Parents Of Addicts (A father's worst nightmare) -Scott's story

[@PutTheShovelDown]

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[@cjgia4898]

If you do get him live on Thursday, will it be at 1? Or?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

@@cjgia4898 1:00 eastern!

[@cjgia4898]

@@PutTheShovelDown I'm putting it in my calendar now. Alarm on. Thank you. I hope I'm able to watch and listen live. In our crazy world, the winter that never ends, ya just never know! Thankfully, there's always replay. 😊

[@maryeagles9199]

Thanks, Amber, for doing this interview with Zach’s dad, Scott. He’s such a strong and courageous dad, who never gave up on his son.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

He sure is. Scott is a great guy!

[@kathymclaughlin3327]

"is this my life?" I have said this to myself so many times.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're definitely not alone with that one!

[@daphnekirksey9505]

Wow that was powerful. Thank you to Scott for sharing.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That Scott is such a great guy!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

A special thanks to Scott for sharing his story!

[@AMM3.]

I'm the addict of our family sandwich.. my parents never drank or anything.. so I must have put them through unimaginable pain.. they just didn't even think addiction was an option for me.. my son is 13.. I'm pretty sure I talk to him every day about drug use and mental health.. it's probably way too much for him.. but him getting addicted is one of my biggest fears next to him dying. and since his father and I are both addicts I NEED him to understand he might be predisposed to addiction.. oh my god I'm freaking out just thinking about it!! I'm tempted to go wake him up to talk to him again. But it's the middle of the night.. I shall resist! Lol

[@tammybainter7184]

Heartbreaking to listen to when we are in the thick of it with our son. Thank you Scott for sharing. Our son turned 18 (is a senior in High School, and is currently failing and may not graduate - was a 3.6 student prior) and moved out before we could get him help, because his therapist said "he doesn't have a problem - it's just marijuana, i've seen so much worse." He minimized the situation and therefore gave our son "a pass" to continue on this risky path. He is nearly out of money, calls weekly for help/$ and we are not giving him any. At this point, if he won't admit he has a problem (definitely admits to doing Marijuana/THC - but says it's not a big deal), what do we do??....the tough love thing is hard and that's been the advice we've been given. At this point, do we need to wait until he can admit it and seek help?

[@rhondavincent9248]

Thanks so much for sharing your story Scott. It really helps to know that we are not alone in our experience.

[@whiteybopbop9232]

Love this story strong 💪 loving dad just found out my son on heroine its heartbreaking 💔

[@PutTheShovelDown]

So sorry you're going through this. You're definitely in the right place though

[@elainedunn2454]

Wow wow wow so sorry you all had to go thru this 😢 but hay if scott can get thru this we do have hope I hope and Pray that he is still doing good. Thanku so much for sharing. Big hugs to you all. Xx Thanku Amber and Campbell. Xx

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks so much

[@aliciasud32]

Thank you for sharing your story but the background music was very distracting.

[@jodleeray]

What do you do when you just don’t know where to get help? Or how to help? I know there’s a big problem, I’m setting boundaries and have asked my son to move out but things are getting worse not better. But I can’t seem to figure out how to help him.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Often things get worse before better. There are lots of videos on this channel that can help. Let me know if there's a specific topic you need to hear about.

[@jodleeray]

@@PutTheShovelDown do you have a video that would be helpful to explain addiction to my 16 year old son? Also, how do you help someone who doesn’t want to even hear that they need help even though their life is a disaster?

[@daphnekirksey9505]

I can relate to being a CSI parent!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

The FBI could start a whole new division staffed by people who have addicted loved ones! They wouldn't even need to be trained.

[@spasatasevski2597]

Where is that problem purple

[@PutTheShovelDown]

It's in Georgia (near Atlanta)

[@anthonyrossmaund3161]

What made me get sober from heroine was an overdose I experienced where my mom found me min responsive and nearly dead. It took two doses of narcan to get me back. I seem that causes so much trauma in my mom. Especially finding me the way she did. I am 3 days in on sublocade. It was a rough start but I'm feeling lots better..

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I'm really glad to hear that the Sublocade is finally helping! 😀

[@lenanathanson8543]

So glad to hear this boy made it. What a loving and devoted dad he has. Also, as a parent, this story does not give me hope it gives me nightmares.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I can see where you’re coming from with that. If it helps....both Scott and his son are doing great!

[@jodleeray]

Me too. Because of the many parallels and the comment that being addicted to marijuana means it’s a terrible drug issue. 😩

[@Free-flyBE]

I like your videos & other channels too; but as a single, low-income parent with just state ins. there really is no help:(

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Free-fly BE. Here's a link to download my Insiders Guide For Treatment Options. It explains all the different options including, insurance options, and Free options. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivational-interviewing-session-1

[@Free-flyBE]

@@PutTheShovelDown thank you;)

[@wendybarker5118]

I like how the father says take some action, even if its wrong

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Me too!

[@daphnekirksey9505]

My son has not admitted he’s had a problem or willing to get any help. But I know how awful it is to go on vacation w him. Until he’s sober he is not welcome on any trips. Even to go out of town for his cousin’s funeral who died have a heroine overdose he made it miserable. From that point on I decided I would not go out of my way to include him any family events.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sounds like a healthy sanity boundary!

[@Morning.Coffee]

This is a very dramatic real life story, heartbreaking & miraculous. I'm curious if the parents' faith played any part of their horrific experience?

[@bethbrafford1752]

Back ground music cant take it. Wish i could listen but i am already stress to the max about my son

[@kristariggsrichard]

Very difficult situation. So sorry for this family.

[@lynnet8274]

I am wondering if Scott (and/or Zack) were ever able to figure out "what Zack's inherent vulnerability" was and "what was that difficult time in life (major loss)" that caused his addiction?? I'm trying to figure out what is it at the base of my son's addiction - thanks for sharing your story :)

[@silvermaple-n6n]

Wow! The confusion of addiction. Such a puzzling situation. Thank you Amber and the father for sharing this.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lindadunn8787]

"Getting our heads wrapped around it takes time." Whoa. Really. Thanks. Going back to the pyramid with 5 layers...with patience standing on distress tolerance standing on honesty standing on humility standing on openmindedness. Big exhalation. Feels good seeing the absolute need for the grace to take time and do the work and recognize the need for rest and balance as part of the deal. Wow. Thank you.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Linda Dunn wow, Linda! You’re on the fast track🤩. You’re really getting it !

[@tonimarroy9219]

Scott, I had the same situation with the "wrong crowd!"

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Hi Toni, Thanks for watching and taking the time to tell us a little about your situation. It always helps others to know they're not alone! (especially parents)

[@tonimarroy9219]

When are you on live?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

@@tonimarroy9219 1pm eastern Thursday’s

[@mkatzenbach]

Why is there distracting piano music playing during this video?

[@zaccarlsen]

Good story, nice to hear. Zach seems very lucky to have a family that cares so much about him and is willing to help him. I know a Zach in a similar situation who doesn't have the opportunities like this. Wishing the best for him!

[@marybethbest4640]

Thank you for sharing this story. It was so moving to hear from a parent's perspective. It is truly a "family disease" and family members suffer so much.

[@dannyj7618]

Ive never been addicted to any real drugs, but i have been heavily addicted to kratom, over 10 years daily use. Tryng to quit. Feel like going into detox for kratom I will be laughed out of their. FOlks on fentanyl and meth and heroin - and here I am addicted to plant related to coffee tree. Wish this was illegal - I would be sober.

[@freddieobregon6351]

You will not be laughed out for going to detox/rehab for kratom. I went there and flourished.

[@dannyj7618]

@@freddieobregon6351 This friday I will be 4 months sober from kratom. It so good being sober. Now my kratom money I was spending goes to my Tesla payment.