Dr. Russell Barkley (from Adult ADHD Impairments and Treatments)
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@bianca48293 жыл бұрын
A lot of people think this man is insensitive, but as someone with terrible ADHD he describes someone with ADHD spot on. He’s not being critical he’s just explaining his studies.
@stacymyers58583 жыл бұрын
Hes spot on.
@carliejung84083 жыл бұрын
@@glutamateglutamate5728 yeah
@glutamateglutamate57283 жыл бұрын
@@carliejung8408 that s me.
@AMindInOverdrive2 жыл бұрын
I like my truths straight
@reddevil2112872 жыл бұрын
Agreed 100% I’ve been begging the UK NHS for help. And the wait time to even see a psychiatrist is 2 years!!!! It’s heart breaking. My life has fallen apart from the upheaval of Covid. My fiancée left me and I can’t get help.
@birdbird73724 жыл бұрын
Who else is watching this instead of doing what you’re supposed to be doing
@focusedeye3 жыл бұрын
Bird bird "Who else is watching this instead of doing what you’re supposed to be doing?" Guilty as charged.
@sogagirl13 жыл бұрын
Me
@luanntexascitizen43453 жыл бұрын
Its a great distraction! Lol.
@theecube13 жыл бұрын
why you gotta call us out like this
@rebeccadelbridge29983 жыл бұрын
Hahaha! Yes!
@buster2132 Жыл бұрын
THIS. This is how I wish I’d been spoken to about my adhd. This guy, if his knowledge or attitude had been anywhere near me, would have changed my life. Brilliant.
@katherineelmer-gray2213 Жыл бұрын
ABSOLUTELY AGREE with you. This is 100% how I feel
@keilana6 Жыл бұрын
I wish someone in the dark ages of my past had known about adhd & spoken to me about it Given me a "slap " on the head.
@kawag63567 ай бұрын
Same
@danielgarnham82792 жыл бұрын
I have adhd. The way this man speaks is easy to follow and remember. It is not negative, simply direct. Which is why I follow it and memorise it so easily.
@MuletTheGreat Жыл бұрын
It's just raw data. Direct, no politeness or wasted words. Nothing to interpret. Glorious.
@variyasalo2581 Жыл бұрын
He has personal reasons as well to be detached. He described me in my teens, twenties, and thirties, except no ODD.
@katherineberger6329 Жыл бұрын
@@variyasalo2581 He does, and it does explain why he interprets ADHD symptoms in terms of the worst-case scenario. He obviously has real and serious grief about his brother and this is both good for us because it means he doesn't overestimate the capabilities of people with ADHD and bad for us because his estimates of ADHDers are set at the lower bound because his brother seemed to have been dealing with not only ADHD but also significant addictive personality traits.
@fascistscansuckit Жыл бұрын
Especially once I figured out how to increase the playback speed.
@farshads3367 Жыл бұрын
@@variyasalo2581 I know! ODD and adulthood ADHD... It is like he has known me forever!
@julyol1195 жыл бұрын
I love how he doesn't dance around the point. In the comments I see some people who say he's being too negative. But I don't see it that way at all. He shows what science finds, without trying to please anyones ego. Especially this part of the talk reminds me why I have to keep trying. Not let my unmotivated, procrastinating side win over. For me it is highly motivational to hear my problems reflected in actual science. If you listen to the whole talk, that's 3 hours I think, you will hear him give some GOLDEN advice for handling those problems, too. So maybe give it a chance, even if you don't like what you are hearing.
@ryanfrederick5084 жыл бұрын
I like the fact how serious he is about it. He gives you the Kool aid without the sugar.
@Briansawilddowner3 жыл бұрын
The first time I watched a video of one of his lectures it kind pissed me off. I felt like he was being very negative and almost condescending. He kept saying “They can’t do this.” And “they can’t do that.” But after watching more i realized he is actually very sympathetic. I think he uses that negative language partly because so many of us with ADHD have heard “well if you can pay attention to X then you can pay attention to Y.” So then we try to pay attention to Y but fail and it feels like a personal failing rather than as the effect of a disability. I think his language emphasizes that that attitude will continue to fail, and that we need to find other ways to manage it rather than just hoping that the next time we try it’ll turn out differently.
@julyol1193 жыл бұрын
@@Briansawilddowner Also, I think it gets overshadowed, that this is a talk for parents, doctors and other caretakers. He is trying to break those people out of unrealistic expectations. I think at some point he actually addresses the crowd like 'If you don't get it and expect unrealistic stuff from the kid you become my problem' or something like that. It's some time ago that I listened to the talk. So actually he's strongly advocating for the ADHDers.
@hamzaalrifai53213 жыл бұрын
i agree with you honestly
@julyol1193 жыл бұрын
@SuperTrader Mikey Very true! I can't really handle work and household stuff and relationships all at once on an acceptable level. And keeping up the scaffolding sometimes feels like too much work on its own, even if it keeps me functioning. Aah... Life...
@BREAKocean3 жыл бұрын
If any of this is painful to read. keep in mind his brother died from driving and had ADHD. Dr. Russell Barkley has clearly dedicated his life to studying and treating people with this ailment. I have nothing respect for this man.
@dianelaidlaw8373 жыл бұрын
He is not giving a counseling session , he is giving a lecture which is a totally different way of presenting information. People are coming to hear how ADHD impairs individuals.
@essnjora99043 жыл бұрын
Wow! He understands it so deeply.
@essnjora99043 жыл бұрын
Wow! He understands it so deeply.
@coreycox23453 жыл бұрын
That puts a different spin on his thinking that young people with ADHD should not drive, BREAKocean. I have ADD and thought that extreme. In my city, a distracted driving ticket holds a similar weight to a DUI.
@tracysample69423 жыл бұрын
@@dianelaidlaw837 I have never felt more vindicated and offended all at once. More, please.
@FifiLeCat Жыл бұрын
Diagnosed at 38, 18 years ago. He’s the first person who made me cry with his understanding and concise explanations about my ADHD.
@newanas5271 Жыл бұрын
I sabotaged my life cause of this illness. I wish someone told me about it.
@robertperham357110 ай бұрын
I just did the same, cried listening to all this.....
@jessicawilliamson12308 ай бұрын
You obviously did not watch the whole thing or you would know he is in favor of you getting your ass whipped. More consequences and accountability for ADHD kids, is what he said.
@joetoaster4478 ай бұрын
hehe wuss. I didn't cry because I barely listened 😉😉
@jessicawilliamson12308 ай бұрын
@@joetoaster447 Most it is just theories anyway 😉
@tlafleur8433 Жыл бұрын
This man is the best speaker ever. It's flawless, even-paced, never getting stuck on a word, never uttering 'uhmm', same volume level throughout. No distractions, good quality voice. I can listen all day. The content is very helpful. Thank you sir for your service to the ADHD community.
@adhdvid Жыл бұрын
Thanks for your feedback! We were pleased to have him present on our behalf!
@tlafleur8433 Жыл бұрын
@@adhdvid You're welcome.
@thehighpriestess8431 Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤ yes
@pinkpearl1967 Жыл бұрын
@@adhdvid Can you add a link to the video that covers the next part of his talk? He got cut off.
@chrispasson19409 ай бұрын
Prof Rus is so easy to listen to. I discovered him a month ago. Dam. I was diagnosed in 2001 when I was 51.
@MithraSemiramis2 жыл бұрын
I think the intensity with which he approaches this topic is necessary to get people to take it seriously and those who suffer with it
@kristadball24222 жыл бұрын
100%!!! Dr Barkley is AMAZING!!!
@Lilmansamsmom4 ай бұрын
Also, his brother had it and was killed in a car accident not wearing his seat belt. So he has a personal stake in this. He’s my ADHD guru.
@godless_rain223 жыл бұрын
This man has really dedicated his life to the studies of our brains and is advocating for us. His lectures are amazing and you can feel how personal this disorder hits home for him in the way he speaks about his twin brother.
@stacymyers58583 жыл бұрын
I agree with you.
@katherineberger6329 Жыл бұрын
I do really feel that his brother's situation - and I strongly empathize with his grief, it is terrible to lose a sibling so young in life - is something that colors his view of ADHD, no matter how much he rationalizes it. It's hard for someone to go through an intensely personal loss like a sibling, especially a twin sibling, to feel that that loss had a primary cause (rightly or wrongly) that is a condition that you have spent much of your time and effort studying, and not present that condition in that light. But at the same time, he is a very hard listen because it seems as though he is of the opinion, colored by his brother's struggles and death, that people with ADHD are hopeless cases without strict medicalization, that we are INCAPABLE of caring for ourselves and others, and that we are completely unaware of ourselves.
@makkieu9 ай бұрын
@@katherineberger6329I agree, we definitely aren’t hopeless without medication. There are so many tools and learning strategies to be better in life
@freethugga4L6 ай бұрын
@@makkieu yes! not hopeless as we develop understanding. Definitely still have a much harder time though, especially emotionally too.
@treddah9 ай бұрын
I’ve never heard someone get ADHD so right. It’s incredible to hear this as an adult.
@TheFabricTeapot1 Жыл бұрын
I've just been diagnosed with ADHD 2 weeks ago, I'm 67. Oh how I wish I could have had someone in my life as understanding as this man. It breaks my heart to think "what could I have been" with the proper help earlier in my life. More help and less judgement is far more helpful. At last I am beginning to understand and forgive myself.
@kouranko Жыл бұрын
I totally relate to your comment. I've just been diagnosed at 58 years old. Also ASD. My body is very broken down now, so I don't look forward to much. I do feel very sad about not having been able to do the things in life I wanted to, or have a decent relationship, and after trying so hard to be a good and decent person, and live in community, I find myself completely alone. But I'm so glad to finally know why at least, although it doesn't fix anything, and I'm too old really to have those things, there's something to be very grateful for when you listen to someone like Dr Barkly, or other late diagnosed women, and finally all those pennies drop, and you know, finally, why things have turned out as they have. At least before I die I can have more understanding of myself and more compassion for myself.
@richarnaeharris5211 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏾
@Marielskis989 ай бұрын
I too feel the loss of what could have been 😢 still happy to identify and treat what I've been struggling with my whole life. I'm 67
@megchetter89879 ай бұрын
I am 54 and just starting my journey to diagnosis...i am hoping i can get some peace for the end part of my life
@StephanieJones-Davey8 ай бұрын
Oh Goodness ... Your comment really touched me 😢. I've just been diagnosed at 57 & coming to terms with the overwhelm of it all🤦🏼♀️. I have yet to find another person my age to talk to who's in the same situation & around the same age. It's a Very Lonely, Sad, Frustrating & Heartbreaking situation I find myself in. With the Absolute Relief of diagnosis & discovering I'm NOT all the terrible things I've been labelled as by others, even more devastatingly my own inner dialogue & battles re my ISSUES is the Struggle of now needing to learn how to deal, cope, manage & try to make my day to day life easier. I'm so sad for ALL the things that could have gone differently if I'd have only known this earlier. Truthfully ... It's a hell of a rollercoaster ride & I wanna get off !!!! I wish you all the best on your journey & just wanted you to know that your comment REALLY Helped me. Thank You 🥰
@ginajones4253 жыл бұрын
I got the opportunity to see Dr. Barkley in person in St. Louis, MO during a 2-day workshop. He is fascinating to listen to and as an ADHD person, I was able to focus on his presentation the entire 2 days without distractibility. Now, that's a gift!
@tracysample69423 жыл бұрын
I'm jealous. I would love to take a 2-day workshop with him.
@vickigreen9545 Жыл бұрын
That is unheard of that we could focus for that long, let alone one speaker - best expert on this topic ever!
@SnoozeAddict Жыл бұрын
Were you the one that followed him out to the car? /s
@Lilmansamsmom7 ай бұрын
Yes, Barkley and his research are by far the best we have on this subject. He doesn’t sugar coat a damn thing and I appreciate his honesty.
@DaisyHolden4 жыл бұрын
Im that adhd person following him to the parking lot 😂
@TheFaro20114 жыл бұрын
So relatable
@milasaba75943 жыл бұрын
Ditto🙈
@focusedeye3 жыл бұрын
Maybe as far as the lobby.
@annettegriffin39473 жыл бұрын
No judgment it's ok
@Idahomie3 жыл бұрын
That example is poor one. It is WNL for an individual to be enthusiastic about a newly discovered data and want to take advantage of an opportunity to talk such a hi- level researcher. IMO, it is a burden of the recipient to politely big off not the enthusiastic learner sensing a golden' opportunity.
@cptnmochi3 жыл бұрын
squad up if you're avoiding something by watching this and also have 15 other browser tabs open
@amandaworthington69613 жыл бұрын
Do 223,000 inbox emails trump the open tabs? only at 32 of them. Professional ADD, Amateur computer organizers
@karnage89603 жыл бұрын
I hate this so much:(((
@DerangedMerger3 жыл бұрын
about 60 tabs opened, and i've just closed the non important ones like an hour ago :/
@alexandermarohnic75633 жыл бұрын
I've only got 29 open but they're almost all half finished KZbin videos that I'm intending to watch but know I won't because I hardly finish anything ever
@coreycox23453 жыл бұрын
In some ways, this makes me want to cry, Alexander Marohnic. I am like this too. On the other hand, I sure know a little about a lot of things. I wonder if "polymath" is another name for ADD?
@nekroneko3 жыл бұрын
I'm 39, never diagnosed with ADHD, however the more I look into it the more I get a picture of why I am who I am. But I always feel trapped and unable to seek help or get a diagnosis. Around 6 months ago I really began thinking that my mental health problems could be down to ADHD. Before that I was diagnosed with depression some 15 years prior, but never found that the drugs worked, they just made me feel more agitated. My Dad told me that he thinks he have Autism, and more recently saying that one of my primary school teachers thought so too. My Mum also thinks that way. This put me on a path where I thought it could be Asperger's, and that may well be a factor, I have huge issues in social settings, never quite knowing what to say and my brain just locking up so to speak. ADHD on the other hand seems to fit as a descriptor for my mental condition so incredibly well I find it hard to find ways to deny it. Overweight, jobless, poor dental hygiene, impulsive, zero sleep pattern, poor money management, no natural gas due to missed payments (means no hot water on tap), and so on. Honestly makes me angry and upset that all this time I've not been getting the help I so desperately need.
@mandolinistry32073 жыл бұрын
Get screened. I got diagnosed at 32 and it totally turned my life around. My mom thought I might have autism, but it turned out to be ADHD.
@rachelleandrichard Жыл бұрын
Autism and ADHD affect the same part of our brain. It's possible to have both and I know people including my husband who has Asperger's aka high functioning autism and also has ADHD behaviours too. The symptoms are similar but they are distinctly different diagnoses. Joining a local support group for people with HFA/ADHD helped us to learn more about ourselves as well as ways to adapt our lives to the way our brains process information. I have ADHD with shades of autistic behaviour. I was an odd child. I liked being alone and still prefer lots of alone time. They say I was like a little adult and preferred adult company than my own age group. We are all different even on the spectrum. What matters most is self acceptance and self respect. Being able to love and care for ourselves and not expecting others too. Everyone in the whole world struggles with something so I see that as something that connects us all.
@naturesoundsofireland1241 Жыл бұрын
How're you doing now, OP?
@keilana6 Жыл бұрын
Yes, sounds like me.
@dwaynerhodes6423 Жыл бұрын
my friend just mentioned this to me. Reading your summary, I thought you were talking about me. Now I want to find out, I hope I can afford the treatment
@scoobycrush92313 жыл бұрын
He's right on about giving credit and credit cards to people with adhd. It's usually a disaster for me especially with being impulsive with spending.
@keilana64 ай бұрын
Absolutely. Even though I meant to be responsible I messed up & eventually ended up bankrupt. Lot had to do with low income but I should have known better.
@Toyon956 жыл бұрын
I know that for people with ADHD this might be hard to listen to- disheartening. But it is good that he's talking about these statistics because then lawmakers can see the facts and KNOW that people with ADHD need help and might put more funds into them getting it. So many people struggle all their lives where at least teachers should have noticed the signs. Teachers and health-care professionals needs to be more educated in what ADHD looks like- so a person doesn't need to go untreated far into their adult life.
@What-lt3lj2 жыл бұрын
Honestly, as someone who has ADHD, I am grateful for how straightforward he is being. It lets me know that no, my disorder really is as bad as I think and I am right to get treatment for it, that I'm not faking.
@Toyon952 жыл бұрын
@@What-lt3lj Yes, that's how I feel too.
@Ignasimp2 жыл бұрын
Teachers are not trained psychologists nor neurologists. We have to deal with ASD, TDHD, dyslexia... We can't be experts on everything.
@Toyon952 жыл бұрын
@@Ignasimp I think being able to raise concerns on common developmental disorders should be something teachers should be able to do- I'm not suggesting being able to pinpoint a diagnosis but notice concerning behavior that affect the child's schoolwork or relationship with other students. Then report it to somebody more fit to do something about these concerns.
@Ignasimp2 жыл бұрын
@@Toyon95 yeah, and i agree with that, to some degree. That's why i'm watching this videos precisely. The thing is we are being forced to do plenty of things that are not our jobs and then blamed for not doing it perfectly. And the information is not avaliable anywhere. I'm lucky enough to have a good English level and a thirst for knowledge, but this information right here wasn't easy to come by, at all. And now I need to find other high quality videos on all the other mental disorders? XD if anyone knows were to find that i'd be thankful! I was even thinking of doing a master's degree on neuropsicology and education. But then when reading about the subjects and the content there is plenty of pseudoscience there. How can i even trust the oficial sources when that happens?
@katherineelmer-gray2213 Жыл бұрын
If I had found this man's work before I hit 32 and my life was falling to bits and I'd learnt properly about my adhd I think I might have faired better.
@jazmineregalado7103 жыл бұрын
As a women who’s struggled ADHD since being diagnosed with it since middle school, I absolutely am aware that my untreated behavior has been getting worse with years going by. I have taken action by my own in learning more about my diagnosis and helping myself with videos like these that make me aware of what can happen in the long run and what are happening in my daily life now. Glad to have peace of mind that I’m not the only one who worries about themselves. I’m trying really hard. I’m very glad there’s people who take time/years researching about ADHD a huge respect towards them all. xoxo
@PercivalBlakeney3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I quit smoking, alcohol, went Vegan and cycle a lot. It's not improved the presentation of my ADH Spectra, but Bloody Hell, it's kept the rest of my body on form. My life expectancy hasn't gotten any worse. Now I've got to learn to get my dental health on track. 😌
@tracysample69423 жыл бұрын
Same. If anything, those are areas I find success where most people cannot.
@PercivalBlakeney3 жыл бұрын
@@tracysample6942 ☺️
@czagazeta2 жыл бұрын
I cycle primarily for my adhd. I can’t overstate enough how much exercise, especially an aerobic sport like cycling, helps with my adhd
@PercivalBlakeney2 жыл бұрын
@@czagazeta Thanks Christian. Might just fix my puncture yet. 😉
@keilana64 ай бұрын
@@czagazeta Now I'm old & struggling with hip stiffness & don't feel safe walking as much as I used to.
@tammieboling Жыл бұрын
So I’ve been on medication since I was 22 (I’m 44 now and still alive) and therapy since. What I can say about this video is that he is so spot on. Cheating is a gray area off medication but the moment I got on the right medication (13 failed, got on desoxyn and now recently changed due to the shortage, Vyvanse 70 mg), it was like my brain grew up. Without medication, it’s impossible to thrive due to deficiency of norepinephrine and dopamine in the brain, one that keeps you alert and focused and the other helps emotion. Nicotine does help more than coffee but if you have ADHD you either smoke or vape or drink a lot of coffee or whatever fits in your hyper focused activity. I was self medicating with meth before medication and haven’t touched hard drugs in 22 years. Exercise and proper sleep schedule (if possible) will help shift focus away to other coping mechanisms to hyper focus of a healthy lifestyle. But medication must be used with ongoing therapy because it won’t solve the problem. I’m glad I stumbled upon this video. Everything he’s saying is true. I even almost died from sepsis and heart disease runs in my family and now I know why. There’s no coincidences in life. If you have it, get treated. It’s not a stigma anymore. It’s not bad medicine or speed. It’s medication and wanting to thrive. My twins were just diagnosed with ADHD (6 years old) and it’s been such a ride with all the meetings with school. One boy and one girl. So if you’re a parent reading this, get your kids on meds. They have better options now than 20 years ago and kids with ADHD on medication will get A’s and become honors students. I was able to take calculus and passed! Without medication, it’s all nonsense. Anyone else have kids with ADHD? How are you managing?
@nkululeko1320 Жыл бұрын
How long did you use meth to self medicate? Was it difficult to give it up once you were put on proper medication?
@Not_a_number_6 жыл бұрын
I needed to have self discipline to NOT read for pleasure as a child. CONSTANTLY! It was my escape from the problems caused by my inability to self regulate.
@manuelalvarez256 жыл бұрын
Christina M reading probably gave you a lot of knowledge? Didn’t?
@zannalynrobest54206 жыл бұрын
Christina M like my baby boy. Reads every night and can do so for hours on end.
@ProductEvaluator.4 жыл бұрын
I did that too as a child. I would rather read than play. I still do it now at 51. I will read a novel over doing housework or anything else. I will justify it to myself, just one more chapter and I will do the dishes etc. Before I know it it is 2am and I have finished the book.
@TheFaro20114 жыл бұрын
Yes I read and read. But I'm glad because if I was a kid of this generation would be glued to a screen
@Not_a_number_4 жыл бұрын
@@TheFaro2011 True! Like now you mean? 😂 I moved house recently and found loads of old books, thought, I must read some. What am I doing? Scrolling through KZbin 🤦♀️
@KatrinaDancer Жыл бұрын
I'm ADHD and I chose to never have children from the time I was a child. I'm 45 1/2 now and believe it was the best decision I ever made. Children deserve good parents and I know I wouldn't be a good one.
@VIPERMKVII6316 ай бұрын
People who think like that end up being decent parents, knowing your shortcomings is the only way to correct them
@gillb92224 ай бұрын
I agree. I have 4 kids and have passes on trauma to them because of my adhd and autism traits. It doesn't help that they have it too. I love my kids but they don't seem to understand my love language. I have RSD and PDA too which makes my interactions with people and the behaviours I exhibit. I don't wish that I didn't have my kids, they are amazing, but I wish I could have been a better parent. I'm sure my mum had the same conditions but I didn't realise until after her death. We had a terrible relationship and I didn't speak to her for the last 5 years of her life. ADHD and autism need to be taken more seriously as it ruins lives.
@keilana64 ай бұрын
Sadly I agree. Seeing how my ADHD has not given my son a responsible road map for life. Though not diagnosed he seems to have many of the characteristics of ADHD.
@gillb92224 ай бұрын
@@keilana6 so many parents feel guilty about what ttheir adhd kids have experienced life but given that 79% of adhd is genetic (apparently), most of those parents are also struggling and are also trying to teach their kids to be NT so thet they avoid the same issues that have faced but if they couldn't do it themselves how can they teach their ND kids. We tend to accept our kids more of we are ND but we so desperately want to protect them. Society has to change, not us
@RascalRikk Жыл бұрын
He is so spot on. As someone with severe adhd I appreciate the candid way that he speaks on this. I feel seen, validated and understood.
@dede40047 жыл бұрын
ADHD in a marriage, when its untreated can be devastating to the partner who doesn't have ADHD. We are contemplating divorce because of this.
@NickanM6 жыл бұрын
I've been married for 29 years, but luckily enough I have a very understanding husband. His patience with me is absolutely unbelievable. It hasn't been easy, but I went into therapy for ten years, and combined with medications I'm better than ever. I hope everything turns out well for you. 💙
@dr.dermixgirlmd74795 жыл бұрын
7.756.935- you are very very lucky to have such a patient husband. I wish mine could understand.
@dede40045 жыл бұрын
My husband has it, and is on meds for it. But, he doesn't learn about it, or do the behavior therapy. I've been as patient as I can, but it's absolutely worn me to shreds. The chaos, the anger, impulsivity, breaking things, and my needs not getting met have caused me a lot of personal pain. He doesn't consider what I need as a spouse, and we've lived like separate people. It's been damaging to my self esteem while he continues staying in denial of ADHD symptoms. I don't nag him about this, and never have. But, this is why I learn on sites like this, it helps.
@vikiqi53094 жыл бұрын
dede4004 leave this fucking mental illness. I mean it. Plenty of healthy people out there. He’s sabotaging your own mental health.
@aidamatokko70273 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately I did divorced, my older son has adds also and the relationship has been so heart broken to me!
@shaun5944 Жыл бұрын
I love the way Mr Barkley explains the symptoms of ADHD. Especially the driving, it's a miracle of God that I didn't seriously hurt someone. I'm 60 years of age. I was diagnosed 5 years ago. I've been sober since 95 ODAAT 12 step programme and good sponsorship. But I felt there was something still not right with me. I was diagnosed by way of the Barkley scale from the Maudsley hospital London 👍💯🇬🇧
@amkobra3 жыл бұрын
I dont drive so none of the driving symptoms catch me, but this is why I dont drive. I'm deathly afraid of it. When I'm walking down the street I space in thought. Im afraid of that happening to me in a car.
@umbra90293 жыл бұрын
Try slowly things like getting a scooter. :) Helps a lot and it's fun
@nflfangirl192 жыл бұрын
Same!! ❤️
@makkieu9 ай бұрын
I wanted to scream at my first job when before I left, I asked my project manager to give me general advice to go on with life. And he said “follow through what you said you’re going to do”. I wanted to ask him so badly to give me a specific example because I made an extraordinary effort everyday to follow through what I said I was going to do. To hear him say that, not knowing what I did to offend him, hurt me so much because I always write things that, cross things out and finish the task. It’s like I want to scream “I don’t even know what I didn’t do”. It’s one thing if it’s on purpose and I just wanted to be an asshole. But it wasn’t. It’s me trying so hard everyday to be as normal as everyone else
@aidag7808 Жыл бұрын
Believe it or not, the fear of hell has helped me control a lot of my impulsiveness.
@d7702 Жыл бұрын
The more I hear this Sir the more I love his wisdom.
@redrumcoke236328 күн бұрын
Dr. Russell Barkley is an absolute ADHD treasure. He is consistently on the frontline of ADHD research, fighting to spread awareness of the facts. It's also unreal, how the descriptions he lays out correlate with me like 90%. It's like he is describing, specifically ME, up there. It is effing BONKERS. Frankly, it's almost disturbing, just how much can be described about a person without even knowing them. 😬
@Sabine872 жыл бұрын
I have been tested and been banned in the Netherlands to get a driver's license if I am not medicated. Due to these videos I am much more understanding about this decision.
@armorsmith434 жыл бұрын
Safe Driving tips for ADHDers: 0) Cycling - It will make the importance of safe driving much more salient if you've spent some time as a cyclist. Also, exercise raises ambient dopamine levels. 1) Systematize & Self-talk - Have explicit systems for scanning your mirrors and restoring your focus to the task at hand. Mumble under your breath things like "Scan left mirror: empty. Return to Front. Onramp: Check for merging cars." 2) Wide-angle rear-view mirror - You can increase the ability to notice things to your right for $10 (or £10 to notice things on the left). 3) Audio *without* visual imagery - You want the mental stimulation but *don't* want something that pulls at your visual working memory. If you love maps, *don't* listen to descriptions of military campaigns which mention rivers or cities. If you can read and visualize music, *don't* listen to music. 4) Quick pausing by voice of any audio. If you have friends, then make it explicit that when you ask them to pause, it is an expression of how much you care for their safety.
@kylebroussard5952 Жыл бұрын
*I forgot when 8 o'clock was* Trying to explain this to someone who just understands time is one of the most difficult and patronizing things I've ever tried to do. It just looks like you don't care to everyone else.
@kimvanwyk95329 ай бұрын
As a mother of a child with ADHD, and a wife of a husband with it as well. He is a major source of my sanity, and my ability to "manage" my home effectively by knowing what allowances to make and how to work within everyone's ability.
@ericchin73910 ай бұрын
Wow.... Im 34 and am only just in the last 6 months coming to terms with having ADHD. It absolutely SUCKS. I hate it.
@zanswan65197 ай бұрын
He’s spot on. Having someone explain my experience precisely is validating. Someone out there actually gets me.
@howikorx5 ай бұрын
This is a window into my life. I wish I had seen this in 2009...
@keilana64 ай бұрын
Wish I'd known it 40 years ago.
@natashyas41497 ай бұрын
Amazing how he shares about his own brother. It makes it very personal
@tylerjohnobrien77442 жыл бұрын
My sister and I were both diagnosed within two years of each other in adulthood without the other knowing. My mother had my sister when she was 17 and my sister had her first child at 18. A lot of what Dr. Barkley says is spot on with my family...Even down to taking the car out before being licensed for a joy ride when nobody was home.
@mrplowjrezv Жыл бұрын
Someone interrupted asking "unmedicated?" He responded and immediately picked up where he left off. Im kinda jealous.
@chrispasson19409 ай бұрын
Me too
@geoedge1233 жыл бұрын
I’m saving this to show my future wife
@tobytobias1363 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂 Ty
@CrystalMouse1 Жыл бұрын
If my educators in special Ed were as direct and concise as he, I’d have understood my diagnosis as more than a learning disability
@user-xz8lh8ch3y Жыл бұрын
Good luck finding a psychiatrist that has this knowledge, let alone a Sped Teacher...
@vickigreen9545 Жыл бұрын
Such a great speaker - fast tempo, knowledgeable, data-specific, some laughs, regularly coming back to the reason why this finding is important - actually easy for ADHD listener to follow, thank you
@samanthalee5808 Жыл бұрын
Not my friends always calling me out for road rage and me not knowing why (just got diagnosed 6 months ago and this series has been so helpful).
@daniellec2172 Жыл бұрын
I consider myself to be an extremely skilled driver, never had an accident in 24 years of driving. I don't consider myself to be very skilled at much else. My dad would take me driving from childhood. I love driving, going quickly, hugging the apex, properly accelerating to get onto the highway, predicting what is going to happen in other lanes, parallel parking, etc., but I am extremely impatient, and get serious serious road rage because I view 90% of other drivers as being incompetent, slow, inconsiderate, not spatially aware, and in my way. They cause unnecessary traffic jams, they brake when they do not need to, they don't make full use of the merge lane to get up to speed, they sit in the fast lane impeding traffic, they're scared to change lanes or believe it is dangerous, the list goes on. I suspect a lot of this comes from overly cautious driving instructors and lack of practice. I'm very pigheaded about this issue and I think I should have been an F1 driver lol...
@jazmcdonald Жыл бұрын
He is so articulate, no fillers.
@arielnakamura81246 жыл бұрын
One of the most informative videos (and channel) I've found on KZbin regarding ADHD.
@frederickduncan951711 ай бұрын
As you watch these videos and this one in particular, it brings you to tears as he is, in so many ways, is describing your life. Thank God I don't have driving or drugs issues other than (sugar).
@rhllc8166 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these teachings. I feel peace now. Your brother was a hero for helping all of us through you
@Ravilette4 ай бұрын
I’m so happy I found this. Thank you so much for all of your research and hard work. This gave me a lot of tools on how to understand and support my partner and his ADHD, coping, tendencies and social interactions. I’m sorry about your twin brother. Many blessings to you and your loved ones, peers and research staff.
@leinadp3228 ай бұрын
This is the best described and most depressed lecture I have ever looked at. I really feel that my life sucks even harder now. I wished adhd was more known when I was a kid not now as an adult.
@kawag63567 ай бұрын
This man is changing my life, thank you
@Juice-chanАй бұрын
This man describes remarkably well every single problem that I encountered in my life. The worst about this disease is that since it's my daily reality since I can think, that this is normal. And that every failure is rooted in me being lazy and dumb. I am not absolving myself from anything. I could have researched this way more intensely and way earlier to find a solution. But I deluded myself into believing that this is how it is and I just have to try harder. But all I did with that is just avoiding the necessary steps for years. Again the worst thing about this sickness is your own inability to see it as such.
@tobywinter13 жыл бұрын
The best speaker and expert on this topic I've ever seen. Thank you so much.
@jefwerth6836 Жыл бұрын
He speaks of me and my entire family. Spot on with the bad driving.
@eleniandreas13 жыл бұрын
I usually have to rewind so many times then I give up, I kind of forget I was watching it then go back to it, so many half watched videos. This is one I intend to go back to, it seems very interesting 🤔
@OriginalSuperfreak Жыл бұрын
I am 51 and diagnosed 2 years ago. When I first watched this man 2 years ago, I found him grating but 2 years later, I realise how people do not take my diagnosis seriously compared to my sons autism. I now know, how seriously ADHD has effected me and continues to do so, so kudos to him.
@FossilHntr1 Жыл бұрын
He rings every bell to those who live with ADHD
@megasweetness93533 жыл бұрын
i've accidentally shoplifted before. When I was a little kid, I took some toys for birthday gift bags, and I straight up forgot to bring it out to pay for it once I left the store with my mom. I felt so bad afterwards that I kept asking to go back to the store so I could pay for them.
@keilana6 Жыл бұрын
Impaired in all 3. Nothing ever changes. My anger is targeted to me primarily.
@kaseywoodman337 Жыл бұрын
Ommmg this guy has put my entire life on blast and I'm thankful for it. Jesus god we are not okay and we need freaking help!
@stevensarasin16636 ай бұрын
Hands down one of the best explainers of myself and my adhd. Very intelligent man.
@thetravalanche16 күн бұрын
So much to process here. Amazing.
@carpediemandloveАй бұрын
I love this doctor. We are blessed that he understands us so well.
@christianoden Жыл бұрын
Cannabis isn't for coping with life's problems. Cannabis helps with what you have described as the main problem of ADHD, which is the suppression of emotions.
@binathere25747 ай бұрын
I've tried medical cannabis. I talked my bloody head off for 2 hours. I was so pinged, I never want to attempt it again. I feel sorry for the person who's eat I chewed off. Also I would crack a joke that was twisted so much it have 3 (or more) hilarious possible outcomes. Only my daughter laughed because she understands me and also is of the tribe. I was so exhausted by the end of the night. Not to mention a little embarrassed.
@elisastringert4065 Жыл бұрын
Spot on! I didn’t realize until I was 65 I was ADHD! It was a frustrating life, until l learned how to turn in to my advantage
@tim_koch14 Жыл бұрын
How did you turn it into your advantage?
@keilana64 ай бұрын
How? I'm there & not diagnosed. Life continues to be a waste.
@voltairelodyga387Ай бұрын
This answers a lot more of my questions than I like
@TheFaro20114 жыл бұрын
Every single thing he said apart from teenage pregnancy (I have reason for why that didn't happen) I can absolutely 100% relate too. My insurance is through the roof.
@TheFaro20114 жыл бұрын
Not dead yet, but let's see what age lol haven't hit them
@SparQz2 жыл бұрын
I'd love to take your driving test, only a few speeding tickets in my life, only accidents I've been in, I was hit while stopped and not my fault. I actually predict other drivers behavior very well. I'm hyper aware while driving.
@user-xz8lh8ch3y Жыл бұрын
Me too! And NO speeding tickets! (yet) I LOVE driving, especially on the highway, (Mass Pike) It feels like a game to me, and I am SUPER focused!
@kathycuttonaro8999 Жыл бұрын
He is honest. I have add or whatever you want to call it. He explains my life so far.
@spice8831 Жыл бұрын
I actually highly appreciate how he explains and validates how adhd can cause such chaos in yr life and highly effects yr self worth rather than the usual dismissive comments of how significantly it impacts yr life because u allow it to by using it as yr excuse for yr slackness .. ouch !! Now that’s a hard one to swallow when yr struggling to function and hating that yr not seeming to be capable of doing what seems so easy for everyone else. It’s embarrassingly, frustrating, and constant. It makes u hurt people unintentionally and presents laziness, selfishness or just an excuse u use to dismiss what a hopeless misfit you are so there’s absolutely no glamour in that believe me.
@ljm32673 жыл бұрын
This Teacher is hitting quite a few points I have found myself in his Talks with us. He has been there and done that. Or, he has worked and studied ADHD patience’s. I could and do listen to his Talk all the time. I need to learn so much as to how to apply myself to helping myself being medicated for the ADHD I have. Not to forget I am older now, 53!
@keilana6 Жыл бұрын
I'm 81 & hoping I can be treated before I die for my sake and my family.
@fayemclemore5042 жыл бұрын
Wow! He is spot on!
@sirengita35359 ай бұрын
My god the driving thing...i haven't driven in years and I'm so grateful i stood my ground on that!!
@richardmarshall1598 ай бұрын
He’s the man,l wish my parents and I knew this stuff sooner rather than later❤
@christophertorres1142 жыл бұрын
Dr Barkley: People with ADHD are more likely to have their licenses suspended or drive recklessly Me: hold on I'm a safe driver Dr Barkley: ...and more likely to have speeding tickets or be impatient looking for parking spots Me: ah, shoot
@cmauro79123 ай бұрын
Somebody get a hold of Dr Barclay and ask him and get him to test us on a manual vehicle. I believe that having a manual with extra kinetic responsibility actual improved our driving.
@neildrachlen91493 жыл бұрын
I hardly ever finish a video on utube. Except this
@BritneyNicoleandMyeloma5 жыл бұрын
I have to say I am guilty of just about everything while unmedicated (I was undiagnosed until I was 27).... Except I have never wrecked my car or got a ticket. However, part of that is due to anxiety (scared to death of other vehicles) and luck (open highway I tend to go 5-10 over). I also work best when stressed (hello dopamine!!) I always reactively avoided car accidents... No intention there, just responding to an emergency. I have made silly little mistakes in minor situations in my own driveway where I feel safe - I rolled into my husband's van because he doesn't usually park behind me. 🙈🙈 I look back every time now! 🤣 I pray stay this lucky. And I had no clue about nicotine! Wow! Explains why I loved it when I began at 17 and why it SUCKED quitting only a couple years later. It was horrible!
@narelle17553 жыл бұрын
I've been married 3 times (on third and final marriage now) first child at 18, second at 20. Divorced by 21. Married again at age 28, had 2 kids, divorced at the age of 32. Met my currsnt husband at age 33, he was 22. We got married 6 years after we got together, have been together all up 12 years and have 1 child together. He pays the bills because i will put them in a drawer or ignore emails. He is my rock. My best friend is 14 years younger. I think that we are younger in the brain. I definitely don't feel like a grown up
@stephenjemyers3 жыл бұрын
I once moved the bin under the letter box
@user-xz8lh8ch3y Жыл бұрын
That is, CLASSIC ADHD...
@niloo_atribecalledlove Жыл бұрын
Watching this on 1.25x speed is delightful! Yes identify with so much he’s saying! Wow! I absolutely LOVE the way he speaks so candidly and directly.
@chrispasson19409 ай бұрын
Yes I also love the candidness
@TheCrimsonIdol9873 ай бұрын
33, diagnosed ADHD Combined Type this year. My brother and this man are responsible for me learning about it and getting me to treat it. Well, there's also autism in there too, as my psychologist suspects it. But still!
@Sereno443 жыл бұрын
This is the story of my life except the tobacco... school, marriage, divorces, relationships, car accidents, alcohol and problems at work
@kawag63567 ай бұрын
Wow, I had my first baby at 16, this resonates with me a lot, I had all four by age 25
@PaulPiedrahita17 күн бұрын
He speaks and my adhd listens. 🔥🔥🔥
@fascistscansuckit Жыл бұрын
Such shame and helplessness at my emotional shitstorm while driving. I thought it was because of being in a terrible accident that was absolutely not my fault where I was injured. But in retrospect I think it was bc being a single parent and trying to keep it all together brought my overwhelm to new levels which surmounted my coping(masking) ability. Such screaming at other drivers, with my kids in the van. Being unable to predict when it would come over me, or to stop it. Then being aware of my behavior and how badly it was to show in front of my kids. The feeling of being shocked by it myself.
@100samanthamarie11 ай бұрын
I hate how while watching his videos, I keep having to go back 10, 20, 30, 40, or 60 seconds because I was thinking about the data and scientific conclusions he was providing slowly and deeply. I was comparing lives of people I know and my own life too with what he’s saying. Every time I go back and replay I criticize myself because it’s odd that I’m deeply interested in what he’s saying and yet I keep getting distracted by the smallest things. According to my personal psychologist and a school psychologist, I have one of the most severe adhd they’ve seen more than 10 years. 🤦🏽♀️
@darrenbishop43272 жыл бұрын
I’ve had a lot of tickets in the past and I’m just getting treatment within the last month or so.
@AdamSno5 ай бұрын
Holy sht, this Dr had me at like 95% exact match on everything
@kittyhunter35956 ай бұрын
Love the way he describes adhd coming from someone that has it
@kellyalsaleh3032 Жыл бұрын
It's so true for me about realisation at a later age (early 40s). It's a time where taking stock and realising where you are in life (versus where you ought to be) is unavoidable. Although I'd completed my art degree and had a relatively successful career as a graphic designer I had not been able to actually use my natural talents and progress to an Art Director role because I was also struggling with my symptoms (I had to scrape by, work through the night to meet deadlines, hide my messiness and lack of organisation, redo jobs because I didn't take in and retain all the info etc). Personal life was also a disaster: bad debts, terrible credit rating, impulsively moving home, no savings, broken relationships, an affair, an abusive relationship, abortions, drug abuse... just a great big mess. I nicknamed myself 'Calamitys Child' I wish I was diagnosed sooner
@tracyrodgers5179 Жыл бұрын
I so relate to your comment. I am a 51-year-old obstetrician gynecologist, who just got diagnosed. It is difficult to confront what untreated ADHD has cost me in my life. So it comes with a wave of fear and regret and what if…. that just crashes over you. Next comes a comforting wave of relief that you now understand. You have believed for so long that you were just broken and incapable. In this relief, you can confront those beliefs for the lies that they are, and learn to tell yourself a new story. Brace yourself, because next comes away with fear and anxiety about the future. Because now that you know, you need to do the work to learn how to live with it, so that you change the course of your life going forward, no matter what happened back there. It’s just the wake of the boat. Don’t get trapped into thinking that it drives the boat. Go take the wheel. It’s terrifying because when you do so, you’ll have to look at where your boat has travelled while you were lost in the wake and actually take some steps in the direction of taking your life where you actually want it to go. In this way, the diagnosis of ADHD is a gift, even if you had to traverse all those nasty rapids to find it. Much love.
@tracyrodgers5179 Жыл бұрын
Sorry. *next comes a wave of fear
@keilana64 ай бұрын
Pretty much me.
@Maryamrockify Жыл бұрын
1:03 this went viral AND broke my heart
@luthiervandros Жыл бұрын
He’s speaking to other mental hath providers, so that’s the tone. I have just been diagnosed and am getting over the shock and relief. Looking forward to help.
@CraigsOverijse8 ай бұрын
Just found this I have three sons on tje spetrum fascinating because he expresses it so clearly
@fearlesschanges_Marcie6 ай бұрын
My adhd husband got a perfect score on his driving test as a teen. He boasts about this but his driving is reckless. I think he likes the challenge to concentrate when driving fast. Also, he is competitive with driving. It's hard to ride with him. It doesn't matter how many times I voice my fear. The other thing that impacts our life greatly is he cannot manage, in any organized way, the things he owns. It is akin to hoarding and is chaos. I keep the house in order but the rest of where we live is chaos and has become disruptive to living the kind of life we had wanted.
@beabeliever92 жыл бұрын
My daughter and my mother always told me i was adhd and should medicate. Yet I am a great driver no accidents over decades no road rage 2 speeding tickets with extrodinary and exacrting reflexes, i dont have these kinds of impulse control issues unless i drink. Thos is exactly why i dont care for such a diagnosis because according to your research and as soon as the industry takes advantage of what you are saying my insurance would go up despite that i dont display those particular symptoms.
@Idahomie3 жыл бұрын
A good/ related book is Rosenberg's: Non Violent Communication. the doctor says very little about ADDHD personS self-talk a subject so critical to this issue.