Your standards are your protection, stop settling!

[@MissJJoan]

"It's not that you're not qualified. You are qualified. It's that you fail to disqualify the unqualified men!" Thanks Ace! Gold advice!!

[@piscesreign]

❤

[@314sugarbear]

Whew that line made me shiver 🤣

[@andreadrake4890]

Ladies please stop letting men move in with you & don't give them access to your bank information, respect goes both ways, letS end this BS & love ourselve, Life is too short.

[@Love2Love927]

💕💯🎯🙌🏽💜☺️

[@everythingbeautyboutique5002]

I agree and guilty of letting a man move in, biggest mistake never again!! I’m more at peace😊

[@najaahamari4199]

Access to bank account... Never Ever

[@KeishaWilliams-e6d]

I was walking to the store with my boyfriend. I was purchasing a car I had an apartment and a job. He had no job and no license and he said ...I NEVER DATE A WOMAN WITHOUT A CAR AND A DEGREE. SAID HIS EX WAS A PRINCIPAL OF A SCHOOL. His standards were higher than mine and he had NO qualifications.

[@purplelotusflower888]

I just walked away from a dude I dated for 10 months, that mask came off pretty face but I failed at the red flags 🚩 in the beginning because I was too emotionally involved. I went full no contact, and found god and myself!!! When I say silence is my super power it’s amazing!!! I’m thriving and learning so much about myself. I’m taking travel contracts with my career and focusing back on my podcast and writing my book!!!! The power of walking away from a potential man, fuck that he need to be equal. I’m not building another man, I healed all my abandonment issues, my insecurities and my rejections issues during my solitude period and oh my god it’s a beautiful transition!!! You cant heal in the same environment that hurt you!!! Please ladies walk away !! Much gratitude 🙏🏾… Thanks @acemetaphor your golden sweetheart!!!

[@summerdior459]

How did you heal your abandonment & insecurities issues

[@purplelotusflower888]

@@summerdior459 Hey 👋🏽!!! After walking away I was able to sit with myself and reflect. Once I reflected I found the deeply rooted issue within me and it was childhood abandonment from my parents that kept me with this person. I became afraid to be alone and that made me settle. Once I recognized the issue I took it to god and ask for healing and releasing from this person. I forgave him and myself for tolerating his behavior. I learned to be alone in peace with myself and begin loving god and myself more!! You can’t heal in the environment that hurt you, so you have to leave in order to gain clarity.

[@Pheneria-dv6zw]

​@@summerdior459broke the soul ties and God is healing me yes only God

[@fortheladies771]

@@summerdior459 By spending time with Jesus

[@summerdior459]

@@fortheladies771 as you should

[@nickinicole7592]

That's why celibacy is so important.

[@soulsista5817]

Why man online dating says on their profile "long-term relationships".. meet you in person and the next day their saying the gonna keep dating their not looking for a relationship 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🙄Make it make sense.

[@Kellz88827]

Manipulative

[@kellithomas9080]

To reel you in and give you false hope. Take them for what they say out of their mouths AND show you in their actions. A genuine person is not going to confuse you and their words will align with their actions and vice versa. If there’s ever a question mark, put a period right there! No more playing with these manipulative behaviors in 2024!

[@spoileddiva313]

OMG I see that all the time online. That’s why I officially stopped online dating a few weeks ago. Men treat it like the players club or something. You see the same person still on there months later. Make it make sense. They say they want long term but they are casually dating and hooking up 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@soulsurvivor1979]

Yup I haven’t been on a dating site in years cause they play to much. I just go to work and continue to work on me

[@carrieerickson6659]

Saying you are looking for a ltr doesn't mean you want one with everyone you go on one date with.

[@Fleefromsin]

MOVE means - proceed, advance, shift, and go! So MOVE! Move into prayer, move into praise, move into the Word, Move out of distractions, move into position, and move out of offense! Don’t just stand there MOVE! So you can MOVE the enemy out of the way!!!! ~Vanisia Tapia

[@dharmon8798]

Or as I call them. They're there to Bait you, and that was their intentions from the beginning

[@nyasijahmilton6795]

Yes amen

[@staceyarey7904]

WOW! Last year at this time I was trying so hard to get my cheating spouse.. We are now back together, and we had a fantastic Christmas and all is going well...for now... But this spouse has done this twice to me, left me to pursue other interests and then came back.. so although things are good now, I live with a constant knowledge that this person can leave me without a second thought if something "better" comes along.. what value am I giving myself? I'm basically saying I'm qualified to be your space holder until something better comes along... This video has made me realize that I need to go into the new year alone - taking time to realize that I'm not just qualified to be a space holder, rather unqualified to be a cherished woman who has a spouse that would never think of displacing me as his one and only... God give me the strength and courage to exit this relationship in 2024.. and to discover the qualified woman I TRULY AM

[@Bri-nc8yp]

You are suffering from extremely low self esteem of yourself. That’s the only way to explain taking a man back after he’s stuck his 🍆 in another person and had fun with them while not giving a damn about you or how you would feel about it. He’s back with you because the other person didn’t last. You right though if something else better than you comes along or something shiny and NEW trust and believe he’ll be cheating on you again in a heartbeat. He knows your weak and not going no where and will settle for any abuse or STD he brings to you because you keep taking him back. Stop being WEAK and leave this fool alone.

[@daemooco4538]

Why exit in 2024. Exit now, you've already stated your fear. Why are you waiting? What work has he put in that proves you are THEE ONLY ONE?

[@krystaltaylor8634]

God speed to you.

[@Love2Love927]

I pray you continue to believe in yourself & do what needs to be done. God has your back. Put your faith in Him … not man! Bc man will disappoint you every time. God Bless! 🙌🏽💜

[@Pheneria-dv6zw]

Once they cheat it's over

[@ClassicOpinion]

It’s my opinion: ~ Kevin Samuels could have learned from you for this is what constructive criticism sound like enveloped in LOVE~ thank you for planting seeds others will water😇

[@britneebraylen3398]

Damnnn this the damn truth they feed on the kindness and floppy boundaries. So happy I don’t deal with this shit no more

[@lilsumpn]

I went on one date with him and he was talking shit to me. I told him I'm too good and blocked him. Thanks! I'm no longer throwing my pearls to the swine.

[@oaj3983]

😂😂 I’m so tickled cause why u cussing us out.. I know we hard headed at times 😂😂😂😂

[@krystaltaylor8634]

Ace... I hear you. Sadly, some of us are not as "qualified" as we would like to think that we are. We're nice, educated, loyal, supportive, wifey material,... But unfortunately many of them will never see our value because they will not give us a chance due to "lack of physical attraction". So out of desperation, many women like that will settle for less than what we deserve. Until one gets to the point that a toxic relationship is worse than being single, one will continue to settle.

[@christelcalvin7463]

Thank you, Ace. I am a senior citizen. I don't need you to ride me all night. I didn't like that when I was young. I crave consistency. A man ♂️ who keeps a job. A man who can keep a roof over his head. Last but not least, a man who has his own transportation. The bar is low. And I don't meet men who meet it. I will continue to work on me. I refuse to settle for less❤

[@larosenoirek2197]

You explained co dependency so well. I have a friend who is a codependent marriage. She is loosing herself. I can smell the manipulation but i can’t do nothing about. I am loosing my friend and it hurts me. She is like a sister to me. I hope she wakes up one day and sees that she deserves better.

[@wakeupmypplone6394]

THIS WAS REALLY GOOD ACE‼️‼️‼️‼️ YOU ARE HELPING US HEAL. HALLELUYAH PRAISE YAHUAH‼️

[@metracollins1340]

Everything he said….LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN!!!!!PREACH my brotha….preach!!!

[@Luv_Renee]

Damn. This was a real reality check and I'm taking it all in 💯

[@Schquirl]

You are my favorite. Thank you for getting mad 😊 I need the yelling and cussing to get it through my thick skull!!!

[@ILOVESOFE]

Love this message Ace and I would like to add, mothers...if you are raising your sons the way that you are "raising" these men, you are creating these F-boys! Stop being so passive! Raise these boys to be good men dammit! Set healthy boundaries with your sons too! Ok, bye👋🏼❤️

[@cds5633]

So true I took years to work on myself, but I almost let my ex boyfriend pull me back down by running games and going back and forth with his baby mom. I let him go and loving myself

[@NastashiaRutledge-Dow]

All I can say is you are telling ALL MY TRUTHS ✅🧘🏿‍♀️🎯⚔️🛡 I'm learning my lesson from it but getting my blessings by releasing people. It's not easy but I feel better everyday now. Thank you🌹 Thank you🌹 Thank you🌹I'd rather choose myself from now on. 🎉❤🙌🏿🔐

[@aliciaaustin4030]

O need matched engery,. I dont only need words, i need ACTION! PERIOD 🗣️

[@Love2Love927]

WHAT YOU SAID!! 💯💯💯

[@toniwilliams9817]

You have me over here laughing so hard but it’s the truth though. I have no problem walking away from raggedy men.

[@TehilahMinistries77]

Watching you lately has been keep my boundaries and it is killing those spirits! My eyes are OPENED!

[@niemadunbar2082]

Literally sitting here in tears bc the way you just yelled at but I needed it. While I was building him it was breaking me...Thank you I'll never try to heal and build a man up based off his potential again! Never 🥲💔

[@gigi_xoxo]

First of all, I just wanna know who told you you could speak to me like that. Did I appreciate it? Yesss…..I’ll be back.

[@jjunkin15]

Be Mad Ace, I’m learning today!

[@trineseDMVbeauty]

Agreed 👍🏾

[@tmaa4bk949]

Talk ABOUT IT ACE👏🏾🔥👏🏾🔥👏🏾

[@chriswhite7157]

Ace, thank you for speaking the truth. Listen ladies, you need to hear this message. Real talk, 100% Accurate.

[@basicinfo2022]

22:38 yes, go no contact. Revoke access to you. Walk away. Im on 28 days of no contact. No contact is forever. Until they man up and meet your standards, treat them like a stranger. If they dont, then no contact helps you move on and get your power back. No contact is a win win situation.

[@ellenringer5236]

Wow. You said it all. Raw truth.

[@lala5061]

I love u Ace Metaphor this I really do...When u decided to take on Tony. G which is a person I listen to for my spiritual side! But I realize I like u too cuz u give it to me in a way that makes me upset enough to get my shit back together 😅 I love your work too and I can't help there is 2 sides to me I need this real sometimes too in however it comes out no judgment! Thank u...

[@nickinicole7592]

I love this! I thought you were here for laughs and comedy, but you speak the TRUTH and I appreciate it.

[@Jocfoe1]

Ladies stand on this don't have a weak moment keep moving. Your are beautiful

[@1Nekole]

This is true!! Great breakdown!

[@piscesreign]

I love ACE he that uncle brother good ex bf/husband and best male friend we all need and should have PERIOD ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉 THANK YOU BOO !

[@nancymc]

you certainly tell it like it is. thank you so very much.❤

[@BarbieGirl1630]

He is 100% right!

[@Ms.SelfFabulous]

Amen, my brotha, you better tell it! That's straight FACTS 💯 I'm thankful that I'm single point blank period

[@searchinfox2]

Don't be sorry. This is good information 👍🏽.

[@sandylewis4622]

Thank you god bless you. You have gave so much Knowledge.

[@chriswhite7157]

Give this man PhD.

[@keciacherry4495]

You speaking truth 🤣🤣

[@vinchiasmr4648]

It’s divine that you pressed record on the other camera

[@yxung_nif0628]

All facts Ace, sometimes leaving is the best response❤

[@basicinfo2022]

16:44 "if you want to live a f boy free life..."

[@crystalhenderson7070]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 spoken truth!!!!

[@brendajones9110]

Ace You're right come on let's keep talking about it.

[@GodiZreal]

I'm done with relationships. They're exhausting. I love me enough.

[@summerdior459]

It's very exhausting it's the games for me I notice them right away & get away like the Gingerbread man 😂😂😂

[@justdope7447]

My cut-off game has gotten strong 💪🏾 as HELL

[@porschewalker5652]

🎯= On EVERYTHING.

[@p.a.r.9714]

Truth telling. 🙌🏾

[@ms.sfoskey5532]

Thank you kindly. I needed this. Can you let other know🤔. They just don't see or overstand this👉🏾💯. Have a wonderfully blessed day 🌹

[@jbwtsfinest]

I have a I can't disqualify men that don't bring anything to the table #problem.

[@JustEdenandMe]

Ace has helped me alot

[@hawwasalahuddin9463]

“You can’t bread crumb a person that’s not willing to get on their hands and needs to eat the pieces”

[@toythedark1640]

I’m at work laughing because this so true!! Alabama fish n chicken 😂

[@hannahadrianrogers8372]

Spot on!!!

[@sherylbrinson1709]

ABSOLUTELY!!!!

[@natashaford9784]

Let him CHEAT IN PEACE huh🫣

[@jessicablackmon7048]

That's a fact....

[@purpose2purpose]

Yes Mr teacher 😒😂😂

[@msfeefee9980]

Come on now! I was just telling my daughter everything your saying.. Nothing but God.

[@janellbrittany1]

Let it shake the table!

[@aliciaaustin4030]

Lets talk about it! 🗣️💯

[@clovie6553]

Ace...you single? 😂 Been looking for one of you for awhile now...lol

[@MayiaSinghs]

This shyt is so funny but damn sure true!

[@cds5633]

You’re so right

[@keciacherry4495]

Dang Ace!!!!!

[@shoppingwithtoy-toy1743]

Don't like to be alone

[@Shelley-zx8pb]

I love how much you tell the truth. You hit everything you say. I just wish you would not curse. Please work on it. I say this with love.

[@contentbabe5713]

Ace you really hurt my feelings with this and I LOVE YOU FOR IT! Sheeeeeeesshhhhh 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Thank you so much because I truly have a problem disqualifying unqualified men. Bless you Ace❤️

[@shoppingwithtoy-toy1743]

That's right

[@vivianwebber2001]

Enlightened ❤

[@Evelyn-c3w]

Ace you hot home and you are so correct.

[@alexisphillips287]

❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@cristinavillarreal912]

Should I lower my standards because he loves me BUT has less then what I have

[@Jasminepsalm]

PREACH

[@shoppingwithtoy-toy1743]

Come on preacher

[@britneebraylen3398]

😮😮😮facts

[@ItsNotMoni]

Not sure why this is on my recommended as soon as I met this guy

[@adriennelarkin8188]

Hello Ace This is a Confirmation!!

[@whitneyl2047]

Whewww Ace lmao

[@tracysomebody9171]

Debunks that u attract what u are, I always felt rht was bs.

[@niyserenjiy]

Or it can be the complete opposite she is the priblem and he is the one ready but tired of the bs Folks both men and women need to freaking heal periiod point blank 😒

[@ingridfrancetravels]

41:10.....47:44........48:37.....

[@shoppingwithtoy-toy1743]

Or never having a daddy

[@margaretdang6018]

Truth

[@shariboyd5657]

6months of silence and reflection prior me leaving a not physical but mentally abusive marriages payed for my divorce and asked for nothing throughout the entire process he talked hella ish but what happened within that 6 months I WOKE THE FU. I left weight 216lbs and mentally drained and financially tapped the freakout. That was 3yrs ago I am 179lbs learning about myself hard working in theropy in school full-time and my daughters have never been happier. The moral of the story is the work I begged him so hard to do in our marriage I applied that work into myself which gave me the ability to get into the mindset to get up and leave.

[@Love2Love927]

Congratulations! 🎉… I’m so proud of you! 💕🙌🏽💜

[@TehilahMinistries77]

Congratulations, sis self love is essential.

[@shariboyd5657]

@TehilahMinistries77 Thanks Sis you are absolutely right 😇

[@vijantibadree3437]

Love you Ace for being real with us. We need to hear the harsh truth

[@katyward1895]

I just felt guilty about setting a boundary with a guy and then was like wow no Katy stop, you got this, he is lucky to spend time with you 😊

[@Love2Love927]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@KeishaWilliams-e6d]

Street boys want good women because they know those women won't know where to find them and will never guess what they're up to.

[@redlioness6720]

😂😂😂Ouch!!!!!! This message is exactly how that old toxic relationship played out. I overlook the one that was there for me. I now know the difference between sex and lovemaking.

[@sandylewis4622]

He came off like he was a spiritual But now I know he's not I got to go my way Thank god I move slow I feel good With that been said I can't walk away now.

[@inspiredbydior5447]

My ex is the same way. He talks a great game and appears to have his stuff together. Under the facade is an angry, porn addicted, lustful, manipulative demon!! Next month makes 1 year of limited contact since we have an 8 year old. I am so proud of myself!! Never going back!

[@chriswhite7157]

Amen my brother, you are speaking 100 % real truth.

[@MelanieJones-x2c]

REAL TALK. I’ve gone no contact and I’ve signed them papers. This is so true and I’m glad you solidified this. Ladies this is gold❤. No more talking just walking.

[@basicinfo2022]

28 days no contact! No contact is a essential skill to do and understand when he disrespect you the first time.

[@rebekahjette6304]

I am not just anyone's rib💯☝️ He has to love Jesus the most

[@vadapowell8111]

This was for me. I'm just sitting here crying because I know Ace is sooooo right about my life. I gotta do better.

[@porschewalker5652]

Me too TO BE HONEST MY GOODNESS🤦🏽‍♀️

[@jenniferhallal3115]

Thank you, Ace. 🙏 I really appreciate all you do for us women who need the help. I am so happy with your success. God bless you, always. Peace ✌️