generational

[@dl3472]

Being a psychopath is not a crime its how your brain is wired for optimal survival

[@DuncanL7979]

This was my father completely. I've never met another person so concerned with managing other's perceptions, without much regard for the reality of a given situation.

[@angelategos7217]

what an exhausting life he must've lead!

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

No kidding 😕

[@a.y.7738]

My adopted sister is molded from the same template. She destroyed a few lives and is forced to rewrite the aftermath, manipulating other’s perceptions with no regard to the dead or living.

[@southlondon86]

Same with mine

[@t_c5266]

That's not narcissism... Bro literally 100% of people did that up until maybe the 1960s when having manners, being presentable, and managing your image went out of style. Literally even the poorest people would manage other's perception by wearing suits, and not describing their problems to others. Now that seems like narcissism because it's become to commonplace to not have any tact or grace.

[@gbluesky4264]

These people are definitely NOT as rare as we are lead to believe..They practically come out of the woodwork

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

Absolutely they are everywhere and they can't survive without us

[@richhoneysett5600]

Peck’s most popular book “The Road Less Traveled” was very good. But “People Of The Lie” is a gut wrenching mirror reflecting back the underlying evil that resides in humanity. Great video Thank you for posting it

[@robbinpapalucas4620]

It's not just in the political arena that this takes place. It has become a cancer amongst humanity. 😮

[@annamariatountas]

I agree

[@Aurora-uq5hm]

WE LIVE IN A VERY SICK SOCIETY!! THE INTERNET HAS MADE THE MAJORITY OF SOCIETY OBSESSED WITH SELF!!🙂

[@RIZFERD]

Religions = politics = economy All of Western world, Middle East, etc. Corporations, governments, religions, including news/media/entertainment industries. Realize those celebrities famous or not all artists/musicians/actors/producers/directors/etc including religious leaders are these kind of people. #israel #palestine

[@Epicsburg]

​@@Aurora-uq5hm legalize psychedelics. Lsd has helped me deal with that a little. I still got much work, but I used to be very lost.

[@timmywitty1432]

Agreed! It has been socially engineered from the top down.

[@CornFedZ06]

The culture of the internet made everyone with "the sickness" sort of float to the surface for all of us (introspectors) to spectate. It has become sort of like a realtime documentary for me.

[@ipercalisse579]

Floating to the surface like pieces of shit on water... yepyour right!

[@mummyd1990]

Alot of sheeple are obsessed by mobile phones,money,Internet, computers.

[@jds6014]

I always say the best and worst thing that has became popular in my generation (80-90’s kid) was the internet.🛜

[@pom791]

It can be an accelerant, but no one is exempt from "the sickness". Including yourself.

[@dylanmccormick2971]

It's like the Jerry Springer show. Ahha

[@Bombadil-ez9ns]

I knew an intensely malignant narcissist a few years ago. I learned to put her in a different category. It's not that she lied. That was too simple. It's that the truth and lies were like tools to her. Or weapons. She would pick up the truth and use it if it served her in that moment. For that reason, I didn't think of her simply as a liar. I treated everything she said as a kind of poison.

[@christopherbrooks6355]

Sounds exactly like my kids mother

[@christalone71]

That is one of the reasons these people are so dangerous. They are so much more deceptive because of that mixture of truth and lies. And they do whatever works for their own advantage, even if it destroys another.

[@ruthgrey7190]

The best liars, the really dangerous ones take the truth and twist it just a little. So that it is not an obvious lie but something much more difficult to glean. But that was beautifully put to consider it all a poison.

[@kylesanders8276]

Oh, I didn't know your were familiar with my mother lol Like. To a T.

[@kylesanders8276]

@@TrevorSmith-o3k Yes, hiding behind technicalities and literalisms.

[@jadegreen1554]

It’s not about misdiagnosing someone who disagrees with our opinions, but calling out evil people who are basically, evil, with a disregard for ethics and values. There is a red line, and this idea of not being able to oppose bad because you are afraid to judge allows the malignant evil space to infiltrate. It is important to call out blatant bad.

[@stefangebhard7074]

The paradox between culture and narcissistic personality is creating and reinforcing each other. It’s never been more prevalent than it is in today’s world.

[@Make_Ukraine_Russia_Again]

The Kol Nidre.

[@taylorpresley4604]

It has always existed, just more disordered people who beget more disordered people.

[@teddyboef2821]

Refusing to see evil because of uncomfortable feelings is evil in itself.

[@HeyMykee]

And you know what they say about all that's required for evil to succeed...

[@Erica-cf1xb]

That mimicking play is getting revealed. People didn't know they were supporting terrorism. It was just for fun and the image awards.

[@theadl3681]

Cowards

[@-Swamp_Donkey-]

Jews

[@wesleyblake6249]

@@HeyMykeeis for good men to do nothing.

[@kaptainwarp]

That book changed my life. I read that back in 2002 or so. It gave me the courage to leave a bad relationship, and still guides my perception.

[@unknowninfinium4353]

Which one?

[@timmywitty1432]

@@unknowninfinium4353. People of the Lie by M. Scott Peck.

[@BigSky000]

@@unknowninfinium4353 Probably referring to M. Scott Peck's "The People Of The Lie." The book is valuable, but it was published in 1983, 40 years ago. We are still awakening to the severity of pathology that results from trauma in childhood. Two quite revealing books about being human are "The Myth Of Sanity," by Martha Stout, and "The Body Remembers," by Babette Rothschild. Sam Vaknin, online, is exceptionally insightful regarding these issues.

[@LATEXXJUGGERNUT]

Guessing People of The Lie

[@tigarlady]

"People of the lie" by Scott Peck. Read it in the '90's. Difficult read bc of the examples of his practise with difficult children and their families. Guess what- there is no Evil children! Only grown ups that mess up and ruin childrens lifes.

[@andrewbobb3170]

Children often experience a profound moment where they realize that other people are real, and have their own lives. I wonder how much the phenomenon of Narcissism is related to a failure in this process. It could explain why social media, with its inherent dehumanization, seems to generate Narcissists.

[@shulamitebeautifulbride]

It definitely is a way of thinking and I have seen it in groups, clubs, religion and job positions. It is a power struggle

[@drd0114]

More precisely, social media teaches narcissistic behaviors. Once adopted by normal self-conscious people, they develop cognitive dissonance because those behaviors go against the empathic person they are at their core.

[@user-ot9es1vv5b]

Cultural homogenisation: remove belonging, promote narcissism and hedonism: maximise profits and compliance

[@Leo-mr1qz]

That is an excellent point!!

[@artemismoonbow2475]

I came across a video about New Age type stuff and they were talking about "NPCs" in the real world. I couldn't believe what I was hearing and the insane levels of narcissism it would take to actually believe a human being is an NPC in a simulation that you are the main character of.

[@SoberOKMoments]

I am a voracious reader, but at 80 I have forgotten many of the books I've read over the years. Peck's book "People of the Lie," however, was so powerful it has remained firmly in my memory. Once read, never forgotten. Not a book to be read alone in a secluded place, though. Some of It has a high creepy factor.

[@MrSnout5]

R D Laing's books are also of great value, two of them in particular - 'The Divided Self,' & 'Sanity, Madness and the Family.' I, too, have never forgotten M. Scott Peck's book, 'People of the Lie.' I especially remember his piece about the parents of a son who had committed suicide with a shotgun; they proceeded to give said shotgun to another son as a Christmas present. It's one of the saddest, most chilling books I have ever read.

[@harrietblue4792]

I was adopted into a cult of Narcissists. I was always the scapegoat. Even my first friend was evil and i was trauma bonded. Now ive broke free, found God and picking up the pieces of my failed life.

[@ArtLoverScotland]

I hear you and I feel your pain. Been there myself Mother, siblings, two husbands and a fiance. It is a hard path and one where we have to acknowledge our traits and weaknesses and allow ourselves to heal. Blessings to you

[@djjukeboxhero6491]

God was the ultimate narcissist.

[@vicchavez6570]

Unfortunately we figure it out too late in life

[@qua7771]

Society is cult like. Just look at the insanity of mainstream behavior.

[@hectorignacio-nx1dm]

That is how they, as I too understand, propagate their kind... Power for sake of power takes no prisoners and leaves who they consider 'the weak' in the dust. Pure evil. They never remove their masks.

[@cadewarrencns]

Out of all the books I've ever read, Peck's "People Of The Lie" is not just amongst the greatest, most horrifying, and most urgently/socioculturally important of them, it honestly saved my life and helped me recognize the very person "of the lie" destroying my own life as I was reading it. While all that should suffice to prompt others to read this book... Honestly, with one of THE greatest book titles in history, what else do you need?

[@kevinkinney5445]

Agreed. A great book that I came upon just when I needed the clarity it provided. Excellent book.

[@SR-fx5sm]

Thanks for sharing. Added to my list ✨

[@sissi8610]

I still remember the story of parents with two boys, one shot himself, and the following Christmas the parents gave the other son the shotgun as a Christmas present. Dr Peck was horrified, he arranged for the poor boy to live with a kind aunt, and luckily, the boy was saved and got better. And the parents? They played innocent and ignorant: What boy wouldn't like such an expensive gift? I am still horrified. Still get goosebumps at the level of evil coming from these parents. That book is my Nr 1 book ever.

[@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight]

@@sissi8610 Wow, that is so cruel. Why would they do something like that. Did they want him to use it on himself too? How old was the boy?

[@sissi8610]

I don't have the book anymore. From memory the boy was a teenager. Maybe 15? But I still remember Dr Peck asking the parents to come in for a talk. When he asked them, after a stunned silence, if it was another gun, or the same as the one used in the suicide, the parents said, same one. But they played stupid, and were quite clever at making excuses. But their trickery wasn't successful with Dr Peck. He retaliated, and basically rescued that boy out of the clutches of evil. The boy was covered in sores, from picking on himself. And after he lived with a kind aunt, those skin wounds healed, I guess he stopped "picking" on himself so much. I do understand such hidden, deceitful evil, my father was one of them. That's why I know it exists.

[@gillpelage]

I did my own recordings of the best excerpts from M Scott Peck's People of the Lie. It's amazing how small a narcissistic injury, can cause a full blown narcissist. And truly amazing how constant injury in childhood can create a truly empathic individual.

[@sovereignsister]

This is an interesting point.

[@geewhiz5926]

Im starting to lose that empathy people don't deserve it.

[@gillpelage]

@@sovereignsister I just noticed your name. I love it!

[@mkayokay3192]

Constant injury in childhood more often produces the narcissistic traits. People don’t like to hear this but empathy created by constant childhood injury is also an affected and soulless trauma response. It’s not the “good” side of the coin. Those types of people are used and manipulated to cause UNTOLD damage to society. Coming into balance and alignment with truth is the way to health.

[@geewhiz5926]

@@mkayokay3192 That's not with everyone I admit when I'm wrong but I'm stubborn and if I hold a view no one can change it but me. I do get intrusive thoughts but I don't take them seriously.

[@reeferseasalt]

I appreciate this essay as I think it is hard for some to imagine the detrimental, soul crushing damage they do to the soul. They revel in your confusion and hurt. Such fear they must have. Let us pity them and remove their power.

[@DisabilityExams]

A narcissist is someone who doesn't realize how wonderful you are.

[@teknatruth]

Outstanding video! we are all either children of Truth or children of lies. Each person chooses each day.

[@Freefolkcreate]

I'm starting to realize that narcissist don't have to be violent to achieve that result. They can always use the state or others to punish or destroy their rivals. Evil sacrifices others for themselves rather than sacrificing self for others. It's life turned upside down.

[@Autojones]

That flat out IS the narcissist, they rally everyone against you , (they are ALL gas lighters ) they sabotage you at every opportunity and claim it's all a mistake or misunderstanding, and if you prove their dishonesty they change into the victim of your "hatred" by you, who have always plotted against them in the background. The psychopath on the other hand comes right at you themselves to destroy you.

[@zg-it]

The reason they're drawn to this state is because the state has the Monopoly on violence.

[@KA-pe6sv]

Reminds me of Nurse Ratchet from One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest

[@snapman218]

Using the state is violence

[@dmac2168]

They ARE extremely violent. They shred peoples souls. A person with a broken arm has a clear and recognisable physical injury. A person with a mental, internal, emotional psychological injury is not recognised. There is a massive difference between mental illness and mental injury. Mental illness, such as someone with a personality disorder like a narcissist versus a mental injury in an otherwise healthy human being whom has been destroyed internally and now carries a psychological injury. Of course if that mental injury isn't attended to it can become an illness just like a untreated physical wound can develop sepsis or gangrene. Psychopaths, Sociopaths, Narcissists, Borderlines, Dark Triads can cause such life changing damage in a very short amount of time and there is NO protection in the law. Bullying is a lower form of non physical violent abuse that has lead people to suicide. Yet if the victim of bullying would smack the bully in the head with physical violence, that victim will end up in jail. And here's the kicker, the salt in the wound; that bullys injury, broken nose, cut lip whatever will be healed in a few days. But the scars, emotional trauma from being bullied may never heal and is completely invisible to everyone. And to top it off if society would say that bully deserved the smack down, the F**KING bullying would stop!!!

[@ranmad415]

Awesome as always! I sometimes find it difficult to understand why people are so attracted to malignant narcissists and cannot see them for what they are. Charisma and manipulation can only get one so far, so there must be a willing self-deception on the part of those who follow them. And, those people are the ones who scare me most. Thank you for putting this work out into the world to provoke thought and inspire action. You guys are the best!

[@dmac2168]

It's called trauma bonding. Narcissists will give you all the attention and admiration they need to get you hooked. Once that's accomplished you will be utilised for their needs only. The bond has been created. When they see or sense your hesitancy, another round of ego building will happen. "oh you're the best, I couldn't do this with out you" etc and so forth.

[@RAFITAESTRADITA]

One of the main reason why people in general feels attracted to narcissistic individuals is because we still need to know who is God and how his traits are. The more you know God the less you're at risk of being put under the "spell" of narcissistic behaviors.

[@ranmad415]

I think that you can apply the same thinking to knowing oneself. If one knows and oneself well, and loves themself with all their quirks, faults, gifts and talents, one is less likely to seek praise or refuge in the words or actions of another. Enjoy the day! @@RAFITAESTRADITA​

[@steventhehistorian]

You're very good at putting words to the things I feel but can't quite explain. Thanks for the great video.

[@Leo-mr1qz]

The creator is very articulate, indeed. ❤

[@Sh0n0]

Your welcome kid

[@kyrohowe3156]

I share that feeling dude. Same feeling

[@grahamcmusic]

Excellent talk as someone who has suffered at the hands of a malignant narcissist. I have listened to many talks about malignant narcissists and In my view this is the best. it really gets to the essence : the unshakeable false belief they are good people and indeed special when in fact their actions reveal the opposite

[@juanramonsilva1067]

Something not mentioned in this video but can nevertheless be assumed is the greed of narcissists. It’s not just that they don’t recognize their mistakes and have fear of facing their own evil, they also believe they deserve everything the world has to offer, they are very greedy. A narcissist will NEVER be humble, they may act like they are but they aren’t.

[@istp1967]

"Evil is 'Live' spelt backwards" . . Great quote. I used to say that when I was a kid; but people always told me I was stupid . . .

[@GenerationX1984]

They were just jealous. You were brilliant. I never even thought of that.

[@fuhrersavior9575]

Black Sabbath or The Misfits? Or the film Summer of Sam?

[@LokiBeckonswow]

Narcissists and the abundance of psychopathic personalities in CEO positions - canadian psychologist robert e hare has been writing about this since the 80s, I'm starting to see more mainstream awareness around this point, we really need to steer our systems away from incentivising psychopathic behaviour and values, more awareness is needed, a re-evaluating of values is also needed 🙌

[@elizabethk3238]

CEOs, and POLITICIANS top this list.

[@Phobos11]

I’d worry more about the people that make laws to control your life than the people that provide jobs to other people

[@akidodogstar5460]

Yep, we as a society REWARD these behaviors, nice guys finish last.

[@ocevicheband502]

' They' in the collective religious cults and instututions and 'societies' such as the Anglo/American... Pilgrim Society media deepstate,metastases.

[@Phobos11]

@@akidodogstar5460 “nice guys” finish last because of being losers trying to please everyone, ending up not taking any risks or doing anything of value. That’s not a society issue

[@0SiLe]

HEALTHY ANGER IS ACCEPTABLE when u need TO PUT A stop to the ones who DO NOT STOP ! THEY ARE ALSO NOW TELLING U not to defend yourself .. even if they attack non stop !!!!

[@suraiyamansoor9740]

My sisters. My anger rages at their evil

[@sillysop]

Yes girl,channel the righteous anger into a powerful life force to protect and nourish yourself and create the best bull💩 detector you could’ve ever imagined. Hating what is evil keeps your own evil in check and inspires commitment to the truth and love 🙏🏻 I also thing we should educate the young ones in our life about the dark tactics of a narc. If feels like a duty of care at this point.

[@ShineMedia1]

And you say this with CAPS 😂

[@MrJfortheElohim]

Great video. Evil is all around us and we have to do our best to keep the Laws and commandments of The Most High. Ain’t no one good but Yah.

[@danwohlslagel1277]

Virtue- signalling, mock outrage, and cancel culture......have manifested in our culture along with an increase in narcissism. The two phenomen are correlated.

[@LowenKM]

Yep, while the narcissism of the Right has currently become so obvious, the far Left is by no means 'immune' to the lure of 'Moral Narcissism'... aka, how your actions make you feel about _yourself,_ instead of in terms of their consequences for _others._

[@claudiafahey1353]

Claiming tolerance while being utterly intolerant...etc

[@bobc9786]

This is what it all boils down to, people with empathy versus people without it. That's the whole story.

[@spiritlevelstudios]

Basically yeh.

[@casusolivas]

Well even empathy has been weaponized when it’s used as a justification to reject truth…

[@bobc9786]

@@casusolivas I could see that

[@Aisatsana1971]

How can you empathise with those you deem evil? I think this whole concept of “evil” needs to stop being flung around so loosely to begin with. If I put myself in the shoes of one of these kinds of narcissists, the things that I am doing which intuitively (and correctly) appears harmful for these “evil” people I have scapegoated, is actually an act of kindness, a gift channelled through me as a kind of holistic karma for their wrong-doing. This is the kind of mentality which seems to me to be a rationalising machine when an individual, whom isn’t psychopathic, willingly hurts somebody else. It’s as if there’s this scale of bad and good in their head, and for everyone else who doesn’t remind the narcissist of themselves, the scale is tilted towards “bad” as a default- for if they are not the same as the narcissist, then they clearly are not perfect. So no, I don’t believe it’s as simple as “empathy vs no empathy”- people with the ability to empathise don’t always do it as it takes up so much conscious energy, and those who do it rarely may still be extremely good at it. But what happens when empathy is used to serve their shadow, rather than to facilitate wellbeing in all the people engaged in that psychological contact?

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Degrees. Not an either/or.

[@dulcemoutinho5820]

I have been together with a narcissist for 20 years of my life. He destroyed me psychologically! I still suffer from it. I have totally lost trust in humanity 💔

[@dickturpin9498]

I’m not sure if you meant physically or psychologically, or maybe both. Regardless, sorry to hear of your experience, don’t give up on the human race because you’ve been damaged by one.❤

[@allyjay7395]

Dont seek the good in others for hope, let yourself be the proof you need. If you are good, surely you can't be the only one. This is how i carry on.

[@nicholecornes1915]

There's still good people out here hun

[@IsabellaPiesch]

@@nicholecornes1915 🎯Exactly! Never make the mistake to put all people in one pot.

[@SKDYCAT]

You're older than 20 sweetie.

[@robbinpapalucas4620]

Thank you for making the distinction between the malignant narcissist vs a psychopath. These two mental problems seem to overlay each other when it comes to the behavior patterns of these two mental illnesses.😮

[@MattAngiono]

Professor Sam Vaknin is the person to follow on this... He will give you an in depth understanding, not just a surface level one

[@akidodogstar5460]

So if you consider these behaviors as a mental illness, what does that say about us as a society, since we handsomely reward these behaviors with money and power?

[@MattAngiono]

@akidodogstar5460 it says that exactly the people with those behaviors built this society and benefitted generations of the same, as they developed this power structure. Essentially, narcissists started it and psychopaths came in for the win

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@MattAngiono They didn't build it, they just took over the hard work of others via parasitism and deception, the same way they have always done.

[@chondominguez6995]

I don’t like people. Just prefer to be alone.

[@ukegirl13]

Yes, I hate our species.

[@bettyfiamengo6008]

Same here, Just be alone safer🙏🙏

[@kimlarso]

@@chondominguez6995 How did you get to this place? Serious question

[@chondominguez6995]

@@kimlarso it’s the stupid that they speak. A lot of people create their own drama. I find it very distracting. I’m trying to survive just like everyone else. I just end up losing focus. I’m often alone. That’s my preference. Last man on Earth type of existence.

[@UmaCatLvr-y9z]

The human race is evil!

[@alexanderdraganov1847]

You don’t know it’s real or how bad it is until you see it yourself firsthand. It was a terrible time, yet oddly I’m thankful for it. It’s extremely eye opening, and once you catch on to the tactics these people ALL use you can see the signs elsewhere in life.

[@keyabrade1861]

There's this quote by a personification of human evil, Judge Holden, from Cormac McCarthy's Blood Meridian: "Whatever in creation exists without my knowledge exists without my consent." I have never found a better way of describing narcissists.

[@nicholasbarrett3018]

Maybe the best book in all of America's history. Only Moby dick comes close (that book also has a narcissist or two in it).

[@Pdrock2001]

Yeah blinded by ignorance .

[@keyabrade1861]

@@Pdrock2001Oh, the Judge is not ignorant. He is a very learned..."man", or whatever he is, in every possible field; per the book he "excels in shooting, languages, horsemanship, dancing, music, drawing, diplomacy, science and anything else he seems to put his mind to". But that's part and parcel of it. He pursues knowledge because he feels it gives him control, not because it's useful in its own sake.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

Keyabrade, and yet he is still very, very ignorant. He chooses ignorance. Oh he's good at things he tries? Whooptie do. So are many the rest of us. These types are pathetic and small. I wonder if they know how hard we laugh at them? :-)

[@djninnav]

Not just among politicians or media, this has happen among common people too, more each day...i know i grew up with one, my mom is perfect example of that !

[@Skim_beeble7125]

Buddy I hate to break it to you but having or feeling like you have narcissistic parents is nothing new

[@djninnav]

Lmaaoo yeah no shit, i never said it was dfid i 🤣🤣@@Skim_beeble7125

[@johns7530]

The initial picture on this video is a perfect depiction of the forces at work w/in the mind of a narcissist. Nobody is perfect, but these people are in their own category, and dangerous. No empathy, compassion, remorse, or ability to admit when they are wrong, some barely have any conscience at all. Once you recognize it in anybody you have relations with, best to distance yourself from such people as much as possible.

[@noxvenit]

People Of The Lie is one of the best books ever. The chapter on the incident at My Lai was brilliant.

[@uhnborhn5032]

there's research that shows that good people who get into a relationship with someone with dark triad traits, will adopt those traits unless they heal themselves after the relationship. with our fast food style dating, it would seem that more and more people will develop these negative traits.

[@SisterDeja]

I totally belive it! I just got out of a narcissistic relationship, and I can definitely tell I I picked up on some traits. Doing my best to heal and self reflect.

[@ArmNews2]

You should generally always say the truth, it's when these people say untruths or lies too much that things start decaying or begins to decay faster.

[@19ate4]

“We know why they hate us, we speak truth, justice and Royal obligations”

[@Erica-cf1xb]

Try writing it alone so when they invade your privacy, set up their cameras, track your whereabouts, and IP address, and use their office AI mutts to see if that's your writing style they can know that it is you. Wire taps get snipped. Write it over and over so those assigned to watch you know you are talking about them. That way they stay up all night with you as they read their love letters they were so desperate for.

[@redgey5163]

It's amazing what happens when you start Noticing the truth.

[@Aisatsana1971]

What’s the truth?

[@novadomenavedomia]

Yes as step one, it irritates you and kick your ass, then maybe as step two...one can settle down with it. (makes you free)

[@IsabellaPiesch]

First you are down - but then it is like a black shadow will be away. It gets better with time. Full acceptance is the key (and also the part which you have into that whole thing...).

[@-Swamp_Donkey-]

@@Aisatsana1971National Socialism

[@Aisatsana1971]

@@-Swamp_Donkey- 👁️👁️

[@Namurti1]

The accompanying art is just great. Really well done.

[@taylorpresley4604]

I have pondered where and why evil exists, its origin for many years now. I grew up in a family full of narcissists and I was the scapegoat and the black sheep-which I wear as a "badge of honor." I know and accept that I have a dark side, I detest it, and I try to correct once I recognize it. But, like Scott Peck said narcissists refuse to take a moral inventory. What's sad is when people have grown up in a family of narcissists and/or sociopaths that is what we attract as friends and mates because it is familiar. I am soon to be 62 and once I realized I attracted these types I became isolated and fearful of people as it seems that's the type of personality that I was attracted to. My life has become a lonely existence while the narcissists are enjoying a life of admiration due to their charm and charisma. Being authentic with people seems to scare them somehow. Thoughts?

[@pong9000]

I'm probably off base, but these people you call narcissists may also be pushing zest into life. For example I will play the fool, or the "heel", devil's advocate, clown, whatever just to stimulate people. And I'm not even an extrovert craving reaction, just fairly indifferent to others' validation while believing people of my pampered corner of the world need struggles in life. It's debate and dilemmas in good sport, though some fear my motive is to put them down.

[@taylorpresley4604]

No, I am talking about people who steal, lie, manipulate, no empathy kind of people. I like to have fun in life too but not at the expense of others. I think it all comes down to intent. If someone's intent is to hurt someone, that is not fun, that is evil @@pong9000

[@Billnam691]

@taylorpresley4604, so you are saying you were the outcast in a family or narcissistic personalities, but if you are wearing the badge of honor, then I'm assuming you were fighting against becoming a narcissistic personality, then how did you end up with friends who were the same as your family, you have to have known that they were the same type of personality, I see people saying the same things about friends or relatives etc, so why didn't you avoid that in making friends, just Curious

[@WendyJones-zx7is]

Taylor Presley 4604 There's a saying that no good deed goes unpunished ! That said the Narcissist goes for the strong Person , the caring , loving , bright achievers ? Not the weak , you should be proud ? Imagine walking on stilts and looking down on others ! You would feel unsafe ! That's your narcissist ? Their empty and devoid of spirituality and goodness ! Wrapped up in self and money ? Which is never enough for them it's just insatiable ? There's no happiness in them because they loath themselves underneath ? Feigning they love themselves and this takes a great amount of energy And lacking empathy themselves cannot see others as humans who have emotions and feelings ? These are certainly the devils Children ? Of this I have no doubt ! Their dangerous People

[@taylorpresley4604]

I did not know the correlation between my friends and family until it was too late. Codependents are attracted to the familiar and we have a tendency to ignore red flags but I am much wiser now and much less needy @@Billnam691

[@ian_g]

This quote in the introduction was so relieving to hear. I sometimes fear that I'm a narcissist or egotistical, but I now know that those who constantly question their motives, those who question their virtuousness, which is something I do daily, are not of that ilk.

[@bengoodes1581]

The self righteous who think they are without sin. I think the mechanics are that people put them on a Pedestal and the ego takes over. We can put ourselves on a pedestal but it only leads in my opinion to being alone even amongst people. We attract what we project. Your channel has been a stream of light when i thought their wasn't any. So for that I'm thankful.

[@GamerGod_99]

You mean on a pedestal? I'm not trying to correct i genuinely don't know

[@bengoodes1581]

@@GamerGod_99 Not at all ,ill correct.

[@mindandbody7971]

Does your sin cause the deaths of thousands, hundreds of thousands, millions....even one person? I believe we shouldn't confuse self righteousness with those that practice quiet introspection to improve themselves being observed as good and the wish for others to do good and offering advice or suggestions based on experience.

[@Leo-mr1qz]

I found the practice of self-righteousness very apparent in the Catholic church growing up. Families coming to church on Sundays and holidays, pretending to be the best version of themselves, all the while they were sleeping around, abusing their children, alcoholics, etc. As I got older the hypocrisy was too much to handle.

[@elizabethk3238]

SIN! WTF!

[@athinaeve4666]

While they may be the 'order givers', without 'order followers' none of their evil schemes manifests. It is up to us as the people to say NO, to speak out against the evil and ridiculousness, to not support their businesses and to do our own inner work to ensure our actions or non actions are not perpetuating the evil. Watching from New Zealand where we've had one of the worst psychopaths running our once beautiful country, Jabcinda, who has now gone on to teach and study "ways to improve content standards and platform accountability for extremist content online" aka censorship of any speech which doesn't fit the propaganda narrative!

[@michaelnurse9089]

Propaganda and censorship - tools of all narcissistic regimes since time began.

[@KarmasAbutch]

Spoken like someone who has never directly said NO to a psychopath - and suffered the relentless shocking outcome of doing so.

[@dmac2168]

She's not a psychopath. She's a narcissist. There is a difference. There is an argument she is Dark Triad, but the need for excessive admiration, the grandiosity, the entitlement and so on points to narcissism, When she stepped down, it was evident, very clear she was being forced to say what she said by her handlers. It was evident in her pauses, her micro expressions of disgust and many other instances that she wasn't burnt out. In short they embarrassed her on the world stage. That is a massive blow to a narcissists ego! A psychopath would not have cared, as they knew their next position. Adern is out of the spotlight now, a massive blow for a grandiose narcissist no longer the darling of the media and the people. Trump: high functioning sociopath. Hillary Clinton: FULL BLOWN PSYCHOPATH. Justin Trudeau high functioning narcissist. Whinnie the Pooh Ping: (China) Dark Triad. Putin: Dark Triad. Obama: High functioning narcissist bordering on psychopathic tendancies. Daniel Andrews: Dark Triad with high levels of narcissism. AOC: Borderline Personality Disorder I could go on and on with world leaders.

[@dmac2168]

@@KarmasAbutch Victim blaming well done. Your IQ must be off the charts. When are you going to understand it's all rigged? We ELECT politicians but we don't get to SELECT politicians. What are you doing about the psychopathic LBGT agenda? What are you doing about the climate crazed cult? Well? Are you saying no??? Left wing, right wing, same coin and there is a higher form of government utilising that coin. WAKE UP.

[@user-zz9gn2dc3l]

Yes that woman is a narcissist alright. She proclaimed herself as the one source of truth didn't she? All while she enacted evil sanctions against her own people who had refused the bio weapons 💉

[@Sakaripeltola]

I have a close relative who is malignant narcissist. He tries to destroy everything he can and blames others for it. He is clearly delusional about his actions and motivations. It is fascinating and disgusting to observe what he is doing. No one is safe from him not even his old parents. He just uses the people, then discards them and if they try to oppose his actions he tries to destroy them.

[@Anthony-lr6yp]

naw wemon are the real narcs, not men these days, you were prolly overpowering the situation as wemon always do, and refuse to admit any wrong doing by yourself, you are the narc

[@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain]

This is my sister. We share our parents’ home. I’m waiting for God’s judgement & vengeance on her.

[@deeprollingriver52]

@@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRainit’s healthier to get a job and find another place to live.

[@fairliescott3073]

Stay safe - one killed my husband!

[@Jepse89]

@@fairliescott3073omg this scared me, my partner’s brother is like this, how did this happen to your husband?

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

Wow. You nailed it. A subber now. You skate around the facts we face so eloquently. Just like He did. Many blessings soldier!! I'm really impressed by this analysis.🙏

[@kevinkinney5445]

Im glad to see Peck's book get some overdue credit. It is a must read for anyone trying to get a handle on the evil that people do.

[@juneelle370]

People of the Lie is a very important book. One of the best I’ve ever read.

[@Sandeep_Sengupta]

A 200 year old folk tale summarises this perfectly - The naked emperor The royalty says it's a fine cloth and so the entire Kingdom believes. Until a child points out - The emperor is naked Group psychology and dynamics is extremely powerful. We are alive because of that. And in cases such as this, it shows it's dark face by manipulating us

[@jupiterthesun3217]

Recognising our shadow side can be so destructive at first that one can internally combust , but as painful and maddening it is it can be likened to Larve of monarch butterfly that when pupates , every part of it gets dissolved and later reformed as a new organism called a monarch butterfly and that’s why we are here on this earth We are here to upgrade ourselves by dissolving internally the negative things that are stopping us from evolving into a better beings.

[@Bar_Bar27]

Malignant Narcissism also involves sadism 100% of the time, unlike psychopaths. Hitler for example was a malignant narcissist, not a psychopath. If you don't cross or stand in front a psychopath, they most of the time won't even care about you. M. Narcissists constantly look for "targets". They're the most envious people out there. Any little thing will make them envy and thus target people

[@Erica-cf1xb]

I'm their dream girl. A real plush toy to poke at. It funny.

[@princemichael4708]

What is truth u only believe what your told

[@NotAffiliated]

John Stewart one time spoke of the phenomenon where a law maker will tell the world of a problem that we didn't know existed. That there is a large "Rooftop, midnight, pumpkin humping problem" within society and we need to make a law against it now!....................................only to be later caught humping a pumpkin on somebodies rooftop at midnight. Now I understand. Thanks Academy of Ideas!

[@tomgwynfryn5597]

I can remember coming across this channel when they had 70,000 subs. To see them reaching over a million people gives me hope. All power to all people!

[@mattwatts8783]

This is perhaps the single best channel on the whole of KZbin! Keep up the great work Academy of Ideas.

[@Crumbsoftotailtariansim]

I’m glad we’re getting into the “why” of evil and bad behavior. The modern man is so new, we truly understand so little.

[@RIZFERD]

Not true.. Your statement is because you're stuck inside your own box your entire life not a complete multiracial not multilingual never been living around the world all alone since childhood

[@elementaryabuse-chan5763]

Less new than you might think. Much of what we’re going through now was predicted by writers in the 1950s.

[@Crumbsoftotailtariansim]

@@elementaryabuse-chan5763 agree, I’ve almost finished Rape of the mind, that’s an overall good dive into modern man right there.

[@got2kittys]

This kind of narcissistic traits is often found in police, and the legal system. Always ready to judge others, while appearing as upstanding citizens.

[@Erica-cf1xb]

While prostituting their own funky ass. The audacity is real. But got the nerve to call itself a professional.

[@sunshinecompany1]

And military

[@camille3083]

And the federal government. I’ve never met such evil people in my life. It’s absolutely shocking and soul crushing.

[@NexCuento]

A very good insightful exploration of how malignant narcissism manifests in politics, highlighting the self-deception and projection that underlie destructive behaviors. And very well emphasized importance of self-awareness and truth as tools to combat political hypocrisy and reveals the hidden face of evil behind a façade of moral righteousness. but this narcissim is very deep rooted so the system should be realigned to remove that curse.Thanks for sharing

[@anarchyangelo]

This happens individually, Racially, Sexually, Politically, Class Wise etc. This is DEEP!!!

[@dmac2168]

No it doesn't. It happens in and at every level of society regardless of your labels.

[@allshades7991]

You are doing a very brave thing , keep it up. Few few people today are telling the truth.

[@chessversuscheckers]

For those who have never attempted to expose psychopaths or malignant narcissists with the truth -WATCH OUT. For the few who have, you know what I’m talking about. Good luck cuz you’re gonna need it.

[@angelategos7217]

they deny, deny, deny and with much rage turn the blame on you! they don't stop there! they'll bring up things to throw in your face (from the past to the present), remind you how others hate you (lies) and then gossip to other family members about you. funny thing is, is that they do this regardless but anything new seems to excite them and they'll take the opportunity to murder you verbally once more. DON"T DO IT! you'll end up mentally and emotionally drained and second-guessing yourself. you'll be filled with rage for days which will manifest into physical ailments such as migraines, stomachaches, etc. keep your distance from these types (i have a mom and sister like this) as they will destroy you if you don't!

[@taylorpresley4604]

Omg, never ever expose a narcissist! I have done it on multiple occasions thinking I was exposing darkness and it has costs me just about everything but my life.

[@lisalynch629]

Been there done that; nearly been destroyed

[@klonoafan7623]

This whole video describes my childhood best friend perfectly, it's crazy. And what sucks is I'm the only one who sees it because he's so good at manipulating people to make them think he's a good person. Every time I'm around this person I can feel my energy being drained

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

I never knew what evil truly was until I was chewed up & spit out by my ex husband who was diagnosed NPD with many ASPD traits. OMG. What. A. Nightmare. Pure. EVIL!!!!

[@allseeingotto2912]

I would dearly love to see my ex wife get mentally evaluated, she's demonic.

[@Blueyandcandy]

My ex was the same. Life destroyed... luckily I didn't marry him, he made me believe I wasn't wife material 🙄

[@apatheticxmindsetx3549]

Anyone diagnosed with a personality disorder from A,B,C is going to have a mix of triats or even comorbid of a personality disorders in the same or other categories.

[@aijazsiddique8713]

That’s a malignant narcissist. Incarnation of pure evil.

[@NopeNotTodaySatan]

@@aijazsiddique8713 - Oh indeed he is. Learned that after the MMPI was done. They’re diabolical.

[@TheyHurry]

I'm a narcissist and only recently have I become aware of all the damage I've done to others. I hope to learn how to be a better person

[@gillpelage]

That's tough. It may feel like a reflex reaction whenever you're confronted. Stop, breath in through the nose, long and hard, then breathe through the mouth. Listen to what the other person has to say. Don't make excuses, paraphrase back what the person said. Check whether there is more they would like to add. Then notice how, miraculously, you're still alive. Then think about how you would feel if the tables were turned and tell the person that. Then feel it. But really, you must have some therapy, and I don't mean six weeks of it.

[@beeman7711]

You can do better, but it isn't going to be easy... it'll be constant work for the rest of your life.

[@Fido-vm9zi]

I have full faith in you!

[@hmfogptditf]

If you are actually a narcissist it’s VASTLY more likely that you hope to learn how to manipulate people more convincingly now that so many people are aware of narcissism than how to be “a better person”.

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

​@@hmfogptditfThe truth comes out in the end, and with enough scrutiny towards one's own public appearance and careful consideration of the repercussions of supposedly 'hidden' antisocial behavior, things may come full circle and our narcissistic friend here may well enough become passable. Granted, we also must understand who we're dealing with here and realize that there are limitations to his insight that may thwart his progress, and likewise have enough patience to not hold him in perpetual suspicion - do that with literally anyone and you're certain to find a character trait or two that is "evil".

[@samuelpoulston2964]

Jung very seldom used the term narcissist. Instead he chose to focus on cause of this particular type of neurotic: they repress their morality. I think this explanation simply sums up what a narcissist is quite understandably. It allows us to realise that they have a morality, but it is something that they have chosen to reject (make unconscious). I believe that the loss of the morality is compensated by / with delusions of grandeur (including moral delusions) towards the ego, with neurosis being a byproduct of this disassociation.

[@H.Hardrada]

I have been waiting for something like this from this channel. I have been researching the topic going in 5 years now.

[@ottomusprime5028]

Yo, me too

[@H.Hardrada]

@@ottomusprime5028 Nice. Care to chat and share ideas?

[@MattAngiono]

Do you follow Professor Sam Vaknin? You really must if you don't want to fall into poor understanding of narcissism... The internet is riddled with bad takes

[@H.Hardrada]

@MattAngiono Yes. I am familiar with both his book and YT channel. He has quite a handle on the subject.

[@tru2thastyle]

This is the most important channel on KZbin.

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

Most people don’t have the strength or support to move beyond evil. A 19 yr old loses his mother and the grief prevents him from fighting his narcissistic aunt for his inheritance, a naive woman can’t see her mother in law’s manipulation and loses her children in a custody battle, a man falls prey to a pyramid scam and loses everything.

[@franckbrunie4759]

Very pertinent, very topical, very subtle. With essential elements for self-reflection as well. Congratulations! A masterpiece contribution for better self and a better society 👍🏻

[@tomd1434]

Be aware of body language. Has anyone ever been around someone who smirks at others struggles/and or pain? It’s usually quick. To me sometimes an inappropriate smirk can be telling.

[@huwhitecavebeast1972]

My parents are malignant narcissists. This was like the perfect description of their behaviors.

[@romany8125]

Why? they did not give you enough pocket money? did not buy you a new bike?

[@mr.nobody2244]

My mother is a narcissist and sadly it seems i've adopted some of her traits (the ego centrism and toxicity for example). Now i am trying to get rid of these bad traits by actively observing my behaviour and with meta cognition. How about you? Did you adopt some their traits? It took until adulthood until i realized that she's a narc, i was blind to it being so close to her. Because generally people don't tell children: "your mother is a narcissist"...you have to figure that out yourself and doing the research yourself...it's tough...

[@A_Stoic]

@@romany8125 You dont even know! First wait till he explains it and dont judge to early.

[@romany8125]

@@A_Stoic still waiting... the suspense is killing me.

[@kylesanders8276]

@@mr.nobody2244 Exact. Same. Boat. Once I discovered what narc even is and did deep-dives on the topic sooo much anger I carried around evaporated. It's all about maintaining now.

[@LoveLauwsPawuwls]

The part of evil cloaking itself as compassion and kindness is really scary. Almost like you need to be alert like a hawk to catch where these things may arise.

[@firstworldproblems6064]

i had a guy meant to be my friend of 20 years stay at my place while he works his job. he was complaining to my neighbour about me and anyone who wpuld listen he doesnt think anything is wrong with his behaviour. he drinks everyday and screams in my house and insults people etcetera etcetera. imagine trying to belp someone just so that they can talk shit about you behind your back instead of to your face or just leaving. truly ungrateful spoiled man children today with rage issues and superiority complex

[@alisaalisa2060]

Did the same for my best friend , gave her access to my house/food/life, gave her anything she needed, helped her so much and in all this time she was slowly poisoning my food until I became a vegetable, is a miracle that I've survived...

[@guilhermepereiradearaujo5813]

One of the greatest videos I've ever seen on the topic! Congratulations

[@JohnTaylor-fh4et]

There are demon or evil spirits amongst us always.

[@-Swamp_Donkey-]

Jews

[@douglaspaterson5269]

RACIST ​@@-Swamp_Donkey-

[@martindembek9833]

I was a border narcist When reality started to shift too far from my image my value structure collapsed and then I've fallen into depression and anxiety that totally demolished the image of myself literally brought me to my knees as I was suicidal ... and I was cured When I was naked and defenseless it was a good place to start my life again

[@thereisnosanctuary6184]

Who were you before and after?

[@kimrobinson6285]

I finally realized that it's not personal, as deeply personal as it feels. You're an interchangeable part...a tool, and they don't know how to be any different than they are. Something (abuse, mommy issues, heredity, spoiling, a combination) made their minds go off the rails. I kept looking at and judging my abuser from my reference point of reality, but he's incapable of joining me in that sphere (especially since he's at the malignant end of the spectrum). His actions were intentional in the sense that he meant to do what he did, but he's sick. That realization is what started my journey toward forgiveness (which is releasing the burden for yourself, not saying that what they did was ok). I finally realized that he would never feel the comfort of real love, no matter how much he was given. He would never be happy, or feel peace, or be able to rest...his broken mind will have him forever searching, and all he'll ever know is loss. My experience was brutal and heartbreaking, and my own mind was coming unravelled by the time I left him, but after two years and two months, I finally see light at the end of the tunnel.

[@shawn2350]

Wow is this spot on! When you witness this first hand you have a hard time comprehending it as real. When the Narcissist didn't know I was around and could hear mostly what they were saying I was shocked. Literally! Admission to lies and deception I had asked about actually came of their mouth. Pretty creepy.

[@madtheghost337]

I always just absolutely love the clarity and articulation in these videos, and all the amazing artwork. Easily one of my favorite channels; always excited when a new video comes out, pretty sure I've seen nearly all.

[@KevenYoungTolstoy]

Well articulated about work well done and well received.

[@madtheghost337]

@@KevenYoungTolstoy Why thank you, good sir!

[@Peter7966]

Brilliant video. Much needed today in our society and world.

[@keithhart3212]

New neighbor older couple thinking they're still young have 3 dogs and a cat. My Blue heeler was bitten by their dog in heel and then it ran away. I confronted neighbors who claimed it was because of my dog projecting a bad attitude. My dog on lease their dog out of its yard 5 houses away from home. I said whatever!!! Next day she disturbingly walks her 3 dogs and cat past my property without lease, I asked her to please at least put leash on dogs, her reply was (my dogs are on a leash) I didn't know what to say so I just took a picture in case animal control is ever called. These are also the type who will call animal control saying your dog attacked theirs, I'm old and have learned this about them. That's why I took a picture of dogs off leashes. Her husband claims to manifest his reality simultaneously bragging about never paying taxes of over 10k last year. Like to say they're the exception, but these type are today's normal people.. Sure glad I'm old. Folks, record yourself around these people, they'll laugh as you innocently go to jail...

[@User-qo5pw]

I have a cousin who is a malignant narcissist. He grew up bullied in school. He's a ginger to add insult to injury as well. His hyper narcissistic, liberal parents always made excuses for him and told him he's more intelligent than everyone as a way to justify all of his shortcomings. This seeded a monster. He is lazy, completely reliant on his father for support. He has run his father's construction company into the ground and can't survive on his own, thus causing him to bankrupt his now elderly father while living at home in his late 30s. He believes he's a successful contractor, a lady's man, the most superior and intelligent person in every context, and he has this unfounded arrogance, which is nauseating. All an illusion. There is no helping him, and once Daddy kicks the bucket, his illusion is going to be shattered.

[@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain]

Sounds like my sister. She knows she’s screwed without my dad’s financial support.

[@-Swamp_Donkey-]

You guys both sound pretty gay

[@User-qo5pw]

@-Swamp_Donkey- word! At least I don't have a NAMBLA account like you do. You're probably all kinds of excited that shit libs call you people MAPs now! You're almost part of the alphabet mafia.

[@User-qo5pw]

@-Swamp_Donkey- HA! No, I will not accept your hidden offer. Stay with your NAMBLA group. You walk them on leashes and lock them in your basement, don't you? Yyyyyyyuck!

[@jeanettesdaughter]

Most helpful book I’ve ever read. I was trying to understand a seriously dysfunctional family situation. Lies and manipulation were the cause of so much misery even unto murder! And the denial, the refusal to face reality trickles down the generations. How does one break away⁉️

[@Joefest99]

Your work is invaluable! Thank you!

[@hunterharris2753]

This kind of reminds me of the “insignificant tyrant, “that is described by Carlos Castaneda. He tells us that we should keep these people close to us, so that we can learn about specific subjects which people, such as a malignant, narcissist and insignificant tyrants, are so good at supporting and exploring. I like the part where you talk about them being motivated by fear of being exposed. Seems like that gives them a lot more motivation to continue their behaviors and keep seeking their narcissistic goals. Have you ever considered expanding on some of Carlos Castaneda‘s viewpoints? Some of them I find to be very interesting at the very least.

[@juice_lime5114]

Modern politics / society and nacissism... What can be more informative than that? Valuable piece here. You are right about projections and hypocrisy, it is unreal when you can easily detect them in the world today. That picture at 12:00, well...

[@paulatreides0777]

It seems to me that way to discern wether someone is truly a malignant narcissist is that they are unconscious of their narcissism, and ultimately deceiving themselves above all: so if you are worried you are one of them you probably are not, they don’t even know how sick they really are.