Advice : First time.

[@Dzheep]

Not very many people are aware of this, but even if you have sex for the 1st time with someone you really wanted to do it with, the experience can be ruined by a thing that the French call, "La Petit Morte" (the little death). After orgasm, you may suddenly feel a sense of emptiness into which pours all your feelings of guilt or remorse, and you think, "Oh, God, why did I do this?" But this is an actual physiological response of your brain to the sudden cutoff of the intense stimulation it was getting from sex. The brain is saying, "Agh! What happened? Why has it stopped?" It had become used to this nuclear bomb of stimulation but now it's suddenly stopped. It experiences this sudden stoppage as "emptiness." But if you understand this, you can trust that if you just hold the person and wait a minute or 2, your brain will reachieve balance, and you will feel better.

[@Antastesia]

Oh yes I should have talked about it, it's very interesting and very true! It's a shame no one talks about it most of the time, because I'm sure it would be of great help!

[@NoName-gc8fy]

Is there any place i can read up on this?

[@myerwerl]

Dzheep oui. Je suis d'accord

[@PrettyVixie]

You're such a nice person! You really have a comfortable way of speaking it's like listening to a best friend or older sister :) xo

[@Antastesia]

Aw thanks!! that means a lot to me!! That's exactly the feelings I want to convey :)

[@kelscramb1944]

I love your accent and you speak English so well! I hope one day I can speak French fluently!

[@calvinlwz231294]

Don't ever change the way you say 'important' :)

[@sweetloveelmo]

cal horns her "important" should become manditory all over the world.

[@calvinlwz231294]

sweetloveelmo :)

[@siddhantbhartee123]

Sometimes , and am saying this jokingly, but it sounds like 'Impotent' ( avec a French accent)

[@zoemartinez2340]

Thanks for not saying what everyone else is saying in this kind of videos. You have helped me, thank you so much. You really do bring peace, even through a computer screen. PS: Antastesia, you are insanely gorgeous.

[@vikilau8416]

'impoooooootant 'hahahah its so funny. well it's cool to finally see a french girl who can actually speak really good english!

[@Revolver1981]

Her English is much better now. If you watch her more recent videos you can tell.

[@MoonlightPassions]

Really glad that you've made this video, I think it is so important to talk about this and get the message across to those who haven't had sex yet. I wish that I had watched this video before I had my first time, as I probably would have waited until I was really ready and with a person I truly wanted to do it with. Thanks for making this :)

[@Antastesia]

:) I completely agree with you .

[@CormacNeville]

Great advice. Trust and talking about things so important.

[@Antastesia]

Talking about things is always important indeed!

[@TheBatgirl25]

I agree that 14 and 15 is too young I saw a lot of girls having sex get screwed up at that age b/c the relationships would so depleted from the relationships not working out or if the guy never calls again the trauma to live with that.

[@Antastesia]

Yes definitely. At 14 or 15 there are tons of things you can't deal with, and sex, in my opinion, is one of them.

[@Revolver1981]

@@Antastesia 15 is the age of consent in your country France. It's 16 here in the UK. And 18 I believe in the US.

[@elienio12]

"Important", "Important", "Important". How sweet, I really like and interested in your accent.

[@KavehDianati]

Im"pour"tant

[@mildredcervera1009]

I like the way you say important :)

[@iahmedini]

you noticed!! :D

[@jackndbox8326]

Impotent

[@Hippiaszful]

0:28

[@enriquesinghjr]

The first time is usually a mess... but (lots of) practice makes you much better!

[@coreyshaw18]

Yeah for guys it's often seen as strange if you'd rather have sex with girls you care about. I say girls because i dont think openly gay men experience the same pressures that straight men do. Im 21and ive been pressuring myself to lose my virginity. Ive come close often but never done it. Ive always felt ashamed of being a virgin with friends younger than me doing it regularly. And i know they're only joking but it does make me feel ashamed. Guys, if you're still a virgin, its whatever. Its not a race and you will lose it. Also, anything sexual is 10x better if you actually like the person.

[@ng.drillerx6409]

I've asked a few friends and collectively concluded that.... "before sex 0_0 ohhhhhh,.................after sex -_- oh" sex in an early age is very pushy, the peer pressure really gets you. BOYS/MEN before sex: - doesn't have much to lose - mostly thinks only about himself (about his happy time) - mostly thinks about how he is going to enjoy himself - mostly selfish after sex: - wondering when will be the next - wondering if he could do more - thinking of how he became so happy that time - mostly thinking selfishly ((unlike girls, that thinks if what she did is right, whether it makes her a better person or not,... thinks of how she would become, wondering how other people might think of her if they knew,..))

[@XxshotgunbabyxX]

Big generalisation buddy

[@hannahphillips1389]

Thank you so much for this video, it's so helpful to me as it addresses a decision I'm having to make at the moment. Thank you for helping me make the right choices :))

[@thanhychoux]

Expatrié de Marseille, ta vidéo m'a réchauffé le coeur... Elle m'a replongé dans les calanques qui me manquent profondément. Ta vidéo à été prise à la limite du Var ? :)

[@danielgally6389]

did you learn english from an australian?

[@siddhantbhartee123]

Ze bindi looks tres belle. Love from India

[@andheartts]

Why are you wearing a bindi?

[@cristianquecan3552]

Amazing video, but i had to see it like three years ago. LOL, You know you look like the supermodel Doutzen Kroes. Thanks for the video

Your videos are great ;) You express and talk very well. I wonder what you do in life? Like for a job :O

[@mellykayy]

Great video!!! Lovely advice!!! Love you!

[@Antastesia]

Thank you :))

[@mellykayy]

omg you replied!!!! hehe have a great weekend xoxo

[@TheBatgirl25]

you make like author Luanne rice she writes about artists a lot secret of paris, the deep blue sea for beginners (takes place in capri) and safe harbor another book about artists. did you read time travelers wife or see the movie?

[@MattUSMC1000]

Great advice

[@sisimithi]

Great video! i really liked it. But I would really enjoy if you could make a video speaking german. That would be amazing.

[@Antastesia]

Oh my german is so bad, I could do a video in german but there would be mistakes everywhere! :(

[@sisimithi]

I dont think anybody would care

[@garrett4585]

look at how cute she is :D

[@Nehaiojvgj]

My first kinda sucked and not in a good way. I was all enthusiastic and then it was like..."That's it"?!! But it got better later though

[@andreabnst6931]

J'adore ton accent anglais ainsi que ta crinière rose qui te sied si bien.

[@howto2713]

What's That On Your Forhead ???

[@Dzheep]

Oh what the hell, Google/KZbin!? I posted a message, then a message above mine said, "Most recent KZbin message, and when I clicked it, MY message disappeared. !!!

[@Dzheep]

OK. I clicked the refresh button and now my comment is back. Still, too much weirdness since Google changed everything. :-(

[@Antastesia]

***** I agree, it's weird! But I saw your comment don't worry :))

[@rachelsong6188]

COMMENT AS TU FAIT POUR APPRENDRE LES LANGUES? (anglais, japonais?) STP!!!

[@rostomaru]

Maybe by going there ??

[@soldiergirlcl]

elle a étudié ?

[@DiamanteDea]

Love this.

[@maddy7646]

Franchement au top cette vidéo !

[@teresaperezderojas5686]

didn't you say that that you didn't like physical contact? i've seen other videos that you've post and it doesn't make sense

[@internetjunky4327]

Hey, I was looking at old videos and it seems your eye color changed? Do you wear colored contact lenses?

[@dreamkayzer]

Perfect, and beautiful :)

[@Arrrturro1]

Great video!!

[@Antastesia]

Thank you :)

[@nathanielloyd7646]

Your really cute...i watched one of your "How To " videos on french :-) u look like an artist are you not???

[@yunjinam731]

Ur english is just as cute as ur japanese!!lol great video tho ;)

[@bayanMNS]

I feel that the whole asexuality story you have is due to something happened with you when you was a kid ! I'm not sure , but i think that deeply in your heart you want to be normal ... but that thing is preventing you from as you have previous bad memories regarding sex

[@aujaisterling6075]

It isn't okay to assume things like that to define someones sexual orientation or okay to tell someone the reason why they think their that way is because of something that happened to them as a child since their are a lot of asexual's who have been sexually abused,( even tough that still doesn't invaded that person's sexuality since you can get therapy for rape or sexual abuse but you can't for a sexual orientation). Also being asexual doesn't mean your not normal just like being gay or bisexual doesn't mean your not normal.

[@kylercampos4235]

This comment just is not okay. It isn't okay to assume that someone's sexuality is the result of some childhood trauma because that isn't always the case, and if it was, it is still inappropriate for a stranger to give their opinion on the matter. Basically, it's not your business why a person is the way they are. Also, "normal" - what is that, and what makes you think that anyone wants to change to be like that? "Normal" is not synonymous for "correct" or "right." And it is just ignorant to think that it is.

[@bayanMNS]

i'm not saying that i want her to be "normal " , but in the same time i'm pretty sure that when she decided to share this on public and on you-tube, then she already agreed to share this personal things with strangers like me , and as a result she will see comments like mine , and like yours (wanna-be-a-lawyer comments )

[@aujaisterling6075]

bayan mohammad That still doesn't make what you wrote less offensive, not only to her but others as well. It is not okay to assume that someone's sexual orientation is the cause of sexual abuse. It wouldn't be okay to assume a person is gay because of rape, or a lesbian, so of course it isn't okay to assume that for an asexual and anyone for that matter. Some minority of asexual-identifying people have been abused, sexually or otherwise. This doesn't discount their asexuality. The effects of sexual assault tend to be scarring, but it is only on very rare occasions that a person who's experienced this is rendered unable to experience sexual attraction from then on. Nearly all rape and sexual assault victims remain interested in sex, though trauma does take some time to get past and work through. Sadly, some people who already know they are asexual get assaulted because of it, due to someone deciding that they just need to be shown a good time.Being told repeatedly that your only asexual because that happened to you is very upsetting and just flat out rude. In any case all experiences, including traumatic ones, can contribute to who we are and what we find interesting, but do not ever tell someone who's been abused that this is "the reason" for that person's asexuality.And if you honestly think it's a real possibility that they were. How could you ever think this is an appropriate thing to say to someone whose past you do not know?

[@bayanMNS]

Really ! the truth must hurt ... you can't judge me either ! And i don't have to explain my attitudes to you !

[@TheBatgirl25]

the problem with having sex young at like 19 your both not mature enough to appreciate each other or that sex can be painful.

[@JasmineSweeting]

Um, I'm 18 and and I know my maturity level. I have always been told by family, friends, and strangers that I am very mature for my age. To me a persons maturity level depends on how they grow. When I was younger my auntie and other family members always gave me and my cousins life lessons and talked to us about real life. We were not sheltered like a lot of children are today.if I wanted something I was told you have to work for it, because nothing in life is completely free. I am a very private person, I keep majority of things to myself. I only share things with people, if I really feel a need to ans if i could trust that person or not. I'm not saying I know everything, because honestly, I do not. But I have been in a rough situation the past 3 to 4 years, instead of enjoying my high school years I had to worry what else would go wrong, but you know what I learned and I grew through out those tribulations that faced me. It's just not 18 or 19 years olds that don't know how to appreciate one another, it's people in their 20's, 30's, 40,s and so on who still don't know how to appreciate others or be mature for that matter. I have aunties who live at home with their Dad, who is my grandfather, who still don't know how to drive have not done anything with their lives, let people talk them into things. One of my aunties is in an abundance of debt and still spending and she's about to be 30 this year. I promised myself that I would never be that irresponsible. Maturity does not simply have an age, just because you are an adult does not mean you are mature enough for sex. I have decided that I would wait until marriage to have sex or if I didn't wait it would be with someone who really cared for me and a guy that I trusted. But, I'm Sorry my sentences are a bit choppy wrote this in a hurry. P.S. I grew up in a Christian family, but my mom had me out of wedlock (hey! we all make mistakes, but I am glad she kept me!) and I know she wants me to do better, but she knows whats out there and the world and would not criticize me for making a mistake. We all at the end of the day.

[@TheBatgirl25]

your better off wait, I agree its not always age but from my experience being around guys pasts their 20's were more mature and respectful but I have seen men older still acting like a child, it depend who it is just its annoying in work sitautions or in a store b/c you can't reasons with someone who is throwing a temper tantrum and freaking out just b/c you talk to them for two minutes.

[@soldiergirlcl]

at 19 you should know yourself ...

[@thecarpentershow8507]

Was it super super important or not so important for you?

[@iahmedini]

loved the way speak :))

[@igiroilimoto]

First time its terrible and Its not important to me, and research also say because it's true.

[@iahmedini]

she looks like Ellie Goulding !!

[@HARUKOKATO]

woow you're so beautiful, I really like the way you speak, I like your videos. it seems you are a very interesting girl (:

[@analifepro8500]

sh is hindi.

[@ng.drillerx6409]

"just my idea... first time sex is not fair"

[@kimiakhoshroo7737]

U have a bit of an australian accent :)

[@Philippe1613]

You seem sincere but what is your authority for what you say? No rules...?

[@soldiergirlcl]

her life personal experiences?

[@proto-j2887]

😇

[@blink69nix0]

It's so scary if it's your first time when u're not married. My first thought would be JESUS is watching ..we are so precious than GOLD. you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.(1 Corin 6:20) The temple of GOD is within you(1 Corin 3:16) ...

[@soldiergirlcl]

not if you arent a christian. :) if you want to wait until marriage do it , but dont think that everyone is like you

[@blink69nix0]

yep, It's my will to love JESUS so I just trust him for everything...thanks :) btw, 2timothy 2:22

[@soldiergirlcl]

blink69nix0 your choice. i respect that :)

[@Tahiti50001]

blink69nix0 religion is for weak-minded fools.

[@Tahiti50001]

blink69nix0 Oh, please. Religion is just a bunch of made-up nonsense and fairy tales used to control weak-minded fools.

[@HarryTchong]

It's very "impotant" to not repeat the same word over and over.

[@kodiak1966]

Are you single?

[@Antastesia]

Yes.

[@MrSeifer159]

I will never experience the first time. Ever.

[@Antastesia]

By choice?

[@MrSeifer159]

Indeed it's my choice, since I know I suffer from BPD, I could hardly date someone, I don't want to share the pain even if it would be a relief. Thanks for asking, take care. Xo

[@Antastesia]

Davy Payen In no way would I like to sound like I'm preaching or trying to tell you how to live your life, but love can be very strong, and I'm sure someone who loves you, and whom you love would want to share that pain. I can imagine how you wouldn't like to feel as a burdden, or feel like it's way too selfish to share this pain or be scared the person might leave in the end, but every relationship may end, or may face hardships. Allow yourself to experiment love if it comes accross your path, you deserve it.

[@MrSeifer159]

True words of wisdom. I tried once. Her name was Almudena and love destroyed me. Uni was dreadful time for my heart. I guess I haven't met the chosen one.

[@picopapicopico164]

Davy Payen Absolutely Davy! Don't let your diagnosed disorder dictate and define who you really are. Fundamentally, you are a human being and you have every right to be happy, to become happy, and find true happiness in your life. I feel your pain, I really do. But you know life is full of ups and downs. If uni was a real low for you, there will always be a brighter tomorrow. Have faith in yourself my friend. I too wish you all the best! :)

[@intoyanghelito7142]

komban wa hi .... boku wa romeru des ... genki des ka? .... You must work for the FBI .,, Fabulous,Beautiful and Intriguing!! ;)

[@dunkeneman]

Okey, big blues eyes, you're like a psicologist?, or maybe something like that, so, it's okey an advice for the girls, but, do you know what would be great?.... the first time in boys, seen in a female sight, think it.

[@howto2713]

I Can't Even Speak My 2nd Language (French) But I'm The Only One In My Country Who Speaks English Freely (JUST SAYING)

[@bobamilkk]

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE never wear a bindi again. it's so offensive that you as a white woman are wearing one

[@yerbullshit]

Don't be a racist! Why does skin color matter?

[@bobamilkk]

because she's just taking something that has cultural significance and slapping it on like it means nothing. it's offensive.

[@Roxjimpau]

bobamilkk How do you know that, you dont know how she thinks or her believes. Racist.

[@bobamilkk]

are you fucking serious you know she's OBVIOUSLY NOT FROM A CULTURE THAT WEARS BINDIS

[@MiguelMejia]

bobamilkk , the bindi's significance isn't restricted to any particular culture and neither is the right to wear one. If there's a valuable message behind wearing a bindi, then that's something that can be appreciated by anyone of any background. I'm sure she has her own personal sense of what it means to wear one.

[@thanhychoux]

Expatrié de Marseille, ta vidéo m'a réchauffé le coeur... Elle m'a replongé dans les calanques qui me manquent profondément. Ta vidéo à été prise à la limite du Var ? :)