Accepting on the Third Offer

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video.tpt.org/video/2365042610/

[@golsson94]

Amazing! This is the custom in Småland in southern Sweden, a place where almost half of the population emmigrated to America in the late 1800's, most of which ended up in Minnesota. The practice is called "truga" and the purpouse of it is simply to show that you are not being an "entitled" guest that takes things for granted and to make your guest feel like he/she is not being a burden on the household. I can't believe the custom survived for over 150 years halfway across the globe!

[@billbadson7598]

I come from northern, rural Minnesota, descended from Swedes and Norwegians. I work in people's homes a lot for my job, and sometimes people will offer me a tip, even though it is definitely not expected of them. I always turn them down at least once, figuring if they don't insist after my first refusal they might have just felt obligated to give me a tip for some reason. Usually they insist regardless, but there have been a couple times where they took my first refusal and I kicked myself for it. But that's just how it works, I suppose. :)

[@harperwalsh9041]

In Ireland we have the same custom

[@CraigMyran]

I refused to watch this video the first two times it was recommended. But it can't be that bad. Glad I did.

[@mike2590rrr]

“Besides those aren’t cookies, they’re bars.” The slight passive aggressiveness of this statement is hilarious!

[@mobiledevice9546]

"No, i don't need any sugar, it's... actually not good for me." As he takes a huge bite of the block of sugar in front of him 😂😂

[@psychotropictraveler514]

Classic Minnesotan lmao

[@PropaneWP]

In Norway we call this "nøding". It's mostly something you'll experience at your granma's

[@Lillowh]

Oh god I just realized how insufferable this behavior I have is

[@MetalNick]

I grew up in Montana so I can say it happens there too lol.. I don't do it myself but I swear I can hear a lot of people I know in this video. Hilarious lol

[@StonyRC]

Damn, it's like hearing my Dear Old British Mother-In-Law ... she's practically a Minnesotan!

[@Ultradude604]

Must be frustrating trying to deny something with this rule. It will take a 4th time to say, "I only drink it black" and "I don't take it with sugar" until the offering Minnestan gets the hint.

[@ActualJudas]

In most societies, people feel awkward and will reject something offered. This is because it creates a subconscious sense of debt. However, if readily accepted with genuine appreciation displayed, the person making the offer will like the receiver more. People like to give because it makes them feel needed. So if someone offers something, accept it. Just don't forget to say thank you.

[@nickl1615]

This series is so right.

[@SaraEbra]

That is so Tarof.. Persians have simmilar cultural traditions

[@chevyjohnson7457]

Thats wierd. Imagine we do the same thing and the countries are so far from eachother

[@Tombee2]

1:46 thiccums double cheeked up on a Thursday afternoon 😂

[@bluejavelina5335]

"whatever" lolol

[@Acesahn]

It's scary that I lived in the midwest and I still do this XD. Even if I want something I usually soft decline at first as a reflex.

[@OpiZoid]

too accurate

[@chevyjohnson7457]

The third offer thing is classic Norwegian This is pretty cool

[@cand0]

Never heard of these bars before but I'll take 100.

[@OMGpandemic]

"That's different"

[@harperwalsh9041]

This is so true over in Ireland, if you are offered a cup of tea you have to say yes the third time, it's seen as rude/ demanding if you're too quick

[@xxxx85]

Hahaha oh my god, I would be sooo annoyed with every day life in a culture like this!

[@DrSoda.]

I enjoyed this

[@loriwald9532]

Classic!

[@derjungemensch5902]

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[@daveinpenn]

I am not going to leave a comment.

[@daveinpenn]

No siree. Not going to do that today.

[@daveinpenn]

Ok, maybe just a little comment. Like, half a joke.

[@wantonswan]

Whatever