Adopting a Friend's Baby

The plaintiff used to be friends with the defendant. When the defendant became pregnant, the plaintiff intended to adopt the child. However, the defendant backed out of the agreement after the plaintiff had already hired an attorney, so she's suing. The defendant admits she agreed to the adoption, but the father didn't.
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[@CeCeMe1]

Girl, you really dodged a bullet. Imagine having the baby and still dealing with the birth parents and their bullshit.

[@tabmajor27]

Yes, because how was that going to work as best friends. Once the child gets old enough he's going to be so confused and will eventually become rebellious.

[@highlander666]

Nightmare scenario

[@princenejohnson7164]

Jb​@@highlander666

[@buttalove5437]

Wow… then calling the plaintiff unstable?? Weren’t you just about to give your child AWAY, ma’am. The damn AUDACITY of folks

[@misterbee66]

Seriously.

[@Eltown33]

Willing to give a child away u might not be able to care for other then having the child grow up poor is called Responsible.

[@Shellygrrl2573]

​@@Eltown33 Correct. And these people are so ignorant that they don't know the law. The father has rights and if he says no, even with adoption agencies, the child can NOT be adopted out. These people act like the plaintiff was at the shelter adopting a puppy 🙄

[@Eltown33]

@@Shellygrrl2573 facts

[@buttalove5437]

@@Eltown33 Responsible is using BIRTH CONTROL. Duh Stop celebrating mediocrity

[@misterbee66]

I do not agree with Judge Mathis on this one at all.

[@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz]

Why?

[@misterbee66]

@@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz I do not because I believe that there should be some consequence for the defendant.

[@albertaowusu3536]

How about the lawyer refunding her money for doing nothing.

[@Shellygrrl2573]

Exactly! Even with adoption agencies if both parents don't sign away their rights the child cannot be adopted out. And the lawyer told her that and she still gave him money so that is on the plaintiff. All these ignorant people in the comments act like they were adopting a puppy. There's different LAWS involved when it comes to children.

[@misterbee66]

@@Shellygrrl2573 None of us are ignorant, we are entitled to our opinions. Are you ignorant because you do not agree with us?

[@naenae5279]

That’s what I’m saying!!!

[@alyssaanastasia9571]

Playing with a babies life like that is SAD!

[@christiandilday7543]

Ì wonder if the father is taking care of his child 😢

[@marieprince3994]

Right say that shit!!

[@jamescatalao2607]

It seems these days lots of humans are playing with babies.

[@christiandilday7543]

It should be illegal to play with these babies

[@JaNaeSmith-vk7uk]

Friendship would be done. The defendant is gross and so is the father of the child. Not signing your rights over because you dont like her current boyfriend, TF!

[@Mooe-cb6bv]

How do you know that's the real reason, she could've just had second thoughts and so could the father. That doesn't make her or her wrong. She did nothing wrong, if she had went to an agency to get a baby than she would've had to pay the hospital bills, plus give the mother some money too, so the plaintiff did absolutely nothing

[@misterbee66]

Seriously. I agree.

[@sjohnsonsj536]

Y’all must be smoking crack! They had no legal papers written up or signed whatsoever! How do u just want a parent to sign their rights over just like that?????

[@piinkam0r]

??? You don’t know how adoption works until the papers are signed you have no say until the final say is done

[@javonjohnson4723]

you cant get mad at her, if the father didnt want to sign his rights then thats his rights. she didnt do anything wrong

[@misterbee66]

If the defendant initially agreed then she should be held partially liable.

[@piinkam0r]

You can’t do That sadly if so everyone could get sued who backed out of adoptions. There’s some people who pay so much for the adoptee parent while pregnant even buying them /renting home food etc even paying all their bills and then they change their mjnd at the end and it’s nothing that can be done because you can change your mind anytime even after adoption has taken place for each state

[@misterbee66]

@@piinkam0r How unfortunate.

[@misterbee66]

The plaintiff should not have to give her something in return.

[@user-hs1zr6mc5d]

Exactly. That made no sense.

[@spaceystaci1]

The promise of taking care of that child for life. Sorry, the broken promise.... heartbreaking

[@misterbee66]

@@user-hs1zr6mc5d That's right.

[@marc6471o]

Right… The defendant is a terrible friend.

[@djbutters2034]

Right, ruling made no sense, shoulda made sure both parents was on bored before paying that lawyer tho

[@danielle5391]

It's the principal man. The defendant could've had a little compassion and gave her "best friend" something. Now she wants to talk about how "unstable" the plaintiff was when she was willing to give her baby away to "instability."

[@Mooe-cb6bv]

Didn't the plaintiff say that first about her, c'mon. She sitting trying to say all she done for her in her face, that's not a best friend.

[@misterbee66]

Seriously.

[@piinkam0r]

As much as it sucks it hurts until the final papers are done the mother can change her mind anytime for adoption

[@user-zq6fl5kd3h]

@@Mooe-cb6bvyou’re absolutely correct. The plaintiff said this first, and the defendant stated numerous of times she helped her ; however I’m not sure how the defendant should owe her anything when she played her part and role. She signed her rights ; the father did not. There is nothing she did wrong just as judge Mathis said ; to even assume she should have to come out of pocket and refund her friend back. Also ; with a friend like this who needs enemies. Typically your friend should want to be there for you anyway…. These ppl are not listening closely enough. The plaintiff deliberately started the insults the moment the case was ruled in the defendants favor. The plaintiff should’ve been more educated with the law. I wouldn’t have paid anyway without the father signing the rights at all…. He should’ve signed the right before an attorney was even thought about. This was negligence on her own behalf and furthermore her fault

[@deloresboudreaux2755]

The father of the child should have signed before paying a lawyer !

[@javonjohnson4723]

yup that part

[@anndeecosita3586]

I would have spoken directly to the father before hiring an attorney.

[@rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324]

Wow she should have been reimbursed for her expenses....smdh neither parent wanted the baby....and they didn't want her to have the baby....it is ludicrous to think you could adopt a friend's baby and remain friends....there is a reason adoptions are private and sealed.

[@susanrodriquez1024]

Not all adoptions are sealed and private, very common.

[@PaulaMBrown]

None of my money would’ve gotten involved until both parents signed over their rights. And she can’t be too unstable if you were about to give her your child.

[@theoracle2760]

The defendant is clearly not someone who makes sound judgements. Just because she was about to give her the child doesn't mean she was stable. One major clue is she was already talking about relying on her mother, who is clearly already up in age, for help. It sounds like it was the father who started talking some sense and made the mother realize her friend was probably just not the best candidate and probably not much more stable than she was. Adoption is a rigorous process. The plaintiff probably would've never been approved by a real agency.

[@adrianknight1406]

This is why you can't do anything for anyone anymore these days. People are ungrateful no matter the case and cause of what you do for them. It's best to avoid all the confusion afterwards by not doing anything for anyone in the beginning

[@CEOgpoole87]

The main thing is judge a person character. If they giving up their children, how you expect them to have loyalty to you. This explains why you a lonely individual 😢😢

[@gametimemiah6135]

The defendant is straight green asfffff this is Whyyyy u don’t over play ur part as a friend the defendant doesn’t even care that the lady was feeding her and caring for her while she was pregnant this is exactly why I never over play my part as a friend,lover etc people are very nasty and ungrateful nowadays ‼️‼️‼️

[@marieprince3994]

Right

[@buttalove5437]

Yep! Gotta be very careful

[@gametimemiah6135]

@@buttalove5437 yeah ppl don’t really care about what u do for them Fr …it’s only for in that moment after that they act like it’s nothing to them this is why if I help someone I do what I can & never do to to much cause u will have ur heart broken @ the end sad to say.

[@minae9935]

None of them have any business having a baby

[@kimf442]

SMH 🤦‍♀️

[@jamescatalao2607]

They were just impulsive when they had children.

[@chuck9380]

You wrong the plaintiff would’ve mad a good mother

[@indiamotse2687]

I thought I was the only one thinking this . If they’ve only been out of high school for two years why are you even considering adopting/ trying to have a kid , smh

[@silethaking279]

EXACTLY!!💯

[@user-hs1zr6mc5d]

Seems like neither was mature enough to be planning anything to do with a child. One of my coworkers who had 3 kids became pregnant from a drunken one night stand. She asked me if I would adopt her child because she couldn't afford the child and she didn't believe in abortion. She was a very nice person and a good mom to her other kids she just was going through some things. I knew she wouldn't be okay with that mentally. I told her if she wanted to keep her I would be the god mother and help her anytime she needed it. She lost the baby but we're still friends eventhough we no longer work together or live in the same town.

[@GoodENTentionZTV]

Sis is going to be a great mother. I pray God blesses her with her desire. I know that was painful for them both

[@MM-kt5bv]

If my math is right, a non-married 20-21 year old wanted to adopt?

[@latishadavis6985]

Right! But hey 🙆‍♀

[@dawniipoo322]

So what

[@quietking24]

I don't like when parents who give up their children, still come in and out of their life, inconsistently. I feel like if you are going to give up your child, do it and stay away unless the child asks to see you. Or you might as well keep the child, if you are still going to be coming around 24/7.

[@kd5737]

They want bragging rights to arrogantly say, “I did what I had to do for my child, however not the responsibility, smh

[@33Tiffny]

What was he talking about “in exchange”? She did NOTHING to her ??? Smh definitely would never speak to her again .

[@dr.dawnew]

I think the friend wanted a baby really badly and became attached since she hasn’t been able to conceive. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Sharon174]

But ofc. If not she won’t be so invested

[@lavidaloca2344]

OR SHE WAS JUST A GOOD AZZ FRIEND 🤔

[@rob14roc]

This is some kind of ultimate betrayal, best friend was NOT!!! a true friend would reimburse some monies... SMH 🤦🏽🤦🏽

[@christiandilday7543]

I wonder if the father is taking care of the child

[@kd5737]

I was thinking the same thing, I wish they could do an update on some of these cases.

[@josephbrickson5952]

Noooo she's just hurt that she had her heart set on the baby & that lady backed out

[@kimcampbell963]

I would NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN. She’s heartless

[@boardupmike6365]

No good deed goes unpunished

[@gog4life10]

The mom should’ve had a conversation prior to allowing her friend hire a lawyer and move forward without talking to the father first. If she would have done that first they wouldn’t have even gotten to this point

[@lavidaloca2344]

They did. She lied and told the attorney the father had signed away his rights. It wasn't until the father found out who the boyfriend was, did he then change his mind

[@mashondaknight9132]

Judge Mathias is wrong the defendant is disgusting and ungrateful and defendant was never a friend and was a user.

[@madmaxofspokane1691]

I agree. The biological mom wanted all of the advantages of being a mom, and none of the responsibilities.😤😤

[@mashondaknight9132]

@@madmaxofspokane1691 exactly 💯

[@bethanyyates1138]

I agree with you

[@Mooe-cb6bv]

​@@madmaxofspokane1691really, so she can't be scared at first, then have second thoughts about it, c'mon that sounds crazy.

[@Jjohnson746]

He didn't write the law. He was correct on his ruling. Get out your feelings

[@NKAB4]

With every “hmm hmm”…I just knew JM was going to read the defendant…

[@sheilataylor7497]

So did I.

[@NKAB4]

@@sheilataylor7497 I was disappointed…

[@sithabiledlamini6125]

Why would you want to adopt a baby whose parents are going to be around coz the child is going to end up wanting their birth parents.

[@jamiacouture5007]

That’s not true, I’m adopted and I don’t want my birth parents. They didn’t raise me, provide for me.. my adopted parents did.

[@sithabiledlamini6125]

@@jamiacouture5007 good. I mean when they are close by & known to the child & community, like it would have been in this case. People will be whispering in the child's ears & the parents may want the child when they grown & showing potential.

[@jamiacouture5007]

@@sithabiledlamini6125 I know exactly what you mean & 9/10 it’s not like that. As long as the adopted parents set those boundaries, you wouldn’t have those problems. I most def would encourage open adoption more than closed, you still have the opportunity to ask those questions and learn about who you REALLY are. It’s not so black and white.

[@justsobrandi1142]

Becoming a mother was the Exchange WTH. I think they owed her the money back.

[@lavidaloca2344]

They definitely did. That was so lowdown.

[@BREEZYM6015]

We adopted our son as a newborn in 2004. There are lots of children that need a forever home.

[@madmaxofspokane1691]

A contract is a contract and the Plaintiff had no contract. Just a gift that was reneged on. Don't hire lawyers if you can't afford to take the risk. Looks like this friendship just went down the toilet. 🚽

[@HellokittyLuv03]

If it was your self you wouldn’t be saying that bull crap the friend was wrong PERIOD

[@tiendaphillips8738]

Someone i know did this to a lady. She told the lady she coulr adopt the baby she was pregnant with and the lady literally built the baby a nursery onto her house, bought everything the baby would need and got a lawyer. My friend was never really going to let her have the baby she just told her that because the lady was doing so much for her while she was pregnant. She used the lady the whole time and she never did get the baby.

[@RyuWMFist]

🎵Now your a single mom🎶 😅

[@user-hs1zr6mc5d]

Judge so stupid comparing their situation to taking back a glass of cognac. He always talking about detrimental reliance and this case is around just that. She deserved her money back.

[@jasonr.9863]

I was about to mention that. Also, there’s a clause in the law called Unjust Enrichment. JM was very unfair in this ruling

[@user-hs1zr6mc5d]

@@jasonr.9863 just learned something new. Unjust enrichment. I googled it 😊. It fits.

[@lavidaloca2344]

Agreed, plus the defendant assumed since the father had already signed away his rights for the 1st potential adopter, that he would for the 2nd. How is that the Plaintiffs consequence? JM is so bipolar 🙄

[@halosane4170]

If the defendant KNEW the father didn't sign away his rights and never planned to, she was evil in still accepting the plantiffs money knowing damn well she wasn't getting the baby. That is so foul

[@L.O.R.DRecords]

They too young For all This 🤦🏽

[@KeyisGodsdaughter]

Daaang! That’s wild! I don’t care what anyone says. For a friend to step up and make sure your child has someone that loves them, provides for them and she has no prior history of raising children is very honorable. She treats the friend like how the father should while she is pregnant and then the friend has the nerve to come at her like that at the end. Nope! She needs to be held accountable and I believe she was going to be jealous of her friend raising her child and decided not to go through with it. The baby daddy excuse was a cope out. Know who your real friends are. Smh!

[@melnicole7902]

Next time, make the person sign an agreement, that if for whatever reason the adoption is not completed, they will reimburse lawyer fees. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@alexandriahorton1173]

I feel bad for the plaintiff, she was quick to pay the attorney cause she wanted a baby 😢

[@Keira_Kay]

Girl you paid a lawyer to draft some papers that he didn’t even have to draft yet. Get your money back from him. No adoption agency will give a child to a 21 year old unwed woman.

[@anndeecosita3586]

I think this was going to be a private adoption. My cousin adopted her niece because she wasn’t in a good environment, and my cousin is divorced. She had to hire an attorney to draw up the papers.

[@misskb2363]

I can understand why people may feel the the plaintiff may have reimbursed the defendant. But she did not break her end of the promise. The farther has rights to change their mind just like a mother has the right to change their mind and not give up the child from birth. If all paper works are done through the government it cost them they can’t sue the parent. And if the law says BOTH a parents must agree but one doesn’t that’s just how it goes.

[@Kitani86]

If the father didn't want to sign over his rights, why didn't he just take full custody?

[@inukoko2012]

The plaintiff should’ve gotten a contract w/ the defendant. The defendants are disgusting and horrible. Smh I feel bad for her.

[@elizabetho6506]

Hey guys I have not read the comments yet but I will. The plaintiff is way too young to try to be a mom. Give it some time make some money get a husband, etc..

[@twill1007]

I believe the Plaintiff did everything she said she did and the Defendant wouldn’t have that baby if dad signed his rights away. If she was a real friend she would have given her money back

[@christopherdjebah7057]

JM erred in law. There was a contract. The contract is I will pay for an attorney to adopt your child. When the deal breaks, she agreed to refund the money.

[@BestLifeBagLady]

The plaintiff seemed to be emotionally attached to the baby being with her in the future but the defendant was using the adop… as manipulation to get help and sympathy

[@theoracle2760]

Crazy that most of the comments are talking about the friend was wrong, but hardly no one finds it alarming that the plaintiff is TRYING to conceive and now adopt only 2 years removed from high school? And she's basically trying her hardest to become a single mom with no husband/father in the picture at around 20-21 years of age. And her mother cosigning this is insane! The dismissiveness of how important a father is in this culture is astounding. Ironically, I think that's also what ultimately lost her this case. She didn't think she had to consider what the father of the child had to say about the matter and it cost her.

[@mostwett]

Sometimes these post interviews tell me everything I need to know

[@exotickiya2401]

That’s messed up the judge should’ve gave her the money bc the defendant went along with it until the bd

[@dedra744]

She’ll be pregnant again by that same man and no one will be helping. Arguing about stability when she couldn’t afford a child but still laying on her back

[@thacollinssquad1103]

I was gonna give my last baby up but then changed my mind at the last minute, sooooo glad I did!! my friend was disappointed but she understood 🤷🏽‍♀️ we agreed to make her the godmother 😊

[@bellagreen6084]

Unfortunately, adoptions fall through all the time. It sucks but I don't think the defendant should be held liable for any fees. It's sad that a friendship was ruined over this.

[@Sharon174]

Them asking her where do you work. Whole time she was dependable while pregnant, that even her own mom couldn’t sustain. Such ungrateful humans.

[@MrsB320]

Lord help.

[@anndeecosita3586]

The plaintiff should have spoken to the father before seeking an attorney. I guess she assumed since he’d signed away his rights to the family member that he would do it again. I have some family members who adopted other relatives’ children for one reason or another. The children still know and spend time together with their birth parents. It can work out if people are mature.

[@urluvizmyluv1999]

She had no legal obligation to repay the plaintiff, although morally, she should have repaid her.

[@lavidaloca2344]

I could understand if the Plaintiff was looking to adopt initially BUT she felt compelled to help her friend and this the thanks she gets 🙄🙄🙄

[@a.d.morton4624]

Her friend was being a friend BUT the Father of the child said no, so don't be mad at her. It just is what it is. It would've been right for The Defendent to re-pay her any monies she might of paid towards the baby because they did agree she was to adopt her son. Thats the sole reason sge was shelling out the funds. The Defendent did kind of spit in her friends face. Took the her friends monies paid towards the adoption, made her do that work for not and The Plantiff ended up empty handed. The Defendent admitted that. Thats messed up. The Judge could've atleast refunded her her attorneys fees. But The Defendent is laying in the bed she made, so they Judge just considered it a wash.

[@wilmanchrty3406]

Add some cackling moms and you the rest of the drama 😂

[@mljh3734]

The plaintiff is WEIRD you are not ENTITLED TO HER BABY

[@Fleefromsin]

The offended life is a bitter one. The offended life is a lonely one. The offended life is a cynical one. As much as lies within you this year, do not cave into bitterness. 💙Fight it with every ounce of strength within you. Choose faith. Choose hope. Choose love. Choose Jesus.✨

[@bribrimimosas250]

If she couldn’t figure out how to take care of her 2nd child, how in the world did you think you’d get 2k from her? 🤔

[@shaneldaharris94]

Dang i get what the judge says i would get some back from the lawyer

[@DNDmode.]

The law is the law. Putting the horse before the court. That’s like losing a custody battle and trying to sue the other parent for fees.

[@nicharr7796]

Mathis got this one wrong.

[@sybilwhite1259]

Wow that was the first time I truly didn't agree with the Judge I was very disappointed with the decision 😔

[@traceyleeann7582]

Jm is so backwards with his analogy....what he's saying he should be saying to the defendantsl😮 😮😢

[@sharminjoseph2046]

At the end… now the plaintiff is unstable. Smfh yall was trying scam that girl from the jump.

[@SxCense]

The audacity of the plaintiff and the mother to say the defendant is unstable when her daughter is the definition of unstable and irresponsible birth control.

[@Nealml_]

The plaintiff is tripping! I would go after the lawyer then anybody? Like… why continue to take money from her if you knew you couldn’t get in contact with the missing party? I’m reading these comments are I must of missed something 😂 everyone of mad at the defendant

[@piinkam0r]

Legally you have the right to change your mind anytime tho for adoption. It sucks but it happens all the time and the adoptee parent can’t really sue it happens

[@bernadettebeatty3899]

Wrong judge he don’t comprehend

[@Reigntaylor333]

She does not owe you any explanation other than she changed her mind. That’s her damn child!

[@misterbee66]

It does not matter, once moneys are involved then she does owe her.

[@Reigntaylor333]

@@misterbee66 I said she owes her no EXPLANATION, I said nothing about money and obviously she doesn’t owe her that either 🙄

[@misterbee66]

@@Reigntaylor333 And I said that once moneys are exchanged she does owe her something, something meaning an explanation. We can agree to disagree.

[@Reigntaylor333]

@@misterbee66 agreeing to disagree should’ve been where you started sir, you knew you didn’t agree when you started typing. How lovely it is to have the scrolling by capability in 2024 🙌🏽😂

[@misterbee66]

​@Reigntaylor333 I am entitled to start anywhere. Why should that matter?

[@shayjonas1]

With every adoption there is a risk the birth parent has the right at any time to withdrawal for whatever reason i believe until 14 days after birth. She should of known

[@TaxProGirl]

The plaintiff is the type of friend that will go above & beyond to help her friend. The defendant will need her again & if the plaintiff is smart she'll cut all ties. The defendant's Mom is too ignorant to know she should be quiet. Your daughter was about to give away her baby that she was having with a man that was willing to give his baby up for adoption to your family member.....who by the way......BACKED OUT Plaintiff please get as far away from these people as possible.

[@patrickg6764]

Skyler moved to fast, she should have waited till both parents agreed, knowing her boyfriend dont get alone with the father. I wonder why she wanted that baby so badly. she still young, still have time to have her own baby

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

I disagree … the plaintiff lost money because the defendant didn’t follow through. She should’ve gotten something 😢

[@karendorsey4780]

The lawyer should refund the money! There was no adoption.

[@GreatestArYkaEver]

So sad the plaintiff behaves as if she was purchasing a puppy....

[@moniqueturner7628]

True colors came out on the defendant side along with her mom

[@phoenixjnyc]

The defendant is so ungrateful and disgusting

[@burgerbish]

I agree with Judge. Are you her friend or not. She dont listen. They're is nothing tht could be done what is she not understanding. No u can't have that money back

[@lalaev2077]

Said she wasn't fit so needed someone to adopt but at the end was calling her ex friend names. She could afford an attorney. She wanted the baby back cause she thought would give her the relationship with dude they didn't have before

[@lavidaloca2344]

Earlier in the case the defendant said she told the attorney the father had signed away his rights 🤔

[@Annalala1314]

Not her being shady and couldn’t even take care of her own baby 😮

[@chinnupllc709]

Wait wait wait did I hear that right 18 high school had trouble conceiving???

[@tabmajor27]

Didn't the defendent say after not hearing from him for a while she contacted him about about signing. How does he not want the child but can say who the child stays with.

[@christiandilday7543]

Mathis gang roll call 🤙

[@chuck9380]

The defendant and her mom are the unstable ones. I would never put a child up for adoption or even entertain the thought

[@johnwinkelman1764]

This subject has the potential to be a Huge Scam. Some people are willing to pay big money, Buy houses and everything else during pregnancy and there’s Nothing that can be done when the other party pulls out

[@Kee191]

The defendant is very irresponsible. Why you sleeping with a man so unstable and you’re unstable. making babies on purpose and ready to give up the baby you and the father. Judge Mathis could have handled this better.

[@Kee191]

And not one baby but two with that pos. What’s wrong with people

[@zeeprince9879]

Raw doggie benefits 🤢

[@bing7play]

She still don't get that it was a promise of a gift 🤷🏿 cant sue for that Judge said it she just won't get it

[@Sharon174]

The judge had me really pissed. Thank God in the end God is the ultimate judge. Don’t worry sweetheart. It’d be better to adopt from an agency than a friend or relative. You don’t want to deal with this for the rest of your live.

[@temarsquacathey2885]

No good deed go unpunished

[@dspenderella9671]

No good deed goes unpunished... Next time she gets pregnant by a dude who doesn't want her then just let her struggle🤷🏾‍♀️... Then the baby daddy has all this say so about not wanting the baby with a single mom while he's out here creating single moms and not taking care of his responsibilities... The law needs to change, b/c it makes no sense and is in favor of dead beats. She should've sent the child to live with him asa single father then since he sabotaged the adoption.

[@karensmith6815]

Wow they all crazy